Heart Therapy 15 – Hatred
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Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
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The Messenger salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: (Allah descends on the night of the middle of Shaban to the lowest sky and forgives each soul except one who has hatred in their heart or one with shirk in Allah the Most High)
Reported by Ibn Abi Asim in Kitab al-Sunnah (509) and declared to be sahih by al-Albani in Takhrij Kitab al-Sunnah
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The speakers emphasize the importance of finding a way to avoid violence and forgiveness in Islam, as personal growth is linked to finding a level of sympathy and understanding. They also stress the need for everyone to be present for the larger picture and acknowledge everyone's value. The negative impact of social media and the importance of acknowledging one's own worth is also highlighted.AI Generated Transcript ©
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He or sahbihi wa salam Loma Linda Maya and pronoun fan of Mr. Olympia hon al Amin. Allah masuku venerable my surgeon Bara world moto homina nasi will hop Ira bellami buying precocial cricos Neva tick
so the nighted hamdulillah by the grace of Allah subhanho wa Taala with reached Hadith number 15.
And as a coincidence of parallel because this hadith talks about the 15th Nile of chabanne, so it's really by coincidence that it's the 15th ninth of Shabbat, and it's the 15th Hadith and only noticed this about an hour ago. So it's not intended but a lot of galantamine so it will help you remember inshallah.
So, the Hadith says color sort of lies of the law while he was seldom Encino, law related and swimming Shabana either summer it dunia failed a few liquid cleanups in India in Santa Fe called Asiana. On our machinery can be law he has his own agenda.
So the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah descends on the night of the middle of Shabbat and to the lowest sky summer adonia the lowest sky
and forgives each soul could lick holiness forgives each soul except one who has enmity in their heart. This is the Shanna enmity in their heart
or one with sherkin Allah the Most High.
So this is the Hadeeth insha Allah for tonight.
And to begin with, we will say in explaining this hadith that we have said repeatedly and we will keep saying that the most important part in our relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada.
So the most important part in our relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala
is not the body but it's the heart and the body is turba it's secondary, it follows the heart. So it's the most important part is the heart. And it not only transforms the body, the heart not only transformed the body, but the heart brings you closer to the mercy and forgiveness of Allah subhana wa tada the state of your heart brings you closest to the mercy and forgiveness of Allah subhana wa tada as this hadith explains, or it can take you away from it can block it. So the heart does that. So this is one additional advantage to having a pure and cleansed heart is that with a pure and cleansed heart you closest to the mercy of Allah, closest to the Tao of Allah and for you to be
answered closest to the forgiveness of Allah to Allah when you ask for forgiveness.
So first, we will comment a little bit on the middle of *un. Okay, and especially the night of the middle of Shabbat.
Here, you know, a lot of Muslims have customs and habits and beliefs about the night of the middle of Shabbat and this happens in it and that happens in it. And they celebrate it in very different ways depending on their culture, right. And some people actually make special food or think that Allah subhanho wa Taala somehow writes things on that night destines things on something that is very special happens on this night. And a lot of these things really are based on either customs religious customs that we've inherited, but we did not question whether they are authentic or not, whether they have a basis in the Quran and Sunnah or not. Or they are based on very weak Hadith or a
very even a fabricated Hadith. So as far as the fallen for him, of the night of Shabbat and the virtues of the night of Shabbat, the only one that is authentic, Allahu Allah is this hadith that recorded anything else is really not authentic about the virtue or a special worship on the night of Shabbat, the middle of Shabbat in the middle of the month for you. So it's important just to remember that and that if you have inherited from your culture, no matter what your culture is, a specific type of food that is done there sweets are being distributed or a particular type of a burger or whatever it's called. Right to go back and question Is there a basis for it in the sooner
or not because one of the elements of cleansing your heart or having a pure heart is that heart to be a follower, not a innovator?
To be someone that follows the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam doesn't deviate from it, because his Sunnah is the true medicine for the heart. When you remove the sinner away
Remove the guidance of our last panel away and you know, start devising or creating your own medicine it doesn't treat your heart and a lot doesn't bless it that way.
So, this is one thing inshallah that I wanted to mention.
Another wording for the headings that we talked about, other than NZ law as the origin. It says the affiliate law who in a hurry up later in the same shop and then our last panel to Allah looks at his creation on the night of the middle of Shabbat so Allah descends to the lowest sky or law looks at his creation. Now as far as the attributes of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah mentioned in this Hadith, we believe in them as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had told us about them without pre interpretation and without believing that Allah subhana wa tada resembles any of his creation, right? So inshallah this should be clear in our minds. We don't know how he descends. But we know
that Allah subhana wa tada descends in a way that reflects his majesty at the same time, we know he's not a body, like our body doesn't resemble any of his creation. So that's not the case. So you know, the men hydro, the way that you would interpret these things is in the middle, you don't deny them, but you don't affirm them to the way where you were our last kind of Italian stock resembling his creation, you affirm the reality, but the how the case is the case it belongs to Allah subhana wa Tada. Now, there is something about the middle of Shabbat. So what is this thing about the middle of Shabbat? Or why does Allah subhanho wa Taala descend on the middle of Shabbat and stretch this
forgiveness or looks at his creation on the middle of Shabbat and gives this forgiveness? The habit doesn't tell us but we'll try inshallah to deduce the heck from it. And a lot of panel with Allah knows the best. See, in another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, is on cassava chabang culatta soon, when you reach the middle of Shabbat, don't fast, like after the middle of Shabbat, don't fast afterwards. So the owner mavo in explaining this howdy they said that the person who did not start fasting before the middle of Shabbat
don't start fasting after the middle.
And if you did not start if you wanted to fast Shabbat
if you want to start fasting Shaban start and begin fasting of Shabbat, from the middle of from the first middle, and part of Shabbat, whether you're fasting Monday, Thursday, or whatever day you want.
But once the middle of Shabbat comes and we are not fasted anything, right? From the beginning of Shabbat from the first 15 days of Shabbat, you haven't tested anything, and you want to start fasting after the middle of Shabbat. Then the prophetic statement says don't do it until you reach Ramadan.
