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I let the other know lunula devorah calasparra long be merciless Hannah what Allah tala be fear the dunya will be first of all ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless the family and the child and make this child for the family a comfort of their eyes and their hearts. Allah subhana wa dudjom kurata Yun kurata Yun Schmitz the comfort of the eye and the comfort of the heart. Allah Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala Jalan for Quran fitna. There are truly fitna trial. And now for the new father right now on the new mother, they will see how much fitness their kids can be to them.

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Before they had their child, they had all the time, all the time to spend as much as they want the way they like. If they will, if they could, they would come to the masjid. If they want to, they could just spend in front of the TV they will do whatever they wanted to do.

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But here now that they have a new intrusion in their in their life, because the baby now they had to go by the schedule of that baby

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other than in school and insula, the evolution of a wallet. Yes, Alan Partridge, when you have children you learn through the process as well. It just basically you're the training is on the job, while you are now in the profession. And usually the first child is for your training. Elmo noodle Oh, one other than how are you autolock, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Luckily, 300.

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So the first child, usually miskeen Yanni is always the one who's less advanced in that sense, because you still you don't know you're still training, you're learning how to become a father or the mother,

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the second child, the second child,

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you'll train him or her, because you already learned, you will learn right from wrong for model understanding and to the revelation

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that their child will train you.

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Because now you're already fed up. The third child comes to you, and whatever the child wants, fine, do it, though. I want to go there. Go ahead. Can I do this? Yes, fine. Just don't make any noise, whatever. So basically, the third child trains you, as for the fourth and the fifth, and the sixth? Those are extra.

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Though I am one of those six children, actually, so I'm extra. The point is that a loss of power bless you with all these children and there will not be a blessing. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala elmen will balloon z and it will hire to dunya and Manuel balloon, z knitted hat,

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wealth, money. And those children are just the decoration. The Xena is the beauty of this world, the beauty of this life. No one, no one realized the beauty of this, of these basically any items that you have in life, except those who have been deprived that privilege.

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There were people whom we know, and you probably know some of them have been tried and tested by not having children. Some were tested by having children. But sometimes these kids will not survive too long. And they have so many other extra problems. But eventually, it is all blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. For all those who have children or those who don't have children, they could see it on the eyes and the faces of other people. So it is different than normal from Allah subhanho wa Taala and they are fitna. They are a child for us, because Allah subhana wa will test us how are we going to do for with our children in this life? Cathy, ramen noodle wallet.

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Usually we get excited about having receiving the child. And then after a few years once the child started becoming somewhat independent, that's when the big challenge takes place in your life. How are you going to bring up this child in righteousness? And I'm sure all of us, all of us. We have regrets when it comes to bringing up our kids, or even how we were brought up as kids. All of us who have these regrets. Some of us regret that the parents never taught them how to memorize the Quran.

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Some of us are proud of their regret. I could not tell my kid, learn how to read the Arabic should become independent in the most half. Some will regret other things in the dunya. And eventually we all have these regrets. However, it's never too late. It is never too late because that's part of the test in this life. There is always a chance and Charlotte to recover and learn in this lecture in the light of Baraka wattana I would like to begin from the beginning which means before the child starts crawling and walking before the child has been born, what are the some of the sunan some of the etiquettes that needs to be observed according to the son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi

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wasallam Now in the case of Allah Salim Kumar Jaffe NSR de la Mora terminal Maura

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Hi Dennis Decker and Omar Omar Suleiman langma Abdullah, what his mother, the mother of anastomose Elaine, she gave birth to his brother Abdullah, the young brother. He went to the profit center last and right away. He went to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Dr. rasulillah then my mother she gave birth to a child a boy and she wants you to come and attend the boy misses you could you please come and you know, perform whatever it was needed for that. Almudena Allah Malhotra, NaVi sallallahu wasallam kennel Jamia Kula mucha, amo lute NLRB Elena VESA la sala, in Medina, when people receive children, immediately they go to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they take their kids, and they take

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it to the prophets of Allah, they want to see what the prophet SAW Sam would do. What would he say? How should they begin the life of their kids? I mean, come on, what is more blessing than having the hands of the profits or loss? I'm carrying that baby? So they all would do that? And the first child, the first child that was born in Medina, for the Mahajan, do, you know who was the boy,

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Abdullah

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Abdullah surveyed

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the professor cell and he received him and he was so happy and excited about that news that the Mahajan they had their first baby boy was born and survived, because many people when they when they thought thought they thought that the Maha jurien, who came from the desert of Mecca, dry land, now they live in a most like most, for example, myself coming from Texas desert to Midwest which is kind of moist and humid. Sometimes, they said that they're going to get sick, and then they're going to survive. So when the margerine they received their first healthy boy, they were happy. And the prophet SAW Sam was the first person to attend that boy, and he became that strong and tough Muslim

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leader, he made it into history to be allowed to ANOVA as one of the great companions of the Prophet salla salon when he was even 1011 years old, to show how strong that baby boy was. One time during the time of Omarosa was allowed to run during the time of honorable Fatah. Al Khalifa Omar, he was passing by a group of kids. So when they saw the honorable hotdog coming through, they all ran away. All them they disperse data from the alley, except for that young boy, he remains standing there. So the halifa comes to them and he goes, limit them to three miles havoc. Why don't you go with them?

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He goes, yeah.

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Listen to three photo, sir. Look, what I'm offering

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is I didn't do anything wrong to fill you. And the road is masalas is wide enough so I don't have to make space for you. So his smile on his mind says In other words, this was going to be something and he became something. If you read the history of Angola is where you see for yourself, I'm not going to tell you what happened to him. But the point is that children as we see over here, if they tended in the right way from the beginning, they would become something at the end vanillite Baraka to Allah. So Allah Subhan Malik Claudia lahtinen he brings the prophets of Allah they bring the child Abdullah to the prophets of Allah Salah matter of Allah view salado Salah, ohana, Allah He took that

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baby and he asked for said did you bring anything with him but held you to Mahatma who say hello to Maharishi Corona Mira, sola Tamara, we brought some dates with him, days from Medina. So the brothers of the prophets of Allah, Ceylon, and the Prophet choose on these these dates until it became soft. And then he got some of that juice with his finger, his blessed finger, sallAllahu sallam. Now, the juice basically is a mixture of the saliva of the prophets of Allah, Allah and the dates. And he robbed he robbed a hanoch which is the roof of the mouth of that baby with his finger salada center. And then the Prophet pull his finger out. Looking at the baby, now the baby is this

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is probably the first thing ever tasted. The babies are suckling on that on those under the sugar of that date, so much that the prophet SAW the same. He almost laughed. And he said, unbelievable unsalted tomorrow. See how the answer is they love them so much. They love dates so much even when they're babies. And the prophets, Allah send them which means the first thing that got into the stomach of that boy was the saliva of the Prophet salado center. And there were many, many other kids who had that same privilege. One of them Ibrahim, Ibrahim, the son of Abu Salah shadow, the law of the land. Whenever Musashi received his boy, he wanted the prophet SAW some of that boy, he said,

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Yasser Allah, please, I want you to carry the boy for me. So the Prophet carry the boy for him. He doesn't need the same process again. And then he asked him, What did you name him? He goes now yet jasola was still waiting, call Ibrahim. So he named him Ibrahim after his forefather Ibrahim alayhi salam. So that was the son of the Sahaba of the Latin and they want the blessed hands of the prophets that allows them to carry that boy, the saliva of the prophets allows them to to be the first to get into the stomach of that boy. That's what they wanted. Of course, now, these blessings

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do not exist any more than our time. So don't bring your kids for that reason. Don't bring it to anybody for that reason, but you can bring it to a righteous person with someone who may assume that he or she is righteous person that they make Rukia recite the Quran for that baby. We're going to talk about an inshallah with Allah right now. So Allah subhanho wa Taala commands us in the forum call Phil aniversary ruhuna web turbomeca tabouleh hola COMM And then seek that which Allah has decreed for you. That's a command from Allah subhana wa tada to look for for children, which means get married, have children procreate. So it's not just something you know, extra in our life. No,

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that's not from the Prophet salaallah salaam as a lot from Allah as a command means you need to go and continue the human race through procreation for doesn't mean just to have kids and just throw them into the market. No, you need to have children take care of them because you're going to be responsible for them in the dunya and after as well. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah Salatu Salam nkiru for India macadam become an omen get married, he was encouraged on the young ones go and get married. For in nimue Catherine become an omen, because I am going to be the professor See, be proud of your size on the Day of Judgment. I'm going to exhibit the number of my

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alma front of the entire nation on the Day of Judgment. And the prophet SAW Some even explains that clearly in the long holiday vasavada intercession, when he said, as all the messengers expecting their nations to come and attend them on Day of Judgment, the province he says I would see a shadow that would cover the entire horizon. I would say that's my own man, this is my own well, hamdulillah they came the largest shadow that will come in from from from, from the horizon, then he would see musalla he said, I'm working with many aside and the professors and felt that you know, it seems that he has the largest crowd, the largest followers, then the professor sent is a larger even crowd

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coming from behind. And we asked Well, what what is that? They said, this is your own, that's going to be your people, your followers, the largest inshallah Baraka data and judgment day, and I hope that you all will be among that call middle the Prophet sallallahu wasallam pulumi.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam informed us about the value of having a child, what do you get when you have children? There is a lot that we can talk about in that part. But there is one thing that we all care for. The most of what you care for, is when you lose connection with this world. If anyone dies, if anyone dies right now, and you ask them a minute or two minutes later, what do they wish for? What would you what would they say?

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to do good? So

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if someone dies right now, and you wake them up five minutes later says By the way, what do you see there? says you know what, do good deeds. Trust me that's what you need. Forget about your money, forget about it. Don't forget about everything, just do good deeds. So we all wish to have good deeds after we die. How can you have your records continuously adding up to the good deeds that you have started without you being there or available or life? There are so many ways the professor sort of mentioned on how these three things columnar bucilla centimeter matter and other Nakata amarula, Tara was one of them dies, that they didn't read the record or the record of their deeds will stop

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would be interrupted except for three things will still be continuous. So the cotton geria continuous charity, and these things three things number one, called

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l monitor RB. O is the purpose of Samson in kata in the metamodel mahatama mantella sadaqa jariya which means running charity, you establish an endowment something you put in a Masjid in a school and for an Academy or anything that stays after you die. You will take that award for that second element of a beneficial knowledge. You write a book, you write in magazines, you leave some knowledge people they can benefit from, come on, see how much we're benefiting from the work of the Ramada scholars in the past Rio de Sala hain. Lima now Rahim Allah Allah He died a millennium ago.

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And Western music his book today, remember Buhari even before that, and we still benefited from his book today. Those are blessing people's Han Allah by the words of Allah azza wa jal, they're getting all the rewards. Even our workers today for the long run, you're enjoying holding the most have today in a fancy martial law book, who started that process. I work with a lot of animada This is the second thing the third one, a wallet inside.

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You might not be that wealthy to establish an endowment. You might not be that knowledgeable to establish knowledge after you die to continue after you. But if Allah blesses you would bless you with a child. Then you have the ability to help yourself before your child to make that child right grow up as righteous so that when you die, you get the reward for every single goodie that they do. And we saw some fun until American Arabic Allah do qsv which means the child is the earning of his parents for

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Or mother, if they do good, you get from the good deeds that they do. Why because you are the reason behind it. You're the origin for it, but a hamdulillah out of the mercy of Allah azza wa jal that if they mess up, we don't carry their sins

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so don't worry about it. But you want about one thing if you are responsible for them as guidance because you did not provide for them the education that they deem the path of righteousness then you will definitely be responsible you cannot throw your kids in the water and then say don't get wet. Because I'm gonna get in trouble if you get wet, you already throw them into the water we will not at least provide them with towels. If you make a mistake get just dry up quickly as much as possible you try to avoid inshallah your kids to go into the path of the wrong path now. So we have the opportunity of having Sharla right now and I think that for the family here, that their their

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records of good deeds, inshallah, through Rochester has started right now,

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even though started before when, when the child is still was actually in the process of development. But after now they're born, that's when they start building up in the light of our code. And so what are the rules of

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pregnancy in Islam, childbearing and so on? Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in the Quran about the woman when she carries the child harmala to move one and Allah one, which means we all we all see that we all understand that one and Allah one, when the mother carries the baby, she doesn't enjoy it. At the beginning, she does not enjoy that maybe she enjoys the news the first time because hamdulillah. At last, now I'm pregnant, which means now she's proud of herself that she is going to be a mother. That's probably for the first child, second child, third child and a lot of what happens next. But the beginning, she gets so happy and excited about the news.

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And then that's when when reality hits her, it's not just something like a purse you carry with you, when you want to put it aside, you put it down there, I mean, they women, I'm sure that they would love to have this, like a compartment, you know, when they go to bed, they take it away when I want to eat it, or when we leave to take it with them. But it's not like that, that child that child support, if you look at the reality of it, that child becomes like a parasite is feeding off of you. The child is feeding off his mother, whatever you eat, he sucks that immediately, whatever you're doing, he takes it from you. And that's why the mother becomes responsible to feed herself twice,

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not just once. And that's why the father becomes responsible to provide for the mother twice, not just once. And on top of that the first few weeks, the mother cannot even bear the smell of the food.

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So that's why it's one on one. As the baby develops more. Now the hardships gets greater and greater. One and Allah one, every single week she gets weaker and weaker. And she gets extra tired and tired. And every month every week as the child develops, new things happens in her body changes hormones, even the way she thinks she's now no longer actually excited like before, she just wants to get rid of that pregnancy as quick as possible. She would enjoy some woman's for sure. But it's not like before, one another one. And the last part is called the bluff. She becomes weak, and it's hard. So it's very difficult for a woman to become pregnant. There's no doubt about it. And

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therefore, we remind women during that time that for every single hardship for every single pain for every single pain and hardship that she suffers during that time. She gets the reward for that column, Amir sallallahu, wasallam nirman mermin

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Maya Subramanyam in Hammond, Hammond, Walla Walla Walla Moto, had tell him you him a coup for him and for the believer, nothing that afflicts them whether it's pain, whether it's grief, sorrow, even hotter camera can be a shocker to Shaka even if it was a phone that sticks into your foot in Cooper beam and say added part of their sins will be removed and erased for the mother when she feels the pain and she says that hamdulillah that doesn't mean she cannot say Oh, or Ouch, she can say that. But if she says that hamdulillah and she always remind herself, she will get the double reward, extra reward for that. So she does that inshallah as much as possible. And during that process, the

