Islamic Marriage 08
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smilla rahmanir rahim Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Karim Sayidina whenever you know
why he was so happy he Ahjumma a
welcome back to Islamic marriage.
And under that heading, we still talking about the etiquettes of marriage hamdulillah we talked about what is permissible in Islam, between husband and wife. What is allow and what is not allowable is the subject that we will be covering some of it today in the sub panel with Anna. One of the things that is not allowed in Sharia in Islam,
concerning the relationship between husband and wife
is that during a menses, or during women's administration, a man must avoid his wife and must not have any intercourse or sexual intercourse with her. Allah subhanho wa Taala in Surah tillbaka he stated when he said yes, Luna can in my
own Mohammed they asked you about ministration
on who are other factors in this field. Allah subhanho wa Taala said, Oh Mohammed, tell them tell those people who came to ask you about Alma Hill.
It is indeed a harmful thing for husbands to have sexual intercourse with his wife during her menses. Now, in this a loss of Hannah, what's Anna made that statement gave this however, and the rest of the Muslims that instructions to stay away from their wife during their menses. And nowadays, as scientists, they discover it is indeed very harmful for a man to have relationship with his wife during her menses and it causes so many different illnesses.
And of course, this only shows an estate this Dean Dean over loss of Hano wattana is not a man made religion. How would the man who lived was born, raised and lived in a desert? How would he know these things? Things that was only discovered recently the mystery of the law was infernum bought through the Quran when the law somehow know what the ANA said on what other factors
it is harmful thing. So stay away from your wife's during Herman says, Then I lost some hands on what to add, I said for either taco,
when the parents are when the up out of that period of time, when the purify themselves a loss of honey what I said then, this is when the time is alone, and this is a time a man can once again be with his wife, or be in that situation with his wife. In the law, you have to worry while you are here in India, Allah subhanho wa Taala loves those who repent and come back to him and he loves them hand over to either those who are mutata hearin, who loves purity on pure themselves. What is the ruling of this? And how this idea came about?
This I we understand from this ruling is haram. And the Sahaba of nimbyism, the long run he was sending them came to the messenger on the law.
And they said jasola law
you Yara Sol en la yahood. They do in the city of Medina and of course the people of Medina were very affected by the lifestyle of the Jew who used to live in the city of Medina. So this However, they came into the Messenger of Allah on the saying, Yana Sula law during that period, women go through. They are who they ask the women to leave the house.
They don't eat with her. They don't talk to her. They don't touch them. They don't even close them, they kick them out of the house, and they stay away from the house. So what should we do? So Allah subhana wa tada reveal this ayah after the ayah was revealed the messenger on the law said, No. Let your wife stay at home. Don't remove them out of the house. Don't treat them like the Yahoo treat their wives. Let them in the house and bash you
On and be with them. They still your wife and it was revealed in your home. They said this man he disagrees with us in everything and he wants to be different than us.
So choose to have on this album interviews on the law on he was Saddam Hussein's been laid on my bed been Bish
they came to us soon as era Salalah. They said you always against us and you go against what we custom to know to be different from them era suit a lot. Should we not have intercourse with our wives during their menses to be different from the hood, to be extremely different. They remove the wife out of the house, they don't talk to them, they don't deal with them, they don't sleep in the same room, they don't all now let us go against them. And not only keep them in the house, but let us also exercise our rights. And then the messenger over law from
and the Sahaba around the messenger of a law. They thought the messenger over law was not happy with them. And a milk came to the Messenger of Allah when we say it's been delayed, and I bad ambition left. And he then he called them back. And he gives them the milk. And the Sahaba realize that's a long run He will send them was not angry or upset with these two individuals on the Allahu anhu. Germaine. So from this, we understand if What if the law is handed in that we should keep our wives and women in the house assumingly
that day in the house, that period of the month, what is allow the minister missing your own loss and everything in lanica
you can do anything with your wife, you know, you can do anything except the actual intercourse. He says a lot he will send them
in the nikka
do everything except intercourse
assumingly this person can, for some reason, can no longer wait until his wife gets to the point where she's pure and ready for her husband. And they both slept together. What is the ruling? What is Islam say? Islam says in this case that they have to do the following. Number one, acknowledge that they disobeyed a law somehow know what the annulment law somehow know what to do not be close to them. Do not be close to them. Second, they have to repent to Allah subhana wa tada and not do that again. Third, they have to feel remorse. And the fourth also is they have to pay the man has to pay.
The man has to pay half of Dean out
of soda or whatever equivalent that is, of course the notice out of gold. So the person has to go and say how much have the not with B and then you have to give a soda and there's nothing else to know or any other than what has been mentioned the Hadith and maybe some of the lohani he was sudden after she finished her menses and she's out of that period of the month. When is it permissible for her husband to sleep with her.
The full kaha of the oma they differ some of them they said it is haram for him to touch until she takes complete loss
until she's eligible for salah and she can make Salah it is not a lot others they say is not but the ayah as we know Allah subhanho wa Taala did not put any conditions. No we know any a hadith from a hadith interview some of the long run he was sending them that is stating a condition of a lawsuit or any of this but the hora is sufficient and the amount of him on the loss and diseases she has to wash hands to make as to wash hair private upon that area to be ready for her husband will look into her comb over this all alone on him the ruling of this issue, but this is what the easiest and the simplest way that we can derive of the ayah in soda tillbaka. Now,
during this relationship between husband and wife, what is permissible also between them
is something called as something called as
and inshallah I will explain this as soon as we come back from this short break in the Indian subcontinent with Anna
saramonic
smilla rahmanir rahim wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Karim so you know when maybe you know Mohammed was early he was a big Marine, and welcome back. And as I was stating, I was explaining the term as, as his interceptor methods, interceptor methods. And this is when, for some reason, a couple, husband and wife, they don't want to have children. It could be because they are still in school and they want to finish school and they can't handle children this particular time. It could also be, they want to space the children. So every every two years they want to have a child. It could also be for medical reason.
It could be for any reason, except one reason
and that is to fear and be afraid that you won't be able to provide for that child.
Because if you think you are the one who's providing for that child, then you use of playing God. You are playing God. And in Islam, we believe that his sustenance comes from Allah subhana wa Tada. Allah said in the Quran, one Mahalo to Gino when insert inlandia Abu I have not created the ends and the jinn mankind and the demons are the genes except to worship me my odd minimalist in one odd Anoop anymore. So there is it does not come from you It comes from Allah subhanahu wa tada Allah subhana wa tada said also another similar one can be Salatu was terminalia, Lana's and Luca is
Allah subhana wa tada set an order your family to establish the salon and be persistent in reminding them, we don't ask you to provide for them. So all the reasons are acceptable as long as you're not doing for the reason that you fear that you won't be able to provide for that child. I lost some hunting without in the Koran, he orders unbelievers, not to kill the children for the fear of poverty because he's the one who provides also the other thing that is not allowed is shediac which is not method but is a permanent step. And that is to do something that would never allow you to have children, like remove in the EU or any other method that guarantees that you will never ever be
able to have children you can never bring that back again. You can never do that. Now,
Islam said you can do and use any intercept
or what is the evidence and what is the proof jabiru Serra de la Juan Khun na Xin
one onions.
He used we said we used to use intercept methods, what are on is being revealed to the Messenger of Allah.
In other narration, he said he was told some lohani he was saying that this is what we do. And he did not forget us to do as so it is permissible.
And one of the Sahaba interviews of the law while he was selling them, he came and he said Yasuda law I do eyes and the hood they said if you do it, it's a minor abortion and abortion Islam is haram you cannot kill innocent child.
He said this is the who said this is a minor abortion. So the Messenger of Allah said the who did not say the truth.
If Allah ones for that women to have a child, she would have a child. Now, there are two things here that we have to understand. Number one, abortion is haram. Because if the child is alive in the womb of his mother, and not causing any dangers to the mother, and it's not endangering her life, then it's harder to do abortion. But as it is completely different.
And even sometimes, if the people try to use intercept on to use the methods or will interrupt consept all this
is true. It may work that when a law decrees, nothing can stop. One of the Sahaba came to Rasul Allah is a little low on he was suddenly he said, I sleep with my servant and I don't want her to get pregnant.
Don't because we need her in the house. So the message of Allah said, do what you need to do do the US. However, when the other of the law comes, He will take place. Now, then he came back and he said O Messenger over law, she got pregnant, she got pregnant. He said, didn't I say if a long once he would happen.
This is some Hannah law. The things that Islam is teaching us there are more detail more information and encourage the brothers and sisters to read books pertaining to this Islamic books that have been written by scholars of Islam
and learn more about the ruling of the shediac concerning this. The other thing that we need to talk about is when these two individuals are getting together, they should not get together only to satisfy their desire.