So if habit of fasting is not part of your habit in Shabbat, don't start fasting after the 16th of Shabbat. Why? Because Ramadan is coming
because Ramadan is coming right so you want to create a distinction like a buffer, unless your habit is the past Shabbat and if your habit is the first Shabbat you'll begin from the first second third day first week or at least second week.
So here it tells you that 15th of Shaban is sort of a mark when it comes to Ramadan.
Right. This special is a special day and special event when it comes to Ramadan. So maybe we'll LaWanda we can say that Allah subhanho wa Taala designated the 15th of Shaban as a type of forgiveness, to motivate the slaves of Allah subhanho wa Taala to look at their hearts and what they have in them. So that if you can cleanse them, you will be ready for Ramadan. That is as you can cleanse your heart of sugar and your body of sugar you can cleanse it also of Shanna and enmity. And you then by which you will be deserving of Allah forgiveness. Your heart now will be ready for what month,
the month of Ramadan and you can receive the blessings of Allah Subhana what Allah and His forgiveness and that has done that in the month of Ramadan. So maybe will Allahu Allah, this is to ready everybody for the month of Ramadan that Allah is saying, now I am going to forgive you all, but if you fulfill these conditions, so if you want to last forgiveness, see if you meet these conditions or not.
Right, that clear.
So there are then two conditions that this hadith talks about.
That Allah is going to forgive everybody.
Every single human being will forgive their sins, whether it's all of their sins are proud of their sins, but Allah is going to give forgiveness to them, except those who have sherkin Allah subhanaw
or data, and those who have enmity in their hearts. So we want to explain the first shark and why this should stop the forgiveness of Allah. And then also enmity and why are these two things an obstacle to Allah forgiveness and also, inshallah if we remember how they are also linked because they lead to each other.
So
now think here of any organization,
any company, any country,
it needs a leader, right? Just to organize its affairs like any organization, any society, it needs a leader, right. And it can function without a leader, can you imagine a country running without a leader, a president Prime Minister would have you know, a company without a CEO that takes care of it, you know, has a vision for the future decides what belongs inside what's not, you know, cuts jobs, hires people, can you imagine anyone running a successful company without leadership, not so similar to that every human being in their heart needs a leader or needs a master,
you need a master. And this master does the same exact thing this master tells you what to do.
where to go, plans for your future, tells you what to avoid.
And if you don't have a last panel, what to add as the master,
you must have another master.
Right? As if you know, if you have a king and you depose and remove the king, you must put another king, just because the country doesn't run without a king or of leadership. So you remove if you remove Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah as the master of the heart, you must put inside a replacement, another Master, or there will be multiple masters. And she really is about multiple masters that Allah Subhana Allah, Allah is there, but he's not alone. There's a lot, but there's also something else, whether it's an idle or another human being, or how, which is the desire of the human being, or to please this thing, or the dunia whatever it is. So there's a company there's you know,
multiple leadership. And what happens when you put multiple leadership in a company
or not one king, but several kings running a company, a country what happens? chaos, right? Definitely chaos. Right? I say you know, as they say, you know, I had this and fit two heads designed for one, right? Otherwise there's conflict. So it's the same thing when it comes to the heart when you have shift in the heart. It corrupts it because each Master, Lucky like a king each master has his own plan has his own priorities, his mat each master will tell you this is the path that you should take another this one if the master is the dunya visit jr path.
If the master is Allah Subhana Allah to Allah there is a divine path, they're not the same.
So then conflict will erupt.
And Allah subhanaw taala says here in the Quran,
as low canopy Hema Addy Houghton Illallah, hula facilita if they were to worship gods in this dunya, okay in the dunya, and heavens, more than
one worship God, so La, La La multiples, they will be corrupt.
So, you can understand the this in two ways. One, there is evidence here that Allah subhanho wa Taala is one some of the coldest they needed.
They needed the manner meaning what meaning that if there were multiple Gods think of two gods.
And the definition of a god is that his will is unopposed. A God does whatever he wants, right? No one stops. So hey, that's what I got is for God wants something it happens. Now, if you imagine two gods and there are two gods, they are running this earth, one Gods wants a His will is to do a, I'm going to create humans. The other God. On the other hand, His will is opposite. Right? No, I don't want to create that type of humans or they will look different. Or I will organize them differently. And what God will say I want them to be devoted to me, the other guy and I want them to be devoted and pray to me.
So both of their wills will clash, both of their desires will clash. And because if they clash, either each one of them is going to separate to the different world. I will take my own and you will take your own and that's not possible for God's because God's will is complete and encompassing everything.
They can separate, or they will clash. So you will find corruption on this earth, meaning for instance, something like, now it's night, then it will be followed by date.
Right? That's the order, except now you will find Night, night, night, night, and then maybe day day and then Night, night night, so the order will collapse. The seasons will be different. People who die and who live will be different, you can't expect anything, because the will and the desire of the gods are clashing. Now the fact that everything runs so smoothly,
according to the Tafseer of this ayah is an evidence that the Creator is one and the God is one.
So you follow me, this is what they call the leader of demand. Because there is no opposition, there is no conflict means that you have just one CEO. In other words, right, one CEO, one king, one president, that's why the country is running like this smoothly.
So that's one interpretation of it. Another interpretation of this idea is that, as the owner of this universe, right cannot take and tolerate two gods. So also your heart cannot tolerate to worship gods. If they worship more than our one God, it will corrupt your heart, exactly the way that the presence of two Gods will corrupt this universe, because you will be devoted to one.
And then the will of this God, or the will of this Allah is let's say, collect as much as you can from the dunya. And don't give anybody any of it, and promotes yourself and feel proud of yourself, etc, etc, etc, the other will. And the other direction of the other God is do the opposite.
don't collect as much of this as you can from this dunya rather give as much of it away. Don't be proud, but be humble.
Etc, etc. So there will be clash.
So it will corrupt the heart and there'll be conflict in it. So one of the reasons of the anxiety and agitation of the heart is that you have you're serving multiple masters, and you can serve multiple masters. Because you've served this master then you feel guilty about it, then you serve this master and you feel that you've lost something. So you always are in confusion and you're always agitated.
