Sahih al Bukhari – Kitab al Adab #29

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and this is a very interesting verb, very beautiful concept which human body has added to the book of Adam.

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And in the previous above, we have been learning about

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anger, hire, modesty. And all of this is related to dealing with people. And when it comes to dealing with people in from any position, it's very important to be aware of

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the difficulties and challenges that people are experiencing. Because it is only with that understanding that a person can show empathy, and when there is empathy. And people feel that, you know, their struggles are being acknowledged that they're being understood, then they're more you know, they feel respected, and they're more willing to, you know, cooperate with you work with you and accept you. So this verb is about creating ease for people. So the Bible is Bab Golan obeah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Yes, Cyril will have to assume create ease and do not create difficulty while kadha your head but the FIFA will

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usarla nurse and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to like to make things easy for people. He he liked the fief which is to lessen and reduce, lighten the burden from someone and a looser, it is ease and facilitation. So this is what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam liked to do. And the fact is that even Allah subhanaw taala he wants ease for his servants. We've already in the Quran, when it comes to the verses regarding fasting, in that Allah paradata says, you read the love will become really useful, when you ready to become universal, that Allah once is for you and he does not want difficulty for you. And this is why when it comes to fasting, if for example, a

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person is not able to fast because of travel or because of sickness, then they're allowed to not fast during those days and make those up later on.

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Likewise, if a person is unable to fast because of some health condition, or for instance, a woman is expecting or nursing her child, that again, in that case, she's allowed to not fast during the time and make up those fasts later on. So Allah subhanaw taala intense is you read the level becoming useless, which is why there are allowances within Islam and Allah subhanaw taala does not intend difficulty, which is why the rules or the laws which are given the commands which are given are not strict to the you know, to the point that it would cause harm to people. And what is the reason that Allah subhanaw taala intends is for his servants because of which he has given a law

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which is easy. The reason is that people are not perfect, right? People are weak. And the last pantherella says in the Quran in surah, Nisa is 28 that you read the level and you have foreign code that Allah wants to lighten the burden from you. Why because we're holding a call in Sunbury for the human being has been created weak. And this is something that we experience in our lives, especially as a person grows older, you know, you you see you experienced different levels of weaknesses within yourself within your body in your health. And when you when you see the allowances that Allah subhanaw taala has given in Islam you know, for example, when it comes to the month of Ramadan and

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fasting there's so many allowances and the fasting has been made so much easy and it's been facilitated for us. And it really you know brings about feelings of love for Allah subhanaw taala that Yeah, Allah you are truly Rahim look, leaf, you know, hobbies, the Sharia, the law that you have given is just so beautiful. It is so perfect. It is so practical. We're holding on in

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signholder Eva. And you know in Santa Monica, Los Angeles has an IR lumen haluk that does the one who created not know, meaning Allah subhanaw taala is the one who has created us and he knows our strengths, he knows our weaknesses, he knows our limitations. And this is why Allah subhanaw taala intense ease and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his way was also that he liked the faith and useful for people. So we see that the entire religion, right it is, it is easy. It is usually

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almost Pandora says and so it will hedge that women are generally fairly confident human heritage that Allah has not created any difficulty for you in the religion. And remember that the prophets of Allah who were to send them were in mumble it says that work out of your head but the fief he loved a he liked the fief. Remember that? One of the reasons why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent was to create ease.

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Meaning in terms of worship in terms of rituals. The Prophet salallahu Urdu salon was to create ease for people with earned in a Hadees the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that in the lamb obrera cibilia. Who the Yeti, what have been the Sunnah year that I was not sent with Judaism or Christianity. And this means that by definition, there they are difficult, they are very hard to observe. So he said, Well, I can the board is too. Rather I was sent with Bill hanifa to some hottie, I was sent with the religion of monotheism, the easy and gentle one. And in the Quran, the prophets of Allah, Who are these enemies described as whaler who are and whom Islam? Well, Allah,

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Allah, he cannot lay him that he removes from the people

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their burden, and the shackles which were upon them. And the burdens and the shackles this refers to the very difficult commands that were given to the People of the Book. Or rather, the the difficulties that they're brought upon themselves, because of their constant disobedience to a loss or penalty. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent to create ease, and he liked to create ease for people. And this is why he also said, Yes, Cyril will add to our skill, create ease, and do not create difficulty. Now, it is very important for us to understand what ease means right when he when he liked, they see it when he liked to use it. And he said he acetal What does that

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mean? Does it mean that he liked to make things so easy for people so that they didn't have to put in any effort? Or that they did not have to suffer any any level of pain or sacrifice, or that he wanted to make the religion very, very simple? No, that's not the case. You know, for example, a man came and he asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to allow him to commit Zina. So did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say to him that oh, I understand how it's so hard for you to control your desires. So go ahead. No, that's not what he did. Creating ease does not mean making the unlawful lawful, okay. Creating ease means creating, it means facilitation, okay. Meaning helping people do

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what is possible, what is realistic, without having to exert extraordinary amount of effort? All right, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spoke to that man, and he made him understand how it was wrong to commit Zina. Right? So he didn't chain them in. He didn't say, okay, you were, you're even thinking about the sin. So let's punish you in order to strictly prevent you from from committing the sin, that would be making things very, very hard. Okay?

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Now, the reality is that the nups, it desires ease, right? And if we were left to our desires, any we wouldn't be able to do anything. So we need healthy boundaries, right? We need a set of rules, or else we would waste ourselves away. And this is something that I think many people can relate with, you know, when you don't have you know, for example, you don't have to be somewhere at 9am then, you know, it's possible that you're getting out of bed these days by 845 or like five minutes before you know a meeting begins or a class begins. There are very few people who will hold themselves in a strict to a schedule or a routine. You know, who will do things because they're

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necessary. So we need that push, right, we need those boundaries, but not to the point of breaking. And this is a reason why the Prophet salallahu, Urdu Saddam's way was that he created ease for people, meaning he liked making things practical and realistic. But that did not mean that, you know, that that meant not going to either extreme. Okay? one extreme would be to make the unlawful lawful. And another extreme would be to push people to the point of breaking, right. And this is, this was not the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, we learned that once how there was a man who was in, in the state of Geneva, and he needed to take a bath in order to pray. And, you

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know, the people with him, they told him that you must take a bath and this man was, you know, when he took a bath, he got really sick, and he died. And the prophets Allah who were do son was angry, he said, They killed him at the loo right meaning in a state like that, when any his health was at risk, then he should not have taken about he should have simply done the gamble. So remember that the nature of the law that ilus punctata has given it is such that first of all, it is doable, right? It doesn't mean it is simple that it doesn't require any effort. No, it means it is doable, it is practical, it is realistic. And then secondly, there is also the thief within the law, which

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means that where things are very difficult for a person, then the law provides them concessions, it lightens the burden from them.

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So the statement of the Prophet sallallahu, or do some which employee brings in the chapter heading? Yes, Cyril will have to assume that make things easy, and do not make things difficult.

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Just to clear the laid out. This does not mean that you watered down the religion, that you make the unlawful lawful, but it means that you create ease for people by making things clear to them. And by giving them by by giving them what they can understand by telling them what they can do. Okay, by teaching them what they're able to act upon.

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And also making things clear to them this is part of a seat. And secondly, they seed is especially needed when it comes to optional matters. Okay, a medium when it comes to voluntary deeds, not when it comes to obligations that for example, you know, a person finds it hard to pray fudger. So you say, okay, don't pre budget. Now you say you have to pre budget, and it is and just begin with the twofold, right? Begin with the two folks. If they find it hard to present as well, you so could begin with the two folks and then eventually you encourage them to start praying the sooner as well. So they see, I remember when I was growing up.

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I don't know if it was grade five or six. And in Islamic Studies, we learned about Salah. Okay, and we learned about how many in a record we were supposed to pray for for every solo.

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And I remember when I learned that in and this was according to a certain fit that in Russia, you're supposed to pray 17 little cards. Okay. I was Yanni shocked. Okay, because I had never heard that from my parents that you're supposed to purse 17 years apart. Okay, because it begins with I don't know for nothing other than for Sunday and then for follow the so many nawada and, and children are taught from a very young age in in certain cultures that you were supposed to pray 17 or 19 regard or something for Asia. Now, why would that child even want to pray Russia? Is it mandatory to print all 17 duck out? No, it is not. Any when it comes to the obligation, it's just for record and when

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with it, right. So you begin with that you begin with that this would be a seed and then inshallah you know you introduce the sooner and then yes, you can encourage them to pray more and more. So they see it is that when it comes to optional matters, when it comes to voluntary deeds, you don't impose them on people.

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You don't impose them on people because they will feel burdened, and they will want to run away.

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And yes, 01 r two r zero. This is especially relevant when people first embrace Islam, that you must begin with the basics you teach

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them gradually. And we see that one of the prophets of Allah who earlier said him sent Maura, that'll do the horn, who to Yemen. He told him to invite people to Islam gradually, right? Tell them, he said, Tell them that inhibition worship only Allah. And when they do that, then tell them to do this, then tell them to do this. Right? Tell them to pray, and then tell them to, you know, fast, and then tell them to give the cat so on and so forth. And for every instruction, he said, when they do that, then tell them the next thing. And remember, this was not at the beginning of prophethood. No, this wasn't the 10th year after the hedgerow. And by this time, all of the commands

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of Islam were revealed and established. Yet the Prophet sallallahu already said and told him to teach people gradually. Why because if on the first day you tell someone, oh, by the way, you're supposed to do this, and this and this, and this, and you cannot do this and this and this, they're going to want to run away. So yes, 0120 and this also means Finally, that do not make the religion stricter, in the name of piety. So let's look at the Hadees had Bethany is how he had this and another blue bar on our shoulder to run sorry, that may be better. I'm a Bihi I'm Jody on alumna Bertha who Rasulullah sallallahu early he was Sonoma or more other than a jevelin called Allahumma.

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So sorry, that will be Buddha related from his father that his grandfather and his grandfather was a bit Musashi already. So a masala surely said that when the Prophet sallallahu Urdu said him sent him meaning obasa and more or the bingeable this is to Yemen. Kala lahoma he said to both of them, meaning he gave them this piece of advice that yesira will add to our serum that both of you create ease will add to our serum and do not create difficulty woba Sheila and both of you give good news, well as to nephila and do not make people feel a version meaning do not chase them away, do not scare them away. What our power and cooperate with one another obey one another. Allah Abu Musa so

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Abu Musab de la hora and who asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yasuda, Allah or messenger of Allah. In nabee alynn yusmeiro via Chavo minella Rasul. We live in a land where they make a drink, meaning alcohol from

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sorry, a wine from honey. You call a whole bit through and they call it bitter. Wash alaba mina sherried. And they also make a drink meaning wine from barley. Will you pile on the whole misery which is called misery? Meaning are these wines also unlawful? For Paula Rasulullah sallallahu already he was alone. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said could lumos killing heroin, every intoxicant is unlawful, meaning just because its source is different. Any, because remember that in Arabia, typically, they would make wine with fermented dates. So

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or grapes, that's, you know what they would get, but in Yemen, they would make it from honey and barley. So just because the sources different, or the name is different, it doesn't mean that that you know, the that wine would be permissible. So the Prophet sallallahu lucidum gave a rule over here instead of naming all the different wines and spirits, etc, that would be unlawful and in trouble we'll look at the rule later on.

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So, in this Hadees, we see that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent both of a masa, Allah Shari and Moraga rhodiola Mourinho to Yemen, he gave them a very important piece of advice. And remember that he sent both of them to Yemen as governors, one of them was sent to the area of Arden and the other was sent to the area of Sonora. So they were in nearby areas in Yemen, but there were not together. So he gave both of them three pieces of advice. And what are these three pieces of advice, first of all, create ease, not difficulty. Secondly, give good news. Don't turn people away. And thirdly, cooperate with each other. And these are any golden rules for any person in a

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position of authority. If you want to really lead people, and if you want to create a positive change, then these are essential rules for you. Whether it is that, you know, at home within your family, you want to lead your family in a healthy way, or in is that you know, at your workplace or even if it is that you were, you know, working with a group of people, you know, as a teacher, either

