Channel: Tawfique Chowdhury
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Santa Monica rahmatullah wa barakato.
My dearest brothers and sisters,
in the early 1400s,
the bishops and the religious authorities of the Christian world got together
in a beautiful place called London.
Very beautiful place called London. And they all got together to debate whether women were human or not.
And they came up with the conclusion that no, they were not human.
Right? In the year 1746, in France, again, a very enlightened group of Christian clergy men got together in a very beautiful place, in a very, very beautiful place called Paris.
In order to debate whether women truly were devils are how we improved in our thought of who they are. So they had a debate for three days intense debate,
pros and cons, pluses and minuses. Who are they? What are they? What's the true nature?
The talking about the mothers, for God's sakes, the talking about their mothers and their wives and their daughters and their sisters. What did they conclude they concluded that they are human, but their souls are lesser than the souls of men.
And this was a conclusion of this council of clergymen in the year 1746.
And in the year 1700 700,
the birth of Jesus Christ, a man by the name of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam had a very different conclusion.
He had said, women
are not only equal to men, but they can actually be sometimes even better than men.
So powerful clothing, it is such a shame that when our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, this Blizzard men who gave such value to women, and remove these misconceptions, and these idiocracy is that people said about their other half.
That's Pamela that it is now today that we say that Islam, denigrates women.
What a ironies panel, what a hypocrisy, what hypocrisy, the West, our children are the same bishops from France, and of the shame saying bishops from from UK, who said these sort of things, and today Now we believe that we have liberated women, whereas Islam had done that so many years ago.
My brothers and my sisters, truly, not only did Islam liberate women, but of assurity, Allah subhanaw taala explained that in the ad, he gave women far more credit than we do sometimes. In fact, in a very amazing couple of verses in Surah, Allah, Allah subhana wa Taala teaches us a very important lesson, he teaches us that a woman can indeed be better than a man. And he says it very clearly. And he says it with a very, very clear example, let me tell you the story of the wife of imraan alayhi salatu was salam, the mother of Millennium?
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any, oh my god, I have consecrated for you made sacred for you? What is in my belly, meaning she was pregnant. So she wanted to make whatever was in her belly sacred for the cause of God only in understanding, indeed you are all hearing and all knowing for llama Matata Kala therapy in the water to her olsa
when she delivered the baby, she said, Oh Allah, I have delivered a female child.
female child, she wasn't expecting that. Whenever someone says I'm going to keep this child for God, I'm going to do something special with this child. What do they think male? The default is the male isn't it? The default is the male. But Allah wanted to prove a point. So what was the point? It's coming up very soon. So follow my mother when she gave birth to the baby. Cause she said what Allah in the water have given birth to a female child. Then she says, what
will be my water only Allah knows
Allah why I have given a female child, one in me suddenly to her Maruyama,
Amina Shakeology. And I have called her by blessing name of Miriam. And indeed I seek protection for her and for her progeny from her person. Shaytan. Then Allah says masses for the Kabbalah Rabu hobby capulin Hassanein? Well, I'm better than Hassan and Rockefeller has a career. So her Lord, meaning the lord of this woman, the mother accepted this offering from her with a beautiful acceptance and gave her a beautiful dwelling and made the prophets Acharya responsible over the affairs of Miriam
cool about the hola la has a Korean lava in the horoscope. Every time Zachary would end up on millennium. He would find so much food and wealth with her colada he would say. Yeah, Maria anala, kihavah Omani of where in the world is all this from call that she would say? Who Amina Angela, it's from Allah. Don't you know as a career in Allah Yasuko mania shall be
the Indeed Allah provides to whoever he wills without any any measure them. Then listen to this next verse, For this is the point of my evidence today. And if the only thing he go back with is this next verse, that will be sufficient. Because God says hoonah leka as a carrier of Babu. It is at that point, because the advice of Millennium that she that Zachary the prophet of God called out to Allah. Say what? Oh Allah give me a righteous child.
Or Allah give me a righteous blessing child, indeed, in La Casa de la verily you hear all the words. So my friends, this is my point of evidence today, that a woman taught a prophet
to have tokuma that a woman taught a prophet to have a man in Allah than a woman taught a prophet, how she is the recipient of so much good and so much hair from Allah. And that was because of a superior level of demand, superior level of demand that she had. Indeed, she was an exemplary woman, the mother of Isa Jesus Christ, may Allah have mercy on them both my brothers my sisters, in Islam, Allah subhanho wa Taala gives the examples of the women of Paradise and makes the parable of the women of Paradise to pearls. Have you noticed that? He says either either one has it? No, no no. If you wait to see the beautiful women the paradise you will think that they like conceal pearls. Have
you seen concealed pearls? While imagine pearls beautiful mother of pearl covered in satin, beautiful satin silk clothing covered up lightly covered up and then lightly uncovered beautiful covered of pearls that's how
that's what Allah subhanaw taala describes women of gender as I can see our brothers smiling like happiness
I think your lighting of the room
Mashallah beautiful bright smile Mashallah. Happy man. Excellent. Now, this is important. You know why it's important? Why have you thought of why does God give the example of the women of Paradise to data pearls? Have you thought of that? Well, if you look into history, pearls were the most expensive of all jewelry.
pearls were the most expensive sought diamonds, Diamonds Are Forever to be his marketing tactic. It's a marketing gimmick. It never used to be diamonds as a woman's best friend was it was always a purse was a woman's and a man's best friend as well. Because pearls used to fund wars with one wall, one wall with one poem sorry, they would fund multiple wars. It was well known that the Romans would use pause to stop their throne Thrones. They would use pearls to stop their horses. With a single Pearl, they would find multiple battles into Germania, multiple battles for years and centuries years they would fight with just one per and also in that infamous, infamous banquet, which was
thrown by Cleopatra. Have you ever read about that? The banquet, the most expensive banquet in history? What was the most expensive banquet in history? The most expensive bandwidth in history you can read up in sight again.
