Umm Jamaal ud-Din – The True Meaning of Patience

Umm Jamaal ud-Din
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of patient patience and practice through learning and striving for patience, as well as finding one's own success in life. They also stress the importance of avoiding denying obligations and testing one's health. The speakers advise not to let go of one's situation and to focus on what one has, finding ways out to make money, and not trying to feel sad or sadness.
AI: Transcript ©
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We send out 100 a month. Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Wada and he was Sophie one man Well,

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first of all my dear sisters as salaam wa Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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hum did Allah we come to our

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lifesaver Listen, shut up, like we need these lessons to keep going. So panela without this life is very difficult, you know, you need to keep refueling your email always otherwise it's very hard to cope on your own and be, you know, cope with all think he has to go through Panama.

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Okay, so inshallah today in the latter topic I've chosen to speak about is the true meaning of patience, how, you know, how can we achieve patients inshallah, this is something that it's really a struggle for so many of us, you know, to try to achieve patience, we talked about how to be patient, but how can we achieve patience, it's not an easy thing.

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So first of all, we have to understand what is patience, if you're going to try to achieve patients, you need to know what it is like, if we speak to you about the meaning of it. In Arabic, like the Arabic meaning of it, it means perhaps, so it means to withhold oneself and with strain, you know, withhold oneself and restrain oneself. And if we're talking about it, from the aspect of, of Islam, it means that basically,

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keeping yourself patient upon it left keep you so patient upon the commands of Allahu taala keeping yourself patient away from

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mass, you know, Mafi, you know, I'm honestly like Kimmy is away from, you know, sins and disobedience. And

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being patient with what Allahu taala whatever, although that distance for us, whatever he's written in from us from each other.

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So this is this is basically patience in Islam in a nutshell.

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Okay, so but don't have, you know, gone into details about these three different types of patients. So the highest level of patience is keeping oneself patient upon thought it led.

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Now, you might say, but what about, you know, what about being patient with, you know, trials? Yes, there's a huge reward. I'm going to come and talk about that. But we have to realize that you can even find disbelievers who make themself patient with trials and tests. Sometimes you'll see a lady, for example, she she lost her legs, she used to be a famous runner, you know, she lost her legs. And penalize she, she made herself patient and she decided she's going to become a pilot, and she flies a plane instead. So even non Muslims Can, can make them so patient, but only a believer, makes them so patient upon thought it that it's not an easy thing.

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It's very easy to take your Shahada

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and say, I should have learned a lot I should have I learned a lot what I should wonder, Mohammed rasoolullah. It's easy to do that. But what's hard is to stay steadfast on that path. That's where the real test comes. What's hard is waking up every day for fudger.

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Every day on time for budget, keep praying, always my prayers struggling to pay my prayers, continuing to stay steadfast on my hijab. When we see so much pressure on women today, you know, like with Instagram, Snapchat, all these pressures, you know, sometimes you might not, maybe you start to feel you're not attractive enough with your day job, things like this. So by you remaining patient on your hijab despite those pressures. That's why you get such a high reward for this. keeping yourself patient upon it let keeping yourself patient in coming to lessons keeping yourself patient in learning Quran, it might take you years to learn Quran but you keep yourself patient in

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learning Koran, Ernie, honestly, only the chosen people, only those who Allah loves Allah is impatient on these paths. Because not everybody stays on this path, you only have to look at how many people are taken away from these paths. So if you find yourself steadfast on these paths, this is inshallah a very good sign for you. But realize that that is the height that is the hardest patience. The hardest patience is staying stuck and steadfast to the part of Allahu taala until you meet with the law.

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And you only have to look at how many people who fall off the path to realize that's not an it's not an easy thing to achieve.

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Okay, so that's the highest level of patience, keeping yourself patient upon Tytler and then keeping yourself away from mojarra math from what Allah has to be done, but also a very high level of patience. It's so easy to go like look at this

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country we're living in, look at the environment we're living in, it's so easy.

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Any minute minute you want to go and do head on, it's all around you. You've got, you've got the total freedom, no one's gonna stop you, no one's gonna stop you. And there's nothing anyone can do to stop you. Right? You've got all they're waiting for you if you want. But the fact that you keep yourself

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strong and you keep your skin you know, you keep yourself resilient away from falling into these mojarra max. That's why it's such a high reward for in the athlete all because the only reason you're choosing to do that is from your your pain in your heart, from your email in your heart and from your ex and knowing that Allah sees you.

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Knowing that Allah is watching you, that's what's keeping you away from from going to those going to that heart that's around you. You know, if something comes up on your, you know, you're looking at through Facebook, you're looking through Instagram, you're looking through Snapchat, and you see something that you know, it's hard to look at and you turn your eyes away, no one, no one's watching you. But what's the reason you turn your eyes away because you know, Allah is watching you, you know that by looking at that image, any type of fitna that you expose yourself to, it has an effect on your heart, it's going to black in your heart, anything you look at anything you listen to, it's

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going to black in your heart if it's if you know that it's something that's toxic for your heart that is that you know, you don't get something toxic you look fitna it will have an effect on your heart and you know that Allah is watching you, he's gonna call you to account for this. So you know keeping yourself patient away from the heart on my dear sisters. That's why there's such a huge reward for it. Like I said, only the believer keeps itself patient upon the obedience of Allah and kisses so patient away from the Haram because the disbeliever although they might be patient with, you know, they might be patient with life's trials, but they can't be patient with keeping

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themselves away from their lusts and desires. Because they basically all they they live the life indulging in their life is indulgent, you know, indulging in the pleasures that don't have restrictions.

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Okay, but as to the believer, what m m and R bar, what was the paddlefest SNA. The salvia siru, who use raw like, the believer is the one who they fear a lot. And

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they believe they believe in agenda, they believe in the word a lot, I believe in the promise of a lot. And that's why Allah opens the paths of higher for them and makes good deeds easy to them. But that's unlike the disbelievers panel law.

