The Muslim Family #38 – The Freedom of Homeschooling

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leeuw Alhamdulillah Hiroko Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah Al soli Nabina Muhammad wa ala early he also happy edge mine Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. We begin as always with the prayers of allies or gentlemen, we begin by asking Allah azza wa jal to exalt the mentioned grand peace to our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to his family and his companions. In this episode insha, Allah to Allah, we're going to be talking about home schooling. And to begin with, I just want to make it clear to everybody that this lecture is not only for the parents, who are thinking about homeschooling their children. In fact, the lessons from homeschooling are so

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valuable, generally speaking, in the total year of your children, that actually they're applicable to a wide range of people and nearly everybody in Sharla, can take a benefit from taking some time out to learn how homeschooling works, the advantages of it, and also some of the potential pitfalls or errors people might fall into, and how we can address those and some of the misconceptions that people might have. And the reason I believe this is applicable to absolutely everybody, almost everybody, is because as a parent, you are, as we've heard so many times miss school and you are responsible for your child's education, your school, and therefore having the ability to supplement

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their education at home, even if it's not a full time thing, even if it's not a permanent thing, having the ability to learn how to use the tools and the skills of homeschooling to teach your children esalaam at home, for example, where Islam Islamic teaching isn't available in a wider context, for example isn't there aren't for example modalities or schools for Islamic teaching that you can send your children to.

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So ultimately, there are many benefits in this for everybody. And I don't want to restrict this to a very small number of people and say, This is an episode specifically for those parents who are homeschooling their children. In fact, really, this is an episode tip for everybody to give consideration to the value of homeschooling, and what it can teach us in terms of the topia of our children, and the way that we educate our children. Will everyone watching this video go on to homeschool their child or their children? I think it's almost guaranteed to say that they won't and allies were generals best because it's not easy for everybody to do. Although homeschooling is a

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strange one, it's a one way you sometimes the things you think might be difficult or easier than you think. And perhaps some of the things you might not have thought about might present some difficulties. Analyze which one makes easy for whomever He wills subhanaw taala so really, this episode is about a noisy house I wanted to start with a Heidi Heidi is reported by the man Muslim in His sight from the Hadeeth Bureau. Hey, yeah, Tamim in the house in a dirty while the Allahu anhu that he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a dino naziha this religion is a Nazi hat. And and we'll see how it can mean being since behaving in a sincere manner towards someone

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behaving in a sincere way towards someone that's what it is. Sometimes people translate as giving advice. And that's that's part of it. giving advice is part of it. But only the it has a wider context because the Heidi talks about giving us see how to Allah and to his book and to his messenger. So here we need something a little bit more wide, a little wider in scope than just the words of a just to offer words of advice. So a dino let's see how this religion is about acting and behaving in a sincere manner. And you know, behaving as though you sincerely are ussc and you sincerely want good. This religion is a Nazi cool element. To me, my daddy said that we said to the

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Messenger of Allah, so I send them to whom should this Nazi hubby? Who should we behave in this way towards Pilar de la he, while he kitabi he well, Eurozone he Well, he I met a Muslim you know, I met him, he said towards Allah and His book and His Messenger and towards the leaders of the Muslims and the general people. So this religion

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It is based around and naziha acting in a sincere way and behaving sincerely from those that have a right for our sincerity and for us to behave sincerely

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towards them. And to be NASA, someone who wants good for them are the ordinary Muslims, the people who are, you know, the regular Muslims all over the world, every Muslim, regardless of whether they have a status in their in society or whether they don't, regardless of whether they have a position of authority or they don't have admittance to meet the regular general Muslims all over the world, they have a right that we are sincere towards them. And part of behaving sincerely, is to offer words of advice. A lot of xojo said well as in an insane lfv hustle in larina, Ehrman, watermill asylee, hot water, wasabi, Huck, whatever, so be sovereign, by Allah just swore by, by by time.

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Indeed mankind is in a state of loss, except those who believe in do good deeds, and advise one another to the truth, and advise one another to have patience. So this episode, even though we are going to mention some evidences from the Quran, and the Sunnah for various points that we want to clarify, but ultimately, what this is really about is my nasi hat to you, as parents, or as future parents might not see her as it relates to your children's education.

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And might not see her as it relates to homeschooling your children wherever possible. And I'd already mentioned what I believe to be the dangers of the modern schooling system that we have today. And I believe those dangers are present, regardless of whether those schools are Islamic schools or not, regardless of whether they are teaching curricula that are in accordance with Islam or not, those dangers remain there. And the need for education. Well, the education also remains we don't take away from that. So I'm not saying that all of the schools are equal, and nobody should ever understand that from me, whatever caught me and say to me that Mohammed, Tim said, it makes no

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difference if you send your child to an Islamic school or an Islamic school. That's not what I'm saying.

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The schools are different, they are of many different levels. Some of them are very, very good, and some of them are very, very bad. But ultimately, all of them have significant flaws, and dangerous for our children. Those dangers can come from the curriculum itself, which propagates all kinds of things, whether it is it, some of them propagate atheism, some of them propagate, religious concepts that are foreign to Islam. Some of them propagate the equality of all religions, some of them propagate rebellion. And by that, I mean rebellion against authority of all kinds, be it parents, be it, you know, question everything, don't accept what you're given, be, you know, break from the

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people be different, and so on. And often this can, you know, cause a person to the negative effects upon them in terms of their Islam, where they start to reject the authority of those that are like so jealous given authority over them, like rebelling against their parents, and so on. And all of these things can be things that are stalked and fueled by curricula that are designed and made by non Muslims. At the very least, a Karl myoko, the minimum you can say is that they didn't consider Islam when they wrote them. And some of them will lower share of the shade shouting, devils. And they wrote these curricula for the purpose of misguiding our children away from the path of Allah.

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And that is not something which is difficult to imagine. So we say that the best of the non Muslim curricula, the best you can see about them is that they didn't give consideration to Islam. But as for among the worst of them are those who is not difficult to see, when you look at the content of that curriculum. And when you see the schools that and the ethos of the people that are propagating it, it was designed for a deliberate purpose to take the people away from the path of Allah subhanaw taala.

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And likewise, if the curriculum is sound, the second problem that you have, and bearing in mind with the curriculum we have another problem is that the Muslim

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countries many times in many situations have adopted the standards of the non Muslim curricula, because they felt that they had to do that or that was necessary to have that standard. And so they have adopted also many of the negative things within those things as well. On top of that, you have the issue of the schools themselves. So let's just imagine the curriculum is is is good and pure and correct, but not the ethos of all of the schools. Some of the schools their ethos is to encourage

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anti Islamic activity. And I'm talking about in Muslim countries. Why and I've seen this a lot you as I've seen this with my own eyes, where the encouragement constantly from the teachers from the school, the ethos of the school, is to take the people away from the path of a lie soldier.

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Let's just imagine the curriculum is fine and the school is fine. The ethos of the school has good Islamic values, and encouragement to obedience to Allah azza wa jal, and developing a man and so on, and the curriculum is sound. Then on top of that, you have the problem of all of those other children that come together from those different households. And not all of them have the same values. And you have the problem also of the teachers as well. And that's not to be critical of the teachers. But not all teachers have one good for their children, or for the students, some of their teachers, they come with ulterior motives, and they come sometimes from other religions. And again,

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the people I say, well, what's the harm if there is a Christian person teaching my child mathematics, but ultimately, anyone who has actually been involved in that situation and seen it, they will see that the person's RP that it will come out loud Mahalla, there is no escape from it, that person's belief, it will come out, even if they are teaching you the alphabet, or they're teaching you mathematics, or they're teaching you science. Ultimately, there are p that will come out, it will come out. longhand, there is no escape from it. And it has to happen. And this is something that you can see clearly. And again, will the child pick up on that? Maybe not? Will it be

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obvious? Perhaps not? Will it be in a way that harms the child, perhaps not, but these dangers still remain. And even if all of the teachers are fine, and the school's ethos is stronger, the management is strong, and the curriculum is strong. Then after that, you have the other children who come from households that don't all share the same values that you as a parent share. So that the other child is saying that, or my child to you know, my mom lets me watch TV, my mama lets me listen to music lets me watch movies, we're going to the cinema, we're going to go to the concert, we're going to do this and that and the other, you know, and so on. So I play with my female cousins and male cousin

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mixing together and whatever. And these are from, you know, at the end of the day, Muslim families we're not we're not saying they're not Muslim, Muslim families, but they just they just don't have the same standards you have. And then your child comes home and says, Why can't I do these things, and they have this phone and they watch these movies. And they do this. And they do that. And they don't have to study Islam, and they don't have to memorize Quran and they don't have to, this is still a danger. Now Someone may say,