Ripley's Believe it or not. No, it's not actually.
It's in the almanac of the of the world records right?
You can read it in that. It says the world's most expensive banquet was the banquet of Cleopatra for Marc Anthony when Marc Anthony wanted to invade Egypt. So Cleopatra invited Marc Anthony to a to some supper for some food, and said, I'm going to give you the most expensive and most amazing banquets and Marc Anthony rocks up thinking there's going to be like plates of food, and all of the sheep of Egypt are going to be slaughtered for him and he's going to have the most expensive thing, right? The amazing guy is going to come and conquer Egypt and these slaves of his are going to offer the best offering. So what did Cleopatra do? As soon as Mark Antony walked into her palace,
Cleopatra said no food, nothing. There's nothing there except a goblet of wine.
Goblet of wine. Then she took a mother of pearl that she had, right. One mother Pearl, nother mother polish, she had earrings, that she dissolved the mother of pearl in one of the one goblets and she dissolved the other one and the other one goblet, and she gave it to Marc Anthony to drink. And Marc Anthony agreed This is the most expensive banker.
So you see the pearls was the most expensive thing, the most precious thing any man would die and killed for a pole. And that's why God gives examples of pearls. Because anything else, particularly shiny are pretty normal because they were counted to be the most expensive of all human jewelry of any jewelry to mankind.
Right? So what's what why am I talking about this? Because if the women of gender are being resembled to pearls, it means righteous men because women are gender righteous women. That's how you end up in gender. Right? Because you're righteous. So righteous men are light poles made righteous women are as expensive and as precious as
It's free. It's charity. Righteous women are as expensive as pearls. Have you not heard the habito Rasulullah says in them. The most expensive or the most precious provision that Allah has given anybody in this world is a righteous woman.
Right? That's how it all fits in. Does it make sense now? Make sense? It does, because truly righteous women are a blessing for anyone, blessing for the husband, blessing for the kids, blessing for the community, blessing for the family, blessing for the society, blessing for the nation, blessing for the world, because righteous women's panela can truly change the world. I know my wife, may Allah preserver and enter into general with me, but Allah if she could not do and did not do, or refuse to do, politely what she does for me by looking after my children, and facilitating me to do the work that I do, and I travel almost almost
75% of my weekends, right away from home. If she did not do so. I would not be able to do what I'm doing now.
Pure and simple. It is for this reason why Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the wife of a Mujahid has the reward of Ojai?
mazing isn't it? Why should a wife miss out what just the man is gonna get the reward just because he's fighting? No, he was able to fight and die in the cause of Allah because his wife was patient. And looking after his affairs if his wife wasn't doing so what his mind be able to do so sacrifice himself for less cause Not at all. It is for this reason why the wife of a fighter has the same reward as a fighter. By unnecessary corollary as well. The wife of a righteous man has the reward of the righteous man as well. In the authentic in the verses of the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala says odo do unto as large
entity you any wives into gender and be married and happy in it. In a burst with Yolanda mentioned in the facilities verse, the most number of intersections that will happen on the Day of Judgment is that a man will enter Jannah is a man will enter agenda and say Oh Allah, I am in level 72 my wife's liver 66 or Allah raised her up to me. And so Allah will accept the intercession and raise her up just because of the door of the of the husband and because of the righteousness of one of them in the other way as well is also true. If a wife is at a higher level, then she makes more to Allah Allah I can spend an eternity without my husband raising up to me, so that he also gets raised up to
the level of the wife Mashallah. My brothers and my sisters these
The examples that we have these this is truly, why righteous women are so important and so precious to us all.
Indeed, Allah subhanho wa Taala
gave us tremendous examples of exemplary women in history.
What better example Can I give you? Then? The wife of the greatest enemy of God?
around Who was she?
The wife of the Pharaoh. Nam, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said for women completed the man who were they
asked Who else?
Maria was Fatima.
And for the job of these four women completed, the man perfected the man completely perfected the man meaning they totally believed in Allah and perfected the belief in Allah with their tongues with their hearts with the limits. The actions were perfect their hearts and the action, the heart was perfect, and their statement of the time was perfect. And it is for this reason why they had completed who it is for women. Well, we spoke with Miriam, what about us? She was the wife of a tyrant. So next time, when one of you thinks that your husband is so bad, or your husband you know, doesn't pray Your husband is not as practicing as you are, perhaps, don't think that you are going
to be doomed.
Take it easy. Take one step back. Allah subhanho wa Taala showed that the wife of us of around could have perfected her Eman. So you too, can perfect your event too. You too can excel, you too can be saved and YouTube can be a very, very righteous person just like she was. What did she do? By the way? She said the prophet of God she loved musanze and she was a stepmom for Musa alayhis salaam and of course that ended up being a great mercy for all of mankind because Moosa saved the children of Israel Israel, from the from the from the Nazi Pharaoh.
