Halal Intimacy #05 – Early marriage

Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah he Salah OLALIA Selim. Welcome back Brothers and Sisters in Islam and everyone to Halal in Tennessee today in sha Allah Allah we are talking about early marriage and before delving into the topic, I'd like to see your comments. Do you agree or disagree on early marriage? What's your advice to parents who always delay marriages for various excuses, so jot down your comments below Inshallah, to Allah and let's get started.

My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, Allah subhanaw taala had created us with various desires that whether you like it or not, whether you wanted to control these desires, or not, at one point in life, you will have the urge to fulfill these desires and one of these intense desires is actually our desires for sexual intimacy. And so if these desires are controlled unnecessarily, in other words, if marriage was delayed, without really valid excuse, then our children in no long time, they will stumble across pornography, they will have the urge to masturbate and worst of all, they will commit Zina and this is the ultimate reason my brothers and sisters Islam, why marriage should not

be delayed without a valid reason. But at the same time, it is our responsibilities educators and of course, especially parents to educate their children from day one about the roles the rights and responsibilities of marriage, we want it to create mature generation who will value that constitution of marriage because as soon as their organs are matured, they will seek out sexual intimacy so we better prepare them as early as possible. We must also remind our youngsters who are maybe watching now, that erection and reaching the age of puberty are not necessarily the signs for your maturity and readiness to get married and carry out these responsibilities. You must understand

very, very clearly that sexual urge is just one part of the essential requirements for marriage under the Sharia of Allah subhanho wa taala. So yes, we definitely recommend marriage at early age, however, you have to also fulfill all the other essential requirements for the marriage to be successful on all levels. So you might feel those sexual urges from time to time but my brothers and sisters Islam our religion is the religion of patience and struggle against our evil inclination. So if you're not fully ready for this relationship for the halal relationship with your spouse, then you will have to follow the advice of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, wasallam Yama*a Shadab,

all young people who's whoever amongst you is capable of getting married, get married, but if you can't then exercise patience through fasting because fasting usually curbs the sexual desires because our deen my brothers and sisters in Islam is a very well balanced religion. It encourages marriage Yes, but also it for Bidzina masturbation, celibacy and having boyfriends and girlfriends and enjoying each other without this strong bond that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran. mythique Lolly, the very strong bond that you create between yourselves and Allah subhanho wa taala. It's a covenant between yourselves and Allah. So if you don't have the means to fulfill this and

take that step, that patience through fasting, that's the advice given by the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salam, it's hard. It's not easy, but it's doable in sha Allah and otherwise my brothers and sisters in slam the consequences of these lose relationships is very, very dangerous. You may not see it now because you're experiencing those attachment and emotions towards one another, but you will definitely see it if you come home one day and found yourself pregnant, you definitely see it when you see the entire world is crumbling over your head as a result of your bad choices. And that's why my message to parents once again is please work hard from day one on educating your children to be

ready for that day. I have seen a hungry lion in my counseling career. So many youngsters who were brought up upon that direction. And when they were in uni, Allah subhanaw taala opened doors for them to get married. The boys were very responsible to actually take small jobs in cafeterias and restaurants and the like, while they are studying their studies never affected on the relationship, neither their marriage affected on their studies. And in fact, until this day, they are part of my volunteering team and mashallah Tabata cola. You can see them successful on all levels. All it takes my brothers and sisters in Islam is courageous parents to take that approach and change that culture

surrounding marriage and its expenses that makes people

fear getting into that step we have made marriage the lawful relationship between spouses very, very difficult and very expensive. While the Haram is absolutely free, may Allah subhanaw taala protect us all. And once again comment below if you agree or disagree on early marriages May Allah subhanaw taala save our children from any vices of that nature. I mean, I mean, I mean please don't forget to subscribe to our channel, share the video with your loved ones and friends. And we'll see you in sha Allah Allah in the next episode as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh