Said Rageah – Islamic Marriage 11
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Money Rahim Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah and Karim
Hamada Allah He will be a Gemini and welcome to Islamic marriage. Today in some hands on with Anna, we will be talking about some of the quality of righteous husband
assumingly Your daughter is looking to get married. Now, what qualities should that young man have for him to be righteous husband? According to Islam?
First thing
the person must have a decent,
acceptable Dean and the dean that we're talking about is Islam. Because of loss of Hannah, what's the ANA stated in the Koran?
Well, I've done min Hiraman machinic
Anna, slave, and a believing slave is better than a machinic though you may like him or he may pleases you. Now the higher he is because
he is a movement. He believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala he believes there's only one God worthy of worship isn't that a multiple gods
and when you have that unified understanding, from husband and wife, then their aim and their goal is very clear. And Allah subhana wa tada said in the call on in a kurama come in, at
the best of you are those who have the highest level of righteousness at
higher your righteousness is closer you will get to Allah subhanho wa Tada. Allah also stated in the Koran.
He said a cleaver to the TV, what a boon and is that
a good person is for good purse, now a female and that's why it was sama bin Zayed are the long unwed messenger of Allah said there are rumors that Ayesha committed adultery What should I do?
Well, Samaras and Jada Salalah until you are good,
and Allah will never allow you to marry someone whose hobby
Allah said in the Quran.
Even those who are decent, and good are for those who are decent and good.
Also, what if we learn
from the sin of nimbyism the long run he was sending them that when the person comes to you, you look into the religion of that person into the Dean of that person. I mean, I don't mean whether he is other faith now we I'm talking about if the person he is a decent devoted Muslim, and he says a lot more honey he was under
either attack momento de una hora, hora pasado. He said if a man comes to you,
and you are happy and satisfied with his Deen and his manners, two things, some of you may say some panela isn't manners part of D, it is true.
But you may find individual who performs five daily prayers.
Who pays his charity?
who performs hunt
who passes the month of Ramadan. But at the same time, he has a temper issue.
He always quick to get angry.
Now a man like that cannot mine a woman. He cannot maintain a family. If he's quick in temper, and every time something happens, he's throwing things around, you know saying nasty things to the wife and the children breaking things, you know, divorcing him left and right. This is not acceptable.
That's why
when, when over the Sahaba came find a bitter amaze came to the messenger Golan. She said jasola law three people proposed to me Who should I marry?
Wow, yeah proposed to me. I will john proposed to me.
The messenger over last set is very poor at this moment. I will john, he hates women don't marry them marry Osama.
So when the messenger of a loss and if a man comes to you, you look into two things, his Deen and his manners, not his shape, not the color of his skin, not his age, not how much money he has. Not what kind of degree hold shows two things. And he's just a lot of money he was in them. If you don't let them get married
taccone fitna, it will become chaos. Well, Hassan Ali
k is an initiative that is widespread. Be careful to reject someone because all his nationality because of his race, because of his education, none of that you should reject the person all except the person based on the righteousness, the religion of that person and the manners. You may find another Muslim
who have beautiful manners, beautiful manners, and I know a lot of them. A lot of none Muslims, they are excellent in manners never break a promise. never lie, never cheat as much as they can. They try to be a decent people go to their neighbors good to the environment, do good to anyone who they see a meet. He has a good man. But he's missing D. And this one has Dean, but is missing man. Both of them are rejected. You need a person with Dean, religion and manners to get that's why when a man came to hustle and bustle city,
and he said many, many men proposed to my daughter. And I'm a bit confused, who should I entertain? his proposal has some muster he said that a righteous man marry a daughter. He said why in
a Chroma
if this righteous man, if he loves your daughter, he would honor
any if he this likes her, he will never oppressor.
Look, because when the person have been and manners together,
then they know their limits.
And of course, they will never disobey a loss of Hannah who, what's
so this is unnecessary a person would be I'll tell you a unique story that happened with one of the fathers man came to him with the unique requests. Let me tell you this story from the beginning. This man was traveling.
And those days, people will travel by foot or amount horse, mules,
donkeys, and camels.
This man was traveling by foot.
And because he was a student of knowledge, usually still of knowledge, he did not have much money and the use of travel from city to city from item to item to scholar from a scholar to another scholar.
So in this journey, he has nothing. So he passed by garden.
And outside of the garden is just tree, this tree that the branch of that tree, extended outside of the garden and dropped an apple
on the road.
So this man he picked it up once and hamdulillah it is from a law. This is a blessing from Allah. I'm starving. I'm going to eat this and he ate. When he ate half of the app. He realized one thing and that changed everything. That changed everything. And you share a lot after the very short break. I will tell you what I've changed and what happened. So we stay close to TV. Keep watching peace TV. Snack marriage. Do not go anywhere with Santa Monica Rahim Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Kareem season I wouldn't be and I'm humbled one or the other. He will be he RG marine. When a man came to hustler boss three
and he said many many men
propose to my daughter. And I'm a bit confused, who should I entertain? his proposal has some mustard he said, that a righteous man marry a daughter. He say why in a hammer Ha, ha ha.
If this righteous man, if he loves your daughter, he would honor
and if he this likes her, she would never oppressor.
Look, because when the person have been and manners together,
then they know their limits.
And of course, they will never disobey a loss of Hannah, who, what's
so this is unnecessary a person would be, I'll tell you a unique story that happened with one of the fathers man came to him with the unique requests. Let me tell you this story from the beginning, this man was traveling.
And those days, people will travel by foot or amount, horse, mules,
donkeys, and camels.
This man was traveling by foot.
And because he was a student of knowledge, usually still have knowledge, he did not have much many and the use of travel from city to city from item to item to scholar from a scholar to another scholar.
So in this journey, he has nothing. So he passed by garden.
And outside of the garden, is just tree, this tree, that the branch of that tree, extended outside of the garden, and dropped an apple
on the road.
So this man he picked up on hamdulillah. It is from a law. This is a blessing from Allah. I'm starving, I'm gonna eat this and he ate. When he ate half of the app, he realized one thing, and that changed everything. That changed everything. I'm sure you want to know what changed and what happened to the man with the apple. Now, when the man ate half of the apple, he realized some Hannon law. I am one that does not belong to me. Yes, he was hangry. Yes, it is the duty of the people in that area to take care of him.
But he did not go through the proper channels. He just went on he grabbed the apple that he found and he ate.
And even islamically.
This is maybe considered something that is MOBA.
acceptable because it's not something that is haram clearly.
Anyway, he went to the garden. And the gate keeper of that garden was there. So the man said, Please forgive me, I ate half of the output. Please forgive me. The man said, I would love to forgive you. However, I am not the owner of this guard. You gotta go ask that. The owner of the garden, I have no authority.
He said, Where can I find him. He said, between you and him. This is a day and a night. You have to travel the whole night and the whole day to get to what the Manage. So he went and he got to the house where the owner of the garden was. So he requests to see him. When the man heard the story. He said to this man,
I will never forgive you. And if you walk out of this door, I will hold you on the date of Yeoman Yama responsible for eating that app. Unless you do me one favor, and then I won't forgive you. He said Why is he say you have to marry my daughter.
And the man was shot. I came to complain. I came to ask you for forgiveness for the apple that I ate. And you want me now to marry your daughter. He said he has my daughter has problems. He said What is the problem?
He said she's blind.
She's deaf. She's mute.
And this is who she is. She cannot walk.
She's completely paralyzed. And the man who looked as a soprano
Would you forgive me? Let me go on the man said, No, you ain't my app What? You have to pay the price. He said, I'll marry your daughter and he married his daughter. And their wedding night. He saw this ladies sitting on a chair
in the room.
And he said, I said to myself, should I just give her a Salaam? She can't hear me anyway. Should I just sit down because he can see me anyway? What should I do? So he said, let me just give you the Center for them and I can the room. So he said, I said Mr. alikoum. And his surprise, he respond, the salon. He said, But your father told me you cannot talk. He said, she said, No, I can talk I can see I can hear I can walk and I'm shaking your hands.
But I am blind when it comes to civilians over law. I'm deaf when it comes to the Viva and the Mima. I cannot walk towards disobedience of the law. And Subhana Allah from that marriage cane. Mm, one of the greatest amount of Alison Eman, Baba hanifa came through that marriage. And that's why in Islam, the first thing that we look into a person though, is proposing to our daughters, our sisters, as the Dean of that individual, the second qualities that we should look into, is the person from a decent family or not.