Also take the example of a digital dilemma. In the most deepest and the darkest times also less SLM. This woman was, was his beloved, this woman was his was his soulmate. This woman was it for him. So Pamela, he married her, and she was patient. He went to the cave of Hira for six months or eight months only to come back to this, get some food and then go up again. And she was patient.
He struggled to spread the religion
would be out of the hole, not have enough money to bring back home for food, she would be patient. And yet on the day, when he came back from the Cave of Hira thinking that he had gone mad, it was she was she, it was her idea of yamana who said
no, Allah will never will never disgrace you.
Allah will never disgrace you. It was she who did it. Do you know the effect of the actions of Fallujah on this man will hammer Salah Let me tell you let me demonstrate how deeply and madly this man was in love with this woman
due to her actions.
In one authentic narration in Mohali, is narrated to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was asleep.
And this was in Medina when he was asleep and he wasn't the hot off. I should have been asleep at that time. Suddenly, a woman knocked on the door and said a Salam aleikum said what, Sir Michael? Suddenly the Prophet woke up in us in complete shock and bewilderment. Imagine waking up like you're asleep.
He had just heard
a sound that sounded like
Why? Because that was
the sister of Khadija whose voice resemble the voice of Khadija SubhanAllah. So Rasulullah sallallahu had just heard the voice of Khadija again, and he could not forget that voice of all voices, the one that he could never ever make you forget, was the voice of his soulmate Khadija
because he could recognize that
he could recognize that forever and he would never ever forget.
So what did he say? Listen to what he said. Or Allah. Allah. Allah, Allah Allah said what? Or Allah Don't torture me make this the voice of her layer of make this hard and not Khadija Don't make me hear voices Yama. Make this the voice of Hannah
We look for love in the worst of places in the darkest in the coldest and the ugliest of the deepest part of the night, wrong places. This is love. A love when a man is still in love with a woman many years after she's passed away, many years after even her family has forgotten about her. This is what you call love. So at that point
I should have
saw the expression also was excellent. And what do you think she said?
She said, Yeah, Rasulullah Oh, prophet of God. What do you want with a woman who has passed away and her bones have dried up and she's become because it's become dust?
One thing you can't get rid of his jealousy. Right? What do you want with the woman who's passed away bones become become dry as become dust? What do you want with her? And so and then she's she said,
whilst Allah has given you something better than her
Who's she talking about?
Right, she's talking about herself Mashallah so articulate. So, what?
So what did Rasulullah saw some say Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said, no one lie. Allah has not given me better than her. Ima La Raza. Connie haba Indeed, Allah has blessed me with her love.
My brothers, my sisters. The challenge on your sisters is to make your husbands fall in love, like a DJ made Rasulullah system fall in love with them. The challenge for you is to create a husband that loves you long after you pass away. The challenge for you is to create husbands so madly in love that he'll be like shajahan Who knows? shajahan
una Shoshana, Shoshana Shahar The one who built Taj Mahal, remember the one
who knows the story shajahan he had this really pretty wife called us
and said that, you know, you have to promise me you'll never get married to anyone after me which he readily promised.
And then thereafter, when when she passed away from childbirth. Then thereafter, he built a huge palace and he got all the most amazing, amazing stones for all the deepest parts of the Ganges and for all different parts of India. And then, did you know what the story then after they built a big mausoleum to house the grave of us who had become dust and bones by now? Right to build that Muslim? He poked their eyes up and cut their hands off of all the workers 2000 workers it took to build that huge thing. He cut the hands off and poke the isaa
please brothers don't do that.
Okay, but obviously the reason why I did that was because he didn't want anyone to ever build another replica of the Taj Mahal.
Okay. And he did that as a dedication to his wife to his wife whom does
all I'm gonna say his mom
tells me is excellent or perfect, right in Arabic.
Take the example my brothers my my sisters have I should have done that as well. At the age of 18 Rasulullah. Selim passed away when she was married to a school system.
You see, the wives also as Islam truly had a difficult time
because he had a number of wives right. He had nine wives at one stage. And the wiser assessor, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam traveled in his 10 years in Medina. He spent three years traveling 36 months he traveled in 19 battles he fought. So if we fought 19 battles, he traveled 36 months of that seven years he was in Medina, right? Semitism, he didn't have that every single year that he was in Medina. in Ramadan, he spent 10 days in Africa. Okay. etica basically means secluding yourself in the mosque away from everyone else so that you can remember the day that you will be alone with your God in the belly of the grave. So he did a decaf for 10 days in Ramadan.
Every single year, in the last year, he stayed with erotica for 20 days in Ramadan. Okay. On top of that, in one of the years he actually stayed away from all of his wives for about one month, if you minus from the seven years that he was with his wives because everything else he was traveling or whatever.
From that you minus all the daisy Antica, and you minus all the days that he was in back in. He was in a he had stayed away with his wives. And you divide that by the number of wives he had, what's the average number of nights you get? I did the sons and I got an average of 2.18 nights per wife per month.
I can see silence. I can actually see silence this time. Not just hear it.
Yeah, 2.18 nights. What makes a woman stay with a man when the man can only give her 2.18 nights a month?
It takes a woman of tremendous patience. Would you agree? It takes an exemplary woman, a woman of gentlemen. And this is why I pray and I make a sincere door to Allah. May Allah give our mothers, the Wise Rasulullah says Allah and enter them into highest agenda with their hubby with their beloved or solar system for an eternity. Because the sacrifice the most difficult thing to them in order to achieve some greatness, and in order to achieve something great for Islam, which they did Panama, an 18 year old woman, never to get married after her beloved Rasulullah sysm passed away was an amazing thing. I should have the landlord say, I used to make dua to Allah Allah let me see my
beloved husband in my dreams. So Allah answer my door and he let me see him every second day, my dream.
