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The Muslim Family #32 – The Way The Prophet ﷺ Nurtured Children

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah he was sola Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edgeline Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. We begin with the praise of alarm, we ask Allah to exalt dimension and grand peace to our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his family and his companions. were speaking about the obligations of the parents, towards their children, and the rights of the children over their parents. And we came to this huge topic of a tarbiyah this topic which relates to tarbiat, nurturing, and educating and teaching and preparing your children for their life, which is to come both the life as it relates to religion,

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and the life as it relates to their worldly life in the light of Islam, in the light of Islam, and this topic of tarbiyah, as we said, there are beautiful examples and we mentioned the example of local man with his son. We brought out some of the benefits that are found within the ayat to deal with the advice of look man to his son, and now inshallah to Allah we're going to look at an example of the tarbiyah of the Prophet sallallahu IE Wiley sapio. Selim towards Abdullah

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Abdullah burswood all the Allahu and Homer was a young boy, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam used to give the children a lot of attention, and particularly used to give attention to Abdullah the Ibis or the alarm on Homer. Because of the closeness, they were closely related to one another, because of the love that he had for idolizing the Ibis. And because of the fact that he saw in abalone, Ibis, that knowledge and wisdom that was far beyond his age, even though he was very young at the time, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive. And we have a Hadeeth in which I believe now best narrates

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the advice that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to him. And this is full of benefits and points relating to a tarbiyah islamiat tarbiyah Islamic nurturing and raising up of children and educating them. So the Hadeeth end up delivering a bursary the Allahumma and now call Quinta hall for Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a young man. He said I was behind the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one day.

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And this is from the habit of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he used to people used to ride he used to ride

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or ID if any, with with someone on the back and we have the the hadith of more either bingeable the well known Hadeeth in which he mentioned this, that he was behind the prophet SAW Selim on a riding animal, the prophecy seems to share his riding animal that's one of the humility of the prophets Allah Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he would share his riding animal. And he's to give attention to the young boys and the young children and give attention to advising them and nurturing and ultimately, look at the benefit that that had as it relates to abdulghani Ibis.

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tabletten, Ibis became one of the great scholars of Islam, he became one of the most knowledgeable among the Sahaba, in the Tafseer of the Quran, in matters relating to Philip and Hadeeth, while the Allahu anhu Law and the Prophets I some invested in him when he was just a small, young boy. And that shows you the value of tarbiyah really doesn't it, that you have a very young boy, a very young child, a young boy or a young girl, and you put that effort in, and you put that you give them that time and attention, in order that you reap the fruits and the benefits of that much much later on. And it's even narrated with regard to Abdullah the Ibis that some of the he had a friend from among

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the inside, and his friend from on the inside, kind of used to make a little bit of fun, you know, as to why he was so studious and why he was a friend would say we have a long list of people like Abu Bakr and

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we have the major Sahaba you know, nobody needs the young boy who is apt to live in a bus. And that young man from the unsired he said that he passed by up to live near a bus in pif when he was teaching the people that people had gathered to listen to him and many of the Sahaba had passed away and Abdullah

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Bass was there teaching the people in tarrif rhodiola. And at that time that young unsightly he realized the value of all the effort that Abdullahi bass was putting into learn and study. But one of the benefits we can take from the story is the investment the Prophet size and placed in abdomen and bass to teach him and educate him even though he's a young boy. Because when he now the Prophet testament, his job is to convey to convey the message. And he realizes that one of the most important aspects of conveying that message is going to be the young people, because they are the ones who are going to hear from the prophets Isom and, and be in the light and live for a long time

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to be able to convey that message directly, as opposed to live near bursted when many of the Sahaba had passed away. And he continued to narrate the heidy directly from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he had heard. So this tarbiat shows you the the value of investing in the total view of our children, the young children, they are the ones who are going to represent us and convey from us when we have passed away. And they're the ones who are going to continue inshallah, that righteousness, and the eye and the lessons of Islam, and teaching it to their children and their children. And that's the sadaqa jariya that you want from your offspring. That's the, that's what

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you want from your offspring. And that's why we ask, or we find in the Hadeeth, that when a person dies, all of their deceased except for three, and we mentioned, or Well, I don't need a ruler, a righteous child that makes two for them. And so we mentioned earlier when you're into therapy, and knowledge that has benefited from mentioned Salahuddin geria, a continuous charity, so all of these things can come together in the therapy of a child, to be of a child can be sadaqa, jariya, can be a continuous charity, as people continue to benefit and offspring apart more and more their children and their children and they keep on benefiting from the lessons you gave. It can be knowledge that

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benefits and and continues after you pass away. And it can be a righteous child that makes to Allah for you. And some of the scholars expanded that statement, while a little silent on your daughter, a righteous child that makes to AF for him to include even the students of the teacher, because he is like a father figure to them. And so they make dua for him, like the child would make to offer the Father. So all of this is it shows you the value of tarbiyah and giving attention to the young kids. And it shows you the error of those people who say that don't don't give attention to the children. That you know, for example, they say to the Islamic teachers, why are you giving your attention to

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these little kids, anyone can teach the kids, anyone can teach the small children. This is not the prophetic methodology of topia, the prophetic methodology of topia is to focus upon all the different components of the society, but to give that time to the young children and to give time to educate the young children. So at best the rates of the Prophet size alone, he was riding behind him and the Prophet Tyson turned to him and he said for kylea hood, he said, all young man in ni or I Lim aka kalimat, I'm going to teach you some words, the scholars of tarbiyah, they take from this, that from the etickets dos loop of tarbiyah, from the means in which you can give tarbiyah and the

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etiquettes you can use is to tell the child that I'm going to tell you something important. Now I'm going to tell you something important. So that evening, bass was ready to memorize it, and to understand it and to implement it. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him these words he said to him, for the latter half of

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he said, f of Allah, half of is a command from a health and have meaning to preserve, to protect to God, to keep safe and so on. So how does this command work for the law? Because Allah subhanaw taala is only your homies he doesn't need anyone, and he is in his Worthy of all praise. So Allah subhanaw taala doesn't need anyone. So how do you implement this Command F of Allah, meaning God, everything that Allah has commanded you to God? God the commands of Allah, God the limits of Allah, like the statement of Eliza gel Hof weevil, Allah swallow wort he was celerity will start waku boo lillahi carnitine God your prayers, especially the middle prayer,

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especially the middle prayer that also prayer and stand in silent obedience to Allah subhana wa Tada.

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So here for the love of God, all those things that are like commanded you to God, God the rights of Allah, God the limits the who dude of Allah azza wa jal.

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Be careful to to stick to the things that Allah has commanded you to stick to like the prayers and if you got those commands and those limits of allies or agenda

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Then Elijah Zelman, Jin Suleiman, the reward will come that will be similar of a similar nature to the action that you did. If for the latter half of the

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year for the latter half of Allah will God you, you got a lot of commands, okay, you're careful to follow them. You got your prayers, you got the limits, you stay within the limits set by Allah, you got all of those things and Allah azza wa jal will guard you and protect you.

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For the law, her tecido to jack God again, for the love of god the commands of Allah, the rights of Allah the obligations of a lot that allies put the limits that allies put for you. And you will find a lot to be in front of you. You'll be upon the steer out and stuck in the straight path and the destination, you will reach you will reach that destination that you wish for that destination of Paradise, digital to jack and Allah subhanaw taala will guide you upon his straight path until you reach Allah subhanaw taala you reach what is with Allah from his paradise and his reward. Either said, ltfs, Allah Allah, and then he taught him if you ask, then ask Allah

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and this is a wonderful

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advice that relates both to an act of worship and even and you can relate it to the more I'm a lot with the people the way you deal with the people ask for the acts of worship than it is to make all of your and your esteana all of your seeking help to be from Allah subhanaw taala he cannot border what your kind of stay in you alone we worship. And you alone we ask for help either ltfs Elina, if you are going to ask, then ask a loss pinata. And that is in those things which only Allah azzawajal can do. As for asking a person who is alive and in front of you to do something that they are able to do, like asking the person to help you with something, could you help me lift this? Could you

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help me do this, then this is not forbidden. But the more you avoid it, the better. And that's why we can even expand the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam to cover even the matters of where it's not forbidden for you to ask someone, but it's not good for you. It's not healthy for you to ask people like that. But the main meaning here, there's a law that if you make to make to our to Allah, if you seek help seek help from Allah. He that says, If you ask, ask Allah, what is the antidote for staring below, and if you seek help seek help from Allah.

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And here like we said, that it contains dua to Allah alone. And that is the RNAs for Eliza alone ear canal Buddha can sustain. But it also contains that that concept of self reliance that we have in Islam, or at mode and a neffs, which really we shouldn't call it a legitimate enough self reliance, we should call it trusting in our law.