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And in any way when you are dealing with people then these are three very important golden rules that that that you should keep for yourself. And what are they the first is yes 0120 by the way the elephant the India zero in the bag it is yes zero yes zero is for plural. Yes si ra is for dual. Okay for two. So why is it dual over here because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was talking to two people. So, yes, 012 r zero create ease, not difficulty. So, yes, create ease how, when you're giving instruction, meaning when you're giving certain commands, and this happens from you know, when when a person is in a position of authority, they have to give out rules and

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instructions, they have to, you know, impose certain obligations, they have to give work, they have to assign different tasks, they have to order people to, you know, do certain things or not do certain things. So, be easy with people over there. Don't be lateral zero Do not be hard over there. Now, the thing is that yes, Scylla in the meeting is complete create ease, but when in his head after yesterday, oh, well after sort of create ease and do not create difficulty. What does this mean? That Darcy difficulty should be avoided in all circumstances? meaning in no situation? Ever? Should you make matters difficult and burdensome on people? You see, sometimes what happens is that

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we are very easy on for example, our children when it comes to Salah. Right? We're very easy, that Okay, fine, you feel like praying, pray, you don't feel like praying don't pray, right. And this, this kind of ease is is not what is meant in this Hadees. But when it comes to certain other matters, like for example,

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you know, eating, right, we become very, very strict over there. Right? That even if the food is burnt, they must finish it. Even if the, if they're at the point of gagging, they're almost throwing up, still they must finish it. So any Darcy is not okay, in any matter, okay? Any Be realistic, if things are becoming extremely burdensome, and very hard for someone, then be easy over there. And don't give people what they cannot handle? Right? Don't tell them to do what is very difficult for them.

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You know, for example, if an and perhaps this is something that you have experienced that, you know, there are some teachers who are or instructors were very

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any realistic, they know that, you know, for example, in your semester, you have,

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you know, a lot of work, and it's not possible for you realistically to submit an assignment within two days, right. So they'll give you a week, they'll give you, you know, notice, they'll they'll let you know, in advance of what is expected of you. And then there are others who really don't care about what's going on in your life. Right, who really don't care about,

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you know, the fact that you are struggling so much, or the fact that you have so much on your plate. So

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you can see, you can feel naturally that people who create ease for you. And creating ease does not mean that they don't teach you at all, they don't assign any work to you creating ease means that they give you realistic work to do you know, tasks that you are able to accomplish, then then you like such people, you want to work with them. Right? And people who have no idea what you're going through. Some bosses are like that, then you resent such people. So, yes, 01 or zero, right? So they see it includes facilitation, it includes cooperation. And it also includes offering help and guidance, so that people are able to do what they require to do. You know, for example, if a

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professor gives you an assignment to do and there's no clear guidelines, any and you have to figure everything out yourself, it's really, really hard. So don't just instruct but also show how, and consider the challenges that people are, are in and give them what they are able to do.

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And don't use your power or the law to abuse people to torture people, but use it to bring ease and benefit from the concessions and be available and offer support and help don't reject. So yes, 01 or zero. Why? Because people like ease

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You know, sometimes we make things harder for people so that they do at least half of what we expect from them.

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You know, for example, if somebody, you know, if people want

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you know you to come to their wedding or their event at like, five o'clock, they'll tell you to come at three o'clock, right? or four o'clock. And this is something that is not right at all. That means it's not fair at all. It's happened with me so many times that people will call me for a program or an event or a lecture or something, and it will call me at five o'clock in the actual lecture is at 630. Right? I mean, it's, it's difficult. And likewise, I've seen people Mashallah who go to, you know, a wedding on time, right on time, and then they're sitting there sitting there sitting there, because it's expected that everybody's going to come late. Well, why did you put that time on the

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card then? Alright, so this is Jennifer Hickman, this is killer for Sona. This is not correct, because it's, it's a way of making things hard for people. And when when things are made hard for people, then they they develop resentment. So your 012 are Sue. The second piece of advice that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam gave is what Sheila will add to the feel, right, give good news, and do not

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turn people away. Do not chase them away. But Sheila, that she to give good news to give hope, okay. And, and this is done in a number of ways, this is done by, for example, using positive language by using encouraging words by consoling people by giving comfort to them. So, remember that they see it is in instruction.

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And the sheet is in in telling people about their outcomes. So, give them things that are doable, and then give them incentives and give them encouragement. Right. So for example, if someone is, you know, struggling with their work, for instance, your child comes to you and, you know, shows you their work, and you look at it, and you see so many mistakes, any say positive things over there, right? You know, praise them for their effort, praise them for the fact that they completed their work, right? And then don't begin with something that will offend them something that will hurt them something that will discourage them. But Sheila, whatever to nephila to not feel 10 feet is to chase

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people away. And how is this done by being too strict, or by being unapproachable? Right, or by being discouraging by being mean? So, but Sheila went out to the funeral, welcome, people, give them hope. Don't reject people don't be unapproachable. And don't be so harsh and rude and difficult to work with, that people begin to avoid you went to the funeral. Right? And this is something that all of us should reflect over that if people avoid us, whether it is that, you know, for example, our children don't want to talk to us sit with us. They're avoiding us. Is it because we're being too hard?

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You know, I remember,

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I used to wonder why. Sometimes my husband wouldn't help me in the kitchen. Okay, there's something very personal, but perhaps this will help you.

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And I realized that I was too

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picky and very strict about how to load the dishwasher. You know, for example, if, if the cups were not in a certain place, and if certain dishes were not in a certain place at the dishwasher, I would go change that. Or I would go and tell him that, you know, this is not right. This is how it should be. And then I realized that you know what, that's so that's so pathetic, like, so what if the dishes are not in the perfect place? You know what, they're dirty, and they're going in there to get clean. And once they're out, they're going to be dirty again, any, it's just a dishwasher. It's, it's not a big deal. Right? And since I started, you know, just going a bit hands off and, and

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letting him do whatever, you know, however, he wanted to load the dishwasher, and hammer the leather so many times when I don't have to unload the dishwasher. I don't have to load the dishwasher. Alright, I have that help also. So sometimes we complain about people not listening to us, right, our own children, for example, not listening to us, or people who are working with us, we see that they're not listening to us, and we tend to blame others a lot. And what we need to do over there is reflect on our own selves.

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Are we turning people away by being too strict?

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And the things that we are being too strict about? Are they really necessary? Are they really worth it? Can we be a little easier over there. And if we give, give some thought to it will realize that certainly, you know, ease can be created for people. So well, but Sheila went out to the field.

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You know, for example, your child comes and says, Mom, I clean, I clean the kitchen, right? And you go, and you're like, oh, but you didn't do this. And you didn't do that, and you didn't wipe the counters down properly. Right, and you didn't throw the garbage away. If you start pointing out the mistakes, you're basically saying to them, don't do this again. Right, so but Shilo will add to the feel. And then the third piece of advice that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to these two companions is what tell Paul, why this is so important. That's all work is to be agreeable. This is from Thor, Thor is to obey. So the power is to obey one another, to listen to each other. Right?

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Now, of course, when when two people are working together, they're going to have differences, right? There's differences between husband and wife, there's differences between coworkers. And especially when there's a shared responsibility, or, or people who have an equal amount of power or authority over a certain matter, then there are going to be differences, it's not possible that they're always going to, you know, agree on everything. So it's necessary over there, that we don't become stubborn. Okay, it's necessary that we cooperate with each other, and we remain united, okay. In another version of this, or these, we learn what till powwow well after

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that be agreeable with one another, and do not become divided. me when you have your differences come to some agreement, there must be a you know, compromise on on the part of one person, and then the next time on the part of the other person. But be be united, do not differ, do not be divided. And part of this is to be on the same page to be on the same page. I mean, you can have your differences, but you should appear to be, at least to the people who are under you, you should appear to be together. Right. And this is especially important between a husband and wife, for example, a lot of times children will, you know, take advantage of the fact that their dad is saying

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one thing and their mom is saying something else. Right? And sometimes children are very smart, you know, they will go to the mom and they'll say, Mom, can I do this? Alright? Because they know that the dad will not allow. So they go ask the mom and if the mom says go ask dad. Like that's basically a way of saying no. So

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tafawa one out of 35. So be united,

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communicate with each other, be on the same page. Don't be stubborn, and don't be disconnected to throw while whenever the deliver.

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And then it'll be a lot more and who asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about certain wines. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught him the principle, right, which is that if something intoxicates then it is unlawful.

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Any it doesn't matter? What

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basically remember that every fermented thing, every fermented thing is not unlawful? If that was the case, then bread would not be permissible. Okay? What is impermissible is when something intoxicates Alright, but if, for example, you have to have,

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let's say, a huge quantity of a certain food,

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and only then you'll become intoxicated and having a huge quantity means that you know it will, you'll get sick first. And then perhaps you might get intoxicated, you might get poisoned, you might die first and then you might get intoxicated, then again, it's not a mosquito, okay, mosquitoes that when you drink it, then you will become intoxicated. So

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the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam gave a very important rule over here. That it's the mosquito, it's the intoxicant which is unlawful. So instead of going after the names, look at the actual product, the next Hardee's is also similar so we'll do it right now had nothing to Adam had the thinner shorba to a bitter Yeah, on a scenario and as an American will do a lot more in Hong Kong.

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columna bu sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so here anessa maniacal dulo Horne who is reporting that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You Cyril what after our Cyril make things easy and do not make things difficult was said Keanu will attend a funeral and make people come and do not make them feel a version. So panela this is so beautiful set Kino Willa tuna feel slightly different wording over here which gives us another layer of meaning. So Keno is to bring sukoon

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right sukoon is what calmness meaning give people

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what any tell people to do, what will bring them calmness.

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Tell people things because of which they will feel calm. Well, I don't have you don't tell them things because of which they will feel a version and they will want to run away.

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So give them tell them to do that which is sustainable. Okay, so Keanu tell them to do that which is sustainable that which, and remember that said Keanu

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is also to be to be to become still, alright? Which means that give them that which will allow them to be firm. Okay, to be consistent.

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And consistency, sustainability is only possible when what you're doing is realistic.

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When what you're doing is easy. Yes, a little challenging. But Easy enough, for example, if you're taking a certain course, and you'll see that there's a there is a test, or there's an assignment or there's an exam or something, you know, every week, then you know that this is not sustainable, this is not something that I can do. So what happens is when you see that there's way too much that is being expected of you or what is expected of you is very difficult, then you quit, right, you leave and that is to the funeral. So the he said Sir Keno when I turn a few, give them what will allow them to be firm. And don't give them what will cause them to run away. And this is especially

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important when people first embrace Islam, right, give them what they can handle, give them hope and encouragement, listen and listen to their problems and, and help solve them. Don't create problems for them, that will cause them to lose faith, rather make things easy for them.

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And also remember that that sheet,

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where he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that was a shoe, that sheet is the opposite of involved in that is warning, right? And

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then fee it is the opposite of sukoon neofeudal confuse the opposite of soy corn. And soy corn is stillness and stability. So this almost This also means that do not begin with warning. Because that will cause a version. If you if you start teaching things to people in a way that you're using strictness and warning. So for example, when you when you tell them about Salah, if you say if you don't pray and go to hell.

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It's the hypocrites who are lazy and solo. And the hypocrites will be the lowest level of health.

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And Allah rejects the amount of of the hypocrites, you're beginning with warning.

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Imagine a seven year old child who has to be now told to pray and you start telling them if you don't pray, you're gonna go to hell, if you don't prepare to go to help. This is beginning with warning. What will this do this will cause that child to dislike Salah.

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But if you begin with good news, that is better. Right? If you tell them about good news, the benefits of solar the reward of solar right, then that is of course, something that will help them

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become more comfortable and and be consistent with their solar. So yes, 01 to zero was akinola to the field.

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And also remember that when things are made easy, and when people are given good news, it actually helps them be more consistent.

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So when a person's workload is doable, and when they're given good news, they're given encouragement, they're given positive words, then they they stay committed.

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But if the workload is very difficult

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The language is hard, and people are treated rudely, then even if they love the work, even if they believe that they should do it, they don't want to do it, they actually cannot do it, they will be unable to do it. So consistency comes with what? facilitation and giving good news and the sheet

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and and the scheme, right? It doesn't come with being harsh with people. We think that if we are harsh with them, and we don't give them any break, only then we can get work out of people. But this is not the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mill loss ponferrada grant is all wisdom. Is there any question or comment that you want to make right now?

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soprano I've been using zoom for so long, but I still

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find it difficult.

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Okay, I finally see it just faded. Okay, so Becca, go ahead.