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man should be considered. If Allah azza wa jal considered their situation condition being in terms of weakness, they're very weak. They're very exhausted, tired, always feel fatigue, if this is what they feel what they go through, shouldn't you be that person who would help be merciful to your wife and be around her? I mean, I know most of us that they would say, well, hamdullah My Mother, she didn't need my father's help. Or my grandmother, she was Mashallah the woman who worked in the field and so on. That's fine. That was probably 5070 years ago. Now, lifestyle is different. So the father, they're going to need your help as much as

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Possible Sharla with Linda had been in LA and help him when you can be in the light of Allah COVID Allah. So Allah Subhana Allah Quran, Allah is telling us that women and during that time they go through lots of hardships. And it's very important that we give them a special attention. That's what doesn't mean that you give them that special attention. And a special attention was given to them even in the rules of hat if you haven't felt, well, do you have a nice ability, man? There were some some important actually, ruling that I would like to explain a shout out here regard a woman when she gets pregnant. Number one, insula when it comes to the Salah. Alma had a sababa she did

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when she gets really, really tired. As she gets pregnant, she becomes in probably the last stage of her pregnancy. Sometimes she doesn't she cannot feel comfortable making bruker or even

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Can she pray while sitting on the chair? The answer is absolutely yes. Sometimes a woman during that time, she suffers lots of excessive discharges that she cannot control her tahara in this case will do and so on. So Can she combine between the Salawat if she gets to that point where it becomes extremely difficult for her to make will do. I mean, it's easy for the man to put his foot you know, into the sink or somehow wash his foot. And sometimes I believe Harlem young men and hamdullah we came from downstairs right now and Mashallah, the food was excellent. Baraka lon. And I believe in him that everybody enjoyed it. And many of us as we walk in upstairs, we said, Allah

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and Allah and you bourbon up, so too difficult. so dizzy, right, now you're gonna go to sleep and so on. And this is only temporarily imagine this happening to him in nine months.

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And when you get complained about your belly, but now this is how it's another human being developing inside them.

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So therefore, you need to give them that attention and recognize that she wouldn't be able to wash her foot like would like would you do so therefore, they don't have to make the photo for every single salon Rather, they can make one model. And they combine between the salon that again, if they could not keep the hair on time, and they could not keep salon on time as well, in the last stages of their pregnancies not from the beginning or the middle is when it gets hard difficult. They can do so vanilla hit avara Katana

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amasian when it comes to fasting, that's a different story. If she was unable to fast that she needs to break her fast and as a matter of fact, f pregnancy proves to be dangerous for her safety or the child's safety. It becomes obligatory on her to break her fast she has to break her fast. You might say well no I don't want to break my fast I don't want to I don't want to make up these days later. The Charlotte tells her you have to break your fast

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that becomes mandatory. And actually she gets more reward breaking her fast to protect herself on the child when the light Allah. Now in some of these occasions, women that usually in the first few weeks, they feel what we call the Arabic language when they start craving for some items. Some women they like to eat sometimes even dirt, they won't like to buy it on a lemon, even soap sometimes weird things and

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so is there anything in Islam or Sharia regarding this stuff? Well in the shadow there is no specific actually there is no specific mention of that kind of feeling or that kind of desire. But should you fulfill that desire for a wife? Let's say your wife she designed in the summer she deserved some of the items that you cannot find except in the winter. What do you do in this case? Go to the Eskimo you don't have to but at least try your best inshallah to fulfill that desire if it was possible was hella one of the desert something's wrong in what I keep hearing about Budweiser Can I try that

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in this case it no no no no no no well I want to take this stuff you know if I don't drink it I don't know what happened to the child. There is nothing in the Shara proves that if you don't take it if you don't eat it that you will have birthmarks and all these kind of things that comes out in you know, in the children there's no there's no specific anything industrial regarding that kind of behavior. So therefore, if it's possible, it's Halla fulfill that desire for them inshallah Xhosa. Now women during that time, they're going to be going and visiting the doctors regularly. So in this case, what do we do? Number one, try as much as possible to find a female doctor.

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So if you have in your area, a female doctor, don't go to a male doctor because his looks more professional. Because I know most women they don't even among themselves, sometimes many women I see they don't trust female doctors, they want to go to male doctor because they are more professional. I will say if there is a female doctor, in this case, you go and visit a female doctor. Should that doctor be a Muslim?

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In this case, we go with the person who's more trustworthy and professional. Next, be professional. What if you have a Muslim doctor but she is not trustworthy person? Or not professional? Should you say no, you have to stick with a Muslim doctor. No, we're talking about someone who will be built will we shall protect your safety and the safety of the child. So therefore, you go with

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trustworthiness, if that doctor is trustworthy, Muslim or non Muslim female doctor then okay. Same thing, the staff, the the nurses, also to be females around the charlatan, if there was a need to see, let's say, an emergency case or something like that to say a male doctor, then absolutely, there's nothing wrong with that. And it's preferably that if it's possible during that time, that the husband or a mom to be with her, to be around in Charlotte to be with her, you know, for her safety and to give her support with a surgeon.