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So then, the third type of patients like I was saying is the patients with a body of work or their luck with what Allah Allah, Allah has destined for you, whatever Allah has written for you, that you, you make yourself patient with that.

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And we have to realize that whatever Allah has destined for us, it's this good and evil. Everything that we we have tested with both people have a false idea that they think that when testing is only through hardships, but the reality is being tested with ease is harder. Because when you're tested with hardship, it brings you back to a law straightaway you start making dots or law, you make Toba you know you get close to Allah but you know what's really hard being tested with ease how many people fail this test? Go look at the majority of people in this country like for Muslims even who drive luxury cars or have luxury houses. Show me how many of those go to lessons learned Koran gives

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us the power you know, close to Allah tala in you know, pray their prayers on time, how many? How many? It's only very, very few. Like Allah says what Kali don't mean a body of Shaku, but very few of my bad will be truly grateful. gratefulness is shown through through using all those blessings to please Him. But the majority of people when once they get those blessings, they actually go further away from a lot that Don't come close to allow for those blessings. So that's why I don't think that that tests only through only through hardships. Allah says in the Quran whenever lukumi Shetty. Well, Heidi fitna, we will test you with both the short and the high which has to do with both.

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so when a believer is tested with when you when you tested with ease when you find life is going well for you hamdullah like I love it opened his blessings for you. You don't have to lie. You know, you have. You have a warm family, a warm, supportive family. You have maybe a warm supportive husband, you have

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Kids Mashallah you know you have everything's going well for you realize and what's upon you is to be grateful to Allah show thankfulness to Allah. This is how this is this is how this is how we

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this is how we deal this is how we respond to this test. This is how we should be responding to this test or being a be tested with, with ease and with blessings. But when you're tested with which what was difficult for you, when you when you tested with with what's hard for you, that's when we have to respond. A believer responds with SOP, with patience, with submission, submitting, submitting, surrendering, surrendering to the test. You know, think about what is the meaning of Islam,

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the meaning of Islam, what's the meaning of being a Muslim? It comes from the word if disclaim, surrendering to Allah. So you show your Islam by the way you surrender to the test that a lot chose for you. You Chuck you, you know you show your Islam through that you show your Islam through your heart The way you surrender your to your heart and you say this is what you've chosen meet for me your law, then I surrendered to it.

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If this is what you have chosen for me Yala, in Nadella he was in LA you're on your own, you show your is to slam through what you say with your tongue. You say God bro, Ma, Hua Masha at file, whatever Allah has distant has happened.

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And whatever he wanted, has happened. You know, like you show your, if this lamb is show you a slam through what you say, and you show it through your actions. How do you show it through your actions, when you test it, you don't start leaving your prayers. You don't start leaving your five prayers, you don't let that test cause you to do harm.

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You know, some people, when they tested, they start screaming, they start breaking things. They start smashing plates, they start mashing

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glasses in their house. That's not from patients.

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That's not from patients to do that. So a lot of watching us and he's watching how we respond to the tests. And you have to realize, my dear sisters, that it's up to you type patients is a choice. Patients is a choice.

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What do you think that breaking the glass is going to help? It doesn't help, it actually makes you feel worse. And the same thing like I'm going to give you some let's give some real life examples like our children test us, our husbands test us. But let me tell you, you'll learn as time goes by, you'll learn that screaming doesn't doesn't help. It only makes you feel very, very like it has a very bad psychological and physical effect upon you. So there's no use screaming at your children. You need to learn just to be take things in your stride. Just calm down. There's no use, like whatever happens, your screaming is not going to change. The situation is only going to make it

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worse. If and it's not healthy for you. So you learn to step back and realize patience is a choice. You have a choice you can you have a choice in how you're going to respond.

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But your journey, whatever you do, it's not going to change the situation.

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So why not just seek the reward? Why not just seek the reward? Remember a lot try to say Elder bilenda shaytan Arjuna if you're feeling very tested by your child or by your husband, say I want to be left in the shade on the regime, seek protection from the Shaitan ask Allah to give you strength you know one of the doors we should always say when we're feeling tested is less how hola wala quwata illa Billah there is no you're saying you're a law there is no ability and no strength except with you. You're a lot I have no ability I have no ability to be able to overcome this trial. I have no strength to get this through this trial. Except with you You're a law that's why I always say

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let's hold our water for water in levy law even if you feeling angry like I know myself I get road rage. I'm gonna admit it.

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I mean, I hurried to the lesson. And I get this person going on 20 miles an hour.

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Unlike la holo

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Actually, I learned this from a very Mashallah righteous family that I hamdulillah Allah blessed me knowing them when I was in Saudi that you know if even if driven in Saudi, you'll know the level of patience you have to have driving in Saudi teaches you patience.

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We don't understand that in Australia. No, you don't understand in Australia like, I'm sure those of you who live in Indonesia that you have to drive in Indonesia, the traffic jams or I know I went to Philippines, traffic jams go for

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four hours. Like we get upset where you know, the traffic jam going up Juniper Ray, they're like, we can't even handle it. Like, obviously it is way worse, right? But what I learned from him was he like all he used to say La how La la la corte de la. I learned that from him so far, but this is my show, long note. And honestly, it helps you. When you say do I remember when you mentioned a lot, the Shakedown goes away.

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That is the that is honestly sisters, that is the key to helping yourself be patient with everything that because of a law, you have to keep on dhikr of Allah. Because Allah keeps shaitan away, but the minute you stopped because of a lot the minute you stop your connection with a lot shaitan comes back. You leave a hole for straight time to come through and then your doubts coming in your mind. You start thinking too much, so keep yourself busy with declarable Lhasa pantalla waded through caught on with it through your adkar in the mornings in the evenings. We're just saying sapan a law 111

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saying La hawla wala quwata illa Billah saying yes, are you yes for your medical study to a slick Nisha Nicola who want to kill neagra nap time.

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self, you know, the old sustainer

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Magica study with your messy I seek your help, I turn to you with an I seek your help.

