Islamic Marriage 27 07 2012

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He was the Rajan Munira

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national Annabella Rosado in a manner when Amanda Akasha Roma

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aka jihad, polyethylene fissara watlow. He was Sarah

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Rhonda Mohammed was

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gonna

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move on.

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But this is now I want to

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thank you for being patient. I know you've been sitting here earlier

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and due to the the overwhelming demand, the lecture had to be more Somali than English. And a lot of you inclining towards English language that you prefer, if I speak English.

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Yes, I assume every single person who was sitting here did understand whatever I said, he shall log across it tries to simplify this amount of that has been used in the previous lecture.

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Now, this lecture was not a prepared lecture is a sperm of the moment is something that just came up something that was not planned something that the brother said, you know, the brothers, the boys and the girls, or the youth vt did not

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they were not into the previous lecture, I am assuming. So they want something specifically something that's specifically designed and tailored for them.

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Now, and they chose the issue of marriage

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goolka

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Let me ask them you read, I want you to raise your hand.

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Only

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if you have married

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Good God, all your signal.

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Otherwise, I didn't know we got a customer name and

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date somebody has to get married to men right here. And we have the Sisters of ready brothers and earlier called the oleum. We can, you know, deal for the night.

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Now, how many of you?

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Well, I don't want to expose anybody but let me just say this. See,

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getting married in a very young age is part of Islam.

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Getting married at a young age is part of Islam.

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How to learn Hebrew now Omar Abdullah pronounce

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his father had him up in the house

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when I was 11 years old.

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So the father was 11 years old, and he had a boy.

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And when they grew, when both of them grew up, they became You know, Friends, because the difference only 11 years

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later on, Abdullah manassa decided to go a different way than the way of his father. And he decided to join the messenger overlord and become a Muslim, going while his father still stayed, and he remained as a cashier.

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The Sahaba like, ominous signs of interview will pass in those who have eyeshadow, the long run

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all of these women and young men and women, they all got married early.

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Now, the reason that a lot of young people do not get married early at this, you know, nowadays is because they are very irresponsible.

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Were like my mother, in the last panel with Anna mercenary assault on her soul. She was a mother when she when she was 14 years old. And that was the norm. She got married with you 13. She had her first son, her firstborn when she was 14.

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It was a common thing. It was a normal thing. And in a lot of area right now, if you go back to Somalia, you will realize a lot of people got married young. If you go to Yemen, a Yemeni boys when we're in elementary school, they were engaged and they used to go back to Yemen during the summertime and finish. I mean get married before they finished Middle School.

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So

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what is the routing of his son this son in church? Rather? Allah subhana wa tada say in the Koran

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Wang Qian Ayana como Sonic

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eco para la hoomin family

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and then Allah subhana wa tada said marry your met your male and female as a single man them to one another is the poor like a lot of you are poor. Am I right?

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I guess you're right.

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You are poor right?

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You have no you have your own house right? No car, no house and you want a wife. Good luck.

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Key praying sisters they want to see some cash they want to see some gold diamond ring in a nice BMW or something like that. Your white coffee won't cut it.

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It just simple coffee won't cut it. So you have to have some cash. But Allah said

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in your corner for para if you're poor like yourself, you will need room Allahu Allah will bless them from his boundaries.

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What is necessary here is the correct intention.

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And then the mysteries or overlaps that Allah had may have upon himself to help young people who wants to get married.

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For the purpose of protecting themselves. Can anybody say Allah duties? No. But he made man he made it Why would you want himself purposely he made work on himself so you and then they don't fall into a massive

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This is the reason so I lost a little Spanner without a made word robot himself and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for in case of women he says marry the one that has been in case of men is in married the one that has Deen and manners.

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Two things are very important. One, is that really the issue of responsibility? Are you responsible?

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If you're not responsible, and you're not ready for marriage, like sisters, are the sisters responsible to be a wife, because see, nothing more beloved to shave on than to break up a family.

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As a messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, it leaves he says he's thrown on a wall. And then he sends out his soldiers. And then they come back at the end of the day with the result of the day. So this one says, I did this and this I made him kill. I made him commit Zina, I made him this and each Schafer will list what he did.

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You know, this person dealt with interest, this person cheated this person. And she thought, this will not pay much attention. But the one who says I was on their case until they got divorce. He says you did wonderful job Come closer to me.

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So when you get married, it is a challenge there. And the challenges she found would make things difficult.

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See now living with a sister is still like living with a brother. Like having a roommate, male roommate. It's not like a having a female roommate. It's not that at all. Because see, guys, you know, we can be roommates. We can sit together we can talk the house can be filthy, but

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we don't care.

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But as soon as you live with a female, it's a different ballgame.

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Because women and men, psychologically they are completely different.

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I'll tell you, for example, example you want to

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see for women, if she's a she's a driver, she's driving.

