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Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 22 – L220C

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Al-Ahzab 28-35 Tafsir 32-33

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accountability measures on rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman Rahim

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lesson number 220 pseudo to observe. We'll begin from number 32.

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Yan is an OBE all wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, less than a half a minute Nisa, you are not like anyone among women. You're not like any other women know, your status is much higher, your position is much greater.

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You have the highest rank and as a result, the greatest reward Why? Because your sacrifices are also great.

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You see, the special rank, the special position? It came with a very heavy price. And what was that heavy price? great sacrifice. So yen is an Abbe de wises profits are a lot of cinema directly being addressed over here. Less than less than as a feminine of less don't, you are not like I hadn't been Anissa any one of the women of this dunya of your time, and also after you.

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Because we learned from other ladies, that there are other women as well, whose status is also very great. It wasn't just the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that he was married to at the time when these ayat were revealed. But there are other women as well. Like for example, we learned the prophets that a lot of them said the best women of mankind are for Marian vinter and bond sia Zoda to fit our own. Khadija ventilated, and Fatima, the daughter of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam.

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So from that Hadith, what do we learn, for women are the best women

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and these four women out of them Marian Asya, both of them they're not of the time of the Prophet sallallahu semrau they came much before Khadija did on her she had passed away felt a little dinar in her She was the daughter of the profits that are listening right.

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So yes, over here, the wives the profits or losses and are being told that you are not like other women, your status is greater, your reward is greatest. But from ahaadeeth We also learned that there are other women as well, whose reward is equal, that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also said that many among men attained perfection. But among women, none attain perfection except Maria, Winterbourne and ESEA Zoda to fit.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam also said that the best of the women in the world is Marian in her lifetime, and the best of the women in the world is Khadija.

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So we see that they were best in their times, in their eras, in their positions. And the wives of the Prophet said a lot of sudden they were the best women of their time until the day of judgment.

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So let's do like I had a min Anissa.

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In if the Python if you have fear of Allah filata learn a bit slowly, then do not be soft in speech. When when addressing non Muhammed Why? Because if you are soft in speech, then what's going to happen? Fatima I lead the field called v model and then the one in whose heart is a disease, he will begin to have desire.

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If you're soft and speech with him, he will have wrong desires about you will call Nicola meroofer. And instead How should you speak? What should you say? Hola Maru for a word that is appropriate.

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Now we see over here that our last counter it says in it the Titan in a titan has been understood in two ways that first of all, this is connected with the first part of the eye,

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that always are the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you're not like any other women. If you fear Allah, meaning as long as you fear Allah, your status is the highest. As long as you have fear of Allah, your rank is the greatest.

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Because the real virtue and high rank of a person is With what? just by virtue of who is married to know by tako What do we learn in a comical marinda lucky

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at Qualcomm, the most honorable of you in the sight of allies who the one who is most God fearing the one who was most awkward.

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Secondly, in it, the title now has also been understood as the beginning of the new sentence, which is the following clause that if you fear Allah, then you should stay away from this, that if you fear Allah, then don't be soft in speech with non Muhammad falletta

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Learn in a bit of code.

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So what is the sign that a woman has fear of Allah?

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What is the sign of that? That she says, I fear Allah? What is the sign of that? What will show that she has fear of Allah?

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in the way that she speaks to non Muslim men? How does she speak to them? How does she address them?

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Because it is said in it the katana, falletta, foreigner,

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the foreigner, ha, God, what does it mean? humility, to be submissive? To be harder is to talk very softly to be very submissive in speech to a very soft speech. So a lot of learners will call Do not be soft. In your speech when talking to men.

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doesn't mean you should speak harshly to them, and rudely to them. What does it mean by this?

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Think about it. What does it mean practically?

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That when you're talking, don't laugh.

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Because sometimes what happens? Women are talking to strangers, men who are non mahone unrelated completely, but how are they talking on every little thing? Haha.

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And unfortunately, many girls have this problem. Even if something is not funny, what will they do? laugh

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and if something requires just a smile, we will not limit at smile, what will we do? We will laugh excessively, we will not just laugh once, but we will have many times What does Allah say falletta learnable code Do not be lenient and soft in speech.

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similarity What else does it mean? falletta number code. They do not talk in a flirtatious manner in a seductive man.

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but rather how should you speak

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in a professional way, in a serious way, Get to the point.

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Say what you have to say, listen to what you have to listen to in a businesslike fashion and move on.

