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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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Kareem another word for the below him in the Shetland James Miller has over him.

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So did he wear silly mg while Europe didn't release any of Cabo Cody

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Lima, Bab mintaka, the one who left burba some of his theory, what does if the army choice, so a matter concerning which he has a choice, meaning, if he does it, or if he doesn't do it, it's not that big of a deal. It's not something that is wired, or felt that he has to do, or it's not something that is held on that he has to refrain from it is, you know, something of choice. So, he leaves some of it, he doesn't do it. Why Mahabharata out of fear of undead yuksel Sora, it has also meaning it falls short, it is deficient, what falls short. Furthermore, the comprehension, the understanding of bourbon nasci of some people on who from it, for Caruso, they will fall Fie in a

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shed them in who that which is more severe than that, which is more worse than that. So can a person leave something with regards to which he has a choice? Why? Out of fear that some people will not be able to understand it? If he does it? Or if he says it? If he mentions it? Some people will not be able to understand it. Why? Because they're not at that level. And if he mentions it, what will happen? People will fall into fitna. So is he concealing knowledge? is he hiding something that he should not be hiding? No, a person has that choice. And sometimes it is better not to mention something. Why? Because it can cause greater harm, the harm exceeds the benefit. But remember, when

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it comes to something, that is why you have something that is necessary, then do you have a choice concerning that? No. So for example, if somebody asks you, and you know that they don't like to do it, if they asked you, is it necessary to press on our five times a day? And you know, that they don't like to pray? Then what are you supposed to say at that time? Yes, it is. It doesn't mean that you become harsh with them. You say it in a manner that they don't like no, you explain to them you tell them nicely, you make it logical for them. But you don't have a choice concerning that you have to give the answer and you have to tell them what is legit. But if it's a matter, that is not wise,

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if that is not how long it you have a choice concerning that it is mobile, then what should you do? You can choose not to say it you can choose not to mention it. Why? Because then people will fall into a greater fitna. People will fall into a greater fitna. Why because they're not at that level to understand. So what do we learn from this, from this bad from this chapter heading, that if a person does not impart all knowledge that He has for a genuine reason, then it is not a sin upon him. You don't have to give all of the information that you know, you don't have to pass on everything that you know, because it will cause people to be in problems. Who doesn't obey the law

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have nimasa are an Israel in an RV is held on a sweaty corner he said orderly he said to me, who said to a news debate, so the law evens obeyed. He said to me, who does me refer to is what so as what is the one who is narrating it? And it was obeyed, said to him that Canada Isha do eyeshadow on her she used to do silver alayka she used to confide in you beading shoes to share some secrets with you. She used to tell something that she did not tell everybody off the Thielen much meaning a lot. She was jelly many things, only you and not to everybody. Why would you do that? Who was us with us? What was the nephew of our shuttle, the governor, and our Bill Evans of aid was also the nephew. And

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we learned that that I shall learn how she taught her male relatives, especially of the Lebanese obeyed as well as as well. So you can imagine that if a person has two students, or their two people and one learns about something, and the other doesn't know, then the other will be curious, isn't it so? So likewise, our beloved ones where he was curious, so he said to us what? So she used to tell you many things. Tell me what did she tell you concerning this matter? From I had that gut? So what did she need to you had that Sinead cut to you, Phil carrabba concerning the karma, what did she tell you about the garba? Although I said meaning us what said honestly, she said to me, Carlin

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abeles sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam he said, Yeah, Isha Orisha Lola komaki. If it was not for your people, how do you son knew the home there.

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Era, their time, meaning, if they had not recently entered into Islam, your people had not recently become Muslim, or just does not just mean promise, it has many meanings. So if they had not reached and Hadees away does not mean speech, but what does it mean? New? It's being used in its literal sense. So have they not recently embraced Islam had their Islam not been new? And if I had not had fear of their coffin, column disobey Evans Abed, he said this when he was narrating because of confirming the prophets, Allison was afraid that because they are new Muslims, they might revert to disbelief because of such and such learner to learner. Surely, I would definitely dismantle what

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elkaar bata karma meaning I would cause it to be demolished. For general Tula has I would make for it meaning the carrabba barbini two doors babban one door yet Oh, nasty people would enter from wherever and adore Yahoo June, they would come out. So far Allahu eveness base opens a bit he did it. So this was the wish of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to construct the Kaaba in a way that it would have two doors so that people can enter one door and leave the other. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did not do so. Why? Because the people had recently embraced Islam, many people had. And we know that the wished again they had a lot of respect a lot of love for the Kaaba. And if

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the prophets are about Islam would reconstruct the car but then what would happen? They would fall into a lot of fitna, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had FDR concerning this, he had a choice. It wasn't widely, it wasn't mandatory, to construct the Carver in this way. No, this was something that he wished This is something that he liked. He wanted to do it, but it was not something mandatory. If it was mandatory, he would have done it. But it was not mandatory, so he did not do it. So this shows us teaches us a very, very important lesson that when it comes to matters, which are MOBA, don't make a big deal out of them. When it comes to matters which are not why'd you they are not

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harm. Don't make a big deal out of them. Because if you do so, then people will fall into fitna. The question is, why did the prophets Allah doesn't want to reconstruct the Kaaba? Why did he want to make it in a way that there would be two doors to it? The reason is that the Carver that was present at the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the way it was constructed, it was not constructed on the original foundations. It was not constructed on the original foundations. So he wanted the building be demolished and reconstructed again, on the original foundations, as Ibrahim Ali Salaam had built it. And when the cover would be built over there, he would have two doors as well, an

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addition that he would make that he wanted to make. I'll tell you a little bit of history about the construction of the garden. Who's the first one who constructed the cargo? What do we know? Adam Allison, is the first person to construct the Kaaba and the angels also participated in the construction of the garba. You can imagine, you know, there was no way that stones could be brought and gotten a building rebuilt especially by one man. So the angels are the ones who also participated in the construction of the Carver and this is what we learn in the Quran that in a way elevating will they are lioness, the lady with the first house to be built was were in Makkah and

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other Melissa was the one to construct it. And we learned that at the time of the flood of new Elisa, the Carver, it is said that it was lifted up from the earth it was lifted up and what we know to be Badal Mahmud is that structure. Okay, so that structure that was present on earth built by Adam, our listener was lifted up into the heavens and now it is based on our mood where the angels go and perform bluff. So there was no more covenant. So who constructed the Kaaba again, Ibrahim,

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Ibrahim and s&m did the second construction of the Carver. And Ibrahim is married or an s&m, and we learned about it in the plan with your father. We brought him a collaborator in a debate what is married, both of them were raising the foundations of debate, meaning they were constructing it and after that, obviously, there were many times that the cargo was fixed or you know, or renovated. You can say, however, the foundations were the same as those that Ibrahim Ellison had made. And we know that sometime before the prophet SAW the Lotus and and received Prophethood. There were floods in Mecca and the Kaaba, you know, it was also affected. So the crash the machine, they had to

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reconstruct the cargo. Okay, there was a huge flood. And as a result of that the cargo was demolished, and they had to reconstruct it. So when they were reconstructing the cargo, what happened was that they fell short in the material that they had. And they could not make the cover as big as it was. They could not construct it as big as it was on the original foundations.

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And this shows that the Quraysh the machine, the the Arabs, they were, some of them were very wealthy, but still, they were not that wealthy, especially at that time. Why? Because they were desert dwellers, right? So they fell short in the material and they construct the canvas slightly smaller than the original size. And we know that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also took part in this construction. And we know that he is the one who placed the Hydras worth. And everybody was happy with that everybody agreed to that. And at the conquest of Makkah, the profits that are listed and he expressed his desire to construct the Carver the way Ibrahim al Islam had constructed it, he

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wanted the cover should be on the original foundations it should be big, and, and he didn't do so. Why because all people would not be ready to accept it. And it would cause them fitna in their faith. So this is the reason why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam do not do it. And he did not even tell everybody about it. He confided in his wife, I should.

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And I should only know she after the death of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam told her nephew, that's what and he told me he was a baby. And when the lemons a bear, he took power of maca. We know that there was Hitler, he revolted and he took power of Makkah. At that time, we know that forces were sent against him, as we learned earlier. And those armies they attacked Makkah from outside. And it is said that catapults were used to hurled stones. And because of that many buildings were affected, including the karma. The karma was also affected to the point that was almost ruined, demolished, so are the lessons of area to reconstruct the karma. So when he reconstructed the karma,

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he constructed it on the original foundations because he knew that the prophets Allah has expressed his wish. And before we constructing, they found the original foundations they dug. And when they discovered the original foundations, they built a carver on that. And he made the cover in such a way that there were two doors one door through which people would enter and the other through which they would leave. And then what happened. It was like that until 11 08, he lost power or judgment use of he took over and the halifa or the Malik Marwan he commanded, he instructed her judge to demolish the Kaaba again, and reconstruct it as it was at the time of the Prophet sort of on why out

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of enmity against you have to live into me. But whenever the medic was informed about the wish of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said, had I known I would not have commanded I would not have instructed it. Because they were human beings, there was fitna and so then the cover was as it was, at the time of the prophet SAW that a lot of them and then after some time when the rumor we collected collapsed, and there are bastards, they gained power there Khalifa he was about to he decided that he was going to demolish the Carver again and have it constructed as our beloved ones were constructed. But then Mr. Malik, he intervened. And he said, Stop it, stop it, let the journal

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Baitullah malaba didn't look don't make the house of Allah, a toy, you know, something that the kings are playing with that one king comes and he builds a castle structure and the other thing comes and he destroys it in enmity against him and the other comes and he destroys it. The House of Allah is not a game, this is not something that you can play with. So have respect for the house of Allah Maliki opposed it very strongly. And the halifa he listened to him, and he decided not to touch the carbon not to change its its architecture, and till today, it is the same. And yes, many times the carbon has been reconstructed for the purpose of improvement or because of being affected

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by you know, weather and over time, it does get affected. So it has been rebuilt several times. However, the structure the architecture has been kept the same as it was at the time of the Prophet sallallahu, etc. So the Kaaba has only one door, and there's a part of it, that is on the outside that is left, and we know that as the Hatim older ages. Now, you might wonder that this was the wish of the prophets have a lot of sentiment that is how, if I hear Listen, I'm had constructed the cover. So I mean, it was a good wish. So now that the Muslims know. And now that there's some stability, so shouldn't we build the karma as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wanted it to be? The

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thing is that if again, this begins the reconstruction of garba in a different form in a different structure, then this is going to continue one thing after the other one government after the other one ruler after the other. So out of respect for the power, we should leave it as it is, and especially because there is if they are concerning there is a choice concerning if it was really that big of a deal, the prevalence of autism would have done if he didn't touch it, if he didn't have it done. So that means that we don't have to worry too much about that either. And there is

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much benefit in the way that the cover is now in the way that it has been left. If there were two doors to the curb, one way people would enter the other they would leave. Who would leave, who would move, nobody wouldn't move. People would suffocate to death. There would be stampedes. And people who are doing tawaf outside of the cargo, their tawaf would be interfered, their life would be interrupted. Many people would be killed in this way. Even now, people die. People faint, in their attempt to go touch the header in their attempt to just touch the door of the car.

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Imagine if people would be allowed to enter the carwash how much chaos there would be. So there's definitely benefit in this. And the wish of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is fulfilled in another way. He wanted that there be two entrances to the carwash. One through which people enter and the Jewish people leave the Carver right around it right by it on one side, is that a theme? Right? The hedges. And that is the part that was part of the original structure, but they weren't able to include that due to shortage of materials. So the left it out. But if you look at it, there's a wall that is built around it, you know, and there are two entrances to it. So people can enter through

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one and leave through the other. And there's an added benefit to that. People are not as attached to the Hatim as they would be to the car by itself. So yes, people go and they pray over there. They stand over there, they make door over there. But it's not as bad as it could have been, if there were two doors to the Carver. So this shows to us that, you know, whatever Allah decides whatever Allah decrees, then we should be happy with it, and we should accept it. If the Prophet sallallahu Sallam accepted, then we should also accept it. And we should also be happy with it. There's always always hikma in the decisions of Allah subhanaw taala, whether they're counting or they're chittery,

