Friday Sermon – How To Be A Happy Husband 14

Waleed Basyouni

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We want to stay in we want to stay Do you want to stop?

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When I would have been lying sodium fusina So you

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will

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never wash

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wash it on the Mohammed

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Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad, Muhammad

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Ali Ibrahim, Mohammed Al Majid.

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All praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon a prophet, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and all of his followers until the day after, I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship and 100 salatu salam, his last and final messenger.

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It's been said that there is a man

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walk walking to the beach of Galveston,

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a husband walking home with that beach, and the night and he found that magic lamp. We arrived here to know Jimmy comes out of it.

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The genie came out and he said to him, give me your wishes. You have one wish and our granted to you.

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So he said to him, My wish that I always would love to go to the Bahamas. But I'm scared to fly.

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So I want you to build me a bridge over from Galveston to the Bahamas. On a one this highway. And I can drive straight all the way to the Bahamas that comes up.

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During he said that's too long. I've been locked up in this land for a very long time. I have a lot of things to catch up with. No to something easier than that doesn't take that much effort and that much time to be accomplished. Then he simply told him

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okay, I have another one.

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I'm not a happy husband.

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I don't know how to make my wife happy.

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And it is getting rough between me and her. So I want you to teach me the secrets behind a happy wife. Then the Jimmy told him

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it will. Can you tell me sir, how many lanes you want that bridge to be?

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easier tasks?

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This seems exactly joke can be said about a wife walking in the beach of Dallas. Who saw that didn't he and told him the same question.

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I mean, we say this and we laugh at this as husband. And the same thing they can say and the same thing they can complain

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about that they cannot understand us. As much as we sometimes complain that we cannot understand that.

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Allah Subhana Allah told us in the Quran in surah, Tarun one,

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John,

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one

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John.

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Forsaken, as you are telling me to school knew

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what

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Allah subhanaw taala said among those that lost his sight, I'm Hala RFCOMM in unphysical as well, that you have created for you,

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mates from among yourselves, that you may drill and tranquillity with.

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And he has put love and mercy between your hearts rarely in that of science for those who reflect.

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So this relationship between husband and wife it should be based on happy life.

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And for us, we are very familiar that women all speak about their feelings. They express their feelings very well sometimes, but men are not very good at expressing the feelings. Men are not often speak about how they feel what they want. But if this is the case, don't ever think for a moment, especially my sisters, that men don't have feelings.

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Or we don't have as men feelings men go through several different types of feelings to start the day at the end of the day. Ups and downs range of emotions from the start of the day until the end of the day. It

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It's great that ye pays no attention to her husband's feelings. And to be sensitive to it. It became very great on the relationships, when the wife should just ignore what your husband's feelings are, and what is going through.

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We are we usually speak about the wife, the rights of the wife, and how can you make your wife happy, and how cool to have to have a happy wife, which is I think it's well needed in our community. But today by speak is not the speech is not about this subject. It is about the other side of the court. Today, my talk is about how to have a happy husband, how to make your husband happy person at all.

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And I believe it is very essential for the wife to think about this, as often as she mentioned, think about it as well, about the

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sister Have you ever wish that you could read your husband's mind, in Western culture was so familiar, that husband and wife talk to each other explicitly with each other's, you know, feelings as they sit down to talk about, but from my experience in dealing with so many cases, I can tell you not only among Muslim, that there is a high percentage and rate among Muslim than others, that so many of Muslims family, they don't have that privilege of Muslims husband, so many of them, who don't sit down and express freely what they believe how they fit. And I'm not saying this is why if this is wrong, if this is the reality, that's what it is. And we need to deal with it, we need to do

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we can encourage as many as much as we can, to speak out and to try to share the feelings, the culture will dominate in so many cases. However, it is. So as I said, common to see submissive men, they

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they have tight when it comes to expressing their emotions, especially towards the wife, especially towards the right end to talk openly with them about.

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You know, it's always hard to express your thoughts, but they always think it's more hard, it's harder to express even your feelings. So it became a really a challenge task in front of us as men, to express our feelings. So today, I would like to give my sister's

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an axis to our mind as husbands are about to see how we think, what we think of them when we think of her. Because I believe men and woman one of the secrets of successful married to realize that we are two different species, if you want to say that, in a certain sense, we think in a different way we we sync together very well, we are very different than the way we see things. And we handle things. And we analyze things. And without realizing this fact became problematic in the marriage and the marital relationships, it became available, it can even break down this marriage quick and make it to football in no time and no time. Today, I would like to give you an access to so many

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men's hearts and minds, to know what we think about

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how we think about our spouse or wife. What exactly we want some of the things that you might not be able to hear directly from your husband. There isn't a person who receives all his complaint, all yours. Given bad things not always complained that always I see the good and bad from that merge solution. But I didn't live in my community, I have up to see him to allow you to see how so many men things. And then suddenly every man thinks that way. But believe it or not these 10 points that I'm going to share with you today. One of them have to have it's not all of them. It's already in your husband's mind. It's already in your husband or wife or their future husband mine. So be

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careful about today, I want you to know that there is no man unless he wants to have a happy note. None of us want to live a miserable life. Every married person, every married man don't want to go back home to unhappy relationships. We all want to live with ease, no difficulty, no problem that is normal ever wish to live in a difficult life or situation like this. We're always looking for that happy marital relationship. There's no doubt about that. There's no doubt about that. But also, I wanted to mention that it is very essential for you to think about to think about how your husband's feelings about you. Because it's not about how you feel about him. It's about how he feels about you

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how He sees things. How he sees things because that's that's the key

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