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If it rains, with the first few drops, she turns the width when she'll immediately for men, it will rain and it will drop all the rain And you can hardly see anything but you won't turn

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service you won't turn because we have different systems. For example, if the garbage bin is half full, almost she was taking

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guns on the other hand is overflowing including pushing down and then we make space for ourselves.

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We create a lot of kudos different

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when a man or boy is talking about

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a winner.

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Thinking about marriage? What is the first thing that comes to the

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bar?

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Sort of? Yes, you

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know,

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all these thinking about is physical

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gold over, you know, physical, or how she's gonna look like, you know, did it and then she finds out wow, you know, but for the girls, you think he loves me, he loves me now, you know, he has to be this he has to be that physical part is not much in their mind is all about love and romance with me. It's all about me and physics.

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That's why

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that's why you will find tons I'm sorry to use this word of prostitutes.

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You know, because there's a market for that.

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But you don't find male prostitute. They don't they do exist but not like that. Why they fuse here and have great number here because men is all about physical, he can do what he has to do. I'll walk away and no feeling for that lane. For women. They just can't give up themselves, except the fear for that person. Allah COVID has different in every aspect.

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So when you want to get married to someone, you have to understand her psychological aspects, how she thinks she has to understand how men think.

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Men what is important for men is are two things

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through his for his wife to make him feel that he is the man of the house. And he has the authority of the house

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and

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is financially capable of

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running the response to give her responsibility about if she let him know that if she gives him this, then he will never fight her ever in anything. The delicate line of what a woman una Allah Nisa, why Bhima fumble along bottom, Allah was the man for coming

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to things that authority that guardianship that unreliable, and, and being able to spend on the house, this would mean once. On the other hand, women, they need a lot.

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They need, you know, for you to understand what they're talking about, or it is pretending they understand what they're talking about. So your wife, or your single massage. But you know why?

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When she comes to you, she's like, Oh my god, this is a she's crying about her friends. And you're like, God, you don't do that in front of her. But he's smile. And then she tells you all similar things. Similar things in your mind, you may sound silly, but for her is extremely important.

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Important. And because men don't understand, especially young men don't understand that the psychological aspect of women, they respond differently. And they will say when she comes to them, lady will come wife will come to her husband crying about what her friend did. The man was the one who cares about it.

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Get rid of her by someone else.

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And then there's a cost.

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There's a cost. That's not what you should say. You should see honey, honey, you know, she's wrong. And you're right.

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You know, you know, she said that to you? she she she doesn't want but she doesn't want to use her job and how does she said this? about you? boohoo just forget about it.

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So you gotta make you have to learn how to deal with her but us

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as women see men, like what do we do what we have said, What do we do?

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If a man is obsessed, you just don't want anyone to talk to you.

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We don't want anyone to talk to us. Leave us alone. It's like, Okay, I need to, you know, figure things out. I need to know what I need to do. I need to, you know, clear my mind. Give me a break.

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For a sister when she's disturbed.

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What does she need? She needs someone to talk to.

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is a complete opposite. Now you upset now.

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And you come home. She wants to help you. So what does she wants? What she's gonna do? She will try to talk to you, honey mahabad yokoso delay. So my son. Yeah, he

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just be quiet. Leave me alone.

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Now tomorrow when she's sad

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You thinking the best thing to do is just give her space?

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Let her have her space. But in reality, she wants you to talk to her.

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She wants you to talk to her. You say, Honey, what's wrong? Is it nothing? But don't leave for the first time.

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She hadn't had nothing that was okay. And you come, sit down, sit, sit next to her. Her, hold her show to hand him have it shipped. But

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you asked for?

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You asked her. That's how how a lot of

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men is they said, between men and women, each one of us have to say certain number of words every day.

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And the difference between men and women is almost 9000 words.

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So let us say, you know, you need to speak 10,000 words a day.

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You need to speak she needs to speak 19,000 words a day.

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So when you come home, you're tired.

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She has 9000 words that has to come up.

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It's not gonna work.

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So you got to listen.

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You got to listen. And she said, Oh, today I was cutting onions. And then oh my god that was so fresh. It made me cry.

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Wow. And then she said, and then I then I was trying to cook, but I forgot there was no oil at home. Wow. You know? And then she says I'm gonna try to wash the dishes, but I put extra soap. So, you did that.

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So she would say 15 words and all you have to say is one word.

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One word.

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See, if you had a

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Muslim

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Nativity, how do you there was a

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she I said, she told the messenger overlord his story of 11 women. And each one of them had a story to tell about her husband. So yeah, I got lucky, lucky zoji every each one had her own story, she had her own story. And the messenger of the light is listening, and the end of the whole story, finally, a comment. And he said, You know, I will treat you as a result a true mazeppa will never divorce if that was the end of the conversation.

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She was talking. So he has a one simple sentence.

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So women, they work hard. And men don't want to talk. So unless you learn, then you don't learn about each other, there would be conflict, there would be fight, then it would be divorce.

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Because the other thing that you need to know

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women, may Allah reward them, they never forget anything.