As snom we know
as snow limit, when it comes to color backgrounds, nationalities, all but the question is, is that family practicing devoted Muslim family or not?
Because when you marry someone, you're really not marrying that individual by herself or by himself. You marrying that person and his or her family.
Your in laws will become part of your family. So if their Deen is not good, you will be affected.
And if they not from a decent family, well respected family practicing family, they will affect your marriage.
In my community, we have
a young lady Masha Allah and a young man Masha Allah, both of them practicing
the problem was one of their families.
Were not practicing. And when they got married, they faced a lot of problems. wedding night there's a problems. What do you know there's a problem.
There's a problem. Why because the non practicing side of the family is always causing issues. Always causing issue.
Allah subhanho wa Taala sent in solactive calf when he was talking about the wall that could erected
and build it. He said work on abou masala amangiri for kanuda mania t mania Phil Medina Wakanda Tata will come soon from the Houma wacana, whoo hoo masala.
He said,
and under that wall
is a treasure that belongs to two Yeti offerings in the city.
And the reason that I lost send me to read the wall and protect their property, because the father was righteous. So if the father is righteous, if their parents are righteous, if their family are righteous, then the children and the offspring of the children will be righteous.
And you know, the story
of Omar will hop over the long run
when he was going through the city, and he heard this lady who's saying to her daughter behind the door, bring the water so we can mix the water with mounts over the water can give us more milk, increase the amount of the milk. And the lady said the daughter said to her mother,
but the meaning said that is not permissible. And the mother said, Woe to you. I need a moment you cannot see us.
And the doctor says Subhana Allah, but the law of the meaning can see us look at that.
Look at that righteousness. And I'm wondering how far is he standing outside? And they don't know. He's listening to the conversation. And he knocked on the door.
And the old lady open the door. And he said the first question he asked he didn't ask what
Are you mixing milk and water and citta Muslims? And he said, Who's that young lady was talking? The lady said, as my daughter. That is my daughter, may Allah bless her
and
said, and you were mixing milk with water, she say no.
The daughter said, Yeah, ma own mother.
Vina Amira Mini.
What's an Athena? bieniemy? What are the shin and muslimeen?
across the latest? He said no online ameerul momineen. I didn't know it. So the daughter said, Oh, Mother,
you lying to the ameerul momineen. You swear by Allah lying. And you cheated the Muslim to me.
So
he said,
She's married. She said, No. He went and he went to Southern said one law and one of you must marry that young lady. She's a righteous, she's righteous.
I'm from that young lady who was righteous. I'm from the man who made awesome armor from this family. The Offspring was Omar bin Abdul Aziz, the Amir meanie Ahmad bin Abdulaziz.
My point is, if the family is Mashallah majority of the family, you will always find that black sheep will always do the things that are unacceptable in Islam. But if the majority of the family are God healed people, then it is important for you to let your daughter marry that young man and to let your young man or your boy marry that young lady, because this is what it is. And this is the situation of all Muslims, and handed in there. So brothers and sisters, the family is one of the most important thing. Um, because your children
would be affected by the grand parents.
If the father is not practicing, if the grandfather is not practicing, he's not going to teach your child how to pray.
If the grandmother she doesn't feel a law, she wants to teach your child to feed a lot. And children usually very, very attached to the grandparents, isn't it I'm going to law because the grandparents have more mercy and more time for the younger ones. So the children love that. So make sure that that family that he married from is a decent family based on what based on righteousness, fear of law, obedience to a law is not based on wealth, fame, status, or education, color or race. None of that. The final thing is the title of the law. May Allah subhana wa Allah reward you all. And this is what I have to say. Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
forever be true. cherish this life is destined for you. Live your life with kindness and care. Remember, Allah will always be there be there
to reject someone because of his nationality. Because of his race, because of his education. None of that you should reject the person or accept the person based on the righteousness the religion of that person and the manners. You may find another Muslim
who have beautiful manners, beautiful manners, and I know a lot of them a lot of non Muslims they are excellent in manners never break a promise. never lie. never cheat as much as they can. They try to be a decent people go to their neighbors good to the environment do good to anyone who they see a meet. He has a good man. But he's missing D and this one has Dean but it's missing Nana. Both of them are rejected. You need a person with Deen religion and manners together. That's why when a man came to hustle and bustle city,
and he said many many men proposed to my daughter. I'm bit confused. Who should I entertain his proposal. hustle and bustle is said that a righteous man
marry your daughter. He said why in a hammer Ha ha ha.