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Just want to make one point here. I was just so amazed by this, like there's a rule in psychology that when you teach something, you teach by telling the opposite of that. So smile is unavoidable. When whenever he's teaching something he's giving the positive and opposite of that. So

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yeah, person one. It's one that's so amazing that, you know, to make it clear for every audience, the one who the positive and the one take the opposite of that. So this is very

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beautiful. That's very true, especially in this Heidi's that, yes, it will create ease and lead to us who do not create difficulty. So the exact opposite of that, as mentioned, so that you know what you're supposed to do and what you're supposed to refrain from vertical. Oh, Viki Morrison,

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Go ahead.

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I just want to make a comment. Like

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it happened last last year, we were in the mosque, Juma and everybody was already out what was going on, and is kind of a middle aged woman get in the mosque. And you can tell now, if you dress, she was not in a good condition. But he couldn't find anywhere to sit unless he sat in front of one old lady. After she sat down. The old lady whispered something or not here. And she got up and left. And I didn't see her again. And I just tried to say what did he say to this lady? Because she never came again and do it when it's Paula and I never see her again. So, you know, it's good to treat other people well, like because maybe she has some

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difficulties and to find, you know, when I come to the mosque, I'll feel better. somebody gives you a comment and you just go away. Yeah, that is very, very important.

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And this happens with many people that, you know, when they first for example, come to

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you know, a religious gathering, whether it is a class or Holocaust or the masjid

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and sometimes they're not welcomed, and they're not,

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you know, treated in a way that they they would like to stay. And this is against wisdom. You know, there's a hadith in Sahih Muslim, in which we learn that a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he brought him a gift. And you know what that gift was? It was a bottle of alcohol.

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So, this man in his giving this gift to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, but this is forbidden. And so the man felt, you know that Oh, he found out at that time, that alcohol was forbidden. Subhan Allah, the Prophet sallallahu earlier said and did not shame him. He did not say oh, what world are you in? Did you not know a stuffit Ulla? Hello, La quwata illa Billah How dare you and get out of here? Nothing like that. And the man, you know, somebody suggested to him that why don't you sell it you know, if you sell it, you will make money. So the Prophet sallallahu earlier said him said that

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It's price is also not permissible. So the man, he went, and he got rid of that wine and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Any he approved of that? But can you imagine that a man is giving a gift, you know, a bottle of alcohol as a gift to the suit Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam did not make a big deal out of that. He just told him, this is not permissible. Because he This is something we need to understand people come from different backgrounds, right? People come from different places, they have different experiences. And we don't know as to, you know, if what we say might offend them might hurt them might discourage them so much

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that they never want to think about Islam or Salah or anything like that again. So always be welcoming in in whatever capacity that you can be. The acetal will have to assume.

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Okay, not not

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Nippon? Yes, go ahead.

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So, I have like, a general comment or like a question. So growing up in Pakistan, I've noticed that they see parents, they get okay to, you know, put down their kids or to insult them or to beat them while they're growing up. So,

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you know, it's like negative parenting, which takes place in Pakistan. So when the kids grow up, they think it's very normal to be treated in such a way. So once they grow up, they become moody or rash, so they don't kind of respect their elders also. So I think it's a negative connotation that you're sending a message, which is not positive, that the way you treat people is what you're going to get out of them when they grow up. Very important, does that qualify?

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I remember the first time that I saw a video of you know how there's so many videos like that on social media, but how they see parents or our parents, you know, they treat their children and especially the use of the use of the slipper, right, I any I could not understand because at 100 alive, never witnessed that, I've never experienced it any, the only way of disciplining your children, or getting them to listen to you is not by, you know, the use of violence or insults. When you when we do that, it only makes the children afraid at that time, they will obey you out of fear, they will not actually want to obey you, which is why the moment they you know, get their freedom,

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which is that they become adults, then they become completely different. Because what they were doing was not from within it was not from the heart. So, any its especially when it comes to the matter of salah and when it comes to religious matters, please please Yes. sudo without to our civil, right.

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You know, for example, my parents the way they taught us to pray, is that on our seventh birthday, right, it meant that Okay, now we have to start praying Muslim, everyday Muslim. And any, this is so beautiful, because Muslim is used three records, right? It's not for, it's not the two of budget. So it's, it's not that hard. And motherhood is you know, neither too late nor too early. Although if you're in some parts of Canada, Madrid might be very late in the summer, but at least where I grew up at any moment was not difficult at all right. So, it started with Madrid. So, you know, seven, when we were seven, every single day mulleted and then we could not miss it at all. And then the

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next Salah was introduced next birthday meant the next Salah will be introduced right, which meant that every day now you have to pray. Right, you can't miss it. So now macgibbon also together and then the next slide is introduced then the next slide is introduced and like this by age of 10 of 100 Allah all of us were praying five prayers, any why because it was introduced gradually, right? It started with just the follow up. And then we were taught about, we were encouraged to Okay, now you can also do so, okay, now you you are free. So you can also, you know, do this, you can also do that. So this is they see that you gradually introduced not that on the first day you burden them

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with, you know, this is what you have to do. And you know the threats that if you don't do this, you're going to be a bad person, you're going to go to hell, and shaitan will do this and shaitan will do that. This is only going to turn people away.

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So your zero will add to our zero was a Keno will add to the field so Zack Malone Clayton, very good common sparkler vehicle. The next Hades had this in our Abdullah Huebner sorry, had doesn't Abdullah had no Muslim atta American or Nish? She had been on earth whether or not he Chateau de la Mourinho and her pilots I shall de la Mourinho said that Mel who euro Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a beaner on rainy got, in a harder a subtle humor that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was never given a choice between two matters, except that he took the easier of them. Madam yakun If man as long as it was not a sin, for encana, Essman and if it was a sin, meaning the easier option would

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be something sinful, can have a burden, Naseem in who he was the furthest of people from it. Woman Tacoma Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Alina FCV Shay in Otto and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not take revenge for himself in anything ever in there and don't takahama to Allah, but except in the case where

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he is home, meaning something that was that that is sacred, because of Allah subhanaw taala if that was violated, then he would take revenge fight in the Primo be highly laggy only then he would take revenge and why for the sake of Allah not for his own personal sake, a beautiful Hadees that tells us about the the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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and this is coming from the the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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So, whenever the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had an option between two matters, whenever he had a choice between two things, he would go for the easier option, as long as the easier option was not a sin, it was not something wrong. And the fact is that there are many matters in which there there is an option. So, when it comes to these matters, you know, first of all, if it was in worldly matters, okay, then of course, he chose what was easier

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when it came to options that came from people

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okay, sometimes people give you an option right you can do this or you can do that.

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So, if it was something a choice given between something sinful and something permissible than the profits on a love organism would always choose the permissible not the sinful, right. And when it when it was a matter of choice with with regards to commands that came from Allah subhanaw taala then he preferred the easy option, right? Why? Because

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what is easy is practical, right? It is doable, and you can be consistent with it. Now this Hadeeth does not mean that what the Prophet salallahu Urdu said and chose to do did not require effort. No, it did require effort. However, you need he went, he always went for what was easy and practical. For example, when it comes to the night prayer, we see that in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah says wamena layli for the hedger, the biggie Nafisa, Turlock that in the night performed that the hijab, and this is a nephila for you.

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And one of the interpretations of this verse is that it is an additional obligation on you, meaning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to perform the Hajj, it was an obligation on him. Right? It's a choice for us, but it was an obligation on him. So when it comes to the hijab, when it comes to the night prayer, any the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam could have slept only for, you know, a fraction of the night a very small portion of the night and spent the rest of the night or majority of the night in worship. Right, that was an option. Another option was that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam worshiped, performed the hijab for only 1/3 of the night, right? The

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last third of the night, sometimes a little less than that, and sometimes a little more than that. So the Prophet sallallahu, were using a one for the easier option. He didn't pray all night. He didn't pray most of the nights, right? But he prayed every night because this is a command that is coming from Allah. So it's not like it was an awesome

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Optional, it was an option for him, but within that was the permission to the the choice to pray all night, right, or most of the night or a third of the night. And the Prophet sallallahu earlier said his way was that he would sleep in the night and he would also pray in the night, right. Another way that we can look at this is any when it comes to the night prayer, remember that the number of records are not specified. Right when the Prophet sallallahu Urdu son was asked about the night prayer, he said math mammoth meaning prayed in sets of two

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and he did not any specify a number that minimum eight, right, minimum 20 minimum 30 look out No, he did not specify a number. Why? Because if a number was specified, then that would make things really hard for us. Right? Think about it, if a truck for example, if it was a minimum,

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then what would happen? That meant that no matter how exhausted and tired, you are, you have to do eight, you know, and you're stuck.

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If he specified 20, then again that would make things very, very hard for us. So, for himself also, he preferred ease because that is practical. And when it came to giving instruction, again, he opted for ease and not creating unnecessary difficulty, right. This does not mean that what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did did not require any effort, no, he exerted a great amount of effort we see for example, sometimes he would pray

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in the night standing so much so that his feet would swell up, right and when he was asked that, why do you do that? He said fllo qunar upon shockula should I not be a grateful servant, meaning this is a way of expressing sugar

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Allahu Akbar, this is a way of expressing sugar right.

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So, if any, he exerted effort and he encouraged us to exert effort also, but not to the point of breaking not to the point of extreme difficulty, right. And this is something that we need to take into consideration for ourselves and also for our families and the people that we work with you know, sometimes we think that via tea or

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you know, being good means bearing

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extreme difficulty

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you know, for example, the month of Ramadan is coming, and some people think that any I have to recite three days a day, five days a day, I have to do the entire klezmer like three or five times and Mashallah if you're able to do that excellent. And perhaps if you're able to do that then maybe you should push yourself to do even more

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but then to force other people to do it right that they should recite the three days a day five days a day any that's creating difficulty for them. If it was fallen, and fallen is the fast then of course there is no option over there but the things in which there is an option when it comes to voluntary deeds then go for the easier option

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when it comes to the the night prayer also in the month of Ramadan, I remember when we were little

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my parents would allow us to you know pray the first for the MacArthur we're right this is how we started that okay we go to the masjid or wherever the Salah was and after Isha pray for right and then you can take a break and you know, we take her toys, etc, with us and you know, you can you can be busy with that you can play but first or you have to pray, alright, so give a choice, and and let people do what is easy for them, because then they will enjoy what they're doing. And they will be, you know, consistent with it. And then we see another beautiful thing about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he never took revenge for himself. Any if it was a personal thing, the profits

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on love or ism, never took revenge over there. And we saw an example of that in one of the hobbies that we studied earlier in this chapter about how when a man came to the profits at a level where it isn't him and started demanding from him, that he should give him some of the money or some of the man that Allah had given him. And this man started pulling on the you know, on the

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The shell of the Prophet sallallahu earning sentiment he pulled it so hard that there was a mark on the neck of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam the response of the province that Allah Who were the center was not anger over there. Right? He did not become angry with that man, how dare you leave my shirt, leave my dress, don't you dare come near me, right personal space, etc. No, there was no taking revenge for himself. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu lucidum left over there, he smiled, that that's what we learned in the Hadees. And then he instructed the companions to give that meant something. So he never took revenge for himself. But when it came to the commands of Allah, when it

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came to the rights of Allah, and if someone violated the things that Allah has made sacred, then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did carry out the legal punishment, or, or whatever it is, that was supposed to be done. So when it came to the rights of Allah, no compromise. And when it came to his own rights, then he was very forgiving. And this is something that we need to do as well.

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Our problem is, you know, for example, when it comes to Salah, we tell our children, okay, you don't want to pray, don't pray, okay? You don't want to wear their hijab don't wear hijab. It's okay. No problem. But when it comes to certain things that we want from them, that for example, you you better complete your you know, your degree because I want you to do this degree, I want you to, you know, become the doctor, etc, whatever. Right? We are so strict over there so uncompromising over there, right? Live become so stubborn over there. But when it comes to the rights of Allah, we're so easy over there. Right? We will then and we're giving our children the wrong message. We're teaching

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them to fear people and not fear Allah.

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We're teaching them that they should, you know, pay more attention to what people like, and not worry about the rights of Allah. This is a very wrong principle to live by. But this is what we're constantly teaching our children when we go easy with them, when it comes to solo when it comes to their obligations to Allah. And we become extremely strict when it comes to people.

