Sahih al Bukhari – Kitab al Adab #27

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I said I'm already como Rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

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Are you all able to hear me clearly? Okay

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How's everyone doing?

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100 in the

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alright let's begin

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our the Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah al Karim rubbish rocky Saudi were Siddeley emri working on the rock data melissani Yakubu Kohli. Allah who made the call me was said that the Sani West roots of Hema Takagi amin Europa alameen

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so hamdulillah in kuttabul, other of zaharie inshallah, we will begin from BB number 75 which is bad Maya juzo minella hobby, what should the tea umbrella were called Allah who j delco photo well, Mona, if your pain was low or lay him

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may have used them in other what is permissible of anger, meaning, in certain cases, anger is something that is permissible. Why should the tea and also strictness is something that is permissible? And when is it permissible? The umbrella he for Allah soprano todos sake, what kind of Allah who and Allah subhanaw taala himself has said, meaning he commanded the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that all messenger of Allah jahai dill cofell strive against those who disbelieve while Muna 15 and those who are hypocrites, Well, hello La La him and be harsh with them, be strict with them be very firm with them. So remember, hurry is now talking about the permissibility of

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anger. Now of course this chapter is about good manners, about adult about proper behavior. And when we're talking about proper behavior, and we're talking about good character of course, when it comes to anger, generally we would assume that anger is something that is disliked, right. Anger is something that a person must stay away from. And that is correct meaning in general, anger is something that should be avoided and there is clear instructions regarding that both in the Quran and the Sunnah. But remember how to bring begins over here with the exception that there are certain cases where anger is actually permissible, not only permissible, it is in fact necessary. And this

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shows that there is a place for anger, there's a time for anger and all anger is not bad. Remember that anger just like any other emotion, it is something that is healthy, it can be healthy, it is something that is very normal.

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Of course, when it is in the right place, it is the misuse of anger or is the is inappropriate anger is the displacement of anger, or extreme anger, which makes it problematic. So first of all, remember how he talks about the permissibility of anger, which is he says, Lee umbrella for the cause for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala meaning when it comes to the commands that allow us parents Allah has given when it comes to the rights of Allah, the Exalted, then in order to enforce the rules, it is permissible to express anger, or to be strict, right? And this includes sometimes punishing those who disobey and other times this includes taking disciplinary action wherever

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necessary.

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And then a mumble hottie brings the idea from the Quran, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was instructed to well look or lay him to be strict to be harsh with those who deserved harshness. So this shows that there are certain situations where harshness or strictness is actually necessary. But what is problematic is where a person becomes harsh all of the time, or where a person becomes harsh were in a situation where harshness is not appropriate. So let's look at the Heidi's now. Had the thinner had the thinner yes or no soft one had definitely Ibrahim earned his degree and in passing me under a Chateau de la marinha carnet de Haan Alejandra bu sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam so I shall do one more. I'm her reported this Hadees she said that once the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he entered meaning the house what Phil Beatty Pillowman fee he saw. And in the house at the time, there was a person on which were images. So what happened when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam saw that curtain with those images hanging in the house of I shall Dylan marinha what happened for the loved one a wedge who who the color of his face changed, meaning he was visibly upset. And this happens with a lot of people that when they're angry, they're their face goes red. Right? So for too long when I watch who who the color of the Prophet salallahu early was sort of space changed in anger. Then what happened? Some letter now we'll have citra Then he took

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the curtain and for Heather kelkoo and he tore it down. We'll call it and I shall deliver on her said that pollen abuse that Allahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that men assured the nursery are there been Yamal pmet? that of the people who will be punished most severely on the day of judgment? Or who alladhina you so we're on ahead his Sawa are the people who make who draw such images, meaning such people will be given the worst punishment on the Day of Judgment. So, we see over here that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was visibly angry, right, which shows that of course, he this kind of anger is permissible. Now, why was he angry? He

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was angry because something was done in his house, which was not correct, right? And what was that, that certain images were being honored in his house by being hung on the wall, but by being used as a curtain, so, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did not tolerate that at all. And this is why he removed it, he tore it down. And he also gave a verbal warning, all right. Now, what was the problem with that curtain? The problem with that curtain was that it had images on it, well our image is wrong.

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Not all images are wrong, the problem with this particular image was basically two things all right. The first thing is that the image was of a living thing, all right, because we we learned from other narrations were drawings or images of nonliving things like for example, by nonliving I mean, like non human animal, okay. So for example, trees, etc are permissible, okay. So, this particular image was of a living being alright. And secondly, it was also problematic because when the image was hung on the wall, alright, then that image was actually being honored, okay. And this is something that we have to remember that there is a difference between, for example, having an image on a piece of

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cloth, or for example, on a paper, like for example, newspaper and that that newspaper is being used to cover something or it has been used as a mat, or something like that. And, and an image that is framed and hung. One image is being dishonored. Alright, and another image is being honored. Okay? There's another Hadith in which we learned that I shall dilla Mourinho, she actually made such a curtain which had images on it into stuffing for pillows, okay. And that is something the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam allowed. So it wasn't the existence of these images, which was a problem. It was the fact that they were being put on display. And it was the fact that they were

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being honored in this manner. All right. So this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam disliked it greatly. So, you know, for example, it happens that, you know, for instance, you bring a box with groceries into your house, all right? Or, for example, a diaper box, right? If you have little kids at home, and let's say on that big diaper box is the image of a baby, right? It happens so many times we get things and it's got images on it. So those images are not exactly being honored. Okay. What is being honored is when an image is hung, right or put on display, that is problematic and that is something that is not permissible at all. Okay, so we see over here that the

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Prophet sallallahu Urdu cinema got angry. He got angry. Why for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala he was not angry that How dare you put something up in the house without my permission, right? No.

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Or how come you did not consult me? or How come you didn't ask me, and I don't like this color scheme, etc. No, he was not angry over such petty issues. He was angry for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. And then we see that he wasn't just angry, okay, he communicated the reason for his anger. And he actually changed the wrong with his hand. And that is something that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam advised us to do that when you see something mooncup when you see something wrong, then then fix it, change it with your hand. And if you're not able to do that, then stop it with your words. And if you're not able to do that, then at least consider it to be wrong in

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your heart, right. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he changed the mooncup with his hand, he tore it, he tore that curtain down. And he also gave a verbal warning that such people who draw such images will be given the worst punishment on the Day of Judgment. Now, of course, based on this Hadeeth, we should all you know, look at our houses and, and, and these days at Hamdulillah, we are getting a lot of time to spend inside her houses. So let's make use of this time and look around and see that is there any image like this that is hanging, perhaps on a wall, or sitting on a table, where that image is being honored? Even if it is of someone whom I love, whom I miss someone who I

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adore, but it is not correct to hang such pictures or images? Why because from another Hadees we learn that the angels of mercy actually don't enter a house in which there are such images, right and imagine if the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was so displeased, he was so angry, then would we want that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is angry with us, we would never want that. And of course, the the greatest thing is that we should fear Allah subhanaw taala and the fear of Allah should supersede any desire that we may have. The next headies had nothing mo said they don't have that an idea here and ismar 11 a b Holly then had doesn't apply signal a B has a min and a B must

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ruin or the Allah Mourinho Father attalla Julian.

