Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 04 – L056E

Taimiyyah Zubair


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An-Nisa 15-25 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 24-25

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I was a bit late in the ship I

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will begin from a number 24.

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One must sign out to Mina Nisa, and also prohibited to you are all married women.

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In the previous ayah, we learned about Mohammed Ahmed women who are the more hot on earth women, those women whom a person is forbidden to marry, a man is not allowed to marry

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either permanently or temporarily.

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And of those women who are forbidden upon men to marry temporarily or who and marcelin

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who are the more slanted the women who are already married.

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So the more sun admin and Nyssa they are forbidden for you to marry in them and when I get a man to come, except those that your right hands possess, meaning except for those women who they were married, and upon becoming slaves, what happened there nica, it became invalidated. So such women you are allowed to marry them, as we will learn in the following Ayah about the permission, the allowance to marry slave women.

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All of this is keytab Allah here Aleykum This is the decree of Allah upon you. What does it mean? This is something that Allah subhana wa tada has made mandatory on you. You don't have any choice with regards to this.

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Meaning the Mohamed women are mojarra you cannot go and legalize your marriage with them.

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Even if you go to a court and legalize a marriage, it is not going to be valid, because this is the keytab of Allah upon you. And remember that keytab of Allah, the decree of Allah is of two types. First of all, kita Kony, what does it mean? What Allah so panel data has decreed with regards to the matters of the world with regard to the matters of the heavens and the earth, universal affairs. And secondly, kita Sheree. And what does that mean? All of those laws and decrees that Allah Subhana Allah has given in the deen

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so this is Kitab Allah here on a coming this is something that Allah has imposed upon you just as good evangelical Muslim.

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Similarly, this is also mandatory upon you.

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What were his medical marijuana identical and permissible for you are marijuana than equal? What does it mean by marijuana? Whatever is Besides,

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meaning all of the other women of the world, you're allowed to marry their Muslim? Obviously, that's the condition. But besides all of these, Mohammad, all of the women are, are hella meaning they're halaal for you.

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But what's the condition for marriage? First of all, and who will be unwelcome

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that you seek How? Through your wealth, what does it mean? That it is mandatory upon a man to spend his wealth at the time of marriage, on the woman how, by giving her money, and after marriage as well, what is mandatory upon the man nefa spending on the woman because there are some types of marriage contracts in which the husband and the wife they willingly give up some of their rights.

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And, for instance, VCR what happens in that is that a woman for example, she willingly gives up that you don't have to spend anything on me. You don't have to spend anything on me and the two continue to live separately and they only meet why, in order to fulfill their sexual desire whenever they wish, whenever they desire. And in that a woman has willingly given up what her right which right off in Africa, but what is the condition over here and Tabitha will be unwelcome, this is something that is mandatory upon the men.

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It is an obligation.

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And with regards to all of these commands pertaining to marriage, what do we learn this is the keytab of Allah. This is the decree of Allah, you don't have any choice with regards to altering the commands of Allah.

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So first of all, it is mandatory upon the man to spend on his wife when at the time of nica by giving her the mother and afterwards by supporting her financially, providing her with

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with expenditure.

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Secondly, mostly need once being chased or once entering into a marriage contract.

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Now remember, it's fun, what does it mean?

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If fun, what does it mean by epsilon to fortify oneself?

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And remember that for the word marcelin eth What did we learn that a person who is fortified especially a woman, who is she, first of all, Muslim,

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Secondly, married, then chaste, then free, so on and so forth. But one of the definitions of ersan is what? Being married, being married. So over here, when the condition has been placed more swinging, what does it mean? That A man should not just establish a relationship with a woman, even if he spends his money on her, just to enjoy her sexually, but rather, he should enter into that relationship with what with the intention of marriage with the intention of having a family.

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So again, of these incorrect forms of marriage, in which a man marries a woman temporarily for a month, for a weekend for a day for for two days? What is that? Is there any intention of fortifying yourself meaning? Is there any intention of staying together? There isn't. The only intention is that as long as we're here, we will enjoy each other sexually, whenever we want, whenever we wish. And that's it. This is all that our relationship is about. If you think of it, this is like legalizing Xena.

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This is like getting a permit for Xena for committing illegal sexual intercourse. But what is the condition being placed over here? More Sweeney that a man must seek the woman by being a Muslim meaning by being married, and by being married means that you're not just enjoying her sexually, but actually, you intend to stay together? You intend to live together.

