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Al-Mujadilah 1-22 Tafsir 7-10
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Have you not considered that Allah knows what is in the heavens? And what is on the earth? Lm Tara? Why is Atlanta being said, to raise our attention?
To make us think that have you not considered this? Have you not understood this? That Allah is the one who knows everything that is in the heavens and everything that is in the earth? To the point that may or Cornermen najwa thela 13 illa who are albero, whom there is no private conversation of how many people have three people in law except who are albero? Whom Allah is the fourth of them?
What does it mean by this?
That when three people are holding a private conversation, it's as though Allah is the force of them, meaning that he is a part of that private conversation as well. That what people secretly speak to one another about Allah subhanaw taala. Here's all of that.
At the beginning of the surah What did we learn? Are the seminar Allah who coded Leti to God Luca fee zodia. That woman came she was complaining to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, I shall have to learn how was in the same room? She didn't hear. But Allah heard the SDK, the complaint of that woman will love who Yes, tomorrow, the Howard Akuma. And over here, what do we see that there is no najwa there is no private conversation of three people, except that Allah is a force of them, meaning he hears everything. Just as those three individuals know what's going on what's being said. And other than those three individuals don't know. Allah subhanaw taala knows very well as well.
What is the word natural I mean, naturalized from the road lifers known gene well, and network is used for a confidential conversation, a secret talk, a private conversation, and it's derived from the word network, a network is used for a raised plateau a very high place where everyone cannot reach. So when it's a high place, what does it mean? Only some distinguished persons are there. So network is a private conversation held with who? Only specific certain individuals. It's something that is discussed amongst to only certain people, it's not publicized to everybody.
And also, if you think about it, a raised plateau. Is it visible from far? Is it Yes, it is. Similarly, when people are whispering to each other, do they become very evident? Do they become very obvious? Do they attract attention? Yes, they do. And if a person is talking normally, then he doesn't attract that much attention. But when a person is whispering into the ear of the other than what happens, everybody becomes alert. What is he saying? What is she sharing? Why isn't he saying it in front of everybody?
So Allah says, may your corner Menagerie flr 13. There is no network of three except that he is the fourth of them. When a home setting in law, who has said these are home? And there is no private conversation that is between five people except that Allah is the sixth of them. Want to add an M in Delica? One XL? Nor are there any less than that? And no more than that. Less than that? I don't know from the root letters. That alone? Well, what does it mean by an M Exotica less than what? Less than the two numbers that are mentioned over here which are three, and five, right? So less than three is due and less than five is four, while X of X of what does x mean? More, so more than what?
More than three and more than five, so more than three is four and more than five is six. So in other words, any conversation, any private conversation that is held between whether two people, three people, four people, five people, six people are more or less any number a las panatela knows very well as to what people are discussing in their conversation. They can hide it from others, but they cannot hide it from Allah. Allahu Omar home except that he is with them in America and wherever they are, because sometimes people hold their private conversations in secret places as well. They hold their meetings in secret places as well.
Not in public places, but in top secret places. So no matter where they are in America know whether a mountain or a cave or some private room, in a building, where everybody does not have access to any place that they are in Allah knows about it.
So my unit Bo home, then he will inform them, demon amilo of what they have done when yo mo piano on the Day of Judgment, because in the law habitually Shay in our lien Indeed Allah is with everything, completely knowing
everything. So whether it's a private conversation or a public conversation, anything that people hold, anything that people do, anywhere, Allah subhanaw taala knows completely about it. Because Allah hears all speech, whether it is uttered secretly, or it is uttered openly, or it is kept in the heart, it's all the same to
remember we learned that who will available after world war hero while battling one of the meanings of all battling is that there is nothing beyond you.
Nothing is difficult for Allah, nothing is too far from Allah. So similarly, when people are holding private conversations that is not beyond him.
It can be beyond others, but it's not beyond Allah. Who Amar whom aina McConnell in Surah, Toba is 78 Allah says lm er n mo n ilaha illa Musa Romana dua one, one Allah Allah will who you do not know that Allah knows their secrets and their private conversations, and that Allah is the Knower of the unseen. Do they not realize this? Similarly, instead of the Zohar of it, we learn Amir Simona, and Elena's morosa, whom, when ajua Han, Bella, Luna, le de Dr. Boone, do they think that we do not know about their secrets and their private conversations? Of course, we know very well, and are messengers meaning the angels, what are they doing? sitting right there in that conversation? In
that private meeting? And what are they doing? The extra bone writing everything? So firstly, a lot of panel data is fully aware of what's going on. Secondly, the angels are also recording.