And then she used to say I couldn't tolerate it sometimes. So I'd make more door to Allah until Allah answer my door and he let me see him every single day in my dream.
So Pamela, you think about it. It takes an exemplary woman will like exemplary woman of exemplary patience, exemplary dedication to be how these exemplary women was Pamela truly they were pearls. Truly they were pearls. Pamela, how else could Rasulullah Assalam do what he did, if he didn't have examples of these exemplary women, that his wives would take the example of this beautiful woman by the name of Fatima rhodiola, the daughter of Rasulullah sysm, one of those who also had perfected her Eman or her faith, as well, as the sort of Lazarus Ellen had said, the prophet has also said that Fatima would be the first to follow him from his family to the Hereafter, meaning that she will
be first to pass away. In one amazing, amazing couple of verses. Allah Subhana Allah says, Allah revealed a couple of verses of Quran which I came across. When I was reading the seal of of eternal Josie. I came across his explanation of a couple of verses of the Quran. And verses of the Quran go like this.
Allah subhanho wa Taala says, will you remove from Allah who be Myskina Maja tema sera in the monitor mo?
Lederman condesa, our shikara in Nevada have never been a Yeoman Abu Salah Kampala. What does this verse say? This verse mentions that Allah subhanho wa Taala quotes, people who give charity, the cause of Allah are those who say, verily, they feed the poor, the orphan and the the poor, the orphan and the prisoner of war, the poor, the orphan and the prisoner of war. By the way, a prisoner prisoner of war was actually a non Muslim, isn't it? That's what they were prisoners of war. So Allah is actually saying that it's actually good to be to give charity to non Muslims. So next time you actually ask yourself, can I do charity? normlessness? Can I feed them can I do? Of course we
can. Goodness to all of humanity is what Islam talks about. So you know that they feed out of the love of Allah, you tell me the Dharma and Hopi Myskina a poor man. Will you teach an orphan was a seal and a POW prisoner of war? And they say in the moment, he lovingly referred you for the face of Allah lamudi domain comm jazza and we do not ask you for any reward in return. What a shocker nor even a word effects. In the Manohar formula Bina Yama, mana, Busan, Kampala. Verily we fear a Day. We do this because we are afraid for ourselves on a day in which the hearts will turn inside out from fear on that day, which is the day of judgment.
Right. And these verses, by the agreement of all the scholars Islam was revealed regarding father mother with your loved one, the reveal regarding the father of the land. Why? Because I needed the man who was the
Son in law of association I'm used to carry things on his head and ferry water and ferry things from people's house to other houses and then get some some wheat and barley for as payment. You take the wheat and barley at home Father battilana will then use the wheat and barley to actually cook bread with it. So one day he did some of the fairing came home after a hard day's work and a 55 degree Celsius heater Medina which I'm telling you is far hotter than Malaysia brought that that that barley back home, she made bread with it, she made three loaves of bread, one for her, one for him, and one for husband and Jose. But before the food could be served to Addy and Hassan Hassan Husayn a
prisoner of war walked by. So she looked at it saw that he just been freed and he is hungry. So she gave her a piece of bread two months ago, and an orphan passed by, she rubbed her hand over his head fell sorry, pity and gave a piece of bread, not thinking of anything, not thinking where they're going to eat. And then thereafter, a poor person walked by, actually gave another piece of bread. So the blended family went to bed hungry that night, the whole family. And so Allah revealed this verse.
Do you know what's amazing about this verse? Do you know what's amazing? What is worse is that thereafter after these verses, God describes parallettes in no less than 15 verses, and extensive description of gentlemen, extensive description of paradise. Now whenever you go to any extensive description of Paradise in the Quran, you will find that God talks about the beautiful women of agenda as well which are the women or the husbands that other wives created for husbands. God talks about them except for these places this part in the
in this extensive description of gender God does not talk about the whole name other women have gender beautiful women or gentlemen.
Why ignore Josie said
it No. Josie said amazing when I read this like oh my god, I'm believable. You want to hear it?
keep you in suspense.
Okay, ignore Josie melon merciful himself. Allah subhanho wa Taala love the action of Fatima so much, and knew her jealousy
of other women, because she didn't want to take another wife knew her jealousy so much so that he revealed verses about gender and did not mention the whole thing at all. Because he did not want to want to offend.
Fatima rhodiola Allahu Akbar. Amazing.
These verses will obviously reveal for Fatima right, because the good death that she did. He didn't want to offend a slave to offend the slave. He knows the slave doesn't like something he won't even mentioned. And because of the feeling of offending his slave because we're so happy and so amazed with her act. You see righteous women, when they do righteous deeds.
Then By Allah, not only are they equal to men, they can far exceed men as well.
So much so that Allah above the seven heavens can reveal versus recited to the Gale judgment in amazement of his slave in amazement of the actions of a righteous woman by the name of father mouth of the alarm.
My brothers and sisters, let me give you other examples other than the wives or the family of Rasulullah system. Take the example of a woman by the name of Unruh Mesa
and she was the wife of a man of a Sahaba by the name of Abu talha, as you may saw initially was married to a man by the name of Malik, who was a drunkard he was a non Muslim and he died died in his disbelief. From Malik albumin, Sal gave birth to two sons, which I'm sure you know the names. Number one is unexplained Malick. And number two is
okay. It's okay. I have five children two is my wife was looking after them. I wouldn't be here.
All right. So So Pamela Lammers, you know, mother's my mother's you know, mothers.
are you paying attention?
Just kidding. So a woman saw she gave birth to two sons whose names you all know, number one was honestly Malik and number two was Bala Bara, Malik and Malik at the age of four. a roommate saw this woman said that Rasulullah sallallahu
Lem needs a servant, someone to look after his affairs not really servant to do this and that, but someone to be with him Operations Manager for any for lack of better words for little things. Okay rspa secretary, if I may use that term, or like call it a servant. Okay, I needed a servant to look after his affairs and to help him do this and that, get this and get that. So what did you do at the age of four at the tender age of four, at the tender age of four, beginning of four, not even ending of four at the beginning of four. She went to law school as a seller, even though she lived about 1010 houses down the road, she rented houses
and said, Dr. rasulillah, I would like my son, to be your servant, and to serve you and to stay with you in your house. So the solar system accepted that Now my question is to you is this at the age of four is a really tender age. It's an age when you play around with your children. It's an age where my daughter's pandamonium is about three and a half at the moment. So cute, so cute. Ah, you want to bite her cheeks. And then you get afraid that the child security agencies will be called upon you so you don't bite her cheeks. So you kiss her cheeks.
So cute smile at the tender age, when they're speaking to you on the Skype and phone. I don't know what she's saying. But she's having a deep conversation with me telling you everything that I was doing useless during that age, you just want to freeze them at that age, please marry him don't grow up.
Please, we're gonna freeze, you're that age don't grow up anymore. We love you at that age, anything more than anything more, and then we unfortunately tend to lose our children, or they become older and uninteresting.
At that age, beautiful. That case is like a million dollar case, Mashallah. And she runs and she hugs her dad and takes the shoe off her shoes of my of my feet and takes my socks. And then she gets me what us at that age, Mama, that was water she runs he gets what it's amazing.
So the tender age of four, which mother would do that?
Either one of two types of woman would do it either someone completely mad,
or someone completely sane, but knows what's right for her kids. And that was a roommate. So you see, this boy grew up in the household, a solar system. So much so that of the descriptions or rasulillah system that we have available to us of how the man Mohammed system looked? Right. The only ones who described Rasulullah saw some other little Sahaba that were little at that time. The only descriptions we have a from us. And from Abdullah Ahmed, and from few other Sahaba were all little small at the time, Abu Bakr never described. Our current describes why, because whenever they were in his presence, they lowered their eyes. They were in so much humility and humbleness in his
presence, that they could not bear to raise their eyesight to look at him. So it was the little ones that looked at him, you know, the little ones would look at him. And so he was able to describe our solar system in great detail. And honestly allowed us to say, because he'd become blind towards the end of his life, he said, My eyes become blind, but I can see my beloved Rasulullah in my dreams. So he is to see your solar system as well as he even though he had become blind, Mashallah. And as the Prophet says, certain servant, little servant, became such a righteous man. And the Prophet system makes so much dua for this man made so much though other others would say, Well, I could not move a
single stone, except that I found gold underneath it.
Right, meaning that he couldn't do anything. So the law would give him wealth and provisions until when he passed away. He had no less than 126 children
76 of whom passed away before him.
So Pamela, obviously, they weren't all from the same wife.
Okay, anyway, but the whole point was the man was exceptionally blessed. And the man was exceptionally rich. When he passed away, he had three wives. And when we had these three wives, he left money behind for them.
And when you calculate the amount of money that he left behind, for each of them, it's approximately approximately after my calculations for what money was worth at that time to now approximately about 36 million US dollars for each one of his wives. And that is, by the way, after you calculate the fact after we calculate the fact that the children
The wives get one eight, if there's children in an inheritance law, wives get one eighth. And if he has three wives, then that's a third of one eight. So that's, I wanted to say 56 million. The 36. So 36 million that's 131. A
Masha Allah, the best of this world and the best of the hereafter. Best of this world vessels here after, why because of this woman who sacrificed our deepest desires in order to please in order to, to do what is better and righteous and better for her better for example, we're not saying that our sister should do that, sisters, thank you. I don't want your four year old kid. I can't raise them. I've got my own kids. Thank you.
inshallah, I'm not saying that we should do the same. Well, what I am saying is look at the examples of such a person
that takes exemplary dedication, exemplary dedication, and tremendous patience to be able to do that, especially when your child is living and growing up just 10 blocks down the road 10 houses down the roads Pamela.
Take the example of Mesa with Abu Dhabi, with Abu Dhabi, how many married when Mesa married Abu
Abu talha was a disbeliever. So who Mesa basically told her that I would marry you as long as you accept Islam, so don't accept that Islam and that was her marriage gift which was adopted as Islam. So they had a happy relationship. This was of course after Malika died, which was the first husband had passed away after drinking etc. Many years later, she migrated to Medina and then got married to Abu Dhabi, right. So her second daughter was a righteous man, and with with Alamosa, he had one child, one son on one and only Son, who I used to love so much he used to play with this child is to love this child and as like any father, and I used to work in the crops and cultivation garden the
morning and come back at night after work for a hard day in cultivating wheat and barley and all the sort of things in Medina. So I will tell her one day I went away to work, and Mesa was looking after the child. And lo and behold, the child put something in his mouth started choking and unfortunately the child passed away. The child passed away at a tender age of one or two years old, the child passed away. So Mesa, the mother was heartbroken. Imagine a child passing away. What would you do? Cry, despair, in agony, you have to be tearing inside you. You don't know what to say your limbs would fail you his legs would give away. You would your head would be aching. Your heart would be
pounding your mind would think ridiculous things. Right? We can imagine all of these things right? If our child passed away, don't you think so. But what the roommates are do? Well, she said
it's going to be she have obviously shed tears and she was sad and very, very sad. But then she calmed herself down. This is an authentic Malaysian Rouhani. she calmed herself down and said it is time for Margaret and we'll be back.
