Sahih al Bukhari – Kitab al Adab #28

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The concept of "hamere" in Islam is related to the book "by the way of the heart" and the physical aspect of the heart is emphasized. The use of "hammer" and "by the way of the heart" is emphasized, along with the importance of guarding one's body and being present during sex, shyness and hesitation are emphasized, and practicing and deliberate being present in regards to shyness. It is crucial for individuals to learn from their actions and have clarity on certain matters, including finding a woman or finding a woman, and the woman was given a choice between finding a woman or finding a woman. Shyness is also discussed, preventing people from achieving their goals and creating confusion in language and language-related conversations.

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So inshallah Today we will begin from bad number 77 of keytab will other from Sahiba Holly, and this is Babel higher, the chapter off modesty higher, which is also translated as China's.

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Let's look at the meaning of the word higher first, and then inshallah we'll look at the Hadees. So, what is high up higher is generally understood as a sense of shame, or shyness. And even Ragab says that URL here or in pre balgo, Neff similar Cubby, it is the shrinking of the soul from foul conduct. Meaning when when the soul meeting when a person from the inside they feel very uncomfortable from doing something that would be inappropriate, or saying something that would be inappropriate, why out of fear of blame, or out of fear of this could be of course, the blame of people, or the fact that Allah subhanaw taala does not like something. So higher is basically it is

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in the nups. Right, it is an action of the heart. So it is the shrinking of the soul from foul conduct. Now higher has its place in our religion. In fact, it is something very, very important in Islam. It is described as a characteristic of a man from the luck of Islam. And this is why we see from different texts that whoever has higher up then there Islam is good, because it will make them leave sin, it will make them avoid sin, and it will encourage them to obey Allah subhana wa Tada. So hayah is one of the branches of faith. And it is something that brings dignity, it is something that brings respect, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, but in the luckily been in holo

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con, that every religion has its unique characteristics. Its unique a flock or manner will Hello call Islam in higher and the hollow. The the unique characteristic of Islam is higher. It is modesty or shyness. And some orlimar they describe her as Rasul Allah, the head of, or the most important aspect of good character, which means that if someone has higher than they're able to adopt other good qualities as well, they're able to practice other good luck as well. And if someone does not have higher than this means that they will not be able to practice other good, good characteristics. From hobbies, we learned that hyah is something that brings beauty, meaning it is something that

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makes a person beautiful, it is it even makes a person's speech beautiful. So we learned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that mercan and for shopyshake in Illa, Shanna who that indecency is not in anything except that it makes an ugly woman cannot hide out of a Shea in Illa, Zana who, and there is nothing that has higher in it that has shyness and modesty in it, except that that hyah is going to make it beautiful. So here is something that you know it it doesn't make a person timid. It doesn't make a person backward. In fact, it is something that allows a person to move forward and advance in terms of relationships in terms of their actions in terms of their

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religiosity

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and it will pay him says

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That HIA if you look at the word hat, it is derived from the word hats, and Hyatt is life. So what's the connection over here? He says that whoever has that whoever does not have higher up, meaning if a person does not have shyness, then it is as if they're dead. It is as if that you know, their heart is dead. They're dead in this life and they will be a great loser in the hereafter. And in Millennium also says about hate that hate is one of the best characteristics. It is one of the most important and the greatest characteristics that a person can have. And it is something that brings the most benefit to a person.

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So let's look at the Hadeeth Now, remember, Heidi says, had nothing to Adam had nothing to show but to unclutter data an abyss unwary an abyss so selected or the we call a cemetery Milan Sorry, I'm going to begin again. Bismillah

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he says had the fun that Adam had this an usher about to uncover data or an abyss sweat or an abyss silhouetted or the we call a scimitar Imran Abner Hussein in call upon an abuse salallahu alayhi wasallam sir Imran bin Hussein said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that of hail Allah de la belaid hyah does not bring anything except goodness for color blue shade of blue carbon. So blue shaded blue carb said mK toolbook. Phil Hekmati that is written in the books of wisdom that in the middle hire a worker and we're in the middle here is Sakina

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that modesty

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meaning there is some modesty that brings about dignity. And there is some modesty that brings about tranquility for Allah who are Enron certain Ron said to him that will have dito Ganga Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I am narrating to you something from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam what to have dystonia on so hypnotic and here you are relating to me from what you've written or, or from what you've written in different books, meaning what you're saying has no place before the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so we see that in one of the landmark who actually got upset with bush aid over here, so let's look at the Hadeeth and then inshallah

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we'll look at why or Milan got upset with him. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Hey, at one day at de Ellerbee hide, that Haier does not bring anything except goodness, meaning higher when a person has it, then they receive good, where, in dunya, as well as in the middle.

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And this means, in contrast, that if a person does not have high up, then in fact, there are missing out, they're missing out on much good remodel Philip Morin, who he would say that whoever does not have higher basically, what that means is that their heart has died. And if the heart is dead, then of course, it means that a person is not not receiving or are not able to do much good. And they're not able to benefit as much from the opportunities that Allah subhanaw taala is giving them.

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So higher brings goodness. And this means that first of all, it brings goodness to a person in this life, how that we see that, for example, when a person has higher than they don't, even when they get angry, they're able to control their anger, meaning out of modesty, you know that they don't explode in their anger. They're not indecent in expressing their anger, they don't start using obscene language. So we see that because of higher, you know, they are protected, they're saved from, you know, doing wrong things from from doing inappropriate things. So on the one hand, we see that Haier allows a person to leave sin. And on the other hand, it also allows a person to perform

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good deeds. And we see that because of hyah a person does not commit sin openly. And when a person does not commit sin openly what happens is that Allah subhanaw taala also conceals them. So, when a person has higher then Allah subhanaw taala conceals them, meaning their deficiencies and their their sins and their mistakes both in the world as well as in the hereafter and ignore claim rates that if there was no higher meaning if people did not have high up then what would happen is that the guest would not be honored promises what

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would not be fulfilled, trusts would not be guarded. And no one would care about the need of the other people would not cover their nakedness and in decencies, would not be avoided. And people would not maintain their ties of kinship, people would not respect their parents there would be no bill and validate. So, because of HIA, what happens is that a person is able to do good and is able to leave soon or leave what is inappropriate, because if you think about it, it is out of the, you know, modesty of the creation, or of the Creator, that a person is able to, you know, restrain themselves from what is inappropriate. So we see that hyah is both a driving force and it's also a

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restraining force. So this is why an hire will lay it Illa behind. Now, how is it that high art brings benefit in the hereafter? We see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that I've hired Amina Eamon shyness is from a man when a man of his gender and Eman is in Jana, meaning it will take a person to paradise. So what could be a greater height than entering Jenna? And I'm in contrast, he said what that will mean and Jeff will jump out with enough that jeffer in the indecency. This is something that leads to hellfire.

