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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen or salat wa salam O Allah ashrafi Lamba un mousseline CD now when I begin our Maulana Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who are the early he was off he he Juma in Frobisher Elisa de via Sidley, a Maria Hill Odetta. melissani of Coco Lee Suba Hannah Kayla l Melina lm lm Tina in the cantle Ali mill Hakeem, a mama alumna my unfair owner was eating I mean be rock medica Rama amin Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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qualicum Sarah

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How are you, Mona Sanam?

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Alhamdulillah cold and tired and excited to be with you more than anything else on 100 Allah, Allah, Allah, I'm happy to be in your company as well. We waiting for other colleagues to join us as you know, but and the links

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tonight in sha Allah, we decided to go live and discuss the 26 the Jews, the Quran, the 26 Jews. So if you're joining us, and masala no more haven't become

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in the 26th Jews, Mona Salim, we have

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Serato cough if I can just single me out here quickly.

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We have started off that way the 26th juice basically begins and the central theme is believing the Quran revealed by the Aziz al Hakim, Take heed from the lesson of the Masoretic and people of add and become a color and preacher of the Quran like the gene. Okay, so that surah cough, beautiful surah many lessons to be taking the film's for heinola we also have surah Mohammed, which is the 47th surah of the Quran.

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And its central theme is success in this life and the after, requires Jihad with your wealth and your self right so that is Surah Mohammed, and we have gotten fat, which is the central theme of glad tidings to the Muslims that the gates to victory and abandoned booty will open. Following the 3d at holiday via Surah Taha gerat the central theme is refrain from the FARC and fulfill the rights of a lawful fool that I to the Prophet for for the rights of the Muslims and respect them. And the beginning of Salatu cough which has a rational proofs and proofs from the history of denial of messenger hood guidance to remain steadfast glorify and praise Allah and prayer and to remind the

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Quraysh of Jana and jahannam through the Quran now I just thought I'd share that I don't know perhaps people will find it beneficial

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perhaps not well, low item, but inshallah you can let me know how you feel about that Marina signing pic. And oh, i don't i think i think it's a very nice summary of hamdulillah and early on.

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And

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yeah, just very briefly giving you all those points, the most important points of the surah of the surahs now when I thought of certain specific verses that came in I thought they will perhaps weren't covered by those overarching

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titles like usually like the verse numbers and so on numbers and so on right

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okay, so I just thought that beneficial hamdulillah anyway, so we can perhaps share that with the viewers if they interested in Charlotte Allah.

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That's it.

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I'm going to ask you to decide but in a moment, I just want to invite on board or in the room with us. moderniser Korea Anika law Aqua ceremony.

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Why? Why?

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Mullah Salim somebody says your sound is echoing Is it still echoing?

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Do you have a loudspeaker on other than your earphones? Now? I don't know. I don't know.

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Maybe it's just

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Who is it? And you also could you also agree? Who me Oh, maybe it's really Korea, Korea? Oh, I don't hear any echo from anyone.

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Am I echoing?

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Am I going Am I going?

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You're going to me here you're going to me? And I will say

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that you can say both.

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You need to say

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I'm becoming you suddenly decide like

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I'm the only one that is not going hungry. But now you have to do

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the studio setup. Okay, you bet you guys are both echoing it. See

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And you have eco cancellation on I don't know You must change something they

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mean fondly common

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okay while we waiting for them to get the sound settings up and running in Sha

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1/26 juice

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yeah begins with Serato cough and these are also the how I mean right the from the 24th juice I think all the way through

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till this choosier off these a series of suar which all begin with the with the letters harming the harmful Moka pot and as we mentioned sorry Sally not just saying how amazing how many

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gone last

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yeah yeah

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okay just remove

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it just remove your earphones and just use your your onboard sound

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most likely

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I don't know we have brother hafeez

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article sent out

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you see that's why I tell you guys just come to the studio.

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And you can just suit this thing I know you

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want to be under lockdown. You know, you don't want to go out and break the rules and stuff like that. You can't do the studio you get different camera angles. Now you get your mic set up. And now he's sitting with all echoing business.

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Is that better? Is that better?

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Well, maybe that was of your equals?

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No. Okay, we just may be

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with me.

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You know what it could be? Yeah, I think it's easy. I think it's easy.

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I can I'm in a mobile office, but I got like some studio lighting and like some studio lighting.

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Okay, I follow what

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I think that should resolve the issue. I change something Yeah.

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Does it pay to know

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Well,

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I think

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180 I think it was gone. Alhamdulillah so everyone online. Can you verify that for me inshallah everybody's echo is gone.

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Okay, do Why are you Why are you logging on another device? Just so that all the viewers know the man that wasn't echoing was the sub that everybody else was echoing

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now it's actually Yeah, you're right. You're You're right. But I actually want to explain what happens because you're not in studio. And I'm basically trying to record you. So that feed is going back to you as well.

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Anyway,

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my understanding let's get on to the dissertation Republican.

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A law

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my documentary, this is probably always the most difficult part

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of this thing because monologist to choose which versus men all of the versus behind all this always just choose all of the verses as many as I want to read. Yeah.

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I'm gonna read the whole jewess I'm perfectly fine with

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our will to be human a shape on your Raji team.

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so Allah, Masha Allah lengthly, Shiva Salim.

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So who wants to begin I thought the one I have it stood out for me early on.

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I said once the beginning that I begin

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when I see that for me, earlier on, was in Serato off was number 15 on Allah who isagen by then akula la mina shaytani r rajim. Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem was slain al insana, BYD de Sena. And we have enjoined upon human kind, in fact, images share this I can just do this funky stuff now.

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Can you all see that? No.

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All final use and it'd be Wiley de Santa. And we Allah have enjoined upon human kind

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With regards to his parents, if Santa we instructed them with SSN

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and the technical definition of SSN ease and that I would allow her, get an nichetto that you, you be with yourself and you'll be with life and you interact in life. You enslave yourself to Allah

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and Nikita who as though you can see him. So in this context, it would mean that you treat your parents as though you can see Allah.

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As you can see Allah between you and your parents, how am I led to Omaha? And Allah goes on to give us some reason for why we should treat our parents in this way. Even though of course, they are a plethora of reasons. Hammer that to Omaha. His mother carried him in difficulty, while the I two called her and she delivered him with difficulty. Well, hamdu Rafi, Salo and carrying the baby, while he saw Lou and weaning the baby, meaning the period of breastfeeding fell as soon as shahara

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in total is 30 months. And of course, we know from another verse in the Quran, that the period of of breastfeeding is two years. How Laney cameleon and scholars have vastly reduced that the minimum a decade nice pregnancy period gestation period in the Shetty is in fact, six months, right because you have 30 months, you subtract two years you end up with six months. Anyway that's decided. So then the verse carries on either Bella or I should though, until he reaches maturity and you're the more fussy don't explain this refers to he reaches the age of Bulu he becomes bollier

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or Bella Alba in a senate and and then carries on and he reaches

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a it reaches 40 years. Now often when people translate this

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often when people translate this, they make the mistake of saying he reaches maturity and reaches 48 years. Right? He reaches maturity and reaches for the ideas which is not

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which is not necessarily the same it's not the same thing. He's reaching of maturity very refers to he's reaching puberty and then our inner senate and that's a next phase which is he reaches the age of 40 and that is a very significant age because it's mentioned here specifically in this verse that i think you know it's like a milestone in life you really reached okay the the peak of your life so to speak. Well Bella harbor in a citizen and then call her ob o z ne and ash Khurana ametek a lady and I'm the la vida de de even turns to alliances oh my lord. Who is there any grant me the ability and ash Khurana ametek to be grateful for your favors a lady and under aleja would you add favored

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upon me? While I walidah and upon my parents were an add on my lasagna handout although and to do righteous deeds which you will be pleased with? Well, I'll sleep leafy Laurie Yachty and grant me

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goodness make me have good

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disposition towards the reality my progeny in need to be to like I turn to you in tober I repeat until you were in the middle muslimeen and I am from among the submitters.

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This verse always, really strikes me because of how it takes one through the

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the stages of life and it's such a company it's a verse because Allah Subhana Allah is saying you know, in a very comprehensive way what is commanding of humankind and the things that he prioritizes year azzawajal His righteousness the appearance of course the hate comes before this other verses make it clear. So our belief in Allah then the righteous to our parents, which is joined with the head

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and then Allah gives honor to the mother in such a beautiful and elaborate way. And then take takes us through the phases of life you reach maturity, okay, so you're now at the age of you what we call value. And then you carry on the next phase in your life is 40 life is getting on now oh by lava albarino sanditon. And then of course, this maturity needs to be you know, strengthened with spiritual maturity and the person

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At this point in the lifetimes, Allah subhanho wa Taala and makes this beautiful do I think this is a wonderful to add that we should implement in our lives and not of course, wait till we 40 years of age for those who are younger,

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but all of us

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and look at the video and not just in the form of, Oh, I need to learn this too and make it when I look at this do I, in fact, with all that area of the Quran, I actually look at it as these are the things which Allah wants me to strive for.

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Because Allah is asking me to ask him for these things. So he's always asking me to ask him for these things. And that means Allah wants me to aspire to these things. So that's, I really read the other day of the Quran and the Sunnah, because it's teaching me what I should aspire to, in my own life, what I should set my goals at. And you can see gratitude. This is a beautiful way of explaining gratitude. And ash Khurana ematic allottee. And I'm Talia to give me the ability to be grateful to the for the favors that you had favored upon me spamela it's just like really looking at gratitude in a very beautiful way. And I think there's a huge contemporary movement towards you

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know, gratitude as a daily practice because of the the proven effects that it has.

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And Ashkelon, ametek, and then not just to be grateful for your favors, but also to be

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a contributor to be a boulder, an AMA solely hands out on Oahu, to do good deeds that that bold and that contribute positivity to the world, which Allah will be pleased with. And then to to raise good children as well.

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And to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala in submission. So yeah, I thought that would be my first contribution being united Allah.

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I think it's a beautiful day to implement both in terms of supplication as well as

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striving for it, you know, making it a milestone in your own life. And Allah knows best what do you guys think?

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I'll go first and

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if he doesn't go then you know you must go.

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What's gonna go But then I thought now let's go first.

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All this first isn't mahananda the next idea we can actually comment on this the only one coming close to that photos. So should you experiential knowledge of the rush?

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joking, like so. Let me just make sure we

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can all see the mic strong. My greatest secret weapon is this copy.

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Anyway, now I've seen a gentleman that please copy Sweeting in in China that he got the Mooney

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wood Willa, you can add in another cabelo Cinema amilo using the DA that Allah teaches us to make to Afu striving and searching for the things like malaria shadow saying Now Allah says that is out of it when those ones that do this they make the dough are they they they bring about that spiritual maturity as Allah gives him the physical maturity overseas put it on the game Allah, Allah He can Latina Natha cabello and home cinema amilo those are the ones whom we will accept from them the best of what they had done, imagine that you did so many actions now. And then Allah accepts the best imagine like one Salah that was like your best to work out for your whole life. All accepted went to

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Atlanta and because of that two records you winter Jana, Allah God, what if Allah in His infinite wisdom and mercy then all your other northa Salah stem after said like that now, but like all that other Salah said you were just thinking about all other clung nonsense men, and overturn all those of us into that two records that was that most pious two records of your whole entire life and all your Salah will file on the Delta Gamma would be of the best of what you had that Subhan Allah waneta Jai was were insanely the him v us Hi Bill Jana. How great is Allah that He will even you know, he moves the bed, he increases you in good he accepts according to the base and he overlooks

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the bad things. What are the acidity lady can you add on a promise of absolute truth which they are, they are promised. So the promise of Allah tala is definitely true. That ease will come after difficulty that gratitude will, you know will bring will bring greater rewards, that gratitude will bring about the change of mindset and

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mind shift barnala I mean, I said mentioned to you guys and mentioned to the listeners as well, like getting a great opportunity of a lifetime now Alhamdulillah over the last couple of months, just to be making that sugar and showing that gratitude to Allah element to see the role of the parents and what the parents did that you never even had an idea of. And the parents are still busy doing it now, behind the line you think we in the world, what powers them to go on like this? But behind a lot, it's a beautiful thing. So fully Allah grants me to to, to realize how fortunate I am and that I can make more sugar and gratitude for what I ever hamdulillah especially in light of parents in

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this particular verse.

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Yeah, no, I was just gonna say,

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for me, the oftentimes the placement of these is so important.

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You know, Allah subhanaw taala just before this verse

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is speaking about, like belief in him, those who believe in him and and the good outcome that they will attain. Right, and I was wondering, nella Dena callooh, rabona, legato, Masako, find out who

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would like us how will Jen Holly Dean Effie hedges me my kameyama?

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Right overseas indeed those who, who said, Our Lord is Allah, then there was steadfast, they will have no fear upon them. No, they crave meaning at the time of death. They won't fear what is to come.

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any punishment to anything like that? No will they grieve for what they've gone by

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almost 100 of those people, they are the companions of Jen, they will remain in there forever as a reward for what they had done what they used to do.

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And then Allah subhanaw taala immediately goes on to speak about this commodity gives me what was seen an insane every while he said

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Allah subhanho wa Taala enjoy enjoins upon mankind, recording experience. Yes, sir.

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It's almost as if Allah Subhanallah Singh must be in a perpetual state of goodness towards his penis.

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And, you know,

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I think the value of goodness to parents and obedience, it's like dwindling in our society,

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to a great degree. And, and

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that's a result of many things, I mean, a result of

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breakdown of family structures,

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you know, opposition to hierarchies and, and, you know,

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the fact that Allah subhanaw taala imposes that authority that our parents have over us, and, and it's just opposing power is part of our culture today.

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And it's not always a good part of our culture. Because you know, when the power is held in a good way, and authority is held in a good way, then it deserves respect, and it deserves

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you know, obedience, but oftentimes, you know, the, the manifestations of power that we see in our society is filled with bad and negligence and all of those things. And then we think that when ever this power, we can oppose it,

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I think I'm going on attention to the point is,

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we must never, ever be disobedient to our parents.

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We should appreciate them obviously, we, if they tell us to do anything that opposes what Allah wants from us, then we don't do that.

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But we still kind to them, we still good to them, we still live with him in in kindness, we do our best towards them. Again, we love them. We strive to

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serve the immunity everywhere we can. We don't even feel that we have the right to just

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disregard what they say, or speak out to them or think them stupid, or belittle the if it's for us. It's it. Can I can ask you a question. What do you think about this scenario, we

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a man wants to get married to a woman. But either of the parents don't approve.

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They don't have any, any sort of real justification. They just don't want it. What should people do in that situation? In your opinion, that's a that's

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a serious question.

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in marriage, a male doesn't require the

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permission of anyone.

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To marry someone else. A female does require the permission

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overhauling machine requires a worry to marry.

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However,

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if her wily

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Guardian is being unreasonable, and he's turning down a suitable suitor

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for no reason, no valid reason, and is potentially going to Hama thing she has every right to go to the coffee, which in our case would be the MJC.

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They would then look at the case and assess whether the father, they'll try and engage him, see if he has any valid reason, if it doesn't have any valid reason, then they would likely override him and still allow the marriage to go ahead.

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That's a very legalistic way of looking at.

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And life's not all about law.

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So that's in this place. And it's something that needs to be resorted to a time that's where Allah subhanaw taala places the thing.

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The idea would obviously be to try and get arbitrators, get other responsible people, to engage those patrons, speak to them, try to win them over, so that you can have what's beneficial. And you can also have the Bennett with the blessings of Europeans.

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You know, we shouldn't be quick to to resort to overriding our parents

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to doing what they don't want.

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And that's very important. I remember when, before I got married,

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as well, like, it's very important that you rezone me

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up.

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And you'll be willing to obey your parents.

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How many have a penis whenever opposed to the choice that I personally, I wanted to marry humbly. But I in my mind knew that if my mother must tell me to marry that person, I wouldn't have married.

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Hmm.

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That's a choice that you'd make at that point. Yeah. Because I mean, because of the fact that I trust my mother's judgment, and I feel that she wouldn't do something that's harmful to me.

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But I'm just saying it. In your case. Now, in your case,

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in your case, because I know you I'm gonna agree with you, I will lose interest in this judgment. But you get cases we ago, a girl dressed the father's judgment, but his judgment is scratching.

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So she ends up being just not be through dental Allah, Allah knows when?

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Yeah, no, that's a problem. That's actually a sin. Exactly that a

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very difficult situation. That also is, you know, that are eligible that come for his daughter. And he rejects them. And he rejects him without some buddy Peter to do to marry his daughter.

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That's the same as called other

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and it'll be sinful for them. And so, you know, in those cases, he can be overridden. But even after you override his authority, still try to treat him with kindness.

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Yeah,

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I was just gonna say, the matter of the verse and just before getting on the point is like, look at the extent that what obedience to the appearance entails in Islam, like, if the, if there are any non Muslim viewers, then just think about it in that sense, like in Islam, we would consider because that's ridiculous. In the modern world, right. What your parents think about the person you get, you're going to, you're going to get married to.

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Yeah, Father labra have is

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now I was thinking I'm on Melissa Korea's final was the when he said, like, you know, regardless, still, you know, try to treat him with kindness.

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You know, like his, his last.

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His last words are what CD the Indian libraries are, like, I'm gonna die.

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He's fine.

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So, when you see that the end of what he was saying, Now,

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he mentioned that, you know, still try and be good to them and kind to them and so on. And we have examples in the Quran of, you know, Gambia, such as nabriva Hema de Salatu. Salam, and, yeah, it's not like just the, you know, like in the one end, it's like a big thing. It's like a very, very big thing, right.

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This issue that we spoke about to the parents and not approving and whatever,

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but then if you look at the issue the with Nabil Brahimi, Lesotho, salami father was he was calling further away from Kufa. But even in that, even in that circumstances, the ad and the etiquette and the respect and the dignity was still maintained. So I think regardless of the circumstances, regardless of the circumstances, either and this is

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Strong sister youth, like, you know, like, I don't care what the circumstances on, like you can go to youth and stuff all the time. That was mommy or daddy see this is

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an account with all these things I'll continuously tell you actually does not matter. A does not change your duty towards the money responsibility towards them. Like you might even disagree with what they say no problem. You can even feel different to how they feel no problem. But never is it justified, that you lose your respect never is justified, that you don't treat them with honor and dignity and respect. So I look around us to always treat our parents with honor and dignity and respect. I mean, I mean, like you said just before again, yes. Hello, my lovelies.

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appearance of appearance. I want to comment on your last portion of the verse that you mentioned that you said you said in need to put the elago in the middle muslimeen then you made a video amazing point that something that I've actually been thinking about since we disgustedly Africa, you know, the whole drama and those are like goals that we should be setting ourselves and what you should be striving towards. Yeah, isn't it I remember thinking about it. And encoding is jetted off to Pfizer about it? Yeah. So heilala

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it's actually influenced a lot of what I've been doing since when I did the sessions.

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And anyway, but I was thinking that, you know, if you apply that concept to the end of this first year allows me to to elago in the middle muslimeen So now, you know this this person, and you're thinking about the different stages, treating the parents with goodness and kindness and axon as you beautifully explained. And then at the end of it like how you're always thinking you're How do I get that when you're aspiring towards that? At the end, the Allah shows us something in need to be to elago in me, mineral muslimeen so the person says, I turn to you, oh, Allah subhanaw taala were in me and me, I mean, Al muslimeen I'm of the of the Muslims of those who submit to the word of Allah

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subhanho wa Taala. So evidently, when it comes down to actually an identity choice,

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like Who do you choose to be

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and if you choose to submit to the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And then you'd be able to take it with a pinch of salt when it comes to obeying your appearance. And you know, sometimes even when they sizing you, yeah, you'll take another chin in you. Because you know, when the thought up in his lies under the thought of obedience up in his life under there'll be so Oh, and again, we saying this with in light of, as it has been explained, obviously, if you're not the morning, you two

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to send all in decencies or anything like that.

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In the family, we must we must build trust between parents and kids, we

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must build trust between parents and kids. You know, one thing I can say one is just mine is one thing I can say about all of you brothers who have analog.

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You know, if you think about all the evil that happens in the world, and all the trials and tribulations and you get filled with doubts and all these things, and then you think about people such as your parents, all of you parents, and you think wow, panela

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the storm medicals mean, like they still really good people in the world.

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No, I'm not. I'm not excluding my appearance. I'm just saying that. To have such balance is something really great and seeing the influence on you guys, and myself as well.

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It's

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only Malaysia is only excluding his own penis out of humanity. I love myself.

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And I wasn't excluding. I'm specifically saying like, if you see the relationship with obedience, and if you see like, who they are and how they raised you, and so on, it's admirable. And then, you know, it's easy to see how other important this instruction comes.

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Because they, they know what they're talking about. He knows I mean, like, you can really trust him. And it's for the rest of us they aspire to be beadings like that, like, an even better, you know, and it's so important to the

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young parents.

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I got a lot of

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math man, I just want to say this one thing. parents

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ask them what are you doing my neck staff is not gonna get you kids to Jana. And the English accents with the Ross and you know, nice white European accents, nothing wrong with it, but at the expense of health. So Canada, just

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this one, she doesn't want to let me give my life to it. Yeah, that's fine. If she sees that's a good idea. She's like you leave it but either

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You need it. You leave like an answer to load. She obviously knows what she's talking about. Like,

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anyways difficult

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as I wanted to speak,

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he forgot. Okay, so notice

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that, you know, Susannah saying that

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for females, maybe using a load of made it that she needs a wedding or permission.

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I'm going to be the one

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that's certainly the case Allah His infinite wisdom knows why he

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and Allah knows why he created that law. And it's very easy to see as well. I mean, if you just find it into the law,

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you'll see wisdoms for why for which Allah subhanaw taala would have legislated or wisdoms that follow on from Allah legislating that law.

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But certainly, there are cases when people that have responsibilities abused the the position of authority. I mean, you know, we always speak about cases like that, but as people that are involved in the public sphere, and who people direct

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Islamic questions towards, I mean,

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those cases do do exist.

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But the norm is obedience to the pain and the norm is that the parent should and would have the goodwill of the child at all.

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But yeah, it is a problem that exists.

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In some cultures is very big.

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You're to all the young children if there's any youngsters watching this, Canada now when you're young, listen to your parents, man. Because one day you're going to get married and you're going to be big. And then you're just gonna want for your mommy daddy to tell you Chiquita, do it like that. Do it like that.

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Welcome to Kaduna

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and we're live the guidance of the parents that's one of those things and I'm sure the older generation will be able to also even say like what I'm saying now men is that you only realize it of course now when you're old and then you see that benefit of that guiding I have the floor the old

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me bro just wait when you buy la vida San Antonio

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and then you you want to do something maybe me and then you did this Tell me McClung botnet to be Chima na parte de the movers and didn't want to move on do it now on the organizer by clunk, back Mitsubishi. And then after three or four times of darkness Obuchi the new master when they go do your own thing. And when you came back, and then can you see me Could you can see.

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But, you know, you know, no matter what do and behind law, many appear a person when they get big, when they get older, and they have their own children, then it's like, you know, Mommy, Daddy, just tell me what to do. And I'm ready now I'm ready to listen to you. I will do whatever you say. Just tell me how to make life so much easier. And then your father looks at you and He gives a lot. You know, that's like, yeah, it's one of those those secrets of life, man. So now when you younger, do that, fight against yourself and prefer your parents decisions over your own? Because in Allah's infinite wisdom, you will definitely see the guidance, they often

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you will definitely see the guidance the army. Gonna add to that I need to add to that. Okay, Zakaria, although, yeah, what did you say? This, this message came from to let

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you know, from two perspectives, that one, the child must have a certain relationship of obedience and respect and love and reverence for his parents.

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But parents must also be parents who are deserving of it.

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parents must be parents that please the child's after offers the child relationship with all of us, they should consider having good opening, they shouldn't use the children as simply means of material gain, or as pawns of their own pride or anything like that. That's your net worth or it won't benefit.

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And it won't benefit you as well.

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So I mean, I want to say and in these these,

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these, these specific things that people can do and like, you can't invest in secular education only. I know it's ugly thing to say secular education. But you know, you need to invest in your child's era to be that type of beat. And but the point that I actually wanted to bring was that those are our

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biological parents. Also know that we have many other parents and

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Yeah, I'm just thinking about spiritual beatings outages, because

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if this is the type of respect that you should give, because they were the cause of your physical and biological existence, that's it, then how much she respect, love, admiration, and obedience should you then give to those who were the cause of your spiritual existence.

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They brought you to Allah. And they brought you to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they brought you to, to practicing Islam.

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And not only that, but they also enabled you to assist others, those are your teachers,

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your allameh

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your leaders in that sense,

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you know, you're not because of a title, but because of service because of them actually being the in serving you in the capacity of a teacher. The same type of, of loving respect that you show for your parents, you should show for your, your teachers. And of course, the same conditions exist as well. Like, if you, if your parents command you with her arm or with gopher, etc, you don't obey. And of course, the same thing applies to your teachers.

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But I think that's another thing that you can see goes down, every generation goes down further. You know, people don't have the type of reverence for teachers, they don't have that ivory Flynn's for LMR, sometimes they've been through some trouble, or whatever the case may be, but that's also something we need to work on and show how you wanted to say something.

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Yeah, I was glad when, as a carrier mentioned that point that, you know, it's from two perspectives of the parent and the child. And

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I think it's important because listening tonight, they might have, you know, some kid thinking, you know, I don't have that relationship with my parents or whatever. And they might be a parent, you know, thinking somehow I don't ever see relationship with my child.

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You know, as parents,

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into the kids, we can do the youth, we can really talk straight and say, Look,

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there's no logical explanation, we just listen to

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them. And like, you know, because it all logic of all this craziness, we can go down a long road, but, but also those are those who are older, is the best way to learn. So Luca, asked so many people about, you know, those who the beatings have, you know, been, they've obeyed the Beatles, they follow the instruction, they, they may consultation with appearance in an ad, the, the influence of the parents and the lives and, and, and attend that positive and whatever it may be. And they'll tell you in and they'll vouch for the, for the same thing without much explanation. But you know, to the parents, it's important to understand that authority, authority is given. Right?

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But obedience is, it's like, like, through obedience is earned almost like, like, you know, Lucky's you, like his kids and the authority over the kids and the responsibility over the kids. But the obedience is something you have to, you have to I wouldn't actually even say earn it, like maintain this young kid and this child listens to everything you say, and believes in everything you say, if you tell him you can fly, then you pick him up and be like, Yo, I can fly, you know, you take him around, and you say, and they believe in every single thing that you tell him it. And then often too many times we just set ourselves up for failure by you know, breaking our word or not fulfilling and

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not being the for them. And so, you know, it's important experience to, to work at Admin all the time, all the time, all the time. And hamdulillah Allah has blessed me to also be a beard and and you know, my eldest is seven years old now she's she's going through a hole. Oh, either. had even diabetes. See you?

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I'm busy worrying about we might

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speak now but we she's gonna

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wait.

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Yes.

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One lie. She woke up one morning and she was crying for makeup. She woke me sleeping makeup makeup thing? Yes.

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I felt Kereama all the time

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that the light is at the edge of our life is a little anymore. So

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like I said, I should just say but they actually didn't develop. They just Yes.

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acting on instinct. Yeah, 3d.

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Like you try to overanalyze everything. Yeah.

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It makes me you know, like, like somebody.

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Somebody was asking me the other day like, how do you because I've got all the other children and then Iran is five and then without the three, right? Like, how do you control them? I was like, your job isn't to control

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Leave, just just keep them safe, redirect them over to the safe environment, you know, get him into a space where they can feel safe with foam in the walls, you know, just

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just teach them how to fall

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because you better the one or the other.

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But, you know, sort of heilala it's really, it's really a, it's an ongoing commitment to continue to learn, and to grow. And, you know, I think that's really just the message I want to give to all the parents that take it up as a, as a responsibility to keep learning keep keep, because parents and this is why I'm saying it when I'm coaching, you know, some teenagers and the penis, a very common message. You know, I don't know this child anymore. Like, I used to be like this, this this this this is, I was like, uh, well, if, if you're still thinking about him from when he was 12, obviously, you don't know him, because he's 16 now.

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And he's a whole different person. So it's about keeping engaged with what are the changes, what's becoming different, you know, talking to them frequently creating that relationship, so you keep getting to know them all the time. And the same applies to any relationship, keep getting to know them all the time. And I just wanted to encourage the pianist to put that if it's from this, I just want to say when in addition to learning about about the child,

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it's also important to learn how to parent

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differently, they think differently. Definitely. For me, like it is one learn even it is one learn everything.

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Okay, I mean, I decided I want to make some pizzas.

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And that's I'm gonna actually make the pizzas I probably keep my wife insha Allah to make the dough. But I will miss more pizza. I'm gonna spies for a while No, no, I was just gonna say okay, now we know you bought the pizza with

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the cat.

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super cheap were taken in. But you know,

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soccer justifies any noise.

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We're gonna go off to read so much. Or at least, I think to myself, you know, I read so much about pizza making about the different types of pizzas that you get out the different hydration levels and all of this, I don't even know where to find time to do this and stuff like that. I'm just taking myself

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out at the lows subhanho wa Taala make you prioritize what is more important, my books are stating.

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Like if you buy them, and you look at like a 90 degree.

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You putting so much into learning about when when when the the coffee phase was on when I was learning about coffee and all of those.

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When we want to do something with excellence, then we learn about it.

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I mean, I do my studio.

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Yeah, I will I remember back in the day when

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you know, we were doing PowerPoints for some program, and then you will tell me no, no, I have to use this fine without the what you call it sensitive and all this nonsense, nonsense permit beneficial stuff. But like,

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Yeah,

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it looks nice. I'm telling you, Andrew, this thing looks nice. And you like you want to find without curves at the ends of the latest.

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But I mean, it's indicative of the fact that you put in time and effort to learn about doing that thing in an excellent manner. But why is it that you know,

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with very important things in our lives, we often just expect them to be natural.

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Yeah.

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We think is the way that we will be rented. Yeah. And some people like to mean, if that's good, then they'll have a good example to follow.

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Oh, no, definitely. Yeah. But what I'm saying is,

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as even of those that do have good examples to follow, not everything of that example was most right for you. In the same way that not everything that is in you, as an example is going to be right for your kids.

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Of course, we will must wait. We will be rented for different age renewal kids, which was 20, which was some years ago. How about raised? rented? Yeah. Raised?

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And today, yeah, and we are raising kids for an age that is different to the age that we were raised in. So it's different, and everybody got their own challenges. I mean, yeah, years ago, 10 years ago, it was what the 33 team

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now the world's

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53 team because you

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Selling your mama, do you have any data to deal with the challenges that you are facing based on the people they interact with at school, your neighborhood and maybe your family members. Now God is a big thing in a global community. With the moment the child picks up that phone or opens a laptop, they're connected with everyone around the world, interacting with everyone around the world being influenced by everyone around the world. So parenting in a global community now more than ever, as parents must be equipping ourselves and staying ahead of the curve. You know, when I when, when my

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when my first daughter

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was born in I saw Pomona, Mohamad, like, you're always giving me this gift, but like

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to know the others names?

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No, no, what I

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want to speak about at the moment, and iD iD, one daughter and two sons, 100, Laura, and Ron and

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I know their names. I know, one's birthday. The other two, I didn't know my wife didn't mind. Anyway, so when, when she was born, satola How might you know, so had a lot of luck gave me this gift, but like with the instruction manual, because I tell you what to do.

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And he was laughing in his mouth. And he's like, you know, you're looking for the instruction manual, which is really a good start. Because you know, you're looking to read, you're looking to learn you're looking to, you're not gonna do your own copy then. Which, which is I think important, because I'm just mentioning when, when when I see now like, you know,

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and this is something,

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Molly Marsha, and I know, she's, she's online. Yeah, she gave me a gift. When rodya was born, actually. I don't even know she remember, she gave me the love languages. How do you know? She's?

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She made a comment earlier. No, no,

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no, no.

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No, that's

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not, oh, no, I didn't see. But anyway, so she gave me a gift the

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auction and it wasn't hard with me. I was.

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So she gave us a gift that love languages for for kids, men. And that is super, super important to understand things like that. And, you know, other your parenting skills, we've been a friend of mine.

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We, we, we A while back started, like, okay, you're gonna read a book, and then we're gonna, when you're done, you can like share it and swap it around, and, you know, different things, different tactics as you're learning and whatever. And I think both and because now you see, all your kids are different, they respond to the treatment to the like, you know, the way you treat him differently, the way you speak to them has to be different. And if you don't engage yourself in actually understanding how these things work, then you're not receiving an appearance like effective and like, you know, my relationships routed in and out, one of the pet peeves that I have, is that you

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absolutely right in saying we must upskill ourselves.

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So you get married, you know, you get the

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you get these periods of growth in your life, you should upskill yourselves in those roles and capacities. But I think it's a bit lacking in terms of

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these, these you don't find as many contemporary

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works that provide the Islamic, you know,

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shorter version of that.

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And I think that, that people really need to focus on that. And it requires some knowledge of, of Sam

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and then a knowledge of a different science is wanting Mary with to, for you to be a serious contributor in that realm. But we need we need that type of guidance, also.

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The look of infancy at this moment in time, but what I'm saying is like this type of training that we're talking about, it's a good and I'm I'm one of those are advocated because I also do that, but I think we should also get things that have its essence within Islam, because it's no different. Yeah, no, that's a good guy.

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Yeah, yeah. How is he gonna say one continent? Look, I'm not gonna lie. I'm probably kilter with myself. I don't know how much I read about being a thing. I removed buying some friends of mine, some books on good parenting and pouco you know, nurturing children, the reality anything everybody talking about is what to expect when you're expecting

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to die.

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Yeah, but you know, when that you know, you're talking about the the works that need to be put out in whatever, I just think an applied mind, right. would help me because what can we do right now, for example, I would, you know, we can recommend like, you know, certain books and maybe we can just put it up on the page where we can chat and look at a couple of things that people can read as a reading material for different phases that your kids are going through. I mean, I A lot of what I did, I read from like, this.

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stuff you can pick up with exclusive books or whatever and, but you use the tools you learn you use a tool

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You apply it to, you know what you're doing? And definitely will find, you know, I mean, why do I find Why does this thing yo

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this program Chico what is called China training that is like Superman he took like a Montessori knowledge and understanding of you know, of that world. And then she took Heidi Thoris Lhasa Salaam, and he actually, you know did like a whole program around it and like penis benefited like a lot from with men. So they are like, you know, that type of approach. But what I'm saying is that if you just apply yourself as a pilot man, you know, you want to make the therapy or you want to nurture your child. So there's certain skills that they talk about the that you can use, and it's a tool that you've got now in your toolbox, and you can use this building towards the direction that you're

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creating for yourself. So as a parent, you should be reading the works of your own spiritual journey and your own spiritual growth and development. And then you're leading these tools of how to parent correctly. And then once you on a journey, you use the tools to bring your kids along with human, like a very powerful verse for me is gonna be no 1000 He will come manner.

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So it's like leukemia.

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You want to be saved? Get on board with us.

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We have parents these days, it's a look at you must be right.

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Like, first question to ask yourself as a parent is, can I tell myself, can I tell my children to get on board with me? Because I'm on board in that direction?

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You know, I want to ship sailing in that direction. It

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is me.

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Physically douchey. Now you already know

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somebody who doesn't have something concrete. Yeah. So whilst we don't have those books you can't give us?

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Yeah, yeah.

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Right. It's just a big

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confusing when you stuck in those? Yeah. Now, I was thinking at this point element, that, you know,

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we don't really have a very pious idea. Now, I was thinking No, I was thinking of another version. I wonder what the kicker is.

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What

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that is, that's the

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point I was saying was that, um,

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you know,

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in traditional Islamic societies, we would have this idea of continuously being nurtured.

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And that nurturing would take place at the hands of a shake or something.

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Usually, you know, you'd be parented by pianists, they nurture you, when they would guide you teach you your basics, and, you know, mold your character and all of those things. But usually, in traditional Islamic societies, if your point where you get connected to a lack of shear was not like just teaching you information, and not even this Islamic knowledge, but you, but they are continuing your tarbiyah

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article, perpetual basis, it doesn't stop. And just just quickly,

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so so I was just missing a time. So we, we should try and actually look for those people who can nurture us throughout our lives.

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That might be that might be a friend, that the old YouTube account and that, you know, that, that you have such a relationship that you can question each other and guide each other. You know, it might be an old person, it might be uncle might be, or it might be your own parent.

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It might just be an old patina moss.

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But it's important to find that nurturing forcement, even as an adult.

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And I think, you know, for many of us, that's like, one of the big reasons why the passing of mulata impacted so greatly

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because, you know, he gave us guidance, it really impacted our lives in the course of our lives and what we did.

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And

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we kept living in this area, because we 15 minutes away from you guys.

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And something that's really like,

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you know, we must look for that.

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Part of the difficult thing of looking for that is that when you must become an adult, then nobody can mess with me any moment. I'm as big now. You did something differently, I think. Yeah, no, but this moment

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of, of being grown up and still being subjecting yourself to being to being nurtured when you were younger, then that was sort of a more mandatory thing. There was either that guardian or the teacher and enemy situation. You know what I mean? We just had to listen. And now when you big when needed thought, sort of Yeah, when you need it, actually even more, but you don't want it now. Because I must now be I know what I must do and

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so forth until it goes

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And then it goes away.

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Yeah, I mean, connection to cram the us know, online for one hour 10 minutes led the way that homeboy speeding thing that's in the Quran because we are perpetually behaving like toddlers trudging through life as if there is no consequences. So I mean Subhan Allah said if your animal animal higher to dunya ly Boone Wada Hoon was in a tomato, for whom minako mata Catherine Villa Manuel Allah. So Allah gives you like, the stages of your life man, what will happen and what you will be most in tune with.

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And at each one of those stages, there's a set of of that will be our lowest is a set of training loads is a set of rules, there's a set of most applicable stuff to you that you need to be aware of. And if you are aware of those things at that stage of your life, then you'll take that benefit but if not, then you will suffer that on and at the next stage is the other set of stuff that has to be you know, most

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foremost in your mind. And if you focusing on those things and the remedies for those things, then you will be successful. And so it goes

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I have something else to Vietnam supposed to be that of course.

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I was ready to leave.

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I was in Italy

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Yeah, now we covered one eye to eye. The applique appearance is extremely important. Yeah, even if we spoke like I was gonna say, you know, two episodes last,

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you know, or not the last but the one verse after the one that said you spoke about lots of images. The flip side of the coin means that this obedient child will let you call le Wiley they often Lockman.

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You know that the child that seems to experience

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you know, off to you. It's just like a sign of

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you know, what you want to call it like

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you irritation? Yes. So

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what did you find any Why did you feel like my doesn't even mean anything?

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It's just like surely irritation to parents Alesis whatever that person who feels awkward after identity and

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probably the child says to his parents, are you telling me that? Are you promising me that I'm going to be resurrected, many nations have gone before.

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He's like expressing disdain at the guidance that the speaker is giving him was in relation to his year often. So it's indicative that these parents have parents that care about the asset of the children

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at the identity and authorize your credit quality who remarkably well whom is the return Illa ye like me, while experience of calling out to Allah for him, and also expressing your love meeting you stating?

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Why you like me? You know, what do you my child just believe?

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and Chelsea's two speakers, this is just fairytales of what you know, folk ancient Tales of the ancients. All stories

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lots of addresses about those

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who

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say when I tell him

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in nations that have gone by before them from Jean Kane and mankind, certainly they are the losers. So you know, we must make sure that we not those children, who are the losers, let us attain success to our parents.

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Not destruction.

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That was a hunter gatherer guys, you guys can wrap up man I need to knock off. Erica.

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I want to come to everybody that's with us.

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I can't believe how to take a ticket.

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On Yeah, I was like shocked when I saw the time I thought

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I thought this must be a mistake or something but it is like Allah knows best but Molina. It is really nice to see you again.

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To see the listeners. Well,

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maybe maybe constantly. Keep

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connection to the plan. And may Allah open our hearts if there's another verse to mention, perhaps surah Muhammad, a fella that Barone and Quran Do they not alone in the in the verses of the Quran? and Morocco Lubin aka Fallujah or, or are they locks placed upon their hearts? One of the eyes or the prophets or cerami would say, how long have

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you been at the creek? That Oh Allah, open, the locks are now art to your remembrance imagine the Prophet sallallahu Sallam whose heart was constantly in the remembrance of Allah. But he will say and of course the greatest aspect was that he was teaching us that Oh Allah open our hearts remove the locks that are that remove the locks that are on our hearts, which prevents us from remembering you.

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And directly Allah says do not ponder in the Quran or the locks on the arts. So if I'm not

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in it should mean you know that my art is locked in a way Allah tala open our art so that we can know more and more and more so that the arts can be opened. I mean, I mean, double both ways. That's what we are. That's it. That's what the year for you know, the next point is actually mentioned to me last week.

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Now, I'm learning adapt slowly means I won't leave without greeting. Okay, so do you want to come back to completing Aloma? Shall we wrapping up now anyways?

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Yeah, so I was just gonna say that. Okay, then I'll wrap up with the guidance on the fundamentals. Okay. Continue. Yeah, I'll end with this comment. inshallah. I said it Oh, Buddha last week. And then he said he was listening to one of our previous programs. And he just like wanted to know for me that about the board and the equipment because there was a point where somebody said, Oh, no, I disagree with that point. And then I said the outers probably together, yeah. Cuz he always like to disagree. But I mean, you know, how does it now work? Can can use use it in speaking about the Quran by the Noosa disagreeing with one another. So now who's right with whose meaning and so forth and so

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on? And so I explained to him No uncle, you see, everybody's got the brain of the owner. And Allah gave the Quran to us like this, that you can understand what the words mean. And then you might just think, how does that apply to humans? And then just before that he actually read the ebony is law with Caronia materiality, and I'm totally calm. We're only football to Kumara, Laila Mina, explaining the meaning of the IRA. And then I asked him the uncle, how does this apply to human? Do you see that a lovely with you, in a way above other people, and then we just discussed it a little bit of like, five minutes, and I told him nicely, Uncle that Mr. doublemint just to read the idea,

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you see what it mean? How does it apply to me as not like you saying, it means that in the Quran meant, and he was actually like, shocked, because he deals now so that he could do himself to this double exercise as well. So yeah, speaking about the Alps also So get yourself at the bar buddy.

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Not making Tafseer of the Quran and saying this means that but you know, how does this apply to me and my Allah tala grant asset, I mean, I mean, I mean, time

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I'm, from my side,

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I think it's important to, for all of us is to, you know, even if you think about this versus men, so we're talking about parenting and we took the bulk of the program for that parent child relationship.

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And Allah grant us healthy beard and children relationships in our society.

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I mean, those that benefit us in the soil and the next, but it's important to, you know,

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to just look at the beginning of now here we're talking about a fella who Quran so look at the new Pandey about the score. And

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so, I just wanted to say like when he had definitely asked earlier, like, I just want learners and he does want learners and whatever you know, there's people out there that specialize in that whatever I mean, a self is a couple other people that work with speed and children and whatever and you know, you can reach out to people in this literature so you can reach out to me I can also recommend literature and whatever it may be, and in this literature and stuff, but it's a starting point. a starting point is called an ally starting with a fella who could you know ponder about the Quran you know, the parenting, your advice that you can find in the Quran Subhana Allah the

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abilities that you can gain just thinking about these ayat in our Allah teaches us through the Quran, in the different scenarios in whatever so ponder with the with objective of learning man ponder with it objective of becoming more becoming, you know better becoming not better than anyone else but better than the previous version of yourself. You know on the spice about just upgrading ourselves all the time. We all the time when upgraded software, upgrade your phone, upgrade everything. Everything must be upgraded even the phone, you're getting

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Ready to use a software upgrade every time upgrading you must click yes it was another upgrade. Why? Because things around you are changing. So you can't operate with the old version and the new circumstances. Now why do we want to do the same with ourselves? upgrade upgrade upgrade all the time and how do we do that? learn learn learn Allah see that in the very first this will be read. So you know just a strong reminder to myself and to everyone to read the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala with intention to grow to become more illuminated to be guided. Because sometimes you can read my advocate and gamma cavity making the effort and your intention is guidance. intention is

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knowledge your intention is to learn closer to Allah and Allah can make you reach that objective whether your means is stuck in in in broken, but you're trying and you're striving and you're on the road. So May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us our objectives that we're trying to achieve ourselves and they make that good objectives may make that beautiful nears and may grant us to see the same things ourselves and our kids. She used Philander, he told me when I was hanging out and I told him so how do I know having a baby so when he told me making things for your child have intentions for the child so you know that taught me a lot about like being deliberate mean when you're raising the

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child you have an intention for him to be deliberate in equipping him with technology shattered we all are you investing investing in one area of life but life encompasses a whole other thing What about the identity we invest in one area they wonder why they have an identity crisis when they're 18 because only one area of their lives is developed but everything around him is like I'm supposed to exist like this this is what the Legion asked me this is this this is that so like everything tensions drive behind it to make it mellow make it easy for all of us it's a struggle I mean

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come alongside and after that serious note on a lighter note we are upgrading the country also right to in from version get president from

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