And she didn't want
to come back to a house of sadness. He wanted. She wanted to come back to house her happiness. What did she do? She put the child back into the court into the bed covered the blanket up with the child's head outside of course still dead by the way. child's dead. But patting the child as if putting the child to sleep and in walks in Alabama
says Oh, is he asleep? Yes.
I'll make noise. So she Pat's the child and pretends the child is asleep. So both of us, okay, okay. I won't wake up the child now.
mazing. And this authentic narration. Then she went and she cooked food. And she put it in front of them. And they ate and they and she she was happy with him. And after they ate, they went to sleep. And I will tell how we wanted to sleep with her.
And guess what she actually slept with him on that night.
In the morning, when they woke up for fudger time, as I was given a Buddha woke up. First thing he did was go to assignments to wake us and I play with this little apple of his eye. And he goes there and he finds the child called
Panama. The child is did that he turns around and looks at the mesa Did you know this? remains I said what I
But I didn't want to trouble you. Because I knew you'd have a hard day and I didn't want you to
Coming back to a house of sadness.
You think about this, this is it's an it's insane.
It's not insanity. This actually by Allah is actually how the most sane people were, that they loved each other so much. So there was so exemplary in their mannerism to each other that they didn't want to even disturb the husband and his feelings. Because yes, eventually it does, we'll find out that the child has died. But while traveling now on the poor man's had a very difficult day at work while traveling now didn't need, let him have some food. He didn't have a little bit of sleep. And then thereafter, he would be sad. Time will come for his sadness, you will find that he wasn't going to hide it.
But look how exemplary this woman was. I used to have a teacher by the name of Abu Yusuf. He was a student of shareholder value rahimullah, who had come to Melbourne, Australia to teach us many, many, many years ago.
He used to give classes whenever he gave classes was from Jordan, he would say, Oh, how I miss my wife, Sophia. He would speak about his wife, praising his wife like there was no other women in the audience at all. He would say, Oh, how I miss my wife, Sophia, and he would tell us what lie he would tell us that every single time he would walk into the house,
his wife, Sophia would run to him, would hug him would kiss him, take his coat off him, take his bags, have him take his shoes off his feet, wash his feet, put the food on the table, and then take the food in her head and then feed it. feed it to him. And he says oh, I miss my wife, Sophia.
Subhan Allah. May Allah forgive our brother, our chef I will use he passed away. on a trip between Melbourne and Sydney in a car accidents Pamela passed away, and he never got to see his wife's a finger. I hope Allah azza wa jal joins them up again in
Panama. Truly, it's exemplary women like this, that control a man's heart. When a woman is so exemplary, when a woman is a princess, she will build a prince. If she can't marry one, she'll build a prince in her home. And truly my brothers and sisters, surely, if she doesn't build a prince in her husband, then she will build a prince in her children. Because Such are the exemplary women by law, such exemplary women of Islam.
Take the example my friends have a woman by the name of
what's her name again? the sister of eyeshadow. Yolanda? What was her name?
A smile. A smile with
was a woman who prepared her son for battle.
She was a woman who was tough.
Ready? She wanted to prepare her child for battle. Who was her son of the loved ones baby.
Mashallah prepare them for battle. The only one to do to laugh when maka was being pelted with stones in the pillage of mankind the time of, of Yes, he was who was Gibbons bear. He was the one who was walking around. He was the one who was doing the work. And he made his her son into this exemplary human being this fighter in the closet.
And but Allah, this man of London's read, came back to our to her to his mother, and said, Oh, my mother, do you see this pillage of Makkah going on? What do you ordered me to do? And the mother of course replied, or my son death is better than his living. And she ordered his or her son to go out and fight until he passed away because she would rather Muslims live in Israel and honor upon honor them to live a life of disgrace. And she would rather sacrifice a son for this cause rather than bring disgrace upon upon Makkah and upon the Muslims in Makkah,
my brothers, my sisters, I can give you so many examples of just getting started. I've got literally
literally 50 examples here.
By the women, when they're exemplary they truly are exemplary. The mother of
the mother buhari, buhari and ally mercy upon him became blind at the age of 12.
And regained his sight at the age of 16. Because he said, My mother used to make so much more for me when I when I lost
Once and this is Bahari writing in the monotony of his own me in the story of his mom. He wrote that at the age of 16, my mom made so much to offer me for the last four years since I lost my eyesight, that she saw a dream where the brain came to a dream and said, Allah has returned. If a man is the son of the Prophet came to own a dream, and said, Allah has returned the eyesight of your son because of his love for him.
He says, I've memorized more than a million Hadith with exchange right and memorize more than a million Hadith with exchange. 500,000 of them are memorized when I was blind.
It was when he was blind. What the How did you memorize when he was blind when he couldn't read? You see, his mother used to patiently sit and read to him.
