Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #14

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AI: Summary © The transcript describes a video of a scene where a man is in a gathering of people and shakes hands. The speakers discuss various topics related to the culture of the United States, including hugging and kissing people, respect for culture, and history of injuries. They also mention various examples of behavior and language used, including weak and strong hugging, weak and strong kissing, and sadly sadly sad words. The segment emphasizes the importance of protecting Muslims during conflict and protecting the safety of their Islam.
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One more, we will click here to revive what was

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that tend to be some of them said the young greed, the old the passer by should read the one was setting. And the small group of people should read the large one. And another narration and the one who's writing should read the one who is walking. And we mentioned so many of the rules in relation to Hardy. And

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one of the things that they think the last point that we mentioned is if you enter a gathering of people, there is like a bunch of people, do you shake hands with every one of them? And we mentioned that there is two opinions among scholars. Some said no. And there is no proof that individual a very seldom ever or his companion used to shake hands with everyone in the gathering. They will say salamati tomato pie like like this brother, for example, will shake hands with everybody

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is that from the center? We don't know the process I'm used to that. He hadn't thought about two people meet each other they

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shake hands with each other.

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But there is nothing to prevent also this from happening as shala banja Rahim Allah said that there is a general rules were in the syllabus, or general very virtue will be so solemn said anytime you shake your hand shake your Muslim Brothers hand, you since fall from your record the same way that dry leaves fall from the tree.

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We said also that there is difference between shaking hands and repeating the salon. So if I shake hands, let's say the gathering has 10 people and I'm going to shake everyone's hand. All the scholars said you don't say Santa Monica lasagna? lasagna? lasagna? You said one time but you can shake the hands of each and every one as the Kratos salon This is awesome. Because it gives them would you come approach but to repeat the salon? not correct. Also we said that,

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like shirtless stand between me and Sam and many others, said nslm Alma Safa by the selectmen beta select that the aroma said that shaking hands with people of Uppsala as part of the ritual or part of the practice after finishing those a lot, that sort of boredom are sort of slaughter over people shake hands with each other. And remember

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innovations of religion let me

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know because I'm never did that. Any one of his companions are the Allahumma. Well avant, unless two people didn't see each other for a long time. Somebody was traveling, somebody you haven't seen for a while. That is, in a special occasion. That's why you say oh, I haven't seen you for a while. shuffling, even traveling or what is we've been handed metrologist came and so forth.

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Chairman Basma him allows us if somebody extended his hand to shake your hand, and so coke bottle jumaane.

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You're in Juma, listening to the hook, and somebody reached out to some article, what should you do? China's Ambassador Kamala said, You shake his hand, you can give him your hand, but you're not allowed to talk to him. Just remain silent.

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Also, we talked a lot about the issue of entering the house when there is nobody in the house. And we explain that why I don't believe it is from the salon to sister America. If the house is empty because the house you know, unless you meant by a Salam aleikum, WA Salaam Alena la vida de Sala, hey, you mean the supplication that Allah protect us

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from the evilness of any evil in this house or this place, but the Salaam is a breeding between two. We also talked about the issue of hugging and kissing. And we talked about this that this is part of the culture. But you make sure that you respect that culture because certain culture, kissing is not something acceptable. And it can be a problematic especially you

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The different culture, okay? Like, and I give you example, of a real case, where a person who's an older man saw a child in the restaurant,

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okay. And as part of where he came from, you know, kissing the children, and hugging them is something not even a stranger. So actually, this man wasn't a big, big trouble with the family of boy, because so soon an adult kissing your kid,

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you know, that's a, just an American culture, not something acceptable. And I'm aware of a couple of cases, at least, the Nate in the national scene, and one of them actually in trial,

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claiming the person claiming the T used to kiss and hug as part of the culture while somebody accused him of sexual harassment.

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So, you will see that you have to respect that culture.

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And then we talked about the issue of if someone came into the gathering, am I allowed to stand up to give that person set up?

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We said before, as long as you don't, as long as the person who coming in don't want people to stand up for him out of, you know, like the kings and the dictators and honoring him. And, you know, that's not a lot.

