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Salam Alaikum rahmatullah wa barakato

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Alhamdulillah blood Amin Salallahu Salam Baraka via Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam to Sleeman Kathira to my my bad so tonight inshallah will continue from the second book of Imam Imam Kodama Rahim Allah matassa Nigel Casa de in the etiquette of the role of Allah that the quarter or the second part of the etiquette which refinement of character we began with the first part which is about food, about aroma and we started with talking about Why kill the etiquette when you start eating and now inshallah we're going to begin with more of that of that etiquette regarding gathering around food, what should be the etiquette for the community, for the family, for friends

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for people when they get together for food inshallah data? Let's see what we have from this attribution similar

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to salam ala Rasulillah Salam, Salam Rahim Allah says the first rule of conduct is one should not begin eating if he is with someone who deserves to commence because of his age of virtue. If however, he he himself is the role model, he should be the one who begins by Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah first and he says that the first thing we should should observe is, don't start eating. Unless you know that somebody in the gathering or around the food, someone who's more

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befitting to begin and commenced the meal obviously, and what would give a person a priority when it comes to eating the food number one age, so become being the elderly of the of the family, or the gathering, you have an uncle, you have grandparents or grandmother grandfather, it's always better to start with the elders to eat and also serving, even serving, even if the food was not necessarily on the on one place. When it comes to asking the people Bismillah to go ahead and start serving, or was it's good to start with the elderly. And if they can, of course come to the food, otherwise better to bring the food to them, if you can bring the food to them. The second reason why given

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people priority, if the person was of course, specific virtue or status, let's say you have some of the dignitaries that have been invited to come whether maybe a leader in the community or something like that, or someone else and knowledge for instance, half of the Quran for example, someone who's specific virtue, we give them priority to begin and start of course, the main inshallah Tada which means, which means we need to teach our children to wait until you know the elderly. Sir first, given that advocate that other people want to innovate SallAllahu wasallam and the Hadith,

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when, when there was there was milk that was served. And then it was about to be given to the younger one. And another narration was a miswak to give to them one so the professor said cab cab, which means give the older one, start with the older one. So that's part of the etiquette and the other. Now, he said here in LA and he Hakuna who will mudbone He says except he should be the one who has to begins. That translation said he himself is the role model. Now I don't know if it's actually a role model because the Arabic text says Elana Hakuna, who Wilmette Booher which means he is the one that is the whole gathering is about them. Like what for example, if you have, let's say,

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Africa, or Africa, for somebody, maybe already past the age, let's say five years old, for example, or maybe someone memorize the Quran headlock. So this example was Embera, a seven year old child memorize the Quran, for example. And that's how the whole gathering is about celebrating there have right now. So when it comes to start the food, who should be started first,

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the seven year old Chun

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as given the honor to commence the meal, because the whole party is about them. So he this person becomes before the elderly, and before the people specific virtue and so on. So that's the meaning of it. So I'm not really sure what the translation is right here. So saying he himself is the role model. And this is the role model. But I don't know how you're going to translate that whole metaphor, which means the one for whom the party or the gathering actually has been initiated in the first place. So you can, you can choose a translation for that inshallah toward a coda. And I hope that one of us here at least, if we can have somebody of those who take notes, always make notes of

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these mistakes and translations. So towards the end of the book, and shallow data, we can send it to the publisher. Hopefully, they will fix this translation shallow data now.

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The second rule of conduct is that they should not eat in silence, but should instead converse about good things. For example, they can relate the stories of the pious regarding food. We've learned in some cultures that when you eat, you're supposed to do it quiet.

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Don't talk while you're eating. So you don't spit out the food. I will be speaking right. But in our tradition, x is the opposite. It's the place where you gather around food. So you start socializing and talking and chit chatting at tonight on basically, so you're gonna help me get around that for another meal. Now, he's a mentioned something specific like you should not be silent. There is no mandatory rule Islamically on this matter, I guess though

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What if I'm not in a mood to talk? Can I just eat while I'm silent? Shoot,

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what I'm too hungry to talk so I'm just gonna keep digging into the food until I finish and then I can talk. That's fine. So there's not a mandatory rule, but part of the other is not to remain silent all the time. So you can converse you are allowed to talk and so on. Even there's something in the Arab culture when someone comes in and they say Salaam Alaikum they say hola salam ala Tom. There should be no salaam when people eating I mean, if they mean by that not saying salam alaikum that's wrong, but with me is not to shake hands with the people that are eating then yeah, that's right. Don't go and shake hands up while they're eating and don't mess up their hands and your

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handle their food. So there's this guy that should be okay. But again, it's okay to talk while you're on as long as you keep the Edit obviously, he suggests some of those examples he was like reading stories of the past regarding food. Do you have to can we talk about gas prices? Yes, you can talk about a situation and the world obviously you can do that. So it doesn't have to be around what the pious people say about food, it can be general inshallah conversation now. The third rule of conduct is each person should prefer the other over himself and should not let his companion feel the need to say eat. When should eat cheerfully and act pretend, pretend to pretend to be asleep by

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holding balance. Yes. Okay, by holding a bias. So the third note over here says that each person should should prefer the other over over himself. We call this a thought. What does that mean? What does that mean? And I honestly I've seen that in some gatherings. And really, it bothered me a lot. But what can we do? Allama Stan, let's say you were invited to a dinner. You invited to dinner. So you go and Marsha you see more people than what you know the food is going to be enough for them. You say mashallah tray of kebabs, for example, right? And there's about maybe 50 pieces of cover up. And you look around, there's about 50 men on it. Which means there's maybe another 50 Ladies and

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children as well. And then as we collect the food, I see some brothers about a koala, they put two three pieces on their plate.

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Like, be considerate, that's what it means to be considered have ethos. I don't have to take chicken, meat, and kebab and whatever. Now if you know that you have a lot of people mashallah coming behind you, then maybe I should just stick to the chicken and take one piece and that's it, I'll leave the cabana for somebody else, I'm gonna have to fill so much of this. That is the meaning of it. So Aletha is when you find that you can prefer somebody over you. Sometimes you're eating from the same plate. And you can tell that Marshall everybody's digging Tabarka ramen, and now there's one piece left. And then about three, four people, everybody is leaving it for the other

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person etha. The preferring you know, the others over themselves. That is the whole nuclear is the other that's the etiquette. It's not about competing, who's gonna get to it first. It's supposed to be the other way around. And subhanAllah if you do that, what happens is, Am I what do you think is going to happen if everybody prefer other people over themselves,

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there'll be a lot of a lot of leftovers.

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Which means the food will have so much baraka and blessing in it. By having left over, you can have another meal on the left over because everybody's now preferring others over themselves. And he said also should not let his companion feel the need to say eat. What does that mean? Sometimes people they come they have this kind of like fake piety. And we sit down just like no, I don't want to eat stuff

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while you're invited to food to eat, all right, unless you have a condition you have something in a specific health issue, that's different story. But just to show that, you know, I don't want them to say that I'm greedy. Or I'm, you know, just coming here for food. Yes, you came for food, we know that. So let's not pretend the other way around. So it's okay for you to go ahead and enjoy what had been made halal for you and you've been permitted to participate in a meeting basically. So just to kind of sit there and just force the people to force you to eat or impose upon them to make sure that you eat Why don't you eat? This is not supposed to be the other like you should want to eat

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this Malay. Obviously,

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knowing that the people will invite you for food mashallah they love for you to participate and eat with them. They're not just inviting you just for formalities, and now they really literally want you to participate and enjoy the meal with them. That's what he says. I said that one should eat cheerfully which means imbeciles, just one said, I don't know about the word cheerfully. He said, belly and bustle, which means be comfortable. That's what it means not cheerfully, being comfortable. If you're being permitted to eat, just be comfortable with the Eat with eating shallow water Kotara now, the fourth rule of conduct is I want you to now look directly at his companions as

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they eat so that they do not become embarrassed, who likes to be you know, stared at when they're eating.

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Anyone likes the people that look at them just like watch you how you eat us.

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Sandwich, or maybe how you put the food in your mouth now like that, right? So make sure don't stare at the people in our eating, especially the guests if you invite people over, and then I sit down there watching watching them on their eating. That doesn't look great, right? Some Hannah, although, although we have to take into consideration some different standards of cultural standards really like what in some, I'm familiar with out of culturally, because I'm out of myself got it. So in some out of culture, what they do, they actually they don't eat with the guest. They don't eat with the guest. Rather, they put the food for the guests, and they sit down chit chatting with him, they keep

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talking about the guest.

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And the one that gets to enjoy the food until they're done, and then they start eating. That's one way of looking at, that's a cultural thing. Some other Caribbean have a different way as well, not just they don't just don't eat with the guest. They don't even sit with the guest. So they leave them they put the food for them in the room and everything mashallah is presented on the table or whatever to the floor spread. And then they tell them enjoy, and they close the door behind them. And they leave for some time and then they come back in to check on them within anything else. Why they want to make sure that the guests are being well entertained, and they're enjoying their main

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without any

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restrictions. Because you know, sometimes the guests when you're sitting around, kind of feeling a little bit shy to oh, this is so good about I don't they're asking for a second, for example, or I wish I can have more of this, you feel embarrassed. Unless of course you're too close or handed to each other that you don't care about these these formalities. So they said the whole idea. From this, what we learn is that don't create any, any circumstances that would cause your guests to feel embarrassed or shy or not enjoy the meal, like make it as easy as possible, and as enjoyable as possible and shallow to botica Ouattara so don't look at the model.

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The fifth rule of conduct is that he should refrain from anything he himself would find repulsive, such as shaking what is on his hand into the vessel and putting his head above it when putting a morsel in his mouth. Do you guys have seen this before, like when people they eat or their hand, and they just like to delay this?

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Law Hello. I mean, if it was your own plate that's different. If you need to inform your own plate, it's okay to do that. But if you're eating from a big dish, when many hands are sharing the same plate or the same dish together, you don't do this. You don't put your hand in and just kind of like shake your hands with whatever's left over in your hand, after you've been eating these in your hand. And then just kind of like shaking it like that you shouldn't be doing this at all completely. Similarly, we talked about this, if you remember last time in regards to what is your ma something similar to that, what is it

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the date, when you eat the dates and what you do with that, don't put it back into the same plate where the date is use your left hand and throw it on the side. So that you don't actually put that foot back in there. And don't use your use handle on you eat the dates and put again, your right hand one more time into the date. So that's something to also be careful with. And the other example, which is very common, something that happens when people want to eat. So in order not to spell on the floor, what do they do, they they push the head forward, so that when they eat whatever falls, it falls into the plate again, and their bid fall with it and their hair falls with it as

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well too. So they have quite a big mess and the plate, making sure that you keep actually the food completely clean and shallow down. Now, if he needs to take something from his mouth and throw it away, he should turn his face elsewhere and take it with his left hand. What does that mean? Let's say you had a bone in your mouth and your mouth right? You have to take it out. So if you want to spit it out, you don't just do it while you're speaking to the people just like start pulling the bone and from your mouth completely and the whole lampstands saliva follows through with it. Don't create any repulsive image where people eat in with you rather than go to the side and just kind of

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like sometimes part of the other by the way part of the other, use your right hand by covering your mouth like this and then pull with your left hand whatever that is. So use your right hand to cover and as pulled from the left hand. Similarly if somebody would like for example, use floss. So using floss some people just gonna be sitting there in public place with a floss and their hand and just gonna like open their mouth and flossing all over. That's not the etiquette also part of the adult is basically with your right hand you cover and will the left hand you floss if you had if you wanted to do that so part of the other so you don't show anything again becomes repulsive to other

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people when they're eating with you now he does not get a greasy morsel into the vinegar no pour vinegar on something greasy as others may not like that. Allah on what he means by that that depends on the cuisine back then. I don't know if you guys have anything that you know grease you put it in vinegar or vinegar into the grease system. I don't know what that is. But it's probably some of there may be dishes back then or meals that maybe it's kind of mixture of that nature. Meaning what he says that just don't mess up the meal for other people. Like what like sometimes sometimes you go to some of these martial public, any meals and you have somebody is using the same spatula or spoon

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Throw the hummus and then Harry.

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Can you imagine how many had it looks like after they've been in that thing and the homeless first. So you're gonna mess up the whole food. So don't make these meals like this. Otherwise people might say just I'm not going to touch this, and a lot of food will go to waste, obviously. And the last one says he must learn never more so he's already eaten from into the rock. What does that mean? And what do we call this double, double dipping, right?

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You take you take a bite on the samosa and then you put it back into the don't do this.

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Make sure not to do the double dipping as part of the etiquettes and the other as well too. So keep that in mind no

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manners manners to be adopted when presenting food to one's brothers. It is recommended to offer food to one's brothers it has been narrated that it Rhodiola one who said gathering my brothers to eat a flock of food is more beloved to me than previously. That doesn't mean that the sister don't have don't deserve that same treatment

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is our message Amma because I thought it says what to one's brothers. Now it's actually a literal translation to what was mentioned in the book of the the Arabic text says first don't fit up Lima pyramidal f1 which means basically managed to adapt to when presented food to your brothers means your friends that's what it means actually. So that plus also the systems as well too if you presented the food to the sisters too. So it says over here one that is what is recommended is that to make sure that you invite your friends your invite your brothers, you invite your sisters to meals to food. Why is that so important as your mom why that this is so important, as part of the

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beautiful etiquette in among the ummah to band together around meals. And he said Rahim Allah Allah and he says pal in the Arabic texts is Kala and asthma f1 Allah so I'm in a Tom I have Bulla human on Earth for acaba. If I gather my friends, you know my brothers are on a meal even it was just Sam and Tom which is just a little food that I have just to gather around food together, that's more beloved to me than freeing a slave which means this kind of gatherings are so beautiful, you become you become less formal, it helps a handler remove all these barriers you become easygoing with each other and that helps bond as one community as one family inshallah

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so you can mentally prepare for this and find food actually it's called hobbies.

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I wasn't sure about this. So it's hobbyists which is basically it's a mixture of date and and wheat flour. Together they make a meal out of it now and find food and then invite Ibrahim and Elena Allah Hamish and ensay II for for I only prepared it for you. I brought him in Nephi an AMA for him Allah telephone Kabara atabrine the early actually the duration of the set of a solid hammer Allah Allah and very well known Hadith in great detail Rahmatullah lane. He said so phytomer Rahim Allah Allah Allah, he would invite some of the people of his friends obviously and he just make some simple food not big thing and sometimes he says when he has the ability to make Alhamdulillah a better fine food

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he will do it. So basically whether it's something little as hobbies, or something grand mashallah as fancy dish either way, the whole purpose is bringing family together bringing the people together over the food that's what matters here Paul, he says eat for I have only prepared it for you. What does that mean? What do you understand from that sentence?

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Besides the social part what is it when it comes to inviting people for food?

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Sincerity but I really am really interested in bringing the new overhead for the food so we can eat together it's not about doing you know social obligation because he invited me you know, last Ramadan I have to invite you this Ramadan you guys invited me for this party I have to invite you over for this party. If we didn't make our social invitations over food for the for that you know take for tat you did the term one time I have to do it for you well it was the purpose it was the value of it when we do it we should do it for the right reason inshallah Tabata Kota now regarding the manners of presenting food he should present the food that is available without going overboard

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and should not ask for their permission to do so. What does that mean over here? So basically when you present the food yours should be no typical of I know that even the order actually they have the same water color right? What does the color mean to you guys?

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Too much formalities right it's the same thing that's the exact meaning for it in Arabic like they shouldn't be with absolutely no to cattle have no formalities. What does that mean? It's okay for example, you can call a friend at the Southern Methodist Church said hey, come with me and it's gone. It's something something at home and you go home ask you I've heard you have food. I have guests with me. What do you have is going to do to you?

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I have to mention here, but Alhamdulillah this in our time you can do over eats and other things and so on. But at that time, they didn't really care much about this. What they care

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But is the actual company itself that's to be together? Whether it's a cup of tea, a simple dish of cubbies, whatever that is. Simple thing. So he says, You need to present whatever is available without can live without the color. Unless, of course, that was a special invitation. In this case, you go with the fine food as he demanded earlier. And don't go overboard. And you don't even have to ask them to permission to present the food. Like nowadays, in American culture, what do you do? Gemma, you ask the guests. Are you hungry? The guests will tell you of course. No, sir. All right.

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And then they go hungry for the night. Right? But in the Muslim culture, you don't take no for an answer do if the guest tells you if you tell the guests actually, I'm gonna get you for the good. No, I'm not hungry. You said you're gonna eat.

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It doesn't matter if it's benign. Again, you're gonna have to eat whether you like it or not. Because for them, it's a big deal. Yeah. And it's an honor thing to feed the guests. It's an honor thing. And some some some panels, some culture they have Eric Davis and others and some people that take it really, really seriously. Like we heard so many stories about the Bedouin culture and the Arab culture. The Bedouin culture that was the most serious when it comes to food was comfortable. They're very serious with that. I was told Allah one of the truth for the story, that there was one bed when it was Ramadan. So Gemma tablets, they came actually visiting him during the day. So he

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allowed them in to come in. And then he brought them food and Ramadan during the day. And for them just like Zach Aloka Thank you. But you know, we fast we cannot eat because though Allah will eat.

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Yeah, hallelujah, Habib, some of them we can't it's you're going to have to eat and when they insist they're not eating, he went in and he bought his gun.

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He says you eating I was going to shoot you basically like they take their hospitality seriously. So I don't know about the truthfulness of that story. But yeah, some people that take hospitality extremely, extremely serious. And you should really honor you know that sometimes the culture of your host as well too. Now, when we're going overboard is to offer everything that one has. And sometimes you know, like Ibrahim Ali said I'm did when he had three guests coming over what did he offer them?

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An entire cow. All roasted calf, you know how much time it takes to roast a calf Gemma takes forever.

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It takes forever like he had the guests sitting there he was entertaining them with this speech for all this time until the meal was ready. And then as Allah says for Karabo em, he brought it to them He didn't ask them to go and cut from the meat. Now he brought the whole thing to them. And then he says call Allah Quran this Mala eat

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and what happened there? They didn't touch it. And he saw there has not ever eaten the food. But I will just summon him fever he that's what he just like started becoming suspicious about these three people. Like who are you? Because don't worry, we're the Messenger of Allah spawn to have come loose. So what happened to that cafe Gemma, I always wonder what happened to the girl

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who ate it afterwards? Right? So the idea is that the owner they say when it comes to hospitality, sometimes it's okay to go a little bit overboard when you have special guests. As long as nothing go to waste. If you guarantee that the food that you cater the food that you cook is not going to go to waste and you're going to still maybe box it and give it to people afterwards. Or maybe give it with your guests as they go out depends on the culture obviously in some culture that's offensive to give the guests on the way out some of the food that's offensive here in America no thank you I'll take that and shallow Tara that says me the meal tomorrow. It's alright depends on the coalition be okay

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Inshallah, what are

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the good conduct the visitor includes ation neither suggest nor demand any specific food If, however, he is given a choice of two dishes, let him choose the easiest of the two to prepare. Unless he knows that his host is pleased with his suggestion. We'll gladly prepare it like if the guest is asking you is biryani. Okay? You can I haven't heard replace the Hilton, you're not a restaurant.

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But if they say absolutely, we have a handle of and then that's fine. That's what he means by that. Don't try to demand something that might not be available for them. manner they might not be actually able to purchase it. They don't even have to cook it or to make it basically take into consideration you know the culture of your place and ask them something reasonable. For example, you go to eat

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in someone's house and it happened to be mashallah Indian family or Pakistani family. What do you expect the biryani to taste?

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Spicy right? Don't say can I have a hummus and falafel?

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Come on, be reasonable. Eat as much as you can without the Caliph now. Indeed, a chef very once went to Elsa for one who used to write in this every day of the different varieties to be cooked that day and then give it to the servant girl, a chef or he took the list and added a new variety to it. And when and when Elsa

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When he found out about this he Rejoice greatly Masha Allah this is not when you when the friends they become Yanni so close to each other without to kill off

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actually not to kill a bill between Imam Azhar Ferranti, Imam Chevra mo Allah Tala Zafrani. Every day, he writes on a piece of paper, you know, that's just like the shopping list for the girl to go and collect that stuff for the food that we're going to be cooking today. So you get to the shopping list. So on the way out a chef mo laterra, you grab a grab that piece of paper looked at it, he found something that he wanted isn't wasn't there, he just wanted something extra to it. And he gave it back to her. When she told us after I remember, at some point, he was so happy.

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So happy that my guests, he treats me like his close brother with no tequila and he knows that I'm not going to be upset with that. Can you imagine you reach out to that level with your friends panela and that was some drama they say would come to the time. If the food is there, and you're allowed to come in. That means everything on the table is for you to use. Let's say there's much a nice chocolate over here or some nice drink over there. You feel shy because it's too far from you. Well, am I allowed to go around and grab it from the other side? Because it's on the table? Actually, yes, you can. And even some they say to the extent if you became too close to this friend

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became very close to them. And that sense that like the vlogbrothers truly Are you allowed to go and eat you know without permission like for example, you want to sleep overnight in someone's house. You wake up at night? Are you allowed to open the fridge and eat?

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Yeah, Gemma, you're allowed to go to whether you have to spend the night Arreola to go and open the fridge and eat from them. They say the answer is actually yes. If they allowed you to stay that means they allow you to hospitality as well too. So the expectation obviously that you are allowed to do that now once again we always go back what's considered standard cultural standard actually. So if that's not normal to them, maybe you should seek permission before you go to sleep saying if I wake up at night Am I okay? Is it okay for me to go to the kitchen? They say everything is yours. If everything is yours then basically which is considered the unreasonable to consume whatever they're

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in shallow to Anna so that's for tonight inshallah from this book Bonilla, Azerbaijan next week we'll come back we'll continue with chapter or section three inshallah.

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Now we move to a hadith number 20 What's very, very actually interesting and important Hadith insha Allah to Allah about shame and modesty.

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Smilla hamdulillah Bellarmine sola salon Baraka Vienna, Muhammad and voila, early was salam. Ala Sleeman. Kathira mama bad. So Inshallah, from Hadith from the book of Imam Raja Rahim Allah we're going to be studying Hadith number 20 and number 20 In the Arabic texts and administer Odin al Bedri Radi Allahu Anhu Allah Caracalla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in remember adrak unassuming Colombian Naboo Lula either lammeter Stay first na Masha throughout Buhari so this hadith almost road already probably a lot and Ebola in Africa nurserymen Colombian Naboo Lula either Alam Testa Hey, first night mash it rod hi in translation, Mala Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala

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Rasulillah. We're in page 339.

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In the translation is the messenger of allah sallallahu sallam said, a part of that which people understood from the speech of the first prophethood is if you have no shame, do what you want. Can you repeat that again? That

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almost all the better it said I will muscle and battery are the other one said the messenger of allah sallallahu wasallam said a part of that which people understood from the speech of the first prophethood is if you have no shame, do what you want. So this hadith al Bukhari and Charlotte are going to be speaking about the meaning of those two statements because the book was the remember Roger divided into two parts. The first statement which is a part of that which people understood from the speech of the first prophethood that's one part of the Hadith and then the actual statement itself is a lamp test is not measured, if you have no shame, which means higher in this translation

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here. Do what you want about Buhari, so we can explain that in certain details. But before that, who reported the Hadith if you look if you look at it, this is what are reported by an Imam Al Bukhari and it was not reported by Imam Muslim imam Abdullah

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Rahim Allah explains in the next paragraph within a skip that but we're going to say that it was also reported from Hadith today for some days it was for the first Hadith. Some of the settlements are the most rude and Bedri, but the majority say it was reported by Abu Massoud el Bedri. And there's another narration of Torani by Apple to find out the Allahu Anhu Wallah. Now let's go to the main Inshallah, part of the Hadith and the meaning of those two statements. The first statement, he's saying some hola hola Sanam, a part of that which people understood from the speech of the first prophethood indicates that this is transmitted from the ancient prophets, and that people

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passed it back and forward between them, and other generations inherited it from them, generations, generation by generation, this shows the preceding

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this shows that the preceding Prophet Woods brought these words, and that they were famous and well known to people until they came to the first of this community. In one of the versions there is that he said, people did not grasp anything of the first prophethood except for this, who might have been Zen, Zen Jerry, and others. narrativity so the first statement from the hadith is called unavista Lhasa mmm Andraka nurserymen Kelemen obovata Lulu, that part of which people understood from the speech are the first prophethood what does that mean? That tells us what have what we have been hearing in the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and that that the MBR they all

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brought with them what the exact same message then be brought with them the exact same message, the exact same message in terms of what in terms of the Qaeda, in terms of the code of ethics, in terms of al Qaeda and a flood manners is the same from the Prophet Adam Alayhis Salam under the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even Sra. Salaam, what he was ordered to convey to his people to worship Allah azza wa jal. So in terms of al Qaeda, all the MDR came to call the people to do it, worship Allah, one God, only Allah subhana wa Tada. All of them, regardless of what time they lived, in which culture they lived, what culture they had, they all order the people to worship Allah

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subhanho wa taala. They all order people to do to have to observe Taqwa. As Allah says in the Quran, we're not going to assign Ladino to Kral notably Kuma, Jacobina Takala. We have made it we have made a command to those who before you and from the people before you that they should observe that will be mindful of ALLAH SubhanA Mata so all the people were being called for towhead Oneness of Allah subhana wa Dara, RT, the taqwa and so on in terms of codes of ethics, the same thing. You won't find any prophet and the prophet ever tell telling people that is permissible, that it was permissible to commit Zina that it's permissible to lie, it's permissible to steal, never in the history of the

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Gambia that anyone would come to change the code of ethics, the standard code of ethics, that's divine, there is no doubt about it. So what does that tell us right now that there was a standard rule of love and manners and etiquette and they've been conveyed to us from generation to generation and older MBR convey the same message as well to but then we have some differences in terms of Sharia, a Sharia the application of faith in our lives, like what is considered permissible what is not in terms of the halal food, the Haram food, these things and so on. There were differences of course, based on the circumstances or even in the law itself, there are specific circumstances that

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were different. So for example, the law of Musa alayhis salaam was water Gemma, and I know benign was sin the sin that an eye for an eye a tooth for tooth, that was the law of Musa But why so because Musa CERAM he was with Benny SR in unique circumstances, what were their circumstances

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roaming the desert, they will not stay in an urban area because they left Egypt and when they cross the river or the sea, actually

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unfortunate this the rest of it Allah subhanho wa Taala to which they banned from being in the Holy Land, until that generation purchase and nutrition comes out. So they were roaming in the desert. So they didn't have really that same urban areas that we you live in into to have jails and courts and this and that. They don't have time for this. So the punishment was simple. Someone hit you hit them back, someone pokes your eye poke right back. There was a lot of work done at the time of SRA CERAM. The land was under occupation. So they didn't even have the law in their hands. It's in the end of the Romans at that time. So what was the law of HLSL and someone slaps you in the right cheek, what

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do you do? You turn the left cheek, right? If someone asked you to go one mile, you go to Mars with them. in that fashion, came the time of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam It was both

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that if you want to return it, you are allowed to do that one Typhoo Acropolis taco, but if you forgive, that's better for you. There

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is more righteous have you? Alright, so we have now the balance of this. So in terms of the matters of our data and manners of US law and codes of ethics, these are standards that didn't change. Similarly, over here, this statement is actually in reference to the prophetic legacy.

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Like it says it never mattered recognize Mikela Minobu Talulah some of the thing that they were said before us by the MBR thing before is this statement, it Alam Testa, Hey, first night machette is Olympus divers Manager, which means if you don't have any modesty, then you can do whatever you want. We're going to see what the meaning of that same and the next shallow data

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concerning his saying salAllahu alayhi, salam, if you have no shame, do what you want. There are two interpretations. I want to just market it for you. So if you have the book with you, that's what he said in terms of the meaning of that statement. If you have no shame it LM tester, if you have no modesty, do what you want. He said, there are two interpretations. The first interpretation is here, number one, and I made that the title for it is that this is a statement of prohibition being a statement of prohibition. And we're going to see what does that mean exactly next, the second meaning, the second, meaning, we're going to have to skip five pages, until you get to page 343,

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that's when you find the second activity, so it was way out there. So you don't feel lost? Where was the second minute, it's actually on page 343, we're going to come to additional data, so that when we when we get to that point, I'm gonna reference you back to that page of shallow data. So the first meaning of the statement, if you have no shame, or no malice, they do what you want. He says, this is a statement, although it's an imperative verb, do what you will, what you wish, but it actually comes in the format of what prohibition and warning, like it's a warning for you. It's a form of prohibition. Now, what does that mean it

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first that it does not mean the command to do what

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what, whatever one wants, but that rather it is the sense of censure and of prohibition of it, the people who take this position, have arrived at it by ways First,

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by the way, so So first, again, now, this is a subdivision from the first point and he has is going to mention to you the I mentioned first and second. First is this one, which is I put it on blue actually, somehow not not actually highlight the first word blue, but it's in blue, which means it is a threat. So the meaning of the imperative do, okay?

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The meaning of the imperative do have is of the nature of a threat, meaning, if you have no shame, then do what you want for Allah will pay you back for it. So what does that mean? Exactly? This is just like Daring you. Like the professor saying that if you have no modesty, I dare you.

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I dare you go and do what you what you wish to do, though, what you want to do, but I dare you, which means to go ahead and do it, but you see what's going to happen to you. So that's the meaning of the statement right now. Like go ahead, do it. So it's not really a literal command to open the door for you to do what you wish to do. Right? It's a threat. Like, if you have no modesty then I dare you.

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Go ahead, do what you want to do you see what's gonna happen to you, as Allah says in this, these examples. So in facilita, la Santella says, A man who mushy tune in who will be Manta, Malou number, see, do what you like, he sees whatever you do. This is the 40th of Surah facilite. And then in Surah, Azumah masala mentions Ferragudo, mushy tomb in Dooney. So worship anything you will apart from Him,

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that Allah has asked them to go and worship somebody else. No, he's, he's daring them. Like I dare you to go and try to worship somebody else and see what happens to you now.

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And then seeing of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Whoever sells wine, they let him be a butcher of pigs. Well, I don't know how that transition looks like over here the Arabic text actually manga alhfam or Photoshop because of fantasy, which means if you sell wine, then go ahead and do it. Java says the show arm of the finance area and enjoy a slice of the HANA database. That's what it means then, obviously, it doesn't mean go out and do it stop for Allah, but it's just like a threat once again, it's just a threat of it's an expression of our threat now,

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So, the likes of this type of expression are very numerous. This is the interpretation chosen by a large group of group among whom is

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abuzz tharla. Now, the second now the second minute of the sub actually meanings, so we say

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So the first thing, it's a warning, it's a threat. And obvious from the first example, the second example right now, the second way, interprets it as being a command, with the meaning of informing, ie informing us that someone who is not ashamed will do whatever they want. Because the thing that prevents the perception of ugly acts.

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perpetration of

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perpetration ugly acts, is the sense of shame or modesty. So what does that mean? A very so the second meaning right now, is the statement is an informative statement, which means the Prophet SAW same as saying, what actually really happens if someone doesn't have higher.

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Like, if you don't have modesty, you will end up doing whatever you want, doesn't mean it's actually endorsing what they do. No necessity, but it's informing us that the barrier that prevents people from doing the ugly stuff, is at least they have a shame, they have a sense of shame and sense of modesty. So when that's not there anymore, what happens to people do whatever they want, and frankly, in that meaning, that meaning itself is what we see today.

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What we see today in this culture, and the society that we live in right now, why do you think people do what they do outdoors and publicly and exposing themselves and doing so Ferla thing that will continue the villa and abhorrent and our faith in our lives? Why do these things fall, because they don't have shame.

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The whole concept of shame was completely removed from the culture, spotlighted, actually an a massive degree in history at some point, and one of the classes we took was all on shame, the culture of shame Subhanallah, if you study that, and how the society have shifted and change, when it comes to the culture of shame, it's unbelievable. Like they consider this to be one of those deficiencies of the society because it holds people back from being authentic to themselves, and so on. So therefore, the state tell them you can do whatever you want. Take that concept of shame away from them, then they whatever they want. And that's exactly what the professor was telling us about

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it LM tester, hey, you will end up doing whatever you want. That doesn't mean what you're doing is going to be good. But definitely the better is gone. So people do whatever they want. Now,

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someone who does not have a sense of modesty will abandon himself to every indecent and repugnant behavior, and the likes of things. Those who have modesty, modesty refrain from it is in the manner of his saying some of them are Khalid Salam, whoever delivered the lies about me, let him take his seat in the fire.

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Since the expression is in the imperative form, but it's meant as a notification that whoever deliberately tells a lie about him, will we take his seat in the fire? So when the province says, Let them take their seats in the fire? Of course, no one's gonna do doing that.

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And if you know that you don't dare to take your seats in the fire. Similarly, when the Prophet says, If you don't have shame, then do whatever you want to do, then don't you ever dare do what you think you want to do? Or you can do? Just because you can, it doesn't mean you should. That's the statement that actually we understand from this hadith, just because you can, it doesn't mean that you should. Let's go down Michelada to the statement of Salman and Pharisee, at the end of the page 340 Salman Farsi said, someone in Farsi said when Allah intends the destruction of a slave, he strips him off shame, I was a slave means what? A person. That's what it means that step of Allah

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now. When he strips of shame, he will only receive him as someone who is hateful, and full of self loathing lungs.

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When he is someone who is hateful and full of self loathing. He strips him of trust. And then he will only receive him as someone who is mistrusted and treacherous.

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So what he's saying here are the law and order is that when someone is removed from the higher, what happens to them, they start doing things at some point, they get really any become nasty within themselves, and people just see the nasty. And as a result, people did stop, you know, trusting them. They don't know what they could do, because now they don't know the limits anymore. They have no limits. They have no standards. So we become very suspicious of them. And that's why it becomes kind of Mahana like they become treacherous and people they don't like to deal with them as a result of that. And then what happens

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if he is someone who is mistrusted and treacherous, then he strips him of mercy. And so he only receives him as someone who is harsh and coarse

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Other say when people don't, you know, trust other people, what do they do, they have no empathy for them. So there's no Rama, they're willing to steal and do stuff alongside how many videos you have been seeing lately coming from California, particularly about these people coming, dashing through stores, and stealing whatever they can, and they just get out of it and

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like nothing. They have no empathy in order to even the owners, to the people, you know, who have on this car or that they break in cars, taking valuables from them, because they have no shame. They have. They became, of course, you know, mistrusted by the community, by the society. So they venture, they allow themselves to do whatever they want to do. As a result of this. This is how valuable how important higher and modesty is now, if he's someone who is harsh and coarse, then he strips the halter of iman from his neck. When he strips the halter rope of iman from his neck, he only receives him as an occurrence to shaitan. Basically what Emma was a manifest of the law and he

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says, it starts with the removal of modesty and higher and ends up with what would call for

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as simple as that. If people stop having modesty, they don't understand the concept of shame anymore, then there is no boundaries, no limits for them, most likely they're going to end up becoming the Underland of Cofer Allama Stan, and we have seen that like this from people that are breaking certain rules of hire, slowly and gradually they remove all the barriers, even the barriers of faith and Iman, which is why hire is important. So if we read the statement the professors and regarded modesty from the professor Islam regarding regarded modesty as part of iman, as is, as is in the two Saheeh books from Ebina Amara, that the prophets of Allah Allah Islam passed by a man

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while he was

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remonstrating with his brother, about his bashfulness. See, really, you are too bashful as if he was saying, it is causing you harm. So the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam said, Leave him alone, for modesty is part of iman. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he saw a man was advised and another one said, Come on, man, stop being so modest like this or being so shy like this. And the Prophet says, I'm told I'm leaving that shyness, that higher modesty is part of faith, we're going to come to talk about later and shallow that there's difference between higher and fragile. The transition is bashfulness over here, but the statement here is about actually modesty, about

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shyness, and shyness as a positive quality bashfulness as a negative one.

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bashfulness is preventing you from doing that, which is right because you're afraid of what people might say about you.

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The higher it prevents you from doing something bad and wrong, because you're afraid what Allah subhanaw taala is going to say about you. That's a big difference over here, obviously. So that's the wider forbidden higher and bashfulness. So the second statement there is in the tussah theories in the two Sahib books from Abu Hurayrah that he said from a Marvin Husain

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Imran Okay, sorry. So there is in the two Sahai books from Imran even Hussein that the prophets of Allah al Islam said, modesty only produces good. So what does that mean? The Prophet says Sam says I'll hire Kulu Hi. There's nothing wrong of having shyness and having modesty. It's all good. But what is not good? Is hudgell. Again, that's what we call bashfulness in translation now, you know, Muhammad, Imam Ahmed and an SAE native, the hadith of

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John Ashbery that, he said, the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me, you have two qualities of character, which Allah loves. I said, What are they? He said,

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equanimity and modesty. So in the Arabic tracks, actually the Al Hellmuth it says hola salam to him, Paul Wilhelm will hire and Hillman higher, which means forbearance, patience and modesty. There's another narration that's more popular than this narration of the purposes of symptoms called, he says kind of a hellhole Anna, which is basically forbearance and also patience. They're the same, the same concept, but from this narration, he used a higher, so what he's asked him after that.

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So I said, are these ancient having been decreed by Allah? Or are the recent, something learned?

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He said, No, they are ancient, which means they're actually considered a natural, innate, innate disposition from Allah subhanaw

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I will tell you now.

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And I said, praise belongs to Allah, Who created me with two qualities of character which Allah loves. So what we'll learn from this hadith right now is that when it comes to these qualities or higher and modesty, is it something created gifted in you? Or is it something that you acquire, and you learn? Let's see. So he says it down there, there are two types of hire. Now that there are two types of modesty.

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The first, that which is a quality of character, and an innate disposition, which has not been acquired, so it's gifted, some people are born, to have Subhanallah, this demeanor that they're actually they're always calm, it was always quiet, you know, they don't rush in many different ways. So Allah has blessed him with that kind of quality. Other people, their type A personality, they're hyper, they're always loud, they're always this or that different, different qualities. So some people are gifted with that. But unfortunately, no matter what gift you've been given, some people don't use it properly. Don't use it, you know, for further advance in terms of you know, becoming a

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better person, it might be actually against them. Unfortunately, now, it is one of the most noble quality of character, which Allah bestows on the slave and upon which he forms him. For this reason, he said Salallahu Alaihe, salam, modesty only produces good because it restrains the person from committing ugly acts, and from showing mean qualities of character. Now, let's go to the second one, on the next page, what it said the second type somewhere in the middle. The second type is that which is acquired from knowledge of Allah, and of His greatness, and of His nearness to his slave, and his knowledge of them, and of the deceptions of the eyes, and that which the breasts conceal. So

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what does that mean? He says, I look. And that's an AMA for all of us as a man, if Allah Subhana Allah did not bless you with that as a gift to always be shy, be modest watch, you know your eyes and so on. So Hamdulillah, you still have the chance and also to acquire that, but requires training. It requires to learn likewise to focus on Allah's beautiful names and attributes. If of course, you know, coming, become closer to Allah subhanho wa taala, knowing what are considered you know, the Haram manners and so on, and stay away from them and know the etiquette of shyness and modesty, like you can acquire it, if you put the effort in learning it. So even if you were not born

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with it, you still have a chance to shallow Tana. To acquire that I want us to skip to the Hadith LMS route LMS Oh domain down there in the second paragraph.

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In the eyes of the minister or, you know,

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in the hadith of Ibn Massoud, there is that modesty before Allah is that you heard the the head and what it contains, which means your thoughts, your thoughts and what you think about now and guard the belly, and what it encloses, which means you food, you eat halal, that's what it means. And that you remember that. And decomposition, obviously focus on the alcohol, not just the dunya

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whoever wants the Astra gives up the ornamentation of the world, which means to go and become a minimalist really was because the word minimalist in this life now, whoever does that is certainly modest before Allah. That's how you get modesty before Allah subhanho wa taala. Watch what you think about what you consume what you eat, making sure that you always think of the Afra and do everything in your in your power to be minimalist, you know, focus on that. Now. Next, let's move on to shallow to Allah to what he says about bashfulness. Actually the second position I'm sorry, the second this is in page 343. Now, so So we're moving on to the second Yes, yes. Now, this is the second point

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from the first definition. If you guys remember the first one that we talked about, it was more about warning and now the second one is the literal meaning of the command itself. Now, the second position on the meaning of the office words, if you have no shame higher, do what you want is that it is a command to do what one wants as is the literal meaning of the words. And that it means that if the thing which you want to do is something for which you need you need have no shame of doing not in front of Allah nor in front

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Have people because it is one of the acts of obedience, or because it is one of the beautiful qualities of character and courtesy, then at that time, do whatever of it you want. As an example, let's say you're traveling, you're at the airport right now. And it's time for Salah. You want to pray, you look around, if you look at anxious, if he's shy, you know from praying in public because I don't want people to look at me, oh my god, that is gonna be look at me and so on. So, so shyness, or maybe it's a good bashfulness, I could say that China's bashfulness plus, you know, anxiousness over orange and anxiety. So in this case, what do you do? You say, No, I'm not going to frame

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this statement. That second meaning says no, no, either alum test day, if you know that this matter, really needs no higher formula. You need to be brave. And you need to remove the higher from it completely. Just do it. That's what it means. Yeah. So you go ahead and just smile I pray in public and doesn't matter.

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That's when that's the second meaning for it. If you know that somebody is saying something wrong, and this person is maybe an elderly person, or someone of a specific status in the community, you feel now bashful, and you have some sense of higher from kind of like objecting to what they're saying and maybe correct. And then if they said something that you believe is wrong. So now this hadith says no, hire should not prevent you from saying the truth in that moment. You say, Zachariah, you know, I chef, or maybe I heard something that you said, and I remember hearing it from Chef Milan, or I read in a different book that said so and so I wonder if you can maybe, you

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know, refer us to this statement, for example. Now, you're correct and that person, even though it's in public, but HIA did not stop you from doing that. Maybe asking a question some of the sisters they feel shy from asking a question that is very sensitive, or a guy would like to ask the chef a question is very sensitive is very personal matter, right? So you feel so bashful and shy from asking the question should you don't do it? This statement tells you know, don't let this bashfulness prevent you from doing that which is right and go new ask and retire so Delana she said Correct. I've never seen women like that and Saudi women how brave they were when it comes to asking

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their questions. Let me I'm now not hire any the photography. denilla being bashful, being modest, did not stop them from Lenin of Allah subhanaw Matata, they would have been asked the Prophet Saracen their most sensitive questions, because they wanted to learn. So that is the second meaning. So the first meaning that this this actually imperative verb is not literal. Rather, it means just a threat or a dare. The second meaning no, that actually command is as it is, which means don't let the higher Dollard modesty prevent you from doing that which is right. That's what it means go ahead and do it. So that's actually the meaning of the statement. Go ahead. This is the position of a

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substantial group of the Imams of whom are

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Mawashi a Shafi and something similar is narrated of Imam Muhammad,

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it occurs in that way in some copies of domicile or widowed in the abridged form of it. However, what is in the complete copies, which are reliable,

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which are reliable is as we have related from him before so like it's the referring to the amount that was Rahim Allah Tala is position is what we mentioned earlier. The last admin shall talk about we're not talking about moral because what this inshallah so go ahead, Owner, moreover, as he answered

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it is that you don't do anything in secret of which you would be ashamed. If you were to do it publicly. Here speak about Morrow. What is Morrow? That's an Arabic word maybe heard many times Morrow. And moreover, it says it's it's it is that you don't do anything and secret of which you would not you will be ashamed if you were to do it publicly. What does that mean? moralize is really a

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it's a very unique quality. Surely you could say or trivially means that you have a specific sense of dignity, a sense of standard of character and luck. Like if something you don't they're doing publicly, you're not going to do it actually, privately.

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You'd be ashamed of it, whether it's in front of the people or otherwise if you can hold yourself to that standard. You're going to save yourself have done have troubles. You always become strong. You're very confident because there is nothing break you from the inside. But if you go into it privately and you do many, many wrong things. You don't dare to go out in public. How

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out, do you think you're going to be in front of the people when it comes to speaking about hire about modesty, about good character about being a good Muslim, you don't think you're there speaking like this. Because you know that from the inside, I'm not there. I don't feel that I'm comfortable to speak about these things. And that's what Sal Marula is to watch what you do in privacy. So you can stay strong and public as well to ensure allow the barcode data. So, in summary,

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the Hadith that was ordered by God Allah that Allah the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is, is given us actually two things, number one, that this matter of luck and character is a prophetic legacy, which means all the MBR we know for sure, thought the same standard of love and character before, that's part of the flag of the MBR because it comes from the exact same source Allah subhanaw taala. So when people come to you from other phases, you know, in our religion, we are allowed to lie, you're allowed to cheat. So I don't know where you're getting that from, I don't think the Prophet self taught this to the people, no matter what they justify it with, we know that the MBR would never do

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that. That's number one. Number two, knowing that when it comes to modesty, having higher and modesty, it's one of the most important of love and characters that we need to observe today as an example of GEMA because the society is suffering because of the lack of higher and modesty. And I mean by that truly for the brothers and sisters, unfortunately, it happens nowadays within the Muslim community, you know, how much brothers interact with each other, the bearer of higher is gone.

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Many, many people specially on social media, they don't have that barrier of hire. Unfortunately, it's gone completely because now you see people how they cross posting and against each other posts and with emojis and laughing and joking with one another opposite gender, the hire is completely gone. Men Women following you know each other and just kind of like having this private conversation, on messages and so on. The higher is completely gone. And when the higher within the Muslim community has gone slowly and gradually, you can imagine what that leads to. And we if we the supposed to be the OMA Allah described us to say quantum chromatic origins as the best nation ever

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produced to mankind, you can imagine what other people would do. If we like that, can you imagine what other people would do so it's imperative upon us as a Muslim community to observe that so whether you're in the masjid, how to interact with the opposite gender, your sisters, your brothers, at what level you keep the modesty level, Ramadan has come in and you will see a lot of intermixing basically between brothers and sisters outside of the masala area, you will see it in the parking lot was in the star areas. As long as you keep that level of a flat and mass and character, you look away you watch what you say and you observe you know, how you interact with them and so on. Keeping

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the flat and the matter, you know, to the highest standard that's what we call mu aware that is Marula and that's usually that we need to observe that's the meaning of this hadith May Allah subhana wa Taala make some of those who listen to the speech and for the rest of your Bananaman wala dharana will take few questions and shallow water Kotara before we close.

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So question regarded them as work, is it permissible to do them to do the most work and public then in front of the people it is actually goes back to the standard of character and standard of the society and the community like at the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam it was was normal for them to use them as word publicly. Even a Buddha he described the Prophet Salah Salem using them as swag. And he was exaggerating in the way he used the miswak Salah said and he said I saw the Prophet saw some use on the swag and he was rubbing them rubbing his tongue with them as Mark which is something you know dental hygiene recommendation is became very popular these days. Now you see the

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brush has rough surface on the bottom. So you can actually flip it and scrub your tongue with that. So the problem was scrubbing his tongue with them as whack. And Buddha was saying, Well can I get the hell out of it? What does that mean? Like the professor was exaggerated and going all the way back until he gags

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this how far he would go with scrubbing his tongue to keep it clean and fresh Salah Salem unterliegen So that's public and it was in front of the people wallarah However, nowadays since the culture has shifted and changed, maybe using the miswak when you use it keep your mouth mouth closed or use your other hand to cover if you had to.

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think we have questions from last week as well too, so I'm going to try to inshallah skip them to today's questions.

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no further than right

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I heard that when you are invited for a download which means an invitation, you can eat your full Bismil and take home with you if you want to learn when it comes to eating it's up to you you don't have to eat your full but if your host keep insisting that you eat, measure of course again your your eating habits you don't have to go to full but you are allowed and I don't know if you mentioned the Hadith but Hadith Oboro Dellavedova. When the Prophet SAW Selim, he gave him the milk to drink from and he kept drinking and drinking and drink until he said well Loyola I just love almost like I don't I don't have any more space left for Danny. So that means you are allowed to eat

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your fill, but not all the time

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what is the penalty for wasting food? What if the food is very old? I mean the food is very old that means we left it to until it became too old or resident from two weeks or so. May Allah forgive you first of all, the penalty for wasting food Allama Stan Yanni

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Allah Subhan says and then over dinner, kind of want to shelter them but they didn't. Those who are wasteful just like the shelter. It's the stuff Allah it's a very bad habit. That's one thing second, Allah knows this NEMA that you have in your hand Alhamdulillah Allah is testing you to be grateful. What if Allah tested is not to be patient and may Allah subhana wa to make it easy for our brothers and sisters because they are blind. I mean, what like to share with us to talk today about wasting food when we see the videos and the pictures coming from us our brothers and sisters the young people young boys are collecting whatever is left of the dust of the flower not even flour that dust

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of it. They're collecting it with the sand they don't even have a bag to carry they put in their pockets along with the how much they're going to collect from that but they're just anticipating to get whatever they can so they can make a piece of bread over here that little girl crying because she misses a test of bread along Stan how many bread do you keep it on the corner and on the countertop becomes moldy and then you're going to throw it away

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how many times we do these things alongside food stays in the fridge hopefully someone will eat it and then we cook another fish mean and then we'll get another food from outside and then that food eventually ends up in the trash.

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If you can not throw anything away then do it if you can make a compost in the backyard for example use for

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for gardening whatever that is just try your best to minimize waste in that food my last panel Metallica tubeless for Dinamo Bananaman

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So man has been chewing Are there specific manners when chewing the food I have a sound sensitivity and dislike hearing crunches and slurps

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we share the same problem then. I think no one likes to hear somebody mashallah and is slurping over their drink or even chewing their food out loud? Like one time I asked in a class we were talking about this habit so I said the lady was asking that you know that this doesn't like her husband you know when he chooses food out loud. So the guy he said he said but chef, I mean the guy he just wants to announce that he's like an Italian mashallah like it's an announcement of love Yanni is just so saying it's I like it so he's showing it out loud it's an added it's an etiquette and I think that we should really observe that meaning when you eat and drink be cognizant of those around

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you and how your food sounds when you eat

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or how basically when you drink and sometimes you'll be also be considered of the elderly because they may not really know that is too loud they don't maybe necessarily see themselves doing anything offensive to anybody take it easy on them when it comes to remind them of this matter

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so somebody's asking about from the our online actually audience is that about the quiz high scores so shout out or maybe next time we also allow them or put put them on the WhatsApp group so they can see it. Will there be any Jazza for this for the class, we're going to be doing the Jasmine Shala basically based on

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studying the book and then go through to win these quizzes and there will be a paper requested from you to write inshallah and specific subjects from the material that we studied. And if you pass all this inshallah we'll give it that age as a beginner So John, so you can start using the book to teach you how to teach it to other people within your own small circles insha Allah Allah Allah, Allah azza wa jal

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conversant with the Mahara and based on necessity, what is the rule in regard

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occasional phone conversation text message with a non Muharram was much more than you based upon assisity. I mean, the word necessity gives the answer. If it's a matter of necessity, then yeah, it's okay. But if it's a matter of need, sometimes need can be observed and in the same level of necessity. But if it just because, you know, objectively How are you guys doing blah, blah, blah? Who is this person with?

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A family friend, for example, or a neighbor, you shouldn't be conversing with someone so loosely like this, if it wasn't there's any need for that now.

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So this is basically an older lady who views me as her son. Now, I don't know about this particular case, I need to know more details. But overall, she's an older much older lady, meaning as Allah described in the Quran, alcova Vanessa, like the last, you know, kind of like the desire for, for marriage or for that kind of life. That's a different story, like an older lady, maybe in her 70s or 60s or 80s. But if you're talking about all the lady major on her 40s and 50s, at your age, because your 20s then you're, you're in trouble.

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Can you bring it over on your own plate when eating a bowl and taking a bite? The answer is yes. Yes, you can do that. If it's your own plate, that's fine.

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So in the Hadith, if you're selling wine, then you can enjoy pork, does it indicate that one haram Act may lead to another when we don't have modesty to a friend? For one? That's a possibility? Like we said, it starts with the higher remover the higher from a certain area and then suddenly, you see yourself crossing the line. So one act or another until Allah mustard is to cover all the villa.

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So the question is for you right now they say, is it possible for to give more of a window to take the quiz? Since I think we had less than 24 hour window, getting it after the class and doing it by next class? We'll give a good time due to our busy schedule. I think you have until next Tuesday right now, right? So the quizzes on Tuesday, next year.

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Oh, you have to prepare the i here. But we have until Tuesday. So study the material until then, and it should be financial.

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Sitting with your right knee right the up might not look appropriate to sit in gathering is it fine to sit otherwise or still prefer that? It really depends. Again, there are cultural standards. If it's not haram, you should observe these these standards. But if the way they sit while they eating is going to cause you to, you know, eat too much, then either that you will practice the Sunnah of raising your unit

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if HYAH is such a central part of the faith, why is it permissible for men to marry Christian women who have no hire? I disagree with you. I know a lot of Muslim men who have no hair at all.

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Just like there are so many Muslim men who don't have hair. So the higher has nothing to do with being actually Muslim or Christians is being dedicated to your faith. And even remember when Timmy Rahim Allah there was asked a question about the permissibility of a woman, a Muslim woman, removing her hijab in front of a non Muslim woman. He said, It doesn't matter if it's Muslim or non Muslim, what matters is that he hasn't had a level of higher. He says because sometimes you will have a non Muslim woman. She is stronger in her faith and her character because of strength, Emma and her faith than a Muslim woman.

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Like she, she's Muslim, but unfortunate, she doesn't observe the etiquette of higher so even if you remove your hijab, she probably interact in a worst way she might be describing out there without any shame, versus someone who had observed the higher with you even though she's not Muslim. So it's not really about being Muslim, Muslim or Christian. The higher is a different thing.

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It's about the strength of a man or at least standard of their DNA.

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So if one of the teachings of previous prophets do not contradict with our teaching, does it become part of our Sharia? For example, scholars derive certain rulings on marriage and Mar from the story of Prophet Musa in Midian. This is part of also one of the sources of law called the Shadowman covenant the law that was prescribed to those who before us is it considered shadow Alana Allah, so Allah there are differences of opinion. Some they say it is considered law for us as long as we don't have anything contradicting it in our law and Sharia and other whatever they say, No, it's not a standard as a Sharia for us unless there is something that indicates it should be taken as part of

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the Sharia as well. I believe that is not considered as Sharia law for us. But it's something you set in us to be which means you could actually take it as a

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uh etiquette and a flat and manners that's all

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so if I really feel hungry

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which means once every couple of days So doesn't it consider being ungrateful to Allah's name? Because I don't feel hungry now you don't feel hungry honestly I think you should see a doctor first very serious because that might be have something to do with your with your with your liver. Really because if the liver is filled with all these carbs and you don't feel hungry at all, so make sure to check that but other than that how to see how to show and appreciate the name of Allah subhana wa Tada even though you don't feel hungry just always sell him the lot of blind I mean so hamdulillah and when it comes to come to eat Alhamdulillah its name and also hamdulillah did you not hungry?

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That's another name as well too. Otherwise if you always feel hungry you don't know if you'll be patient patient enough to be grateful to Allah is number one it comes your way

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I don't know if the camera can show us actually over here as Mr. Cylinder

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is istilah armor can you put the cap the camera on the red carpet please because we will be asking about the position of food that we were talking about it

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so we said of the prophets of Allah salaam Can you put the camera here?

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Okay, so the first position is that the knee the right knee is up. And when you eat it, can you guys see it on the screen? Can you put on the screen now?

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So that's the first position basically, the right knee up. And you kind of like when you eat, you support yourself pushing on the left knee or thigh and you eat Bismillah obviously, as you can see, it's not very comfortable position to eat right?

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In our tradition, when you eat you have to feel what so comfortable. But in the Sunnah. No you shouldn't because you need to eat to move on instead of eating because you want to just have the full enjoyment so eat and when you're done, the smaller you move on. The other position is usually they do it when they are really in the field or traveling. So there is why we have time to sit like this even though this is uncomfortable position to eat to use it when you eat. Still, they used to they used to actually squat like this. And they eat like that Smilla

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because they eat quickly and they just move on. So just few minutes. Now, should you eat like this at home?

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I don't think so. Just sit down and eat your food and shallow data but you can practice the other one. If you're outdoors in a public placement for example, you don't have to sit down just eat quickly and keep moving on it should be okay and shallow down. zircon will occur. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah it's all over Curtis monocle over 100 Estrada's