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So I've almost wrote that all day long Mourinho reported, he said that a man came to who an obeah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And this man said, for color. So he said in the letter, a harmar Ancelotti modality that I actually fail to go to the morning prayer meeting the budget of prayer meeting, the only reason why I stay behind and I don't go to join the congregation is Minh agilely for learning because of such and such person, okay, he was referring to the Imam. What was wrong with the Imam? He said, mimma you play loopy now? It's because he makes the Salah very, very long. He makes the prayer very long when he leads us in it.

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And because of that, I go late or I don't go at all.

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Paul Paula, the Obamas route set from Allah at Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to a shed the rubberband so I have never seen the Prophet salallahu or to send them so angry. Ever. FEMA were able to Minho when giving an instruction Yama event then that day, meaning he was so angry when he advised the people and especially he was advising who the Imam for color so he said here are yohannes or people in the main kimono feeling figurine there are among you, those who make people averse. Meaning you turn people away from the religion of Allah, you chase them away from the religion of Allah for a Yukon, so whoever among you masala be nasci folia Tojo was so whoever Have

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you prays with the people meaning he leads people in the prayer, then what should he do failure to Joe was then he should make a chart. Why? Because for inna fee Haman marieb because among them are those who are unwell while Kebede and those who are older, whether Hydra and those who have needs and everyone is not able to stay that long for Salah or stand for that long in Salah. So make the Salah short. So again, remember Holly is bringing this hadith over here to show how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was very angry over here at the people who were not wise in in leading salah and at the

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fact that they made the Salah difficult on others. So this shows us very clearly that if the imam leads people in prayer and the man makes the prayer very, very long, this will of course turn the people away. This will cause people to avoid the Salah, this will cause people to join the Salah late and that is of course causing people to become averse to the deen. So we should not be those who hinder people from the way of Allah we should be of those who call people to the way of Allah. Now, of course there's you know, a question which is that what exactly is a long salah and what is a short Salah, right? Because there are people who find,

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you know, the recitation of a page two pages, very, very average you know, for them, it's short, they want more

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and then there are others will find the recitation of Surah Fatiha even very, very long. So, what is long and what is short the criteria remember is the sooner okay the criteria is the sooner and when it comes to every single Salah we have very clear reports of how much the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would recite on average, okay in budget, how much you would recite on average in the hood and also in Missouri binnorie sharp. So the sooner remember is the most moderate it is the perfect and that is the criteria that we have to observe also, the next Heidi's had the fun I must have noticed Marielle had that and Algeria to our nefarian on Abdullah rhodiola Mourinho

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garbain and Nabeel sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a you suddenly he said that once when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was praying, of course, this was in the masjid. What happened is that graffiti blackhill Majidi new harmattan he saw some phlegm in the Tabler of the masjid. Qibla meaning the front of the masjid. Okay, the front meaning

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which the people faced because, of course, that wasn't the direction of the Qibla. So on that wall over there, or perhaps on the Yeah, so on the wall, what was their phlegm? Meaning somebody had spat, and so it had landed over there, it had caked over there. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw that for Hector habia de, okay, he scraped it off, he removed it with his hand

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and for the layover, he actually became angry, so makhanda and then he said, in a haidakhan, either canopus seletti, for in the La hyaena, which he he, that indeed when one of you is in prayer, then Indeed Allah is actually before him. Allah is in front of him. For now, yet and a Harmon he Allah which he for Sala, so no one should spit in, in the direction of Allah subhanaw taala in Salah, meaning no one should spit in front of him during the prayer. Why? Because who was before him? Allah is before him. So how dare you spit in the direction of Allah subhanaw taala Do not ever do that. So we see again in this Hadees that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he became angry, right?

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Again, not for his own personal sake, but rather he was angry over here for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala Lee amarilla. And he didn't just get angry, and he didn't just feel angry, he communicated and he taught people and he changed the mooncup right. Now there's a few things that I want you to

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take from this Are these the first thing is I want you to look at the word hayyan. Okay, here the word G. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when one of you is in Salah, that Indeed Allah is hyaena G. What does he mean? He l means people, okay before. Now, Allah is before him. Meaning when a person is praying that Allah is before him, what does that mean? Now, this is something first of all, remember, this is something that is mentioned in many, many Hadees this hadith of course, is in body, there is other Hadees which Wits with the slightly different wordings, but all of them refer to the same thing that Allah is before a person when a person is praying Salah

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Okay. Now of course we learned in the Quran that Allah is our little oshi stowa right that he is above his throne. But remember that this does not contradict the fact that Allah is also before us in prayer. Okay. Why? Because if you think about any the creation, for example,

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The sun is in the sky, right? Really, really high above us. But at the same time, it's in front of you when you face it. Right. So, when a lion method Arla I mean, we're not giving examples in the sense that this is exactly how it is. The point is that if it's possible for the creation to be high and in front, why would it not be possible for Allah zildjian right and remember that when it comes to the attributes of Allah subhanaw taala when it comes to the actions and the traits of Allah subhanaw taala we believe in them without explaining the how, without talking about the how, okay, without any tequila and without any resembling him to the creation in the sense that we don't go on

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explaining that this is how it happens, like, the way in the same manner that you know, such and such creation does, okay, we affirm it as it is what we need to take from this Hadeeth is the fact that when we are praying Allah is before us, right? And this realization should kind of, you know, it should really make us humble and fearful. Right? And this is something that should

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you know, make us very, very serious insula, right, who sure is something that is very, very important in Salah even though I am said that the difference between Salah that has who sure and Salah does not have for sure is like think think of a body without a soul. Alright, the Think of a body without a soul, a body without a soul is dead. And just like that Salah without who sure is the end, it's it's empty, you know, it's hollow, it's it's not that beneficial. So who Sure, remember, it is stillness and humility. Okay, that a person is still insula. They're not making extra movements. They're not like itching themselves scratching themselves fixing you know, their, their

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clothing, or like adjusting their body constantly. Or like, men, Pat, you know, fixing their beard. Know that this is all contrary to who Sure. Okay, who sure is that a person becomes still in Salah? Why and how would you be still? How can you bring about that stillness from that humility and fear that you experience? Why would you experience that humility and fear by reminding yourself that I'm facing a law I'm standing before a law, right and remember these words for in the law here in our CI.