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So when it comes to personal things, be easy over there. Right? You know, for example, you might want your child to you know, become that fancy doctor, right? You might want your child to make their project super fancy, but any

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It's okay. It's okay if your children don't fulfill your dreams for them, but at least make them obedient to Allah soprano.

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So this was the flock of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The next her these had this herbal neuro man had this in a hammer did mosaic on it as it appeared new place called a kwinana shelter in a hidden Bill ahwazi called Naga Bornholmer. So her mother bin Zayed said that that as an awkward little piece said that we were on the bank of a river

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at another bar and would map the water of which had dried up and where was this this was in a place that is called a was and while there were there fauja abou bottles and a slim you. So aboda eslami This is a companion or de la Mourinho, he came How are you focusing on riding on a horse for Salah so he prayed and the people were praying over there so he also came and he prayed what I love about Sabu and he left his horse meaning he was not on his horse. So what happened from peloton for us? So the horse got loose for Tanaka Sala toggle, so he left his solo and this could mean that he loved the place in which he was praying follow what Toby raha and he you know followed the horse had that

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had that rocker until he got the horse for a haha so majah avocado salata who he took his horse, and then he completed his prayer. were female on Julian lagu. Ian, and there was a man amongst us who had a certain opinion, okay, meaning he was not he was a Haji. He was from the whole adage he was from the extremists, for Acquavella your kulu so he began saying on law either her the shave, look at this old man that aka sought out a woman agilely for us when he left his prayer or his his place of prayer, for the sake of a horse for a cabana, for color. So Obasanjo de la Horne who came and he said to this man

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Mehran f&e, ahead of Manu fowl Dr. rasulillah, he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, no one has spoken to me this way, since I left the Messenger of Allah sallallahu where it is that I'm meaning, since the prophets Allah who it is and and as passed away at any people have always respected me, because of the fact that he was a companion. And no one has spoke to me like this, no one has rebuked me and no one has insulted me. And you're the first one to do that ever. Meaning do not realize what you're doing. We'll call it in the manzzeli motala him. And then he said that my house is actually far away for those who are late to. So if I kept praying with the dog, too, and I left my horse, then the

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horse would have gone away from me, then love it early, late, I will not be able to get back home until the night because my house is far and if I had to walk home, because I would have lost my horse. Then if I had to walk home, I wouldn't get home until nighttime.

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Whether Cora animal Sahiba nivia sallalahu are they he was a loner for em in the city, he and he mentioned that he had accompanied the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for a long time. And he had witnessed the ease that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam created.

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And this is the reason why remember how he has brought this her these over here. So what's happening over here is there's different versions of this incident, we learned that elbows a little too long Mourinho was praying. And, and the way he was praying was that the reins of the horse were actually in his head. Okay, and this is something permissible that while you're praying, you know, for example, you hold the reins of the horse, okay, you basically clasp them in such a way that, you know, it doesn't interfere in your prayer. But what happened is that while he was praying, the horse started to, you know, get

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a, you know, a little

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you know, when when horses, when an animal does not sit in one place, or stand in one place, it began moving a lot, okay. And as it began moving a lot, it started to walk away, and it started to resist. Okay, so if, you know, imagine how he's praying, and he's holding on to the reins.

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And if the horses pulling, right, or tugging, any that would mean that he would have to use a lot of effort to keep the horse in place. And that would require him to be distracted, you know, from solo. So what he did is that instead of fighting the horse, or letting it go, he began following the lead of the horse. Okay, which is that, you know, for example, the horse went right, he kept praying. And he took a step to that direction. And he took, he took a step two, that direction, and another step and another step. So this is how he prayed his Scylla, meaning he kept moving, okay, in the direction that the horse was going in, in order to keep the horse in place, and also in order to not

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lose the horse. Now remember that the shawl of the djawadi, the the occupation, meaning the limbs, being busy with something is

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far more easier than the sugar of the content, the distraction of the color of the heart,

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meaning for him to hold the reins, and then follow the horse was much easier than losing the animal and worrying about his horse insula.

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Right? Because imagine if you're praying, for example, and you don't know where your child is, your child is, is run off. And this happened with me once, right? I was praying. This was in the must hit the normal button and my daughter just ran away.

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And all of these thoughts start going through your head where she is she okay, she saved. Did she go outside? Does she still inside? Is someone going to hurt her? Who's that child crying? Is that my child? Is that someone else's child? Any, you have 1000 thoughts going through your head, you cannot focus insula. So in order to focus in Salah, what did he do, he began moving like this insula and this kind of movement, a step to the right. And then after a few minutes, again, another step and then another step, this kind of movement is permissible. Okay, but remember that if a person that was walking or running, this kind of movement would break the Salah. Okay, so among the people at

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the time, was an extremist ecology. And he said in his ignorance that look at this old man, he's leaving us Silla because of the horse. And there is many you know such emotional statements that all

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You're preferring the dunya over the deen, right? You're becoming very, you know you're compromising in your deen

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such kind of statements. A lot of times are based on ignorance. So clearly this man had no idea about what kind of movements are permissible in Salah. So he criticized a companion without knowledge. And be very careful, very careful about this that before you criticize someone with regards to their Deen, make sure you have solid evidence, if you don't have it, then be silent. So, Brazil to learn more I knew he completed the prayer and later on he clarified that you know, you said such and such and you you don't know who I am. And if I had let my horse go, I would not be able to get home in time.

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So, this shows us that a person should clarify to people you know what they have done? And MOBAs Allah de la Mourinho also mentioned, you know, who he was the fact that he had been with the Prophet salallahu audio center which established his credibility. These he wasn't showing off over here. And he mentioned that they seed the ease, which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam created. And this is something that is important for us also. The next Heidi has had this amount of William and a homeowner Sheree berners Lee he had we'll call it later had this an Yunus or any issue having a botany Obaidullah ignore the lay of the earth better about what a lotta affordable under our

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lobbying benefit mustard server would rather not the long run he reported that a Bedouin men urinated in the masjid for thought he lay in lassoo. So the people jumped up, Leah Karroubi in order to attack him in order to stop him for calling among Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said to them, imagine all of them are running towards him there who leave him, let him be, what a vehicle or an abode he the Uber member and pour a bucket of water on his urine, oh, such an amount or a pail of water, for in them laborious to Maria serien Welcome to barafu Morris sitting because you have been sent to make things easy, and you were not sent to

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make them difficult. This is a beautiful example of the Prophet sallallahu. Earlier sedums ease, how he created ease for people. If you think about it, any the fact that this man is urinating in the masjid in a while he's urinating This is something wrong. All right, it's it's unacceptable. But if the man had been interrupted over there, and

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you know, yelled at, in the moment, or, you know, hit or something beaten up or something at that time, and the man started running away, or some any it would put, put that men in hardship, right. And it would perhaps cause a greater problem because now the urine would not just be in one place, but it would perhaps be, you know, spread over a larger area. So the Prophet sallallahu where it is, and until the companions to let that man be, let him finish. And when he's done, then pour water, we need clean that place. Right? And then we learn from other directions about how the man was taught that, you know, this is not the place where we urinate.

