Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 21 – L214C

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of showing one's personality and showing off one's appearance in a social context, as it is important for everyone to be gentle towards themselves and avoid harming others. They stress the need for pride and arrogance in publicity and how it can affect one's health. The speakers also touch on the topic of moderation and speed in walking, driving, and speaking, as it is important for everyone to show one's qualities as good to others.
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Without to sorry, heard the callin see and do not turn your cheek in contempt towards people. What a beautiful advice

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that when you're talking to people face them.

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When you are sitting with people face them, don't turn your cheek towards them in contempt led to surreal hot dogs to sarena Thunder veterans slot I

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saw the iron law.

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And surf is basically the crookedness in the neck. What does that mean? That the neck is constantly bent in one direction.

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So like, for example, a person is just facing left, or versus just facing right? It's just fixed over there. It doesn't move from there. And basically, this is a disease that camels develop, in which the neck becomes crooked, and it bends down. And so that a camel cannot stand straight, it cannot walk straight. It's a particular disease that they develop in the neck. Okay. And because of that, they cannot bend their neck, it's just fixed in one position. And they cannot walk straight, they cannot look straight. And, figuratively, to start real hot. The hot is the cheek of a person to sorry. This is figuratively when in arrogance and pride. A person turns his face away from people

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out of arrogance and pride, a person would turn his face away from people.

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So whenever a person would say that the Arabs would say, God, sir, out of

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that he has turned his cheek away in contempt. Can you picture this? It's very important to picture this.

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That one is that you're talking to someone and you're facing them. And the other is that you're so full of yourself that you're just looking away from them. And as they're talking to you, you don't even bother to look at them. What do we learn that we should face one another, not turn our backs to one another? Isn't it? We shouldn't turn our backs to one another but rather we should face one another because when you face one another in gender, what do we see motorcar believe facing one another. What does that lead to? love, happiness.

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And when a person does not even look at the other, when he does not even face the other than what does it show? extreme pride and arrogance. Avoid one set, walk on either job. berusaha hado accom Nana who may lead He further

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that when a tyrant. He turns his cheek away from us. We remove his crookedness until we become straight. That if anyone dares to turn their face away from us, we don't accept it. We don't take it. What do we do? We fix their crookedness and then they become string.

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So while to surreal heard the colonists Do not turn your cheek to the people out of contempt out of arrogance out of vanity, but rather face them.

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Be gentle towards them, and greet them with a cheerful face. Greet them with a happy face. And notice leanness and as includes

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all people,

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typically what happens with children, guests come over relatives come over, they don't like those guests. They don't like those relatives. And that's it. They don't even face them. They don't even look at them. They don't even go and greet them. But what do we see that all people no matter who they are adults, or they're younger than you were their relatives, or they're just friends or strangers when you come across them when you talk to them. When you meet them. Don't be arrogant in your behavior towards them.

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Well, Adam, she filled out the model her and do not walk in the earth exultantly. moto Han is from the roof of his name raha and Mara is extreme happiness, extreme happiness.

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That when a person is so happy that it becomes arrogant, and while at times she can have the Matterhorn, don't walk with this extreme happiness, that don't walk arrogantly. Don't walk strikingly don't walk with heartiness rather walk out

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with humility. And don't walk like this. Don't face people like this because in the law hilarya hibou column of caring for her Allah. He does not like every person who is self deluded and boastful. He doesn't like such people, no matter who he is called Lamb of God and for her

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Mustang is from the roof actress. Hi, Ella. And if the N is arrogance that is based on some greatness or superiority that a person thinks he has. He doesn't actually

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You understand

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such arrogance, such pride that is because of what some greatness or superiority that a person thinks he has. He thinks he's better, he thinks he's superior, he thinks he's greater. But he's not actually like that.

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So in an imaginary world, a person thinks very highly of himself in his head. In his opinion, he views himself somewhat very great. And this is from file

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and who is

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someone who cannot stay silent Kalfa What is it such clay that is dried, when you knock it, when you touch it, it produces a sound, a knocking sound. So, who is for who then

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someone who cannot stay silent,

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who wants that his presence should be felt?

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Who is always trying to seek other people's attention. How, by boosting, by showing off, by praising themselves by talking about themselves, by not letting other people talk, you understand

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that you just fetch him slightly, and bang, huge noise. He comes in. And that's it center of attention. For who

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the person who makes his presence known and felt by those who around him, he tries to gain their attention how, by talking by being noisy by showing off by praising himself by showing himself as superior.

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is such pride that is over external things, external blessings.

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So it's not that a person is proud because he has a certain ability. But he's very proud. Because he's very wealthy. He is extremely beautiful.

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Or, you know, he's very proud over a pair and things that are very visible, with which he shows off. He understands that this is what fashion is.

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So Allah, He does not like every person who is mortal and for who, a person who, when he walks, he walks arrogantly. And you know, sometimes, you see young people they're walking. And it says, though, which King is coming, you wonder, King of which world is coming. The way that they work. It says though other people around them don't exist. And they're the only ones in this world. And as if they're imitating someone which they are in their heads trying to imitate. And to think, yes, I look like that basketball player. And I look like that wrestler right now. And yes, that look I gave and that step I took. Yeah, exactly. imitation. That's what they think of themselves.

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They think of themselves as someone very great, but they're far from that.

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And for who, someone who's always showing off talking about themselves, I can do this and I can do that and I have this and I have that

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medallion for who. So we see that with these characteristics that are mentioned over here. That led to certain katakolon as Latham shuffle optimara in the La La bucola medallion for an extremely ill mannered ill behaved person has been described,

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that when this person talks, he turns his cheek in contempt. He does not even face other people. When when he walks, he walks with pride. And in his head, he thinks very great of himself. Because of which he criticizes other people, he belittles other people and he praises himself all the time. Such a person a loss of power does not like

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what do we learn

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that he believes when he tried to be arrogant that he Lockton m&r in wahala who maintain that you created me from fire and you created him from clay. He was showing off for who? And in his head McDowell. What do we see that our last panel 30 seconds, so two out of 13 that call a fair bit minha familia Khun locka enter the Kabbalah fee for Hodge in the coming of slavery, that descend from Paradise, it is not allowed for you to be arrogant over here. So get out indeed, you're of those who are debased and humiliated for which leave in the communist solid in Europe, those who are made small because those people who are arrogant, what do they lack? What quality is the lack of

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humidity? And what is the last parameter like humidity?

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And when a person is humble, it reflects in his speech, it reflects in the way that he deals with other people in the way that he looks at other people in the way that he walks. What do we see that worry by the man and Latina I am shuna early hona

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those who are gently upon the earth with humidity not with pride and arrogance

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that do not walk upon the earth exultantly with pride. Because if you try to walk like that, you will never tear the earth apart. No matter how heavily you put your foot on the ground, how heavily no matter how terribly you stamp your feet, you will never be able to tear the earth apart.

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And, as you walk swaggering, as you walk, arrogantly swaying from side to side, remember that you will never reach the mountains and height. No matter how great you think of yourself, you'll never reach the mountains in height.

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So what do we see? humidity is something that a lot of likes, and arrogance is something that he dislikes. And look, man, he's making his son realize that because it's very, very easy for children to start showing off, isn't it? Sometimes it's such a young age, little girls. They're so proud of their girls. They're so proud of their dresses. They're so proud of their dolls, and what are they doing? Mine is better, isn't it? Mine is better. And I have this and I have that. And my mom got me that my dad got me that this is what children are doing. From a very young age, they are encouraged to show off. isn't sure if your girls walk like this talk like this. And when children, they behave

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in this way, we feel so proud. We get so amused. And this is a sign of arrogance. And if it's not controlled at this point, imagine what Queens in their head they'll become as I grow older. So they have to be very, very careful about it.

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And we see that on one side. Look man, Hakeem. He's instilling in his child positive traits best character, how where he's telling him that he should fear a lot more that he should know that our last panel is watching him that what would have been my aloof one honeymoon card was berala masaba car These are what akima salata good qualities.

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And at the same time, he's also telling him to stay away from bad habits, bad qualities. Both are necessary.

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You instill good qualities and you remove bad qualities as well. Remove far from children all types of manners, bad manners. And notice, he does not say over here, don't walk like this. I hate it when you walk like that.

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Don't walk like that. You look like so. And so. What does he say?

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Don't walk like this. Why? A law does not like such people.

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In Allahu Allah you have bucola McTiernan, for whom Allah does not like such people.

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And when a child has a love of Allah, the fear of a Lynas heart, then he will be able to leave anything for his sake.

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What is the problem today? The way that young people dress, the way that you walk the way that they talk, you try to correct them, they say, Oh, you don't know. You're so outdated. You live in the past? You have no idea what's going on today. Why? Why do they say this? Why do they behave like this? Because what's missing in their hearts? love of Allah fear of Allah.

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When the love of Allah comes when the fear of Allah comes in, a person can leave anything, then a person can do anything. But

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typically, what do people like to do? They like to follow mainstream fashion, instead of what Allah soprano Tara likes, and what Allah soprano guy has prohibited us from.

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And we see over here in this particular block, in the previous hour, morals, values, and in this idea of luck.

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So we see that he's raising a very well behaved, a well mannered child.

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When it comes to doing therapy of children, sometimes we're only concerned about making sure they have memorizes. They've memorized that. They're getting excellent grades, they're going to school, they're doing their work. But when it comes to their behavior, when it comes to their character, sometimes that is neglected.

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That is neglected sometimes. Just the other day I went to visit some people and their son, teenager is going to university, first year, second year, something like that. And I was amazed at how he greeted the guests and how he stood as the guests were leaving. Believe me, I've never seen any teenage boy, even teenage girl like this.

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No one ever.

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And I was thinking that how can this child is like this so respectful. You know, with so much respect for other people. He's standing there with a smile, you know, greeting everybody, all the uncles as they're coming in or as they're going, who does that? who stands at the door with their father? As the uncles are coming or as the uncle they're leaving? Who does that today? Which boy does that today? Which teenager boy does that today? Hardly anyone. You keep getting them. Come come the guests are here. Come come together.

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Leaving, and they're busy in their own world.

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And I was thinking about it, this child was so well mannered, because his parents are like that.

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His parents are like that, when parents give respect to others and children will also give respect to others. And when parents will actively try to instill these qualities in the children, then the children will become like this. So, we see the Luqman Hakim is raising a very well behaved, a well mannered child, someone who was very civilized, someone who is very respectful. Someone who was very courteous.

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So how is it possible when parents themselves are like, but many times what happens? children come, we don't give any importance to them, isn't it? they come they go, No, salaam, nothing. We pretend this Oh, they don't exist. Whereas if we give importance to children, it can have such a positive effect on them.

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I was reading this book by Sheikh Mohammed latifi. And he had written that once he went somewhere, and it was a classroom, and he was questioning the children. And one of the children, he gave a very good response. So he wanted to give him something, he didn't have anything, he just took off his watching him, he gave it to that boy,

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because he wanted to show appreciation to the boy.

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And then boy, he didn't know where he was from what he was going to do, how it was going to affect his life. But many, many years later,

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he mentioned that he went to a mustard and there was a boy who was recyclable on very beautifully. And afterwards, he came to Him. And He said to him, I'm that boy. And you know, because of that watch you gave me you encouraged me so much that I made up my mind, I was going to do something

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what happens? children come? They say such good things. They do such good things. But we pretend as though they haven't done anything. We don't even acknowledge them. Then what kind of motivation Can we give them? How can we encourage them to become better people? What role models are we providing for them.

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So if we want children to be respectful, we have to be respectful towards them first

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walks with FEMA Sheikha and we moderate in your pace, that when you walk, how should you walk with moderation works it absorb the costs and costs is to proceed straightaway do go towards one's direction straightaway do not get distracted here there do not get diverted with straightaway. And then it also means moderation to be balanced. Because cost is actually the moderate way, the middle way, the middle path.

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And if you think about it, whenever you're going somewhere if you adopt the middle path, and you get to the destination straightaway. Whereas if you keep going right or left, then what will happen?

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It will take you hours, isn't it? Just imagine one road, one highway, it leads you to a particular destination? And what happens when exit comes you like Oh, let me see what's there. And you turn right? And the street turns left? Okay, let me see what's there, then what will happen? When you get to your destination? no cost is what the middle way, the moderate way to go straight away to the destination.

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This is why we see that there was a local cost of fuckery. Well, in that I asked you for moderation in poverty. And also, when I'm wealthy, that when I have less, I still don't become stingy. And when I have more I don't end up wasting well. So cost is what moderation.

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So work set the machine can be moderate in your walk, that while you're walking, how should you walk? What should be your speed

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of moderation. Not that you're running all the time. Because sometimes we encourage the children Run, run, run. And what happens that's what they'd like to do all the time. There should be a time for running. And there should be a time for walking. Right?

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And sometimes what happens that people they walk so slowly that they begin to affect others.

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So moderation and speed is necessary. And moderation and speed means that whatever the situation requires from you. That is what you

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It doesn't mean that you walk slowly, very very slow, dragging your feet being very meek. No. Nor does it mean that a person is rushing, that a person is walking arrogantly No, but rather he should walk peacefully and with dignity. And how will that be possible that when a person keeps his walk, how, according to the situation according to the circumstances,

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that let's say a person is driving on the highway. That person has no no boxes be machico I shouldn't drive that fast. No over there. You have to drive fast. Right? And you're driving on the street and you say walk up mochica Okay, you're driving slowly. Good. You should be driving slowly.

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Over there, you shouldn't be speeding over there. So how would it be determined? The place that you're in the circumstance that you're in?

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What would mean so take and also lower your voice while look the line but but above and what does that mean? The lower to reduce removable basa lowering of the gaze, reducing the gaze.

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So similarly, this word is also used for lowering of the voice reducing of the voice.

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So, while don't mean soltec, reduce lower min se, it doesn't mean talk, you know, in a very low voice all the time, but what sometimes meeting wherever it is appropriate.

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In certain situations, you are required to be loud. Like what, like, for example, when a person is giving the other, right, he has to be loud. If a person is making an announcement, he has to be loud.

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If a person is sitting at a place, let's say you're sitting in the classroom, I'm sitting all the way here. If you give a comment, and you say, I should be lowering my voice, I won't be able to hear you.

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Now, if you speak loudly, that does not mean you're being disrespectful. You are required to be loud in the situation. Right?

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But in other situations, what does it mean? Generally, when you're talking to someone, you're having a conversation with someone you're addressing someone, how should you talk?

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Not loudly, but in a low voice and low voice does not mean that the other person is struggling to listen to you. low voice means that you're not yelling. Alright, so what I mean so the men notice that over here, some not all,

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in uncurl a sweaty law so to help me

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Why should you lower your voice? Because indeed the most disagreeable, the most hideous of voices the most hideous of sounds? is a who lasota Hamid, the sound of all of the donkey as what is the plural of so an uncut, most disgusting, most loathsome, most hideous due to the listener that nobody likes to listen to it? Nobody enjoys listening to a donkey bring

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in Anchorage, Swati De Soto Hamid, and how does a donkey Bray

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with an exhale and ending with him? in here? Extremely Loud, hideous, hard to listen to irritating. Nobody likes to listen to it. So don't be annoying. When you talk to other people,

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that you're so loud, other people are waiting for you to be quiet. Isn't it? In uncurl Swati De Soto honey, have you think about an in every culture with a donkey respected?

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The donkey is considered a donkey right? Nobody likes to be like a donkey. Nobody likes to be called a donkey. Nobody likes to be compared to a donkey. So he's giving him a very good example. That don't imitate a donkey My dear son.

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In the uncle Swati the Sultan Hamid if you notice when he tells him to walk, walk, Sophie mochica you're a human being. Don't be wild when you walk. waldmann Celtic, again, you're a human being when you speak, speak in a low voice in the Conqueror Swati de salted honey. So don't imitate a donkey.

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But what happens when children imitate the sounds of different animals? What do they get? What did they get in return? Wow. Do it again. Do it again, isn't it? This is what we do. That when children they make hideous sounds, loud, disrespectful sounds, we encourage them and sometimes literally children are having a competition. He can do better, she can do better. My child can do better. See how amusing he is? But this is not the right way. We see that. A little later on he narrated the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said when you hear the crying of roosters that early in the morning or sometime during the day, you hear roosters making loud noise. Ask for Allah blessings for their

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crowing indicates that they have seen an angel

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and when you hear the ringing of donkeys seek refuge with Allah from Shetland for their brain indicates that they have seen a Sherpa Pachauri

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that when roosters when they're making noise, what does that indicate they have seen an angel. So angels are around. You don't know what they're bringing? Ask a love of ask Allah for some blessing.

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It doesn't mean that the angel is the cause of the blessing. But the angels they will be there for a reason. Right? So when they're there ask Allah for some blessing for some Rama and when a donkey is praying, it means that he has seen a shaman. So seek Allah's refuge because there is a

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A plant that is around somewhere. So seek Allah's refuge.

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But many people, when they hear the brain of a donkey, what do they do? They imitate

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the imitate that sound. It's not decent at all. It's very, very indecent to imitate ourselves. Think about a human being so dignified. Allah subhanaw. taala has given so much dignity and respect to human beings and we degrade ourselves by imitating the sound of other animals. And out of all the animals is what we can come up with.

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So this advice is extremely beautiful. That works the famous Sheikh Walden and Celtic in Ankara.

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If you think about it, what is the reason behind screaming, shouting, talking loudly, walking arrogantly dragging one's feet, not caring about other people. What's the reason behind that?

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arrogance mocha, for who? A person who lives in his own self only.

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He is not concerned about other people. Because when a person will be concerned about other people, when he will walk, how will you walk with care? Isn't it so he will not walk so loudly? That as he steps, each step is like a hammer in somebody else's head? Literally. Because sometimes what happens that if people are living in the same house on different floors, sometimes people are not careful about those who are living on a lower level. In apartment building. Sometimes that happens, isn't it? Sometimes people are living in the basement and we have no care or concern for people who are living in the lower level. We let our children run. Many times people who live in apartments, what

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are they complaining about? that the children who live on the upper level, they're running all the time. And it makes so much noise, isn't it? Sometimes the house even so this is something we have to be very careful about. Because when a person who walks like this without caring about other people, it shows that he's more style and for whom he's not concerned about others.

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And sometimes as we walk, we drag our feet.

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Or when we walk, we don't care about the other people who are around us, we push them, we bump into them. Sometimes it's by mistake, that's understandable. Obviously Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody can lose your balance. But sometimes we're not careful in the way that we walk. It shows that we're inconsiderate. This is something that is not right. And similarly, when sometimes when we're talking, we talk so loudly in a way that is very disturbing to other people. We see that her saying really learn who he said that I asked my father about the profits that allowed us Adams behavior among his companions. And he answered that he was always cheerful, easy mannered and

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lenient. With his companions in gatherings, I was a

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cheerful, easy, mannered, lenient. He was not rough. He was not noisy. He was not vulgar, insulting or miserly.

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Because sometimes when we're talking, we say, extremely harsh words. We make a lot of noise will become vulgar. In our speech, we become abusive in our speech. He wasn't like that. He used to overlook what he disliked anything that he disliked, what did he do? He overlooked it. But what happens with us sometimes, if somebody says something does something that we dislike, we don't leave them until we think that we have put it in their head that what they did was wrong, what they said was wrong.

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So he used to overlook what he disliked. What is a sign of humanity and if you don't leave the other person until you make them admit that what they did was wrong. what they said was wrong. That is what assigner arrogance, that How dare they say this against me? How dare she bosses comment against me.

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So used to overlook what he disliked without depriving others of hope, or answering them negatively.

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When he overlooked the faults of other people in a gathering. He would not deprive them of hope that Oh, I should not even say anything after this. This sometimes in the gathering it happens you say something wrong, the other person insults you so bad that you don't say anything.

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For the rest of the evening,

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so he would not deprive other people of hope, nor would he answer them negatively. And he refrained from disputation from practicing. And curiosity prattling is when a person talks non stop just talking, talking, talking, you know, like, for example, a person has gone somewhere, and they won't stop until they have told me the entire story. What do they want? They should be the focus, gaining attention model.

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And he refrained from curiosity. What does that mean?

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interfering in other people's personal affairs?

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By asking personal questions, like what? Okay, how long have you been married? Sometimes they're more personal. How much do you earn? How much money do you make?

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Do you get any money for the work that you do? Do you get paid for it? Or are you volunteering? How does that concern you? If somebody is volunteering, or somebody is getting paid for the work they do? How does it concern you? You don't have to pay for their taxes, isn't it? You don't have to do that. So don't be concerned.

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Okay, how old are you? Sometimes people don't leave you until you tell them their age? You look so young.

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So the prophets are the loudest enemy refrain from curiosity, because all of these things, what do they do they make the other person uncomfortable, isn't it?

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And he spared others from three things.

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He never censured alone, like constantly blaming people found fault with or spied on them.

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You wouldn't do that. centering people finding fault in people, spying on people. Let me see what it does. Let me see what she does. Let me see what's on her phone. Let me see which model it is, is it the newer one is the older one.

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He spoke only what he hoped would be rewarded. He spoke only what he hoped would be rewarded. And when he spoke his listeners lowered their head quietly. Why?

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Because whatever he said was so meaningful, isn't it?

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Because when do you not care about what the other person is saying?

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Either when they're saying something negative, or they're saying something that has nothing to do with them, or they're saying something non stop constantly. So what happens you don't give any attention to what they're saying, but the profits or losses, and when he spoke, his listeners lowered their head quietly. And when he was silent, they spoke. They never spoke haphazardly in front of him. And if one talk in his presence, they listened to him until he had finished. And he was to laugh, and wonder at what they laughed or wonder that because sometimes we think that laughing or wondering, this is something that is against piety. But we see that a normal human being

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a person who lives with moderation. What does moderation mean? That you refrain from that which is wrong, which is described in these ayat.

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And he was patient with strangers who were rude in both their talk and requests.

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Because sometimes what happens is stranger, somebody who has nothing to do with you, all of a sudden, they see you, and they ask you, are you expecting?

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And what happens? Like, who are you? And why do I need to tell you? So he was patient with strangers who were rude in their talk and their requests? Who can be like that? A person who was not mortal. And

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so look at these qualities that look man is instilling in his son, that don't be arrogant. Don't be boastful. Allah subhanaw taala does not like such people. When you walk, walk with humility, when you talk, talk with humility with moderation.

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Don't imitate animals don't come across as someone who is not liked.

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anything you'd like to say before we conclude.

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Many times it happens that when we read these descriptions, we think oh, I don't do it. And we think oh, yeah, that person and that person I know. No, we shouldn't be thinking about other people. We should be thinking about who ourselves

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that maybe I walk like this, maybe I talk like this. Maybe I behave like this.

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And only when we reflect on ourselves, then can we correct ourselves? Otherwise, where's the improvement? How is it possible? self reflection is the first thing to do.

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The thing is that children, anything that you will appreciate before them, that is what they will begin to love and anything that you show dislike towards that is what they will develop this like for

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little children sometimes. In fact, even adults, when they grow up, they will not like certain foods, they will not do certain things. Why? Because since they were children, their mother told them this is not good. This is not nice. This is not right, isn't it and they never grow out of it. Never.

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Why? Because this is what they were showing was good and this is what they were showing was bad.

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So whatever you showed your children, that is exactly what they will see.

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Many times parents tell their children Oh, you won't like us food, don't eat it, don't try it. And what happened with the rest of their lives children will not try. So we see over here that what do we need to show as good to our children that which Allah likes? And what do we need to show as bad? that which Allah does not like? A lot does not like this, Allah like says, that should be the priority. And how will that come? When you have the lesson ingrained in you have latos law that everything alone watches everything Allah knows yet deeping Allah, only then will you be able to transfer these things to the children as well.

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Let's face it, the recitation of these verses

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soprano Callahan will be handicapped and Chateau de la ilaha illa Anta Mustapha Luca assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Luqman 16-19 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 18-19

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