Waleed Basyouni – Friday Sermon – How To Be A Happy Husband 24
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Sure I do everything, you know, on providing me I never say no to him
is that I think I did everything. The same thing, man oh, sorry. Today I just want to focus on one thing, which is that the hobby house, that's my focus of the hobby. So first, you need to know how the men think how your husband think of you, what is really his feelings? What's the thing that he is thinking about? And that we start with number one point and I choose number one, because it's really the top of my list above
my sister, my dear wife, your husband, desires respect. That's number one is men when they were asked
to be loved to be respected. Obviously, the answer was no hesitation to be respected.
Respect is number one thing for them. And the more you give your husband is stuck, the more he gives you. The more you learn, the more you disrespect him, the more
you're stuck into something very essential into the relationship. Women want to know that husbands love,
you know, that has been wanting to know that their wives respect, they respect you and his wife respect is the second respect his thoughts, respect, his
wishes, and his desires and so forth.
Muslim women understand, must understand the value of respect for men, specially Muslim men, for them reflect the something that they were raised from the beginning, that to be raising the age, knowing the role of the man who's the head of the household, he feels that culture have so much respect, says the last thing he wants when you get to know to find someone disrespecting, or not giving him the proper stability, and margin. You can imagine how frustrating this would be for a man who, who basically tried his best to do everything for his family than when he goes back home. But he's not respected at home.
Respecting the husband, respecting your husband
is appeared in several ways in the way you talk to your husband.
Especially if you talk to him in private, all kinds of language to use. However, the expression that you use is expression of show disrespect or respect. Especially if you talk to him in front of his family members. When you talk to him in front of his children. When you talk to him in front of the or basically in public. How do you address? How do you respond to this? Let's say you're given almost to the kids, how would you react to this, if he says something and you say the opposite, you scream at him in front of the kids, that just right there show there's no smoke, there is no response. And that's a very, very hard to anymore. Even if he doesn't show it's inside this off.
It's just looked at marital relationship like this, it seems impossible. So immediately by doing one of these acts of disrespect, you deposit to the negative side, just one point,
and two points and three points and so forth, restrict his feelings, respect his family, don't ever disrespect his family members, his parents and siblings respect his work.
And I respect the time that he puts the effort that he puts in his work, respect his own personal rules that should not be broken, it should be honored it should be if you disagree with it, you can communicate that in a in a respectful manner, with your
superior attention to the words that you use when you speak to him. Your intention and most of the time might be very pure. You don't intend any evil or disrespect. But maybe the way you said the words that you use the time that you have chosen, the place that you have said, maybe chose a time of Christmas.
Number two,
your husband desire right?
And the so many men, this is a big deal for so many men, that to feel that I'm married to someone who's loyal to me. And it goes hand to hand with respect.
That is not that marriage quicker than the idea that your spouse is not what the idea that he or she is not going to stick by me all my life. I'm not talking about infidelity. I'm not talking about Xena or the villa Nana. I'm talking about I know that this my wife won't be beside me if it was my job. She will be standing beside me if I said let's move tomorrow. She will say yes if I said basically, I have to do this love to move to that place. I'm making this decision. You are unpacking my job and I'm stepping business under
No, she's going to stand beside me, she's not going to be the first one to turn her back to me. She's not the first one to let me down.
The more I feel as a husband that this is my wife like that if I get sick, she will be next to all children and keep me young.
And that's a very essential thing to make the marriage successful versus to make the marriage successful.
Number three,
husbands believe will not need your approval and emotional support.
Believe it or not so many men desperate for that. They need that emotional support, showing your appreciation, gratitude to every effort that he puts encouraging him by your nice words, complimenting him deeply and often.
That says amazing touch, magical touch to your husband's let him know how much you appreciate the little and the big things that he does for you the rural and the big things he does for you the more you are able to do that you the more you show your body Do you know what even from sent and I know husband you know what somebody said the definition of husband is that the husband is the one to take trash outside the house and he makes you feel like you've been taking care of the house.
You know even this little things maybe is insignificant. But see thank you it means a lot for me to keep me the warm water in the corner. And not to let me gotta put it out. Thank you for that. Just that little things Gleeks a magical impact on them.
Also, number four,
let's get let's get it right out. Because no matter how denying it, I have to deal with it. Which is something very essential to men. It is one of the top ways of knowing that this is a good relationship, which is the intimacy between the husband and wife
are physically driven versus woman emotionally driven into the sexual relationship
men for them this is an essential reaction for productions. That's That's what occurs racing with something natural
that for them for so many men, they express it they know that marital of successful marital relationship, happy marriage relationship, it means a good sexual relationship between the husband and wife.
But if he always lived this excuse, or honey, it's the kids around
oh, let's keep it for the weekend.
You know I am not in the mood
I'm tired
I'm this I understand that but I'm saying it became so often that this what would you only think about that and the whole world are people die everywhere and people are like, you know, this happening?
The Earth springs and you want to have to intimate with Him I have no time. You know
he there's so much going on in the life and that's what you're thinking about. I know it is so hard for women to to grab this point. And the reason for this because there's so many sisters one in general, they look at this relationship situation in a completely different angle than me.
And sometimes they think of men. Basically, they just
decided to work driven action it is one of the clear way of non to feel connected to be physically combat connected, not emotionally connected. Women it will be very satisfied for them if they are emotionally connected. For men, no matter how emotionally connected they are. If you're not physically connected, there's still a huge gap.
That's why it is so important for for you to understand that this is something essential for your relationship. When a person speaks about this particular issue. Use 10 different words to describe the intimacy that take place between men and women are husband and wife 10 different words and all of them are implies that because I was there in the shower.
He didn't use explicit words, but through different words why to show the importance the center in the marital relationships.
Happy intimate life, equal happiness.
Just make him satisfy his need in this area. You will see the big smiles from the Sunbelt to sundown
every day
that's that's that's natural. And this is an area that should be thing no matter how old you guys grow
some
I want to go in the middle age crisis