She read and read and read and read and read until Bukhari memorized it
Subhanallah Amazing, isn't it? It's when the mother when the mother does this to the child, every one of you have a chance to raise Biharis in your home. Every one of you can. Every one of you loves your children, don't you, you love your children. Every time someone comes, you buy them nice clothes, every time winter comes, you buy the even better clothes, then summer comes again. Then you buy them different wardrobe again, then comes winter. Then again, you buy the new clothes, you give them every comfort, you give them every care. But unfortunately brothers and sisters
the true care that we fail to give them is to treat the is to is to raise them to be exemplary human beings for the alpha. And that is exactly what I hope that you will all be inspired from the stories of these great women to do with your own children.
Because truly, don't you see how when Bukhari recites when we say, Allah, when you say, written narrated by Buhari, we say Mel, Mel Emerson, are we not actually giving the reward back to his mom as well? Of course because the mother made him memorize it. So every time they actually benefited from Buhari, guess what it's the mom was getting the reward as well.
You see the prophets of Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in the Quran in the National nokian Mota one up tomorrow.
Welcome Russia in Asana, houfy kita movie not a movie. This is in Surya see what does Allah say? Verily, We are the ones who have created life and death. And we are the ones who will write down what people have done, and effect of their deeds. So if I'm giving this knowledge to you, then insha Allah This is going to be if I do do it with with sincerity, this is in my deeds. And if you act upon the knowledge This is for my deeds as well because that's the actions of my deeds. But did you realize this point, that my beloved father, my Steam father, Allah and to me and him and Jenna hand in hand, my esteemed father is now getting the same reward whilst he's asleep, all the time. Yes,
whilst is asleep in Australia,
has a difficult day had his nice food, inshallah had a nice meal. And now he's asleep. And he's getting the same reward. Once his son is doing that, you know why? Because I am from the effect of his deeds have been about said, the sons of a man, the children of a person, of a man and a woman, the children are from the effect of their deeds. So your children, if they're good, then the what they do will be in your deeds as well. And if they do bad,
then that will be from the effect of your deeds as well. So be wary of what you teach your children, and rejoice if you've taught them something great. create them into great leaders. If you cannot be a ruler, well, then you have a potential of building a ruler, who can have tremendous effect on this world. And you whilst you're in the comfort of your home can be the recipient of all that reward that your son is doing, and all the magnificent thing that he's earning, so build righteous children, be that woman that Rocks the Cradle, and as a result by default and de facto rules the world.
be that person my brothers and sisters, my sisters in Islam be that woman, the one who can truly, truly change the world through her effect on our children. truly change the world by her effect on our children because by law, you can truly, truly do so much of service to Islam if you were to raise the next generation to be exemplary human beings. Take the example of the mother of Salah Medina Ub rhodiola, one Mother of Salahuddin will be used to lash her son lashing
at the age of six years old at the age of six, used to send Salahuddin to where to where the Knights would train the Muslim Knights will be training. You would say go my son way
up in the morning, go and clean the stables go and prepare the swords with the fighting and the training, watch them train and he would not, she would not allow him to come back home until the nightfall watching them how they fought, watching them did it at the age of six did Salahuddin conquered Jerusalem except by the training of a mother like this? And she was a Kurdish woman. She was a Kurdish woman. And that's what the scholars used to say the son of the Canadian, the son of the Kurdish woman conquered for us Jerusalem. Which is why our brothers and sisters Mashallah now are still there. It is in Islam, third holiest place Mashallah lover. Has it not happened because of
dedication and mother's like this? So, Pamela, because of this, Mr. Malik mela, mercy upon him, said, Bala, the greatest reason for me being where I am today is my mother. My mother would wake me up after fudger my mother would wake me up before fudger make me Give me a shower, put my turban on in my head. And at fudger time, send me off to the to the Sala and say go and study and come back and might fall and I would come back and might fall. She would take my clothes off my body. She would ask me what I learned that day. Then she would prepare food for me and I would eat and then she would stay awake until I fell asleep.
This is the mother of Imam Malik,
my brothers and my sisters, my beloved mothers in the audience. What do you want to achieve with your children?
Before that, can I ask you a question? What do you want to achieve with your life? What is it that you want to be?
Why do you just want to be the wife of this Man in the audience? Why not be the wife of this Man in the audience but also something exceptional for this owner, the builder of a nation builder the razor of a nation builder.
Raise your kids to be nation builders oma builders in your home. Raise your husband's to be people that truly helped oma
for goodness sakes, don't cook for him if he doesn't listen to you.
Use your charms.
Women have ways right? My wife has ways over me. I don't even realize that it works.
Okay, use your charms use your tactics. Use your energies. Use your strength. Use your focus is your dedication. Use your passion, use emotion. Use your heart use your mind. Build your families, build your children, build your husbands, build the community help the home and become like these exemplary women who are Mashallah Shere Khan, Islamic Allah.
He said, he
shows up in your emulator. He said I had 326 teachers of them 86 were women.
86 women even said I had 1300 teachers will read it whether it be from 1300 teachers, one of them 387. were women.
We are the scholars of the women today.