Remember, at that moment, you make
your hamdulillah both of you together in a halon environment because you are held to one another. However, your intention should be greater than just enjoying yourself. Your intuition should be abstaining on protecting yourself from harm.
And even if you forget this, you still be rewarded in the Subhan Allah tala
had eaten evisa long running he was selling them
is clearly stating showing us that in both way ish Allah is permissible
for Sahaba very poor companions they came and they say Dr. rasulillah We're here to complain.
They have to do so will you
are missing your own a lot wealthy people one on the reward.
He say how is that
Yasuda line they said they pray like we pray
they fast like we fast and they start listing the actions that these people do jihad you know kinds of answers all things I mentioned.
Same things that I stated and things that I didn't notice stated here. And they said
another top of that
yet is on the phone on the phone only am wearing him. On the top of that. They give Subbu RM their access money out of the extra money. The messenger on the last said, Don't you know that Allah gave you a means to earn his Senate
for cooking Italia. Every time you say nyla Hannah sada every time he says every time you say Alhamdulillah sada and he said, and when one of you is leaves with his wife is a suburb
of
the city, Yarra Sula law, one of us entertains and fulfills his desire, yet he is rewarded for this, then the messenger on the law said,
What would happen if he fulfilled that desire in how long? wouldn't he be sitting? They say, Yes, all academic. Likewise, if he did it to Hell, I mean, he will be rewarded. So those are however, we're very excited, very happy that now they do tallien. And they do test B and they do the media and they get reward. And when they have relationship with their wives, they also are rewarded. But guess what? The wealthy Sahaba like responding I found
out now the world is have they heard about the good news? By doing this via antenna? media and being with your wife is all just sort of cassava. So they themselves also did the same thing that the poor people were doing. So the poor people once again, they went back to the messenger over law to complain about the situation.
And they said, jasola law, our brothers in Islam were wealthy, they learned, what do you say so they also doing exactly the same thing that we're doing. So the messenger overlords said that he can lie to him in your shop. This is from the Blessings of your Lord, and He blesses whoever he wishes and he wills some hand a lot. From this you learn understand
Islam. Now, after you finish after that is done and hungry Nah. Assuming any tonight, or last night was your wedding night. What should we do?
Our wedding day, the beginning of the day, the morning of that day, the sun is
you and your wife, you go, and you visit your relatives, you visit, their family members will come to visit you.
And you make the app for them. And they will make the app for you, as an abuse of the law, while he was telling when he got married to one of his wife. Early in the morning, he went, and he went to his family members, and he made their own for them, and they made for him, and then he came back. So it is some early in the morning and hungry now when you get up in the morning and you get ready. And then you go and you visit your relatives, you visit them, and then they will make their app for you. This is some kind of law for what Islam is teaching us about this subject. And this subject again, as I've said to a lot of people is taboo people should not talk about we should not address this.
This is something that only happens in the bedroom and Islam as no business there should not get involved with some Hannah law, or deed is exactly the opposite of that. Even Islam is teaching us how to use the bathroom, and not to face the criminal or to turn our backs or Qibla what would you say when a loss of Hannah with Anna then just deleted such a beautiful ruling concerning this and an hamdulillah from Alhamdulillah Allah Nia mechanism and this is wonderful experience for those who are listening in sha Allah of insha Allah you will learn a lot from this an issue along the following episode, we'll be addressing the issue of actual dealings that takes place after husband
and wife and how they should behave and how they can maintain that beautiful marriage that started maybe with love and and handling that ended with Nika and how to maintain a nourish that this is what we'll be talking about in the next episode Neela This is what I have to say some handles apartment as someone said, I'm listening, but hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen.
To know to be different from the Miata sort of law, should we not have intercourse with our wives during their menses to be different from the hood, to be extremely different, they remove the wife out of the house, they don't talk to them, they don't deal with them, they don't sleep in the same room they don't all now let us go against them. And not only keep them in the house, but let us also exercise our rights. And then the messenger over law from
and the Sahaba around the Messenger of Allah. They thought the Messenger of Allah was not happy with them. And a milk came to the Messenger of Allah when we say it's been delayed, and I bad been ambition left. And he then he called them back and he gives them the milk and the Sahaba realize that's a long run He will send them was not angry or upset with these two individuals on the Allahu anhu regimen. So from this we understand if What if the law is handed in that we should keep our wives and women in the house assumingly
that day in the house, that period of the month. What is Allah?