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It is not. And many of them said, What is forbidden? And you'd be surprised when we have the fullness have

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any when you enter, you said that people don't set people stand up and keep standing while you're sitting. If you haven't added any of that said, How did that forbade standing for the personal Enter to enter? When somebody enter and serve and people standing around him like the king how or president people cannot sit just standing next to him and that's, that's in Islam? not correct. Somebody let's say has a business or a manager want the average employee to stand up while he's sitting? talking to them? That's a form of arrogance.

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And there is plenty of stories from the setup for him a lot. They used to be very careful about this issue.

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so So remember, I said this three situation.

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You said and people stand for you. That's

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okay. And

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basically, you said sorry, you stand up, because the person coming in or coming out,

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shuffle a stamp like judge when he comes to the court. Everybody stand up, sit down, right. Some teachers I remember in the old days, they teach in school when the teacher comes everybody stand up for the teacher. Then you said now

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now you're lucky if they put their feet down from the this okay?

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He will show

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an image of

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me, Gina kadel, Miami Manya Kona Masuda stand up for the teacher you know, out of respect. So let's say if a person

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you know enter like a respected person so you stand up for that respected figure possible assemble him on to Apple while he had him karaites dislike

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it's not Columbus dislike a president comes president states out of a stand up you know like our for example it says somebody very honorable respectful came and you stand up for your older brother. Okay, your father came and you stand up for him

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out of honor than him a loss of dislike is not the end the Sahaba the llama and home can budaya una sala de Maya and a mono Rahu that the prophets of solemn companion did not use to stand up for the process alone he enter and nothing can be better than Mohammed Salah no king no person, no father no older nothing. Okay can be better than Mohammed. And they said he didn't do that because it didn't like that he disliked them. It's not because how long because they know that he doesn't like that dislike

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and the third situation that you stand up for the person who entering to work

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Come the person, shake his hands. Anybody that somebody came while we got came to give me solemn stand up and give him Santa. Okay. And or to help him or to offer him my place. This is permissible and to be so solemn when his daughter Fatima used to enter Kenya boom you send them the house back and you will stand up, shake your hand and welcome her to sit in his place. And she will do the same for him solo Baba Ali Ali, son

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also to help like when somebody came and he was bleeding, it's called como LRC de mapa como de de como, como la, go help the leader of unsought when he came and he was a sign of demand when he was any enter

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also, there is some little incident like this. So that type of standing it is permissible.

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followed for bida. t and Hemsley.

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And Mansoor came one day, okay

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to his palace elements or has a palace at Castle

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a palace of gold. There's a lot of gold in this palace. So if you hear about kings today and presidents and

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Manhattan apartment has gold toilets and faucets and stuff like that, you know, it's not something new. So also

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an Asian mom so lived at what

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170 hijiri. What year his injuries this year

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1441 1440. We talked about a time of 174.

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How far this history, okay? More than 1300 years ago,

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someone saw had this palace called the Palace of gold when he entered the court of his palace. Carmen naskila. For one, everybody stood up except for Obama.

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He became so angry at him and he said Why didn't you stand up when I came in? California's around 11 Danny West elk. Lima rabita Derek Walker Kerry hausarbeit chiamato to Manasa Baba Carmen superba who acaba had. He said, I didn't like I didn't do that. Because I was thinking about the Day of Judgment. If I asked you and asked me why did we do that? Why did you want people to stand up? And Rasulullah saw them which is your grandfather

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did not like people to stand up for him.

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Okay, so he was in tears and he brought him near to him to sit next to him and he gave him whatever request he had,

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from him rocking about

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I wish that this kind of story and this kind of etiquette will be taught to the grandson of Hassan today

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who are kings of Morocco's and Jordan and this kind of attitude of military and you know, and other than them as well other kings and so on around the world.

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But in Morocco specifically, they have habits of the king is just unbelievable that they go made complete record for the king when he comes to Jude as well they go down before the ground, the prostration format for the king, which is things let's not you know from the practice of Mohammed Salah bustle ability can come on to Akiba he did not like when he walks or salon that somebody will walk behind. People either walk on the sides or in front of him. But behind him No, I'm joking. So nobody will sell

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I don't know. Yeah, he advises him or not.