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But this advice, this instruction that Rasulullah sallallahu earlier said and gave that you were in the Missouri stone we are sitting, you have been sent to make things easy. Meaning Yes, the profits on a local race and to make things easy, but the entire oma should be like this, all Muslims should be like this, especially the people who are in places of worship, right? The people who for example, manage of us, right? Who are, you know, the hosts of such events where people are coming, they're supposed to create ease, solve the problems of people for them, don't focus on their mistakes, right? Don't don't any make them feel horrible. And embarrass them and shock them and hurt them. No,

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create ease for them. Because remember that a person who is ignorant is any if he doesn't know, then then he's not unique. It is to some extent they're pardoned. Right?

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But you know, so even when someone is doing something clearly wrong, don't

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scold them and frighten them. There is a way of stopping people.

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And if you stop them, or if you scold them while they're making a mistake, you're going to frighten them. And that's going to worsen the problem.

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It's it's going to add

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Repeat the problem, it's going to make it much bigger.

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But if you wait until the the person is in a position where you can actually talk to them and explain things to them, and show them with your actions, then that is much better. So this is the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Alright, any comment or question?

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You can raise your hand inshallah. Yes, sobhita.

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one comment I,

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regarding the beast number

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6000 194, in which the prophets a lot of volume seven, we never took a revenge for himself, but realistic. So I was just thinking to relating it to the previous lesson in which the anger was discussed. So anger comes from the place of a

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prophet sallallahu wasallam was so humble that he never took revenge

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for himself. And the same thing when we made things difficult for others. Again, we are thinking, we are better than other again, the arrogance element is somewhere there, when we are thinking that, you know, everyone should step up their work according to our standards. And that's why we make things difficult for the bottom of everything. Correct me if I'm wrong, that arrogance somewhere enough that? Absolutely, yeah, absolutely. It's, it's the ego. Right.

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And I think that's the thing that says that he didn't even make the manifests while he was doing a very, like, unpaid, unethical thing in the masjid, but he was so kind and so patient,

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down to what those he didn't make, and didn't let the people around himself make that person embarrassed, exactly, just covered the whole situation with so much common composure, that maybe that person might have embraced Islam or he was ignorant, he might not have known like the example of wine present, which causes a lot of very beautiful for us to learn. Yes, vocal ofI comm A, this is very true that when we want people to,

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you know, believe that we are important, you know, we want people to show us respect, and we start demanding that you know, I instruct and you obey, and I tell you, and you listen, and my opinion matters, and your opinion does not matter. And, you know, what I what I tell you is what you do, you know, if a person does that, even with with their own children, their children will will start resenting them, right. So, when, when it's, you know, when a person is arrogant, and it's their ego, that is running the show, basically, then this is something that creates difficulty for everybody. And when a person is, you know, sincere to Allah subhanaw taala and when a person wants people to be

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sincere to Allah also, then, of course, a person will create ease, and a person will be easy to deal with also,

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vehicle or vehicle.

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I want to make a comment and also 15 years here, Yes, please.

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When I was, I was grinding my mind is,

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as we learn more and more of these, we genuinely think the policy is in becoming stricter.

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but what really is with these landmines today that we should reflect in our actions, as we learn is Mashallah that in general, the team is easy.

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And what is difficult, is because of the limitation of the capacity of the person, yeah, and if we were, if we tell people to do something, which is typical, and they cannot do, the tendency would be the movies is hard, and will make them run away from the beat.

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Striving is good, but then

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we can strive as much as we can. It doesn't mean that if I can strive more, and you can start as somebody else can try this. So they're not as soon as I am part of this is so many times I have women too.

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talking in a way that they sound like, as if the other person's trouble is nothing is worth it. They're they're experiencing, and they can they can to PowerShell that a person can? Yeah, yeah, everyone's capacity is different, right. And just because we're able to do something doesn't mean everybody else is going to be able to do as well. Which is why if Allah has given you the ability to do something, you know, for example, a voluntary deed, then it doesn't mean that you start imposing them on people. But when it comes to the commands that Allah subhanaw taala has given, right, the obligations then remember that lie you quietly for long enough and ill will, Sarah, then the

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commands of Islam are doable. And the mistake we make is that we expect people to,

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to listen to us and do what we're telling them.

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We want people to be 100% obedient to us compliant to to our demands, but when it comes to the commands of Allah subhanaw taala that is where we become negligent and we also give the same message to people. So this is a mistake that we need to avoid, be, you know, be firmed about the the the rights of the laws of Hammurabi. And when it comes to other worldly matters, then you need it's really not a big deal whether you put a cup at the top rack of the dishwasher, the lower rack right it's really not a big deal. be easy, mindless pile throttle grant is all wisdom does echo Hayden cathedra I think in the same spirit of creating ease, inshallah, what we're going to do is I'm sure

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you have been informed already within the month of Ramadan because inshallah I'll be conducting the Ramadan with Quran program,

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I will not be able to conduct the class. So I invite you to inshallah, listen to that class and participate in that in which we will be doing one Jews of the Quran every single day, within two hours inshallah, that is the goal, which inshallah the program begins on Monday. So I welcome you to That program. I encourage you to come and also to share this with people. So that inshallah this from this from Madonna, we're able to connect with the Quran people who have not studied it, get the opportunity to do that. And people who have studied it, get the opportunity to review the Quran, inshallah does Akuma located and Kathy Allah Subhana Allah who will be handing a shadow Allah ilaha

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illa Anta as the Furukawa to you like a certain way, come on, I have to like you're gonna cut

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but you're not going to