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And then trying to do as much yourself as you can. And that's a principle in Islam. And it's something the Prophet sighs I'm taught strictly to the Sahaba of the Allah I know that you put your trust in Allah and you try to do you try to, to do as much yourself as you can and not to ask other people. Even though the primary meaning of this is the Prophet size is indicating to him a towhead. calling upon allies which are alone, seeking help from Allah azzawajal alone ESL TFS arena, if you ask them ask Allah, why it is time to fester in Billa. And if you seek help and seek help from Allah, and how many people fell into schilke, Villa he as well because of this, so many, in fact, if

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you look at the Muslim, the majority of the issues in the Muslim Ummah, have people falling into a shaky at actions of [???]can polytheism. It happened through this, because they didn't ask allies which are alone. And so they took to make into it other than Allah as a means of reaching Allah. And they didn't seek help from allies alone. So they sought help from the things which Allah had not permitted them to seek help from. So this really is a vital lesson for every Muslim and it's a vital part of the total view that the Prophet system is giving him a tarbiyah in terms of tawheed he s ltfs la la ye they're starting to fester and Billa if you ask them, ask a line if you seek help and

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seek help from Allah, and also to be in terms of his or her luck and what I'm allowed with the people, that when you deal with the people don't be with the people who is always asking, don't be from the people has your hand out to the people what you want something, go and ask what you want from Allah as origin and that has an aspect of the bidat which is a towhead. And it also has an aspect of the morality, the actions and the dealings with people and that is that a person tries to avoid and keep away

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From what is in the hands of the people, and to put their trust and their reliance upon Allah subhanaw taala alone then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he taught Abdullah Arbus wireless and met Allah which Tamar at Allah in federal cabbie sheet in Lemmy And Pharaoh Katie lebih sheet and Clyde ketubah hula hula I know that if they're all on they came together to benefit you with something they wouldn't be able to benefit you with something except that a lot written it for you.

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Whether we HTML Allah Yoda rule cabbie Shea in lemmya, don't walk up in BA in Cod, ketubah, hula, hula lake. And if they all gathered together to harm you with something, they wouldn't be able to harm you except with something that Allah had written against you roofie it

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was a fetish sort of depends have been raised, and the scrolls have become dried. The Hadith is narrated by Timothy rahima Hello, Thailand is German.

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But here we see the prophets I some teaching are delighted now Thus, the practical essence of the belief in our cultural Kaaba, practically understand that if everybody comes to benefit you with something, they're not going to be able to benefit you with something acceptive alized, which has written that for you. And if they come to harm you with something they won't be able to harm you except with something that Allah azzawajal has written against you. Look at how the profitsystem is preparing us for the things that he's going to go through in his life and the difficulties that he might experience in his lifetime. And the fact that he puts his trust in Allah He asks a lie, he

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turns to Allah and he seeks the help of Allah. And he doesn't concern himself with the people either in benefit or in harm and he detaches his heart from the people and touches his heart to Allah soprano Tada. So there are lessons in this that are both practical in terms of Islam and tauheed and ibadat. And there are also lessons in terms of how you deal with the people and how you behave towards the people. And there are narrations in other than a tirmidhi in other than German activity, in which the Prophet sighs him said to me, I burst if Avila hurt. tgt. anomic got the rights of ally you'll find a lot in front of you to our ruff Illallah he for hardcore advocate fish should come to

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know Allah when things are easy, and Allah will know you when things are hard. So have a look at the benefit that he's giving to Abdullah bass, both in terms of worship and in terms of living your life and just preparing him to survive in the world. That know Allah when things are easy and Allah will know you when things are difficult. Now the words if you take to worshiping Allah azza wa jal and be firm upon that worship, when things are easy for you, Allah will be there for you when things are difficult for you. So he taught him that you're going to experience difficulties, you're going to experience troubles, don't seek benefit from people don't seek, don't worry about harm from people,

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and make sure that when things are easy for you, and you're in a situation of ease, that you turn to Allah, and then if you do that, then Allah subhanaw taala will be there for you when things are difficult. And the Prophet sighs and continued his advice, he said Weiland and namaqua Kamiya con Leo see back when I saw baccala Mia, can you take what I learned and Nasr on a server where an alpha male caught up where

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he said know that whatever missed you was never gonna hit you was never going to be for you. And whatever has before and knew was never going to miss you. Unless another a different wording of the same concept that the people if they gather together, they wouldn't be able to benefit you with something except what Allah had written for you know that whatever happens to you, was never gonna miss you. Whatever mistake was never going to happen to you. And that gives a person it gives them confidence in themselves. And it gives them trust and reliance upon a lie. So imagine how settled your heart feels. When you understand this concept. You just feel completely and utterly settled and

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completely and utterly at peace with yourself. I know that what is going to happen to you, I'm going to go out and try my best. I'm going to go and strive and struggle and work and try to find a means to get near to Allah and find the means to benefit myself in this world and in the hereafter. But if something happens to me, I know that there was no way I could have escaped except to try my best put my trust in Allah. And then trust that whatever allies decreed for me, that is what is going to be the right opportunity for me. And whatever miss me whatever happened, whatever didn't happen to me. I'm not going to start wasting my time in this dunya and using up these vital breaths that are the

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you know that the right hand man they are your capital that you trade within dystonia, those limited number of breaths that you have before you die. So I'm not gonna waste that time by worrying about what didn't happen.

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To me, oh, I shouldn't what would have happened if only I had got this job. If only I could have done that, if only I would have been able to do this. If only I could have had that if only this would have happened if only I didn't go there and if only I hadn't done this, all of these words of low and if only How I wish and how I would and I could have and I should have none of this is teaching to our bus. Don't waste your time in this whatever do your best work hard Whatever happened to you was never going to miss you and whatever mystery was never going to happen to you. Why them and then Nussle on top and know that victory comes with patience. If you want to be victorious and

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unnecessary, usually it means victory over your enemies and general victory. You know the victory Elijah and US will lie what factor when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest that victory It comes with a sub comes with patience.

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He's teaching the value of sub like Look man, taught his son the value of suffer warspear Alana saw back Be patient What? What afflicts you and what happens to you know that victory? Victory comes with patience. When you bring patients allies which gives you victory when alpha Raj America and when you have hardships and calamities relief from those hardships and calamities comes along with it. If you're going to have a hardship relief is not far away, understand you go through a hardship you go through troubles, relief is is not far away, relief comes along with it, what you saw, and along with hardship comes ease, along with difficulty comes ease. So whenever something is difficult

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for you, I know that it won't be long in sha Allah before something easy will happen to you. Before ease Allah will make things easy for you. These are life lessons. And this is why when we said that tarbiyah is about preparing your children for their life ahead. This is this is the meaning of the word to be preparing your children and preparing the young people around you and educating them and giving them the knowledge and the lessons they need, that they're going to need as they grow older. And as they live their life and after you pass away. And they continue on that job and that responsibility that you have given them and they pass on that knowledge and they continue to make to

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ask for you that ultimately they need these life lessons. And what a beautiful set of life lessons This is that victory comes with patience. And then along with hardships and calamities. There's really every time you're in a hardship or calamity remember, relief is not far away. Don't despair of the reef. Don't despair, that allies are generally never or don't despair that a lot of the relief from allies which Enola Gay assuming rohilla in the coalmine careful. Nobody despairs that Allah will relieve them from their calamities except for the disbelieving people. As for the Muslim they never despair because they know that no matter how bad the calamity is, their allies will send

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them a relief Allah will give them the relief from that calamity. And a person knows that when things are difficult, there will come a time when things will be easy. Look at the seal of the prophets lie Selim. Let your children learn from that seal, and learn from the biographies of the companions, the difficulties they went through, and ultimately allies which are brought back and brought it back to ease. And an example of that, like we mentioned that the the Sora sort of Nussle, Elijah inositol law, he will factor

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when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest or eight an essay to put all of you Dini lay of words, and you see that people come into Islam into crack in crowds. This is an example. Look at the hardships the Prophet sighs and went through 23 years of hardship upon hardship, and yet Allah azza wa jal, every time there was a hardship, Allah brought ease, a lebra ease until in the end our lives which are brought to people into Islamic crowds. So he's teaching us these life lessons, and preparing him in this way for the future things that he will experience the future difficulties that he will experience and also how to go on through his life. And like we said, whenever we're talking

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about the worldly things, we're talking about them in the light of Islam, what will make a lot pleased with you? I mean, for example, poverty is a worldly thing, ie being poor or being rich, it's a worldly thing. But how do you handle that in a way that is pleasing to allies, which and that's when we talk about therapy and the worldly matters. We're talking about therapy in a way that brings you near to Allah, in response to the things that you experience in your life. So I'm going to conclude this episode here in sha Allah, Allah to Allah. We're going to go on to talk about principles in therapy. So we're going to look at some AR and ahaadeeth inshallah, that are all solid

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principles as it relates to tarbiyah things you have to remember when you're trying to nurture and raise your children inshallah, to Allah. We're gonna continue on to give examples of that inshallah, we'll talk about educating your children in terms of Islam and how you educate your

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Children in terms of the worldly life, inshallah all of that is going to come up in this course on the Muslim family brought to you by a madrasa tutor Maria that's what allowed me it easy for me to mention and Alon was best wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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