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Now, in the last few days, the woman starts probably feeling tired and exhausted. And now she just wants to get rid of that variance as quick as possible. In this case, what does she do, specifically, when it comes to the solar discharge becomes excessive, and sometimes it starts bleeding. If this happens, once you feel she sees that, then there is no need for her to continue her solo. Because the blood starts, that's now the beginning of childbirth, which basically, it's considered part of NFS, that would continue with us. So therefore, if there was in the last few, probably in the last night or day, then that's part of an affair, she doesn't have to worry about

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the Salah at that time. Some of them, though, they say that she would make up for this Salawat after shallowater, she becomes pure, you know, after 40 days from

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the personal bleeding, then, during the time of delivery,

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actually before the delivery. Now during her pregnancy, there are two kinds of nutrition she is obligated to take care of the the material provision, which means food, covering, taking care of herself physically, she's obligated to take care of herself very, very well. And we say taking care of ourselves very well feeding herself, quite the good food, good nutrition,

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should you force her to eat? Now forcing you cannot force anybody to eat anything, but you have to provide the ambient environment that whatever actually she is needed, in order to make sure that she nurtures herself and the baby as well. Now that is physically, but the most important right now is morally and spiritually. Yes, even a child still in the womb can be nurtured spiritually. How is that even chef? Mo Lord Allah and other Allah and even contemporary actually, scientists, they prove that children they they can hear when they're still living in the womb, they can have that kind of, they can hear sounds. So therefore, the best thing to start with that to teach your kid to grow up

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to memorize or learn would be the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala. If that child hears the Quran, regularly, and specifically from the mother's voice from the mother's voice, that is the best thing because when the child comes out, and he hears the for an again from the mother's voice, then in this case, this will be shallot Allah good for that child. And he will recognize that voice and continue with the same thing if you if you teach the child always to hear screaming and yelling and so on, the child comes out disturb and then the child comes out here in the Quran and the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala then they would recognize that voice then as well, if you could every now

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and then teach the kids while they're still in the womb make

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a woman and her father and the father as well if it's possible to do Rukia and the Rukia is by wiping you know what their hands and by wiping their body with the body Bessie with ability or their hands and recite the Quran recite Fatiha hula hula had food Allah will follow whatever source of the Quran and make it loud enough so that the baby could hear it inshallah Tada.

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Now during delivery, is it okay to for the husband to be there?

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The answer is yes, absolutely. However, having the entire family make it a party picnic over.

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You bring their lovely sandwiches and sodas and we're on the side until deliberate is complete. And so can we do that? I know it's very common over here. But that's not good.

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In our actual etiquette, Muslim etiquette, those who are needed to be there, yes, that's fine. For example, you know, of the nurses, a doctor, and her mother would be their sisters and somebody, but during that time, of course, if they can help hamdulillah there's nothing, no need for them to be there, then they shouldn't be in there. If they need to give her that support, then they can be but of course, it means close to her head not close to her legs. So to be here to be there to give her some support. inshallah Donna,

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can we take pictures and videotape the delivery just for you know, for the memories for the child to see himself as he was going out? I don't know anyone who would like to see himself as it goes out like that. And that's not a bit it's not the best thing to show. So therefore, rules of modesty in Islam does not permit these kind of acts or these kind of behaviors. I know some people they're not getting used to it and I don't know

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You've probably only been on TV so therefore they think it's okay to do that. And if there is no reason for it, and medical or legal whatsoever, then don't do that. Don't take this picture. Yes, you can take the picture of the child once they bring the child to you to take a picture right away, but not as the child is being born.

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Once the child is born, it's okay to start immediately given the news, spreading the news, Allah subhanho wa Taala given us give the news to Ibrahim Alayhi Salam about his children. Before even his wife was pregnant first Shona, have a lemon, honey, and we gave him the news that his wife will carry a will and that is honey will be forbidden and tolerant. So it's okay to give the good news of the glad tiny that you can have a child or the child was born. It's okay. And you start the greetings.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam informed us that every son of Adam, once the child is born, the shaitan was taught immediately the process was every child is born to this dunya the shaitaan out of jealousy, being so angry. Now here's another son of Adam comes to the world. He's so jealous because of that, what does he do? He goes and he pokes the child. He pokes the child kumbhakarna Viva la sala Kula molded me as an enhancer shavon as if he is telling him, okay, here's another one.

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Which means we start from now best You know, sometimes when you have a child and you just, you just you hate someone you would like just to print them. That's what the shaitaan does. The prophets Allah Sam says all the children of Adam, all the children of Adam were poked by the shaitaan were pinched by the shaytaan. Except for two.

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Do you know who they are?

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is Allah salam, and who was the second one?