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You understand?

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Just like when those two sisters, one of them she came to speak of musala center? What did she say my father is calling you to reward you for watching our animals. That's it simple. straight to the point. Nothing like how are you doing and Where have you come from? And by the way, and this and that? No, nothing like that. Just straight to the point. businesslike fashion straight professional, simple. falletta learnable code.

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Be serious.

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Doesn't mean be harsh, but rather what does it mean? Be serious?

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It doesn't mean you have to be impolite. No, that's not what the meaning is. Just be serious, straight to the point. no nonsense falletta learner bill Cole.

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Sometimes we think that just to show to the other person, we're a normal human being that yes, I'm wearing the hijab, I have no carbon. But still, I'm a normal person. What do we do, we become extremely excessive in our speech, we talk a lot. And also we try to laugh and crack jokes, and talk in a very soft and lenient manner. This is something that is not correct.

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If you are a good person, and you want the other person to realize that you're a good person, they will know in the way that you deal with them. They will know by your honesty, they will know by the fulfilment of your commitment. You don't have to show them your niceness by your seductive words and your excessive laughing. No, you don't have to do that.

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So Allah subhanaw taala toldo eyes The Prophet sallallahu Sallam that if you have fear of Allah fell out of learnable code. Don't speak like this.

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Because if you speak like this, then what's the danger? for you tomorrow? Yeah, tomorrow. I mean, I tomorrow and what does it mean, to have a strong desire in the heart? greed. So he will begin to desire who will begin to desire and lead if you can't be him or not the one in whose heart is a disease.

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What diseases this primarily refers to hypocrisy, but remember that model is what an imbalance right? model is an imbalance in the body. Any disease is the result of what some kind of imbalance in the body, the blood pressure is not normal.

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The sugar level is not normal. One thing in which it is good to be average is what? Your body everything else, it's good to be beyond the average above the average, but when it comes to your health, it's good to remain in the average.

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So when you go above the average or below the average, sometimes what does that lead to imbalance that results in some kind of model. So I love if you call him out on this

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It refers to hypocrisy, but it may also refer to like extreme love of women, extreme love, fulfilling desires. So a person who has that kind of imbalance, what will happen, he will begin to have strong hopes, he will begin to have dirty thoughts about you, he will begin to wish for you wish to talk to you wish to see you wish to sit with you wish to have more conversations with you via altomare lead if you can't beat him up, he will begin to desire you.

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So, instead what should you do? What cola cola maruka and you should say a statement that is my rule, what does my roof mean? That which is acceptable, that which is appropriate and also that which is well known. Alden meroofer is such land that is good, why, because from such land what comes out only hi nothing evil comes out. So, a cola cola Rufus has such words that are appropriate, not harsh, not flirtatious.

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Not said in a seductive fashion, no appropriate, acceptable, words should not be objectionable. Nothing that you say should be objectionable, be straightforward. And everything that you say should only bring about what hate goodness, whatever you say, should only bring about what clay just like of the

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land that is good, which only brings about clay.

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So similarly, whatever words you say, should only bring about.

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Now we see that in this ayah, primarily who is being addressed the wives of the prophets.

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But they're like a role model for the rest of the women. Why? Because they're the best women, best of women. So the best of women are an example for the rest of the women.

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Therefore, whatever command has been given to them, what are we supposed to do? Follow that as well? Isn't it to learn from their example?

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If they're being told to do something, then we should also try to do it. And what is the thing that has been said to them over here, that when you speak to men do not be gentle in speech? Why?

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Because all types of people would come.

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Do the houses of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, all types of people. Some were righteous, some were not righteous. Some were believers, some were hypocrites.

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And all of them would be coming. And they would ask different questions such as, as the prophet SAW a lot of sun there. Would you know where he went? You can just imagine, like, if a person is a very prominent personality, then what happens? People are visiting them all the time, people are calling them all the time.

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So similarly, all sorts of people would come to the houses of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, some righteous, some wicked. Some who had a lot of taqwa and some who did not have Taqwa.

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So this is why they are told the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, that when you speak, be careful.

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Do not be gentle in speech, because a person who has come with a wrong intention, or a person who does not have the strength of faith, what's going to happen, he is going to begin to desire you. He will take benefit from your gentleness and speech from your soft spoken words. And he will intensify evil.

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If you notice, it hasn't been said, Do not speak to men at all. If you think about it, if that was said, Don't speak at all, wouldn't that close the doors to all possible evils? Of course it would. But that hasn't been said. Similarly, it hasn't been set to the man that you don't talk to the wiser prophets? I don't know.

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Because if they were prohibited from talking from communicating, then what would happen?

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It would close the doors to many good things as well.

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If you think about it, after the death of the profits of a lot of his wives, what did they do? They taught so many people,

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the Sahaba whenever they would have some concern, some issue, who would they consult? They would consult Abubakar and aroma, even our basketball minister who but who else would they consult

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the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam? Why? Because they were knowledgeable. They knew the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Daniel the Quran.

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So if they were told no, you don't talk to men at all, because there are all sorts of people in the world, then this would lead to a lot of problems. A lot of hair being prevented.

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So

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Whatever told instead that when you speak, be careful

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when you speak, be careful. We're calling Nicola Maru for the control is in your hands for Nicola maruka just don't give the opportunity to the other person.

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Many times, what do we think

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that if someone has said something inappropriate to us, it's because they're like that. But you know what? You gave them the opportunity.

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Like, for example, if you are offensive, if you say something harsh, and the other person begins cursing you who cause that cursing, your harshness. So, similarly, when a woman is talking to a man, a man who is not related to her, the control is with her.

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If she will prolong her conversation, he will enjoy. He won't mind.

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If she will be flirtatious, he will play along, isn't it?

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If she offers, he will accept. But if she is serious, if she is professional,

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if she speaks in an appropriate manner, then will that give the man any choice at all? Not at all.

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So we'll call Nicola maroof. I remember the control is in your hands.

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You're not prohibited from talking, you are allowed to speak. But what should you speak about only that which is relevant, only that which is necessary, and move on from there. And when you have to speak, don't use extremely soft words. Because if you do that, it may lead to wrong things.

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And notice what has been said at the beginning that less than a minute Missa. You're not like any other women? What does it mean by this, that your position is very high, your status is very high. You're not like other people, you're special. And because you're special, this is why you should not be doing what everyone else is doing. Typically, what is our behavior, go with the flow, do whatever other people are doing. I saw that girl talking this way, I should talk in the same way. Look at the way she was moving her hands, I should do the same. And she was using that word, I will also use that word, this word is so common, I will also use that word No, you don't have to follow the rest

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of the people you're special. Less than like a hedeman Anissa.

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You know how I can certain families, people, they tell their children that behave properly. Don't insult our name, don't insult our family, carry yourself properly, never use this word. You're not allowed to say this, you're not allowed to wear this, you're not allowed to go here. You're not allowed to sit with this person. Why?

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Because you belong to a special family. This does not suit you. This does not fit you.

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So similarly, the wife is the profits out of us. And it did not fit them that they should speak to men with soft words.

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Now for us, Muslim women as well. The same goes for us that it does not be fair to us that we talk to men in this manner.

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It does not affect us.

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You know, one is that you tell someone that don't do this, don't do this, don't do this. And the other is that you say to them, you're good. It doesn't suit you. You're special. It doesn't suit you. This doesn't refer to you.

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I remember this lady was once telling me that whenever she saw something wrong in her children, she would always say, You're a good girl. Good girl. Don't do this. You're Good boy. Good boys don't do this. It doesn't suit you. And like this, her children, they grew up with this thinking that what everybody does the bad words they say the wrong things they do. This is not something that we do or say. And like that, naturally. they dislike those words and actions and they stayed away from them. And there's an excellent way of doing therapy, an excellent way of training someone teaching something to someone.

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So the wives or prophets are a lot of them. They're told over here, let's don't make it mean Anissa you're not like ordinary women, therefore, don't begin to imitate others. Just because other women are speaking in a particular way doesn't mean you have to speak that way. No, you have to speak properly in it the aitana filata Do not be soft in your speech.

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Now as Muslim women as well, when we go out, what do we carry with ourselves?

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The symbol of Islam in the form of hijab.

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So when we have that on, does it then suit us that we pick a fight

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with someone

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that will begin to yell at others, Does it suit us then that we talk in an indecent way? with other men? Does it suit Muslim women then to hang out with other Muslim brothers? Does it suit them? hang out? Because unfortunately, many Muslim sisters have this problem that they will just be hanging out with their brothers. And what are they doing eating together, talking together, going out together, walking together? In the bazaar, instead of sitting in the conference, listening to the lectures, that's what they're doing? It does not benefit a Muslim woman to do this. falletta Donna will phone and if you're texting a Muslim brother asking him what hijab? Should I buy? Red One or blue one?