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So mostly need

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and also we see that marriage is what fortifies a person

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nica is actually what fortifies a person from what from committing Zina which is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told the youth that whoever can afford to get married, why? What does it do? is better for the lowering of the gaze and the guarding of the private parts. So mostly, you know, what does it mean that a man should bring the woman into wedlock with the intention to stay together? He should not have relations with a woman outside of marriage. Just giving her money is not enough, but rather what is needed in marriages

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that both should be together.

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And the third condition is laying around with Stephane. Not one zoo, fornicate.

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And mozaffarian, as you know, is a plural of wasafi from the word sefa. And what does it mean, Xena. What does it mean Xena.

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And cipher is basically from suffering. And suffering man is to flow water to shed water.

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The man must for him. The man must forehand same route down meaning blood that is Miss forehand that is caused to flow that is shed.

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So soft is to shed water to flow water. And from this the words The fact is used presented. Why? Because the objective of Xena is not to have children. The objective of Xena is not to live together. But what is the objective of Xena

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just to satisfy sexual pleasure just to flow some liquid. So they are almost half behind what does it mean that don't just marry a woman don't just give her money to enjoy her sexually, just to shed water. But rather the intention of coming together is to also have children also have a family also lived together also fulfill each other's rights fulfill the objective of marriage hiromasa for him,

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for Muslim tartan bohemian hoonah then whatever that you have benefited through it meaning through the nikka mean hoonah from them for to hoonah oduro. Who then give the women their

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their wage. And this is a formula, this is an obligation. Now this part of the ayah Some people use it to prove the validity of nikka motto or these types of incorrect marriage contracts that look from a standard can be human who now whatever you are benefiting from the women meaning if you're enjoying them sexually, then you must give them their wage. And look the word has been used what is an agile wage paycheck. So if you're benefiting from them, then give them their edge and this is an obligation for you. So this is the idea that some people use as evidence. However, this idea must be understood in the proper context. And it cannot be cut off from what precedes it.

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This part of the eye cannot be cut off from what is mentioned before it.

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What is meant by from a stamp that can be human

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Nothing whatever you have enjoyed from them, meaning when you have married them in the way that is proper.

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This is Dimitar this benefit, what does it mean? That when you have married them in a way that is proper and what is that way?

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Mostly mean very almost half your hain.

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So basically, that means that when you have contracted the nica with them

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and obviously, for that you have to fulfill all the conditions you have to have the correct Nia which I mentioned in the clause that is before this.

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So if a Mustang tartan became in Honda, Honda or Toyota Honda now person a question, then why is the Mohawk called agile? Why is the Mohawk called agile?

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The thing is, that when you give someone their their wage, what is it according to?

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What is it according to how do you determine the budget of someone?

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First of all, according to what they have done, according to the work that they have done, and secondly, it is also according to who they are.

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Like for instance, if you just get an ordinary, like a no name company to come and help you with something, maybe the charges will be very less correct. But if you get a company, a firm with a big name, then obviously you have to pay them some more money. Which is why some people like to do their work privately. They don't like going through agencies, they don't like going through companies and firms, they just like to do their work privately. Why? Because it is less expensive.

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So the word edit has been used. Why? For several reasons. First of all, to show that the man of the woman should be according to her status, the more of the woman should be according to her status. And obviously it has to be according to what a man can offer. But it should also be according to a woman's status, which is why in the next time we see that whoever Have you cannot afford to marry a Muslim or whoever you cannot afford to marry a free woman than he should he married a slave woman. Why is that? Because the Maha after more Sunnah is more Why? Because her status is much more.

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So therefore for Allah to hoonah or Judah hoonah. The word has been used to show that the masthead of the woman has to be according to her status. And this is a photo This is an obligation

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similarly has been sent at this address. It doesn't mean that you're paying the wife for having relationship with her. But rather what this means is that it shows it symbolizes that a man has accepted the responsibility of his wife,

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meaning that he is going to spend on her he is going to take care of her.

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What does Mr. symbolize what's the purpose of giving them a

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it's a gift that is being given to the woman to show that the man loves her that the man cares for her and that he will spend on her.

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So for Altoona Adora Han and there is a formula, this is an obligation, when Arjuna had a comfy matter all day to be human by that formula, there is no sin upon you in whatever that you mutually agree with afterwards meaning after the Fariba meaning after the Maha has been fixed after the model has been fixed.

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So, for instance, the mod is fixed at the time of nica Now, what happens the husband says I don't think I can give it to you right now, is it okay if I give it to you within three months? The wife says Okay, so, this is what corroborated you mutually agreed you mutually agreed what the delay in giving them that at least in giving them a hug.

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Similarly, this drop item also includes reducing the amount of the matter or increasing the amount of my head, like four inches dementors I said that I was going to give you this much but I don't think I can afford Is it okay if I give you 500 less? If the wife says no, this is not a problem.

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But if the wife says Yeah, no problem, no big deal. So, this is the raw data.

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And if the man says, you know I gave you only 200 only 2000 I wish to give you more, is it okay? I said sure. So that all they tell him is what? Increase decrease deferment meaning whatever changes you make to them afterwards. With mutual consent, it is okay. It is okay it is permissible. Similarly, the man gave her let's say, cash, or let's say he gave her jewelry at the time of myka hasma. Now he says, you know, instead of the jewelry, what I'll do is I'll give you cash instead, the same amount or maybe a little bit more why so that you can actually use it. Jewelry this you're not using as a sitting in your locker. I'd rather give you cash so that you can use it you can spend

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it on yourself. So later on whatever

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Husband and wife decide within themselves with each other. With mutual consent. It is okay. Why is this being said? Because there's so much importance and giving the freedom and giving them

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there's so much emphasis on there that you must give it nicollet. And happily, and you must give all of it without delay without deferment. So if an issue comes up afterwards in which the husband and wife wish to change them somehow, is there an allowance? Yes, there is. But what's the condition? mutual agreement?

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In aloha kana. illumine hakima. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and he is wise. He is knowing he knows about what you said, that you will give and what you actually gave. He knows why you're contracting nica with someone with a woman he knows. And he has Hakeem in what he has ordained for you.

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In general, even hekima. So what do we learn from this ayah

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that first of all, of the Muslim acts are who the more sonet the married women.

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Also from this ayah, we learn about the permissibility of having slave women and having relations with them.

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We also learn from this idea about the obligation of observing the commands of Allah,

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the obligation of observing the commands of Allah, a person does not have a choice. Where do we learn this from? From the Kitab Allah here, and this is something that Allah has written, meaning Alize decreed you don't have any choice with regards to it.

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Like, for instance, in the county affairs of Allah has decreed a particular lifespan for someone, can they change it? Can they alter it? Can they go fight in some court? No. Similarly, if Allah has given you these commands, you can go object, you can go fight, you can argue, no, you have to accept them as they are, you cannot change them.

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Also, we learned from this ayah that the mohalla lat are more than Mohammed Ahmed, who are more hallette.

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The women whom a person is allowed to marry,

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there are more than mohalla met, more than will have met the women who are forbidden to marry. Where do we learn this from?

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can be part of the eye where do we learn this from look at the

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what will Hillel comb malwa

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that the mahalo mother, only these, and everybody else besides that, as long as they're Muslim, you're allowed to marry them.

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Although we see that, in our Deen, everything is Helen, unless specified otherwise.

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So for instance, all of the women are allowed to be married to unless specified otherwise, unless a person is don't know this woman is a mohana. You cannot marry him.

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What do we learn from this principle? What else do we learn about a loss?

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A loss of mercy.

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Imagine if we were told you're only allowed to eat this, this and this, how difficult it would be. But what are we told?

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eat everything except for this, this this? Right?

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So what is at the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala the affection of Allah subhanaw taala.

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Also, we learn about the obligation of spending wealth at the time of nikka.

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And this obligation is on who on demand.

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And that without this nigga is invalid.

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How do we learn that? For your button for yoga, this is an obligation and if you don't perform the Father, what happens? If you don't perform the Father What happens? The Act is incomplete, it is invalid.

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And fantasy scholars have said that if a man at the time of marriage, he sets a condition that he will not give any money.

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For instance, at the time of marriage meant it's a condition that I am not going to give you any money. This is my condition. It is said that this type of nica is invalid.

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Why? Because what validates Anika is spending.

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Now if a woman by her Will she gives it up afterwards. That's okay. But a man cannot say I'm not going to give you an image and you have to accept that this is my condition. If you wish to marry me, that means no matter for you. No, that's an incorrect condition.

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Also, we learned that the matter of the woman should be according to her status.

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And we also learn about the theme or the prohibition or at least the dislike, or the immorality of certain types of nikka

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certain types of marriage contracts such as to justify and the other ones that were mentioned to you.

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We learn from a hadith that is mentioned both Bukhari and Muslim and when

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I even thought of He said, The Messenger of Allah prohibited with our marriage, and eating the meat of domesticated donkeys when on the day of hybrid.

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And at the conquest of Makkah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Oh people, I allowed you to meet our marriage with women before. Why was it allowed at the beginning? Why? Because remember, all of the commands were given how gradually. So at the beginning, the Muslims were still in that transitional stage. Remember, Xena was something very common.

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It was something very, very common amongst the Arabs. To the extent that there were many, many prostitutes, any place you went to any community, any city, any town, all you had to do was look up and find a flag. And wherever you find a flag, that's it, that's the face of a prostitute.

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And instead of going to a hotel, or motel, that's where people would spend the night if they were travelers. This was something extremely common. So all of a sudden, if dinner is forbidden, and obviously dinner was forbidden from the very beginning. But with that, a man was not allowed to have relations with anyone except his wife, there was something very difficult for them, and because they were used to it from before.

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So this is why this type of marriage was permissible at the beginning. So the prophets are about a certain set of people are allowed to them with our marriage with women before. Now Allah has prohibited it until the Day of Judgment kita law, you cannot alter it.

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There for anyone who has any woman and without let him let them go, and do not take anything from them, what you have given them.

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And also we learned from this is about the permissibility of giving up the manhood partially, or all of it, or deferring it on the part of the woman, as long as it is by mutual consent between the husband and the wife.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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We're all here.

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And whoever among you cannot find the means. The word bolon is from the root fetters thought, well,

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any other word from the same root

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tool, but this tool will mean

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the length or the height for a lute is also from the same root. Why was he called palu? Because it was very tall. And if you look at the two tall, tall, right?

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So, phone is from tone and tone is when something is long, when something is tall, and it lasts for a very long time. It's like you're going and going and going, you're looking up, you're looking at

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extending your vision and is so long that it doesn't come to an end. So from this poll is used for something that is a lot. So basically, poll is plenty of wealth, affluence, financial ease, when someone has a lot, when someone has great quantity in his wealth, meaning his wealth is a lot his material means or a lot. And also, he has sufficiency in his personal as well as social means. Meaning he has a lot of capabilities, personal

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and social, he has a lot of links, he has a lot of friends, he has a lot of relatives. So in that also there is abundance, and in his material. Like for instance, he has a lot of money.

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So the word power, what does it mean? abundance, affluence, and financial ease. And from this, the word phone is also used for generosity. Why is it used for generosity? Because only if a person has a lot of means in his personal life or in his social life or in his finances, only then he's able to show generosity to others.

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So over here, were my Lumia start their admin console and what does it mean by Toulon

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whoever does not have phone meaning whoever does not have the financial

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ability, the financial capacity, the means the resources, do what? a young kid that he marries and works on it

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the most on it?

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What does he mean by more sunlight over here?

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Free Muslim woman?

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Remember more sonet has several meanings. And how do you determine the meaning by the context?

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Over here, the word Messiah is going to be understood as the free woman. Why? Because what we know, as mentioned right after, and for me, my mela, that a man who come what is coming in contrast to it? slaves, right, so the opposite of slaves is free women. So whoever cannot afford to marry a free woman, meaning the hard on it,

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which hold on a minute, the believing? Why can you not afford to me because you cannot give them a hug.

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Remember that marrying a free woman was something very expensive. Because first of all, you had to give the money to her. Secondly, such a woman has more expenses. Correct, because she's used to a lavish lifestyle, she will have more expenses compared to a slave woman, a slave woman, she barely has any of her possessions. She barely has a few of her clothes, maybe she's used to being hungry, maybe she can make do with a little bit of things maybe she can do with a small house, but a free woman who's lived with her own wealth, she owns her own clothes, and not just a few, but a whole wardrobe. And she has to go and buy more clothes every now and then because she's social, she's

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free. She has events. So therefore she wants her accessories or upload, so on and so forth. So obviously marrying a free woman with something expensive.

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And also a free woman, if you have children with her, even then the demands are going to be more compared to that of a slave woman.

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So whoever cannot afford to marry a free woman and sometimes, because the status of the woman, the mother is also a lot. Like for instance, the father's as the one he says that I will not let you give only 5000 to my daughter, you have to give at least 20. Below, I will not accept. Obviously, this doesn't mean that just because your status is very high. You should demand a model that is a lot. Because what has been advised to the women is that who should they select someone who's very wealthy? No. The

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so if somebody comes to you, and they have the they are religious, then just because they don't have money, don't reject them.

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But if a man cannot afford he doesn't have a job, but he knows he cannot financially support a free woman you cannot even give her the money.

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Then what should he do?

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commit Zina?

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Should he just go have a contract with a woman for the weekend? Once a month after year?

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Is that when you shouldn't because this is how some people legalize these types of marriages that young men sometimes they cannot afford a family. So therefore they should be allowed to go have a contract with a woman for just a weekend or just just for a month whenever they wish. Is that the solution being given over here? No. The solution is not Zinner.

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The solution is not doing heroin. But the solution is what? For me Melaka Amen.

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For me, meaning then Frankie who then you must marry Who? Ma'am I look at a medical those who knew right hands possess because the mother given to the slave woman is less. Her demands are also less.

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Now it doesn't mean that if a man has married a poor woman, then he should give her less It doesn't mean that

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what it means is that marry someone whom you can support whose needs are less. Whose requirements are less for me Mama got a medical

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min for the it come from your young girls. The word finding out is a Florida fair. That's fair. a live demo.

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And the word for that is used for a young girl, a young woman

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and the masculine of that is fatter, fatter? Yeah.

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And the word photographer that is not just used for slaves, but it's used for young boy or younger, like for example metallics and his quarterly fighter who musallam said to his father, who was his father, his student was very young, not necessarily his slave. So why are the slave women being called father yet? This is like the Sharif This is like honoring the slave woman.

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This is like an expression of love and expression of care.

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Which is why we learn from a hadith that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said this Hadees is mentioned in Mohali as well as Muslim Mohammed that

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None of you should say, when introducing a slave, either D, or MIT, that this is my art, or this is my slave woman don't use the word, or Emma.

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And no slave should say to his master, or I'll be my Lord. Because this was something that was common within the Arabs, the slave would call the master.

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And the master would call the slave as our or ama, and the feminine of this ama.

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So the prophets or the Lotus of them said, Don't say that, rather, the Malik he should call the slave as for that, the only my daughter, or for the male, my son, my younger or my young boy,

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it's an expression of love. It's an expression of care.

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And the mum Luke meaning the slave, he should say, say, Ed, don't use the word love, but instead use the word side and say it is used for like a leader or a master, but Rob gives a sense of Lord

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and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said because all of you are among Luke, all of you are owned by who? By Allah subhanaw taala and Rob, He is Allah.

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So for me my my look at a man who come in fanatical

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then who should a person marry of those whom your right hands possess of the of the young groups.

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And these obviously also have to be a minute the believing women

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mean they also have to be believers. Eman is a condition.

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Well, who are they will be Imani come and Allah is most knowing of your Eman. Why is this being said?

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Remember the slaves? Who are they before, captives and before that I Muslims.

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So for instance, if there's a slave woman, if there's a captive she's brought, and then she's given as a slave to someone, and she becomes a Muslim. Now a person is not going to doubt her even that, Oh, she used to be a disbeliever before maybe she just became a Muslim, because she's in minority here. Out of China's out of embarrassment, no, Allah knows very well about the manner, every single person. So when you deal with someone, what you do look at the law head be a parent. And don't worry about about it. Leave that to a loss.

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And sometimes you see that if a person has converted, has become a Muslim. Still people have some reservations, especially born Muslims, they have some reservations with marrying them. Why? Because they weren't Muslim before what if they did such and such before? Or, you know, what if they're not really Muslim? And what if a man is not really in their heart? But if your mind is not really in your heart, well Allahu Allah will be manickam. Allah knows very well about your Eman.

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So when you're dealing with someone, deal with them under law, hit on the apparent and leave the bad thing to Allah Subhana Allah

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Baba coming back, some of you are from others, meaning you all are off one another, who does you all refer to? You are Freeman and slave women.

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So you are free people and slave people who are you? You are all off one another? What does it mean by this bother coming back first of all in unison. That somehow or the other, you all are related? Are because you are from the same. You are from the same. Also from the same father from the same mother. How Lacombe nevsun were hidden Hayden he created from one soul so therefore about to come and bother you all are related to one another. So just because they have a different status. Just because a woman is a slave does not mean she's any less does not mean that her mind is not good enough. No.

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Secondly, it has been said that Barbara coming back what it means is that in your deen

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in your deen in your religion, you are the same. You are the same in your religion.

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So yes, she is a slave. But what should you look at? That she's also a believer, Barbara Coleman, Bob, Frankie whoa Vanessa married and Mary who the slave women how be in need in by the permission of their families.

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The one who does it refer to family.

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But remember that the other have a slave. The wanting of a slave is not her biological family. For instance, for a slave woman her while he is not her father is not her brother.

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But the wily of a slave is who the master. So Frankie, who wouldn't be in the athlete, you know, what does it mean? That marry them with the permission of their guardians of their masters?

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Well, to win and you must be

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Then give who give the slave women as well who do run their wages and budget again what is meant here

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that even a slave woman, what are you going to do? You have to give her her money

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and that will be edited according to her status, what are 200, Euro hoonah? How will my roof in the manner that is approved, what does it mean by this in a manner that is approved?

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First of all, that, what you give to her the money that you give to her should be something of meaning should be something that is decent culturally accepted, in other in custom, it should be something that is accepted.

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Like for instance, a person should not give you know something that is useless, something that is broken, something that the woman cannot use just because he is not going to complain, no, give her something which is accepted traditionally,

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and also the amount or the type of the model should be something that is culturally or traditionally accepted.

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Secondly, when maruf is understood as Sharon,

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meaning by Sharia, it should be modeled, it should be something Hello, like, for instance, a man cannot give her a bottle of wine is very expensive, no, it should be something that she can actually use, it should be allowed legally. And also the manner in which a person should give should also be modeled and what does that matter, that he should not delay, he should not reduce that just as a person would give a Harrier a free woman's mother. Similarly, you should also give the slave woman's

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so what are two women who do not build models? I noticed that has been said their wages, what does it show that a slave woman is being given so much honor, that she is being given the right of ownership? She's being given the right of ownership at the time of marriage, whatever she gets, who does it belong to her. It's not yours, it's hers.

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And when you marry them, they should be more sonet. And as being married, meaning don't give them their urges to do dinner. Because sometimes, like for instance, we learn about an innovator he had a lot of slave women. And what he would do is that he would rent them to people,

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he would rent them to people, how that a person would come ask him, can I borrow the slave woman of yours? And he would say yes, as long as you give me this much money.

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But over here, what is the loss of parents are the same marcelin that you may have the permission of the guardian of the Malik. But when you approach these women you should approach them how to find meaning through marriage, not for prostitution, not for Xena, but for marriage.

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They almost have had him not ones who are fornicators

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meaning the women whom you marry. Which women are these the slave women. They should not be massaged, meaning they should not be prostitutes. They should not be prostitutes that even after marriage with you what happens? They come eat dinner with other men

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playing almost happy hat

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because a woman who is a prostitute when she has relationship with another man, what is the purpose of children?

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Is it

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it is to have a loving relationship with the man. No. Is it to live together? No. What is the purpose?

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Just to fulfill sexual desire or just to get some money. So over here late almost have you had even the women they should not be Mousavi had meaning they should not be committing Zina with others. That just as this condition was placed on the man laid on sapien similar delay on the Saffy had these women once you marry them they should not be prostitutes meaning they should not be committing Zina with other men.

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Whenever they have then nor ones who take secret friends muttahida is a Florida McDuffie there who is with

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a woman who takes a woman who adopts so these women whom you marry, they should also not be with the hilarity of them. There is a lot of hidden,

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hidden heart they're known and hidden, is used for a secret friend. Was it a secret friend

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and this friend is not just a friend who when you talk to, but rather the secret friend is an illicit partner, a lover

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and primarily hidden is used for the illicit partner of a married person. So a friend, you can say like a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

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of a person with

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With whom they also have sexual relation with,

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with whom a person also has sexual relation. So when I will tell you that you have that, nor should these women be taking secret friends, what does it mean by this

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Viola was that he had means that they should not be committing Zina with other men.

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And whenever it means that they should not be committing Zina with only one of their boyfriends

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so Musashi hat is committing Zina with many people, but with the he that he has done is committing Zina with only one man outside of marriage. So a woman is made, but outside of marriage, she has a partner. She has a lover, she has a friend, and she also has sexual relations with him.

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So what's the condition of these women? That first of all, Marsan it, then they almost half your heart, then when I'm with them

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for either or hustlin. Then when they have been taken in protection? What does it mean by this ersan

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meaning when they have been taken in wedlock,

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when they have been sheltered in marriage, when they have been protected through marriage,

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because you see a slave woman until she's married, what happens?

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A slave woman, what happens to her until she's married? She is the property of her master. And he will have sexual relations with her. And afterwards, you can also sell her, he can also sell her. And once she is sold, is she going to be given to other men? Yes. So one day she is with one master, and other issues with one master and other issues with another Master, it should be protected. Is her Photoshop private part? Is it protected? No, it's not. And some people at that time what would they do, as I mentioned to you, that they would have slave women and they would use them as prostitutes, they would rent them to other men and they would make money, they would gain profit.

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So with that a woman her chastity was not protected. She is supposed to be limited only to her master, but the people would abuse these slave women and they would use them for prostitution, and which is why we learned that some women they came up to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and requested their freedom like that.

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So for either or once they have been sheltered, meaning once they have been taken in marriage, once they have been sheltered through wedlock, once their private parts are protected. For entertainer, then if they commit the word Athena, as you know, is from Africa, what does it mean to come and then it's used for committing something. So for entertainer if they commit, what, without a shot and what is

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an act of indecency, and we learned earlier that fracture applies to specifically Xena and also homosexuality. It applies to specifically Xena and also homosexuality. So if they commit Fantasia, meaning if they commit Zina after being married,

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now, what is the punishment for a married woman who committed in stoning to death.

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But if these slave women if they committed, then their punishment is what for la hiner then upon them is nice format and more sunny it means either half of that which is on the more sonet of the punishment Who are these marks on it?

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Free women

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over here and more slanted does not refer to married women, because a punishment for a married woman is Rajan, but the punishment for an unmarried free woman is lashes 100 lashes

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but the slave woman, her punishment is half of the punishment of the person who is the masana

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free unmarried woman because what is half a virgin? half of that you cannot divide it into two parts, right? Because the objective of virgin is not just to throw a particular number of stones, but rather it is to throw until that

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so there is no half of that. Therefore the punishment for a slave woman who is married and she commits Zina, what is her punishment? Have of 100 lashes and what is that? 50 lashes? Why?

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okay because your status is less. But isn't the crime the same?

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You see a slave woman up until she was married. How was she like what was she like? She

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Probably a prostitute, she was probably having dinner with one man here when men there. So after marriage, even these habits, sometimes they continue these habits they continue. And let's say her old master comes up and used to like her or she used to like him. So, if she commits dinner, why, because of the old habits. So, therefore, her punishment is less and also because her status is less.

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So far lay in nice format and add more salinity meaning other vaniqa that is, what does that equal refer to? vaniqa refers to the permissibility of marrying slave women, the allowance that is given here for marrying slave women.

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It is for who, Lehman for the one who has Shia, he feared aligner to the distress men come among you.

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Meaning it is for the person who feared distress amongst you meeting amongst you believers.

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What is alignment?

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I'm just wondering cutters, I known that

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and another's this a distress, a difficulty. And over here, it has been interpreted as Xena. Why is it called on it? Because the consequences of Xena bring distress upon a person in this dunya as well as the

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in this dunya if a person is unmarried, there is punishment. And if a person is married, again there is punishment in the dunya as well as in the

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so this is for the person who fears amongst you distress. And also this distress or the stresses of not being married. Like for instance for a single person for a man especially who is attracted to women who wish our men and NASA and if he cannot afford to marry, if he cannot have a wife, a free woman as a wife, he cannot afford her. Then what is he supposed to do? What is he supposed to do? live with that distress, it's going to become very difficult for him. Very difficult for a man to live like that.

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And he could fall into linna.

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Similarly, it's not just committing Zina, but it's having wrong thoughts. It's about thinking about the person. It's about talking to them all the time. So instead of committing Koran, instead of committing sin, the allowance is given over here that marry a slave woman.

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What Uncasville and if you are patient, if you do suffer, from what, what is happiness. So if you control yourself, if you stop yourself from marrying a slave woman that is highroller calm that is better for you will over food over him and are less forgiving and merciful?

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Why is this sub better for you? What does it show to us that marrying a slave woman is permissible. However, it is not something that is recommended. It is permissible. But it is not something that is recommended. Why? for different reasons.

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First of all, because a man, when he marries a woman, he should make sure that both of them they're compatible with each other. Why? Because you're going to be living together, you're going to be raising children together. And if you're completely different in your lifestyle, in your habits, in your background, in the manner of your speech in the way that you approach things, then what's going to happen, living together is going to be extremely difficult,

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it is going to be extremely difficult. So both of them should be compatible with one another. So if you are not compatible, you are free, she is slave, what's going to happen, what's gonna happen, she's gonna have some habits that you dislike, or she will not have that sense. She hasn't lived in a house for a very long time, maybe she was a born slave, then what's going to happen. She's not going to be like a free woman in her habits, in her lifestyle in the manner that she lives in a manner that she looks after in a manner that she maintains the things of the house, there is going to be a lot of difficulty. Similarly, there's going to be a lot of social pressure as well.

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Like for instance, if a man takes his wife to another relative's house or something, the slave woman, how is she going to feel?

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Even if she was freed? She was previously slave. Now she's a free woman. How is she going to feel how are other people going to treat her differently? It just happens.

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So therefore, the husband and wife must be compatible with one another. The permission has been given. However, it is something that is not highly encouraged. It is something that is not highly encouraged.

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And also remember that a stabilization

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Usually, she was used by someone, maybe she was a prostitute. Whatever has happened in the past has happened. But sometimes these habits they continue correct, which is why the punishment is also less. So then you can even harsher income or unjust middle hydralic or longer for him and allies Forgiving and Merciful? What do we learn from this? Ayah? What do we learn from this ayah? From the beginning?

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First of all, we learn about the recommendation of main, who free women rests on it, and freedom and why? Because they're more compatible with you, they're of the same status. What does it show that when a person gets married to someone, or when a person wants to get married to someone? Yes, definitely, they should look at the dean that is extremely important.

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But at the same time, they must also consider compatibility.

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If the doobie will come from completely different cultures, they speak completely different languages, the way they have been brought up are completely different. Sometimes I've hamdullah people to get along really well. It works out perfectly. But many times it also does not work out.

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So a person must make sure that they're also compatible with the one whom they are married.

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So first of all, this recommendation.

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Secondly, we learn about the permissibility of marrying who slave women. And when a slave woman is married, what should be given to her, her Mahood? What does this show the right of ownership, ownership of wealth is being given to a slave woman.

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And we also learned that when a slave woman is like when a man wishes to marry a slave woman, what does he have to do? He has to take permission from her guardian, her master, this shows to us that for a free woman as well, it is all the more important necessary that the permission of her body must be taken.

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Obviously, a woman cannot go and give made herself the world he has to be there.

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What else do we learn from this idea

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that even the slave woman has to be chaste and believing she has to be a believer.

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One very important lesson that we learn once a woman is married, once a woman is married, what are the conditions that she must fulfill?

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More sonet? Higher almost have you had what I would definitely have done that once a woman is married. And the same applies to a man as we read earlier,

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that she must make sure that she protects herself. She guards herself. She doesn't expose herself to or offer herself to other men. This is something that does not suit the dignity of a woman. The woman She must have higher and once she is married, then she must limit herself to her husband.

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And from this we also learned that that even outside of marriage, like if a woman is not married, she's single. Can she have a secret friend? Who has a secret friend? Who is a secret friend who has a hidden

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a friend with whom one has sexual relationship with outside of marriage. Right? And secret why secret because the girls while he is not aware whether that while he his husband, or that while he is a father, whether that while he is the husband or the one he is the father? Okay, that person might say no, no, this is something that our Muslim girls, they don't do.

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hamdulillah 100 they don't do this. Maybe a few do. However, what about having just friendships? Just talking over the phone just going out together? What about that? Father doesn't know, by the things. You're working on a project and just chatting and chatting and chatting on MSN. What does that mean? Is that freedom? Is that a secret friend? You might say that no, there's no Zinner. However, it's not just the private parts that committee now. It's the eyes. It's the tongue. It's the hands, it's the feet. Maybe it's the fingers when you're typing. When you're writing, when you're dialing the number when you're sending a text message. And what does Allah say? When at the

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club center, don't even go near the center.

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So if you're doing things that could lead up to dinner, even that is forbidden

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for the shows to us, that a man and woman, whatever their ages, whatever their social position is, whether they're married or unmarried, they cannot have what you can call

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And this is different from, you know, working with somebody for something that is necessary in a way that is appropriate. For instance, if you're in school and you have to work with a man, okay? Or if you're at work, you have to work with them and how should you be? How should you behave professionally and only as much as it's necessary? And this concept of just hanging out together, we're just going out for lunch together, let's go eat together. And that leads up to talking. And that leads up to joking. And that leads up to maybe improper or inappropriate conversations. That is something that is not correct. Well, I would say that the often Norwegians who take secret friends,

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we also learn from this is that whatever commands of Allah, Allah has given, they are according to the Whizzer accord according to the capacity of a person, whatever commands and whatever prohibitions, because if you look at it, the permissibility has been given to who to marry the slave woman, even how she'll anatomical, if a person cannot handle it, why should it be forced to something that he cannot do? Or why should something be imposed upon him that he cannot handle? If this permissibility was not given? What would happen to such men, they would fall into committing Zina. So the commands that are lost pantalla has given they are according to where people can bear

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seminary punishments. The punishment for the slave woman when she commits Zina is how much half Why? Because her background, her situation her status is different. So remember that the commands that are Lost Planet Allah has given all of them are according to what people can handle.

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Allah knows the situation that we are in. He knows what we can do, what we cannot do.

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And according to that, he has given us the commands and everything.

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That's listen to the recitation

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well, Melanie's Stop it.

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wanna move on