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and this is a valid point. They may say, Mohammed, Tim, these dangers exist in homeschooling environments, as well. And you can't wrap your children up in cotton wool, and say that they'll never be exposed to a child will say that to them. And I see two That is true. But the percentage, and the amount of exposure is there's no comparison between them. There's no comparison. So panela, a class of 30 children, of which half of them are seeing this every day for five hours a day to your child versus one off situation in a week in a month when your child comes across someone like that. Tesla mercadona been hot or hot. There's no way you can compare these two things as being equal

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lightstone angula. They're not equal in the sight of allies. nor should they be equal in your eyes. To say that it's this to say that the exposure to the harm that the child would get because your child will be exposed to the hold on at some point. Yes, that's true. All of us are tested. Eliza gel created this life for us to be tested led Haleakala Mota will hire Leah Beluga comm au comm accelerometer, you're going to be tested in this life, no doubt. However, whatever you can do to protect your children and there's no doubt that the control that you have over the environment as a homeschooling parent is way way more it is multitudes more than the control that you have when you

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send your child to school. However, we understand that homeschooling doesn't necessarily work for everyone. So let's explore a little bit about what it is and what are some of the ways that we can approach it. The first thing I want to establish is that homeschooling is about flexibility. So take out of your mind this idea that you have to make a carbon copy of your child's school and set it up at home.

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For example, your child goes to school has five lessons a day with five different teachers. The lessons start at 9am and they finish at 3pm. And there is a one hour lunch break.

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In the middle, and so on and so forth. As the more you're trying to copy that, and paste it, it won't work, it will be difficult for you, and you're actually giving up many of the blessings and benefits from homeschooling. So I believe First of all, even homeschooling as a definition, take out of your mind this idea that homeschooling is about replacing the school one for one, homeschooling is about flexibility. And that's why I believe it's beneficial for all the parents, because you can part time homeschool your children, you could send them to school for a year, if you thought that was needed. Because there is a need, we're not we're not denying about the need for education, you

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might be in a country where the child has to take the exams in school, they have to sit a year or two years in school, you could part time, it might be the fact that you're happy with the school in terms of the worldly education, but you would like to homeschool your children on an on the Islamic side of things. It might be the fact you want to supplement your children's worldly education because you might have put them in a school where the academic level is not quite as good in order to have a better Islamic environment. And may Allah bless you in that that's an excellent choice is to sometimes, you know, compromise somewhat on the academic level of the school in order to,

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you know, perhaps give your child a better environment as it relates to, you know, Islam, but then you might want to supplement it, and so on. It may be that you work full time, or both parents may work full time. And you may have to restructure it around different timings and things like that. Ultimately, this whole idea of rigid

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timings and rigid methods is something which it works for a school. And I'm not here to tell schools how to how to run their schools, you know, they have experts for that. But you are giving up the advantages of homeschooling. If you don't embrace that flexibility.

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However, I'm going to bring a counterbalance to this flexibility doesn't mean a lack of discipline. Just having flexibility doesn't mean that we don't have discipline. And I believe it's really important that you and your children if you decide to homeschool them even if you only decide to homeschool them on the weekend, even if you only decide to homeschool them one evening in a week, to supplement some kind of education, whatever it might be that you want to do to try things out to have a goal that it has to come with a degree of seriousness and add up discipline, manners. And the way that the children are taught to behave of this is also really, really important. So for example,

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if you allow the children to just get out of bed, and you know, in their sleeping claws just sort of come in and lounge around and you know, sort of like pick up a book and put down a book and then go out for a while. It. Ultimately, if that's the whole model of how you homeschool the children, it is going to cause difficulties, because it's going to lead to a lack of discipline, and a lack of a work ethic, and a lack of a lack of manners and etiquettes. And these things are all things that Islam give great importance to, for example, it's narrated with regard to the sittings of Mr. Ahmed, that there were around 5000 or more people used to come to the sittings 500 of them used to write

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Hadeeth and the rest of them used to learn manners and behavior, from the Imam rahimullah to either these to learn how to behave, and is to learn manners. So it is important that we have the kind of manners a discipline from that. But here's where we can draw upon a rich Islamic history and Islamic material that exists to teach our children. And one of the most amazing things you can do with homeschooling is to fuse the benefits that you take from your Islamic education, and those that you have from the worldly sciences as well. And this is how, really, I believe this is how it should be my advice and this is how it should be is that this whole concept of secular education, we should