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anything you'd like to continue. If there are some things as that are mobile, we shouldn't make a big deal out of it. How do we do this in in daily life? Like, could you please get an example like, this is like a huge, huge thing, like I'm just talking about ordinary things in life. Like, for example, if somebody doesn't want to eat a particular food, they have the choice to eat it or not eat it, it's not fun on them to eat it, it's not haram on them to not eat it, they have a choice. So if they choose to eat it, or that choose not to eat it don't make a big deal out of it. For example, some people I know a friend of mine, who is very health conscious was very careful about what she

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eats. You know, she avoids all processed foods, she will avoid a lot of dairy because of her health issues. And because of her choices. She doesn't say the dairy is her mom, she doesn't say the grains are held on. But people say to her that, you know, it says though you were making food, how long, but it's just her choice. And she has that choice. She doesn't say it is how long to eat dairy, or it is how long to eat such and such food. It's her choice, don't make a big deal out of it. Leave it when it comes to, for instance, if a verse of the Quran is being explained, and you find several verses that further explain that verse. You mentioned one you mentioned too. But is it necessary

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that you mentioned all five or six? No, you have a choice concerning that if you mentioned one or two, you've fulfilled your responsibility of explaining the verse. But if you go on mentioning one after the other, after the other, it will become heavy on the people, they will forget what was being explained and they will get lost in the references. So you have a choice. So it's okay. Don't put people in difficulty.

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I was just thinking that when you're teaching somebody and they're beginner level, you don't teach them and you're an advanced level, you're not gonna teach them everything at once, because it might scare them. And you know, they might think that Nina is very hard or, you know, and it's unnecessary. So even though you know a lot, you don't need to tell every everything that you know, because especially for us, you know, for instance grammar, it becomes so easy. So we start saying one word after the other, one term after the other and people are like, what did you say? They have no idea. It is said that at the flood, which came at the time of New Orleans and and the cargo was

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lifted up. It was lifted up to the heavens. And now it is the beta Mahmoud. That structure has been taken up into the heavens. And that is a bit of a moat around which the angels perform the work. And this is something that's perfectly that's absolutely easy for a lot of panel data. If you could lift up or you start listening, then you can definitely lift up the house of Allah as well. If the angel can come down with ya, then something and also go up. Allah knows what comes down and what goes up. My NZ Luma yarujie Batman hustler Amy Coleman, the one who has Sir, he specified he made Haas beloeil me

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With an omen of people doing accounting, and not other people, instead of rather than other people, why garnacha out of this life out of fear a layer of FOMO that they will not understand that a person selects certain people for some reason, and he does not make it public, everyone is not allowed to come into that much less everyone is not allowed to attend that class. Is that okay? Yes, why? Because everyone is not at the same level of

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some people, their level is higher, is advanced. And some people their level is just beginner or intermediate. And if beginners are mixed with the advanced level, then what will happen? What will happen, both parties will get discouraged, both parties will not be able to benefit. Why, because the advanced will be prevented from going forward. And beginners will be affected in the sense that they will not be able to understand anything, and they will get discouraged. And they might misunderstand. And they might get very offended, or they might get upset, or they might not fully grasp what is being explained because their level is not at the level of other people. This is just

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like when it comes to university courses, to take certain courses, you have to have taken certain prerequisites. If you haven't taken those prerequisites, you're not allowed to come to that class, you're not allowed to take that course. Why? Because you're not at that level. And until you reach that level, you cannot fully benefit from what is being taught. In fact, your thinking, or your understanding might be wrong, you might misunderstand, you might get frustrated, and you might leave. So if a person does not allow certain people, if a teacher does not allow certain people from coming to a particular class, then is it concealing knowledge? Is it depriving them from seeking

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knowledge? No, there should be a reason, there should be a reason. Because many times people say that if you don't let us attend this course, take this course, then you are depriving me and you'll be asked about it. No, the teacher has the choice. And in fact, it is in the favor of that student. This is not concealing knowledge. And this also shows to us, this Bible teaches us that the teacher should always keep in mind and be considered of the level of the students give them what they can take. give them what they can understand and always check the demo facet. In contrast, the Musalia the the harm, in contrast to the benefit, what is greater, you know, for example, a person could

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come and take an advanced level course for instance, this course, but if they don't even know how to read Arabic, they have no idea about the meaning of the Quran, they have never been exposed to such knowledge, then what will happen, they will get very discouraged. A person who was perhaps an A student is failing practically every test so they will be very, very discouraged. So, a person will be very careful about who is in front of them and give them what they are able to take and only allow those students to study something that they can understand. Otherwise, what will happen, they will be discouraged and they will also discourage other people never study this too hard, too

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difficult. So this way, the harm will outweigh the benefit to always consider the two What color are legion and Elisa? Meaning the Longhorn who have this illness narrowed to the people meaning teach them what B may or the foon Bhima with that which you already foreigner they know meaning they are able to learn, narrate to the people, what they're familiar with, what they can take what they can understand, a boon Do you love and you can serve Allahu Allah Zulu that Allah and His Messenger should be denied. Meaning if you give to people what they cannot understand what they cannot take, then what will happen. They will refuse to accept what Allah has said. They will refuse to accept

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what the messenger sallallahu Sallam has said, and you don't want that. So don't put people in fitna don't cause them to disbelieve. rather give them what they can take. Half an hour away delight him Mimosa and marylu fijne hora booth in a beautiful family and our Legion be delic. So we see that people should be given what they can take and what is not possible for them to understand. Then don't give it to them even if it may be from the Quran and the Sunnah. Even if it is something from the Quran, even if it is something from the Hadith don't give it to them, unless they can take it unless they're able to understand it.