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I don't

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Now the next one earlier

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at the mobile and you send him home.

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Are you

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at me Oh

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Oh Ahmed will be happy adaminaby parlin Allah be pleased with him reported that the prophets of Salaam said

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when a group of people pass by it is sufficient of one of them extends the greetings to the on their behalf.

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And it's efficient f1 returns the greeting on behalf of the room.

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So you need to have everybody said while it was Rama, Rama, Rama and he didn't have to everybody said Santa Monica. So if we enter as a group and one of us at Santa Monica, it's enough. And if we enter two people, and one of them said well, it was salam wa Taala is what enough and sufficient as well.

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This Hadith in Mali for him Allah said as reported by Ahmed will be happy

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share the Mission Impossible a mama said that I looked in the Muslim Baba and I couldn't find it the Muslim environment okay.

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He said also they have reported it and it doesn't it may happen.

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But it had it also inserting a veto node which is any more appropriate to refer to overall variable. Right.

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But in this Hadith, there is a man by the name of side have been hard because i and this man is a weak Narrator As mojari What

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was he said? But the Hadith itself The meaning is correct. The meaning is agreed upon. But as a statement from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam No.

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Even some random like a chef Albania Rahim, Oba in his book. And while he tried very hard to say that this is hasn't acceptable, because of other variations to back it up. But I'll tell you the truth that all these durations that are the other duration that shall be

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is not enough, because the whole entire body goes around the door and smoke Smith say even harder, and say even harder. Jose, as you heard me saying is a weak rate. Not only that, but also that Abdullah

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did not hear from obey the law. You're off here. And that means there is a department headed there is also a missing link because there's two did not meet each other did not hear from each other. That's why I don't believe that even within racial

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abroad to back this generation up is not an authentic generation from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam but the meaning is agreed upon yes

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yeah, all of the kuhlmann are devoted to Robert

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Why don't

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we have like two of us or three of us? We came to a gathering

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whatever gather and one of us at Santa Monica rose to need to say Sonoma tonawanda

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So for all of them agree on the meaning. If we coming as three of us and one of us said sir Mr. Eco, I don't need to say

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it became sufficient. And if one of the gathering said

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there is no need for the rest of say, body ceramah by overlocker

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and Gemma to up

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some method, we say three and up.

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But this the correct one is two and that's why if to pray together we call it Gemma.

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As long as there is Gemma. That's why we say Salatu Juma. The minimum is two because that's what Salah Gemma goes with somebody gives you a whole bunch of money giving the other

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person okay, but

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hadn't had that before I can also number one,

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it shows you that if one person gives a lump is sufficient one person reply it will be sufficient for the rest. But what if everyone say what

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everyone would say a Solomonic hero Barak? Because he said it takes 30 Hashanah. 20 Hassan

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But is it it is sufficient. Okay.

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Abdullah Abdullah Rahim Allah the Quran, Allah, Allah, Allah.

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Allah, Allah Allah.

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Allah said that some of the scholars in Iran used to say, if I say let's say that is 10 people here I said as salaam alaikum warahmatullah that groan if you remember we said a Samson

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watch a Salaam initiating action and applying as what must so those color said, If I say Sarah Marie come to 10 people, that means replying to his watch upon each and every one of them.

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They, and also

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they said that this is also the opinion that we use, which is a student of honey for him. Oh, wow. Tada.

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One of the evidence that is kind of strange. The user had eaten Bihari. That didn't to be sauce on them said that add them came to the gather of angels.

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And Adam said a Solomonic for Morocco alikum Salam

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rahmatullah wa barakato. Kala howdy here to Kota here to our daddy can embed the Hadith we studied this before. We mentioned it before that Adam gives ceram to the angels and the angels reply. So those scholars said since the angels all of them reply, all the groups should reply.

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If it weren't

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obvious, that's not a proof.

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Can anybody tell me why is not approved?

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It's a very weird it's a weird isn't a good word is very strange to use this as an evidence anybody can tell me why

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Angel committed to do so, have a lot of them that we should do that as well.