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just take it and throw it out this whole idea of secular education that we separate the Islamic etiquettes and knowledge and and manners and and the way that we learn and we separate the things that we do in our learning for the worldly life. And we never allow any of the to to cross. This is secularism. This comes from secularism, it doesn't come from Islam right

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In Islam, we want to take those benefits. For example, what's to say that we can't teach our children, the add up the etiquettes, of studying from the Islamic sources where they're far stronger and far more robust and far more, have far more higher, far more modesty, and far more benefit in them. And then encourage our children to apply the etiquettes of learning and studying in Islam, the culture of HIF. You know, as another example, the culture of memorizing, and we spoken about it, how important it is to memorize, and we encourage our children to apply that to the worldly sciences in an appropriate way. because not everything is going to be the same no doubt the person who teaches

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you mathematics, not the same as the person who teaches you.

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However, there are also ways to connect to to take for example, the,

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the material that our children read when they learn English, for example, take as an example, the, the the examples that our children do in mathematics and in sciences, and so on. Why can't we find ways to tie this to Islam, let alone topics like history which overlap in the first place, even though generally, most of the Western curricula have completely erased Islam entirely from history, as though it didn't exist. But the opportunities for you as a homeschooling parent to re integrate the worldly teaching and the Islamic teaching. And that doesn't mean that we placed the two on a level. And it doesn't mean we use the same methods or both. Or that we, we consider each one of them

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to be the same, but just to find ways to overlap, ways to integrate the two and ways to provide a strong Islamic identity to our children, even when they're studying worldly sciences. And to move away from this complete separation of the two. Like we said, Islam has a fantastic tradition of studying and learning and respect for the teacher, manners and etiquettes, that's upon a lot your child could benefit from immensely as it relates to their regular education and taking it seriously as well. So that I believe is also an important part of of the benefits of what you can achieve this flexibility and the ability to integrate things. How many times have you said, I just wish that my

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child would be able to study Islam a bit more, you know, they have maths and English and science and history and geography and in all of these things, but you know, even in some of the Islamic schools, the Islamic component of teaching is very small. The thing is, as a homeschooling parent, you have the flexibility to choose, you can increase it, you can you can teach Islam, two thirds of the time, and you can teach the world, the sciences one third of the time, or more or less, however you want. Because it ultimately it is your decision, how you formulate that education. And also flexibility goes even further than that.

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Flexibility goes even further than that. It even goes to the extent where you change things around depending on the child. And depending on the different times of the year when you're busy or the different times when you're not who said that you have to have school holidays, from June until September, or something like that. There's no there's no rule that says a homeschooling parent has to do that a parent who's a home educator has to do that. There's no there's no rule for that. You can adapt things there may be times according to the seasons, where for example, in the winter, we might have in some places, long nights and short days. And so you may want to change things around

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you can change things around according to your children how they feel. And they you don't have to stick to one particular method or one particular standard, as long as you still maintain a degree of add up a degree of etiquette and discipline as it relates to studying.

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Now one of the ways I was mentioning and I did allude to it earlier, as it relates to maintaining discipline is that you just ensure encourage the children to take it as something as as being different from the normal home life. And this is one of the real genuine things a lot of parents mentioned a lot of difficulties that parents have is they say that we find that our children run riot, you know, at home, like they run around and play around and their children. You know, they they have fun with each other. They play games, and when we tell them to study at home, they don't they can't do it.

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You know, like they because for them, the school is a different place, and their behavior is different. And the home is a different place. I think, first of all, there's a number of issues or advice I would offer in that regard, I think, first of all, is probably not not an ideal element of topia to have our children see that the home has no limits at all, and that they can, you know, break anything, or jump off anything or run around any way they like. I think that in terms of the therapy, we need to kind of just adjust that to make, even though children should should definitely have their time to play and enjoy themselves. And they should be allowed to make mistakes. And we'd

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heard about the Heidi The ns, the profitsystem, didn't used to have a go at him about the things that he did that were not related to the religion, it's also important that we emphasize this etiquette and manners, and have our children in a balance in that way. Not that when they enter the house, we lock the door and say, you know, run, right. And when they go out, we tell them, you know, you have to be really well mannered. Because ultimately what that can do is that actually,

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it actually encourages the children to misbehave around their parents, not to respect their parents, and so on. And then it encourages them that when they go into that school environment, they you know, they suddenly behave and until they get home. Also, one of the things we can do to change this mentality is to make homeschooling something distinct for our children. And that's something that I personally do. When it comes to homeschooling time. It's not like you get up in your sleep claws, and you lounge around it is that you come to school, you get ready for school, it doesn't have to be a uniform as such, although you could adopt an Islamic dress uniform, why not if you wanted to, if

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you thought that was beneficial, because the uniform is there to instill identity. More could say like, you have to wear your Islamic clothing, or you have to wear something, you know, at least you have to wear some nice clothing. And you sit down, maybe you transform the room, even if you have a small room, even if you have one room, you put things away, toys go away, games go away. And then what do you do, you bring out the you know, the desk, the table officer on the floor that that, like what they're resting onto, right, and maybe the teacher would sit on a chair, or would sit at the front. And they would respect that this is a different situation. Now this is a different

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environment. And that is going to take time, parents should not think that that's going to be an instant, you know, in one moment, my child is just going to just going to switch, but helping them to feel a bit more like school, having for example a cupboard or some a drawer, which is full of school supplies, you know, take your textbooks, take your

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your school bags, or whatever it might be or your boxes from the cupboard, and you take your pens and paper out and you sit down and you prepare for school, okay, schools finished now you can put your things away, you can bring out your toys and your games and you can play that kind of thing can help the children to maintain that little bit of discipline. So it is about flexibility. That's a major major part of of the homeschooling of the benefits of homeschooling is that aspect of flexibility. And also from the major benefits is that we all we want to try to encourage that those adapt, and those etiquette and manners that are a part of a part of Islam. And here, I would like to

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sort of bring in a point, which I believe is really important. And that is just because you homeschool your children doesn't mean that your children would never go to quote unquote, School of some kind. So panela In fact, it's the opposite. I wouldn't recommend that all

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if your children have chance to attend halakhot Islamic lectures, or your children have the ability to perhaps attend a an Islamic events or gatherings or even to attend

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conferences, like workshops that are organized for children. There is no harm in this because you as a parent have far greater control. You know, for example, there may be a science and technology workshop, where the children are going to get together. And they're going to learn about some of the sciences in a practical way. And you can go and have a look as a parent and decide if that environment is going to be suitable for your child or whether there's going to be some marble at some harangue going on there. And if you feel that it's suitable for your child, there's no reason why you can't send your child to that for a few hours, or something like that. There's no reason why

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you as a parent can't simulate that if you want to. And definitely as it relates to the Islamic lectures, classes, modalities, even. For example, I know parents that homeschool their children and their children go to a taffy of madrasa school for the memorization of the Quran.

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That is what that's, you know, that is in that aspect but the rest of their education they receive at home. So this is also something which is very beneficial for you as a parent and I wanted to quote something to you in this just to give you a bit of inspiration because sometimes you might think, well, from the point of nasi hats, this is another session, you know, giving you some advice and so on.

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You might feel like well, do we have something to back this up? So I'm going to quote to you from an Imam Malik Ennis Rahim Allah to Allah the Great Imam Malik.

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And he said, can it meet to be Sunni, fit up?

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What do I mean Moni? Well, Anna sabi. He said my mom, my mother, she used to put my clothes on me. And she used to make me wear put my turban on me when I was a small boy. What a cool Yeah, booni eight imaginary Serbia, Fatah lm Min xmt. He were adebiyi cobla and tetteh. I lemma, menfolk, he he were Heidi.

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She said that all my son, go to the gathering of robbia.

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And learn from him, his behavior and his manners before you learn from him, his filk and his Hadeeth subpanel. She sent out her son, she got him dressed, she put on his turban, we said you know this issue of you know, the etiquette and discipline. She got him ready, she sent him out and she said go to the gathering of Robbie.

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Robbie, I mean, Abby abderrahman

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go to robbia abdomen

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and look learned from him his behavior and his manners. And here I want to respond to a Sherpa and I'm going to call it a shoebox, I believe it's a Sherpa that people have, they say that homeschooling causes your child to be underdeveloped socially.

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And I think this is

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in all honesty, this is I will not hesitate to use the word Barfi it is falsehood. It is falsehood, it is absolute falsehood, because the seller was silent. They did not send their children to learn, adapt, and to learn behavior from agreement, or CPN. From the little boys and girls, they sent their children to learn behavior from the earlier map. That's where the children learn manners from and social skills from from the gatherings, the majelis of the earlier map, that's where they learnt it from. But well, I do not see that it is from the guidance of the self asylee in any way, that you think that your children should learn behavior from children like them

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a lot more unless it is in within the context of the Islamic gatherings and Islamic schools. So they see the children who are sitting nicely and they learn from them and so on. This is possible. But this idea that homeschooling deprives your children have social skills. This is it, it doesn't, it doesn't stand up to scrutiny in any in any way at all. And it doesn't stand up to scrutiny either. From the point of looking at the children themselves, you see children who homeschool with the best of manners. So Paula, so this idea that if I don't send my children to school, they're not going to get social skills. And I don't think this stands up to scrutiny. There are some areas where there

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might be

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any there may be need for for for that social development. And this can be solved very simply through two aspects. Number one, as we said, One area where I've mentioned before, where it can be a little tricky is group work if you have just one child who you're teaching, and they need to do work that is traditionally or that is the teacher, the curriculum instructs it to be done as a group, and they're only one person. So here very simple to sign up or to register with other homeschooling parents or the home educators to work together to teach for the children to work in groups with people who are similar to them. And likewise, when we say homeschooling who said that we This means

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that there are no social gatherings. And this is also a misconception and a Sherpa that people have about this that homeschooling means there should be no social gatherings. Take our children to as many social gatherings as as we would like as parents, but we are going to choose those social gatherings like the mother of any man Malik chores, the gathering of rubbish bin Abdullah man, for him to go to, to learn. That's where I want you to

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To learn your social skills, I want you to go there and sit there there will be other children that you can learn from you can sit around you can make friends with you can talk to, there will be adults there as well, that you can learn from, you go there and you sit, but you're going to be in an environment that I think is going to be net positive, it's going to bring more of a benefit to you, even if you're just learning add up, behavior and mannerisms. So the idea that, I think this idea of social deprivation, I think it comes primarily, first of all, a lot of times it comes from the non Muslims. But even if it didn't, and it comes from a misconception that homeschooling means

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your children don't socialize. That's not the case, it means that you as a parent have greater control over and decision making in where and how your children socialize. So it could be that we go to the masjid, or it could be that we go to another homeschooling forum with similar with children of similar, you know, similar in a similar situation, or it could be that we socialized within our families and our family structure. And this is, of course, another major way, we're talking about therapy at the end of the day. So another major way in which children learn from the the family gatherings that take place within the family, and their, you know, their relatives mixing with their

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relatives, and so on seeing how their parents behave. So all from the means of developing the children in terms of their social skills. So I don't think there is any evidence or any deli, either in terms of theoretical or even empirical evidence to suggest that children who are homeschooled are socially inept, or socially unable to, to to manage the world at large. In fact, the opposite appears to be true that because they learn real, important behavior and important etiquettes. And because their parents choose for them, the best places to learn those etiquettes from, generally speaking, they're far more able to mix with people in a positive way to be to take part in group

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work and so on, and often more confident to do so. And that the part of that is also that we develop these characteristics, these ortholog within our children, in terms of things like

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reliance upon Allah, and then reliance upon the self, you know, the child develops the ability to work by themselves, you know, seeking the help of Allah and working by themselves independence. And all of these things benefit when it comes to going into, you know, like, say, for example, the world of work, or it could be a university, and they have to

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engage with other people. Often, they're the ones who have the role of, you know, leadership, and the ones who take the first step forward because of the confidence they have in their own ability. And because their parents have not restricted them from meeting people for the last 15 years that we've locked the door and never let our children meet anybody. But we'd be more careful about who they meet a more careful about who they mix with. This is the first part of my advice as it relates to homeschooling. And he shall allow to edit there will be a second part where we're going to talk about things like qualifications, and how do you navigate

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the you know, the different ways that the child would get a qualification and get recognized, and then also talk about the actual day to day mechanics of how to teach the children at different ages. This is coming up in the next episode, and Ally's originals best or Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa, Salaam Alaikum. If you're enjoying these videos, and you'd like to keep up to date with all of the courses we're going to be running make sure you head over to a m au add home.com