Friday Sermon – The Happy Wife

But you gotta love All Praise be to Allah praise and blessings and peace the upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I witnessed that Allah is the only one worthy of worship, and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger.

Maybe brothers and sisters, few or two weeks ago, I spoke to you about

heavy husband at home. How can our sister ensure that they will have a heavy night at home

and today is your turn,

man to talk about the other side of the coin,

the other half of the faith.

The other important component of this beautiful relationship

that ALLAH SubhanA with Allah have himself made that time between both of you, you and your spouse.

When deny it and tell her that incredible, physical him as well and generally discriminate among his sight that you have created for you from among your souls. A spouse that you can grow in turn quality with them, and live in peace and harmony with the love which Allah made I combined that Allah and mercy

the prophets of Allah Allah your honey we sent them said, oh god min aside for things among habits and use of God's grace, I'm sorry, that the person will be among four things and when that happens, and it will ensure a happy life for you. As I said two weeks ago, that helped me husband, happy family. And a Happy wife definitely means a happy family.

I'm gonna say the four things among happens they bring happiness to your life, to have a good wife and home, a good wife,

a good wife, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

and this just mentioned about the happiness of

Allah. And also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, as reported in the sinner, Mustafa that most people die the temple Allah that is nothing can benefit the male believer, the male belief, after all of us,

nothing can benefited more than Hailong, exempted and slightly better than a good way, righteous fine. In another

way, another way, you may have some robotic way, not some idea of what we're in love.

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go to the next see how a man that in a bizarre circumstance a woman that if we asked her to do something, she will be cooperative, she would obey his order. And if you look at her, he wouldn't be pleased, by the way she looked. And if he asked her and asked her about Allah to do something, she wouldn't fulfill his oath and promise. And in his absence, definitely, she would protect his arm as well.

Wow, that's so great.

In another hand, if you can behave in a kinesin moment, do you want to know the best thing the best project that you can ever possess? Because it's not alone begin to ask the province, as you're only

about a certain relation to this hadith that the Sahaba said,

give us a permission to possess wealth and to have teachers keep traders at home had a look that none of us can snug this down for anything and abuse all of us. But I think Allah Allah will be done man.

That is some allowed us to possess gold and to keep gold and tough traders. As long as we give what the cat and the solder come from, then the profits are themselves that the Companions start doing that they want to tell them about the best treasure that they can ever teach us.

After kings techniques, okay. There's no the gold and the silver not on the Lord flag account.

And the bank No, it is one of the province of southern said and I've been looking at Matthews mouth and Mala to sign him. The best letter that you can ever have is you buy that righteous woman. She is as the practice described her I treasured, that something should be cherished. Something shouldn't be honored. Something should be looked out to

interview some of our anyone who was also

Allah, whatever Allah how to how to marry a goodbye, Allah how to fulfill half of his will

budget, you know, study.

That's how I looked at it.

It's not like what you hear some people say, you know, it's not and initially I said I'm incomplete until they give me

and this guy was saying I was incomplete until I got married. And after I got married, I was completely finished.

That's, that's my boy tells.

No, it is the half the other half that is missing, that marriage is supposed to be the thing that asked you it's complete.

My brothers and sisters as a sub today, it's about having

to find a good husband. Who knows how to win the heart of his wife.

Do you think is a true when they say that the secret of a hobby why remains a secret?

I don't think so.

Is it true? What that woman said?

I never I never knew what true happiness was until I got married. But then it was too late.

So true.

I don't think so. Could be the case for system people. And I don't think that's what he does. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala have made the solution and described in a very unique way.

I was parented to Allah said that there is love and tranquility and peace make it something natural that the person looking for getting married that's the normal that's the norm to inherit.

Or there also

is no to live single that's why I'm the use of Allah are you are you assemblers come upon, das come.

He is the best among this Oh man. He was married. That's why even mistruths said Lola Nepalese in dunya. God named to kill kelela iceberg.

They'll be restricted in Heaven only have one life left for me in this life, I will not really have to spend that night single.

I will like to fulfill that I will have my d by getting them by Candyman.

This relationship was the last time on the other side about Hunan, he doesn't

have like a garment to you.

Like a garment. And you think about a gun. You think about the clothes that you wear. You think about something that suits you. That something that covers that something that beautify him, there's something that bring protection to you. There's something that beautified you,

when you think about a car, you think about something so close to you this the things that makes your skin some honesty, you think about something so private. And that's the nature of this relationship between you and hell. So when it will unseat some of this coalition to describe this beautiful description, this beautiful metaphor by saying that women are the best is that

you're like a garment to them. And yet they are like a gun to

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live for them with our own futures, what is known as good. And this is so unique, what is known as that means out is known according to the culture, because my in certain culture that's known as good enough, but in our culture, maybe that's not enough.

I remember a case I had a mother in law came to me and she said my son only responsible to you know what, a handful of garlic every week, and she gets her there. And it's three get that from Should I have the books, I'm assuming? No,

she's not but she's became just absolutely consumed. Notice for the sake of my daughter,

she's England attorney, she's my son will be required to do this. That's one of the US in the old days, handful of body, you know, skin, water skin, fill it up with water, and that's about it. And one dresser recently, I said maybe that's what is known in the past

1400 years ago, 1200 years ago, but not today. That's not how their standard of living is today. The roof, which is not as good is completely different.

In this type of what is known as good has nothing to do with only materialistic. Good also goes to things beyond the materialistic

things that you provide goes to what is known as good when it comes to treatment to behavior

Whether

your spouse your wife should expect from you exactly what you expect from her. If you demand something from her, she should expect the same from you the same treatment, Feng sarcoma off out the sea from the sun, if you hold her, if you keep her with you, you should hold into the solution while you are doing with this moment.

And if you let her go be even extra nutriment

is certainly one of his last speeches. One of his last week, they said, I was also been dissatisfied. In the room that I was in the company I see a lot

isn't I commend, I ought to treat your wife good. To treat your wife good.

They are basically in your house, it's like it's he used the word that means literally, like a prisoner like somebody you have, you know, tied to her to eautiful that marriage.

With a woman get married, she became in that she tattooed entirely to you through that connection, Jasmine. So she was part of our what we call kind of freedom. Now she has responsibility and duty towards you. So don't take advantage of that don't abuse that right, the Kalon giving you as the husband.

So

let's share some points that you can practice with today.

I know some of your singles.

And how are you going to say and how can you really hold into these points? Now, let's assume give you the wild things you wish. And you deserve?

Maybe you grew up soon to be also very personal. And don't say oh, you should have come out. That's another one of these talks about being good, too. I you know,

I'll tell you something.

I don't know what Allah says in the Quran.

The Is there a high worth.

If both party have the intention, to make peace to make a change in the life, I will recommend that success.

Don't say oh, it's not gonna work out. Don't ever give up in a relationship.

Because it's always possible to reignite that relationship. Love Again.

Don't be like the person who said chit chat. I don't love her anymore. I want to divorce her. This is why he's a child anymore. I said you might be of someone who says, you know, my car ran out of gas. So instead of refilling the gas, he said, I'm gonna sell the car, no, go refill the gas, you can see fill that you can reignite that relationship.

You can keep that machine for a good. And these some tips, some points, they hope that you will take them seriously and try to practice. And

we all should take that any point that we raise here, and someone sent me an email as a feedback about my foot base check isn't the too many points, you mentioned that I now have my philosophy for that. I'm not expecting everybody to remember the 1015 points. But I've only mentioned this because it's very vast, different points. And everybody can relate to three or four of them, grab them and focus on them. And they'll be good enough for me that just my philosophy in getting 10 points or 11 points. So you can relate up to three or four. Is this something I can do? Can I only have three points we share? Everybody? You certainly can will be able to do it.

One which is an interesting I've got to be very practical in this one how to wave your wives or how to make her have one dress up for your wife. It is so sad that so many times we don't even pay attention to this and I start with this because not many people pay attention to that when they go home. They were the worst type fears to the world.

You know they just go through their you know nice clothes and just wave that old junky pajamas. You know, this box or whatever it's very, and it's just not at all hooks in present in Massoud. They've been a vast was seen before he entered his house. The perfume out putting perfume in his beer fixing his beer. So this student said then Ambassador Roger

Abbas people dress up and put perfume on the knee not when they enter. Hi,

honey, don't you want her to dress up for me smell good. You said also everybody would like his wife to do that. Then he said, Well, I wouldn't.

If we demand this from them, we should expect the same from us.

So that's one thing you can make her feel like you know what? I tell you something you do and and come back to me and tell me that your wife one day was surprised that you're gonna change your clothes and all of a sudden you wear a nice shirt with a tie, maybe in a nice little snack pants and your wife will say, When are you going? Anywhere, I just want to dress up for you. And come back and tell me how to smash counterfeits.

You just make sure

that you dressing up for

also, number two.

Try to use the cute the practice of the woman with ways that make his wife happy. He use cute names when his wife for his bar. Give her a nickname. Nice nickname. Well, why sometimes you will be surprised some people their first name for the

one guy.

He had his phone.

He called his wife for example, going to

the Congress believe

but I know someone who has in his phone. His wife put her name in the phone basically, in a very cute way. He said, firstly, you know my wife something like you know, give her a nice nickname.

You call her with nice color with a good name key thing. Kind of immunity. Yeah, yeah.

Wherever you may last because she hasn't been really cheap. From the lower right now. Well.

Number three.

Don't treat your wife like a fly.

And what I mean by that talk to her like a flight. When you guys notice the flaws in the room

when it started puking and bothered him.

That's when you get irritated. That's right. Don't ever cheat where like the only time that ignites her existence in the room when she stopped bugging you, when she stopped irritating you, which is not an iguana. No tricky recognize her before she started buckling. Give her the attention that she wants that she needs. And see how this will restore effective in the lecture in the dimension.

We never think about fly in our daily life.

A life will do well all day, which means no attention from the husband. And she does something knowing or surviving. And then after the period of nicer existence, that's not

that's not gonna make her happy.

She's not happy, you do not?

Most likely. Number four.

And this is a tricky one, but I wanted to be

patient and you

don't pick an every mistake she makes. It's a very bad habit that you think that you can correct everything.

In the piece of circumstance in

a package, what is our turn to a winner who Kasota we're in a Kassala. And this has a lot of people think it is

humilated woman or disrespect women and

the practices themselves are created from the ref are created to from Adam's rib from Adam's rib. And that's so cute by the way to be created from the read. They say that she was not created, for example, his feet so you can step on her, not from his head to control him. It is from his thread that causes things to his heart side to side.

And the process of sitting beneath the brain is different, the rep is basically

as long as straight. It doesn't mean that she is corrupt or bad. No, he means that she is different. So woman is sometimes they see things in a different way. They become living in a different way than the men. So that man can everything goes against what he used to wait, we think as men. And you see she does it in a different way. And he tried to correct to pick on it to correctly. In this case, I'm telling you the person himself in this case, you will end up divorcing this woman. You cannot get over like that.

But you have to understand the difference between men and women. Maybe that's something that tells me that a home cooked by about how men men think and woman encounter different differences. I call them different stages.

The way we think there's a big difference between men and women and this very important for this young man and woman about to get married because one of the biggest problems are overseas. We tried to treat them the way we treat men we expecting from them behave like the one from India, or think or react

They will do this in different ways and it doesn't at all make any kind of disrespect for her or make you better. They just have different roles, different ways of thinking, reacting

and so forth. Also, so you need to let little things goes you don't. But if there's something ha No, no. I said she backbite someone she sees a novice as demons backbiting I don't know. And he forbade him from that injustice done. You don't basically let it go you make that correction but make sure that you remember what the profits are themselves, not kind of officially

when they loosen I mentioned it in Russia, gentleness, and being gentle and ease easing the way you handle things or almost bring success will always make allow you to achieve success. But if you need if you're aggressive with your talk, that's not gonna change things. Number five, smile at your wife. As she said we always got also something that was something that either one of us to smell the most inside his house, smile a lot too right? Look at her open your eyes. Gazing is a powerful tool of making the connection between you you know, have the icon the smile on your face and brush her so often in the face of somebody before he leaves he used to kiss his wife before he moved to the

salon.

That's a five times a day. You won't even side with the American Vikings. That attention in game it's a huge difference in her life. Number six thank you for all what she does for you. This is something we forget to do. We're not very grateful. Make sure that you thank you for the meal. Thank you she correct that if she cleaned the house thank her if she does if she did something good to to the kids, thank you for being a good wife do you think her for him for being a wife

and say that I'm grateful to us I'm gonna

make her she feel that you have not a good acknowledgement that's will make her feel so happy and so special.

To let anybody else take care more than you.

Number seven, which is very interesting point and I hope that you seriously go and do that today.

I want you to go to your wife

and tell her or text message her what you thought today. Text message every time I want you to send me the five things the five things that I have done recently and you like it the most far things I have done I've truly had a good thing God

told me share with me five things make you so much

I hope the exit will not be your protector text messages.

I hope there's more than that text message and that you're happy.

You know asked her to write down and let's say step number 10. Okay, how can you

tell? Because it's about her it's not about you.

It's an honor

to have Nicky cabassa in

do you like the way the result? Look Is

that ever before she like what this man

may also have somebody that from sad

to slightly higher than 100 that was salatu salam ala Medina yerba.

So we said dress up for her. Use cute names for her. Don't treat her like a fly. If you see something wrong, little things go come into things which is that helps move the hell out. I'm not acceptable Islamically in a gentle way. Smile, gaze at her was smiling. You know, that impress her often. Because love has to do with physical touch. That's one of the language of love. Also thank her for all the things good things that she she does, and asked her to write down the last five things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them more often again and again. Number eight, don't be limited in her desires. And this is something very important. Her desires can be

different than you anything your stops thinking that is important. It isn't important.

Even if you don't see them

even consider.

And so many times a form that drop, my wife will say something I said, Well, it's not that important. And maybe it's the biggest things in house, it's about her, it's not about you.

So you can talk, don't even belittling her does what you want in there just so that you still ask the Lord girls to come to play in the audition, because he knows that she loves that. And then he saw some of them so interested in their habitat, the young singers when they were in the back of domestic dancing and with the, with the spheres. And he noticed that she wants to look at that and then allow her to do that. And he facilitate that for her.

You know, anything you think that your wife is interested in, make sure that you get attention as well and respecting the sector feeling

you know, when the Prophet SAW Salem wants his wife to you know, she, she had the problem with guests, so one of his other wives send food, so that was good. So Jess, why would she send food to my house and my dad and I'm like, I should cook for them. She went and she hit the plate and the blade falling on the floor in front of the guests. Can you imagine that you have a guest in your house and your wife didn't do that.

Then there is a smile on he said She is jealous. Just give your sister another plate of fuels in the store he understand her feelings

don't play with her feelings don't ever relate to your desires and your feelings. So men are so good at teasing

and if you say they are so bad at teeth so hard and every

time you bring I am going to marry another one gonna you force them to do this

don't don't hear people's emotions. Maybe it means nothing to you, but it means everything to them especially your wife

be humorous and playing games with your wife as simple as that and then it rains twice the optician got it so that the process I was buying to the internet is selling

out late they used to laugh and joke can be she has no good sense of humor. Even one day she had the source of the food and we were playing on the paint each other's face her and one of the other problems while watching it was just talking with

the will draw the will have fun doing playing together.

And then we saw Selim said after Isha if there is any three things deserve to stay for them, they will be one of them. And we'll be able to watch the result. But they played together they're fun together.

Let me get the wheel for a flight

you know him you bring her in the Mustang and got back in the mustard. We have been called Table Earhart, and you put your plate there again and the master

do a competition between each other. Either kids it's a it's a spring break isn't. That's how so fun. I'm gonna compete with you. Maybe I'll cook one day in cook one thing and we'll see who's cooking is better. He created it be to some activity together as a family.

Hang on, bring happiness.

Number 10. Always remember the world's the hub of Allah's lesson. The best of the few of those who treat their wives the best, and the best among them to my

report to

the best among those who have the best.

And that's why I'm saying but remember that every act of kindness it says reform for free world. I had to look man for things, even the food that she put in her mouth with your hand. It is a form of saliva that will give you word for it. Finally, be faithful and loyal to your wife.

Be faithful to

the province assumptions, the best example for being very faithful

is no Allah she said, I have not felt jealous from any woman like he even though he admitted to me for years after her death I never met I never met in my life. I only heard about what she loved her so much. Even to the extent after her death when the alarm is going off her comes he will kill the sheep and he will donate from that meat on behalf of her after her death.

And he will donate for me to her friends once had the prophets or sometimes sister in law Helenius the sister she came she said how you're going

to get care

If he heard her voice, his face change Hi. I was so jealous. You can see the big smile on his face when I when when hearing your voice she reminded me of my wife

he still I've heard this make up for her very faithful. Then she said

I'm just wondering she was very old woman was 14 from being all I don't want to play see her when beautiful young wife? What is still so connected to her job?

Because she

had

me

Yeah Are you sure don't you know that being faithful it means it's part of our faith, part of our human

being loyal that she is someone she can come to you, you know constantly her every single day or every other week or every other month.

Brother and Sisters

let me leave you with this. They said we're gonna need a lot of vitamin A.

Attention, appreciation, affirmations, affection.

Remember, remember that

never forget to make your app or loss cannot

be successful.

I don't find a problem to code one of the brothers here in this community that he taught me great lessons once from this drum artist and he is listening to

is it Jeff? My major job. It's a very tempting job. I have so much faith and I go to people's house. I've been

in positions where I can seduce the attorney by very beautiful wrote for me I see a lot of

he said this one thing almost kicked me after Allah spoke to Adam straight and not to look to the heart.

He says that my love my construction with my wife is so strong that he said I've been married more than 20 years. But the way I look at my wife, I decided exactly exactly the same way I had desired her 20 years ago.

I said that's impossible. So Elijah, even when we came to him together

that I said to him, what's the secret? He said Jeff Walla and I don't remember ever I prayed Russia or federal unless I saved my schedule or Allah make me enjoy my wife and to the mice

that were maintaining the sanctity your heartbeat and

that's exactly his words

and he said it's amazing how the relationship I think it's not because many things because of that.

So don't ever underestimate the power to act I lost my brain tranquility and peace and it's part of the to Allah told us for God

when I mean as well as in our reality in a

big hour wives and our children could satisfy us.

Males can have power they can make our wives our family who attacked

us so I doubt

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