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Yeah, we cannot make the US on what the angels do. And we said we do the same and

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the rules that apply to angels do not apply to us number one, number two,

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he might say is not the angels that the argument is

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and then applied this is a rule remember this

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Sherman tabula Anna Lisa savonlinna

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initially belong to a profit on messenger ordinations before us do not did not apply to us.

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This route yeah and if there is certain legislation has to do with Moosa, Raisa Suleiman use anyone before Mohammed Susana, we cannot say, oh, because you said that this, I'm allowed to do that. Because Moosa did this, I'm allowed to do that now. Because the last one kind of said, when you call in Jana,

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ah, shall attend woman had for each and every one. We have made their own Sharia their own set of rules. So you cannot apply the rules to our rules. So the rules of Adam alayhis salam and what Allah legislate for Adam cannot apply to us, like the marriage of Adam.

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It doesn't apply to us. The Marriage of the children of Adam does not apply to him with Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam anyway. So that's why we said it's wrong. Also more than that, who said that in melodica when they said

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they said it because they believe it's larger.

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And it had to abide

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If the Imam comes and says assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah

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for coupon tomorrow,

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do I have to have all the message to an ecommerce seller? Now one of them but if none of them answer

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their response, who am adding them to me one of them at least to see what

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they sometimes you see in certain other mature didn't enough a lot of right tomorrow.

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I didn't see in any other country

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of the Western Muslim community

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that the use of ceramic alikum to get any sometimes somebody said America

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then to say, this is Rama Rico. He wants everybody

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In the gathering to

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harass a foreign person siwalik was so damn selfish. You want to get everybody's attention so please be quiet. Don't miss an American

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salami badass and I'm an act of worship, we have to respect that salami By the way, but that will pay my tarama the bat that has to be respected the way it was legislated.

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this has been applied to leaving the government as well as approach. So if somebody said Salam Alikum before he leaves one person symbolic Muslim will be sufficient as well.

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Yeah, we talked about this before in episode salamu says Santa Monica entered the master. Yes. And you give Saran to people into the master but you give Salaam to people after we prayed the hated master. We talked about this before. After you separate the hater message. Sarah Marie Kondo the editor here to allow them to hear about grieving the master the rights of a lot you take precedence over the grieving of people

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and if you see someone particular praying

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you only give him Sam if you know how he would reply

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so if he if you think that you will, he's knowledgeable enough to understand because he replied by saying like this without talk

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by next headed

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by somebody will sell them

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the anvil, euro dollar mean

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that $1

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the same narrator before which is I didn't have fun. So here after he mentioned that in previous one, now the new headset and he also said and he also said the profits are sometimes saying this

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laptop yehudah sarabi Sarah,

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what is the P two movie?

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era of the

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Muslim fee? So hey,

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Sam, how did you translate that?

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You have the translation. Okay. You have Sorry, I thought you really you.

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Go ahead.

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Do not start.

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Do not be ashamed.

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So narrated abora rhodiola. One Allah's Messenger sallallahu Sallam said do not initiate Greetings, Jews and Christians with peace before they greet you. And when you meet one of them on the road force him to go to its narrowest side. Muslim reported it.

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Okay, so here, he said.

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And that's the reality. This never was reported by agriculture.

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So the report

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and that's why we believe that this was a mistake by some of the one who either made the copy of global moron he said one who did not pay attention marhaba stuff a woman have

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a mobile shop, just the one who made the copy he made that mistake otherwise the hell it is not from Allah, Allah.

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Wa, and it's Muslim. It's a big tournament. It's a very famous hobby, do not initiate the Jews and Christians with Sarah and when you meet them, you don't start by saying Sara Marie come to them. When you meet Jews or Christians, you didn't start them by saying a saramonic peace be upon.

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And if you see them in a road, the headset, make sure that you force them into the narrowest or to the side, nervous of it with this handy, B. We'll talk about what this what it means in a little bit.

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by the way,

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in Google, in the books, that's why I said that. I don't think of an agile

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mistake of heads up. It's the mistake from the one who wrote the cup. because later on in the chapter of jihad, when this hadith comes, he said that chapter Abu huraira reported the process of himself.