Where are the scholars doing it today? Why do we resign? Why do resign yourself to be less than what you can be? Why would you stop yourself to be less than what you can be? in medical school? When I was in medical school as a as a medical student before? At least 60 to 65% of the of the people studying medicine? Well, the point is, it's generally true, is it not? So have a look. The number of people actually in in in the sort of Sciences actually women outnumber men, especially in Australia. I don't know whether that's the case here in Malaysia or not. But especially in Australia, they do outnumber. They do outnumber the number of students in a class of boys and girls that actually are
at the top more women than men are more boys than more sisters, more females than males are actually at the top right. And this is the case in secular stuff. And that is why can you not also excel in Islamic Studies. Why is it that the ones that actually spreading Islam around the world are males? What ever happened to females? Where are the Muslim, Muslim female scholars? Where are they
become a female Muslim scholar? I will send my daughters to you
become a female Muslim scholar and I will listen to your talks to and you can put your finger in your mouth it doesn't sound nice. Okay, like I used to do is to give talks to 1000s of minutes
It would come to listen hiding from her. And she put a finger in her mouth like that. Why? Because she had a very pretty voice. And she didn't want the other men to feel fitment from her.
But that didn't prevent her from actually talking. That didn't prevent her from spreading the knowledge spread the non right become true exemplary women that Mashallah you're all becoming in your professional lives, become that in your religious life as well inshallah, when you do that, it will become like the examples of these of these men and women that we have seen inshallah, right. Let me end. Let me and my brothers and my sisters in Islam are reminding you all that the women who truly Excel women who are exemplary should never ever feel that they are anything less than men. Marilyn Monroe.
Marilyn Monroe said.
She said what she said.
Anything she says is nice. Right? So
she said, she said, it is imbecilic of women.
It is in basilic ounce of I'm surprised she even got that word. It's imbecilic of women.
to aim to be equal to men.
They should end better.
Write all the things you said. I think this made sense to me.
Okay, I tell this to my daughters. But I don't say it's Marilyn Monroe, because they don't need to know. Okay. Yeah. Because ultimately, women who just want to be equal to men
are just any too low.
Women want to be better than men, then that is the woman that we want. And these were the exemplary women of the mothers of the believers. And these people who completely man they weren't happy with simply being how their husbands were, no, or being like any other person. No, they said, I'm going to beat that man, I'm going to be better than him. I'm going to be more knowledgeable and more knowledgeable than him, I'm going to build a better home than him to raise a scholar in my home that is better than him. And I'm going to build a leader in my home, in my home that is going to be better than this leader. Right? That's how she says
and you have that ability. You don't have to be that yourself. You can achieve it through your children. And by Allah you can achieve it whilst you're happy,
lying in your bed asleep but Allah and your child is conquering the earth with his knowledge and his wisdom and his greatness and and you are the recipient of all that reward whilst you're lying in the belly of the grave.
Brothers and sisters up here, I hope that inshallah you will benefit from this, and that you take this example and then you change your lives and it become truly the pearls Allah subhanho wa Taala describes exemplary women to be
any questions? Yes.
Michelle, I have to thank you for such an inspiring speech. And truly inspired.
it's one of the stories of flights
taught, I believe that this thing is focused more on the profit
relationships with him as well. For example, as a teacher, she is the
greatest spiritual, emotional and
economic businesswoman who employ young
people question is the afternoonvery exceeded the details with caste etc. With the children he had an objection is that the prophets revelation. So my question is how
he managed to become a successful businesswoman. During this time, many of you
circular system articulate articulated her question quite eloquently.
And the question is that the point that that she made is very, very pertinent is that you can be a fantastic you know, believer of Allah azza wa jal and completely man while still being a exceptional businesswoman as well. And the exceptional and the exception, the her exceptional business expertise was shown by the fact that she used to choose the best of people to work with her. And of course, that's why she actually chose a solar system to actually work for her as well and to manage her affairs as well. And that actually
shows a level of business expertise when you can choose the best people to work for you and that you can attract the best people to to do business for you. Khadija rhodiola had a very helpful family uncle who was a who was a well known academic at that time
forgotten his name now someone could remind me of the name of Don colossal of Khadija
work I'm gonna fail. That's what a cappuccino fail. radi Allahu anhu was a man who was an exceptional was an exceptional academic, as well as a very different sort of person when it came to women and helping Khadija and her sisters Excel. And while working in the field was the one that actually had the job would rely on would would ask for support and advice It was really the support of a man like what a no fail that allowed Khadija Ilana to actually excel in her business and and to do what she did.
So it was worker who was also the same man that Khadija took karasuma system to and asked Allah, let me tell us what your what your cousin what your nephew has just seen. And also some sold about debris coming down. And this man, this angel came down and said that and then work of no fail said this is the most This is the same angel that came to musala sorta Salaam. And then he said I wish you I like the niku JSON. I wish I was a young camel of meaning young body when your people will throw you out. And socialism said is my people gonna throw me out? Yes, your people will throw you out. Even had you said this, this duration for what happened in the fail is an evidence that what
occurred was a was a believer. And he was one of the first to believe in our solar solar. And so work of an affair is in Gemini insha Allah. So what if there was one of those guys who actually had a very
good upbringing upon Khadija rhodiola, which was what was what was responsible for Khadija being able to do what she did.
And many of the noble women wasn't just Khadija, many of the noble women at that tribe, also used to, at that time, also used to deal with integer era as well in business and trade. For the gentleman who was not the exception. She was just a number of women. She was part of a number of women that actually used to do business at that time. So yes, there were some group of women that were also killed. You're right. But they were not. It wasn't the norm. The norm wasn't that they would kill the baby girls. It was really certain tribes that would excel in that sort of thing. It was a Bedouin Arabs, for example, that used to excel and killing. It wasn't the norm that all all
women would be killed. Rather it was from certain tribes and lower, lower levels of society that would then excel in killing their their female children. Allah knows best rest were very different from them.