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asleep Nisha Nicola, who rectify all of my affairs will add to kill Nina Neff, see thought for time don't need me to myself, even for the blink of an eye because I can't survive. I can't cope. on my own. I can't get through these trials on my own. This is this is what we have to say these a year. What made the profits that allow you to send so strong My dear sisters, what made the Sahaba so strong, that they were like mountains in overcoming their trials? Because they had that strong connection with a lot. That's the problem with us? Why are we able to get through our trials because our connection is very weak. Our connection is so weak. But the way to get back back is you have to

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work on it. Sisters, you have to make that jihad, you have to make that striving in getting back your connection with the loss upon Allah. And the test is what wakes you up. When that test comes, it's what wakes you up makes you realize that you have been away from a law. That's why I was waking you up from his mercy. He's waking you up because he wants to bring you back, put you back on track. Because you're on this path to Jannah. That's the path of the movement, then what meaning is on a path to Jannah This is not your home. The dunya is not your Jana, the JR is the gender of the disbelievers. Why, because what's in the hereafter.

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Yummy, yummy. the Hereafter is not for them. That's why this life is the Jana. But for the believer, this life is a vision. this dunya is a vision why because what Allah has prepared for the believer in the next life makes this this it makes this life look worthless. It's nothing. So that's why decision because you're being you're actually a surgeon, you're in a prison because you're being prevented from what Allah has prepared for you in the next life.

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So that's what you have to keep in your mind. But you're not going to keep that in your mind. Unless you're always connected to a law because that's what gets you back on track. But if you're mixing with people who only talk about dunya and you all your explosions of dunya like going on Instagram and Snapchat and looking at people you know enjoying the pleasures of this world and you start feeling sorry for yourself and you know dunya starts filling your hearts. Then you forget about what is your ultimate struggle, they just forget about what your ultimate goal in this life. See, that's what makes you not feel patient. The only reason you don't feel patient is because you have too much

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dunya in your heart. Let me tell you, that is the honest truth. The only reason we're not patient enough is because we have too much love for dunya in our hearts subpanel law if we didn't if we if we were able to reach a level where we filled our hearts with Allah alone, and we detach ourselves from this dunya trust me we'll be able to be patient.

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You know that's why it's the final law. You look at great scholars like Shrek even Tamiya Rahim Allah and he said

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he said that genetti be so sought to be like

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Jenna is in my hearts. Jenna is in my heart like when you can't take anything away from a believer. The reality is if you're close

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To a law, then you've already entered gender before before the next life. You understand if you've already if you've already established that strong connection with a lot in this dunya through your Quran, through your prayers for your cushaw in your prayers, through your remembering Allah through through the you know the enjoy if you taste the the Halawa, if you taste the sweetness of worshipping Allah, fasting for his sake, standing, you know in prayers and reciting Quran, you know, all these oldest sweetness that you feel like going for Hajj, Umrah, all of the, you know, the different acts of the burger that Allah has given us getting sadhaka He tasted that sweetness,

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you've already entered Jana, in his dunya before the F era. That's why you can't calm a believer, ultimately, you cannot actually have a believer. So if we've been harmed, we have to realize we need to step closer to Allah because if we step closer to Allah, then no one can actually harm us. Because we have a law with us. So nobody can actually harm us the power law.

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So I'm so asked up. So the first step in how to be patient, you have to seek help with a law, don't try to do it on your own. You can't, you're only weak, we're all weak. We're all human beings. At the end of the day, we're all blood and flesh. We all have emotions. We all feel it's hard for all of us. But you have to ask yourself, why are some people able to do it and others aren't? Why? Because I'm saying to you, it's, it's these things. Number one, number one most important thing is asking a lot for help always continually ask a lot to give you the patience. Like Allah says warspear One S sub ruca ilhabela Be patient and know that patience is only through Allah.

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And you know, if if a non Muslim can do it, you can do it even more, because they're only doing it you know, for something in this dunya but you have the hope of the reward with a lot like nothing is lost. Whatever you go through, nothing is lost for you in the earth era. You have that hope in the next slide. So says the parallel sisters, it should be actually easy for us to be patient then then what we see with some disbelievers who are able to be patient.

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And then besides that, my dear sisters, patience is a learned trait.

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It doesn't come naturally. Okay, you have to realize patience takes practice. And it's a learned behavior. So you have to you have to teach yourself patience. You have to strive to become patient, you won't be naturally patient, but you'll see my dear sisters, that over the years, different experiences that you go through a lot increases your threshold. He raises your threshold, but I remember when I had my first baby, I was like, Oh my god, this is so hard, you know, then Allah subhanaw taala blessed me with twins.

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After that, I said Mashallah, one baby? That's a piece of cake. So that's the thing is is that 100 that's 100 a nice test. But trust me when you know, people will say I'd have twins trust me go have twins. It's it. Yes, it's beautiful. hamdulillah mcwhinney 20. But if you just sit on the couch for six months, not doing anything except feed change, and try to put your child to sleep. It doesn't want to go to sleep until three o'clock in the morning, or even five o'clock in the morning, then yeah, hamdulillah you know, young Stan sisters. So

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everything we go through, you'll see that a loss training you and I but that's I'm just mentioning something I have it's been handler, there's been plenty of other tests that I've gone through way that supersite supersede that. Okay. But what I know is like, sometimes I've questioned mice, like I think, you know, you've got to always ask, what what is allow me to learn from this test is always goodness. And that's the problem. We're always looking for the bad, but you need to look for the good, you need to question yourself and ask what is a lot trying to teach me through this test? Because there's so much you can take away from this. How many people can you help later on in life

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for this test? I know sisters who were sorry to mention Varna say it. I know sisters who were you know,

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sexually abused when they were children.