But even if you had one
either and this ILA has other than Allah subhanho wa Taala. Still there will be corruption in the heart.
So even if you just decide I'm gonna pick one either, but this Allah is not Allah subhana wa Taala is still there will be corruption in the heart because anything that emanates and comes from other than Allah Subhana Allah is injustice, all justice comes from Allah. Right.
The other type of Allah will command what will command in justice and selfishness and foolishness and it will be devoid an empty of wisdom. So you take all of this and you allow your heart to follow it you take all of this and you allow your body to follow it and you will regret it. Allah subhana wa tada says Allah with Aqua home, the first edit is similar to a woman fee and if Allah were to follow their desires, then the heavens and the earth and anything that is in them will be will fall victim to corruption.
You know how sometimes when we make Allah make this happen, yeah, Allah make this happen. And then we're angry because it doesn't happen. And one of the things that we don't think about is that this is just my own desire but you have so many other people other than me, who have opposite desire of mine.
Tell you all of them want Allah subhanho wa Taala to listen to them as well as I do. So Allah subhanho wa Taala either is going to listen to all of us and that is impossible or chaotic right? You're going to take this and this and this for all of you are going to take this single position impossible or will fight over it okay all of you have it but fight over it. That's corruption.
But even if not, we are motivated really buy into the you know, selfishness and foolishness We ask Allah Allah make it you know, Sunny all the time. We hate No, don't make it rain. If that happens, there'll be corruption on this earth, the earth will suffer, right?
Y'all, I don't want to be sick, I don't want anybody to be sick. But if that's the case, right, people will suffer. On the other hand, sometimes you know, there will be overpopulation. Right? As it happens in the animal kingdom, there will be overpopulation, that they start shooting there, because the earth or that area cannot sustain them. So it's part of the rationale of Allah subhana wa tada that sometimes animals kill each other. unbalanced, so you don't have to do it. Otherwise, if it doesn't happen naturally, you'd have to start killing them.
So I don't want anybody to be sick, all the benefits that you receive from sickness, right,
will go away. And one of the what are one of the reasons that the native population of the Americas were decimated?
Because diseases were presented to them by the Europeans, Europeans had immunity, right? But the North American native population did not. So when these diseases came to North America, it just decimated the population. So that's one of the reasons among many, so tried them all. So the fact that you are not getting sick is not always a benefit. You don't deserve develop immunity. And the better thing than that you don't come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And you discover rediscover your mortality when you become sick, because as long as you're healthy, you're living forever. When you become sick, what happens? Start thinking about, oh, what if this isn't? What if I die,
and you start seriously thinking about it. So there's a great benefit in it. So Allah Subhana, Allah is saying that, if we're to follow if Allah were to follow the desires of anyone else, there will be corruption, and including in that any other than we take ourselves, our desires, any other human being, whatever it is.
And also the corruption that is that comes from taking someone other than Allah subhanho wa Taala, as an 11. Is that each Illa presents a worldview and outlook.
Right? Has it, for lack of a better word, a philosophy, there's a material philosophy, right? There is a eminent philosophy only here and only now. There's a pleasure paid for based philosophy, whatever makes you happy, is what's good.
And there is a divine command of Allah subhanho wa Taala and guidance to think about the next life and not this one or less about this one. And that pleasure is not the thing that should drive your actions by the pleasure of Allah, not the bodily pleasure, but the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the different outlooks, so when you are taking an ADA, you want someone to give you answers, because you really desperate for answers, you know, think about other human beings, maybe you don't feel the need for it
as Muslims, but all of us have questions, but think of people who do not have answers. Where did I come from? What is this thing for? Where am I heading? What's the meaning of anything and everything in my life. So when you don't have allies, and you're seeking the answers from everything else, and it's a complete and constant disappointment, and a letdown, to ask and not receive, or for the answer to be unsatisfactory, it doesn't really come through to you. You're also always looking for someone that you can love completely, and he will not betray you
and will not leave you. That's really what you're looking for.
And that the great disappointment is that when you invest all of that, that love that you have you think, Oh, I found this woman or the woman says I found this man, he's the love of my life. And that is it. And we're gonna be there together. And we will love each other, you know, like nobody else. And then if Allah allows them and they get married, and then what do they discover afterwards? They start complaining about each other afterwards. You're not the man, I thought you were, you're not the woman, I thought you were, I wish you were better this way. I wish that you were better that way. So we take in this love that we need for a last panel was
looking for perfection, right? We're looking for perfection. And we're looking for loyalty, someone who's never not going to betray us in any way. Not going to leave us in any way. Not going to hurt us in any way. So when you take that all of that love and give it to another human being or to that dounia and you find that it fails to fulfill it, you'll come back regretting the time and the effort that you invested in all of this. And again looking again, okay, okay, so I should look for another woman. Maybe I'll find it there. Or maybe look for another man. Or maybe you look for the dounia or maybe look for positions. And the problem is you will get this other thing you think that it has the
love that you need, but then what disappoints you so you look for the next thing and then the next thing and then the next thing so you can't find answers and you can find love and also an important component in it is also you can find fuel you want someone to respect someone to honor someone to value someone to be a fader right so to tell you do this and if you don't do it then there will be repercussions and consequences. As the panel law, the one who loves Allah subhana wa tada will find complete satisfaction there
and everything else will love him
and the one who does not have
Find the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala except that he finds the hate of Allah everything else will hate him. Right? And the one who is afraid of Allah actually let me read this.
This is Imran okay Stedman half Allah, a half Allah homie who Kula shake woman them Yaki La, la mean cliche, he says, the one who is afraid of Allah subhanho wa Taala, everything else will be afraid of him.
And the one who's not afraid of Allah Subhana Allah, Allah will make him afraid of everything else.
So that if you fear Allah subhanho wa Taala, if you really have that in your heart,
that means that you're very close to Allah. So Allah will give you this favor,
this honor, this respect, they don't need to talk, they just go into a place and people will like you, you go into a place and people will respect you, or for some other furio, depending.
But he says, if not, if he not afraid of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, He will be afraid of everything and everyone else.
You'd be afraid of the jinn
and obsess over them, you'd be afraid of your boss and employer, he'll take away my job sees different, if you know that Allah is the one who sustains you, and He gives you you're not afraid.
You're not insolent, you're not rude. But at the same time, you're not submissive.
Right? You have your honor with you. So you're not afraid that, oh, he's gonna fire you or he has to force me to do this, how long and if not, you're gonna take more risk away from me, you're not afraid about that. So you have this sense of dignity, if it's going to go away, it's going to go away alone, give me something else. And that itself, that sense that you have when you have it, that can be felt, and alone make other things afraid of you.
And if not, if the fear of Allah is not there again, then the heart has to have fear of something, must have be afraid of something. So you know, you don't have a loss protection, you'll be afraid of this. And you'll be afraid of that, you know, read a report about one of the tablet in
that they were on a journey, right. And then he said the person who was looking at what he's doing and how he worships alone, all of that. And he said that this theory that he waited until everybody fell asleep.
And he went into another another area, right? Like, like there's a bush or have a small forest area. And he went inside and he started to pray. And I stood by the sides just watching him and as he was sitting down for his Roku, and then subdued and all of that, he said a Lion King
by a lion king, and started circling him, going around him going around him going around him. And he said he didn't move. He noticed him. But he said he didn't move. Now to panela. I mean, I don't mean that you're going to lose all sense of fear when you fear a loss of power data. But sometimes, sometimes, you're not going to be afraid of these things as well, Allah Subhana Allah knows. So stop circling, start circling, start circling in that person, he did not finish his select quickly, he did not, you know, conclude anything, just the same rhythm that just the same speed that he maintained from before until he was done.
Right. And then when he finished he spoke to the lion and he said to the lion, Lion, your food is not with me today.
So leave peacefully.
So he said he the lion then wrote a very loud roar, and then he left.
Right. So that is one example of a person you know who feels a loss of power to add. And in a situation like this, you know, probably most of us will say do you see a lion today as you think maybe that is to your advantage? You know, you think you're dead, maybe I don't know if that works for lions or not. But, you know, for this person, you know, not only that he wasn't afraid he was just consistent in his.
So that is an example there.
Of how Allah subhanho wa Taala can make everything else around you respect to you and protect you unafraid of you when you're afraid of them. So the thing that we want to ask ourselves, you know, when it comes to this sheer code, Allah subhanho wa Taala who do I love the most?
And who do I fear the most?
And when I when I feel very anxious,
is it is the first thought in my mind. I want to speak to a last panel to Alan asked him about this and pray to him about it. Or is it that I want to talk to some other human being and talking to other human beings is useful? I'm just talking about what is the first thing that comes to your mind I want to talk to who first right but you want to sometimes complain to someone. So you want to complain who do I want to complain to first Allah this happened to me this happened to me this happened to me. Who do you want to complain to first
another human being more or less kinda with Anna Who do you want to hear your problem first? Only you want when you're when you're unhappy and you want something to make you happy would you seek this happiness from? Is it a lot? Or is it someone else? When you want comfort for your heart where do you go first
you call a friend you go outside you go to the mall or you do this and some of these things you know are not haram and you can see comfort in them but what comes first? So these are the type of questions that we want to ask ourselves you know, is Allah subhana wa tada the ultimate and greatest source of our happiness and also the greatest and ultimate source of our comfort or not, and if not, we want to inshallah try to make him subpanel with Allah.
So Allah subhana wa tada when he descends and when he looks at his creation, he is going to look, how is your heart and shift in it? Are you doing things for me or for someone else? Do you have another Master? Or am I your heart's master.
The second thing that the prophet SAW the law he was in them talks about
his enmity, and that the word that is used in the Hadith is Chef
and Chef now has two meanings and it's good to know these two meanings because then we'll understand what Shanna is.
So Shana, the first meaning of Shana is to be full is for something to be full, loaded.
So last panel data. So for instance, in the Quran, when he talks about Noah's Ark newest ship, he described it as Alfred l mahone. smallfoot, the art that is filled with animals. So shown here, the same route China is full. So the same thing the first meaning is to be full. The second meaning is to be distant.
So Shana, the meaning of it in the root of the word China, China is for it to be or for that thing to be distant. So to be full and to be distant. So it here means that
the heart of this human being who has Shana in it is so cool.
with hatred, right, and resentment and anger, that there is distance between him and that other individual, you know, they stopped talking.
They're not talking anymore, they're not in on good terms. They don't greet each other, we sit down, they don't visit each other, they meet each other on the on, you know, down the road, they just take different paths. That's what it means. But they boycotted each other.
And Allah subhana wa tada in through this hadith tells us that this is the second impediment to his forgiveness. Why? Because when you think about it in Islam, your relationship, there are two types of relationships in Islam.
One with your Creator. And then the second with that created
two types of creating relationships, one relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the next one would that people may Allah subhanaw taala have created and you responsible before Allah subhanho wa Taala about these two types of relationships, you can say I'll take care of one and neglect the other.
Right? That's inconsistent imbalance in some time you say I'll just take care of what Allah wants, forget everything else, you'll start you'll stand worthy of claim before Allah subhanho wa Taala. You have to take care of the rights of human beings upon you and your responsibilities towards them. Other people said or say or think as long as I'm good towards other people, they neglect their relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. See, this is enough.
This is enough. But with Allah Subhana Allah, they don't care as much. Still, that is incomplete.
Significantly incomplete, you need both of them.
And the danger of Shanna
on that enmity, if you can go back and remember the danger of shock that we talked about the Greek in the heart, what is the danger of
the danger of shock, is that it leads to so many other since
they killing other people, and being other people stealing their money, etc, etc. so it opens the door to so many other things. And the person who has Shanna and their heart, he has hatred, he hates this other human being.
And we're talking about not religious hatred, we're going to exclude that if there are legitimate reasons, for you know, for a person to have some feelings against another person for religious reasons. And these are legitimate reasons that's different. So we're going to exclude and not talk about that. But the only thing I want to say about it, is that if we want to boycott someone for religious reasons, you have to think about first. It has
has to be really for the sake of a loss of kind of talent not for personal reasons.
And sometimes I'm envious of someone else. Right?
But I don't have a reason to criticize them then I find a religious reason to criticize him and I make a big deal out of it just to satisfy my personal feelings. So you have to watch for that. If it is for alight needs to be for Allah subhanho wa Taala honestly, and not just in the second thing, you know, not talking to someone else or not, you know, having good relations with them for religious reasons is always subject to benefits and harms. So it's not automatic, this person has done something wrong, boycott them, don't talk to them, it always is subject to benefits and harms. And if there's no benefit in maintaining good relations with that individual over the harm of
boycotting, then you have to maintain those good relations but that's not our topic inshallah. Today, we're talking about personal reasons that motivate that hatred dunya reasons right.
So the danger of Shana that hatred and enmity is the evil that it leads to. If I have Shana I hate this other individual.
And if I hate this other individual, I have to feel better about myself
and avenge whatever I feel had been done to me, I have to do it. As long as I have this hatred in my heart,
and this so he said something bad about me
or did something bad to me. And I have kept this feeling in my heart.
But my heart now is boiling and is overflowing and remember Shanna is to be filled with this anger and resentment and hatred.
So how can I actually release some of this is can't stay inside. It must be released. How do I release some of this? What do you do?
When I send you what do you do?
Know Before that I'm talking about the danger of it for you know what, yeah, you have to turn to Allah that's how you treat it. So we'll come to that
you fight with him? It has there has to be a release. Right? So it's naturally you can't really restrain yourself if Allah Subhana Allah is not part
of your thinking of your heart you can't restrain yourself your tongue has to move starts moving and you will say bad things about this person you have to whether it's true or not you backbite spread rumors if you know secrets about him you'll share those secrets that that you've kept so for so long, but now you know you can because now you have to get even with him. So with tongue now you start getting even with him. Sometimes also I mentioned this before you know you start
it looks like it's turning to Allah subhanho data but really is not turning to Allah. You make dua against them excessive against them, you know, yellow take their soul away your ally, you know, paralyze them, yeah, Allah take all of their money Allah kill their children, right? This is not returning to Allah subhana wa Tada, this is like having a machine gun and just shooting at them. Right? Because you want to just be no, they want them you want them to evaporate. So that's really not turning to Allah. So you verbally, you start engaging in all of this. And then you also you can start fabricating things about them, or attacking their reputation. Things that you're not sure of
you hear about them, okay. Yes, yes, that might be there. That should be true. And you know, I know I knew this and this about it, we were friends.
And you just exaggerate it, because this, this hatred has to be externalized. So verbally, it opens the door for all types of sins of the tongue. As we said, the Rebbe Mima ghosted, lying about them spreading rumors, attacking their reputation, reputations of their families, etc, etc. Just so now imagine how much sin that leads to. Now you add to that also
all the physical sins that it leads to because that verbal sins may not be enough.
Especially if you're still angry, and you find an opportunity to harm that other individuals.
Especially if you're not gonna be caught, you'll try.
So to steal away something from them, to try to ruin their family life, to have them fired. Some other people, you know, go to the extent of killing the other individuals because they just can't handle their anger. The only way that they can reach satisfaction is by killing that individual right? crimes of passion, you know, that's what's 111 way. This person says this about me the only way
especially with the young who can't control their anger, right? It haven't yet learned how to control your
Anger and the benefits of controlling Grammy think that the only way that I can, you know, get my honor back and reputation back is if I damage this other individual. That's how I can get respect. The shaytan is ghost is pushing you. Right and you have all of this enthusiasm and hormones and inexperience and foolishness, there's foolishness and being young, is there's no experience, right? There's no wisdom yet it will be accumulated with age.
So you go and do you do something crazy, and you regret it for the rest of your life. So at least to so many other physical sense, you know, and, you know, murder and killing is at the top of those things.
Now, you
know, it leads of course to sins is one of the things also that it does, it deprives us from a lot of good.
And Islam is a very social religion.
Very social religion has a very social component and aspect to it. You know, just by the fact that you you came to Sadat Mulligan, this will actually show you did it in Jamaica, right together. Imagine now if everybody hates everybody else, this is I can't, you know, see their face, nobody will be standing in Jamaica. So you meet each other in the gym or you meet each other in the Juma it is a car that you take, you know, you don't take you as a cat and you burn it in sacrifice to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah as people used to do before you take you as a cat, and you give it to other people, the other Muslims around you, how'd you do it together, fasting, you do it together, you
commanded that when you meet someone, you say a Salaam Alaikum. And they have to reply back. A lot of your good deeds involve the people who are around you. So if you hate the people who are around you, and you cut your relations with them, specially family, and you are commanded to be good to your parents, to be good to your brethren and sisters,
extended family, if you fight with them, all of those good deeds will be will start,
the salon will stop.
The salon will stop, the smiling will stop all those setups will stop and then will be replaced by sin because you see him and I see him and we both turn our backs to each other. And that is a sin right there. So it blocks the door for so many good and opens the door for so much evil.
Now,
if the heart is so filled, and loaded with hatred, you must find a release another release that we talked about that simple release.
You must find a release by which you will be able to empty the heart like a full tank, right? If you have like this full tank or full container of hatred, find the way right to be able to drain or release that hatred so that the heart can go back to being normal.
And how can you do this. So offering shala some advice, because this is one of the things that all of us go through. We fight with other people. And we can find ways to reconcile with them. And these things stay in the heart and I don't want to talk to them. I don't want to stay away from them. And that even sometimes distances you from the Muslim community altogether. Because you fought with this person with that person, I don't want to see them at all. So you avoid the masjid. Or they're talking this and that about me. And they're condemning me and judging me, I don't want to go to the masjid anymore. So that is a possibility. So things just to keep in mind. First of all, to be hurt
by somebody else by other human beings. Think of it, you know, that it is as inevitable that it's a must to happen. Like being annoyed by cold and hot weather.
You go through winter, and you may not like the cold season.
You go through summer and you may not like the hot season.
But you don't wake up every day fighting with it. And angry about it, do you?
Right? Why? Because you know it has to happen.
So what you do is that you adjust to it.
Right? And then you just ignore you live either with it. Because it has to happen. It doesn't make sense that every day you wake up and you say it's cold again. I'm going to be miserable the rest of the day angry with the snow and angry with the rain and Okay, next day you wake up again. So I'm angry again today can't happen. You just get used to it because it has to happen and it happens every year. The same thing with hurt that we receive from other human beings it's destined a lot destined and
lucky had destined this snow or that heat and it has
happen and no one can escape it.
Did anybody escape being hurt by another human being raise your hand? No, right? It can happen it must happen and if it must happen Why are you so upset about it?
So
a man came to a Muslim with how learning
and he complained to him about the harm that he receiving from other people.
So Muslim said into na PD NASA unity Duke he says if you cannot criticize people, they were going to criticize you.
Way through cola through coke. And if you try to leave them they're not going to leave you alone. Right? So that you fight with them they will fight with you.
So what if I tried to leave them? I'm not going to leave you still right? Why interferer been home you three coke. He says what if I What if I run away from them so they run away from our after you? Okay, so there's no getting you know, no getting away from people. They're either around they're around, you fight they will fight with you to try just to leave them or put some distance they will not leave you or run away from them to run after you call us and ask us what should I do? Call
me back, Rick O'Shea and Milla Shea Jr. He says donate your reputation, to the day of your poverty.
And take fraud, take something from nothing, take something from nothing, then nothing is the dunya. So take something from it. So what he's saying here is that
all of a sudden one or the other is going to attack your reputation, you're not smart enough, you're not intelligent enough, you're not quick enough, you're not this enough, you're not that enough, someone is going to do this. So saying don't hide with people over this it will happen it has to happen.
So have their buckle young, macabre cases, don't fight with them, donate all of this to the day when you are going to need it the day when you are poorest the Day of Judgment.
Because all of this
as we are going to say insha Allah is forgiveness of sense.
And you need it. So he says donate this for the day when you are poorest, and take from this dunya, which is nothing something. And there's something is what the reward of that, and what is happening, the reward of your patients take something from it. So don't repay evil with evil, as we will say don't repay evil with evil. harm has to happen has to happen. So be patient with it and take it with you till the Day of Judgment. Don't fight over this denier, take it with you till the Day of Judgment. And you will find that it will help you then. So don't worry about it happening. Now.
The second thing to remember in Sharla is
that when something bad happens, know that I when it happens to me I contributed to what's happening by my
by my son, I bought it upon myself by my son because nothing bad happens to you, except that a portion of it at least has happened to you and happened to me because of our sin.
So instead of being angry with that individual.
Instead, look at yourself and you say why did I deserve this sin? Remember you we talked before about some of the terrain and so that when something that happened to them, they looked at their own sense, and they say it was because of this sense that this this this and this is happening to me? Sure. Remember, it's the same thing.
Something said something bad about me. This something that to me, you say to yourself, I deserve this because of a sin I did with a last panel with that. And this is Allah reminding me, hey, pay attention to your sins and ask for forgiveness. So you do that. And you may actually thank that individual who is attacking you or what insulted you that he reminded you. Hey, don't forget that you have sins and Allah have not forgiven them yet. So ask for forgiveness. So about
a person came to him and he said in a polar and yokkao freak, he said so and so is speaking ill of you, criticizing you and this and that. So what did he say? called? Who said Well, I didn't know any other is too far. He said give him my sedan and tell him that he had moved me and motivated me to make this too far of a last panel.
So it's not like okay, let me stand here and go and you know, fight with him or I'm gonna say things very bad about him as well. It's not that it said give him Salah. Right. This isn't the my intention is not to fight but my intention is not to fault him for what he has
My intention is to say, bye. What did I deserve this by a sin that I have to ask Allah subhana wa to Allah for forgiveness, so look inwardly rather than outwardly.
Another thing is to know that this is an opportunity and a test from Allah subhana wa tada to see your patience, this angle.
You know, if you hear something that you hate, somebody does something to you, that really upsets you. This is an opportunity for Allah subhanho wa Taala. To see can you be patient or not, to remind you that you need patients to give you the opportunity to develop your patience to give you the opportunity to forgive your sins, and to rise in ranks in the hereafter. So rather than see it as
a mercy or disaster or something to be angry with, see it as an opportunity to fix your ways and to be more patient and closest to a last panel with a hat.
And if you think about it this way, everything that you hate becomes an opportunity. Every every word that you hate becomes an opportunity everything taken away from you becomes an opportunity to be closer to the to Allah subhanahu wa Tada.
And remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala flex of flicks and test the best of people
more constantly,
including the prophets of Allah, Allah him center,
and that you may belong to that category. So why shouldn't you be tested? And think about the severe test that the all the prophets of Allah went through? You say they're saying this about my intelligence will they call the prophets to the low audio sending them insane?
They're saying this about my family where they accuse the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have this and that.
They're saying this about my job? Well, they said this, and that about the prophets of Allah, they're saying this and that about my money. They looked at the prophets of Allah and said, What do you have? And what do you own, you're not a great one among us. They said all of these things about them, they Why should I end up exempt and protected from it. So when you go through this type of test, when you hear something that you dislike, just remember the example of the prophets of Allah, and how Allah tested them, just go back to it and think about it and say, maybe I ask Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah to be among that crowd that is tested, and that is patient and that Allah blesses to
that. So don't be angry with it, rather than look at what you can do to change and be better. And as then Allah subhanho wa Taala, for that opportunity for that wisdom, you know that you can take this and become a better person.
Now, something that is important to keep in mind is that patience, and forgiveness is always better than anger and punishment.
Patience and forgiveness is always better than anger and punishment.
He said that the person who's angry, right, and has, you know, decided to punish or punished, can't sleep well at night. And he can, he can, if you go back to the time when you really angry upset because of something somebody said to you.