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So this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that if you must spit in Salah, and sometimes it happens that you know you were praying and you cough and now you've got phlegm in your mouth. You have to spit it out. He said do not spit in front of yourself. Right? Because this would be extremely disrespectful. Very, very disrespectful. And remember that at that time, especially in the masjid, the Prophet sallallahu earlier said on the ground was such that it was it just had pebbles on it. There was no carpet. So people would and at that time, it was very normal for people to spit. You know, wherever they were and also remember that the Spirit itself phlegm itself, it's

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not something that is impure. Okay, however, the Prophet sallallahu Urdu, some did not like that in the place of prayer. Right? There is phlegm. Okay. So this is why again, we see the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam did not just get angry, he actually fixed the problem. Right. We saw earlier about how he removed the curtain that had images on it. He disciplined the people who led who led very long Salah right? And here, he scraped off the phlegm himself. And this shows us the humility of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that he removed someone else's phlegm. Any just imagine this is Rasulullah sallallahu already he was held up. In he was so humble. That when he saw

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something that was not right, something that should not have been there, he removed it. Right. And if we were to, you know, for example, see a tissue in the musty the mandalas pantalla. Open the gates the doors of the massage for us.

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Any if we see something like that in the masjid we we think that it's someone else's problem. Right to fix. We would wait for the cleaners to come, but the Prophet sallallahu earlier said them

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Clean the mustard himself. Right? And in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala tells his prophets Ibrahim is smart enough.

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And the hero Beatty that both of you clean my house right clean the carpet clean and mustard at home. So remember that cleaning the mustard? All right, this is something that is necessary. This is something that is very, very important is dignified, right? And this is something that the prophets did.

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So, this shows us how Masjid has to be kept clean and if a person sees something that is dirty in the mustard than they should remove it, don't just wait for the janitor. Go take the initiative and clean the mustard yourself.

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And we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam otherwise also he emphasized the cleanliness of the masjid. You all are familiar with the incident where the Bedouin came in he urinated inside the masjid and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had that area washed off, right? And just like that, we learned that the prophets of Allah who are using them forbade that anyone should urinate near the door of the masjid. Because remember, at the end, even today, there are places where people will just, you know, face a wall and they'll urinate, right so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam forbade that anyone should do that. near the door of the masjid. Why? Because then it's first of

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all, it's very close to the masjid and secondly, you know, if somebody steps over it and then they walk into the must of them than agenda the impurity will come into the masjid, right?

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Also remember that it is actually a sin to spit in the masjid. Okay. Meaning it's a sin that a person spits on the floor, the wall or something like that in the corner of the masjid. No, this is something that is sinful. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, and boosah Cofield must God hopefully atone, that spitting in the mustard is a sin worker fara to her death knew her. And it's expiation is that it should be covered. Okay? Because remember that at that time, the ground was of pebbles, so cover it up, meaning bury it, right? And these days, if, for example, you cough and you don't you, you didn't realize but you coughed and phlegm also came out and landed on the carpet, for

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example, then don't just leave it there. Right? Clean it, remove it, it's, it's your job. It's your duty that you must clean it. And likewise, if, you know, you know, some other accident happens where you For example, spill coffee or tea or water or something like that. Don't just leave it. You know, this is, you know, a mistake that you made an accident that happened. So give the kafala right, give the expiation.

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We also learned that if a person spits in the mustard, right, and he leaves it over there, then he will come on the Day of Judgment, while that phlegm that spit will be between his eyes, meaning it will be on his forehead. So imagine such a person will be humiliated on the Day of Judgment. We also learned that once a man spat like this in the masjid, and he used to lead the people in prayer and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam forbade that man from leading people in prayer again. So that man was deprived of imama of being a leader, because of this action.

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And in general, also you need we have been told to clean ourselves before we go to the masjid which is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that whoever has eaten onion or garlic, because raw especially because, you know they can be very strong in their smell, then such a person should not come close to the mustard. Because the angels feel annoyed by what people feel annoyed. So if ever

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any, if if the clothing is smelling or you know the body is smelling before going to the muscle, do do take care of that. inshallah.

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So now I can take your questions or comments. If you'd like to share anything, please raise your hand so that I can see it and then shall I can take your comments.

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Okay, this Mila

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Yes, Michelle, go ahead.

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So my focus today

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I had a question about the displaying images.

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Just how we can enjoin good for video like if you have relatives that are doing that.

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Okay, guys, very good question. This is actually very, very important as well to know because

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any, when the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, he went into the house, this was his own house. I mean, I showed a lot more on his her draw. And there when he saw that curtain, he removed it, and he got rid of it, right. Which means that he was in a position to actually make that change. Alright. So remember when it comes to a marble, marble roof and nahan and Mongkok commanding what is right and forbidding what is wrong, there are certain conditions for that. Okay. And one of those conditions is that you are in a position to actually do a mod with my roof and the hidden will come if you're not in that position. So for example, you go into your friend's house or your relative's house and

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you see an image, let's say a picture frame on the wall, and you just take it off, and people are going to get offended. Right? another condition of a mobile mobile phone or hidden moniker is that your mobile, my roof, my hand, and my car is not going to cause more damage, more harm. Okay? So, if you feel that if you remove it, it's going to cause problems, then you're not going to go and remove that image right away, right. So what you can do for instance, is that you just sit with them and you talk to them, right? You just sit with them and talk to them that you know the the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he saw an image like this in his house, he actually removed it. So

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you know, it really depends on who it is and and how you can talk to them. But of course, be be respectful, be you know, considerate. And perhaps you know what some people what is best is that you talk to them gradually.

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So, and of course make dua for them that may Allah subhana wa Tada, you know, open up their hearts to the truth and make it easier for them to follow it. I remember

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once I went somewhere, and and, you know, this is something that a lot of Muslims are actually aware of that picture should not be hung. So, immediately, you know, this lady whose house it was, she asked me, because there were images, right? pictures of family members, etc, hanging on the wall. So she asked me, is it okay, you know, I really, I love these pictures. And I said, Well, the thing is that the angels of mercy don't come, right, the angels of mercy don't enter the place where images are hanging. And she got any soul

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surprised by that and so touched by that, that she immediately removed those images. immediately she removed those pictures because she was like, I I want angels of mercy in my house. Right. So

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any make offer them

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you know, be well equipped with with good knowledge, relevant information, so that inshallah you can help them.

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Anybody else? Any question? Any comment?

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Yes, yes. Yeah, go ahead.

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My question is also regarding the images I wanted to ask that you don't have somehow children. Sometimes children make images of like, maybe their mom or dad or or even like springs coming so let's make a bird but we're not wondering those images by hanging them is that also wrong. So, the thing is that the fact that an image is being hung okay is basically honoring them okay. Now, when it comes to the image itself, you know, there are

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you know, for example guidelines that those scholars have suggested for instance, one is that the image should be incomplete okay. So for example, if an eye is missing or you know, some major detail is missing, and typically when when children draws such things, they really have to tell you what it is you can barely figure out what it is so, they are incomplete drawings anyway. So they would be fine inshallah.

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Way.

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All right, anybody else? Any question or vomit?

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Okay, let's continue. The next Hadeeth is

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bluebee Abdur Rahman Anya xid mo landmann Berry thing and say the new holiday ninja honey G and naran. Julian said Allah Rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are on the lookout.

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a man asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam zaidan Khalid Abdul when he said that a man as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about the look of what is lucapa locata is a lost object. So, basically he asked that if I find someone's lost property, can I pick it up? Can I take it? For Karla so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said I live has centerton publicize it for one year some mirdif weeker where if I saw her the note the the week out the thread and the bag basically note the details of the container and sick and secured some Western feel to be here and then after that you can use it you can spend on it for injure or a Buddha and then if it's master comes if it's

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owner comes for a DR la he then return that object to him. So for example, you find a pouch with gold in it with money in it right a wallet for example. So he said make note of its of its container and its thread meaning

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make sure you remember the details of that object. And then after that, you can use it or you can spend it you sell it etc.

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Follow your suit Allah. So the man asked or messenger of Allah fold Allah tala panem for bilateral vaanam. Then what about lost sheep or lost goats? Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said hold her, take it for innama here luck because either you're going to take it only a fake or it's going to be for your brother somebody else will take it or leave it be or a wolf is going to eat it.

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Korea rasulillah then he said O Messenger of Allah for bilateral even what about last camels color for worldly boat or pseudo Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu earlier said I'm actually got angry at that question. so angry had the hammer What? until it became red. What became red wodgina tahu

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in his cheeks, right both of his cheeks became red away Mandala jewel or his entire face became red, some lapolla and then he said Malika Weller her. It has nothing to do with you, meaning what have you got to do with a lost camel? Because Mara Heba Oh, how was your car? Because it has its feet, and its water, right meaning it can survive on its own. It can go around, it can find water, it can live in the desert, had dial up O'Hara Buddha, until its owner finds it. So again, remember how he has brought this Hades over here to show us how when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam became angry, his anger was justified and this anger was permissible. So there are places there are times

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when anger is is completely fine. It is almost necessary. Now the question is Why did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Salaam become angry with the third question, because that third question was actually a useless question. Okay, it was a pointless question. As long as the questions were practical, there were serious, right? There were relevant. The Prophet salallahu artesanal was not angry. In fact, his answers were very clear, very detailed. But when the man asked the third question, and that question was kind of, you know, it was coming from a place of greed, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not tolerate that. So he was strict over here. So the third

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question was about the last candle, the man was basically asking that if I find someone's last candle, can I just take it? And there was no need to ask such a question because a lost camel can survive on its own. Right? It cannot, it does not need people to look after it. So remember that every thought, you know that we have in our mind does not have to be turned into a question immediately. Right. Some people what they like to do is that they'd rather not think themselves, right. They'd rather not exert any effort themselves. And they want other people to do the, you know, the difficult work for them. And sometimes really, the answer is right before us, but we'd

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rather be spoon fed, right? We don't want to exert that effort. We want other people to do that effort for us, right?

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You know, for exam, some people have this really bad habit, you know, sometimes at home even for little little things that go on asking, you know, the mother or the wife? You know, for example, where's the salt? Well, where's the salt going to be? Right? Not in the bedroom, of course, it's going to be in the kitchen and were in the kitchen, not in the, in the cupboard, where the dishes are, it's going to be where the spice is. So instead of asking someone, you know, bothering them, go open the spice cupboard and look for it. Right? And if you're not able to find it, then yes, go and ask. You know, sometimes, and this is something that children need to be trained for, as well, you

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know, that, that they they're made more independent in the house, that they're not coming up to the parents, you know, every few minutes. Okay, where's the pencil? Where are the colors? And may I have a snack? And what can I eat for snack, you know, that, you know, they should be taught independence. So, a person should not be lazy,

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that they just keep asking other people, we should exert effort ourselves. And when it comes to, you know, things of common sense, then it's necessary that we,

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you know, don't ask unnecessary questions. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not, you know, like, such questions either.

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This is like when the bunny is right, you they kept asking about the cow, okay, what's the color? And the age and profession, etc, they want they asked so many questions, right? So these kind of questions are disliked.

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Now, in this Heidi's we see

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the issue of locata. Okay, and look up what is lost property.

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Basically, when it comes to lost property weekend divided into three categories, okay, so basically, so there's three types of lost property. The first type is of things, which people do not attach much value to, okay? Like, for example, a piece of paper, right? Or a pencil. Okay? Or, for example, at the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, I mean, in the books of faith, you will see examples such as a rope, okay? So, these kinds of things, which are very easy to lose, and people really don't attach much importance to them. jabil de la Horne, who said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made exceptions, in the case of a stick, or a whip, or a rope that a man picks up, okay?

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Meaning when you find it, you can take it, you can use it, unless any you realize that, you know, for example, the span is no ordinary pen. Okay? Or, you know, that,

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you know,

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you know, for example, in certain places, it's, it's written very clearly, please return the pencils and the pens over here. Right?

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But otherwise, you know, for example, you go into the library, and you sit down at a desk, you start working and you see that there is a pencil, okay? And you use it, and then you take it with you, there's no harm, okay? Because typically people do not attach much importance to such things. Okay, there's a piece of paper etc.

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Secondly,

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the second type is of property that

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does not get harmed. If it is left on attended, okay.

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Which is like camels. Okay? If they're left unattended, will they die? No, they're they can survive. They can fend for themselves. They can find their food.

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You know, it's it's not a problem. They don't need you. Okay? Also, for example, if there's a car, right, a car can be outside, it's not a problem. It doesn't need shelter.

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Let's, you know, or in the books of 50. We'll find examples like big pots and pans. Any you what's going to happen? They're weatherproof, they'll be perfectly fine outside. So these kinds of things. Let them be, don't pick them up. Okay? Don't pick them up, let them be. So the first category, you can take them you can use them no problem. The second category, you do not take it, you let it be because it can survive on its own. It doesn't need you to protect it. Okay. The third category is of property that needs protection. Okay, or else it will get damaged. So for example, In this video, we learned about the small

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Animals, right? Like, for example, sheep and goat, chickens, etc. Why? Because if they're left, they probably won't be able to survive on their own. And secondly, they are such that they need protection, right? Some predator can easily come in and kill them. So they need your protection. Likewise, there is, for example, food that can go bad. You know, for instance, you go into the grocery store and you go to where the carts are, you go get a cart, and you see a watermelon over there, somebody forgot their watermelon, right? Now, if you leave it there, what's going to happen? It's going to go bad, right? So food that can go bad. Likewise, there is a piece of jewelry, which

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if left, you know, if it gets lost completely, then it's, it's wasted, you know, money, or somebody else can come and take it and then the owner will never find it. So when it comes to such property, then if you feel that you're able to guard it, right, then what can you do?

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It depends. First of all, if it's something perishable, like for example, food, okay, then you can use it, you can eat it, you can sell it, etc. But once you use it, once you sell it, then remember you owe its price to the owner, okay? You owe its price to the owner if one day you find the owner, the owner finds you and the owner claims it and he wants it back then you have to give the owner its price.

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Secondly, if it's non perishable, like for example, a wallet, okay the piece of jewelry, then what do you do you keep it for a year, you guard it for a year and during that entire year what you do is that you announce it publicly in different ways. Why so that the owner can be found? Okay.

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And the owner can come and claim and then let's say you had it for a year you kept announcing it You didn't find the owner no one came in claimed it then after that, as it is mentioned in this Hardee's what can you do? You have to make note of its details, right? Why? So that later on if if someone comes by and says well I had wallet like this and like that and I lost it here, so then you know that this person was the owner, alright. So make note of the details. And then what can you do? You can so for example, these days very easy, take a picture, okay? And then after that you can use it, alright? Or you can sell it or you can do what is in the best interest of the owner. But if you do

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find the owner, alright, let's say 10 years later, right? And the owner claims it then of course you owe them the money, it's its value etc, unless they forgive you for it right. So, this is the overall summary of what is to be done with lost property, right. So first of all, recognize what kind of category it belongs to. And secondly, treat it accordingly. But of course, only pick it up when you know that you will be able to guard it and you have a chance of finding the owner and in that case, and whatever you do to help find the owner inshallah you will be rewarded for that efforts. Okay, next Heidi's workato McKee you had that and Abdullah Huebner sorry we're had this any

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Mohammed Abu Ziad had doesn't have Mohammed Abu Jaffa didn't had nothing are below Hebrew sorry, then call her destiny. Salomon Abou gnabry molar Omar up near Obaidullah. unboosted new serie on zaidan nefab written rhodiola Mourinho color so zaytoven Sabbath reported, he said that they don't have a sudo Allah He Salalah Who are they? He was selama huji Ratan Maha satin o hafley. Run. He said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made a small room from palm leaves or mats. It was a very small space that that was walled off. Okay, for hodja Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam may you suddenly see her. And what happened is that the Prophet sallallahu produsen would go into

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that small room, and it had like a very, it had walls on the side and these walls were very small, okay. And he would go into that walled off area. Why in order to pray, okay, so this was his private place of prayer, and from other Hadees we learned that this was in the night, so he would pray that the 100

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Over there. So this was not his house. And this was not the masjid. Okay. So what happened because the walls were short. If somebody came, they could actually see him praying. So for the top bar at Jalan, so the people began following him meaning what they would do is that they would come and they would stand behind the smile wall and they would join him. So in prayer so the Prophet sallallahu rayson would automatically become the email, and then, you know, his private prayer is he would become a congregational prayer. Okay, watch out, we'll use a Luna beside it, and they would come to pray with him so much later. And so this happened a couple of times. And this was in the night, and

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this was in the month of Ramadan. So what happened one night they came for how the zoo and they were ready to pray. What about the auto sutala he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are on home. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he really delayed coming out into that small room Phelim yahood la him and when a long time past and he did not come out for a sweater home. What did the companions do? Some of them they started raising their voices. Why so that the Prophet sallallahu Bredesen would know that they were outside and they were waiting for him. Well, how sabula Bab and they also threw pebbles at the door. This was a way of knocking. Okay, so they did that for hora de la him. So

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the Prophet sallallahu earlier sent them came out to them Moldovan very angry for caught at home Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and he sallallahu Sallam said to them that masala becomes sunny rukon had delving into unknown who's a YouTuber and a con that you continue to do this meaning you started joining me in prayer at night in the month of Ramadan so consistently that I feared that praying in the night in congregation in the month of Ramadan would become obligatory on you. I feared that so this is why I did not come out. Far lay combi Salah TV booty calm so you must pray Salah in your homes with Salah the night prayer voluntary prayer. Why because for in the halal Salah till Marie

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Phoebe tea. The best prayer of a person is in his house in the Salatin October except for the obligatory Salah that is best in the masjid. But when it comes to voluntary prayer that is best at home. Now again, remember Holly brought this Hadees to show how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam got angry, right?

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Why was he angry? Because the Sahaba were getting a bit impatient, right? We see that the Sahaba were very eager to pray with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And this is the reason why they began raising their voices and the began throwing pebbles towards the door so that they would not miss out on the Salah. Right? They wanted to pray behind him. Now this was of course, not only disrespectful, it disturbed the primacy of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was in his house. This was this was in the night.

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but also their insistence. Right? That was not appropriate. That if any, if the first of all, this was not meant to be a congregational prayer, right? If it was meant to be congregational prayer, the Prophet sallallahu already said it would lead the people in the masjid. Right. He was praying privately in his small room. And the people started joining him, he did not stop them, but they kept coming. And then now, you know, they're throwing pebbles towards his door, raising their voices, sort of insisting that he should come and lead them. So this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was upset with them. He was angry. And he told him the reason that I don't want to do this

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because otherwise this will become obligatory on you. And the Prophet sallallahu radiosonde was truly very very merciful towards his oma. He did not wish to make things hard for his oma.

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And so he told the people to pray in their homes. So remember that the best place for voluntary prayer is the house. Okay? Meaning you pray your voluntary prayer at home. And the best place to perform the obligatory prayer is were in the masjid and this of course is for the men. Okay. And Subhan Allah ne our Deen is so perfect, right as as much as we like to pray, you know Torah. We are pmla in

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The Masjid in the month of Ramadan. We see that the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, he gave preference to praying at home alright. And

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of course when it comes to praying total we are in congregation in the masjid that is completely with us perfectly fine it is established in the Suna

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Eenie and we have read the Hadees earlier in, in the in Sahih Bukhari about how remodel de la Mourinho instituted that that practice, and the reasons behind that, but we also see over here how

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praying that home also has its place. Right? And this is the perfection of Islam, right? the perfection of Islam, that no matter what situation it is, you are still able to

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you know, worship Allah subhana wa tada and this Ramadan, of course, we all have that fear and that sense of sadness that, you know, how will this Ramadan be? If there is no communal if, if there is no throwaway prayer, and remember that Allah subhanaw taala tests us through different ways, okay, he tests us sometimes by telling us to do something. And other times he tells us, he tests us by commanding us to refrain from something, right. So, Salah, for example, is something that we have to do. And in fasting, we have to stay away from from what we like, which is food and water. Right. So why is it that the commands of Islam are are of different nature, because some people they find it

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easy to do things right, but they find it very difficult to abstain from certain other things. For some other people, abstaining is very easy, right? Doing things is actually hard. So through that, when the commands are of different nature than Allah subhanaw taala tests us, right. And just like that, in our circumstances in our lives, also, there are times that are less prone to other tests is by giving us certain opportunities, and other times where we are tested by, you know, certain opportunities being taken away from us. Because at the end of the day, what matters is are we going to worship Allah, regardless of what the situation is. Alright. And this is a time where actually we

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can learn a lot from our sisters, right, our mothers who have been spending Ramadan after Ramadan for many years in their homes, where they have not been able to go to the masjid, they have not been able to pray in congregation. And there is a lot that we can learn from them.

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And of course, the best example for us is the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he prayed at home in the night and there were some occasions where he led the people in prayer, but in general, he gave preference to praying the hijab at home in the night. So I would advise you I would really, really encourage you to learn about how to pray the hijab okay. And even if you know it already, still learn about it. Why? So that inshallah this Ramadan you are equipped? Right, you are ready, you are looking forward to your night worship, and you're not sitting there in confusion. Okay, how do I pray not learn about the Sunnah. How did the Prophet salallahu Urdu send and prayed

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the Hajj right and that is something that we want to follow and if you do that in the privacy of your home, this will bring about you know another

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you know,

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another way of connecting with Allah subhanaw taala another kind of joy. So, instead of any being sad and upset, and of course that sadness is very normal and we should feel it but instead of dwelling in it

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with a try to focus now on how you can make the most of this Ramadan be in the later on in Sharla. Any question you have about what we have covered so far before we move to the next verb?

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Any question or comment?

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I guess Mr. Luna was right. You all are very, very quiet today.

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Okay, good. I see a hand.

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Okay, this Mettler was gonna go ahead.

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Alright, let's

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go. So one of the questions I have is kind of asking for a solution for people who maybe are predisposed to theater like sir

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comes down to personality, whatever, to feel a lot of anger over a lot of things, you know, the typical, the thing that comes to mind is like the jersey hotlines, people who are inclined to feel anger about everything. And it's either because I don't know they were bullied and they have ways to deal with it properly or, you know, maybe one of their parents is really angry all the time.

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Like, what are some things that you can do to mitigate that anger?

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Very good questions, I know and at the perfect time, because this bag that we covered right now is about anger that is good, which is anger for the sake of Allah. And this is anger, that is followed with action, right? And it is with communication, which is what we see in the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the next Bab is actually warning against anger.

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So inshallah we'll talk about what kind of anger is not good, and how is it that we can help

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control that anger and deal with it especially if you know a person is more

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more angry in their nature. So, how do you tame that, so, inshallah that is what we will discuss in the next step.

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And the next Bab is Bab el heathery minahasa warning against anger.

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So, remember, earlier I mentioned to you about how anger is something very normal. And

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of course, it is something that is sometimes necessary,

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it helps you you know, that emotion of anger helps you recognize that you know, the situation is not right, it is unjust or it is threatening, etc. But when it comes to expressing anger, right, if a person's immediate response is to explode, right or to you know, start yelling or start throwing things or to become very, very upset all the time and this is their knee jerk reaction, then this is where anger is problematic, alright. So, basically, anger is problematic when it is expressed in a way that harms you or it harms other people. Right.

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So, remember that where anger is in its right place in the right manner than it is permissible. But when it comes to anger in the wrong place, or anger that is excessive, then that is something that we have been warned against. Luckily lakita Allah because of the statement of Allah, the Exalted one lady Niger attorney, Boone acaba, Iran if me well for waggish what either ml valuable homeopathy rune

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will Poli la alladhina une fille Puna fissara he will do de la wellcare women in wave wallarah phenol Ines will love your hibel mercy Nene. So remember, Heidi brings two verses over here. The first idea is those who avoid kebab Ito, meaning those who avoid major sins, and they also avoid indecent actions. And when they're angry, they forgive and the second is is those who spend in times of ease and in times of hardship and they suppress their anger and they pardon people and Allah loves those who do good. So, in both of these verses, we see that Allah subhanaw taala is praising certain qualities. And in both of these verses, the quality of suppressing anger is mentioned in the

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first idea what up ml kalibo humio furon when they get angry, they forgive which means that it is very normal to feel anger, right the emotion itself is not a problem. Okay? And, and remember that the emotion itself is something that you may not have control over. Right. But it is your expression of anger, which is something that you do have control over, which is why almost puntata praises them. That what eval Maha label homeo furon they forgive. And in the next verse, we learn WorldCat Cal lemina lave this suppress anger and cavum remember it is to keep a tight control over something. So this means that they keep their anger in, they don't let it come out, no matter how much it is

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bubbling inside. Right. They keep it in, they don't let it come up. So in both of these verses almost pantalla is praising people who control their anger. Who shall pardon even in situations where they feel

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angry right? Now, what happens is that sometimes we think that

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showing our anger, you know, venting is something necessary, or we feel that it is justified. But remember that uncontrolled anger, right? uncontrolled anger actually has a negative impact on what on a person's physical health on a person's mental health on their work, and of course, on our relationships as well.

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But remember that suppressing anger does not mean that a person should not express themselves, okay? suppressing anger means not expressing oneself in an aggressive way.

