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Trials Of Life – How We Deal With Them

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Waleed Basyouni

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Number 11 who want to stay in who wanna study who want to stop here ohana Villa Haman shampoo cinnamon Satya Melina Allahu Allah call him to help can help our local hamdulillah Buddha or sallallahu wasallam. Mubarak Allah Nabina Muhammad Anwar nada and he will be Assemblyman Mehta Sleeman. kathira am about old praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family's companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness at a loss The only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is lost on Final messenger.

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My dear brothers and sisters,

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about 10 years ago,

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around this same time, of this month, maybe a couple of months earlier,

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I to NASA rod one,

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my wife was visiting our pediatrician.

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Because

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my son was not feeling well. And I remember I was just landed from one of my classes in Houston airport.

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And she called me and or the doctor, she talked to me, it's kind of strange. And he told me, I want you to come straight to the clinic. Because I don't want your wife to drive your son. I was like what's happening. And he said that I'm sorry to tell you that your son is diagnosed with leukemia.

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I wish I did. I need I wish I don't have to tell you that news. But that's what it is. The good news is, if anybody has to have a leukemia, blood, a B, LL,

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which is something, at least something can be, you know, there is a higher percentage of survive.

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10 years later, I can look back at that day, and how I felt that moment how it was so hard. And by the grace of Allah subhana wa tada and the support that he got from so many great families here in our community, I was able to move on. And I can look at this moment in my life, and my family's life as a turning point, that have changed so many of us to be better in many different ways, and improve our lives in many different

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ways as well.

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As you might know, October is the month of the breast cancer awareness month.

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And as a father of a surviving child who diagnosed with cancer hamdulillah and also as a son of a mother who died to a cancer.

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And Few days ago, the man who I consider my father, after my father,

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have done so much to me, passed away due to a long battle with

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lung cancer.

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So I thought maybe this will be a good opportunity to at least in the beginning of my heart, but today as a person who I'm don't think I'm an A strange incident, I'm 100% sure that every single one and this mustard now today listening to me, have someone either personally or someone from his relatives, close or distance had to deal with this disease, which is cancer is over 100 types, and any parts of your body can be affected by cancer.

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Cancer is basically

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responsible for so many deaths in the world. As a matter of fact, child a children's Reason number two are the highest percentage of death among children. The second highest reason for death among children is cancer. First one is accident.

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among adults, it's also responsible for the highest numbers of death, the second highest number of death among adults cancer comes right after heart disease.

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So that's something interesting is to see or to be something that you should be aware of.

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In 2012, there are approximately 13 point 7 million Americans with a history of cancer alive.

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Anyone can develop cancer. However, the risk of getting a cancer increase in the age most cases occur in the

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Middle Age, you know, the say, an adult middle aged adults or older, about 77% of all cancers are diagnosed and people under the age of 55 years and older.

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In 2000, I believe 13

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they were

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basically almost 1600 people die daily due to cancer.

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Daily

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cancer, you know, as I said, like nearly one in every four death in America caused by death by cancer

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and

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excluding skin cancer, breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer among woman on October is the month where we creating awareness about or there's an awareness month for breast cancer. And that's why I'm happy to announce that clearlight community invite everyone make sure on your way out. To check it out, too, we will have participating in a run for cancer as a group are presenting our community and we did this before in the past. And we will do it again.

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As I said, like 1% of all new cancer diagnosed in America goes to children.

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To put it in more perspective, they said,

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For when it comes to children,

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it is commonly between the age of one to 14, you know

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28% of them might be diagnosed with cancer. That's a very high number. And the most common cancer among men won't be according to the number, prostate, lung and colon cancer, for women will be a breast lung. And again, colon cancer, which is a very common among men and women and it's one of the leading cause of death due to cancer disease is the colon cancer between men and woman combined.

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The good news is about this, I'm not here to depress you, especially if you're going through this or you have a family member going through that the good news about those that the rate of death due to cancer is dropping tremendously over the years, which is something we are very grateful and thankful to Allah subhana wa Tada. First, then to those men and woman who dedicated their life to research to treat everyone in the medical field somehow contribute to reduce the pain or healing lost my thought I use them to heal the sick one we are in debt to them male as pathauto reward them tremendously.

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So,

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as I said, like for example, lung cancers death rate declined 48% from 1990 to 2016.

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Attribute among men and 23% from 2000 to 2016. Among woman and the difference between men and woman due to a culture thing, because they say women usually start smoking in a later age, and they are slower in quitting. While men start cancer in the earlier age and they quit earlier in age. That's why the percentage is very big see how big it is? From 48 to 20. From 48 to 23%, breast cancer death rates declined 40% from 1989 to 2016. Among woman the and the progress is attributed to improvement in early detection.

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Prostate cancer death rate declined 51% from 1993 to 2016 among men calling cancer rate declined 53% from 1972 to 2006 51% from 1993 to 2016 among men.

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So, as you see this declining is because improvement in treatment and early detections and also prevention. Prevention can be an amazing tool to help yourself to help your family members. Tobacco use is the single largest preventable code cause

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for cancer in the world, it costs 22% of causing of cancers death 22% of it due to smoking. So if you try to, to make sure that you your friend, your family, you know what that sucked. I don't know when you're gonna quit

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if you seeing people around you left or right, and as we start getting ready of cigarettes, jewel come to the picture.

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And electronic cigarettes coming to the picture. And we've been hearing how many cases now in Texas died to that as well.

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So, our Gila is even worse than smoking

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and I hope I'm going to call shall come out on his hotbar to speak about that, because that's a lot of people think our gala is or hookah whatever you call it is lesser no problem than smoking and the reality is not

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and and there is many research to show and reasons for it to be even worse than cigarettes.

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So prevention play a major role, there is over 2 million skin cancers are diagnosed every year in America, the cert with a prevention like not too much exposure to sun, living in Texas, you know, maybe job works,

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you know, not too much exposure or indoor tanning, you know will help to reduce the amount of

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people who diagnosed with that. So, my point is that there is a good news or in regard to Prevention's in regard to treatments in regard to you know, early detection. So, take care of yourself. Allah subhanaw taala gave us this body and order us to take care of it.

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But what I want to focus on the rest of my hope after those introductions

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is

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cancer or diseases one thing that we might struggle with in life

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but each and every one they have we have our sets of struggles, our issues my struggle maybe is with my daughter or my son, who's giving me a hard time

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my struggle is my finances terrible I'm broke

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my struggle could be you know, a habit that I'm not able to correct

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a sin that I keep repeating my struggle it might be health issue. So people have a different sets of struggles and I don't think it's one or two or three there's so many of things that we all struggle with. And I always remember the story of this wise man when people start talking about their problems. He said everybody writes his problem but it's in this container. Then after everybody wrote their problems and put it in the container he said, Everybody pick one now randomly, so everybody picks somebody else problem and when they start looking at the list of the problem anybody out they said you know what, no, no, no, give me my problems back. You know, you can do with yours,

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I'm happy with you know, dealing my problems.

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Maybe my my husband is much better than your problem, you know.

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So, or my en la whatever is the issues you know, that you struggling with? So here we are saying that I want to also give tips that will help us a lot when it comes to dealing with problems. Regardless, what's this problem is because we will never live a life free of problems, will never live a life that is everything going absolutely smooth. 100% there will be always challenges there will be always no roadblocks, there was always hardship. inside the cabin, in a different era of Beckenham from rappy have your hair today you can enter Khun Farid Amina Dr. tomasa

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this live will never be free from problems

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Akina Elmo him who raised the magazine, and if it had been

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different if it had, what is so important is not what happened to us in life, but how we deal with what happened to us in life. And instead of just talking about your problem, I hope that this hope bowl is inspire us to start talking to our problems facing it, taking some serious steps to make change, before you run out of time, or you run out of even interest to solve the problem.

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Because sometimes you get excited about something and you just ignore it, you don't care for it. And guess what, you never get excited about it again. That's why you should take advantage of this, you know, interest that you have

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enthusiasm that you have in towards solving your problems, especially these long term problems.

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One of the things that I will advise in regard to this, number one, don't ever be led by your problems. Don't ever let your problems lead your life. Control your thoughts. Don't let it you know occupy your heart. It might come through your mind you think about it, but don't allow it to settle there. Don't allow it to be the first thing to think about in the morning. Make sure when you wake up in the morning and think about the most positive things and interviews are seldom taught us that in the US, but

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in the US were held in San Juan ophira to Akbar Ahmed

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john Allahu Hina

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when you woke up in the morning and the most The first thing you think about and you concern about is that after a talk about gender and how you will be there and you think about it in a very positive way.

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Allah will filled your heart with satisfaction.

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Make sure that in the morning when you look at yourself in the mirror, you don't talk about you know what my love handles going out of hand You know, you know I'm just anyway I'm just getting sick I look terrible I am this I'm not you know oh my god the kids not Oh, I have a long hard day in front of me now say it's gonna be a great day. You ought to belong medical hemtt I thank you for think of the blessings of Allah be grateful and thankful The first thing you work up in the morning and see how your day will go if no pay you know Kenny mucha Mita yeppoon in our na k Tommy Dabba either I'm secto I'm sector with appear to dub

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something very, it's a metaphor he said. The beginning of the day is like you know, when you hold basically the horse from that the rope or the saddle, you hold it so you control it, you control the animals, the leash, you hold the leash, you control the animal, he said, that's exactly the morning. If your morning is positive, good. That's the leash you control the rest of your day. What can be better than a four iron in February in Arnold fedrick Anima shuda what can be better and praying fetcher on time and starting your day with an Fatiha with reading or an with praying to Allah subhana wa tada

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Don't let problems lead your live by constantly think about

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also letterhead akula how to do that fairly much accuracy topic. Also another manifestation for this don't make your life is all about reaction to the problems that's happening to you. So what happened all my life is about how to deal with those problems, how to react to it, I never good chance actually just talk about my dreams about the thing that I want to do about the thing that I want to enjoy in life. Because I always focus on the problem and the what I don't have the negative part.

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You know, so this is so important is almost not to exaggerate the problem not to think too much about it, you should do take the necessary steps and you leave the rest of our last panel

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because sometimes our problems seems larger than their reality. Just exactly like the shadows look so big, then what is really it represents

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another important point when it comes to these challenges in life Don't ever let your problems defeat you from inside.

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Even if you are not out from outside don't allow it to knock you down from inside. See Sahaba they allow animada home when they were defeated in the Battle of

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when so many of them killed and the people always felt this is the victory where you know that the Yom Yom is better now we are equal blah blah blah and Sahaba were so you know it's so hard for them to lose the battle. Why Mohammed Salim among them to see the process of ankle killed and people tortured and disfigured and, and all those things that you know have took place in the Battle of

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listen to what Allah subhanaw taala said in regard to this particular incident.

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When he dies

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to move on. In mini lotto believer don't ever feel down less.

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If you're a true believer, don't ever look this problem defeat you from insight

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outside the inserted movement, something nobody can take it away from you

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at dignity, that strength that imagined

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In your heart, nobody can take it away. The only way it goes away, if you kick it out yourself.

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The only time you will be feeling defeated from inside if you allowed it.

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No disease,

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no disability,

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no problems, no one, control your heart except Allah and yourself.

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You're the one who control what's inside you how you think

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it is not because things are difficult, that we don't dare. Now, it's because we don't dare, things are difficult.

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As the reality

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I'm terrified from height.

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I'm terrified from I always think high that I it's very intimidating for me to be in a high place. But you know what I said, I'm going to conquer my fear. It's not because it's difficult. It's because I don't dare I remember that code.

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And I did something has to do with height, you know, which is I never thought in my life, I'll do it. But you know what I felt, I never I just did it. Because I want to make sure that I always able to conquer my fear. Because he said, the best way to conquer your fear is through actions.

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And this is just an a silly example. But there is bigger things in your life. Maybe you're afraid to take certain steps, maybe to start a business maybe to start a new life maybe to make a decision to end this relationship. Maybe it's about time to depart from one another on my partner or my my you know,

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whatever is the case, you suffering from it, you know, it's a time for me to confront this issue.

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And, and that's what it takes for you to basically to be strong to make that decision.

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In a visa solemn send method and mcminn can method in Nevada, the example of the believer is like the palm tree, palm tree is an amazing three palm tree can be bad. Basically, the wind can bend the palm tree all the way down, then it comes back again, bounced back again.

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There is no tree only like big trees, they don't have the wind, basically bend it It means break the tree

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and nothing Nadella he attends in some mythology.

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And when I started

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the movement and movement when there is a pressure on them, yes, it's hard and bend you but you bounce back. tarjay come on to Africa

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to the bicycle vesicle

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acts that's an interesting example. One of the benefits why the process arm said metal metal in the example of the believer, like the example of a palm tree. And by the way palm tree, the older it gets, the sweeter the dates are.

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So please check yourself. Now as you grow older, do your kids or your wife see you sweeter or all the time borderline grumpy old man.

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Is that something you should check but because the believer the older he gets, it's like they bother you though the older the palm tree gets, the sweeter the the fruit is palm tree, you can use everything in it very beneficial.

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And it has very low maintenance.

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So this is another thing that we should be very careful about when to deal with the problems. Another point that I want to share as well is when you have a problem in life, make sure that you don't just focus on the symptoms, you have to go to the root cause of this problem.

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You know, so many times we just want to put the lid in our problem. So many problems. So many times we think if we don't look at it, if we don't talk about it, it will go away by itself. Maybe there's certain things by time it will go away. But most of the real problems and real issues, you have to deal with it. You have to look at the root cause for it. Like sometimes couples come to me. And there is a problem. I said there is something way deeper than what you guys talking about. It's not about going to this vacations or spending this money this way. That is a bigger issue, a trust issue, a respect issue

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that needs to be dealt with.

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You know, it's not about the sun that you do maybe there is a deeper issue that you don't have a strong Eman inside you

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that you need to work on it.

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So, here we say it is so important that we you know, we always try to look at these problems and look at the cause root for it and how can we deal with it and we try you know if

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The plan doesn't work. It doesn't mean you change the goal. You just change the plan.

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Each try another way of solving the problem. Because I will guarantee you one thing, guys.

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And I hope you all agree with me. If you take 45 south, you're going to end up in Galveston. You're never going to end up in woodlands.

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That's right. If every day you take 45 salt, you're never going to end up in woodlands.

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You're gonna keep going until you reach Galveston. So if you deal with the problem the same way you're gonna have the same results. So many times colors

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you know, Masha,

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Allah, what do you do? Let's just go back to each other, you know, cause Forget about it. And when you go back to each other, a husband and wife after separation, or a child and Father, you know what? You take 45 south, you're gonna end up in Galveston. Good luck. If you want to live there.

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You're gonna save the same problem you have to deal with it again. So this is very important thing to think about. You know what I can just do the same exact thing that I've been doing every time and expecting a different result. That is something wrong in your new way of thinking.

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Lets kids do that. But not adults, not wise people.

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Anyway, I asked a las panatela new Illinois yakun when you have Jimmy and Jimmy Dore comedy calm

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I'm having to rely on the salatu salam ala

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carte. They say language is the dress of thoughts, the dress of thoughts.

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Watch your words how you talk about your problems.

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Don't use big words.

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Because we the way you talk about it, that's how we affect you. And I love what the processor told us kind of funny Apple hire on earlier smoked.

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You know what you can say something good, remain silent.

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He makes sure I'll be in La shala mosquito shall be vanilla and Allah Yes, Yara.

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Allah subhanaw taala will make it easy. You know, Watch your words, always use positive words. Don't use negative words

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and see how those will affect you. And instead of saying it can't be happen, I'll try.

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You know, he always tried to make sure that this is something you You always think about your words. That's why we have bobbin alfalfa Shabaab of him didn't have any data. So what was the data? The wording, the concept of what words that use is a very interesting concept in Islam. And he even though he talked about this, for example, pilot nibs are seldom liable to come low any foul together. What can the Latina hasakah cater for in alota, ba ba ba?

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Ba, ba what Mr. confy? He said don't say if I did this, and this would have not happened this way or some something else maybe might have. He said Why? Because if you keep saying f you what you open the door for the ship and when the ship on enter your heart will make you feel miserable, terrible about yourself. The issue is not to feel bad about yourself. The issue is what can you do good to make things better. So every time we talk about f f in the past is not going to really solve much

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fun. Finally, I want to make sure that you make a lot of

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profit or loss parent data to help you to overcome your problem. be optimistic. Always look at the light. always expect the fudge the relief from a loss of Hanover to Anna. You know what this optimism. It's make you real. It's not an idealistic things, not delusion. No optimism is really to see opportunities when people see it as just a difficulty in your life.

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And finally, make sure that you consult if you have a problem.

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Don't complain but ask for advice. Ask for help. You will find a lot of resources. And I can say this when I have my problem many times in my many of my problems. I will always like to go to people and ask and consult and listen to them.

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So you know what I think today is a good day that you go get your problem solved.

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You take control over your life. And instead of letting this negativity taking over your life, to get the life that you deserve. Don't let anything stopping you from what Allah subhanaw taala created you for. He can

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Ready for you to be happy, to be free, to be strong, to be connected to him and anything connected them is not weak is good.

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I asked you today to be able to, you know enjoy what little gifts and the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala have given you and to become and wise and fill your heart with faith when you look at your problems and when you deal with them as

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