Right? And if you keep this anger, right, and you're not trying to modify it and chase it away with remembering a lot of the things that we talked about, and it's just playing and playing that that thing that he said is playing and playing and playing in your head, the things that they did playing and playing like a movie in your head.
You can't sleep
at night, you're so angry, you're so frustrated, you're so agitated. You're planning your revenge, and what is going to happen and how are you going to feel satisfied?
And somehow, like even when you take your revenge on that person, what happens is that that's not the conclusion of it.
Because what are we what are what happens? No, no, you are afraid of what he will retaliate with.
And most of us are not just when we retaliate, Danny when I want to punish somebody took something from you or said something to me, when we want to punish. Allah says what deserves he didn't say to me, you know, if you want to punish you punish equally. We don't do that because of our anger. We overdo it as sin and a half,
two times three times because also what what that is the you know, evidence that I'm capable and strong. Slap me one slap you twice, right? That's how I'm going to show you that I'm better and stronger. You insult me and assault you and your family and your parents and everybody till you know that you can trace.
So we're not, you know, just so what happens is that you receive something hurtful, you reply with something that is even more hurtful than the first thing and it becomes a complaint.
And you become afraid. It's escalates, keeps escalating, escalating, escalating, right? And once you do something you're afraid what is going to do to me now? How is he going to reply now? What is he gonna take away from me now.
So you're always on this, you know, bed of phones, right? You cannot really sleep, you know, you're looking, you know, you know, turning, turning left and right, you see behind me and do something to me, that's that's the nature of revenge.
On the other hand, the nature of forgiveness.
and patience, is that you let go.
That's it.
You don't have to worry about
this person, right? I forgiven you.
So he's not going to try to come back and hurt you again, he already had hurt you.
Not going to take my rice from you, I forgiven you, or I'm going to be patient with you.
And especially if your heart is connected to a loss of data, and you remember the things that we talked about, this is from Allah, and it has to happen. This is because of sin, you ask a lot for us to default. This is an opportunity for patients, this brings you closer to Allah, this is actually could be a favor from Allah, like the test that the prophets of Allah used to receive. Now you're receiving that test. And now you'll really understand that,
that test that ordeal, and you'll feel better about it. And you will sleep soundly not afraid of retaliation, because that person is not going to retaliate.
Not afraid of anything, but instead Your heart is comfortable.
And a degree that is higher than this.
Higher than just forgiveness and patience is to repay a person with kindness, even when he
wronged you, even when he insults you, to repay him with kindness. And that is the ultimate.
So it's reported that he said Maria Malley, de Sena said, in an external element in a leak in the multicam, walkathon, Bill Morrow, will occasionally seen a lemon as a link.
He says, This
is not for you to be kind to the person who was kind to you just repaying kindness, son is for you to be kind to the person who was harsh with you. Who had wronged you or insulted you. That's what it is. That's the highest level of email.
Because if I'm nice to the person who was nice to me, so what's the big deal about that? Because he was nice to me.
And I want him to stay nice to me. And I receive benefit from that.
I receive benefit from that. So what time is
10? Okay, so why should I, you know, not be nice to you, if you're nice to me, that's natural, you know, human reaction, but to actually be nice to a person, even when they are harsh and evil and wicked with you. That is what it is.
And here's a story to learn a lot from
Christina. He said Kennedy gentlemen, and Mr. Daddy
is the son of a casino naughty Bobby thought if so he's he's the son of the grandson of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, so he was leaving the masjid.
So a man met him for certbot He insulted him. So I met him outside of the masjid. And he insulted him.
So the people around the servants of the slaves and the people around wanted to go and punish him because he was saying these things to our evening.
So he said what he said Marlon Alvarado. He said, you know, leave this man.
Leave him alone. So he drew nearer to him, and he said, must mercy Tehran kameena. Marina
said masucci, Ron kameena. Marina, he says the things that have been concealed from our own sins and mistakes is more than what you know, and what you said.
So this is the first thing that he told him. Then he said, alcohol
says, Do you need anything that we can help you with?
So the person was was shy, you know, I insulted him. Then he comes to me, and he says, Don't hurt them and don't punish him. Then he said, you know, the thing that you know about me and that you said, my sins are a lot more than what you said, in fact, then he said, Can I help you with anything, any need that you have, I can help you with? So the person says, you know, what do what do you feel extremely embarrassed.
So he didn't say anything.
So he took, you know, a piece of clothing that was on him, and he gave it to him, and he said to the people around give me a $1,000 home, and he gave it to him. And he said, Go, so the person then later whenever he would see him, he said, I testify you from the children of the Prophet, so
Hello, Allison
seimitsu acting this way, repay the person's, you know, wrongful act wrongful deed and saying, with kindness, that's how you transform a human being. That's how you change. That's what it is. And that of course requires a level of wisdom and a level of emotion but your idea there is not I want to destroy him, I want to punish him. You know, it's not that his idea is I want to save him. I want to save them.
And the advantage of this brothers and sisters Yeah, is that you start creating enemies and you create friends in while we have Nabi Sofia, and all the Allahu anhu. And he was known for this, even from the time of his Jamia, he says I would sit with a man.
And I know that he hates me.
And I asked him about me, and he tells me all the bad things about me, he's very honest, he tells me all these bad things. And I'm very generous and kind with him. And he insults and I'm very generous, generous and kind kind with him. And this is not being submitted, by the way, this is being very generous. And you're telling me a person, I know that these three are saying these things about me, but it doesn't affect you to say these things, I knew that you were better than this, and inshallah, if you need anything, I will help you with it, that kind of that kind of. So he says, he continues to insult and I continue to be generous and kind, until he changes and is transformed, and he
becomes my friend. But yet, he becomes my friend. And if I asked him for help, he comes in help me. And if I asked him to for sacrifice, he will sacrifice for my sake.
So
this is this is how it's to be done. When you actually encounter
and receive any, any bad deed with
us stop the evil of the shaper. You stop it in your heart to begin with, you're not angry anymore. And you change that person almost immediately.
Because like that person when you when you're when you're like evil and wicked, and when you want to
anger someone,
the shaitaan is with him back. But when you stop and think about it, and bring Allah subhana wa Taala into you're dealing with that other person that will shakedowns away, and that person is left alone. And he's embarrassed that he said, I can't continue insulting this person, why would I?
Now
another thing also to remember
is and this is the final station, or the highest station, as a no claim says and this station is that if a person is so close to Allah Subhana, WA Tada. He doesn't want his heart to be distracted by,
you know, anything related to human beings. So he doesn't want his heart to think about what this person said to me and what this person did did to me or did not do to me or did not say to him, his heart is so absorbed in the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the fear of a lot in the worship of Allah, that these things don't matter to him. Let them say what they say love them do whatever they do, my heart is with Allah with these human beings. So it doesn't pay attention to it. You know, like, think of an ant, right? Think of an ant. And you're sitting with someone that you really love you haven't seen for a long time and an ad comes and invites you.
You're going to spend your time fighting with this and
imagining that you're not going to crush it, not gonna crush it. You're going to spend your time fighting with this. And why did you do it and screaming at you screaming out there? What about the person you haven't seen for so long? It just go away. In fact, you're feeling very generous, you will not do anything to them just go away in peace, Nickelback talk in them that's that's what he's talking about. He doesn't want his heart to be distracted, consumed corrupted by anything else. He wants only to be with a last panel Dallas, who doesn't care, say whatever you want to say, Do whatever you wanted. That's the highest station. And one thing last thing also to say is that if
this person is a family member, the person that you're going to decide now you're going to be angry with so angry that you're going to stop talking to or he's a friend. If you truly loved them, you wouldn't give them give up their friendship. So isn't. If he was truly a friend, if he's truly a brother, if he's truly a sister, if it's truly a family member that you love, you will not give up their friendship so easily. You're not sacrificing so easily over something really, ultimately insignificant, but he tried to work on it and recover that friendship. And there are two things from a short period of time Allah before he insha Allah. The first one he said most of you who would see
cabela in Allah Subhanallah horas. Allah is the one who's honest in the Brotherhood of his brother will accept his excuses. So notice if you're honest about being a brother to this, so and so. You will accept his excuses. Compliment his shortcomings
And forgive his mistakes.
Because if you honest, but if you don't accept excuses, and you to forgive mistakes, and you don't compliment, whatever is missing and your brother and your sister, then the Brotherhood really is not honest, and it's not true, and it's not complete. That's not brotherhood.
And the last thing, inshallah will say, and this is an extended one, for my Shafi, but it's, it's really good. It's really good, and it's long.
And he said, He's speaking to Yunus ignore the data. And he says Dr. Yunus will just translate in sha Allah so that we don't take too much time. It says, if something bad reaches you about a friend of yours, he said, or did something that that you hate. He says, Don't rush
and become his enemy and cut relations with him. Because you will be like someone who had chased the certainty of friendship and brotherhood, with the doubt of whatever has been reported to you that whatever has been reported to you, is doubtful. You don't know if it's true or not. So it says, but what you know for certainty is that he is your friend,
that he is your family member that you know, for certain. See, if you rush rush to judgment without ascertaining and knowing what is true, and what is not, you'll be chasing away certainty with doubt. And noise person does that. But he says, but go and meet him. There is if you can treat it on the inside by yourself.
Go talk to him. So this is what he says go talk to him. And he said and say to him, I heard about you this and that, but never named to him. The person who told you these things about him, was that unto suddenly, no one will ever Don't tell him who said these things.
Because they will hate him forever. So that's not the purpose. You just want to know. Is it true or not? So talk to him and he say, Listen, this has been told to me about you.
What do you say, has said if he denied it, say and Tosca, whoever it is, if he denies it, you say you're more honest, and more righteous, and believe him and add nothing to this. don't pursue it anymore. If he denies it, he believed them. When I thought of her be there like if he confesses that he had said this, but you see that he has an excuse accepted from him.
And if you don't see that he has an excuse.
Then ask him, why did you say this? And if he offers unexcused, then accepted from him. And if you cannot find any excuse on your own, and after talking to him, you keep searching and searching and you find no excuse at all. then confirm it as a sin, then you have an option. You either punish him for that sin a sin that is like a punishment that is equal to it. Or if you wish you forgive him. And forgiveness is closest to taqwa and closest to being generous. Because Allah subhana wa tada says, What is
the reward of a sin is something equal to it. But from an author was lava drew Allah, the One who forgives
and seeks reconciliation, then his reward is with a last panel with data. So he says this is a lot better than
punishing him. So but if you're sick, but if your self is pushing yourself pushing you to punish him, then think about all the good things that he has done to you before and count them. Right? count all the good things that he has done to you before. And then in return for this strong thing that he has done. Do something good for him. And don't forget about all the good things that he has done to you before all the good times that you had before. Because there is injustice. There is pure injustice. And then he says ultimately, yeah, you will see that Canada so do you want to shoot a cabbie? For inoty Hadassah de salud subwoofer to sell. He says, if you had a friend, a true friend,
hold on to him. It is very difficult to find a friend and very easy to lose.
Very easy to lose any human being. The friendship that can play a company of any human being is very easy to lose it very difficult to gain somebody's trust, it takes years to do that. So he's saying be just and be generous and be forgiving.
So this is what we want to chase with Neela as well, especially that as we come closer to the night, or the middle of Shabbat and Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to look at our hearts and see is their shape or Shanna in us. So you want to cleanse our hearts from it. So that we don't hate another Muslim by unjustly, especially over matters related to this dunya. Rather, you empty the heart of its hatred, and you talk to them and you reconcile with them. And you also look at the shotgun if there's anything in it, seek a loss protection from it and stop it and make a last panel with Anna, the master of your heart.
A lot of anime we asked you to make us of those whose hearts are cleanse for cleanse from ship and cleanse from Shana your lawmakers of those that when you look at their hearts, you are pleased with them and you forgive us all of our sins, who clearly have suffered a lot. Do you want to come to panic alarm over handing a shadow