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Because if you tell them, then what's going to happen, they will not be able to take it and they will disbelieve, they will reject. So what is greater? What is more worse ignorance or disbelief? What is worse this belief? I remember hearing the story about there was once upon a time a king who wanted to become Muslim, he was interested in Islam, but he asked that I love alcohol, I cannot leave it. So what should I do this, I know you have to leave alcohol if you want to become Muslim, just fine. I want. He didn't accept Islam. And as a result, these people also didn't accept Islam. I mean, alcohol is definitely Haram. But he could have been told another way that accept become

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Muslim. And, you know, we'll see afterwards. We'll see afterwards, the people who embraced Islam, initially, at the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, when the commands concerning alcohol and Xena and all that were not revealed, they were still involved in such things. And gradually a command scheme, because it's not possible for a person to change immediately, especially when these habits are so strong, are a part of them. So give to the people what they can take. So for instance, if a beginner group or people who are not that aware of the Quran of Ramadan if you're telling them what this verse is abrogated, then what's going to happen? They're going to be confused. If you tell

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them, oh, there is another killer as well, they're gonna be like what? There is another recitation as well of this word, and it says this, they will be surprised, it will cause them to doubt the Quran. So give to the people what they can take. Don't give them what they're not able to take, even if it may be from the Quran and Sunnah. But doesn't mean you don't give them what is in the Quran Sunnah at all? No, you're going to build them to build their level of gradually, one step after the other, and then eventually, you give them. So for example, if a person is learning, it's the first course they're taking, are you going to confuse them with all different opinions? So they're like,

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okay, so does this bring me water? It does not bring me

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Everything is okay. And everything is not okay. What am I supposed to do? So a basic course, basic, don't teach people about all the opinions out there, because you're going to make people confused. So for instance, in the course that you are taught over here, we just teach you simple, what the evidence is from the Quran, what the evidence is, from the Sunnah. We don't go into the opinions of scholars, we don't go into the mazahub. Why? Because then people get confused. So gradually build them up, gradually increase their level. And he kept asking, like, do I have to pray five times a day? Do I have to give up this and this and like, basically what we tried to tell him what that just

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accept Islam and then later you can, you can do it on your own pace. But that wasn't enough. Like basically, he had to convince him that you know what it's basically said that, you know, it's almost like an apple, you take a bite at a time. Rather than try to Gulp the whole Apple, what will happen, you won't be able to chew it up. So that kind of accept like, he kind of accepted that. And Subhanallah as soon as he did his Shahada, he himself is like, how will I learn how to pray? like nobody said, Come, I will teach you or anything, he himself seemed like somehow, like a different person you could see instantly like, and I was thinking how Allah subhanaw taala forgives the sin

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once a person accepts. So you know, it's like just the shelter in trying to prevent him from taking the Shahada. But as soon as you take the Shahada, it's almost like the federal comes out like the sisters that start saying, so where can I get the hijab? How do I wear it? And the brothers start saying, so how do I do this in this? You know what I mean? Like? So it's just that initial state? What did you tell them from before you can't have this food, you can't have this. And these cookies that you've been having, they have, you know, this byproduct of them, so don't touch them. They'll be like this. Islam is too difficult. They'll get intimidated and they will never come near Islam

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cycle. I just remember Dr. Zakir Naik when he was talking about dalla. And he mentioned the same situation where if someone asks, well, I can't stop, you know, Zen are drinking etc. And he said that remember, like, remind them that the greatest sin which Allah will not forgive his shadow, but everything else allow me for you. It This shows that a person may take time to improve. He doesn't have to do everything at once. It's best if he does it, but everybody's level is different. And as long as a person has the intention to get there to become better, then inshallah Allah is most forgiving. But if a person says no, I'm never going to get there, I'm never going to do this. This

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is not for me, then that is a different case. So everybody's level is different. Everybody's situation is different. Everybody improves in a different way. The same is for Muslims who want to become better people. So for instance, the first day, if you will start learning, yes, a girl has to wear hijab, a person has to pray five times a day. There's no choice about that. But you're not going to send the first so you become perfect today. You start praying five times a day today. If you start doing that, they'll run away. They won't be able to

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To keep it up, but if, for example, they're coming to you at a particular time to learn, and you tell them, okay, it's time for us, I'm going to pray, come pray with me. And they pray with you, every day, when they come at that time they pray with you. And then you know, they're interested themselves that okay, if I want to pray 100, but I will appear if I want to create a show, how would I gradually one after the other, think about the children, even when they start praying, they have a period of three years seven to 10, seven to 10, three years at seven, teach them and attend be strict, if they don't then punish them. So you have three years to improve. So people take time,

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they need time. So Russia is mandatory, even they have to pray. So you can make some other arrangements with them, have them nap right after Muslim, and then wake them up at Russia time. Okay, so that they can pray that the change that comes gradually, that's much better, a person is more firm in it. And if a person rushes into something, then he gets exhausted, he loses steam, and then he gives up, that the worry also that came came gradually one after the other. And initially, it would come, you know, with long intervals, and then it started coming regularly. Everybody grows at a different pace. People learn at their own pace, children reach their developmental miles at

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their own pace. They are giving us very big example. I'll give you a very small example. in Tallinn Quran we learned a lot of NaVi and I start learning like we should do refire then, so I started doing a fire then and my mom saw me once and she was furious. She said, Now you change your Muslim, I'm not going to talk to you because you change your Muslim. So from that day, I say, okay, sorry, Mom, I will not do it. So I never I made sure that I If my mom is praying with me, I never do it in front of her because I don't want her to get confused with these things. Because it's not like I can pray without it. So when time comes, inshallah I will explain her. But when some people are not

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ready mentally for something, they don't accept it.

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Like it happens with with many women, for example, when they want to start wearing hijab, their family proposes and not, you know, they're very strongly opposing it. So, you know, at this, my suggestion is always that don't go on wearing, you know, for example, and I'm gonna buy it outright, because if you were, you know, a black Avaya, what's going to happen, it's going to scare them, and it's going to make them feel very threatened. And it's going to cause family problems. So we know about the minimum requirement of an Avaya. So for example, if you're wearing a skirt underneath and a jacket on top, which comes up to your knees, make sure that it's not bright and overly printed,

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and you wearing the hijab, that's, you know, covering you properly. Start with that step by step gradually, let them accept as well. And the ideal situation is that a person does everything at once, because we have been told for cervical hierarchy. We're sorry, in our have become so we have been told to rush in good deeds. That's definitely true. And it's ideal, but everyone is not able to do that. And we should not ignore or belittle the challenges that people face. We know we think it's easy. If a husband does not accept you and leave him. Wow, very easy to say that. But do you know how difficult that is? Do you know how challenging it may be? How much disaster it can cause to a

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family. And people might turn away from the dean just because of you them. So when the allowance is there, then take benefit from the allowance. It doesn't mean that if you are able to do the very best and still you go for, you know the allowances No. The allowances are for who for people who need them.

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Okay, so for example, your daughter is not ready for her job. So what should you do? I'll tell you what my mother did with me. When I was young, before 12 years of age, I would wear hijab, I would not wear hijab, sometimes I would wear it sometimes I wouldn't wear it some days, I would wear it to school, other days, I won't wear it to school. But when I reached puberty, that after that, it was understood that I have to wear it. And if I didn't wear it when whatever, like where's your heater? And I remember once I when I was older, I started wearing an Avaya, you know often on here there. I was probably 17 years of age and 16 or 17, something like that. And I went somewhere without my

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invention that you went like this. It wasn't like, Where's your bio? Where do you cannot step out until you wear it? No, it wasn't like that. It was considered normal that you have to wear I remember I had to struggle a lot. And I knew that my mother understands. And she was giving me time and 100 of that I studied the Quran at the most perfect.

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So my mother didn't have to tell me do this. I made the choice myself. So educate your

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Children teach them to do let them make the choices themselves. Because I have seen it amongst, you know, in close family, that people who have been forced to do certain things and they run away. As soon as they have the choice to not do something, it goes off, you know, all their lives have been covering, but on the wedding day, it's amazing what happens. It's as if the person is not the same. And after their wedding, after they're married, they're a different person in their parents house, they were via job Nepal because the parents forced it on them. And as soon as they were married, with their husband, it's gone. So what you want is stability for your children, for your family. And

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for that you have to go gradually. This Hickman is very, very important. He instructed Robbie bingeable radiolarian is that tell the people about Allah as oneness, I think this is how the I'm just paraphrasing, but he also said that go gradually, the the message was there to go gradually tell them about this about the salon, that they have to pray five times. And then when they start doing that, tell them about this occur, and so on and so forth. So, there's so many examples in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and also like the way we just saw, and in the actions also of an individual, so there is really no need to rush to do something that will fall

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flat afterwards. And also start from a very young age. The problem is that when children are not old at all, when they're younger than when they're older, and they're told it's very hard for them, very hard for them. If you were present at the lecture, which remember that you've given invest of how to, you know, make your children love the Quran, the what's the first thing he said that make their childhood such that they love the, they see the on the year the Quran, they want the Quran, and when they want it, it will come naturally. So you have to start from a young age, you know, so, for instance, when they're young, when they're small, when you will wear hijab, you show it to them, and

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they have their own hijab which they can wear you know when they go to the masjid or when you're praying for Allah and girls love to dress up. They love to do that. So encourage them.

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Father, may Allah have mercy on him. He used to tell me when I was a little pray and you pray you will go to Jenna and Jenna is beautifully described gender for me. From there, I like to praise Hello.

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When I was in working in Ghanian office, and I saw the Indonesian couples, they you know, the babies born like boy or girl, they bring a small cap with them. So just the babies delivered and they want the baby girl or boy to wear the cap. So some of the gunk so cute when it's coming out in the boil so so if you put them from a young age, like you said, they will never say your why why should I wear it after that, and when she was telling that I have a two year old daughter, and whenever like we are going outside, I keep the shoes and a scarf there. So whenever I said okay, well bring your shoes. So when she bring the shoes, the scarf is overhanging there. So she's also bringing that

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with.

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And sometimes it happens that despite all your efforts, you know, you try indirectly, sometimes directly, you try in a nice way trying to show from a very young age, but then as you're older their friends are such with the influence such that it's impossible for them to do it, then, you know, just as you would advise your child to do something that's necessary for them. Likewise, you will advise them to do this as well which is necessary for them. You know, if your child decides to drop out of school, you will never accept that and you will show it to them. You will not beat them up, you will not as already yell at them, you will not unnecessarily cut off their phone or take their

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laptop away. No, but you will do some things to make them realize that this is a choice, my dear that you don't have. You have to do it. So same thing when it comes to those things that are you know, we don't really have a choice about them. We have to bring them up on the table one day or the other. We have to bring them up we cannot ignore them for too long.

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So anyway, the verb is to give some knowledge to some people, you know, make it exclusively for them, making a special class for certain individuals. Had the center is hackable Ibrahim calahonda 10 Mr. Chairman, kala head attorney Avi summarize revenue Sham he said that my father narrated to me who was his father, his Sham, uncut editor. Allah He said had the Santa Ana sub nomadic in an obeah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that indeed the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam one more than and Morag Allah de feu, rodef, prod alpha. What does that mean? Can you think of a word from the Quran? One that comes behind one that follows after immediately after, so more our pro developer on who was

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sitting behind him was on his rare Where are you

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lightly on a journey so they were sitting on an animal and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was in the front and Rod was right behind him. Just imagine they were very close to each other if you're sitting right behind a person I don't know if you've done that ever in a motorbike or bicycle is your right behind very close color. He said the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that time Jamar other mujtaba Omar I didn't juggle. Kala he said, I said look Baker rasulillah who Saturday make love bake, but this is word love bake me, we say this ultimate Hajj. Here I am, here I am present here I obey you, I respond to you. The word love Baker is from the letters lamb, but yeah, from the word

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lover, which is to follow, to obey, to respond. And when a command is given, a person obeys, he carries out the command that is given. And this word love vaikka.

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You and love Bay This is actually destinia duo. And we know in the Quran that destinia sometimes is used for two people, but sometimes it's also used for a repeated action, not just destiny, but also plural. So for instance, we learn ltr fi Johanna ltfu, Johanna It doesn't mean you do throw into welfare but rather throw throw throw the command is being given again and again lt lt Lt. So, the bake this destinia is for what that I am Here I am here. I respond to twice I will obey you twice, not once but twice. I will carry out your command again and again. So the Baker was Saturday, Saturday. Saturday is from Masada which is to help to be at someone service. So again, start with

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deca, this is Stephanie, that I am ready at your service twice again and again, once and twice, once and again. So the bake was our dache this was the response was even Jebel le Baker rasulillah was Saturday take all of the profits out a lot of them said yo Mara O'Meara and he said on a bakery out of sutala was Saturday for less than three times the profits all of a sudden called him and he said the bakers are they he called him again the baker Sorry, I called him again the bakers are they so the prevalence of autism really made him very attentive, very, very eager.