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What do you think?

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Is this appropriate? Does this benefit a Muslim woman? Does it affect her? It does not?

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Where are you going out to eat that place? Or that place? That one is much better? Hahaha. lol.

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Is that decent?

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Tell me, is this not holder in speech? What does Allah subhanaw taala say let the learner will cone.

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Unfortunately, when Muslim men and women are working together for an Islamic cause, even how do they communicate with one another, in a very relaxed fashion. And every other thing, how you look so funny.

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On every other thing, they will be passing jokes, passing such remarks and say, oh, there's nothing wrong in that. I never set it in a wrong way. I never meant anything wrong. He's married. This is what we say, isn't it.

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But the y's are the prophets that allowed us in a way they're told a lot of learnable code. If you have the code of Allah, and believe me, a woman cannot do this. Unless and until she has a diploma. Your father may not be watching you, your teacher may not be watching you, your sister may not be watching you, but who is watching you.

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Allah is watching you.

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And if you have fear of him, then you'll be careful. In every word that you say, in every word that you put in your email, you'll be very, very careful.

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I remember once, one of the brothers, they said this to my husband, that how can my wife is so serious.

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She's so serious all the time. She's not like, you know, others, you can't dare to say anything extra to her. And, you know, my husband asked me, I'm like, it's not like I'm being rude. This is just something that I have to do. Whenever I have to speak to them whenever I have to deal with them. It's only about that which is necessary. And that's it. I don't need to ask them. How are you doing? And where are you headed to? And by the way, that shirt looks nice? And is that water or coke? I don't need to ask them.

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And if I don't ask them, it doesn't mean I'm being rude. It means I'm following the commands of Allah Subhana. Allah has said fell out of burnable coal.

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Because if you do that, then it may lead to wrong things. It may open the door to a lot of evil.

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Many times it happens that the way men and women are communicating with one another what happens? Their wives and their husbands feel so nervous that why is this woman talking to my husband like that? And why is this man talking to my wife like this.

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So for God's sake, when you have the hijab on when you studied the Quran, be careful in your speech in the way that you communicate with other men.

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We see that unfortunately, we have forgotten the way of moderation. Either we go to an extreme of saying that or I don't speak to women at all. I don't speak to men at all. I don't work with them. A woman's voice is email, you shouldn't listen to a woman's voice ever. Don't speak to men at all. And if you happen to pass by a relative even, you don't even say Salaam to one another.

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Now, this is one extreme. And the other is that people go to another extreme, which is that they become extremely lean into extremely soft and extremely talkative and across so many limits and that they don't know where to draw the line. What do we see over here that fell out of Carnival calm, or cola cola. Moreover, this is the moderate way, this is the right way.

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Because if a person adopts this way, then it keeps the door to goodness open. And at the same time, any door that leads to evil that is also closed, isn't it? So there's perfect balance in this.

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Remember, the thing is when it comes to greeting someone who's a non Muslim, like for example, sometimes you're here and you're going outside and you see men coming in from the same door. It doesn't mean you go and saying son and everybody. But let's say your cousin, your sister's husband, your husband's brother. You see him.

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Now there is that relationship as well. So when you see them Are you not going to greet them

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Are they not supposed to greet you? Yes. But let's say you're going outside, you're in the mall with your husband and your husband happens to meet his friend. And now as he's meeting him, doesn't mean that he also has to meet you and greet you and say Salaam and everything. No, that's not necessary. Because you don't know him. He doesn't know you, there is nothing between you and him. It's not necessary. It's not needed at all. But if they're your relative, then this is something that should be done.

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When it comes to reciting the Quran, in front of the men, when it comes to, let's say, teaching the deen in any form, then remember, if it's for the purpose of teaching, that's okay. But it doesn't mean that a woman is beautifying her voice excessively, and reciting in front of men know if it's for the purpose of teaching, teaching only it's permissible. Because we see that I shall deny Otherwise, the prophets are the loudest, and what would they do, they would teach the men and they would teach many, many things. But it was always from behind a barrier, in which they weren't able to see them, she wasn't able to see them, there was a barrier in between all that they could hear

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was her voice, she wouldn't beautify her voice. But whatever was necessary to communicate, she would do that. So if it's for the purpose of teaching, only, then it's permissible.

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Now, back to the main topic, because it is a very vast topic. But the main thing that we learned from here is, what do we learn

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to learn about coal, or coal, Nicola MANOVA. Now, remember, that any man that you come across whether they are coming to your house, as guests, or you are buying something from them at the store, or you are working on a particular project with them at school, or you are volunteering with them, and they happen to work with you in the same system? How are you going to communicate with them?

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How

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whatever that is necessary. That's it, not more than that, first of all, whatever that is necessary, not more than that.

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Which means whatever is relevant, you only say that you only speak that, and whatever is not relevant, don't even touch that. Secondly, what else does it include? Do not joke around with them. Thirdly, your style of speech, your style of speech, how should that be serious? Serious does not mean you become harsh and rude. But what does it mean? You just stay focused on the point that's it. You don't speak in a way that you're laughing. You don't speak in a way that you're yelling. You don't speak in a way that you're frightened? No, you speak in a normal way, straightforward way your style should be like that. So for that afternoon, we'll call this tell us about the style of

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speaking, we'll call Nicola meroofer. This tells us about the content of the speech, that what should you say

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that the learner will call how good Nicola meroofer. What this is also something very necessary, that whenever we're working with other people, like, for example, a non Mohamed, let's say you're volunteering somewhere, you're working at an Islamic Institute at an Islamic organization, and you have to communicate with someone, they are non Muslim. This goes for both men and women, then how should they communicate in an open way. So for example, if you have a meeting, don't do it in a closed room, don't do it in a place where only you and the other person are sitting. No, it should be in an open place, that should be in the presence of other people. So for example, if a brother

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and sister are working on something, then they should make sure that there is somebody else sitting along with them. They're not alone, because if two people are alone, then who's the third, shade on, it should be an open place. And also, this includes that if you are communicating with them on let's say, email, or something like that, then that should also not be in privacy, for example. So for instance, you could see see someone, you could send that email to somebody else as well who is concerned, who has something to do with it. Because Hanwha being alone with a man being alone with a non Muharram. This is in the physical form as well, that when you're sitting with someone, and

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hollower can also be like, for example, an email that is just you and them communicating. They're writing something to you, you're writing something to them, no other person knows what you're writing to one another.

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So always have somebody else on the email, because when this happens, then people become more careful, isn't it? They become more careful, more alert, more serious, more straight to the point, nothing extra is said.

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Let's continue.

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Well, Corona, Fie BeautyCon and stay in your homes. This command again is to who

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To the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam well corner feeble Utica corner from the reflectors well, calf bra.

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One opinion is that it's from the roof as well called for from the word walk off.

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So what and and then gardener

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Okay, well means end. And then Carla from the newsletters, welcome follow from the word workout. What does wakad mean?

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dignity to be dignified. So on Luffy BeautyCon when you're in your homes, how should you be?

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How should you be in a dignified manner? Because sometimes what happens people in their houses, they yell at one another, they scream at one another, and outside, that people are having fun listening to they're yelling back and forth.

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Now, the houses of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, what were they attached to, to the masjid? And those houses were not made of soundproof walls.

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And how many times have people come to the masjid five times to pray and otherwise a lot of activities will be going on in the masjid.

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Now, if there is yelling and no such thing going on in the houses, then would that not be publicized, of course, it would be.

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So what karma Fie boutique owner in your houses live with dignity.

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Secondly, the word partner is also understood to be from the root letters of well, raw code.

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And code is to be together, together.

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from the same root is used for a small hillock, a small Dune, because a dune or a small hill, what is it like? The sand has gathered up together, isn't it, and at the same time, it is distinct, it is separated from the rest of the mountains from the rest of the dunes.

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So, Garner, meaning gather up, be together, meaning Stay, stay where people used to con.

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Thirdly, Wakanda has also been understood to be from the ruthless QA from the word cut off, what does it mean to stay? remain? Stay, remain abide wear fubu tikona in your houses?

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What does it mean by this stay in your houses, never leave, never go outside. This is not what the meaning is. The meaning is that

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you should be in your houses, you should stay in your houses and only go for what? For something that is necessary.

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Not now that you're going out all the time, when you have to. And when you don't have to.

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This is something that does not benefit a Muslim woman, and especially the wives of the Prophet sallallahu. Center, this is something that would definitely not affect them. It would not suit them that unnecessarily they're just walking about in the streets, walking around in a mall. No, it doesn't suit a Muslim woman. Whenever she steps out of the house, what is it for, it's for a genuine reason. It's very genuine purpose.

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The thing is that if a person has a purpose in life, then everything they do will be for a reason. Whether they're going out to eat or they're going out to buy something or they're going with their friend or they're going with their husband or they're going with their children. Anything that they're doing, it's for a reason.

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And a person who does not have a purpose in life, what will they do, they will go out for no reason they will sleep for no reason they will eat for no reason, they will yell for no reason, they will talk for no reason. They will watch something for no reason, they will read something for no reason. That's what their life is all about.

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So what ordinary people usually cannot stay in your houses

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and leave when necessary. Because it does not benefit the noble women to be going out unnecessarily.

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And the primary place for a woman is what it's her house.

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And if she abandons her house, then is the whole family not going to get affected. Of course, the whole family will be affected if she neglects her house. If she abandons her house, the whole family will get affected. The primary place of a woman is her house.

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So this is why the wives are the profits and loss and we're told stay in your houses, but at the same time they were allowed to go to fulfill their needs. Like we learned from a hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said in the Hokkaido Odin Anaconda and the hiragana they had a deacon, that you women have been allowed to go out for your needs. You have been allowed to go out for your needs.

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The thing is that men typically where are they found generally or where are they supposed to be? What kind of work should they be doing?

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All the work that is related to outside of the house, like for example working, bringing in money, filling the gas, fixing the car, all of these things typically, whose responsibility is it? the men and the women? What are they supposed to take care of the matters that are inside of the house. So if a woman needs to go out, she has the permission to go, she can go. However, what should you focus on? What should you focus on on her main responsibility? Just as the man should be focusing on what on his main responsibility, like some men who do not work, who just sit at home, and they have rented out a lot of property and all the money keeps coming in? What happens if they're at home all

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day long? What do they do they interfere in household affairs, to the extent that their wives are living a miserable life?

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This is why they say that the place of the man is outside of the house. He doesn't need to deal with the matters that are inside the house.

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So what are my people Utica, this is something general that we learned from this. And if a woman has to go outside of her house, she's allowed to and we see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam during his life, his wives would go out. But whenever they would go out, they would go out with the permission of the profits of the Law Center. They would go with His permission, not without his permission. Not that I'm mad at you upset with you. So I'm going to go. No, nothing like that. They always left with His permission. We see that I should only learn her when she was so hurt and upset because of the accusation. What happened? She wished to go to a parent's house, they should just walk away. He'll

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come and find me. If he really loves me. No.

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What did she do? She took his permission. May I please go to my parents house. He allowed her and she went. So a woman her main spaces or house whenever she needs to go out she can but for a reason. And whenever she does, she should go home with the permission of her husband. And after the Prophet sallallahu Saddam's death we see that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they went for Hajj. They went for Roma, and we find that the Sahaba they did not raise any concerns that the wives were told of a coffee booty goodness, why are they going all the way to Makkah? They shouldn't be going they should be staying in their houses. No, this was never understood like this. And the

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country we see that Mr. delanco during his Caliphate, he appointed several Sahaba a correspond to learn how to take the y's of profits out of Lotus and I'm doing mock up for hedging.

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So he arranged he planned for all of their trip. So karma fi boo Tichenor. And the second thing that has mentioned in this ayah is that while at about lagina and do not display yourself your beauty tbev whoodle Jay Haley, Yeti oola, like the display of the days of ignorance,

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meaning when you go out, then don't go on flaunting your adornments your beauty, like the women used to in the days of ignorance, it doesn't suit you Muslim women and especially it does not suit the wives the prophets.

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That of origin, the origin of new factors Val la Jean,

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the village is the master Baraka literally means to be rich to have plenty to eat and drink.

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When a person has plenty to eat and drink, when a person is rich, he's wealthy, then what happens

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he becomes noticeable he becomes prominent people begin to notice him and whatever he wears whatever he does, that's also very noticeable borracha trainer who is when the eye of a person the eyes are extremely dark, the whiteness is extremely white. So as a result the eyes are very prominent. They're very visible very very prominent, you know if a person has big eyes, bright eyes, then what are they extremely prominent.

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So from this barrage is used for that which is prominent that which is very obvious. Burj is used for a tower. Why? Because a tower is a very prominent building. You can see it from a distance.

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You can see it from far and above which technically is when a woman displays her beauty when she highlights her beauty when she makes her beauty prominent.

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Now remember in sort of the nude, we learned about Xena, right? We learned about mahasin of Xena, what am I have seen I've seen the places the parts of the body which are naturally beautiful.

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And they're not just naturally beautiful, but those are the parts which are beautified even further. Like what like the face by for example, the eyes, right? The eyelashes, they're prominent anyway. But if a woman puts mascara then what's going to happen more prominent if she put some eyeshadow and eyeliner and eye makeup. What's that gonna make the eyes more prominent?

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You understand? The face is already beautiful. The cheeks are already beautiful. If you put on some color, some blush, then what is it gonna do? Make it more beautiful.

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Similarly, the hair of a woman, they're beautiful, naturally beautiful, no matter how short how long, whatever color, whatever thickness, they're naturally beautiful. If a woman, she doesn't cover them, but rather she wears something on top of them, or she colors them and she straightened them she styled them, then Isn't she highlighting the beauty? Of course she is the body a woman naturally beautiful. If she puts on such clothes, that would highlight her beauty even further. That would show a reveal her figure even more than that is the above average. You understand?

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Now, what does Allah subhanaw taala say? While at about wodgina terbaru jLj Li una

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do not display your beauty. Like the women would display their beauty when Lj Hillier at the time of the days of ignorance before Islam before called on before he died when people didn't know. And they used to show off their beauty

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Alola the former one, don't do it like that. Don't show your beauty, highlight your beauty, make it prominent the way women used to before the bubble jelly Yeti cooler.

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Now the thing is that women as we have learned earlier, they're not prohibited from dressing up. They're not prohibited from highlighting their beauty from making their beauty prominent. This is not something that is forbidden. No, this is something that is acceptable. In fact, it is encouraged in certain situations that women should do that for their husbands, amongst other women. For a happy occasion. This is something that women should be doing.

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However, what is mentioned over here that don't do the burbridge anthropologists especially in front of rule non Muslim men,

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in front of Hunan, Mahara men,

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in the previous part of the ayah what has been said that stay in your houses and in a way means that when you go if you ever leave your house, if you ever have to go out, then what should you do? Don't go on displaying your beauty. Don't go on highlighting your beauty that somebody can see your clothes from far somebody can spot your brighter job from very, very far. The glitter on it, the sparkles on it. Somebody can see your beautiful nails, which are colored from a distance. They can not hear you but they can see your colored nails. They can see your jewelry. They can see your earrings, they can see your makeup. This is what the average is so when you go out let about

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Virgina, who j Lee Lula, and look what has been said, like the people used to do before when they didn't know the Quran, when they didn't have hedaya. Think about it. Allah has given you a Quran, he has given you a diet. How can you mean like the way you were before? No, you can't be the same. When a person has learned? Doesn't he become different? Of course, there is a clear difference between people who have knowledge and people who don't have knowledge. And how does that come just by knowing what to do and what not to do know by bringing about a change in your actions.

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So a woman who covers a preview at what does that show? She has knowledge and a woman who displays her beauty What does that show? She does not have knowledge because true knowledge is what I'm a select about Raja Raja helia Tallulah. Now the question is how are the women used to display their beauty? In the time of ignorance? There are several statements with regards to that. For example, in which I had said that women used to go out walking in front of men. So they would mingle with the men mix with them. So if a woman has to go out, she has to go in a public place. How should you do so?

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How should you do so displaying her beauty in front of men? No, she should not be displaying her beauty in front of men. When you're dressed up, then what does it mean stay away from it. And if you have to see them for a particular reason, then what did we learn earlier that a woman should cover her Xena

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or that so that when the women would go out of their homes, they would walk in a shameless and flirtatious manner, attracting a lot of attention, with their jewelry making a lot of noise with each step, and their heels and their shoes and their clothes. The way that they would walk in an extremely flirtatious manner.

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McCartan even hyaena said that women would wear shawls on their heads, but would throw them on their backs. You understand? They would put a shot on their head but then they would throw it on their backs. Why is that the makeup

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jewelry and the neck and the chest, all of that is being shown is being revealed. Now there are wearing a jilbab if you think about it, a shawl, but that shawl is not covering them. It's just covering the head and it's thrown on the back.

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So when a woman is wearing her hijab, how should she wear it? Does it just mean she should be covering her head? And her earrings? They can stick out? No, that's not appropriate, or that she wears her hijab in a way that her neck is showing? No, or that she wears her hijab in a way that her chest is being revealed? No, what did we learn earlier? That the Hema what should they do?

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It should cover the chest while you're driven abaco Marina, Alhaji you begin

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so a lot of originate about Raja helia Tilda and even Cassie said that they would go out without jilbab

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they would go out without a job. So Allah subhanaw taala has prevented that. Don't do what the women used to do before. They didn't know any better. You know, you have the Quran, you have the guidance and it should be obvious in the way that you dress up in the way that you carry yourself in the way that you go out when out of origin at the bar Raja helia una

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welcome this letter and establish the salah Tina sakata. And give this a cat will appear and Allahu Allah Sula, who and obey Allah and His messenger.

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If you think about it, when it comes to Salah, and Zakat, and obedience to Allah and His Messenger, are they obligatory?

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Are there. Is there any question about that? No. They're obligatory, it's clear.

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Now think about it. If three things are mentioned in this ayah which are fault,

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which are at the level of wajib obligation,

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then how is it possible that something else will be mentioned in the same idea along with these commands, which is not obligated? Because some people say, Oh, it's not necessary to wear hijab.

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It's not necessary to cover your beauty, you should just dress modestly. Dressing modestly, is not enough.

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What do we learn that a woman has to cover her Xena. And we have learned in great detail what Xena is, what does it apply to your clothing, your jewelry, your makeup, and the jilbab even that a woman is wearing, the same other woman is wearing it should not be such that it's attracting a lot of attention. So where these three commands are obligatory, that command is also obligatory.

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Now personally, I think this is too difficult. Why is it that even my clothing has to be of a particular nature a particular way? Why? Well at the origin of the Bible God why is it like that? Allah subhanaw taala says in the UD de la who liberon Kumar register lol Bay, that Allah He only wants to take filth away from you or people of the house, which people have the house of people of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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that these commands are coming are being given to you not to make your life difficult, not to make your life miserable.

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But Allah subhanaw taala is giving you these commands to remove rich, what does this mean? filter?

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filter whoo shaytaan sin, any at the distance is a person from Allah subhanaw taala.

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So when a person commits a sin, then does he become clean or dirty, dirty? When a person does something that Allah does not like, does he come closer to Allah? No. He's distanced from Allah.

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So if Allah is giving you these commands, it's because he wants to remove every possible filth from you. When you Tahira come, and he wishes to purify you that'll heal a complete purification. Because think about it. A woman who is dressed up and she goes out, how are other people watching her? How do they look at her.

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You know, sometimes when they tell you that they're at the gym sometimes and they're working out and literally managers watching other women come from one door and go out the other door. Sometimes you go to the mall, and you go out even to the grocery store, and you'll see a woman who's extremely adaptable, how other people are watching her. Not every time but many times you will see that. So when a woman is being looked at in this fashion in this manner, the humane clean. Think about it. People are looking at her with dirty looks, entertaining evil thoughts, thinking so badly about her.

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You know, looking at her body, visualizing and going into details and looking at parts of the body that we shouldn't be looking at. I mean, it's not appropriate at all. It's not decent at all. It doesn't leave a woman clean and pure. No it's like as though she stained

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when we

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displays your beauty before other men. It's as though she is stained. She doesn't remain clean anymore.

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Because everyone is looking at her everyone is touching her feeling or enjoying her that she remain pure and clean then no.

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So Allah says in an IUD de la hoody with him bancomer regicide, Allah wishes to take this field away from you or people of the house, were you the hero come total hero. He was used to clean you cleanse you completely cleanse you completely purify you a thorough cleaning a thorough cleansing. That's what he wants. This is why he has given you have these comments.

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And if you notice, Anil Wait, who is this referring to?

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the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Because this is addressing the wives of the Prophet settlements. And because there are some people who exclude the wives of the Prophet sallallahu isn't from the term a little bit. They say his wives are not a part of this. But it's amazing that in the debate is referring to his wives. And you say it only refers to the Prophet, his daughter and her husband and her two children. No, it doesn't just refer to them. Rather it refers to his wives as well. That was his family because what is a family without a wife? Is that a complete family? No. And we see that in solitude I 73. The angels when they came they address the wife, Brahim Ernest and

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I'm in the same way as well. A third GBM and Emily la rahmatullahi wa barakatuh Aleikum lol Bay, even they were called elevate and over their elevators referring to the wife of Ibrahim renessa

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will listen to the recitation of these