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His mother Marian is like a locker. So oma

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Isa, and his mother Mary or Maria hatena visa was granted siano Lamia, kuhnian. Notice number Carranza, Juan de la mesilla. So recently, why is that? Because when the mother when the mother of Marian, she made that, and she asked Allah to protect her with a shift from the shadow gym, where in the redo her Baker was shot on origin, and I seek refuge with You, My Lord for her. And for her offspring from the shaytani r rajim. Angela answered her call, protected that girl and presented her offspring as a student from the Shaitaan from the beginning, where they were not touched at all.

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So we know that the child is being tested basically, by the time from the beginning, does here's another one. Next.

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What do we do? There's a sooner than when you carry the baby, you call the other man in his right ear? Do you have to do the comma the harissa commas a little bit weak, but he should just do that. When you do the add on what does it mean? It means you reminding the child about that but the purpose of his creation means your creation is for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala and you call that an earthworm.

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You don't have to yell in his ear.

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And you don't destroy the baby from the beginning. Just you know, quietly just called Allah, Allah. Allah, Allah Akbar Allah Allah they have to make it a professional I don't

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know it can be just basically any add on as long as inshallah toilets can be heard by the baby and the child should you hide yourself as you do that so that the nurse or the doctor don't report that what is this guy doing to the baby, you don't have to do so.

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make it public, let them let them see what you do. But definitely gonna have to hide the baby or wait until you go home for the tonic using the timer unless you know you or your wife you could do that. Why do we do technique which the sooner the professor Salah mentioned here at tonic which means to rub the hanoch which is the roof of the mouth with the dates with all the juice of that day. Some of the aroma this contemporary Muslim doctors they said today that this is now in order to stimulate the immune system immediately. So once the child is born, and you put the sugar now this is a like a foreign food for that baby. And then once you put that in the bloodstream, immediately

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the blood that the body starts kicking basically all the hormones and all the immune system to protect the baby from this now foreign material or items are entering his bloodstream right away. And by doing so, it will protect the child from any other property harm that might be possible around in the in the area or the room or the place. This was that's one of the reasons why do the technique. But of course the first thing we do is because the Prophet saws himself did it and he recommended that was then

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you great when you see the parents. Of course you give them the good news and you give them that the greeting and the congratulation. So you Congratulations you congratulate the family.

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With a newborn with a different gradient, like the shift mentioned earlier, after selecting, so you mentioned that there are for them or just mentioned any that is nice and good to save in the light eila. And especially, especially in some cultures, when it's a female

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when they're when they receive the news of a female that is born. In some cultures, they say, your handler everything comes from molars good. What does that mean?

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It's not giving them condolences.

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Which means you Be patient inshallah, Allah will bless you next time in Charlottetown. Where there was no next time, this is the Jay Z. This is the act of the jelly the people before its time the ignorant ones. And it's unfortunate still continuous until this day among the Muslims. Allah subhanho wa Taala Fernando shakin well, either bush or Adam will

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say what the word you will call him

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yet awara Domino cone Minsu Mr Boucher Ravi.

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And he the man when they are given the news of the female baby that they received their baby their baby was it was a female

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SWAT the verge of who their faces darkens. Why? Because of sorrow and grief they did not expect that will who will convene so angry so upset didn't know I don't know what where to when that pressure right now. Yet awara melcombe hiding himself or herself, mill from the people. The why because now they're ashamed because of that news, unfortunately. And the lies mentioned that this is the attitude of the Jay Z people before Islam. So for the Muslims, this is good news. The prophets Allah Sam says in the Hadith, and that's what I'm saying. It's a good news. Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Man, Allah, God attain anyone who was blessed by to two girls.

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Grind.

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That's enough. Thank you.

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The professor Sam says, Man, Allah, Jerry attain.

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Tintin

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man, Allah gelatin, whoever is blessed by two girls. And he raised them until they mature till they get married. The professor Lawson says, Come to our huaca time, I'll be him. And this person, basically, the mother and the father on the day of judgment will be closed like this. Just like being like calculative, basically, so we'll be close to that person. In another narration, the prophet SAW, as I mentioned that if someone has three, taking care of them, that they get married, those three will become shield from jahannam for that individual, for the parents shield from Johanna they will protect them from the fire of hell. Because people unfortunately in the Jay Z did

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not regard you know, girls as much valuable as boys in the society. And until this day, some people that have this kind of you know, mentality and here's the last time given them that value more than the boys whom they assume that the boys palani will will give them in the dunya so always give them the good news. allama Muhammad Rahim Allah Allah whenever he hears the news about someone's receiving a baby a female, he goes to the person he says he gives him the good news immediately says Baraka Lafayette Mashallah good news for you said by the way, do you know that the prophets they had they had female

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children, which means he says the Prophet hasn't had girls, so rejoice. He was just like the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And someone knowing that Allah bless them with girls, just like the prophet SAW Sam was blessed with four girls, that's amazing that you are just like the prophets of Allah 711 taking care of your guns. So therefore, it's very essential to take consideration when it comes to this subject. And whenever you hear someone was ignorant, that says something like that, remind them that this is not the thing should be said. It is so not for the profit from the profits or loss, Amanda so what are they allowed Rhonda, they give gifts on these kind of occasions, and it's okay.