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So it's not a mistake from looks like from hell. Anyway,

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this handy, it looks like we've just laid something for us that you don't initiate Salaam to us and Christian. And this issue is not something agreed upon between the scholar number one

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there is a group scholar said you should not you're not allowed to start or to initiate non Muslim by saying a Solomonic.

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And that's a great number of scholars said that they have a Amma to selfie with America. And I hadn't believed that would have set me up with

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the alien hanafuda him Allah said that the early scholars, the early scholars and Muslims, and many of the jurors said that you do not initiate Sunnah to Jews and Christians,

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or the people the book and even some of the setup like even tomorrow, there

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used to be very strict that they claim that once he gives an answer to someone, and he find out that he was not.

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He was

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one of the people in the book and he said give me back my Santa Dahlia salami.

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And that's the out of the Maliki

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said basically, that

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even though the army is a medic, if

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he said that, but his share, medic don't agree with that. Remember, he was asked if he agreed, he said American Christian Jews. Do you ask them to take it back or make any statement to show objection? He said no. Anyway, what's the proof the proof is heavy. This is This hand is very explosive. Hi lacob doe do not initiate using Christian by saying as salaam alaikum. Do not start by greeting them, sir. Why is it this Helen is very explosive. And that's what they hold on to

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the other groups colors. So no, you're allowed to start the people the book with a Solomonic

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and an ambassador

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so the magic than some of the chef said that as in our

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public young with a mannequin said that he mentioned the group scars that have been brought by him Baba reported that mama Hill by candlelight will be Muslim in the in

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the companion anytime he passed by a Muslim, a Jew who's a Christian embassy will say as saramonic you will initiate the Sunnah to them. When you mess up with da da vida have been obey all of them companion like the Amman and Abu Dhabi.

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Whenever they will meet Christian or Jews, they will use it as Salam Alikum to them.

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If an ambassador once wrote a letter to a kitabi, a Christian person or a Jew, and he said As salam ra

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to him, he started that.

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And he said he was asked How can you say to people from the tip of the book? He said not the People of the Book.

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Hi Lisa kitabi colocar le frown

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kitabi is around Tell me something good. I'll tell him something good. Another tile around Tell me Baraka lovick May Allah bless you. I will say am Allah bless you to have a kebab

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also Savannah Marina Rahim Allah said it is allowed to say a certain Polycom to initiate Salam as well as

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Mr. bata what's the evidence

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there evidence the said the kingdom of Salaam in many a hadith did not distinguish between Muslim and non Muslim. He said after Salah Selim Adam and data from Allah tarrif give Salaam to those who you know and those who don't know, Sprint's Salaam among your salt

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and this is the hobbit about a Salam. It's very general and Allah said whether you can be the heating up I said Amina if somebody greet you with something you will read with them with a better respond. And we've been ordered to have good manners with everybody muscleman

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Muslim. Okay. And they don't believe that this heavy Muslim

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change that rules

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and I'll tell you why.

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A third opinion

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this says no,

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we don't say it is allowed. And we don't say it's not allowed it depends

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if there is a group of people Muslim and non Muslim together, you're allowed to initiate a Santa

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pilot either Can

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you say Assalamualaikum to everybody let's say you go to a program in a church and there is Muslim or non Muslim in the audience, you know coming with you, you send it to everybody.

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Why is it because some out of the 11 said and say hi to Muslim in a civilized send them pass by a gathering of Muslim and non Muslim and among them Abba to snam

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among them people who worship idols and in Ibiza solemn told all of them as Solomonic.

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Okay, another groups gossip. No, it depends.

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You are allowed to grieve the Jews and Christian and non Muslim with initiate greeting with other than a Solomonic

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you can say Hi, good morning mtow Saba, Han, Mara Marhaba,

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whatever you want, you know you can say whatever you like but as salaam alaikum This works specifically for the Muslim

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okay. Or you can say salam O Allah Allah Manny taba Buddha

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As salam o Allah Manitoba, as in the midst of Sodom wrote to the kings of the Roman at that time.

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Also the said depends. You are allowed to say assalamu alikum to initiate it if there is Musleh if there is benefits, like you want to win their hearts okay to snap and that's why even

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when he was traveling, he was traveling with a Christian God

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I saw you giving him salon saying

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how come isn't dislike to say as salaam alaikum Salaam to non Muslim it Massoud said But this man Yes But this man Allah Sahib would ever suffer. This man is my companion

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this person we traveled together like co worker somebody that I spent time with somebody like Frank let's say she's your wife and Christian he's your uncle.

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He's your father your children like somebody

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so that's why they'll tell you my mama said is Musleh UC Santa Monica. If there is no Musleh how you say something else

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when I make a damn good

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Miko Mater law

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shadow one more

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shadow and

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I do believe that

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it is permissible for the person to initiate Salaam to animals

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by saying a Samadhi.

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But you might say, but what about this hadith?

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And is to not start very exclusive.

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There is a problem with this Headey from two sides

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even though it is famous,

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it's a problematic heading.

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From there, it's not a point of view from the authenticity of it, even though it's a Muslim,

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and from that

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meaning and I wanted to be carefully pay attention and be very careful.

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Listen carefully. As I explained this to you.

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This Hadith reported by a man of his name is

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so haven sided.

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He said that the AMA answer.

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So he

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is the only one reported this hadith of viharaya.

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We don't know anyone else narrated this hadith of oven. So

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you might say what's wrong with that? We have plenty of Hadith we'll find one person to report.

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But something a major like this, you have only one person. But the problem that this person himself that is a big question mark about him.

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Why? Because this man, there is weakness in him. That's why the web map that had the rainbow bar rejected this heading. And he said that this has been a hydrophilicity oncarrot for odbl. He's the only one narrated this narration from a border of the Allahu Akbar. So nobody other than suhaila a be a be silent.

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Nobody reported this hobby other than Him.

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And when he become the only one during the Hadith, or the narration Arena in general they don't accept his donation. That's why many Rahim Allah said, let me as an iron, Hadith, the Hadith. Remember Abraham Allah said, I haven't had it did not trust him very well. And that's why and Buhari Rahim Omar said I heard that he had been in Medina, saying souhei his brother died. And he was very sad over the death of his brother. And he came into what we call today in modern language state of depression. Kind of has been a lie kathira Fantasy Akira

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he became depressed to the state that he stopped forgetting a lot. So his memory changed. And there is a lot of question about how accurate it is. That's why a bohannan Rahim Allah wa said you can

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do better. We can take his narration but we need a backup for it.

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And babraham Allah said he's a trustworthy when you split, but he makes mistakes.

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You see in America mom and mom when they talk about this particular person.

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They were always give a hint that there is a little bit doubt about how accurate they are. That's why that got him a lot on one minute.

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card was up woman is a trustworthy ally. But you know there is others and many others better than him.

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That it can have the hands off of him or was it about him, so don't

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be afraid. He's okay.

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His memory changed in the end.

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And because of this, because of this, and Buhari Rahim Allah never narrated this hadith in his side.

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That's one of the things that distinguishes Bihari from Muslim.

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Al Bukhari refused to report this, to put this hadith in his way, because it did not have a backup.

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It does not meet the high standard that you have, or him or her dad.

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Yes, yeah. But this is not what it is not all all of them one.

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so he reports this from his father, from his father from Mr. Anwar. And as I said, let me be with you, he's the only one to report this from his father

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is specifically specific

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the addition of force them into that nursed of the road, we

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have enough evidence to

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say as the only one who mentioned this addition forced them into the nursed of the route the Jews and Christians

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also there is another problem in the Hurry, sometimes he reported the mushrikeen sometimes he said the People of the Book another time he said, the Jews,

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these three words, you know, is not consistent the way even he making them arrange.

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And I'll tell you,

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I don't if you look at this today, you will know is not something he completely made is not completely made up, okay. But there is a missing thing in the Hadith, which is explained your we understand that why there is missing things because of that. His memory is not very accurate.

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What's that is missing? What is missing what the other narrator mentioned.

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So, this was reported by other than abora Yes.

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This handy reports about other Abu hurayrah Okay, but in in a different way. And when you hear the different way this heading was narrated, you will understand why Sohail

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urbinati sorry, besar is a week

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imagine, reported that Abdul Rahman and jr of Yamaha answered that the prophet SAW themselves

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in Iraq even heard them in India who

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tomorrow I'm going to the Jews

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and I want you to come with me

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Which has been your boy.

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He said I'm going to them tomorrow.

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Come on.

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When we go there, Latin Salam

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do not start or initiate a salaam aleikum to them

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for either Salam or aleikum.

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If they give you Salaam, say,

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same to you,

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Al Bukhari and another bit of fraud, reported the Hadith. From Abbey bustle of a family that didn't Ibiza Salam said tomorrow we go to the Jews and their castle

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do not initiate a Salam.

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And Bay happy reported the winner Omar said that the process of them said tomorrow you will meet the Jew will go to their place in the controller Punahou the garden. Tomorrow good fella. Sam, do not tell them a cinema.

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This shows contracts to the state

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in the base of sell them tomorrow going to go to check. Did the Jews betrayed the treaty or not?

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Right? You both Alcatel knuckleball and wonderla the Jews betray the processor. They broke the treaty or not betrayed the process on them and broke the treaty or not. So if if there is a war or a start or not.

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Because if they betrayed the process of them, if they declare war on them, if they join them we should again against the person that means there will be what a war if there is a war that's why enemies do not start by saying a solemn because what Salam means peace so Cindy will not get the wrong impression.

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Because if you if you're going to get into war, you don't say PSP upon you, then you go on historical war

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He said do not initiate some don't say peace of no peace. Wait until we see what is the deal with them. So the Hadith has nothing to do with the greeting with a salaam aleikum, wa salam aleikum, you agree that the Hadith was related to a very specific incident, where enemies of Solomon not want the Jews to take the wrong impression that there is no war.

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And also, even if we say, and I do believe that Hadith Muslim is authentic, but is authentic, yes, but there is something missing to be explained about the study. And I think Muslim is correct by reporting it. But if you look to the other version, you understand the Hadith abora is talking about this specific incident. So when he said, make sure that you pushed him to the side of the neuros of the road, because the Muslim will come now, as an was the process of them, like an army, they want to show the strength, the army walking on to that middle of the street, and the push everybody in the side, because this as well, to tear and basically put fear in the heart of the enemy. And to

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make sure that you know what, we're going to have a deal, otherwise we're ready to fight.

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It's It's so tense, that there is a fight about to break. Can you imagine there is a war about start between two countries or two, basically, two entities, and you see your enemy and he's a commander in the middle of the street and you honor them and you let them know you want to show you the strength. So that's why the profits are seldom said what he said.

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Okay, so he doesn't want anyone to say As salam o Allah, because the moment one Muslim, give them the promise of safety, the rest of the Muslim must honor that our individual solemn, yes, have been met him. And now, in the midst of Salam said, the Muslim is like one body, if one of them give promise of peace, of protection is word of protection. All the Muslim must honor this person

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at this point, to attack the person.

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And that's what you have Islam, Rahim Allah and even taymiyah mentioned that this is took place when he went to the hood when he arrived, because he don't want to give them an initial an a false impression that there is no water coming. No, he wanted, went to discuss with them what happened. And based on this discussion, the decision will be made. So no piece offered at the beginning, until we see what has happened. So from this, we understand that this heading is not really approved to set or can be used to say, we're not allowed to initiate grieving by our Santa Monica, to the non Muslims, is that episode.

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And that's showing you the importance of understand the context of the Hadith and the story behind it. So you understand, so no need for someone to say, Oh, this hand is reject the honey this honey is rejected is because Islam teach good manners.

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You have to understand what's the story first.

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You always you always accuse your understanding, not the person

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that invented a method.

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We know that the problem is the best. Our role is to find out what that best is just don't rush to accuse this another

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time. This is in regard to you initiating the Salah. But what if a Christian reduce it a cerametallic?

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What happened here, especially in the election season, everybody comes and says

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What should we do?

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And as some of the alarm Hina and z data.

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And so the alarm said, we've been asked only to say body

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nothing more.