There's a record
as people are taking minutes, or whether they're taking the meeting minutes or not, who is taking the minutes? Who was taking them down? The angels are
and their minutes are most accurate? Because they don't miss out anything at all.
What can we learn from the cya?
What's the lesson in this?
that a person must be very careful about what he says whether in private or in public. Because sometimes people are very careful about their speech when it comes to speaking in public. But when it comes to private conversations, I'm just talking to my sister just talking to my friend, no third person is there, then what happens? people end up seeing many wrong things, isn't it? They end up backbiting correct? They end up saying negative things about others
passing harsh comments about others, this is not correct. Because Okay, that person might not be there. But who knows exactly what you're saying?
Allah subhanaw taala you cannot hide anything from him.
Sometimes najwa a private conversation is held by whispering into one another's ears. And sometimes it is said how in a different language that other people do not understand.
Now, you could have set something in a language that the other person did not understand. But who understands all languages, Allah subhanaw taala you cannot hide anything from him.
So a person must be very careful about what he privately secretly communicates with the other, whether it is in the form of a text message,
or it is in the form of online messaging, or it is in the form of talking to each other. Any kind of conversation that a person has remember that Allah is as a part of that conversation. Just imagine, because look at how it has been said over here, that Allahu Allah to whom he is the fourth of them. What does it mean? He's a part of that conversation in a way
that just as the other person is listening to you, Allah is listening, does does the other is reading your text aloud so knows what you have said, you cannot hide anything from him. To Be very careful, be very respectful. Don't forget the proper manners and etiquettes even in a private conversation.
We learned into law. And number seven, what integers are built only for inner who you are and Mozilla
that if you make your own jahar, meaning you say it out loud, then Allah knows the secret and also that which is more hidden.
Secret, meaning that which you communicate in private, and are far more hidden meaning what you don't even utter that you keep in your heart.
Because when our alarm will matter to us, we will be nafsa who Allah knows exactly what the soul whispers to the person as well. So the private conversations that are held within your heart, in the law, it won't be that easy to do, that you share only with one individual, or that you share with a few individuals or everybody Allah knows you at every level.
at every level, he knows you very well, so be careful.
And I'm Tara either levina know who are and in Nigeria. Have you not considered those people who were forbidden from private conversation?
Who is it? Who are these people? It refers to the Muna 15
they were forbidden from Nigeria. So Maria, Luna, then they return Lima new who are and who do that which they were forbidden.
What were they forbidden from holding private conversations? But despite the clear prohibition, what did they do? What did they do? They return to that which was forbidden to them, meaning they continued in their private conversations despite the fact that it was clearly forbidden. And when they do hold private conversations, what do they talk about? Allah says wait no Jonah. And they privately Converse yet another Jonah from the routers noon gene well, network same route yet Anna, Jonah, they mutually converse in private How? What kind of secret conversations do they hold? Bill is me with the sin well, or Danny and the aggression or more assertive muscle and disobedience to
Because usually, when a person does have a private conversation, What is he talking about?
Something that is not acceptable to everyone.
Right? Something which if they say out loud, they will not look good? Correct. So what is it that their private conversations revolve around? And isn't are Duan and Marcy etc. So,
what does isn't mean?
Sin, meaning they talk about sinful things, they talk about doing sin committing sin, because obviously they will not talk about that in public while while aggression, aggression against you, against innocent people against Muslims, while more assertive, and disobey the messenger sallallahu wasallam. This is what they tell each other to do. This is what they encourage one another to do. This is what they discuss in their private conversations.
Earlier we have learned in certain mysap I number 114. That law hierarchy Catherine Min najwa home, there is no good in many of their private conversations.
Most of the private conversations of people there's no good in them. Why? Because this is what people talk about Islam are the one mercy universal.
And lm and Amara beside the cotton. Omar rufen Oh, Islam violinists that the only natural that is good is which one? Man Amara besides the one who commands to give sadaqa meaning he whispers to the other? Why don't you give money over here? Why don't you contribute over here?
Why don't you give to so and so? Why is he doing that in private because the other person who is being given he should be respected. A person should be considered of his self respect. So this is why this is done through najwa Omar loop or something that is good. Oh Islam, vein anass or Islam between people to reconcile between them. Because sometimes when you discuss these issues in open, it doesn't lead to a good outcome. So when you discuss this in private, but why didn't you compromise here? Why don't you forgive them for that? Have you considered this option? So this is something that is permissible. So when it comes to Nigeria, remember that generally it is liked or
disliked, disliked, except in these three cases? Why is it dislike because most people when it comes to private conversation, they don't talk about good things.
Usually natural revolves around three things and isn't are the one and masliah tawassul.
This isn't a sin against you, against Allah soprano done with regard to the rights of Allah.
Can you think of an example that in a private conversation a person tells the other to do isn't
in 1300, when we learned about the novel's Supriya mocking and other people calling out names, mocking at them making fun of them,
this is actually a good one, because one is what aggression against you against people because usually people don't make fun of others in public.
Because otherwise they look bad. So what do they do? They make fun of others in their private conversation. What about sin against Allah? Islam?
Sometimes we do that as well. What is it that people talk about? In private conversations?
Like for example, look at that guy.
I think he just looked at us.
You understand what is this isn't? Your mother doesn't know.
But you and your friend who are walking in the mall, and you see a cute guy, and you look at him and whisper into your friends, your your sisters, you look at him, look at him. This is what isn't. Nobody knows about that. But who knows? Allah subhanaw taala. And isn't this is a sin.
For example, chatting with a non Muslim talking about wrong things, talking about inappropriate things. So Alison, are the one
what is the one transgression against people? And this includes backbiting them mocking at them Marcia Russell disobeying the messenger that Why do you have to follow this? Why do you have to do that? We don't need to
because this is what the monarchy will do. We're here tonight Jonah will is we will or do any Walmart theater will soon.
If you look at this ayah Allah subhanaw taala says, I learn torah lol, Edina Newhall, and in Nigeria, have you considered Have you reflected on these people? They were stopped from doing najwa. But they still do it anyway.
And I'm Tara, what is an entourage show that this behavior is strange. A person claims to be a Muslim.
He has given clear instructions. Don't do this. But he does it anyway. This is what disregarding the commands of Allah which we have learned in the previous if. And when a person disregards the commands of Allah, then for him is humiliating punishment, isn't it? Oh, that's what we learned earlier. And this behavior is very, very strange. Because it doesn't fit a sincere believer, a true believer that he knows what Allah has commanded what Allah has forbidden, yet he follows his own desires, disregarding what Allah has said, this can never be the behavior of a sincere believer.
So this is very strange.
So my odunayo manoharan, who yet they returned to what they were forbidden from.
Secondly, over here, we see that they were forbidden from doing Metro.
Why were they forbidden from doing najwa?
We see that in Medina. There were different types of people, there were Muslims, there would have been there were the hood. Now initially, the Muslims in general, including women, African because obviously they claimed to be Muslim. All people were forbidden from doing najwa. From holding private conversations. Why?
Because this was the way of who, some people who used to harass Muslims, who did not like Muslims,
that whenever a Muslim would pass by, what would they do? They would whisper into one another's ears.
Now, obviously, imagine you're passing by from somewhere to people, they see you and all of a sudden they start talking in their ears, would you feel uncomfortable?
very uncomfortable. Would you feel threatened? Of course, you would feel threatened?
You don't know what they're talking about? You don't know why they're reacting in this way. You don't know. Why is it that every time you pass by every time you meet them, they start whispering into one another's ears. So this would create a lot of tension, a lot of ill feeling in the Muslims in general, this would make them feel uncomfortable.
It brings about bad thoughts in your head about the other thing, What is he talking about? Right? So this is why they were forbidden. And also remember that in Medina, the Muslims were always under threat. I mean, there was always a threat of attack, isn't it? So? So whenever people were having private conversations, discussing something amongst one another, others would wonder that what is it that they know that they're not telling us about? Is it that some enemy is preparing to attack? And they're not telling us about it? Is it that they're planning to harm us? Is it that they're planning to harm someone. So women are feeling they would have a lot of private conversations, they would
whisper into one another's ears, even on the streets in public, and this would create a lot of tension in the society in general.