If this righteous man, if he loves your daughter, he would honor
any if he this likes her, he will never oppressor. Yeah Look, because when the person have Dean and manners together,
then they know their limits.
And of course, they will never disobey Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So, this is unnecessary a person would be afternoon, you a unique story that happened with one of the fathers man came to him with the unique requests. Let me tell you this start from the beginning, this man was traveling.
And those days, people will travel by foot or amount, horse, meals,
donkeys, and camels.
This man was traveling by foot.
And because he was a student of knowledge, usually still have knowledge. He did not have much money and the use of travel from city to a city from item to item to scholar from a scholar to another scholar.
So in this journey, he has nothing. So you pass by garden.
And outside of the garden, there is just tree, this tree that the branch of that tree, extended outside of the garden and dropped an apple
on the road.
So this man he picked up on hamdulillah it is from a law This is a blessing from Allah. I'm starving, I'm gonna eat this and he ate on when he ate half of the app. He realized one thing and that changed everything that changed everything. And you shall after the very short break, I will tell you what I've changed and what happened. So we stay close to TV. Keep watching peace TV. Siamak marriage do not go anywhere with Santa Monica Rahim was sold out to us Salam ala rasulillah three season I went to Vietnam Hamada and he will be he he marine when a man came to hustle and bustle city.
And he said many many men proposed to my daughter. I'm a bit confused, who should I entertain? his proposal? Hassan Buster he said that a righteous man marry a daughter. He say why in a hammer Ha ha ha.
If this righteous man, if he loves your daughter, he would honor
any if he this likes her, she would never oppressor.
Look, because when the person have been and manners together,
then they know their limits.
And of course, they will never disobey a loss of Hannah who, what's
so this is unnecessary a person with deed. I'll tell you a unique story that happened with one of the fathers man came to him with the unique requests. Let me tell you this start from the beginning. This man was traveling.
And those days, people will travel by foot or amount, horse meals,
donkeys and camels.
This man was traveling by foot.
And because he was a student of knowledge, usually student of knowledge he did not have much money and the use of travel from city to city from item to item to scholar from a scholar to another scholar.
So in this journey, he has nothing. So he passed by garden.
And outside of the garden is just tree, this tree that the branch of that tree, extended outside of the garden and dropped an apple
on the road.
So this man he picked up on hamdulillah it is from a law. This is a blessing from Allah. I'm starving, I'm gonna eat this and he ate or when he ate half of the app. He realized one thing and that changed everything that changed everything.
I'm sure you want to know what changed and what happened to the man with the apple. Now, when the man ate half of the apple, he realized, some Hannon law. I am one that does not belong to me. Yes, he was hungry. Yes, it is the duty of the people in that area to take care of him.
But he did not go through the proper channels. He just went on, he grabbed the apple that he found and he ate.
And even islamically.
This is maybe considered something that is MOBA.
accepted, because it's not something that is haram clearly.
Anyway, he went to the garden, and the gate keeper of that garden, was there. So the man said, Please forgive me, I ate half of the apple, please forgive me. The man said, I would love to forgive you. However, I am not the owner of this garden.
You got to go ask that. The owner of the garden, I have no authority.
He said, Where can I find him. He said, between you and him, this is a day and a night. You have to travel the whole night and the whole day to get to what the Manage. So he went and he got to the house where the owner of the garden was. So he requests to see him. And when the man heard this story, he said to this man,
I will never forgive you. And if you walk out of this door, our whole you on the day of your monthly ama responsible for eating that app. Unless you do me one favor, and then I won't forgive you. He said What is he say you have to marry my daughter.
And the man was shocked. I came to complain. I came to ask you for forgiveness for the apple that I ate. And you want me now to marry your daughter. He said he has my daughter has problems. He said What is the problem?
He said she's blind.
She's deaf. She's new.
And this is who she is. She cannot walk.
She's completely paralyzed. And the man who looked and he says Subhana Allah, Will you forgive me? And let me go on the man. So now you ate my app what you have to pay the price. He said I'll marry your daughter and he married his daughter and their wedding night. He saw this ladies sitting on a chair in the room.
And he said I said to myself, should I just give her a Salaam? She can't hear me anyway. Should I just sit down because he can see me anyway. What should I do? So he said let me just give you the Center for the menarik in the room. So you say as salaam alaikum aunty surprise he respond the Salaam.
He said, Well, your father told me you cannot talk. He said she said no. I can talk. I can see I can hear I can walk and I'm shaking your hands.
But I am blind when it comes to subpoenas over law. I'm deaf when it comes to a visa and Amina. I cannot walk towards disobedience of the law and some hand in law. From that marriage came. Mmm one of the greatest amount of Allison, Eman, Baba hanifa came through that marriage. And that's why in Islam, the first thing that we look into a person that is proposing to our daughters, our sisters, as the Dean of that individual, the second qualities that we should look into, is the person from a decent family or not.
And snom we know
as no limit when it comes to color background nationalities all but the question is, is that family practicing devoted Muslim family or not?
Because when you marry someone, you're really not marrying that individual by herself or by himself. You marrying that person and his or her family.
Your in laws will become part of your family. So if their Deen is not good, you will be affected.
And if they not from a decent family, well respected family practicing family. They would affect your marriage
In my community, we have
a young lady Masha Allah and a young man Masha Allah, both of them practicing.
The problem was one of their families
were not practicing. And when they got married, they faced a lot of problems wedding night there's a problems. What do you know there's a problem.
There's a problem. Why because the non practicing side of the feminine is always causing issues, always causing issue.
Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah sent insulative calf when he was talking about the wall that could erected
and build it. He said, work on a Whoo hoo masala amangiri for Canada, hola mania, te mania, Phil Medina, where Karnataka comes from the Houma wacana aloo masala,
he said,
and under that wall
is a treasure that belongs to Yeti offerings in the city.
And the reason that I lost send me to erect the wall and protect their property, because the father was righteous. So if the father is righteous, if the parents are righteous, if the family are righteous, then the children and the offspring of the children with the righteous
and you know the story
of armor will hop over the long run
when he was going through the city, and he heard this lady who's saying to her daughter behind the door, bring the water so we can mix the water with mounts over the water can give us more milk, increase the amount of the milk. And the lady said the daughter said to her mother,
but the mean said that is not permissible. And the mother said, Whoa to you. I need a moment you cannot see us.
And the doctor says Subhanallah but the law of the meaning can see us look at that.
Look at that righteousness. And I'm gonna be obviously standing outside and they don't know he's listening to their conversation. And he knocked on the door.
And the old lady open the door. And he said the first question he asked, he didn't ask what were you mixing milk and water and cheese and Muslims? And he said Who's that young lady was talking? The lady said, has my daughter. That is my daughter May Allah bless her
and
said and you were mixing milk with water? She say no.
The daughter said yeah, ma own mother.
Vina Amira Mini.
What's an Athena? bieniemy? What are the shin and muslimeen? across the lady? She said no en la jolla? ameerul momineen. I didn't know it. So the doctor said Oh, mother.
You lie to the immediate meaning. You swore by Allah lying. And you cheated the Muslim.
So
he said Allahabad, she's married? She said no. He went and he went to such as they were like one of you must marry that young lady. She's a righteous, she's righteous.
And from that young lady who was righteous, and from the young men who marry us and be normal from this family, the offspring was Omar bin Abdul Aziz the Amir mini Ahmad bin Abdulaziz. My point is, if the family is Mashallah majority of the family you will always find that black sheep will always do the things that are unacceptable in Islam. But if the majority of the family are God healed people, then it is important for you to let your daughter marry that young man and to let your young man your boy married that young lady, because this is what it is. And this is the situation of all Muslims and handed in there. So brothers and sisters, the family is one of the most important thing
um, because your children
would be affected by that grunt parents.
If the father is not practicing, if the grandfather is not practicing, he's not going to teach your child how to pray.
If the grandmother she doesn't feel a lot, she won't teach your child to feed a lot. And children usually very, very attached to the grandparents isn't going to law because the grandparents have more mercy and more time for the younger ones. So the children love that. So make sure that the family that he married from is a decent family based on what based on righteousness, fear of law, obedience to a law, not based on wealth, fame, status, or education, color, or race. None of that. The final thing is the tug of war over law. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward you all have to say,
forever be true. cherish this life is destined for you. Live your life with kindness and care. Remember, Allah will always be there be there