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And that's the hanafy position. But having

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said that that's abusive. Somebody hasn't she done that as well.

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And also the opinion of the Shafilea

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busted chapter he agreed. If somebody

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asked me to lie, you say well, that's

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also some of the Maliki acid that public.

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There is a difference of opinions and our bad habit.

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That you're not

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allowed to start by saying Salaam Alaikum and you only say radical

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Begin you set up

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in the cinema,

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number shifter will become here over Congress running for Congress.

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No, the Congress, you know, when they run for congress run for any position, you come to the master. Firstly we say Salaam Alaikum.

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an interfaith obviously here. Nobody can say sorry. It's not part of the culture. But if you go to the street you go to Jordan and go to Egypt. They say Somali as part of the culture

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that's fine, because we're talking about specifically if somebody said Mr. de la to you. So those who said you just say what are the

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assumptions something even specifically what Annika

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Some said you don't reply at all with a Solomonic no add a comb, no answer on nothing. Okay, this will be our sin that empowers.

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The third opinion which is I do believe it's authentic is the strongest one you are allowed to say.

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And if we say a Santa Maria de la is surrounded by obala characters, why? Because the Lawson sort of way up to here if somebody greet you with a greeting, greet him with the same or more vertically

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also, and this is what the Sheree I will be

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justice furnace, being nice extra nice to people

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the initial solid, didn't he say?

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Yes, but he said what are they? When they used to say a Samadhi

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a summit means death.

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Assam orico it means death be upon you. So start the process. Same to you.

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was very smart way of answering Why? Because he heard that should la from LA to LA he won't matter.

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She went and she said, may Allah curse you this.

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You don't need to go.

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You don't need to be so excited. Just Same to you. A basic piece Same to you. If they said death Same to you, our accept from us and will not accept from them.

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That's when you don't want to get into argue because of the process of death. You said I didn't say that. I said Somali Somali. You heard me wrong. And you will go into back and forth. You said he said type of talk. He cut it off. He said the same to you.

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But if you are clearly heard him say assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. The verse is very clear, you answer the same or more that's it been Ambassador the alarm said, good to Salam alimentaria hoody in our salon de un oma, do sia, give back a salam to Christian Jewish Medusa begging somebody to worship file. As Allah said to us, if you agreed with sup with the greeting, reply that are better. So and this is not sorry.

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So can I best use this verse to refer to replying to greening up Christian Jews or non Muslim

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and I talked with Ambassador for ounce and Baraka last week, I'll say, because what I said America, I wish that Allah put his mercy in you, bless.

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Peace be upon all these great things. And philosophers Allah bless someone, or can develop

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some inner method, you just say radical salam, we didn't like the word laying on the couch. And it looks like to me that the ayah is very general.

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we talked about you push them to the narrowest of it, what that means it has a story behind it, it has to show the strength of the army at that particular so this had been in that particular incident, he cannot generalize rule out of it. You know, you see some non Muslim in the road and you just, you know, with your car push him to the side of the road of the Hudson, you know, no, that's not right.

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Also, one of the things Shannon

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When I

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look at the practice of the Sahaba we never heard that the Sahaba ever in Medina when they showed the Jews when the Medina they pushed him to the side or on the market of men he never

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we never heard that the Sahaba Allah when they went and they conquered Egypt and Sham Palestine and all this and an era we never heard that the Sahaba they line up with the sola Muslim the push them to the side

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or make them so that nobody ever understood from it a general rule that was related to a very specific incident took a specific time for a reason in the views of Solomon said

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and most of you say this edition, push them to the side of the road is edition by Sohail beside him he's weak. So even you say this edition is weak. Not the whole Have you been Muslim, but this edition is we Oh, we don't need to say tweak. We have an understanding for and no doubt of Islam or grace to have the best of

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stopping Sharma. Next time. We'll go with the Hadith.

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Relation to sneezing and we're not going to stop there because we talked about already before, but we'll start talking about the ruling etiquettes of drinking. We learn one of the simpler the porcelain that you should not drink while you're standing.

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You should drink while you're sitting. We'll talk about the rules of that. shabaka some of us