This is why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam forbade people from having any private conversations whatsoever. It was not allowed.
If you have to say anything, say it out. Don't whisper into one another.
And then when
African despite the fact that the prohibition was so clear, what did they do? They resumed their hurtful ways. They continue to do this, that whenever a Muslim would pass by, they would whisper into one another's ears. So this behavior is being mentioned over here that look at them. Isn't it strange? anomaly Antara? Have you considered these people? Look at what they're doing that the prohibition was so clear, yet they're disobeying the messenger. And on top of that, when they do hold any najwa what is it that they talk about? Isn't earth when Walmart sliotar was who this is what they do.
And then Allah says, We're either Joe Walker, and when they come to you, hi yoga, they greet you beam out with that which Lem you Hi, Jacobi Hiller, Allah does not greet you with
Who is it? in particular? This the Jews?
Because they would also have private conversations. The Muna 15 would also do that. And the hood in particular, what would they do when they would come to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam hi yoga hi yoga from the fetters hi yah yah from the word higher.
The here is also from the same route. What does the Hayami greeting? Because the Arabs they had a customer of greeting one another by saying hi Yah, Allah, May Allah give you a long life. So from that came the word the here which is greeting so they would greet the Prophet sallallahu Sallam how Bhima Lemieux hi Jacobi Hiller in a manner that Allah does not greet you with what is the proper manner that Allah has thought of greeting one another,
as salam or Aleikum, but they are who would when they would come to the Prophet sallallahu center, what would they say? Something else? We learned I should have read Arnaz she said that some Jews came to the Prophet said a lot of them and greeted him by saying a Sam or Laika, or a blue person,
a Sam What does that mean? That may death be upon you, or I will pass him.
So I shall deny that she heard that. So she said while he was some, and upon you be also assigned meaning that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Orisha Allah does not like rudeness and foul speech.
So I should have known has said Didn't you hear them say Assam or Laika? Didn't you hear them say that? This is why I responded to them in this way. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Didn't you hear me answering them back by saying we're Alaykum and the same be upon you? Meaning I said why Aleikum? But I did not use the bad word. He did not say why are la como Sam, what did he say? Why are they called because the prophets are a lot of enemies said that rudeness and foul speech a lot is not like that. So just because the other person is rude. Just because he is using foul speech doesn't mean you use it as well. You can simply respond to them by saying Marla come. In another
narration we learned that our show the longer responded to them by saying a Sam or laico will learn that may Sam be upon your death to be upon you and also the curse of online humiliation and disgrace all of this be upon you.
Because he was very upset, very angry. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to her, Allah does not like rudeness.
And he said that Allah accepts ours application against them, but not theirs against us.
Allah accepts our application against them but not theirs against us.
Many scholars they say that if a non Muslim greets you with Salam by saying a Salam or Aleikum, you say to them while they come and upon you, as well, because you don't know with what intention they're saying it
and others say that it's okay if they're saying a Salam or Aleikum clearly then say that however if you think about who our lake was Salaam Salaam is whose name Allah subhanaw taala and special piece is for who it is for the one who has Islam in the one who has submitted the one who has surrendered. So anyway, when somebody uses bad words against you, greets you in a bad way, then you don't need to dirty your tongue.
That's the lesson that we learned from here.
So what either Ukiah, high yoke of MLM you hate that why is this mentioned over here, that these people have no respect for the prophets of Allah?
First of all, they have no respect for who? Allah subhanaw taala
because if they had any respect, then they would not commit the prohibitions. When Allah has prohibited something, what would they do stay away from it. But they didn't stay away from it, they did it anyway. And then on top of that, they had no respect for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam either, which is why they greeted him in this way.
Where coluna Fie unfussy him and they say in themselves, meaning in their hearts. They say, Lola you're a Debian Allahu beeminder cool. How come Allah does not punish us before
Because of what we say,
meaning, if he was truly a messenger, Muhammad Sallallahu send them and we said this to him Assam aneko we disrespect him, we disobey Him, how come Allah does not punish us?
So in other words, they thought what they were doing was okay, just because Allah did not punish them.
And many times the person thinks like this, that just because you know, nothing bad happened, just because I was able to do it, it means it's fine. But is that the case? No, that's not the case. A loss of final data has not made this dunya down. What does that what does that or does that it's the hereafter. In this dunya a person is allowed to do whatever he wants to. He has that freedom, he has that freewill. He has the ability to do what He wills to do what he wishes. However, a lot of panel data is also given certain rules. And when a person does not observe them, and he continues doing what he wants to, then Allah gives him rest bite, when he does not catch him immediately when he
does not punish him immediately. So just because a person has not been caught, doesn't mean what he's doing is okay. No, then why is he being able to do it? Because Allah has given him respect. And the punishment will be where? In the hereafter so they say Lola, your adebola will be mine, Nicole, Allah says hesper hoon Johanna? Yes, Luna sufficient for them is hellfire. In it they will burn for bits and mostly, and how terrible is it as a destination? What a terrible destination Hellfire is. Hellfire is described as mostly because from the journey from the beginning of life, throughout this dunya and then in the grave in the verse on the Day of Judgment, such a long journey, and where does
a person end up? Hellfire? What a terrible, terrible Muslim? What a terrible destination.
Now there are a number of lessons that we can learn from this is well,
what do we learn? First of all,
I learn torah either Latina who are in Nigeria Thoma your ordinary man, Warren who
that when Allah has given certain commands, certain prohibitions, what is our obligation that we must abide by them?
And if a person does not abide by them, then what is he doing? disrespecting Allah? He's crossing the limits. What else do we learn
about najwa? That najwa is something that is disliked. Remember that Initially, it was prohibited completely, a person was not allowed to whisper into the ear of the other at all. This was something not allowed, but later on permission was given Why? Because sometimes in certain situations, it is necessary. Correct. So initially, it was forbidden. Later on, it was allowed. But what does this teach us about najwa that it is something that is disliked in general,
it is something that does not fit a good person, a polite person, a courteous person, someone who is respectful of others. Because someone who is respectful, who is decent, he will consider other people's feelings. And part of that is that you don't hide stuff from them before them.
That you don't whisper into the ear of the other in front of them because it makes the other person feel bad. And when a person is doing najwa, then what happens? He has the confidence to speak to say things which he wouldn't say otherwise. So it gives him an opportunity to say wrong things to encourage wrong things, which he would not say otherwise. So this shows to us that najwa generally, what is it it is disliked?
Then we also learn from the side that a person should know how to say proper Salam
because Allah says over here hi yoga we welcome you Hi yoga Vila, they greet you with that greeting which Allah does not greet you with. So what does it show that whenever we greet one another, how should we greet
properly. Now every one of you say Salaam to the other. Just say you're a Salam or Aleikum properly
Selam Aleykum not salako
not as I could
not say properly.
A Salam or Aleikum, make sure you say the scene properly, the shutdown the scene properly and make sure you pronounce the lamb as well. And the lF after that as well. And the same thing should be taught to
children. Because many times we say Oh, they look so cute. Look at how to say I say can I say
what what are you saying that? correct them? Because if you start saying Salaam to them, in the same way that they're things and I'm in the wrong pronunciation, you're reinforcing the same thing, isn't it? So they're gonna grow up learning
The wrong pronunciation just because it sounds very cute.
So be very careful.
Well either jet Luca hi yoga Bhima Lemieux hi yah cabella because we're supposed to greet in the way that Allah has taught us.
Then another lesson that we learned is that if someone is being rude to you, it doesn't mean you become rude to them.
If someone is cursing you, it doesn't mean that you curse them. You just say the same for you.
Well, I like them.
Because sometimes we justify our rude behavior. How? By saying they're being so rude, but that's not a justification, because what you say is still being written?
Yeah, you have Medina amanu. Or you will have believed either Tana jatim when you Converse privately.
So the permission was given later, but with certain rules, what are those rules, that when you do have a private conversation with one another, then remember
that an agile bill is mutual or do any of us who then do not converse about sin and aggression and disobedience to the messenger? Make sure that in your private conversations, whether it is amongst two people, three people, four people, five people, whether it's at the dinner table, or in the living room, with your friends, online, any private conversation, make sure it's not about sin. It's not about something that Allah disapproves of. Something that involves sinful speech, something that involves sinful actions. And it should not be aggression, either. It should not be of one either, nor should it be of masliah tawassul. But instead, what an agile and instead converse about what
will be re What
about righteousness and piety, that when you do have a private conversation, what should revolve around albir.
piety, righteousness? And remember, bear is what kind of goodness what kind of good deed?
bit is from Bob? What does God mean? land? And if you look at land, does it have only one type of plants on it? No, so many different different types.
seminary, does it only have plants? Or does it have other things as well? so many different things. So the concept of bow bear, what is it? Sure, a lot of variety, a lot of variety. So when you talk in private, make sure you're talking about good things. They could be very different. Different different things, but useful conversation, beneficial conversation, something which will actually bring reward, that when you're discussing something, you're learning something, what Dakota and also does that make sure there is a taqwa of Allah present there, that you're conscious, you're fearful of Allah subhanaw taala.
What the whole Ah ha, and fear Allah, Allah de la hittar. Sharon, to whom you will be gathered.
So in this ayah, Allah subhanaw taala is in a way teaching us
that learn from other people's bad behavior.
What? That the bad that other people are doing avoid that completely.
When we look at other people, and they're doing something wrong, what do we do we just comment about it.
That is not correct. If other people are doing something wrong, learn from it. Learn what, that I should not do this. So if other people are talking about Islam, or Dwyane Marcy Russell, that's not what your conversations should revolve around.
If your true believers then do not imitate such people, but rather avoid their bad behavior.
Avoid their bad behavior, don't imitate.
In the manager, I'm in a shape on private conversation is only from shape on
private conversation who inspires it who encourages it shaytaan encourages that he incites people to do it. Why? LEAH zona, Latina and amanu so that he may grieve those people who have believed
because remember, I told you whenever Muslim would pass by the moon everything they hold what what they start doing, whispering into one another's ears. So who would feel bad? The believers who would feel sad, they would feel sad. So who inspires this shape on inspires this because he wants to cause grief to the believers. This is how much he hates believers
that he wants to cause them grief. And he tries different different ways to do that
by inciting other people to whisper but Allah says well as I build on Raheem Shea and elaborate nilla but he will not harm them at all except by the permission of Allah.
He tries to harm them. But can he actually harm them? No, he cannot. unless Allah allows. What are the law affiliate? Okay, let me know. And upon Allah should the believers rely?
If you think about it, natural generally, it is about what isn't are the one Mercia. traversal. So who inspires such a conversation? shavon does. And as a result of najwa, who gets hurt the believers? This Think about it.
You go somewhere, you're sitting somewhere two people start whispering to one another. Aren't you going to feel sad?
Even if you say it's okay, you can talk. It's okay. Don't tell me about it. It's something private between you. But in your heart, you do feel left out? Isn't it? So? Even if they take your permission? Don't you feel that? Yes, you do. Even if you know they're talking about something that is not about you, that has nothing to do with you. But you still feel bad because you've been left out.
So the Arizona Latina Emmylou, this is why najwa should be avoided, it should be avoided, because it causes sadness to others.
It is sometimes it happens with me, after class, when I'm sitting in different girls who come and ask questions. You know, some people are listening. And it's very good, because, you know, other people also get to use your minds and learn many different things. But when somebody says, You know, I have to talk to you about something in private, all of a sudden I see other people, their faces, you know, they kind of feel left out.
I mean, it is permissible, as we learned Nigeria is permissible. However, what does it cost to the other bad feelings, right? It hurts their feelings. Now, it doesn't mean that Nigeria is not allowed, it is allowed, but what do we learn, it should be avoided as much as possible.
And it should not be done before other people.
You understand? It should not be done before other people. If you want to do it, do it in a private place as well. So that other people don't need to wonder, okay, what is it that they're talking about? I wonder what it is. So this is from shavon. And Shannon wants to hurt people. But at the same time, Allah subhanaw taala assures the believers, that even if somebody is having a private conversation, remember they cannot harm you.
unless Allah allows, because you wonder, they must be planning something. They must be deciding something, and they must want to do something against me. See, they're teaming up against me. Allah says, Why are you worried? Just because the other person is having a private conversation, you don't need to feel everything is against you. He may be important, but it's not necessarily extremely important. So don't feel bad, just because other people are having a private conversation. Because remember, no one can harm you except by the permission of Allah. And at the end of the day, what are the law, the failure to work
on a law should the believers rely. So if you find somebody whispering into the ear of the other, you don't need to feel bad. Think about something else that's more important. So two things are being done over here where people are being discouraged from holding the door.
Others are being told, you don't need to worry too much. Just relax.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, if you were three, then two of you should not hold a secret counsel in the presence of the third person, because that would cause him to be worried. This is in Buhari, that if you were three people, then the two of you should not hold a secret counsel in the presence of the third
Why? Because it would cause him to be worried. So, if you do have to have a private conversation, where should you go in private as well to avoid bad feelings completely.
And remember, as it was said earlier, that sometimes people they speak in a different language
that is also very upsetting.
Especially, you know that so many of us come over here who speak different languages, we should be extremely careful
that we should talk in a language that is common to everyone and which one is the English language. So even if you prefer talking in Urdu, or you prefer talking in Somali or you prefer talking in whatever language that you know, be careful when you're sitting in the cafeteria, when you're sitting, you know, amongst your friends, sometimes it happens out of habit not out of wanting to keep the other person out of the conversation. Sometimes it's just out of habit. It's just out of convenience is but be considerate about other people's feelings.
We consider it
because it's a very horrible feeling that you're sitting, other people talking in a language that you don't understand, and you feel so left out.
So laughter I remember when I was in school, there were these girls who would speak a different line.
Which it would be pushed up? All of us would feel so upset that What are they talking about? What are they saying to one another?
And we would try to figure out, Okay, this is what you're saying. That's what you're saying that I know you don't know what we're saying.
So it makes other people feel bad. And sometimes it's out of convenience. Sometimes it's just a tease the other. So don't do that. Don't create such tension for no reason. Don't create bad feelings for no reason.
Already, there's so many problems, why are you creating more problems?
Sometimes this also happens that, you know, a group of people are sitting together, they're talking to one another, they don't know one person. And that person is completely excluded from that conversation. They are not looked at, they're not paid any attention to you Don't let them speak. So they feel very left out.
Even though what you're talking about is not a private conversation, they can hear you but still they feel left out because they're not included in the conversation.
So look at these manners that Allah subhanaw taala is teaching us
that when people are talking in their language, and they start laughing, and joking with one another, and you're just sitting there wondering what is it that they're talking about?
You have no idea why they're laughing.
I also find it very difficult. Sometimes I end up speaking in Urdu in front of others, please forgive me for that. But I try my best to avoid it. And if you know something out of habit upset, I try my best to translate it afterwards at least.
So it's a habit, we should correct one another. encourage one another to speak the common language that everybody understands. And if somebody has said something or you said something, make sure you translate that as well. Okay, so that everybody understands they can also enjoy.
Okay, we'll listen to the recitation and then we'll continue
Toppo de la
in the evening.
You know, the Arizona lilina of causes, hurts causes ill feelings. I remember when my grandmother was here, she doesn't understand even a word of the English language. Not even one word. She's never, you know, read English, written English, nothing. And unfortunately, many of us have gotten so used to speak English language, even at home all the time, that it would happen that we're talking to one another and she's just sitting there wondering what's going on? what's being said, what's being communicated. So I would always, you know, telling my husband speaking, he would remind me speaking, we would always remind one another because the other person feels bad. It's not
necessary that they know what you're talking about because it doesn't concern them but
Still out of respect for the other speaking a language that they understand.
Over here we see that what either Jaga hi yo Gabi. Madam, you're hi ecobee he led the shows to us that when we greet one another, how should we greet one another in the greeting that Allah has taught
that we should say Salaam and other greetings that people have like Hi, ALLAH hafiz. Khuda hafiz Hello by such greetings should not be the norm. They should not be the norm the proper ways what? To use that greeting which Allah has taught. Why? Because it's the best greeting the Hayton, right, it's mobarak it's the best one. It's bless it. And if you think about when you say it, what do you get?
reward but when you say hi, hello, bye. Do you get reward for that? No. So we should greet one another. How in the greeting that Allah subhanaw taala has taught us