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I know sisters who were they've gone through domestic violence, you know, very severe cases of domestic violence, things like this, you know, but Subhanallah they have taken those experiences

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as, you know, as something that changes that change that that huge trial, into into using as a blessing. They've converted what their experience, you know, into something to use it for the higher and now they help other sisters. They help other sisters to overcome this trial. See, so that's what you got to understand. If you've if you've gone through something, you should try to tap into those resources.

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There's so much Allah has taught you, there's so much alive taught you my disease district, whatever you've gone through. And there are so many people in need for you. There are so many people in this world who are in need for your help.

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And if you can put your energy into helping those people, trust me, it's one of the best therapies to overcome whatever you've gone through. It's one of the best therapies to make yourself busy in helping others.

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So for example, as this tip is being tested, with a special needs child, that's a very huge test. But if she uses that to help others, you don't have to rely. So recently, there's now a cancer group for sisters, so that you know that they're getting together and supporting each other.

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And we really need things like this now community, you know, so those sisters who have been tested with this trial, they helping others to become resilient through these trials. So you whatever trust you've got gone through my disease does reflect on it and think about how you can help others. And if you do this, I'm telling you, it's the best therapy to overcome whatever you've gone through as well inshallah.

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Okay, so,

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like I said, patience is a learned behavior, it's not something that comes naturally, we have to strive, we've taken that we have to take the steps towards being patient.

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But then when you take those steps, and you have a clock for law, like, why are you trying to be patient, you're trying to be patient, because you want, read the law you want. You want a lot to be patient, you want a lot to be to be pleased with you. You want to buy the pleasure of Allah.

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There's different ways that we can buy the pleasure of Allah in this life. You know, like what we have to say, we went by Jenna, you want to buy Jenna Jenna comes at a price? And how do you get the Jenna it's replacing a lot. So you want to you want to buy the pleasure of a loss of pantalla? Okay, how do you do that, you can do it through a better through exerting yourself any Badar through worship, you can do it through this enchanting and you can do it through, you can do it through embracing your trials, whatever life throws at you, you embrace it, and you use it to buy the pleasurable loss of power down through that trial.

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So think about your patience as an activity bad as it is. If you embrace your your, if you embrace this trial, for the sake of Allah, then it becomes an activity bad for you. And the person who's the person who's at trial there, they like in a continual state of a bed up as long as they've been patient with that they're in a continuous state of a backup. Who can pray all day?

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Put your hand up, if you can pray all day, who can fast every single day none of us, but the person in a trial. That's why you know, it's kind of like that's why Islam forbids mercy killings.

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It sounds a bit mostly kidding. Like when someone is suffering from an illness.

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We like we say it's not allowed to just go and end their life.

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Because you don't realize how much how much Yannick how much this person is being exploited from anything that could be on their body, and how much they've been raised in the in the level in Ghana. And they buy there in a continuous state to be better. Like maybe they spent their whole life hardly praying to Allah. Maybe they spent their whole life they missed fast. They did all these things that you know, they didn't go to Hajj, they neglected the commanded a lot. But then in the end of their life, Allah puts them through a very great sickness, and he purifies them by that and unfit He forgives all that they did in their life and all the negligence that they didn't they like he

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forgives him through that. So during a continuous date, every bear that subpoena law, so this is what we should be thinking about, you know, when you're in that embrace, to try and realize that you're in a safe a bed and shower as long as you know, but you have to keep reminding yourself to get yourself back into that state inshallah.

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And this is a sovereign Jimmy, this is the beautiful patience.

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Okay, this is the beautiful patients that we read, this is how we reach it by surrendering our heart to the trial, like I said, by only saying what pleases the law not not saying something that goes against the displeasure of a law like it's nothing wrong with stating to someone what your condition is, you know, like, I have been feeling pain in my, my body and I've been having this happen to me and there's nothing wrong with stating that. But you have to be aware of your intention that it's not out of complaining, you know, to the creation because what can they do? Of course, the doctor

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Coming to ask you How do you feel? You'd say, Oh yeah, I feel fine cuz you don't wanna

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you know what I mean? Like, so there's nothing wrong with stating your illness or what you're going through. But what we have to be aware of is, is saying to be in a space like a Why is our doing this to me? Why me and not someone else, uh, why is a lot deep, then it doesn't give me that's the beating type of speech that that's the speech that goes against surrendering to apologize for that. And then besides that, like I said, look at your actions, is, yes, you might go through a very big trial that you're not able to maybe pray or your son or prayers as much as you used to, but it should never go to your font. Those trials you go through should never start affecting your fonts.

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So wherever all of made fun, whether it's your hijab, whether it's your five prayers, when you're fasting, Ramadan, you know, you're the care, your trial should not reach the level where it starts to affect your font that's not showing that, um, that the reality is that it's it is it is a lack of patience to not denistone to to go against that. Okay, so it's showing in your body that you haven't got patients like for example, I'll give an example. Like, I remember hearing one this

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family like, because he didn't have much knowledge and everything, but they they son died in Ramadan. So they said, I'm not going to fast in Ramadan anymore. Like, I will be left you know, a lot to my son, he have a bond, so I'm not going to foster anymore. Yeah, yeah. What's that? What do you think you're gonna harm a law by not forcing them along? You're only harming yourself. And you forgot all the other bases over days you

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did even forget our day, you were saying the first place you understand kind of lost. So this is how some people that that that kind of attitude, it's wrong. To say that I'm going to rebel against a lot because Allah has to give me what I wanted a last trial me. So now I'm going to go into rebellion against a law. That is wrong. Okay, that's what we have to stay away from that.

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Okay, so there's nothing wrong with opening up your heart, and crying to Allah and complaining to Allah. In fact, Allah loves us to complain to him.

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And you know, there's something you know, it's sad that we don't use this as a therapy, but it is actually one of the greatest therapies.

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But we don't, and if we did, that, we would get so close to Allah subhanaw taala. We don't use this, but honestly, will like it's the best therapy if you were to go into such depth. And you were to let out your feelings in your self talk and just cry and just say whatever you want in your self talk to Allah, how you feel, even though he knows, but you say it to Allah, how you feel.

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You know, what you're upset about, just get it all added chest, I'm telling you this distance, if you did this, you come out of your prayer and you will feel healed, you actually feel healed. And Allah, Allah loves that you did this. You have no idea how much Allah loves that you did this. You know why? Because it shows your Islam, it shows your sincerity, it shows your body it shows your servitude to Allah that you're really just showing your complete poreless to allot it you are completely weak, you are completely in need. And it is not for a lot you cannot survive. And Allah loves this a lot is attitude driven Eva, and this is the greatest way to actually to overcome a

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trial if you show that point us to Allah, if you if you make you are in a state of corners, that is one of the greatest ways to have your door accepted. Just so you know, the greatest way to get out of a trial and to have your door accepted is to call upon a law

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like the state of a person who is in desperate need.

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When you call upon a lot in that level, that is that is that is actually this one of the secrets to having the door accepted.

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So let's talk about some of the ways that you can be patient number one, you need to constantly remind yourself of the reward for the one who's patient.

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Don't think anything you do

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is just forgotten with a law

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when I can rob Booker know see ya. A lot does not forget anything. Everything is recorded for you. And that's the beauty of being a believer. Like, that's something unfortunate sad, we feel very sad, but the disbeliever does not enjoy this. Whatever they do in his life from patients, it's all they just get whatever that yonni they get the reward for that in this world only.

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They get the rewards for that in this world only. But for the believer.

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You get rewarded for it in this life and the next one

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Allah in this life in the next it's nothing is wasted with Allah nothing,

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not even a prick of a finger as I'll come to. But let's talk about some of the rewards. So first of all from the rewards of those who are patient, while laws will you hit boosts, RBD do Allahu you hit to subedi Allah loves the patient. So the more that you strive to make use of patient like I said, the more you get close to Allah, the more you you bring yourself closer to the love of Allah, a lot of love increases for you.

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Subhana Allah, Allah, you know you a lot you bring yourself to a state where a lot of blood is increased for you, the more that you are patient for the sake

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and so this is one thing you should remind yourself, that if you're being patient for the sake of a law, realize that you know, a lot of love is with you alive love is with you, as long as you've got that if last for long as long as you've got that sincerity for Allah and Allah tells us that when he loves the person I want to remind you of what happened what is the state of a person who Allah loves them, that Allah season headed could see, I am He is hearing with which he is he's seeing which he sees his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks and where he to ask of me I would surely give it to him and were he to seek protection for me I would surely granted to him. So

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that person who gets himself into that state where Allah loves them

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they get their draw answered by a law they get they draw and follow that's why the person who's lying sick on their bed they have more chance of having their Dwight accepted as somebody who's healthy for example.

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Okay, and the answer pantalon My dear sisters, you see a lot of sisters I'm sure you've seen for yourselves. Sisters, you say

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that they've gone through like maybe I'll have tested them in some great trial like she's been tested with a very severe sickness like can somehow protect us or some other sickness like brain tumor or something like that. Have a look at her face. If you feel as if she'd been purified,

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supine or lost sisters, you see how Allah has sweeten to go talk to those sisters you'll see how Allah you see you've really feel a lot has sweets in the literally sweeten them. And it's because Allah is purifying them every moment they're going through that test a lot is continually purifying them. And the Messenger of Allah so Larson told us that at blade will be tested so that the scenes fall often like the leaves of trees until they could be walking on the earth with not even one scene left on their body. Not even one scene left on their body, my D sisters, and you have an on your I want to remind you of something you probably have never thought about before. Do you know that

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nobody is going to enter Jenga with sin?

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Nobody's going to enter agenda with sin. Nobody. So I got I got you strife in this dunya through Toba.

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And it's still four

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and a bad acts of worship that purify because we know that each time you pray, you get forgiveness of sins. Each time you take what do you get forgiveness of sins. When you go for Umrah and Hajj, you get forgiveness of sins. So everything 100 Allah, it's so alive. It's so Kadeem alive is so generous, he made all of our acts of worship as a means to get purified.

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Okay, so you can strive through a better Another way is to get purified through your tests and trials.

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So, so you can be so purified from your tests and trials in this dunya that you need this life with not one seen on your body. And always remind yourself, while others will ask you rotti at the bar, like whatever trial you can go in this life is nothing in comparison to the trial in the grave. And it's nothing in comparison to the trial in the Johanna while the villa. So to be purify in this life is a huge blessing my disease is it's a huge mercy that someone is trialed in this life and tested they become purified before they go to the era.

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So if the person is not purified in this life, then they get to they get trolled in the grace. And that's the purification for a believer, the trial and the grace is a purification. If that's not enough to to the masses, things that they do, the oppression that they did to others. All those things then might have ticked us a lot purifies them in the Johanna unless he chooses to forgive them on your own.

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Yama because a lot can, someone could make a lot with major sins on your piano that they did not repent for a lot could choose to forgive them. But if he doesn't, that he then he chooses to purify them in the Johanna model the villa. But as we know, nobody, we didn't even atoms weight of a man will remain in the Johanna, nor body so they will be purified and then they will eventually enter Jannah. So that's we have to realize nobody will enter Jannah

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with since. So that's what we have to we have to be concrete, realize that we need to get purified from the scenes one way or another. So embrace your trials. And like I said, those people's highlight, like, I'll give an example as well of this, like my brother and my brother in law like a hammer. You know, subpoena law, May Allah forgive him. He Yeah, unfortunately, he fell into a lot of mistakes. You know, he he married for example, some non Western women, he had kids and those kids did, they don't even make darts for him until now because they're not Muslim. They haven't grown up, they haven't grown up to be Muslims, you know, and he was away from the part of the law for a long

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time. You know, and he got involved with wrong wrong things depend a lot. But then what happened was

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a lot tested him with a brain tumor. A lot isn't him with a brain tumor. Now, I want to I need to tell you the story, because it's we we need to learn from the lessons. This is a man I'm telling you. You couldn't even mention something in front of you that he said he get angry, he leaves the house. You mentioned some that it's then he gets angry. He just leaves the house. He doesn't want to hear about it. He doesn't want to be here any lecturing nothing. Okay.

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I want to I want to show you that he went from being like that to how he was in the end of his life. Oh, my humble. He completely changed my distances. A lot chose him for this trial. Like he got tested with his brain tumor. And this brain tumor was so severe, like he got up he had about three different operations. But it was very aggressive to my kick coming back until he and it slowly went down his body like he was a six foot man, only 30 in his late late 30s. a six foot man, a huge man very strong. And yet this brain tumor made him slowly lose his his like it started in his legs, his time his toes. He lost his sensation in his toes. Then it was his fate. He couldn't walk and slowly

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went up his legs. He couldn't walk anymore. So he is stuck in a bed. Right? It slowly moves up his body until he lost his eyesight.

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He lost his eyesight for nine months he lay in bed, no eyesight, he can't move nothing. It's very, and yet, the amazing thing that he from this person who wasn't even patient at all.

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He became the most patient I can't even explain the patient's like, if you look at him, you won't even believe it. People come to him to remind you of a law. He's the one reminding them of a masa pantalla. And the whole time he's just doing bigger veloci pantalla the whole time he's lying in his bed. He said that he lived a long day, he died a lot. over again. He's patient, how does somebody think it's a miracle? How does somebody go from being someone who couldn't even stand people to talk to them about for example, it's them or anything to being someone who's so purified through their test.

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Like suppiler you know, they said that you know, the readings to Justin for him as he was passing away and his soul just came out so gently you wouldn't you didn't even sense it. You didn't even sense it.

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But there was no struggle. There was not really any struggle for his soul to come out. It just he just went

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he breathed like that he soul came out like that. And he turned completely white the minute the CIO came out of his body, completely white. And then when they went to watch him, but check out the slide was one of the ones who watched him as well along with my husband. They couldn't believe a six foot man. He was like like a fiddle. He was so nice. Support along, like so what I'm trying to show you this system is how a lot sweetens you don't think that this trial you're going through

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is not something good for you. It's when a mercy from a law but you don't realize it. That's why Allah says Well, I sent Accra who Shea and wa hydralic home like, you don't like it. It's hard on you. It's bitter. It's very bitter. But you didn't realize how always purifying you. Haven't you seen? I always reflect on this. Haven't you seen sisters who've been tested with special needs kids?

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Haven't you seen how beautiful are their hearts? How generous are those sisters, even their children?

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Well, lucky their children I find they're not spoil like the majority of kids are just so so self centered and spoil

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Find that children are the most giving children, the most caring children. So Allah makes it up to them in different ways.

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This is how our purifies us through our tests through ID sisters.

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And then the other thing to remind yourself that you are not alone, when you're going through that test, you are not alone. You are not alone. A lot is with you. Allah says in Allah Hamas RBD, Allah is when the patient is with you. How is Allah with you? It's a very special way that he lives with you. He is with you. He is supporting you. He is helping you. He is surrounding you with his rock man. He's literally surrounding you with his rock, not with his mercy. He's gonna help you get through that. Like, how can you say you look at someone going through a trial? And you think oh my god, how on earth? Is she going through this trial? Like you can't even imagine? How can she go

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through this? And yet this person is how are they buried? Yes. They actually burying this trial. Why? Because a lot is helping them. You'll be very surprised how a lot can make you overcome your trials. As long as you've got the class and you take that step towards the law, like what does that say? You know, you take that step towards a law a lot comes to you with speed. So you have to just take that step you have to take the initial step, but by you train, just a little bit of a train. But you find a law will be helping you in so many in so many more ways greater than you can imagine.

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And that's why a lot of Donna says what she does sardine give glad tidings to the soybean and letting you know either I saw that como si baton orlu in LA LA he was in LA he lived your own give glad tidings to the patient. Who are they? And lead either either or saw but whom we'll see but they are those who win a lot of trials and with a test. They say in any letter he was in a Rajon What do these words mean? In ela? Very We are from Allah was in la de la jolla and we are going back to him what our way anyway sisters, what are we? How small away? What are ways Yanni? Allah has the choice to do with us whenever he wants. We are just a small action in if you compare us to what's in this

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universe, and what's in this world, we are just Yani, what are we in comparison to the rest of the creations, the Panama, we're just a small piece a very, very small, like a grain of sand in this dunya in this world in these heavens and earth, right. So love is free to do what he wants. And we say in any library we have from a law, we're in Nigeria, he wrote your own and we're going back to Allah Wait, when this is just a passing, it's a passing moment. This life is a passing moment, it's not going to last forever. It goes very fast, it goes very quickly. And before you know it, you're leading this life.

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So these are the people who they realized that they are just a tiny piece in, in this huge, you know universe, they're just a tiny piece of this huge universe. panela. And Allah has the right, you know, he has the right to do with his milk, to do with his milk, whatever he wants.

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And so if Allah gives us that's from his fog, if Allah gives us from his generosity, and if he withholds from us, then that's from his wisdom, and he's mercy and he knows best for us, we have to realize Allah knows best for us. So in any law, he was in a de la jolla and you're accepting with your tongue, a bite, you will either you're showing your acceptance with your tongue, that you accept what Allah has written for you.

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And you, you know, and with that you're in mind your hearts, because it's very hard. Tests are never easy. It's easy for us to sit and talk about it. But when you go through is a whole different story. So you remind your hearts in early Allah, he was in a Roger la Roger one and by that your heart, you'll be able to get submission in your heart. You'll be able to get submission in your heart when you remind yourself with those words. And then Allah says when they do that, because patience is the first shock. So you just what you have to do is the moment the shop comes, don't do anything. Don't say anything except in Manila. He holds us up for a minute in alila. He was in LA he Roger.

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If you do this, if you just say these words stick to these words, like have been ready.

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Like, if you're gonna fall down, you hold them to a bar. You reach out and hold on to a bar right?

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I need you to have these words next to your head at all moments, that as soon as something is going to come, you're going to reach out and hold on to that in any level even go like that with your hands. Remember, just listen. In danila he was in LA he Roger owed hold on to that I'm telling you, if you do this, Allah says, Allah alayhi salatu mirabai him wa SNA what we learn, he can move on, if you can do this at that moment, Allah tells us that Allah He can lay him solo where to me what be him that they will have a lot of praise and Rama come down on them Allah will give you an amazing ability to overcome this trial.

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Wah wah Ma and mercy what will iica who will move that don't die will be guided Alo help you this is the this is the trick This is the trick to being patient inshallah in the in the in the test.

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And then remember,

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as you're going through the days of trial, remember reflect on the rewards for the trial in now you are for sabi Runa Angela home be lady he said

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that those who are patient a law rewards them without he said without measure, unlike the other other days you do, you get rewarded from 10 to 700 times, but for patient is a reward without measure.

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And when you enter Genesis is when you leave this life of trials. When you leave this life of tests and hardships and bitterness.

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This temporary life you enter Jannah those who are patient in this world for the sake of Allah, they enter Jannah the angels great then the third from the first moment they step into Jana, the angels surround them and they greet them superlite into Jan now this is from their rewards, it's from the treatment that they get when they enter Jannah. And they say Salaam en la columbanus about tomb. Salaam on a comb. Peace be upon you for what you what you enjoyed what you were patient within that dunya. But now, you've reached a place where there is no more trials, there is no more pain, there is no more hardship, there is no more depression, there is no more anxiety, there's no more you're

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never gonna hit anyone say something that makes you sad. You're never gonna hit any news that makes you like upset.

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There's no more of that, oh, you ever he is the beautiful, you know, the color of the malayi car. And you know, the decor of the meaning and the peace and the happiness and the blessings that's in john NASA panela that never ends, you never have to worry that it's going to come to an end. Like in his dunya we're always worried like, when we see with our family, laughing, having fun, you reflect on yourself, the day is gonna come, either I'm going to die, or one of them Allah is going to test me with one of them. That's the reality, my dear sisters, sooner or later, we're sitting here today happy laughing. But trust me, sooner or later date is gonna come You know, let's say it now we're

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going to be emotional. But my dear sisters, reflect on this, the day is gonna come You know, hamdulillah all of this stuff in this gathering together. I'm going to get emotional. But the day is gonna come when Allah is gonna take me

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the day is going to come in when a boss is not going to be here. You know, one of you is not going to be here. When I'm not going to be here. The day is going to come but we're not going to be here forever. Somehow. That's the reality. So that's why we shouldn't take these things for granted. Like now, you probably said yourself, I'm tired to go listen, today, I can be bothered going but what he one day is going to come I won't be here to get the lesson show I'll be there'll be somebody else. But that's the reality. Even myself, I might get tired and say to myself, I'm tired to go to listen today. One, you know, when I when I went when I had my operation two months ago, I couldn't come to

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get the lesson. And then I missed the lesson so much. Like sometimes I'll be honest, I sometimes feel like oh, somehow look what's nice to do. How am I gonna go lesson today, you know, but then when I had my operation, I couldn't come to the lesson I said to myself, the Panama without the lesson, my life is dead, you know, mean? And I couldn't come and I'm thinking, you know, a day might come with a lot of trials, maybe the sickness or I can't get the lesson anymore.

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I can't get the lesson anymore. So Panama. So Danny, if that was just a temporary sickness, what about when, when What about if I'm in trial where I can't give it any more at all. And that day will come sooner or later Pamela says we have to keep reminding ourselves, my dear sisters. That's why if you're mindful of these things, stop focusing on what you don't have

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Stop focusing maybe three, three systems, stop focusing on what you don't have stop focusing on the bitterness of what life has thrown at you, and start trying to enjoy what you do have because otherwise, you're allowing your past just to rob your presence.

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You're not only suffering from your past, but you're allowing your past to even steal from your present now that you never enjoy even your presence. You know, I know some sisters, they told me so such such sad stories, but had, for example, a bad relationship with them. Their mother,

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okay, they had a very bad relationship with their mother, their mother never ever appreciated them. No matter what she does for her mother. They never appreciate them.

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If the mother chose, I couldn't leave the happy life together a beautiful relationship between a daughter and mother. But sadly, that mother chose, she's always going to be unhappy with her daughter, never pleased, never says a good word to her daughter, to thank her even for what she's done. And then at the end of her life, at the very end of her life, which is about to leave the life, she starts to realize what she had in a daughter.

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Isn't it sad that you have to wait to your deathbed to realize what Allah had given you.

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You could have had lived a happy life with your child. But instead you decided you chose a miserable life because trust me, Misery is a choice. Misery is a choice, my distance, just as happiness is a choice to. So you can choose. You can choose to focus on what Allah has given you, and enjoy the blessings you've got. And realize that what you even if you've got that test, and how do you lie, your test is still a million times better than other people's tests. Like if Allah tested you with bad a bad man with a bad husband, and he treated you so badly and he has, you know, and look what the state you're in. You're a single mother now you'd have to, you'd have to go through all these

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hardships now because of this man, neglecting you neglecting your children.

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But let's be honest, Alhamdulillah you're living in Australia. You're not living in Syria. You're not living in Palestine. You're not leaving in Africa.

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You know, as a single mother trying to survive to put even a morsel of bread in your child's mouth. So you need you don't try to say sisters, so it's all about perspective. You can focus on what you don't have and you can you can just what's the word you can wallow in your misery? Basically, you can sit there and choose to wallow in your misery. Or you can choose to say and hamdulillah Yes, this is a big test. I'm not going to acknowledge it's not a big test. It is a big test. But you know what? I'm gonna make the most of it. I'm gonna make the most of it. I'm gonna focus on what I do have. I'm gonna focus that Allah has given me so much more than what other people have. You want to

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know how to make yourself do happy sisters. curve is assista lying on her deathbed suffering from cancer. When my mother when my brother in law was dying, you know he's Chima was protruding out of his head.

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He's chuma grows so big. His head was like this sisters. It was protruding out of his head. The skull change you've got a skull. He's his chin was so strong. It was lumps all coming out of his head.

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And he couldn't fit he's he's blind. He's completely paralyzed. He can only move his tongue

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when you go visit someone like that my D sisters trust me no matter what trial you're going through you come home you said hamdulillah

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and hamdulillah that's the thing we always comparing to what we're always comparing to what other people what they have and we're not looking to the people who've been trolled so much greater than us. So this this is this is the way this is how to have resilience My dear sister This is how to teach yourself resilience. Stop looking up and start looking down and then you'll realize Alhamdulillah

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Okay, so this is some of the things that I can mention to you inshallah.

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And this is why exactly why the Prophet said a lot of what he was saying said, Matt, when they're all do, I had done for and hi Ron, what else I mean a sob, that a person has not been given anything which is better. And, you know, which is, you know, better for them than patience. If you've been given patience. This is the best thing you could be given. You know why because you will learn how to be true.

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you will find peace of hearts, you come to terms with whatever's going on, you learn to let go.

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You learn to let go of what's happening. You, of course, you know if we can, if we can change that. Often, you're in a situation where you can look for, you can look for ways out, you shouldn't just don't just stay in a situation say, Oh, this is what I was destined for me. Like, you've got no money, for example, you've got no money, you have enough money to pay the rent.

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You're struggling each week week to pay your electricity bill.

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Do I just sit there and make dua and hope that my situation will change? No, I have to be proactive. I look for doors of how I can get out of this situation. What are some plans that I can do? What skills do I have, that I could use to make some money to get out of my situation. So you look for ways out, there's always a way out desistance, but you got to look for it, you got to ask a lot to help you find the way out. Don't just stay in that situation. Because the longer you stay in it, it makes you stagnant. It immobilizes you you're not able to be productive and you can't move on in your life. So look for the ways out, right? And

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if you can't, sometimes you're going through something you just can't change it. There are some times at this point in time you're just not able to change it. There's nothing you can do. That's when you just have to let go.

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And you say to yourself, you're and you say to all y'all law

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helped me to overcome this trial right now and help me to find a way out in the future. Okay, so that's that has to be our approach. But there's no point us you know, getting bitter about it, asking why blaming.

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Excuse me, blaming, feeling sorry for myself. Oh, that is not going to help like, yes, by all means when you go through something you do need to heal yourself. Like it's like when you get a wound. You know, if somebody um,

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if somebody's wounded you

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you're gonna feel pain in the beginning. And you have to treat yourself. I'm not saying that you shouldn't treat yourself like so. Allow yourself. Don't say to yourself, why am I feeling angry? I'm what mean I shouldn't feel angry. Don't say yourself. Why am I sad? I'm a woman I shouldn't feel sad. The prophets that along with us and he was so felt sad. He cried. He cried when he went through the trials he cried. But he didn't say something against what a law against what always pays me Okay, that's the difference. So you can cry. You can you know, you're allowed to cry, you're allowed to have emotions, you're not a robot. So don't say yourself, why am I upset? I'm not mean because

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you're putting more pressure on yourself like that. Allow yourself to be angry. Allow yourself to be sad. But don't tell it that for years and years young he said like so going through the unique like grief as you know, if you study psychology, and that grief has a process you need to go through the process but don't get stuck on the processes. So going through the state of grief go through the state of anger move through them you know, with your Eman with your belief in God It will bother but you're trying to move forward you don't want to stay stuck in one stage that that's the point we should be trying to aim towards my dear sisters.

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Okay, I'm gonna finish inshallah so always make that we have to always make door like from the doors you can say what I've been a free valina sobre

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what to Western and Mussolini, like you're allowed to pour upon us patients and let us die. as Muslims. You know, pour upon us patients. We need a lot to pour patients on us. We honestly literally made a lot of poor patients upon us. So always make this diet. And besides that, my dear sisters

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and besides that, my dear sisters, realize that you have everything Allah has given you everything already to be able to be patient with whatever he destined you with. Like Allah says let you Kelly for lavon Epson Illa WUSA, don't underestimate your ability to overcome your trials. And know that if you you in order to become stronger in overcoming your trial, you need to maintain your connection with a law. Do not try to overcome it on your own and be so try to think you're self sufficient. You have to maintain your connection with Allah subhanaw taala. So be steadfast on your EAD card mean be even more diligent when you're going through a trial. Try to make yourself even

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more diligent on making lots of dhikr of Allah, on doing your car, on reading as much Quran as you can. Push yourself to your prayers. Even if you don't even feel like praying then you push yourself

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Have you be hard on yourself and you just say I have to do this I need this to keep myself anchored. Right.

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after that I asked a lot multibagger Darla, to keep us all steadfast in this life ask Allahu Allah to pour patience upon all of us. And I asked a local dealer to let us all use the tools that he's given us to remain patient, to remember him day and night to pray to Him always be steadfast upon our prayers, and to call upon him day and night in Dwyer and seek the means to come close to him always inshallah, and I asked a local target to Allah to unite us with the nice patient people who walked on the face of this earth from the narrabeen the prophets and deceived the pain, the sincere believers, and the shoe had that the martyrs and the solly he in the righteous believers I asked a

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law that for every one of us who are patient in this life, he unites us with the prophets and with the CDC and with the martyrs and with the solid healed inshallah, in the genital fruit also Allah And always remember that nothing is wasted with Allah not even the prick of a finger no anxiety that a believer suffers is wasted with the law of no depression no day of sadness nothing you go through my dear sisters is wasted with Allahu taala well hold on Hold your head up was stopped from the will come was the panic a lot more will be handy national Allah ilaha illa Anta stop Luca una to like

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