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You know, when you're angry, when you're upset, that means you don't like the situation that you're in, right? Something is troubling, you feel that something is not right. Now that you need that there is a need to communicate that. And there are different ways of communicating one way of communicating is to communicate in an aggressive way, in an angry way. And that is where it is problematic, right? But when it's communicated in a better way, then that is not problematic at all. So suppressing anger basically means that you're finding a healthier and a more effective way to express yourself. All right, it means that you are not going to lose control over yourself, rather,

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you're going to look for a more effective way to express yourself. So

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this is why anger is something that should be suppressed, right? suppress again suppression does not mean that you keep it in you don't communicate, you don't express yourself. No suppression means that you suppress the aggressive expression, right? of anger of communicating with the other party.

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So let's look at the Hadees had the center of the law have no use of a foreigner Malik an evening she had Ansari, then the Messiah and a B hooray Lata robiola Mourinho another suit Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam apol the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lisa Shadi to be surah sorry, Lisa Shadi to be saudara. In nimisha de do lady young Lee Kuan of Soho are in the hub. He said the strong man is not the one who throws people down in wrestling. The strong man is the one who has control of himself when he is angry.

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Now remember that when it comes to controlling one's anger, suppressing one's anger, any This requires a lot of strength. Right? And this is why it's very hard. But the reward is also great. And what is that reward we learned earlier that Allah loves and more sinning. Allah loves such people.

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So

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here the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lisa should either be surah, the strong person is not the surah, who is Surah Surah is a person who is able to throw people down in a fight very, very quickly. Okay? Meaning very quick to pick up fights and very quick to defeat people and throw them down, always winning. Okay. So, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that such a person is not necessarily strong, who is really strong, the person who is able to control their anger. What shows that the fact is that fighting yourself is actually harder than fighting an enemy. Okay, fighting the inner enemy, the ego

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is actually way harder than fighting an external enemy. Right? Because when it comes to fighting an external enemy, yes, that requires strength, but it's physical strength, right? It's tangible, and you can train yourself, etc.

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And it's, it's possible to do that, right? It's it's easier to get there.

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But when it comes to fighting yourself, right, then that this is harder, right? It's harder.

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And also, this shows us that if a person has, you know, has angry outbursts, right, then this is because of the weakness of

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this is because of their inner weakness. Right? It's it's a sign that they're not emotionally strong. They're not spiritually strong. Because of emotional and spiritual strength, both of them right together. They make a person capable of fight.

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In one self discipline in oneself, right? Now, there is a hadith in which we learn. It's very interesting how these unecessarily Longhorn, who reported that once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a group of people who were lifting huge rocks, okay, so the prophets of Allah, where it is in the mass that what are these people doing and they set their pig, they're lifting these rocks, so that they can become stronger. Right? So they were basically weightlifting. So the Prophet sallallahu already was that I'm set the chilla not inform you about someone who is stronger than that, meaning you guys are trying to build your physical strength. There's another level of

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strength, right, which is more important.

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And in another version, we learned that

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some people were, you know, gathered around this particular man and when the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, asked who it was, they said that this is a study or meaning someone who fights anyone and can defeat them.

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So the Prophet salallahu already set him set the chilla not inform you about someone who is stronger than him. And who is that a person who is wronged by another mistreated by another, but he suppresses his anger.

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And when he suppresses his anger, he overcomes him, meaning the other, okay? And, sorry, he overcomes himself, or he defeats himself, first of all. Secondly, he defeats his tripod. Okay? Thirdly, he defeats the shape plan of his companion, meaning of the person that he was fighting. So what did he do? He defeated three, okay, he defeated his own ego, all right. Secondly, he defeated his own show plan. And thirdly, he defeated the shape of the person that made him angry. So, in this is real victory.

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We think that when we express our anger violently, aggressively, that is when we have become victorious, right? That is where we have achieved something but the fact is that when a person controls their anger, that is when they're really winning.

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And we see that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam taught as different ways of controlling anger and I hope inshallah this will answer your question.

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One is to stay quiet, to not say anything, because a lot of times you know, anger

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it gets worse when you start yelling in anger when you start saying things in anger. So the Prophet sallallahu earlier sent him said what email ellipta fest goods that when you get angry then Be quiet, be silent, don't say anything. And other ways that you just leave that place you go away you move away because when you do that you distance yourself from that place you allow yourself time to calm down to you know disconnect think more rationally to process what what has happened regain your calm regain your strength so that you can go back and handle that situation again. Right. Thirdly, of course, in the Hadees we learn about how when one of you is angry and he's sitting he should

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stand up right? If sorry, if he's standing he should sit down and he can if the anger goes away good if not, then he should lay down etc. Meaning change your position alright? Make will do a lot of people say go drink water. Why because what happens is that when we are irritable when we get angry quickly, a lot of times the reason is that you know we're probably tired we're probably probably dehydrated so when you go drink some water and you calm down it helps you deal with the situation better and you don't just respond angrily

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let's look at the next release and inshallah more points will come had this announcement would not be shea butter had definitely read on our mash on our the evening saboten had done so they might have no surah din polyester polyster Balaji lania in the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a winner in the whole Jerusalem. So so very much so they might have been sorted said that while we were sitting with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam two men were quarreling. Okay, they started arguing with each other and is stubborn, they started saying really rude things to one another. What I had a Will my your Sibel Sahiba who moved on and one of them was your sobu he was cursing his

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companion insulting his companion. And he was actually very angry, so angry that are the Hmong roju his face had turned red for karlen abuse sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Nila arlindo Kalimantan I know of a word lokala if he says it, Lucha Baron who may edgy do whatever he finds

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Meaning anger will actually leave him he will calm down his anger will go away. And what is that low corner are the Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim if he says are the Billahi min ash shaytaan elegy for Kala rajul So, the people said to that man who was angry, allowed to smell minor coal, did he not say what my accordion abou sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what the prophet sallallahu Urdu said I'm just said. So, the man color he said in the last to be merged known I am not crazy.

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So, this are these shows that

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any when this man was angry, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he mentioned to the companions that he that the man should say our will to be lesser than his anger should go away. What shows that this kind of anger is not okay. Right? So there is a kind of anger which is good. And another kind of anger, which is not good, what kind of anger is not good, the kind of anger that this man was experiencing? And what was that, that in his anger, his face had turned red, and he was insulting his companion. Right? He was insulting the other person. So, clearly, this was an aggressive expression of anger, right? So this is why this anger was not okay. And the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam he advised that the man should say are the Billahi min ash shaytaan regime. So this shows that saying are the below also is a way of calming yourself of making the anger go away. And, you know, this is actually something that,

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you know, when it comes to anger management, experts suggest that, learn ways to cool down, okay, learn ways to cool down, for example, they say that, when you're really really angry, one thing that you should do is slowly count to 10. Okay, so start counting in your head 123. Why count to 10 slowly, because focusing on the counting will allow your mind basically to catch up with your feelings, right? Meaning you can actually start thinking rationally now. So saying our other Billahi min, Ash shaytani, r Rajim allows you to sort of disengage, you know, from that angry

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situation, right. And as you disengage as you disconnect, you can actually start thinking rationally and realize that, you know, first of all, is this really something that I should be angry about? Do I really have to respond in this way? How can I actually communicate better? How can I get the other person to understand what's a more effective way? So the main thing is that you need to disconnect, you know, from that situation. And so are the biller saying are the bill that really helps, right? And also remember that anger is from shaitan This is something that the Prophet salallahu already said, I'm clearly mentioned.

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And when you're angry, it's amazing how to plan you know, makes that anger so justified, right? That you know, for example, that was was I will come that you know what, they deserve it, we show them more anger, right.

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And things like it's unhealthy to keep your feelings you know, you should express yourself, but remember that expression expressing yourself doesn't mean you express yourself however, however you feel like it has to be done in a responsible way. So this is why it's important that we seek refuge with ALLAH against the shaytaan at this time.

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And also remember that when we say are the Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim. What are we doing we are remembering Allah, right? And remembering Allah remembering Allah is oneness is one of the most effective ways of calming yourself. Because the moment you remember Allah you realize, okay, this test has come by the permission and knowledge of Allah, and Allah is watching me. And if he has given me this test, this certainly means that I am capable of handling this because now you can live a lagoon, Epson Illa was or her and whatever I do, I am responsible for it, I have to answer him. So what am I doing? What am I saying? Right? How am I expressing myself? So, remembering Allah also

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helps calm down. And this is why that I enjoy to have we lost Pandora says what could Rebecca evana seat? Remember your Lord when you forget? Or Kima said that this means either holding the meaning when you're angry. So when you're angry, remember Allah why remember Allah so that your anger will go away? Okay, now this man when he was told that Didn't you hear what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Didn't you hear what the prophet sallallahu already was? Send them you know, just advised and the man's

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said, I am not crazy. I am not crazy. Now some have interpreted this as I'm not going to say that because I'm not crazy, right? So basically, the anger of this man had completely consumed him. So much so that he disregarded the advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and others have said that no, what this means is that the man said, I am not crazy, that I will disobeyed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam meaning I will obey Him and I will say are the Billahi min ash shaytani r g. Okay. So there's two interpretations of this. In either case, any what we see from what is mentioned above,

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any how that man was so angry. The fact is that the Prophet sallallahu radiocentre did not approve of that anger. Right. So this is why he advised the man to do something that would make his anger go away. Right.

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The next Hadeeth very quickly. her destiny I have new use of about honorable Brooklyn who have Nora Yesh on a be housing on Abbasali hanger and OB hooray la tierra de la Mourinho and Narayan Connolly, Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam oseni, a man said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam please advise me. Paula the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said let's talk about Do not get angry for the Mirada and to the man asked again and again. right he repeated the request that please advise me and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kala, he said, lot of them do not get angry, meaning every single time that the that the man asked, please advise me, the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam said Do not get angry. Why? Because if you think about it, the Prophet sallallahu where it is, and it would have given him any advice. But he told him Don't get angry. Why? Because, first of all, perhaps the Prophet sallallahu wasallam knew this man's weakness that this man gets angry a lot. So he advised him to not get angry. And secondly, if you think about it, anger is the key to a lot of evil. Right? When you keep getting when you keep expressing anger over and over again, you put yourself in a lot of trouble. And when you control your anger, right, you save yourself and other people from a lot of trouble. This is why one of the companions said that I reflected on the

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statement. And I realized that for either lovable Yeah, Jim arrow, Shara Kula, that anger combines or brings together a lot of evil. And really, if you think about it, sometimes people get angry over petty things, right. And when they don't control themselves, they end up damaging their relationships. So much so that sometimes that damages you know, it's it's unfixable there's no fixing it, right. And then, you know, we see how couples get divorced, relationships get completely ruined. So this is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Do not get angry. Now, this doesn't mean don't ever have the emotion of anger, because that is beyond your control. What is meant is do not

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show anger, do not have angry explosions, right. And also, it means that avoid the things that make you angry, right? Identify the triggers. And once you identify them, when you know, what makes you angry, then think about ways to avoid them. Or view those situations differently, so that you don't get angry every single time. Right. And also part of the ASVAB, or the reasons that can make a person angry is negative thought patterns, right? Because negative thought patterns can also trigger anger. So for example, when we overgeneralize, for instance, someone didn't put their dish away. So you're like, well, they never put their dishes away. Right? Or blaming people, then this is also

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something that makes people angry. So avoid such negative thought patterns. And another cause of anger is that when a person neglects themselves, right, so they're not managing their stress.

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So that is why they are more uptight, they're more irritable, so they get angry very quickly. So, a lot of the means, avoid the things the triggers, the thought patterns, and anything that causes you to be angry. And lateral that also means that when you do get angry, then manage it, suppress it, say are rubella, right? Because remember that excessive anger is an emotional and spiritual illness, because it leads to many many problems. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave us many incentives. He said, in a hadith we learned that a man asked that advise me of something because of which

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Allah will not be angry with me meaning Tell me something which I can do that will distance me from Allah's anger that will save me from Allah's anger. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a lot of them do not get angry. at another time, he said, Let the hold up. Well, I call Jenna, do not get angry and you will have Jin. We also learned that when a person suppresses their anger, then they earn a less power without his approval. And on the Day of Judgment, Allah subhanaw taala will feel at the heart of such a person with a job with a lot of good expectation. Meaning a person will be in a very good place, that they will be saved from fear on the Day of Judgment. They're lost

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pounds, how that allow us to recognize our weaknesses, and your loss. parents give us the strength to control our anger to to express ourselves more effectively more clearly.

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So that our you know, our relationships are good and our work is more effective. And may Allah subhanaw taala also allow us to use anger in its right place, but most parents will give us the wisdom. So inshallah we'll conclude over here.

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If there's any questions, inshallah, you can send them over email and inshallah I can address them in the next class. I'm sorry, I have to wrap this up quickly. Because it is a lot of time and I have gone over my time, so I apologize for that. inshallah, see you all next week. inshallah. subhanak along will be handig Chateau La Ilaha. Illa. anta esta Furukawa Tobu La Paz Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

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