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Very, very eager to learn what he was going to say. Allah He said, The Prophet sallallahu Sallam then said Mammon hadn't yet shadow. There is no person who bears witness, La ilaha illAllah that there is no god worthy of worship but Allah and Muhammad Rasul Allah, and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how does he say it? Sleep can mean can be, he said, Truly, from his heart, he really means that statement. He says it very consciously. He knows about what he's saying. And he means it from his heart, he truly believes in it. So anyone who says this Illa except help llama hold longer and and Allah will forbid him on the fire, meaning you will not

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be allowed to enter the hellfire. Such a person will not be allowed to enter that fire. Fire is forbidden for him. audiosuite a lot more enjoyable, he said, O Messenger of Allah, a fellow of Bureau, shall I not inform be of it unless the people for your step sudo. So that they can be very happy, shall not tell everybody about it so that they can be very happy. Allah He said he then then you get lucky Lou? If you tell them then then they will do debacle, they will do debacle and they will only rely on this. And they will not bother to do.

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So why did why didn't juggle marriages or these men will borrow the hair? And rather than juggle he informed of it, rather than are in the multi near his depth? Why is the one to refrain from sin, out of fear that he would be sinning? What's in would he be committing if he did not tell people about this? the sin of concealing knowledge. So he kept it with him. He didn't tell anybody about it for as long as he could. And then finally, he told people because it's the right of the people to know. What do we see in this hadith that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said something very important. Very, you can say good, something that would be a source of very good news for people. But he

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discouraged that everyone be informed of it. Why? Because it will put them into fitna it will cause them to not do and we know that if a person says such a statement, truly

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The heart then it's not possible that he will not do harm and he will definitely do it. But we know that every person thinks that they're good. You ask any person, do you sin? Do you do something wrong? Are you a true believer, they will always show they will always say that they are a good person. Everybody has a very good opinion about themselves. So, if a person does relies on this and doesn't bother do normal, then it will, you know, lead him to wrongdoing, it will lead him to actually being deprived of this reward of this benefit, because of this false image that he can have in his mind about himself. And we see this amongst Muslims. I mean, people claim that eventually we

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are going to learn to do whatever you want. It's okay ALLAH is forgiving. People do have such hopes. And then next are these had that anamosa? Didn't Paula had the color severe to be more timid? He said, I heard my father, Allah, he said, Samir to unyson, I heard and as Allah He said, Look, he really it was mentioned to me, that anana bo said, Allahu alayhi wa sallam collymore other than that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to Mara, man, luppi, Allah, whoever meets Allah lair usually could be shaken. And he does not associate any partner with him the whole agenda he will enter agenda. So I was informed that rather than devil was told about this, by who by the profits of the

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Law Center, and why he said, Allah Allah overshadow ness, should I not give this good news to the people call it the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, let me know in the ahafo Indeed, I fear and yet tequila, that they will just rely on this. Now, earlier, we discussed about how you shouldn't give difficult things to people that they're not ready to take, because it will cause them to be in fitna. Likewise, we should not make the deen too easy for the people so that they do not, you know, strive in it, they don't get better in their team. Don't say to people, yeah, this is okay, this is fine. No, don't settle for less. When it comes to the team. There should be a balance. Don't make it

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too hard. Don't make it too easy. Don't make it too hard to the thing. They cannot do anything. And don't make it too easy that the thing they don't have to do anything. A balance must be there. Look at my other one. Gentlemen, you heard about this. He wanted to give the good news to the people. Well wishing. So he likes the rest of the people he wanted that they should receive this good news and they should be happy. Sometimes, you know, we go into an extreme of just pleasing people giving them good news. Again and again. There should be a balanced Bashir and the deal that he heard one statement and he was so excited that he wanted to tell everybody about it because it was something

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that would bring good news to the people it would make them happy. Likewise, we learn about so many things in the Quran, that bring joy to us, really they make us happy and excited. So we should also tell that to other people as well so that they can be happy as well. Bab al hyah affiliate offer in a higher modesty shyness in what in knowledge, we learned about higher indictable Eman as well, that a higher is mentally man. It is a part of faith that is from faith. And we've discussed that higher is of two types. One higher is that which is praiseworthy, and the other is that which is blameworthy, praiseworthy is the highest which prevents the person from doing wrong. And it makes a

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person a better person. And the blame were the highest which one which prevents a person from doing good and causes him to do wrong. So, a higher filler in China's in knowledge. When it comes to knowledge when it comes to in we should not have higher because if shyness is preventing us from learning, from teaching from asking from finding out, it causes us to be hesitant, then this is something that's not good. This is something that is not liked. Because it is preventing you from from height. So that higher would not be good. We're kinda hidden and Mujahid said, lay at the Alamo, you will never learn what ulma the knowledge who will never learn real Mustang in a person

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who is shy, wanna enormous duck beuran? The person who is arrogant. The person who is shy and the person who is arrogant, these two will never learn. They will never be able to acquire. Right? I have a grammatical question for you here. Mr. haggin. While I'm stuck on what kind of markup is this? Mr. He in Walla Walla, Mr. Milan. Monica asked me because there's a funny, right. So what's the rule that both the words the martov and the motto filet should have the same grammatical state. But we'll see that Mr. Yin and we'll start with the rune. Why

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Mr. Yin, the castle attain, and Mr. Ron Lamontagne, what should it be? It should be lemme, because it's my four because he will never learn he will never learn. So both should be my four. Why is Mr. Yin module? It's not module, Mr. Yin is not module, it is actually more four than Why are there two kasandra it? Because you cannot have them on it. You don't say Mr. Yun? You don't say that. This is just like who then water Mattoon who then will matter because you can't have wooden? You can't have the methane on Buddha. You understand? So hello for Allah. These letters they don't take they don't accept every Hanukkah. They don't accept every Hanukkah. So whatever. How could they do take that is

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what you leave on them. But the grammatical state is known by the context or by other words, is it clear or is it confusing? Clear was the when to technically have drama on it. But the thing is that Mr. Yin cannot take on it because of the year at the end. Because

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because of the year basically you cannot have the methane on it. There is actually some examples that are mentioned in your grammar book as well from the Quran. So if you want to know more about it, look at more examples. You can find them there. So anyway, well Karla Mujahidin laietana, Marina mustachian, Willa moussaka on the person who is shy the person who's arrogant, these two can never learn why? Because Mr. He would be too shy to ask, and was that we would say, Don't bother. It's nothing. It's not that important. It's not that necessary, he will be little knowledge. So he will not ask he will not learn. So both will be deprived of height. So what does it show that a balance

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is required between higher end pupils? A balance is required. A person should not be too shy to hesitant to ask anything.

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And at the same time person should not be too arrogant thinking I know everything, so don't bother, I don't care. No, a person must be eager for knowledge. And he must inquire. And also remember that, ask even if it may be concerning a matter that's very basic, very simple. If you don't get it if you don't understand and if you have the opportunity to ask, ask, don't shy away over there. Because if you don't ask, then either shyness is preventing you or pride is preventing and both are not good here. People are very casual attitude that is key.

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Because if a person really valued knowledge, he would not be so casual with it, he would take it seriously. You know, what do you ignore? What do you not attach any value to what do you think is not that important? You think you're above that, if you ever have to pour water out of a jug into a glass, then that glass has to be beneath the jug.

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So likewise, if a person wants to receive, he has to, you know, be humble, humidity has to be there, because if there's humility, only then the water can come in, only then knowledge can come in. So, humility is necessary. And confidence is also necessary. Confidence not to the extent that a person becomes arrogant, but confidence that enables the person to inquire, to ask to comment, to give his input, that is also necessary. Now, there are some matters in the deen. which people are generally shy about meaning. They don't like to talk about those things. It's not considered good in many cultures. It's considered indecent in fact to talk about such things, but if such things are a part

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of the deen, then over there also we cannot have higher. What are the Arusha to Ayesha said nierman Nyssa. How good are the women which women Nyssa Ansari, the women of the unsought. How good are they? That lamium nurse who will hire that China's did not prevent them as a dean, that they develop understanding in the religion? China's never prevented them from understanding the deen. If there was something of the that they had to understand, there were never too shy to ask. So how good are the women of the onslaught? What would people say today? How shameless

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there no hire. How overconfident indecent, obscene. No, this is not the case. The thing is that when it comes to, you know, learning the deen we become very shy over there. But when it comes to learning other things, there's no China's. So China's is good, but it should be at the right time at the right place, you know in the right way. When it comes to learning the deen there should be no higher in those matters.

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And we see that some women of the inside they would come in as the profits or the loss of them such questions that a woman would be shy to ask another woman. But they would come and ask him, not because they had no higher in them. But because there should be no higher in the matters of the dean. If it is a matter of halal and haram, if it's a matter of the hora or, you know, impurity, and if they had to find out, they will find out. Because, you know, it's a matter of Salah whether your Salah is accepted or not. It's a matter of Listen, whether you have to do or not, you know, a person might say, you know, do listen anyway, what's the big deal? No, sometimes it's not possible, you

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have to know, you have to know about these matters. And it doesn't mean that a person becomes obscene, or it becomes inappropriate, or you start talking about such matters in every module is that before every teacher before every scholar, No, you shouldn't become inappropriate about it, no, stay appropriate, we have a normal attitude towards it. Don't go to extremes, because the purpose is to learn that neither be too shy, nor cross the bounce. And if you think about it, you know, when it when it comes to learning, a person must always have majority. There are some such subjects some topics that we might find very awkward, or we might find very funny. So control your laughter,

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control your giggles, control your emotions over there. And this is just like, you know, if a person has to go to a male doctor for a genuine reason for an inability to control the situation, that's the only option. And it's a state of extreme necessity, that that type of person will be, you know, decent in the way that they speak and they will not start giggling away or shying away. No, you stay normal. Likewise, the doctor also, what does he do? He stays normal. And if he doesn't display a normal behavior, then it's a problem. Right? So similarly, when it comes to the matters of Deen, you have to learn about something, even if it's a male scholar, male teacher, ask that in a manner that

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is appropriate, both have to display appropriate behavior. And the fact is that such matters cannot be ignored. such matters cannot be ignored, you cannot do without asking them you cannot do without finding out about them. Because it can cause you to make serious errors, serious errors in your letter. You know, for example, there are rulings concerning Florida concerning intimacy, which people must be aware of. And it happens that when children start discovering their bodies, or you know, they reach puberty, and such things are being spoken off in school amongst friends, or they watch outside, then they're curious, and they want to know, and if the parents don't tell them, then

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what's going to happen, they're going to start talking about such things secretly behind closed doors, and it's going to lead them to greater problems. So talk about such stuff that is necessary for the children to know, in the normal manner. You know, don't make it a big deal. And if a child has a question, then don't, you know, say that, don't ask about these things. This is something that has nothing to do with you. I remember, you might find this a little strange, awkward, but many women, you know, have such situations this sister once told me about, you know, her daughter was very curious about why there are these small diaper looking things in the washroom. And she kept

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asking her mother, what is this? What is this, I wanted to I wanted to so the first thing is, you should be careful about displaying such things in your house, you know, so that your children don't see such things. And if they do ever ask about these things, then just display normal behavior. Don't say, you know, don't make a shocking expression on your face and cover your mouth and start laughing and know, just pretend as though it's nothing. You know, pretend as though it's nothing don't make a big deal out of it. You know, children monkey see monkey do. So whenever they see their parents doing something they imitate many times that happens at, you know, children when they see,

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you know, women who are expecting or who are nursing, then they start imitating them. They put up, you know, something in front of their tummy and I'm having a baby and she has a baby and he has a baby. Everybody has a baby in the tummy. Don't make it a big deal. Just act normal. Okay, what's in your hands? Did you see that car? Where's your doll? You know, distract them. Don't corrupt those innocent minds, because the moment you started giggling they will know it is something and I have to find out. I have to learn about it. There are some questions which cannot be asked in front of everybody. And we will learn about how are you the leader Warren who he had a question asked through

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someone because he was shy to ask directly because the prophets or the loved one was his father and on he was hesitant to do that. But he did not depriving himself of that knowledge. Rather, he requested somebody else to ask. So these questions are important, and you have to answer them. Ask them in a way that is appropriate and answer them in a way that is appropriate.

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So for example, if there are two children, one is a girl, one is a boy, and you see that the girl is older, and she is curious, she wants to know, and the boy is also there. So you tell the daughter separately, you don't have to tell the son about it as well. Or the younger daughter about it as well. Yes, aluna can they asked you so the people asked the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And shyness should not prevent us from learning about such matters. Because, you know, this is, you know, our physical needs, our physical body, sexuality, all of these things cannot be ignored. It's a major part of life. And we know that marriage is something that is recommended, I mean, people get

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married, and they come across such issues and girls do reach puberty, boys do reach puberty, these are real issues, real issues that cannot be ignored, and we have to be aware of them. And children must be aware of them. And when these things are being taught in school, when they are, you know, very easily available in books on the internet, then you should tell them what is allowed what is not allowed, what the proper way is, you know, the limits of heroin and heroin, we should teach them so that they also learn to control themselves. They also know what is permissible and what is not permissible. What I was thinking you were already actually on this topic that if especially

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especially for us, Muslim women, we have to tell our children what is halal and haram because it doesn't take long for them to be exposed into whatever is being taught into the public schools, and you don't even want to go there inshallah. So to protect yourself, you need to impart the knowledge to your children in a very sensible and very direct manner so that they understand and satisfy all kinds of curiosities they have. So they are not left with any question that they're asking their bus driver or the girl next door or anybody very true. And children when they're very, very young, from that point onwards, they become very curious. This is why we learned that even children are of

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particular age then separate their beds. Because then they become very aware of these things. So when they do become curious when they want to know satisfy them, not saying go into an extreme but satisfy them, give them as much information as necessary. You know, for example, if a child asks, Where do babies come from, you can tell them that from the mother's tummy, Allah tala, he makes the baby in the tummy and the baby comes out. Simple you don't have to say word brings it No, we brought the baby from the hospital into the child knows there's something wrong with the mother's body. It's not normal. So we tell them, Allah gave us this baby. Allah made the baby in the tummy. So simple.

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Of course in stages, you know and they will find out themselves so tell them the perspective of the deen always tell them about such things with the perspective of Allah made this Allah decided this it's so important to take this education because when I see like a newly when brides dying on the first day, first night or second night, you know, dying on operation theater tables, because they weren't they don't have any knowledge of this thing. And imagine that like a bride just one day Bryce's bride is dying. And the both couple they don't have any information about this, how to keep the relations and how to do it. And it's so sad thing that and believe me like 90% women suffer from

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psychological depressions and the problem because they don't know the details of these things. And they are lying such a confused and depressed ly. Confused, they're unsure what is allowed, what is not allowed. So this is a major part of life. And just as you have to know about Salah you have to know about the prerequisites of salah and many people you know when they study such a hadith when they learn about them they reject what is how can something so shamefully mentioned in the Hardys How embarrassing and you know, what the hurdles are they objected as well. You know, they marked this as your prophet teaches you how to use the washroom. They said, Of course he does. And he tells

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us which one to use and how to use the washroom. And the problem with that. So, you know, be confident about such things. It's nothing to be shy of, and if people need to know, tell them. And if it's mentioned in the Quran, if it's mentioned in the Quran, then there should be no China's concerning them. And as we don't really give the people what they can take when they're ready with them. And don't think that when your child is 17 years of age, or when their child is ready for marriage, then they need to learn about these things know, these days, the age comes much earlier, because they're exposed to such things. So you tell them in a manner that is appropriate just enough

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and tell them you know, this is our age that we should be focusing on our studies and you know, don't worry about relationships right now. You know, when you're older, inshallah you get married, and you'll

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Have a good spouse, your children are curious. They're going out with this, they have a girlfriend there, they have a boyfriend. Explain to them that in our Dean, you know, after marriage, you have a partner not before. So explain to them in a manner that is appropriate, that it's easy for them to accept as well. Definitely innocent minds are corrupted. But if you think about it, you know, you can tell your child that, you know, this is your part of what you have to cover. But the moment they walk out of the house to go to a park, and they see something completely different, you are living in a different society. And you have to teach your children from a young age to the winner gaze.

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Honestly, I take my son to the park, and he's noticing things that he didn't notice last year. So I take him at a time that is, you know, suitable other people are not there. It's more hard for me more difficult for me, but I make that, you know, I make that effort. And when he's looking, I distract him. Where's your water bottle? Where's your juice box? Where are your chips? Is rowdy. Okay, you know, I asked him some questions to distract him that he's not looking at other people. And he looks, you know, at what his businesses, the billboards that have nude pictures? And how do you stop a 13 year old from looking because his mouth was wide open. And suddenly you see these

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things that you're not exposed to. So we had to sit him down, my husband had to sit him down and explain to him that this is, you know, this is part of a female body or a male body. And we're not supposed to look at those things as Muslims, you're supposed to lower our gaze, and you choose appropriate times. And when as and when things come and happen, you start getting them. And pre puberty is a perfect time to start preparing them, I think, yes. And children are naturally curious at that time, because the older sister is not praying. And what's happening, how is she not praying? She's not fasting, right? So children become naturally curious, if you think about it, Allah

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subhanaw taala has put it into, you know, our human nature. Gradually we grow. So when they're curious, satisfy them when they need to know then tell them what the appropriate ways. And you know, for example, if your daughter, she reaches the age of puberty, she should know, she should know about it. From before that, you know, this is something that happens so that she knows how to deal with that situation. Otherwise, if she has no idea, I'm sure you've heard stories of people who had no idea what it was, and they were in total mess. I know of a lady she said she thought she had cancer. She was crying and crying, and crying the way she thought she was going to die. Because she

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had no idea it can cause such things. And same thing with boys even they need to know about what concerns them. And it's the father's responsibility to teach the boy and you know, you feel the father is not doing his job than the mother has to. It is your responsibility that you teach your son what he needs to know. It's important for him and if you're shy then 100 a lot there's so much literature out there so much literature Islamic literature, Islamic fifth books, you know, Mark some pages, highlight some parts and tell him you have to read this please. And if you if you have any questions, ask me or ask, you know, this older uncle or older brother or whoever, but you need to

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know about this. Okay? So panic alone will be only going to show the Illa Illa and stuff that are going to be like a cinema record label