The Messenger of Allah said everything in lenica
you can do anything with your wife, you know you can do anything except the actual intercourse. He says Allah Ronnie, he will send them
nikka
do everything except intercourse.
assumingly this person can, for some reason, can no longer wait until his wife gets to the point where she is pure and ready for her husband. And they both slept together. What is the ruling? What is Islam say? Islam says in this case that they have to do the following. Number one acknowledge that they disobeyed Allah somehow know what the Adam and I lost somehow know what the answer is. Do not be close to them. Do not be close to them. Second, they have to repent to Allah subhana wa tada and not do that again. Third, they have to feel remorse. And the fourth also is they have to pay some of the men has to pay
the man has to pay half of the not
of South Africa, whatever equivalent that is, of course the notice out of gold. So the person has to go and say how much have the knot with B, and then you have to give a soda and there's nothing else to know kafala or any other than what has been mentioned the Hadith nav sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, after she finished her menses and she's out of that period of the month. When is it permissible for her husband to sleep with her.
The full kaha of the oma they differ. Some of them they said it is haram for him to touch until she takes complete loss
until she's eligible for salah and she can make Salah it is not a lot others they say is not but the ayah as we know, Allah subhanho wa Taala did not put any conditions. No we know any of these from a hadith interview some of the long run he was send them that is stating a condition of a lawsuit or any of this, but the hora is sufficient and there are an amount of him on the loss and Denise's she has to wash has to make as to wash hair private upon that area to be ready for her husband alone in the home over this all alone on him the ruling of this issue, but this is what the easiest and the simplest way that we can derive of the iron in soda tillbaka. Now,
during this relationship between husband and wife, what is permissible also between them
is something called as something called as
an inshallah I will explain this as soon as we come back from this short break up in the subcontinent with Anna saramonic
smilla rahmanir rahim wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Karim. So you know when maybe you know Mohammed was early he will be a Gemini, and welcome back. And as I was stating, I was explaining the term as, as his interceptor methods, interceptor methods. And this is when, for some reason, a couple has been a wife, they don't want to have children. It could be because they are still in school and they want to finish your school and they can't handle children this particular time. It could also be they want to space the children. So every every two years they want to have a child. It could also be for medical reason.
It could be for any reason, except one reason
and that is to fear and be afraid that you won't be able to provide for that child.
Because if you think you are the one who's providing for that child, then you yourself playing God, you are playing God. And in Islam we believe that his sustenance comes from Allah subhana wa Tada. Allah said in the Quran, one molecule Gino will insert inlandia Abu I have not created the ends and the jinn mankind and the demons or the genes except to worship me my odd minimalist in one way or another anymore. So there is it does not come from you It comes from Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah subhana wa tada set also another sorta what can be Salatu was terminalia nearness, Erica is
Allah subhana wa tada set an order your family to establish the salon and be persistent in reminding them, we don't ask you to provide for them. So all the reasons are acceptable as long as you're not doing for the reason that you fear that you won't be able to provide for that child. And I lost some Hana without in the Koran. He orders unbelievers, not to kill the children for the fear of poverty because he's the one who provides also the other thing that is not allowed is shediac, which is not method but is a permanent step. And that is to do something that would never allow you to have children. Like we move in the wool or any other method that guarantees that you will never ever be
able to have children you can never bring that back again. You can never do that. Now,
Islam said you can do and use any intercept
or whatever what is the evidence and what is the proof jabiru settled the law 1100
NZ,
he used we said we used to use intercept methods, what are on is being revealed to the Messenger of Allah.
In other narration, he said, he was told some long Ronnie he was telling them, this is what we do. And he did not forget us to do as so it is permissible.
And one of the Sahaba of an abuse of the law while he was setting them he came in he said, I saw a lot I do eyes and the hood they said, if you do it, it's a minor abortion and abortion Islam is haram you cannot kill innocent child.
He said, this is the who said, this is a minor abortion. So the Messenger of Allah said the who did not say the truth.
If Allah ones for that women to have a child, she would have a child. Now, there are two things here that we have to understand. Number one, abortion is haram. Because if the child is alive in the womb of his mother, and not causing any dangerous to the mother, and it's not endangering hurt life, then it's haram to do abortion. But as it is completely different.
And even sometimes, if the people try to use intercept on to use the methods or will interrupt consept all this
is true, it may work that when a law decrees, nothing can stop. One of the Sahaba came to the sort of lines on the law on he was suddenly he said, I sleep with my servant, and I don't want her to get pregnant. I don't because we need are in the house. So the Messenger of Allah said, do what you need to do do the US. However, when the other of Allah comes, He will take place now, then he came back and he said O Messenger online, she got pregnant, she got pregnant. He said Didn't I say if a long once he would happen
this is some had a lot of things that his son is teaching us there are more detail more information and encourage the brothers and sisters to read books pertaining to this Islamic books that have been written by scholars of Islam
and learn more about the ruling of the Sharia concerning this. The other thing that we need to talk about is when these two individuals are getting together they should not get together only to satisfy their desire.
Remember, at that moment you make
your hamdulillah both of you together in a halon environment because you are allowed to one another. However, your intention should be greater than just enjoying yourself your intuition should be abstaining and protecting yourself from harm
and even if you forget this you still be rewarded in the evening somehow no retana
honey the Navy is a long run he was setting them
is clearly stating showing us that in both way ish Allah is permissible
for Sahaba very poor companions they came and they said yada soon a lot we're here to complain
that have to do so we
are missing your awful lot wealthy people one on the reward.
He say how is that
Yasuda lied they said they pray like we pray
they fast like we fast and they start listing the actions of these people do jihad in all kinds of hands on all things I mentioned
sin things that I stated and things that I did notice stated here and they said
another top of that
yet I saw the Konami photo
on the top of that they give Subbu RM their access money out of the extra money the messenger on the last set Don't you know that Allah gave you means to earn hacer not
for cleaning Italia. Every time you say nyla highness Allah every time he says upon light instead of every time you say at hamdulillah sada and he said and when one of you sleeps with his wife is a suburb
of
the city Arsalan law, one of us, entertains and fulfills his desire
Yes, he is rewarded for this. Then the messenger on the law said,
What would happen if he fulfilled that desire? in how long? wouldn't he be sinning? They say yes, on academic. Likewise, if he did it to Allah, I mean, he will be rewarded. So those are however, we're very excited, very happy that now, they do tallied and they do test on the meter and the reward. And when they have relationship with their wives, they also are rewarded. But guess what? The wealthy Sahaba, like,
the wealth is have they heard about the good news? By doing this via antenna, media and being with your wife is all just sort of Costa Rica. So they themselves also did the same thing that the poor people were doing. So the poor people once again, they went back to the messenger over law, to complain about the situation.
And they said, jasola law, our brothers in Islam were wealthy, they learned, what do you say so they also doing exactly the same thing that we're doing. So the messenger overlords said that he can lie to him, and this is from the Blessings of your Lord, and He blesses whoever he risks and he wills, some hands a lot. From this, you learn understand, Nam method, Islam. Now, after you finish after that is done and hamdulillah assuming the tonight or last night was your wedding night, what should we do? And our wedding day, the beginning of the day, the morning of that day, the sun is
you and your wife, you go and you visit your relatives, you visit, their family members will come to visit you.
And you make the app for them and they will make for you as an abuse of the law while he was selling when he got married to one of his wife. Early in the morning, he went and he went to his family members, and he made their own for them and they made for him, and then he came back. So it is so not that early in the morning of Hungary that when you get up in the morning and you get ready, and then you go and you visit your relatives, you visit them and then they will make their art for you. This is some kind of law for what Islam is teaching us about this subject. And this subject again, as I said to a lot of people is taboo people should not talk about we should not address this. This
is something that only happens in the bedroom and Islam as no business there should not get involved with and some handle law. Our Deen is exactly opposite of that. Even Islam is teaching us how to use the bathroom and not to fish taco or to turn our backs or Qibla what would you say when a loss of Hannah with Anna that just deleted such a beautiful ruling concerning this and an hamdulillah from Alhamdulillah Allah Nia metalist and this is wonderful experience for those who are listening in sha Allah of Isha Allah you will learn a lot from this an issue along the following episode we'll be addressing the issue of actual dealings that takes place after husband and wife and how they should
behave and how they can maintain that beautiful marriage that started maybe with love and and handling that ended with nikka and how to maintain a nourish that this is what we'll be talking about in the next episode inilah is what I have to say sub panels of Parliament as at the
Senate, but hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen