The Missing Link in Our Manners

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Now hamdulillah inhemeter who want to stay in who want to study who want to start a funeral home now they will die him in Cerulean fujinami sejati Anna Lena Maria de la hora de La Hoya you little fella hodja why shadowline ilaha illa Allah hula srikalahasti eyeshadow Anna Muhammad Abu arasu Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad. While early he was he was early Miller who matters Solomon lomita Sleeman kathira

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of praise do to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam his last and final messenger, my dear brothers and sisters,

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Ursula Naboo, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Illa Omen dushi me no inhibition Allah wa sallam was sent to people who have manners, and great quality of manners actually,

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as well as bad manners, and a lot of bad practices. And in nebby, Salah Salem understood that and he brought to them the religion which is meant to perfect their manners, their culture, their way of conduct with people, because the manners of any or the strength of any society, it start with the integrity and the moral of each and every home, and that society

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in the nebia, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have changed those people with the message that he came with. But unfortunately, what we see today, in our society, in our community in our life, that we the people of Islam, the people of the message of Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wasallam have also changed in so many areas and one of it is the area of mannerism. You know, there are so many things Money can't buy.

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And one of them is manners, morality, integrity, these things cannot be purchased, it is something that you should be raised upon, believe in believing in it.

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And manners is really what identify the person, you know, I like what had been said, a good manner is better than a good looking

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a good man or person is better than a good looking person. And, you know,

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you might find even people who are very well educated, but not very well mannered. mannerism has not done with your title with your profession. It has to do with your character. And that's something in nebby Salah salon care a lot about and I think it is essential, and it is so important for us, as a community as a family, as a society at large. That character matters. Manners matter is not something that you know, is not that important. And everybody should think about that from an early age that my character

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Matter my manners matter allowed before Islam, they used to be proud of their manners, they have certain qualities and the certain character traits that they were so proud of. And in Islam came to them for our for other mutton, Allah Obama, he made them such great people, he invested in these great qualities that they had, they used to be known, for example of bravery. The is to be known how various fat has a spread of all people known to be very generous, the known to be never been there back to a dictator, or never accept to be humiliated. They are people who understand what shameful act means, and they will never accept shame. That's why when this woman when she said jasola

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destiny, it's unimaginable for her that a free woman will commit adultery, this is something she can even think that it is possible.

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You know, and they truly believe in that. And that what we call integrity, you know,

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but any, and there's many examples I wish to share with you about to show you what kind of people that they were those who we call them j Ania. For instance, you know, in north of Arabia, Arabia never had a king, the Arabian Peninsula, never known what this king means, you know, then except the kingship concept. They're very free men, they don't feel that they can be rule under a monarchy system. This is something that they didn't accept. That's why you will find kings in Yemen, kings in north of Arabia, but you will never find kings among them. And it was a unique thing that Medina people were thinking about appointing a king among them. It was something very historical. In the

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north of Arabia, there were a famous, you know, a king of adherence. And he was very well known King, I'm gonna hint, can you someone who move a little ijarah leave me, but he was what he was solid, he has an army that it will wipe out any tribes, any cities, very aggressive person, when he was very proud of his lineage. One day, he was sitting with his friends. And he said to them, you know,

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pal, at aluna, and I had a minute, you know, forming hizmeti admit to me, after this great power that I possess, do you think that any Arab person will dare to say no to me, will ever feel, you know, or challenge me? Or will not serve my mother not only serving me or my mother? Then they said, yeah, we know somebody will never been his back in front of you. They said, who will be that person? They said, I'm a new consumer. So look, I'm a new consumer is a very famous tribe, you know, and Arabia, a very well known tribe, as well. Anyway. So he called him and he called his mother. And he told his mother after we get if you guys eat, and you finish your food, make sure that you look over

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your servant leaf. Then after everybody left, the mother of that King told the mother of that young Arabian men, she said to her, pass this plate to me,

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now willing, he hadn't.

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She didn't answer her. Then she repeated three times. And after three times, and the fourth time, she said, Sahiba, to Shea TB. If you need something, you will get it yourself. Or you call one of your servant. So when she said that, she she felt a humiliation. Then she said, a very famous call. She said, Why Tagalog? She's from the tribe of Tagalog, her and her son. Tyler, by the way, is a tribe. It match its name. What's Telugu means, you know, Holla

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Holla Holla Bakula home.

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Tagalog is a tribe that, you know, ruled Arabia, no other tribe challenge and so when she said that her son felt he know that there is something wrong about this. He took the sword he put it through the Kings neck, surrounded by his friends, and he marked the king in his face.

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And he left he said, You don't ever dare to humiliate me or my mother again. And he said a very famous poetry later on that it becomes so powerful people even hang it and unsaved the cab out of honoring this one either I'm Admiral Kusama, NASA husband Bay,

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an octave, a ver levina Lana dunia Omen emsa allia one up to shahina not too sure Katarina buatan Vitamina, our ma vaanam. Now, what I can send up de Vitamina

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all these poetries praises himself and his tribes and so forth. You know when you see that level of dignity, self respect, you know, never accept to be humiliated strength in my face another famous Arab poet very well known in history when he decided to revenge the death of his father but he doesn't have supporter he decided to go to North of Arabia to go to the kingdom of the Romans asked him for help. And he put his wealth and his money and everything he owns, with someone, you Pamela

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Samoan.

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And he said, This is my money Keep it with you. And he is rich man.

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Anyone he left the people knew about that so they want someone else to take his money and to use his money to hire more men to fight a moral case in case he comes with an army. A small said no, he trusted me with the money I'll never give it to you.

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They surrounded him in his house for days. And he said I'm not gonna give you the money. his money he trust I will never betray someone who trusted me. had to have an open heart and a soul find a hollow mean agile and humble man, what am your humble man even though he took his son as a hostage, even he killed his family member and his son and he said he said his team knew that these people are just thoughts he said I would never betrayed my friend.

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Those people are amazing when it comes to how truthful they work.

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In every cell, Allah said Sallam as jampot or the Allah and said he once was in a journey. Kemal barrio Muslim in the base of Solomon his way back, he sold this area with a lot of trees. And he said let's take a nap. While in Ibiza Salaam like that the Sahaba came and they found him and next to him in Arabi a stranger. So this is your solos the stranger? He said this man when I was sleeping, he woke me up putting the edge of his sword on my throat. JOHN had the safe and solid and he saw law. He said yeah, Muhammad wake up.

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Then when I wake up, and he said yeah, Mohammed who will save you from me? The process that Allah and then the the man, start shaking, the line shaking Sasha you from under neath of him and the sword, fall from his hand, the process, pick the sword, and he said, and now who will save you from me?

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Who will save you from me? Then he said,

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no one. But it is basically if you are just an honorable man willing to forgive me that she'll call then in Ibiza Sallam said to him, can you imagine how nervous I'm putting the sword on his neck? on that man's neck? He pointed the sorter. And he said it shadow a lie lie in the law. Would you be a Muslim?

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What do you think the answer was? He said no.

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He would never say something he doesn't believe in.

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That's a level of dignity. Even though he facing that he said No, I will not say it. I will not say that.

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I don't believe in your religion. Then in the base of Allah, He says, but I can promise you one thing and Mohammed, I will never do that again. And I will never fight you again. I will never carry a sword against you again, or any one of your friends.

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Then go. He let him go.

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You know

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that those people who we've called j helliya. Before the standard and maybe solomo sent to them? aren't any these kind of character traits? It does something make you wonder

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what Islam really have done to those people? How they added to all this? Obviously not everyone but these stories here and there. There's so many of them. Abu Sufyan when the king of the Roman in Syria at that time that appointed by the Romans as the ruler of the whole Syrian region and that include every non country today in that region, like pastimes, Lebanon or all this area Jordan, you know the king in that area sown the dream, an American motto and

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he sold his dream that the king who circumcised will rule the north or that part of the world and the people around Don't worry about your dream Jews never never have an army. Jews are the one who sacraments circumcised then you are still later the Arabs also the basically practice that. So you start thinking who among the Arab can be a threat to me. Then when he heard that Abu Sufyan coming in

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In

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a caravan hirato invited him and he said to come visit me and he told his friends, if he lies and said something not true, let me know. He asked him about Muhammad Ali, listen to what Abu sufian said when he was not a Muslim.

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He said why Imola, Lola and you through Anna yell Kevin lucky that

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I was worried that to be documented against me that I lied in my life. Otherwise I would have lied and said bad things about Mohammed but I couldn't. I only said the truth that he's a great man. And all the questions that he asked him he just given

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you know? So the question that I want you to think about today,

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what is Stan have added to those people.

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Because, in contrast,

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we in our culture have a lot of good qualities, we can point at a lot of great qualities we have were raised to be respectful, we respect every job, we don't look down at people based on professions, we we learn not to be raised to be courteous, be kind that's right, we have a lot of good things that we as a as a culture, here culture, new we are familiar with. So what Islam really have changed, and when it comes to this area, and what it is missing in our character traits, today, my opinion that Islam have connected them with the other have made this

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character traits, this conduct this behavior, this good manners, an act of worship that they do to please Allah subhanaw taala they don't do that anymore. So they will be mentioned in poetry, or their name will be known, or they will be given the leadership of the tribes or they will be recognized or they will be paid or they will gain any worldly reward. No, they didn't do that because they are aware only of being shamed and bring shame to the family. And Islam made them do this for Allah made them do these things, seeking the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala you will see Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he started his Dawa not many supporter as a matter of

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fact, a lot of enemies and among the enemies the closest to him Abuja, Abu lahab used to bring his stuff like this and he will fill it with the small stones and he will walk behind a hammer solemn and through it through these tones in the process alum say Can that have accurate his lying

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as so much you know going on in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam this time at that time. Now to some people in the hookah that

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this is his uncle, what do you think of that for other

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people how they treated the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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yet in the B cell Allah Allah you it was a lamp sallam. At that time you think psychologically what you need to do to tell your followers to be patient to promise them what

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reward and to promise this and to promise them that no

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tegid initial amount of Sahaba other than Allah duniway in the business are never raised a generation that waiting for a worldly reward. He didn't tell them you know what, just be patient and we will get money and we will be rich and we will rude Arabia he never said that. sallallahu wasallam to them. You know what he used to tell them? He said Subhan Allah surfer in the mo Ada como Jana.

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He said Be patient and SM and Jenna is where we going to meet

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Kenny Rob behandelt group and anti lock blocker. He used to raise these hearts to be attached to the akhira

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in Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam have made them and made all their behavior is connected to the concept of I'm doing this for Allah. Doesn't matter what else. Whatever else can come. I'm fine. It's amazing. How Nabi sallallahu Sallam companions among them died when I had them in a dunya Shia never had anything from this dunya and some of them had a lot of wealth, and he gave it up off because then their hearts became completely attach to the other. That's why their conduct was absolutely different.

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You know, when you look at our life today longstaff

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when we think we think about the dunya when we dream, we dream about the dunya our war is all about the dunya what makes us so happy it's the dunya what makes us so sad is the dunya

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what makes us so careful is the duty

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Yeah.

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What do we dream about in our dreams is the dunya when we go to sleep, the thing that we talk about the most the dunya

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the priorities is the dunya

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even when we conduct when we talk with people is to convict but I cannot get the album to ashay to Camilla Natasha because

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it just amazing how it's all that we talk about. It's about how can I get more How can I gain more how, that's how we deal that's how we raise our children. That's how we talk.

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You know,

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it just became we became so weak from inside, spiritually, in our way in our journey to Allah subhana wa tada and whenever we think about the deen sometimes even some of us will use the dean for the dunya we're right is Dean to gain the dunya to gain from the duty or of the dean comes only when it goes with my desire hinder my offical Dean and however

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if it is religious things and you know, I'm okay with it. I like it. Yeah, I like it. But if you'd really dig deep is not about it is because Allah said that it is because I really like that.

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In some cases, and you know when if it goes against what I want on what I decide what I think is good fit that will Bob and wasa one master plan. And all these excuses can come and cut corners

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in the B cell, allow anyone to sell them in the DF eyes app. And this is an amazing things to reflect upon. And when I 15 the same, he cannot he cannot feel safe to go to the bathroom.

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him and his friends yet to Nabhi Salim said to them, I see the wealth of kisara, the land of kisara falling in your hand.

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I see the wolf, the Roman Empire falling apart in your hand

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in Yama, Yemen.

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And in the third head to the rock, he said I see them Yemen, one of the richest country in that time

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will be under your command.

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You know

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when the visa Salam said that

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none of this will have I said when there's going to happen jasola

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When are we going to be among the people who gain that money? Are we going to witness that? They believe believe it is the truth and if it comes in hamdulillah we will visit if it doesn't we don't care

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in Ibiza Salim never said to abubaker Yeah, Baba By the way, you have the hanifa after me, or omarion halifa after me you know what interview Salim said

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man

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he didn't tell his friend and his companion by the way. There is a lot of reward coming there's a lot of fun you know financial reward coming there is a lot of position you're going to have you're going to be leaders know he said is in mo ada convergently my appointment with you after I die, that we will meet again in June.

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That's the habit of the allow and home win with those people when they became Muslim. The dunia became for them a means not a goal. And that's why their attitude, their character traits.

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The way we deal with people on the way they deal and they carry themselves in this dunya became a completely different story.

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Completely the way we look at the dunya became different when Mr. de la and he looked at one of his farms and haber. And he said Yasser Allah, this land and this farm is just an amazing

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produce a lot of money for me. And I want to give it up, I want to give it to a lion has listened to so the lesson then in the VESA Salaam said to him and maybe a chalet can asherah can

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I advise you to make it an endowment? Don't just give it to the poor, like make it an endowment. That was the process of recommendation. And he did it sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as an endowment.

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And Abu talha

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same thing he said garrison Allah, I read this verse lengthen our commitment to Hebrew jasola This land is the most beloved money to me. I'm going to give it you know, for for basically

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for a lawn as well, that in a bee sallallahu Sallam said to my advisor, the same to do it and end on Palo Alto anti Laffy, ethnical apologetic and he takes that money what comes out of it to support your family member.

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You know, a slab on the line who learned and that Islam Allah Allah

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Islam taught them that the process and taught them that Islam is that you give Islam is not to take from Islam.

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Today, llama Hammurabi we are all waiting for what is now on bring to us what kind of financial reward we're going to work the materials we're going to get from it

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there then they never waited for anything in this dunya as a matter of fact their commitment was simply an amazing

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and that's a key point when it comes to conduct when it comes to way we deal with each other we deal with this dounia make sure that your heart is attached to the alpha. Make sure that you do things for a Lost Planet Allah not for anything else. May Allah Spanner down a turnip on identical uno commitment. Malacca Villa will fly Hakuna Matata Mustafa Romani Welcome to Stoker

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hamdulillah salat wa salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa but

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they say people on the sly have either carry or being carried.

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There is people who carry this religion carry the trust that Allah have given to us carry this lamp, carry the mission of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam which is to spread to hate and to spread goodness among us. And there is people need to be carried, waiting for it to be carried to be benefited from the deep in this dunya and in the worldly reward manners. As harben Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, they basically the control the dunya the world, the money, the power, what's in their hand, and they left it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala where Omar and Omar became the king of his time, and he's now kalevala Viola and but can you imagine the wealth, the amount of power that he

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had conquered the two great civilization and that time the Romans and the Persian Empire

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still remember the alarm?

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army

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lady a national bustled still with his, you know, old tough clothes and simple food and simple home, they left this dunya they don't carry much of it. Because everything that there is always on the price, which is the gender I think we need to connect our hearts more and more of the alpha more than the dunya

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and you know

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that's why those people dunya never meant much to them whenever Aveda Allah and never told him you have to lead the army on amraams and also them know you are coming to assist me I'm the leader of the army, and maybe some sent you as a support to me. So you became under my control under my leader. He said Okay, no problem,

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you know, 100 milliliter or more rhodiola and told him you cannot be them Amir anymore of the army and Assyria. He took Ramos letter, his he's fired, technically by this law, he takes it and he put it in his head, and he said some annata meaning I unless I hear and listen and obey. No problem, I will be just a soldier.

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Why because the dunya is not the goal. Or the Allahu anhu ma

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and that's why I do believe manners matter the manners of living the way you live your life. And I really hope that the message of today and the simple word and the simple words that the message of today that we need to attach our heart more follows pinata what we do what we leave what we do anything that we do in this life, it should be something that we seek the pleasure of Allah seek near installa Spinal Tap, put in nasality Winooski Aya Amati Lila, Ramadan me, my active worships my you know, all the thing that I make to come closer to Allah Allah my life on my death all belong to Allah to please Him subhanho wa Taala

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with a lot of bit of effort and a lot of commitment and a lot of focus on the afra this life will come to you one way or another. But you guarantee that Allah subhana wa tada will have for you the place that you deserve in the author which is a ask Allah that each and every one of us will be a will be gathered into number nine will be forgiven from our sins, that Allah subhanaw taala strengthen our Eman And we need to work in our hearts as much as we can before Ramadan start. So when Robin comes, it will find a heart that it is ready to flourish to grow to you know to be filled with ease.

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