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So we see that one or nominal de la Mourinho mentioned this Hadees that are higher qulaity illa belaid. Bush, who was a student, it seems, he said, that it is written in the books of wisdom, that in the middle here, he Wakata, we're in the middle higher is Sakina What does this mean?

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Basically, he brought the statement to say that there is a kind of higher the brings dignity.

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And the kind of higher that brings Sakina and what is meant by Sakina is weakness. Meaning if a person has shyness, then yes, at times they appear to be very dignified. And if a person has shyness, then they can also come across as timid right or as very meek. So basically, what he was implying is that all higher does not seem to be good. So What was he saying? In other words, this was a statement that was brought to contradict the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Right. Or, we can understand the statement as there's a kind of higher that brings dignity. And he also brings calmness or tranquility, peace of mind, peace of heart. So basically, he

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was mentioning some of the benefits of higher. And if you think about it, this statement, even though it may be true that hayah brings dignity higher brings tranquility. Yes, it's good, but it's useless compared to the statement of the Prophet sallallahu already was something that was just mentioned, which is that unhei nyati elaborate, right. So the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was way better, it this statement, which is from the books of wisdom did not have to be brought over here to undermine what the prophet sallallahu wasallam said or to counter that, right. So this is why in Rondo de la Mourinho became angry over here, that why are you quoting

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things?

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You know, by which you are either trying to undermine the statement of the profits of the law or do something or you are opposing it.

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And this is something that Rimando, Dylan Warren, who did not accept why because the companions they had, remember, they had great respect for a little suit Allah sallallahu already he was unknown. And this meant that they took the statements of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, very, very seriously. And why did they take it seriously? Because they understood that the that the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Were also based on revelation. Right? Because Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, that what unzila alayka vichara little Bay unilin nurseryman no Zilla la him that we have revealed the message to you, so that you can clarify to people that which has

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been revealed to them. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam responsible responsibility was to explain the right to explain the revelation, which means that whatever he taught, was also based on revelation.

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And remember that this is a part of our Amen, that we give utmost respect and importance to the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now, this does not mean that we cannot, you know, refer to or benefit from the statements of, you know, different people, whether they're Muslim or not, this is not a what this Hadeeth is, is teaching us or the response or the reaction of Ronald villamartin, who is not implying that we cannot read anything else, or that we cannot benefit from anyone else's, you know, writings or statements or quotes? No, it is about

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bringing something in contrast to write, to counter the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that is where it would be problematic, or to quote something, as if to, you know, add to what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, as if you know, it is being implied that the words of the prophets of Allah Who are those that are not enough, so it's about the manner, it's about the place,

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where the statements of other people are brought. So, this is something that we have to be cognizant of. Now, in this Hadeeth, we see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that at a higher layer to elaborate it only brings goodness and we discussed how higher brings, you know, goodness or hate or benefit to a person both in this life and in the Hereafter. You know, in in religious matters, as well as in worldly matters. Now, one thing that you should remember is that hyah is both two words, Allah subhanaw taala and also towards people.

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How is it that a person has had with Allah

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there's a beautiful Hadees which is mentioned in a testimonial of Ronnie Hakeem. And it's been graded as hesson. And in this Hadees, we learn that our beloved was rude said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, is the human Allah He How can

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that be shy of Allah, the way he deserves you the way he deserves, that you have shyness of him that you'll be shy of him.

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Meaning have higher of Allah, the way you should have higher up towards Allah. So the companions they say the yellow suit Allah 100, Allah we do have higher of Allah. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Lisa, that this is not it, meaning this is not what I meant. Well, that Kindle is the here I mean, Allah heptyl here, but to have higher of Allah, the way you should have higher is to follow the law, so wamalwa that you guard the head, and what it contains, well, bottlenose warmer however, and you guard the stomach and what it contains, when done kurimoto well below, and that you remember death and the rotting of the bones. So three things he mentioned over

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here. What does it mean to be shy of Allah, first of all, that you guard the head and what it contains, what does that mean? guarding of the head, essentially, is that you bow down only to Allah subhanaw taala meaning you, you bend your head only before Allah

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and then it also means that you don't lift your head in pride towards the servants. So you bow down only to Allah and that you don't use your head to show pride to people, whether it is that you are lifting your head or turning your cheek towards the people or you know, shaking your head at them or anything like that. Don't use your head in a way that Allah subhanaw taala would not like and then also guard what the head contains. Now the head ups doesn't just refer to your scalp, okay? A lot is basically you know, your whole your entire head meaning what is above your neck, all right. So what does it contain, it contains, for instance, your mouth, your tongue, it contains your eyes, your

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ears, right? Your mind. So guard, what what your head contains meaning guard your eyes from looking at what Allah subhanaw taala does not like guard your ears from listening to things which are less pelotonia does not like guard your mouth from saying things which Allah subhanaw taala does not like right, so guard your head and also what it contains. Meaning Be mindful of Allah. When you're using your mouth. Be mindful of Allah when you're using your

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Eyes Be mindful of Allah when you're using your ears.

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And then while both know warmer, however, guard the stomach and what it contains, now again, the button is not just referring to the stomach meaning the the part of the body or the origin where you know, your food is digested. No, the stomach is you could you could say that it's Butlin is like the torso. Okay? So guard that and what it contains, what does it mean by this? This means, for example, guard what you put inside, right guard, what you feed your body, meaning the food that you're eating, make sure that it's only lawful, have higher of Allah, when you are putting food inside of your body. That How are you eating? How are you drinking? Is it in a way that Allah subhanaw taala

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would like, you know, for example, sometimes we don't care about the way in which we're eating, we're very careful about how we're eating in front of people. We want to make sure that, you know, we observe proper manners, we say, Bismillah, we're sitting down, you know, we're eating with our right hand. But then what happens when we're alone? Or what happens when we're in a rush? Right? Are we using the right hand to eat? Are we saying Bismillah? What are we eating? Right, so higher in terms of that also, in terms of what you eat, in terms of how you eat, and then of guard what the stomach contains, meaning what the what the torso has, and this would include, of course, the arms,

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and the legs and the private part. So guard them from committing unlawful. So this is part of higher towards Allah. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said was tough, kurimoto weatherbeeta and that you remember death, and the fact that this body will disintegrate the fact that these bones will become rotten. So remember, death. So this is what it means to have hired out of law.

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And then this shows us that, you know, if a person is eating unlawful food, right, if a person is earning money, unlawfully, then they don't have shyness of Allah. If a person is engaging in gossip, if a person is engaging in backbiting, or slander, or they are, you know, looking at inappropriate things, listening to inappropriate things, and this means that they don't have how you have a law, and before pointing fingers at others, let's look at our own selves.

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And then secondly, remember that hire is also with people, meaning it's from people as well. And it's perfectly fine to feel shy before people and what does it mean to be shy before people not that a person does not have have the courage to speak. Rather, this means that a person is shy to be indecent before them meaning to use indecent language or to talk about obscene things. Right? Hey up also means that a person shows other that they treat people well. So a higher reliability. Ellerbee hide the next Hardee's Mr. Buhari says had definitely recommended me Eunice had this in our Dr. Aziz IGNOU Abhi. Salah Mata had done Abu she had been on Solomon and Abdullah had Nero model the Oleg

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more in Houma. So the live in our model de la Mora who reported that monlam Naboo sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah, Allah Julian, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by Amen. And what was this man doing? What what URL double Phil higher? He was being rebuked with regards to higher meaning people were rebuking him about the fact that he was too shy. You're cooling in Nikola Tesla, he and his brother was saying that you are too shy. You have too much shyness, had tuck it under who Jaco lucado above Robic, and you know, he was saying this to him so much. That to the point that he even said, that you are so shy that I fear that your shyness will harm you. You're too shy. I fear

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that your shyness will harm you. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam heard that for call it a pseudo Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that who leave him Let him be for no higher Amina he man because modesty higher is from a man. It is a part of a man. It is a result of Eman. Its source is a man so let him be don't stop him from being shy.

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So in this Hadees we see the relationship between hire and Eamon

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In this Hardee's, we learn a higher minute email that China's is from EMA. And then another Hadees, we learned that higher is actually a branch of faith, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said hi and we didn't even when he met with an agenda, that higher is from a man, a man his agenda. In another Hadees, we learned that a man has many, many branches. and higher is also sure button mean an email, it is also a branch of email

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in another Hadees, we learn that higher and Eman

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they actually go together. Okay, they actually stay together, which means that when one of them leaves, the other also leaves. Basically what that means is that if a man leaves a person, then their hair will also leave.

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And this also means that if a person's hide out leaves, meaning a person does not have shyness, they don't observe modesty, then what will happen is that their e man will also eventually leave. So we see that higher protects, Amen. And Amen. protects or preserves shyness.

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And its place in our religion is so significant, that, you know, once the people asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, that a higher I mean a deep that is higher a part of religion, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said but who have Dino kulu rather it is all of the meaning. Our Deen is all about hey up. And really, if you think about it, is that is what your is based on your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala, right. And that relationship must be based on high up, that you are shy to disobey Allah, that as soon as for example, the time of Salah comes in, you are shy, and you must feel shyness over there. So you leave what you're doing and you go to pray right out of

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shyness in your prayer, you don't keep thinking about other things, but you keep bringing yourself back to focus on the Salah. And then we see that another major aspect of Islam is relationships with people, right or how we interact with people, how we deal with people, and the foundation of that also is higher. So

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when when this person was being advised by others to not be too shy because his shyness would perhaps harm him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said let him be because hyah is from email. And earlier we learned that hey out brings only good so hire certainly it perfect, amen. It strengthens a person's email, it beautifies a person's religion. How is that so? Because higher will encourage a person to worship Allah subhanaw taala in a more excellent way and at the same time it will prevent a person from monka from wrongdoing from indecency. And we see that in the Quran. Allah Subhana Allah says that when hiring and fascia you will Mancha, Allah subhanaw taala forbids us from

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committing in decencies and wrongdoing. So certainly how Yeah, shyness is something that strengthens and perfects a person's Eman. It preserves a person's Amen. This is why if someone has shyness, we should not tell them to stop being shy.

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The next Heidi's had the scenario that you have no jar of Bala nashoba to run Katara Mola NSN Kala abor Abdullah is more of the law hypno a be earth with a severe to aversary your Kudo, cannon abuse of Allahu alayhi wa sallam. So I will say the Hadith he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was assured the higher and he was the the strongest in terms of shyness, meaning he was even more shy than who minella are the law if he said that he her, then a virgin in her tent.

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You can imagine at the time of the Prophet salallahu or new Southern especially in that society, in the A lot of times girls when they were of marriageable age, they were actually kept indoors that they weren't allowed to go outside. Which is why when it was read the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that that's even such girls who generally don't go outside they must go for eat Salah. Right. So

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Yanni it was expected that such girls would be extremely shy. All right, so serene said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was even more shy, then such a girl and this means

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This shows us that first of all, HIA is not just for women, right, because this is something that we that we feel that HIA is only for women, and men can talk, however, sit however, say whatever, you know, go anywhere, watch anything, you know, behave in any way. And when it comes to girls then or women, then we become very, you know, concerned about honor and image, and, you know, shyness and modesty, etc.

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So we see that the companions took the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, as a model, when it came to high up when it came to shyness. So this means that here is something that is necessary for every single believer, regardless of their gender, regardless of the place that they're in, regardless of their age.

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And this Hadees also shows us that you need the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was naturally shy. All right. And shyness does not mean being timid. Okay, so first of all, remember that there's two kinds of hire, there's that bluberry natural hire that innate hire, and some people, certainly they have more shyness compared to others, right? They, they're more, you know, uncomfortable before others, you know, they're shy to express themselves.

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And then there is another kind of highlight, which is get savvy, meaning it's acquired. All right. Which means that even if a person does not feel naturally shy from the inside, they still observe shyness, when it comes to their speech, they still observe modesty, for example, when it comes to their speech, right? That they don't just say, whatever comes in their heart, they don't use obscene language, even if they're, you know, they, they're able to say whatever in front of others, they should still be careful, and they should still put that guard up. All right, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had both

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blubrry higher and cassabi higher. All right, and we see that you know, just because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had had, it didn't mean that he was afraid of talking to people, or that, you know, he, he never sat with them or or that he never let people know the profits or the love or the venom was the most courageous. So HIA is not the opposite of courage, okay HIA is, is that interstate

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that makes you uncomfortable with doing something wrong with saying something wrong with accepting something wrong. And when a person has that higher, then what happens is that other people also observe that hey out with them.

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Now, this are these also shows us that higher is actually a virtue, right? It's actually a very good quality because at the profit center level or you send them head that this means that higher is strength, it is not a weakness, right. And we learn in the Quran and also in other holidays, that in fact, one of the names of Allah is hagy. So Allah subhanaw taala also has higher okay. So, higher is not a weakness, modesty is not a weakness, it is actually a strength. So Allah subhanaw taala has higher How do we know that in in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that in Allah How are you? That Allah exalted he is heavy, meaning he has higher he is Kareem, he is generous. Yesterday,

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he is shy, that either rofr of Raja eladia daily and your double massive one called a button, that when a person raises their hands before Allah subhanaw taala Allah is try to return those hands empty handed. Right. So Allah also has higher and this means that Allah Subhana Toronto does not, does not like to any reject His servants or or leave his servants empty handed.

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And then we see that in another Hadees, that once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw that a man was, you know, openly taking a bath, right, taking a shower, he was washing himself, and no part of his body was covered. And he was perhaps in a place where people saw him easily. So he was naked. And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw that he went on the member, and he praised and Glorified Allah And then he said, in the la hora zoologia, Lucha une citirano

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That Indeed Allah is how young he has hired, he is citied he loves to he conceals you, he will hire our sitter. And Allah loves modesty and concealment. For either doesn't have to confirm the aesthetic. So when one of you takes a bath, then he should cover his body. Meaning you should not you know, bathe in such a way in front of people that his entire body is exposed. So he should cover his body meaning you should cover his earlobe. So Allah subhanaw taala has high up and he loves high up and we see that higher is also modesty is also a prophetic trait. We learned for example, in the Quran about other ideas center that when he ate the fruit of the tree and the clothes of Jenna,

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right they were removed from him and how are we learning the Quran? That Allah subhanaw taala says, What do you call your sliver nearly human mean what are called Jenna, that they began covering themselves with the leaves of Jenna. So this is something that is innate, right hi is something that a loss Panthera has put within human beings. Then we see what Musashi sent him. The Prophet sallallahu earlier this time said that in the moussaka rajadamnern Hagen, cityland. That musala is ceram was a man who was shy, he would cover his body. We learn about use of it, the salon, that how when the woman, you know, she locked all the doors and she openly invited him to come and sit up. He

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said, Mara the law in the lobby with way that I seek refuge with ALLAH, my lord has been very good to me and my residents. I could not do something like that. Then we learn about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that kind of abuse on a level ready to send a machete that he was he was very strong in his modesty, meaning he was very, very modest. So Allah has headed up, the prophets had higher and then we see that even the angels observe higher.

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We learned that once worth Mandel de la Mourinho came in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he, you know, he covered his legs and he said, and that is the human legend in the stream and who will melodica Should I not be shy of a man from whom angels feel shy. So this shows us that the angels also have higher than we learn about the companions, that is Manuel de la Mourinho, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that what I hear or smell, that the most modest of all of my oma is respond over the alohar. And

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then we've learned that, you know, amongst the female companions also, for example, but father model de la hora, and how that how she had so much higher up than once the Prophet sallallahu already and send them went to her. And it was just the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the slave of a slave that belonged to father little dealer Mourinho. And what happened is that Father metal, Dylan marinha, began covering herself. So her clothing was such that it was not that big, so when she would cover her head, her feet would show and then when she would cover her feet, her head would show, right so she was constantly adjusting her clothing. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said

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that you don't need to worry because it's just your father and your slave over here. So this shows us that, you know, Fatima dilla Mourinho had so much higher, we learned but I shall Dylan warn her, that when remodel de la Mourinho was buried in her apartment. Then she said that whenever I enter, I make sure that I am appropriately covered. And she didn't have to be but she was why hire a mineral out of you know modesty, shyness of Roma, little de la Mourinho.

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So HIA is certainly a a, a characteristic of Eman, it is something that strengthens a person it does not weaken a person, it is not the opposite of confidence. It is in fact his strength. And this is why we should not discourage hire, but we must encourage it. And if a person has you know is weak, you know, they lack the strength or the courage to do something then don't describe that as China's right label it as what it really is don't don't miss label it and this is something that we must remember if you have any question or comment and I'll take it right now and then we'll move to the next event. So inshallah you can raise your hand

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Let's move to the next Bob then.

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Bob number 70 either love the study for snowman sheeter

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either love the story, when you do not feel modesty when you do not feel shyness, then forcing our membership that then you do whatever you wish.

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had definitely heard of new Eunice had done as you hate her death and I'm on sword and rebury, give me Halo Shin had the fun out of almost rude call a call an abuse of Allahu already he was sending the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in the mimma adelakun nasem in Colombia, Nobu were to Allah, either lampmaster he for snowmachine

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that indeed,

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part of what the people have received from the earliest speech of prophethood, or the earliest prophetic teachings is the statement either lamp does the he for snowman sheet that that when you do not have shyness, then you do whatever you want, when you don't have modesty, then do whatever you like, meaning this is from the earliest prophetic teachings. So, we see that the concept of higher is not new to Islam, meaning it is not something that the Prophet sallallahu already taught rather higher is something that has been taught from the very beginning

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it was not abrogated by any *tier.

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So, this is why we see the other morning Sam, you know, he observed here and this started engine, right even before he was sent to the world. And we see in the example of so many prophets, how they practiced modesty.

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So, this shows that HIA is something that, you know, has always been important, and it will always remain important. And in this statement specifically, it is said when you do not have shyness, then you do whatever they whatever you want, which means that when a person does not have high up, they basically don't care, there's no limits, there's no boundaries, alright, and first normal shipped and do whatever you want, this is not you know permission that is being given rather This is a threat, this is similar to how in the under the set error maluma shipped on, do whatever you want, do whatever you please, and then you will see the consequences. So, this is also like a threat, that

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do whatever you want, meaning then you will stop at no limit, and you will continue sin after sin and then you will see the consequences sooner or later.

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So,

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this shows us the importance of hire, right that that how it is any higher is something that protects a person from committing sin.

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So, what happens when a person does not have higher what happens when a person does not have modesty? How you know that does not observe this, this type of this quality?

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There are certain You know, there's a lot of impact of that in a person's life. So for example, we learn that when a person does not have high up, then they commit sins

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openly right? Or the fact that they publicize their since

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and this is a Hadees that we learned earlier in this chapter, that all of my oma, meaning all of the people of my oma will be pardoned except for Mujahideen and who are Mujahideen, those who publicize their sense that a person commits a sin in private, Allah subhanaw taala conceals that sin, but then a person goes and boasts about it brags about it, oh, I did such and such. So, when a person is openly committing sin, or a person is publicizing their sin, telling people about their sins, you know boasting about their sins, then this shows that they do not have higher

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another sign of not having higher is that a person does not feel shy when it comes to hurting people or annoying people

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in terms of their Deen or in terms of their dunya. So for example, any action that you

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No annoys people. Like for example, throwing garbage littering, right? Any This is something that is going to annoy people. Right? But when a person does that it shows that they don't really care that that they don't have high up. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and this as a her these and certainly Muslim, that it duckula name that beware of two things which provoke cursing, meaning avoid those things which cause people to curse you. So the people asked, What are those things and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You're urinating in the road, meaning in the middle of a, you know, a road that people use to go, you know, back and forth, or in places

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where people seek shade.

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So, when a person you know, literals like this, or a person is you know, throwing garbage like this, and there are places where people will openly you know, use the bathroom. In places like this, then this shows that they don't have hair.

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Another sign of not having higher is being indecent in one's speech. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that indeed the worst of people near Allah is the one home people leave out of fear of his indecency if the call a freshie, that he saw indecent inner speech is so vulgar, that people avoid him.

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So, again, this shows that a person does not have

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the likewise severing ties of kinship,

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or the bondage, the bondage is to, to show one's Zina.

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Right, or to, you know, show one's nakedness before people, this is also a sign of not having high up. There's a Hadees in which we learn

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that people asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about their about nakedness that you know about, about their bodies that What? You know, which part of the body should we cover? And which part can we expose? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Follow our little hook that guard your meaning cover your conceal your private part, except from your spouse. And then

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someone asked that, you know, how about when you are amongst people because sometimes it happens that accidentally you know you if a person is sitting in such a way that you know their leg is propped up or, and of course, at a time where people were loose, wore loose clothing that was unstitched. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said in his the authority Ilayaraja head on financially and if you're able to make sure that no one sees your nakedness, then do not reveal your nakedness meaning do your best to cover your nakedness. Do your best to cover your body?

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And then someone asked that Oh, Prophet of Allah, what if one one of one of us is alone? Meaning if you are alone at home, for example, alone in your room, then is it okay to be naked over there. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, for love, a helpful I used to hear Min hamina nurse, Allah is more deserving, that you are shy of him, then people meaning out of shyness of people, you cover yourself, but you should also be shy of Allah subhanaw taala. And, you know, Subhanallah these days, I mean, it's openly being talked about our people are, you know, working from home, and the best part of working from home is that you don't have to wear your pants. Any so panela just because

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you were alone, it doesn't mean that you should you know, not cover your body. Right? Because when someone asked about this, the Prophet sallallahu already said reminded them to be shy of Allah, He is more deserving that you will be shy of him.

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The question is, when is it that a person loses their hire?

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It is since when a person commits sin after sin after sin. When a person is for example, obscene before others, you know, it starts with using one bad word. Right? And then another bad word, another bad word. And the next thing you know it's the new normal. It begins with talking about one obscene thing, and then another obscene thing and then it becomes the new normal. It begins with watching one thing that is indecent, right, which leads to watching another thing that is indecent until it's the new normal, right? A person becomes desensitized. And we see that, you know, when when people become desensitized to this then Kenny,

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the lack of higher up, it has no limit. Really, it has no limit whatsoever that people can go to such an extreme in immodesty in forsch in what is shameful that there

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Unable to even tell between what is appropriate and what is not.

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And we see that this is something that is not just detrimental to the person who does not have modesty, but it also affects other people. Right? We see, for example, how children are being molested. Why, you know, that there'll be all of this is being used in the porn industry, right? people's lives are being ruined. You know, so many women are suffering, so many men are suffering because of why because people want to watch dirty things of seeing things. So really either lump us the first nirma sheet that when you don't have higher than do whatever you want, meaning there is no limit, there is no limit to sinning, because that that inner, you know, compass, that that moral

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compass that you have, that that gets damaged. And when that is damaged, then a person is not even, you know, they don't even feel bad, when when something wrong is done, or when they witness something wrong. And this, you know, this statement, either lump us that he first now my sheet that do whatever you want, this is a threat. Right? Which means that there's severe punishment, there's severe consequences for not being modest. And we've seen several a Hadees about how

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the lack of modesty is something that will lead people to help. There's a hadith in which we learned the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there's two types of L enough people have the fire meaning people who will end up in hell. I have not seen yet. There's two types of people who will end up in hell, whom I have not seen yet. And he mentioned the first type and then he mentioned the second type, who is the second type he mentioned when he sat down there are women that are cast yet that are covered yet idea yet they're naked movie lads met ilat who are trying to entice people, right, trying to trying to attract people, and at the same time, they are enticed by them, you know,

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flirting and inviting flirting.

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And the Prophet sallallahu already said and describe their manner of dressing, especially their heads, or you also want to look at a cinematic book dilemma. And this specifically is referring to how, you know, for example, that the hair is worn, etc. So, any the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam described

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such people as the people of hell, which means that the lack of high up

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is something that leads want to help. And this is something that we should really be afraid of, you know, stop yourself. When, for example, you're watching video and there's music playing your heart will tell you this, this is not right, lower the volume, right? It's not okay. Because one thing will lead to another which will lead to another, so don't allow yourself to be desensitized. There's another Hadith in which we learn.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that I know of people from my oma, who will come on the Day of Judgment, with good deeds which will be like such and such mountain, meaning he was he described the enormity or the great numbers of their good deeds of their righteous deeds. And then he said, But Allah will make them into her battlement thora into scattered dust.

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So one of the companions he said, O Messenger of Allah described those people to us, so that we are not of them.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that they are in fact your brothers, right? They are from you. And they have a portion of the night meaning their worship in the night just like you do. But they are people who when they are alone, they do not refrain from the things which Allah Subhana thada has forbidden

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when they're alone, they have no shyness they have no modesty before Allah subhanaw taala so this is something that will cause their good deeds to be wasted. So either lung does the he first nirma ship when you don't have shiners Do whatever you want, this is a threat. This is a warning.

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Which means that the moment you feel your hideout being you know violated or or you feel like this is contrary to high up, you have to pull the reins over there. You have to stop yourself over there.

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All right, before the next vibe, any comments or question?

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Actually, there must be some comment or question I must take something from you.

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Okay, well,

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volunteer or victim?

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Okay, this man? I don't know, it's it's real enough for some reason I'm not able to see any of the raised hands. If you see a raised hand. Could you please?

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Go ahead. Okay.

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So one of the things that this is, this is a huge eye opener for me, because

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I'm on the path to medical school insha Allah and the pre medical education is very much it desensitizes you to just about everything. So one of the things that I remember my mom pointing it out, actually, because my mom is a very shy woman, and she pointed it out. And she said, You're saying things are handed to you that are making me kind of uncomfortable, and I had to really think about it and pull it back. But even since then, I, I feel like, I'm very desensitized to a lot of the happenings of the human body, because that has been the primary subject of my study for going on about five years now. And I'm very, very glad that this is something we went over, because it is a

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huge eye opener for me.

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Love, which means that any, it doesn't mean that you cannot have you cannot observe higher in your field. It's, it's about, you know,

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you being mindful about this, and consciously trying to remain modest, or bring about that modesty. You know, like I mentioned that there's two kinds of shyness or HIA. One is I actually don't like the translation, shyness or modesty, either of them, because I feel that he is actually very different. Anyway, there's two types of hair. One is the innate, the blubrry, right, naturally, being shy. And the other is isabey. Right? That meaning you you bring yourself to practice modesty. So for example, even when it comes to,

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you know, handling the human body, for instance, you know, you're you're, you're you are treating a patient, it doesn't mean that you have to look at every part of their body. Right? You You focus, right. So there's ways of practicing high up, but it's about

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consciously trying to do that. Right. And even talking about it there is there are ways you can get around seeing things not only are obviously and of course, there is a time and place, I don't have to talk about, you know, the functioning of human anatomy with my mom, the same way I have to do with a patient is coming in with reproductive issues. Like I can be very different the way that I communicate with them. Exactly. And of course, there's a way of talking about such things in a very professional way. And which of course, professionals do and

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need. It's it's about having that realization and being deliberate about it. That's the main thing. Monica Lewinsky So, yeah, I really glad we went over this.

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Can I add topics? Yes, please do. Okay. So actually, this was touched by chef the same in May and never smell like he said, that there's

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there is a means a product key prior to to a communal obligation that people learn that is and that

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you know, we need doctors which are female for people proposition that we have to seek an environment where

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which is an academy kind of an environment, of course, our universities are and we should adhere to the rulings in terms of how we integrate with the people that are does that

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any it is within the limits of study that is required? If I'm not mistaken, he gave her prep for that. It is permissible for our to do it. Yeah, absolutely. And the other thing is that this is something that we need to practice higher something need to practice not just in our professional lives when we are before others or when we are, you know, working with people but this is something that we need to practice even in our ibadah even at home. And like I mentioned earlier, even you know with regards to our head and what it contains any our speech, the way we look at things, what we're listening to, it any it's it's it's a personal thing.

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which must be practiced in every aspect of our lives.

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as some icon so just saw you You mentioned to me earlier how

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one thing leads to another into another it's so in this day and age, it's so easy to be desensitized if some people come to this country for example, and they see billboards for the first time they're probably shocked but after a while, they just stopped seeing them. And for for people raised here, the one has to really make an effort to re

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eyes. Our eyes. Sorry, I don't know what to say. Yeah, but we have to really undo the damage done by the environment around us. Yeah, definitely. Been comfy.

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Okay, so let's move to the next club. Bob number 79. Bob Muller You stay here meenal helping lit the * Cohiba Dean

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malah used to hear meenal help

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how a person should not be shy of the truth. Why when lit the football if a dean in order to gain understanding in the deen

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meaning, shyness is not something that should that that big, that becomes a barrier between you and and learning between you and

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shyness is not something that should prevent a person from the Hulk from the truth, whether it is learning the truth or it is teaching the truth or is practicing the truth any shyness

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should not hinder a person it should not become a barrier for a person.

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So, if out of shyness, you know a person is not able to ask or learn or advise or do what is right then this kind of shyness is something that needs to be channeled in the right direction.

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Because in the hole on we learn hula hula is to him in and help Allah subhanaw taala is not shy of the truth.

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In the La Jolla study, Allah is not shy to present the example of a mosquito or something that is even smaller than that. Right? So when Allah subhanaw taala is not shy of the truth and that means we should also not be shy off the truth whether it is learning it or teaching it or

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you know, practicing it. So let's look at the Hadees had this nice marine color had this an American and he shall have neuromotor an OBE and Xena bergna t ob selama Darren omisego methodolgy Alomar and her call it job at almost Sulayman Illa Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So, um cinema reported that on soname came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa Salaam for collards. And then she said Yasuda Allah or messenger of Allah, in Allah, hilarious to him in and help. Indeed, Allah is not shy of the truth for her Island. It was soon is a woman supposed to take a bath? Either tournaments when she has a wet dream for color. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Now

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yes, she should take a bath when she has a wet dream. And what is the sign of that? Either it map when she sees liquid, meaning in her private part on waking up. So we see that on saline. We'll do one more on her she had this question. Right? And, of course, any consider the nature of the question consider the fact that she's a woman and the Prophet sallallahu Christendom is a man and then consider the status of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But she had this question and she did not let China's prevent her from learning about the truth, learning about what to do.

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Why because this is a very important matter about which a woman must have clarity. She must have knowledge because if she does not know if she is supposed to take a bath, right, and she does not take the bath where she is required to take a bath. That means that she's not in a state of purity when she's praying salah and that means Ursula

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It's not valid, because the condition has not been fulfilled. So, the lack of knowledge with regards to this matter is something that will affect the validity of Salaam

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and Salah is something that is unique an obligation, right, it is one of the first things that we will be asked about on the Day of Judgment. So, this shows us that if a woman has any question of such nature,

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and even though these matters are very private, very personal, you need it may be very uncomfortable to ask about such matters. But a person must ask, a person must learn. And this shows that these matters must be taught, we cannot leave people to, you know, figure out the answers themselves, or to always rely on Google searches or, you know, just, you know, leave children to discuss with their friends and learn from, you know, the internet, etc. Know, these are matters that affect our ibadah. Right, which means that every woman, you know, should know, for example, about her menstruation when it begins when it ends, and when she's supposed to take a bath. When it comes to the matters of

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Geneva, every man should know every woman should know any This is fun, this is knowledge that every individual must know about. Right? And and shyness should not prevent us from teaching such things to our children, right? Or shyness should not prevent us from asking about such matters when we are in a state of confusion.

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And if you think about it, this question is about a wet dream, raining a woman having a wet dream. And when we learned another version of this Heidi's also named when she heard this ending she was shocked. And she she left and she you know covered herself up she was so surprised by the nature of this question.

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So this means that if any old surname asks a question like this and the Prophet sallallaahu organism did not object and this means that any other question related to you know such matters must be asked and a person should not feel shy. And if a question of this nature is asked, then people should not be discouraged. Children should not be discouraged, because these are matters of our Deen you know, which affect our ibadah so we must have clarity on these issues. I shall do a Mourinho said that how excellent are the women of the onslaught, shyness did not prevent them from understanding the religion. Which means that whenever they had a question and remember that own surname was one of the

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women among the unsought when they had a question, they did not hesitate to ask the prophets Allah already he was saying. Now there's another kind of shyness we have when it comes to learning, which is that we're too shy to ask a question because we we're afraid that what will people think? Right? That I don't even know this much?

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I'm shy to ask because then people will know that I don't know. You know the answer to this, that my knowledge is so basic. And that almost is pride. Right? Which is why we learned that Mujahid he said that layer pty limited or EMA Mustang in what am I stuck with?

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that knowledge cannot be learned by a person who is shy and a person who is arrogant meaning a person who is shy to ask or person who is too arrogant to ask, then such people will be deprived of knowledge. And if a person is deprived of knowledge, that means that they're deprived of a lot of good. So, we should not let shyness prevent us from from reading.

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But of course, this does not mean that a person does not observe Hey, that in learning and in teaching, okay? There is a kind of higher that prevents a person from learning or from teaching and that kind of shyness is not okay. The shyness that's becoming a barrier that is stopping you, right from learning or from teaching. But there's a higher which must be in the manner of a person in the language of a person. And this higher must be observed even when learning about such matters or teaching such matters. And the best example is the is of the Quran and the Sunnah. We see that for example in the Quran in many matters related to you know, the relationship between a husband and

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wife, for instance are mentioned in a lot of detail.

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In the Quran, menstruation is mentioned but the language is so appropriate, it is so dignified. It is. So it is such that you don't feel uncomfortable listening to it or reading it. And personally I can see that even teaching such verses, any, no matter how uncomfortable The topic is, the words or the language of the Quran is beautiful, it is not indecent. And the fact that it is so beautiful and it is free from indecency makes it so much easier, you know, to talk about those matters and to teach them and discuss them. And this is why this would be my advice to you also that whenever you need to talk about such issues, whether it is with your family or children, or you know that you are

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teaching someone about it, or you have to ask a question of such nature, then make sure that you observe high up

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how is it that you observe higher in the wording that you use in in the manner in which you talk.

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And we see again in the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He in he was very clear in his answer, not from a very short email, but a theme map. And any very clear, short

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to the point. And there was no hesitation over here. So there's no confusion,

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but at the same time, very respectful. So this isn't, you know, we have to maintain that balance. So on the one hand hyack should not prevent us from the Hulk. And on the other hand higher the higher end, the lack of higher should not make us indecent and inappropriate. There must be higher in the way that we talk about such matters. And this is something that is only fitting the next heavies had the Adam had doesn't assure the two had this animal Hollywood no the third in our series Samaritan Nirmala your kulu parlane abuse of Allahu alayhi wa sallam. So are the Lebanon remote said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that methadone would mean he committed he shuddered in

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Hydra. The example of the believer is like that of an evergreen tree lyase Ottawa Pooja is its leaves do not fall when I add the hat to and they do not drop off for all will come here shadow together. So some people sadly no it is such and such tree here shadow to cut out or it is that tree, meaning people you know came up with their answers that the Prophet sallallahu where it is and you know he's referring to this tree or that tree. So even Irma said for up to an akula he and Allah so I wanted to say that it is the date palm tree. However, what anahola Moon but I was a young boy Siobhan young foster here too. So I felt shy, because at the time around the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wasallam you know, older companions were sitting, and even Irma was still a child, so he felt shy for color. So he said meaning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he gave the answer he inala it is the date palm tree. So you can imagine the province will allow that to send them you know, puts out this question before his companions and the companions are coming up with different answers. Nobody gets it right. Even remote is just thinking in his head. It's the date palm tree. It's the dead palm tree but he's too shy to say it. And then eventually the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gives the answer he says it is the date palm tree. we're unsure but the head doesn't

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elevate with nor have the right man. What I'm sorry, we're unsure about that head doesn't obey but more of the rock many on how signera semen and even Nirmala mithila who was the father? So in another narration, there's an addition that had this to be your model for color that even reverse at that I mentioned this to remote meaning my father for color. So he said lamb Quinta Cutajar if you had said it, meaning if you gave the answer when the profits a little awkward, you said I'm asked Locanda a heavy legume in co worker that would have been more beloved to me than such and such. So, we see that are delivering a model de la Mourinho, given the fact that he was a young child at this

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time he was shy to speak before the other companions and sometimes this happens that when you are, you know, participating in a certain gathering where there are people who are way more knowledgeable than you were more experienced than you then you are trying to, you know, participate. And we see that this kind of shyness is also not appropriate. Because remodel de la Mourinho and he expressed his wish that I you know, I wish you had said it. So of course, a person does feel shy before the teacher or with the peers

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but that shyness

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Also has to be unique. It has to be channeled in the right direction, which means that you are appropriate in the way that you talk in the language that you use in the way that you interact with your peers in the way that you interact with your teacher. But it doesn't mean that you become quiet and you don't speak and you are as if you are not part of the conversation.

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The next Heidi's had nothing ever said they don't have death in our home similar to saboten and no semirara NSM aldila Mourinho yaku Jatin Ratan ala Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So and also de la Mourinho said and remember that ns will de la Mourinho serve the Prophet sallallahu has been for many years, so he was in with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a lot. He said that a woman came in and abuse Allah or to send them to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, why die Laura Lee enough. So how

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she basically presented herself to him some love already has some meaning for marriage, saying that, would you like to marry me for college? So she said her like 100 on failure, would you like to marry me? For collards? So the prophet SAW she said, Sorry for conative neto, so on hearing this, the daughter of anessa de la hora, and who said, So, what's happening here is that Anasazi Longhorn, who is mentioning before his daughter, that a woman came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, offering herself to him, any if he wanted to marry her, he would marry her.

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So when the daughter of unece heard this, she said, McCullough, hyah

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what little modesty she had, what what little hideout she had, did she have no hair? Where was her hair? How could she go up to the Prophet salallahu organism and say, Would you like to marry me? Right? How could she say that to him? For color, so Anasazi Longhorn who said he a halal monkey, she was better than you. She was better than you any you think you have so much higher up, that you you are not comfortable with the fact that she offered herself to the Prophet sallallahu we're using them for marriage. The fact is, that she was actually better than you are at all let's assume that he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and nappsa she offered herself to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wasallam any she offered herself to him that if he wanted, he could marry her. And any she was, you know, she she wanted to bring ease to the Prophet salallahu Urdu and send them and she offered herself. So he said that she was better than you. Now,

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again, in this Hadees we see that this woman was eager in seeking life. Right? meaning she wanted good for herself. And really, at the time for any woman to be married to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the best thing ever, even though it came with its hardships. Alright, and it's its challenges, but it was the best thing ever. Why? Because the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they were given a choice right in total, or have we learned that if you want this dunya and it's adornment that come we will give you and then you can leave the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but if you want Allah, His Messenger, the home of the Hereafter, then a loss

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Pandora has prepared an excellent reward for such women. So Yoni, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they received the company of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they got to be with him where others could not be with him. They got to learn from him what others could not learn from him. And given the fact that they would be that they're close to the profits and loss ratios, and they would also enjoy closeness in the year after forever. So this is nothing but played. And this woman was eager for height. And this is why she offered herself to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this hi these shows us that a person should not be shy, in seeking

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height, right? In being eager for goodness. And remember that out of all good things, the best is beneficial knowledge. Right? It's beneficial knowledge. Why? Because when you have a nafion when you have beneficial knowledge, then you're able to worship better. You're able to, you know, do better things in life, make better use of your time, you know, make better contributions to the world that you live in. So knowledge is is a key to life. So this is why

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A person should be eager for height and not let high up, prevent them.

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And this Hardee's, of course, also shows us the permissibility for a woman to propose to a man for marriage. But again, I want you to notice that the manner of this woman, right, that she was not any shameless. She was not obscene, in the way that she spoke to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam in the way that she, you know, came to him in this was so dignified that Ennis will belong more, and he'll remembered this. And when unassimilable Omar and his daughter objected, he said that she was better than you,

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which shows that again, in such matters,

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a person must still observe modesty. Right? So where modesty should not prevent us from seeking quiet,

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we should not any completely rid ourselves of modesty either. modesty is important. It has to be channeled in the right places, you know, for the right time in the right manner. And that is something that comes with wisdom. That is something that comes with delfy and this is something that we should pray to Allah subhanaw taala to that realist cantata grant is high up.

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And a hikma wisdom Okay, any question or comments you can raise your hand inshallah and then we will conclude

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Okay, class

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Alright.

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So it's just your love now I'll pass the mic on to you inshallah. So clinical loan will be handed over La Ilaha. Illa. anta stop Furukawa to like a Santa Maria can work with Allah He will buy cattle

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or they can deliver get beautiful. Get the truck, you love help.