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However, if this kind of tradition turns into extravagance, where people don't become competing with each other, like in this culture, they have a baby shower, for example. And if you don't show up for the baby shower, they're not going to show up for your baby shower. And if you didn't bring an expensive gift, then don't expect the gift that they give you that kind of thing and so on. So it becomes an issue show off. If this is the case, then it should not be practiced at all legal islamically it's okay to go for up to a baby shower. That's there's nothing wrong with that. But I'm saying if people are going to create out of this, some sort of social event where people start now

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showing off and people, other people, they don't feel comfortable in these kind of gatherings and so on, then it should not be practiced. And we go back to normal and shallow Donna,

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you give them the names and when you give names, make sure that you give a good name. And that good name. You avoid a teskey overpraise so you don't call someone touchy

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was the meaning of the righteous? Did he know that he is righteous or not? You can say that. So therefore you have to put something with it.

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If you would like to call someone, you don't call them someone that shows

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a quality that you have no guarantee for like the Prophet sallallahu Sallam one time he heard a woman that she was she, her name was Barbara, which means a righteous woman masina something like that. The professor says no, you are saying he changed her name. says Why do you Why do you praise yourself like that says he changed her name right? I was all of a sudden. Also, when you give names don't give bad names or names that carry some kind of bad connotation with it. And some people's depends on the culture. Of course, they give names unbelievable names to their children. In the Bedouin culture, La ilaha illAllah names that will lie just I don't know, just so humorous

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sometimes. And I remember even reading some of these people, they have names that has no meanings whatsoever. It just had just some kind of words that they put together or letters put together and they made them out of them. So in this case, when you choose name try to make the name of Allah tala good vanilla zildjian. Potter, these bad names, specifically it has as we said in a bad connotation.

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Things that related to reenable and na jahannam. And so on. One time the story says I don't know if it's actually true story or not. But it says Rama hopper on the allotted time. He met a man a bit when he says what's your name? He goes My name is

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something like jumbo,

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Jumbo, which means a charcoal. He goes where are you from? palmanova did not live in the Valley of Fire. So what tribe is that? He said the tribe have something like that, that has to do with with flames or something like this. So he goes, You know what, go back home because must be burning right now.

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So try to avoid these names that might have these kind of, you know, negative connotations in them. And I remember a long, long time ago in Japan, someone went to, I believe to

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to register the child's birth. And he wanted to name his child children, of course in the language. He wants to call the child Satan or Satan. And they didn't want to, they want to grant that to him. They insist he insists to have his name to be registered a shirt on and the Secretary refused says we cannot name your child like this is what this is none of your business. Here's my child I'm gonna follow suit on eventually they went to court and he won.

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And his kid right now his name shirt on. So along stand if you know someone has a bad name, some kind of connotation like that, then they should change their names. If someone becomes Muslim, and they were not Muslims, and their names also had that negative connotation, that name also should be changed. Even whether it's official or these are officially among the people should be given a virtual name inshallah. Tada. Then the most important thing over here is Africa. So we close with this in Charlottetown. As for the article, and the Bissell Assalam says kulu gulaman are here to be activity. Every single child is Rihanna. Rihanna is just like saying captive.

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The child is Rihanna is just like captive until that the law is being performed. What is that the raw data is what you have actually seen today is the slaughter of the animals. The sheep's for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala, celebrating the birth of that child, and the sooner if it was a boy to have two sheep. It was a good one. Why that's the son of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, probably because that's how much you know value people they put into it or how much they want to celebrate. So this was also considered and the meaning of the child being captive to his or her Atienza. It means that all the blessings that would come with this child from Allah subhanho wa Taala are going

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to be held until they perform that act of gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala when a visa la Salam and Allah subhanaw taala as verticillata nam peninsula to Suki Mahayana Mattila say Allah Mohammed, Salah, my Salah, minus misak means sloto and heddy at the visa mahiya We met in my life on my death all for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if Allah azza wa jal combined between Allah combined between the slaughter of the animal for the sake of Allah with the Salah that shows you how important that is happy and abundant, Allah the Caribbean, a hammer a hammer, bada bada Sala hear that, that one of the most important acts of worship after Salah comes slaughter the animal for the

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sake of Allah subhanaw taala the sacrifice. Now this is sacrificial act, who said we're doing it for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala tell you when you slaughter the animal? Do you have to

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get some of that blood on the head of the child.

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In some cultures, they do that they have to smear the heads of the child with that with the blood. And that's a bad actually tradition. bad habit. There were some traditions, some narrations, but they're very, very, very weak narrations and should not be practiced at all. So the blood has nothing to do with it. Why do you have to bring the child above the blood and above the animal as they're slaughtered?

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Anima in some cultures also, no, I hope you don't do that, guys.

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But there is nothing in the Sharia that permits that at all. So you avoid that the child is different. And all what you need to do is just to slaughter the animal. So do you have to eat from that meat? No. What do you do with the meat, you have the option of distributing the entire course she can turn into all of it, you have the option of eating and keeping the entire unit that we have for yourself, you can distribute that 5052 thirds, three thirds, and so on, do whatever you want, can you cook it and feed people? Yes, you could do that. All these options are open. So there is no specific practice for the autism, the most important act is to slaughter the animal. And if it's

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done by phone somewhere else, that's alright. As long as done, of course, on behalf of that family with a child, then inshallah you you make sure that

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after that, if it's possible to shave the head of the bow of the baby boy or girl. And the sooner was to wait the hair and give charity in gold and silver. But I mean, how much that's gonna come out. So the act of it itself is just to give an act of charity, which means you have to go and weigh the hair and then take it to some store to buy some silver and give it away. And so I know that the whole idea is to give charity, just for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala as another show of gratitude to law surgeon, if someone was unable to do the article on the seventh day, which is the son of the Prophet salaallah. Salah, can you delay that? The answer is yes. Delay at your

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convenience. Once you have the money for it, do it immediately. charlotta. What if someone amongst us already says, You know what, I don't even remember that my parents ever thought about this issue. So I'm not sure if they did it for me or not. Can you still do it today and for yourself? The answer is yes, absolutely. If you are able to do that for yourself, and you know that your parents don't do that, then go ahead and do it. inshallah, if you didn't do it for your kids, you still have the time go ahead and do it. Can you do it right? Do you have to do it right away? No, at your convenience. inshallah, once you have the money for you could do that. Then the next one that comes I'll hit on.

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And that's circumcision. Don't delay that after the seventh, the seventh. But if you couldn't do it before that, then that's fine at their convenience as well. And hidden is mainly actually for the boys issue of the female. It's an issue of dispute. And it's not actually as as as much stress in the Sharia, as it is for the for the boys will honor now for for, for the family as now since the child is born and a lot of Bananaman. They need to make sure that the child has been taken care of very well, physically and spiritually. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam he used to your Yorkie Hassan Husayn he used to go to the house of Fatima to recite Mr. waterton cool autogrow good fella. Cool

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all the grogginess for for Hassan Hassan when they're in bed, he used to decide that for them sallallahu wasallam

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he used to even make the drop out to be Kalamata lotta madman Sheree masala, Bismillah, Allah de la Roma's Masha, Allah for summer was semiannually he used to do and decide that for the first kids until they became independent. Once the kids grow enough to memorize these Sutras, and those are on their own, then hamdulillah they start doing it for themselves specifically as we said when they go to bed in Charlottetown.

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Now there are other things actually that

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we could even add to this going to Charlotte so maybe some other time we could be in the llama county and second session specifically on the rulings of breastfeeding and

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childcare after in the first few years in particular, from Islamic perspective, maybe inshallah we could do that some other time when the lights go down. And now if you guys have any questions, I'll be more than happy to answer

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any question? Yes.

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He killed a scorpion and he put it on his forehead.

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In some cultures you grab an insect like a spider scope.

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Hadith of the prophets, Allah Allah. Allah I've never heard of that Hadith and I feel sorry for the spider

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maybe they could not do it. A spider probably.

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No, but we don't know that the spider actually think of Scorpion as part of the cinema progresses and if there's a hurry that is proven to be authentic, bring it to me. I'll be more than happy to follow it inshallah. I haven't done it yet with my kids.

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Hey guys, so before I forget that ama next week, next week, Tuesdays and Wednesday, starting next week, shout out Allah. We are going to begin our English Program.

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And it's open for all ages brothers and sisters as well. Book studies on Tuesdays, we are going to study Kitab Helier, to Thai living in the etiquette of seeking knowledge the beginning inshallah of our program we will like to start the etiquette of of seeking knowledge adaptable and Mashallah Misha kita chef, Mo la Donna This is gonna be Tuesday after salted Russia starting next week inshallah this coming Tuesday vanilla surgeon on Wednesday, we are going to start another book and that is Rohit and Maktoum. The seal nectar of profound deep study of Sirota Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mibi Jaya that has an abyssal Allah Allah Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala we're going to do

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very deep and profound study of certain NaVi sola Salaam so starting Tuesdays and Wednesdays regularly we are going to do this vanilla after Saudi Russia so people could you know come in a lot their convenience and it's going to be an English language. So bring your families bring your kids inshallah and come with us. Yes.

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The classes Shall we start just like this? Age 15 out of southern Russia until nine o'clock that's how it's going to be 45 minutes in Charlotte are useful

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for the grandkids, if someone Yeah, so basically they are now the children of your children. Yes, if they do good deeds, you'll get their reward as well. Allah Allah says in Surah tilaka work

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what can

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what can abou masala is that the benefit went to the seventh generation even not just the second generation Alanna sisters any question

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