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Anything back but you ever did.

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There was a show called upon he said women they have two sides like this.

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One is for your good things, all good things that you do. One is for all the bad things.

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This one has a hole in the bottom

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and this one is tight and sees.

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When the problem comes,

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you try to say what did I do? What are the good things?

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all the bad things are here

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and see what they will remember exactly when, where and how you say

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a brother has said to his wife like this is the true story. He said to his wife, his his boy his little brother.

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He said to his daddy, daddy, you don't want to be up my horses. You know how kids like to play horsey with fathers and all this. So the father got tired. So he said go play with horsey with money.

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So the boy said I want horsey I want a horsey Elena horses doesn't arcane cane.

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And the Fall is you know the you know used to make sounds like a horse, man like horse and all this. And the mother tried to do the same thing. Then the father said is that a horse that's a camel sound

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that must have

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because she says she dropped the boy does you call me accountable?

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Do I look at my ugly as a camera

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and everything too.

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Through a different, a

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different issue.

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So when there's issues, there's nothing for you. That's when the Civil War

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amendment treaty is right. Perfect for 40 years. And as you see one thing negative about her husband, and that she was a model 100 an income I've never seen anywhere from you for 40 years, driving through the shopping mall, he would drive, you know, do this for me, he would do for 40 years, one time destroyed everything.

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She's not by the way, she's not evil, women that evil is not evil, a lot just create them different.

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And one thing that you need to learn as well.

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women's heart is like a glass.

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You know, like a like a glass. And if you have a you know, like a cut, sometimes you have a cable and a coffee table that has a bus, you know, if you take that advice, and you drop it, but what happened?

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It was shattered.

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Right?

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Can you put it back together? Can you pull it back together?

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You make glue it together, but it will be difficult. So women's hot also like this, a lot of times they forgive a lot. But more than that happens. That's it. For us, we may bounce back hours of my car like a piece of wood you hit it, I still the same uglier on the floor. You know, women is not like that women is shadows is done.

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So you need to know

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how Allah create them and how it looked at and they need to know that. The funny thing is upon Allah, that glass that you know, single seats regardless.

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If she cares for you, she cares about you. She can be more stronger than million men.

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She can be she can overturn a whole country.

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She will do whatever it takes to make you happy. And please, if you have her heart.

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Men are different. Men and women our hearts will completely different men you really the women of your dream.

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The woman of your dreams. She's beautiful. She's religious, isn't it? What do you have? What's next? What do you have in mind after that?

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The hands What do you have after you have? She's yours? And you've been married for a year? What do you think about next?

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second wife, right?

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What I'm telling you, this is it this

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is all men are like that men because nit by nature. We are hunters. So you hunt something? You got a deer, you got the best of all because you have a right here. Now what do you want to do another deer.

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She may be ugly as a monkey. But she has nice fingers. You just wonder.

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You know, when you know women, her husband

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that feels her heart. She doesn't think about other men and getting married. She doesn't plan anything. all her life is revolved around you.

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So the reason that we have a lot of people, a lot of young people getting married and divorced getting married and divorce is simply because they don't understand the symbol of human nature, how Allah with them in a certain way, and how can we you, US certainly as soon as we learn that everything would be perfect.

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And the best teacher can teach you this as the message of a loss of the lewat He was the son of a super nice upper body he was

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I know everybody is getting tired is extremely late. So I know some of the questions. And now they say we have we have questions. So let us entertain some of your concerns some of your questions. And I think the brothers the collecting the questions, you can write it down.

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Or you can verbally speak if the brothers have you know, a wireless mic and we take it from there. And the sisters if you feel shy you can write it down and show.

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So where are the questions?

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Okay.

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Everybody have so much English

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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less

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hassle a lot.

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Yeah.

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Does that go a long

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way?

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Okay.

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Okay.

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One

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he made it harder for us to have more than one wife.

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And it's not something that we apologize about it it's not like we say, Oh, we don't want the western people to know that in our Allah says, you know if I give them up or welcome in and they say you know what? no no we say this is a wish

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list. Number two

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Mrs. Obama had more than one wife

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the Sahaba the law

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for you to find us a hammer didn't have more than one wife is a challenge

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for you to try to find a solution we didn't have more than one wife is a challenge.

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However,

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you know, having wives is not entertaining because I know a brother who married 58 sisters

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58 sisters, he recycles them Mashallah.

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That should not be the case. If you get married, and you already married, you have to be responsible of the first wife if you can take care of her and how you take care of her. Financial you taking care of her emotionally you there for her when she meets you and you want to marry a second wife. The Sherry did not say no.

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Western societies they didn't say no. They said we will not give you a license for second life.

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That was the moment Kristin said they have 40 wives 30 wives

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as their lifestyle

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in the Western society. If you have a wife and three four different girlfriends, it's okay.

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They see a winner giving you a license for more than one wife.

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Getting a second wife is perfectly fine if you find a sister and hungry second thing.

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There are a lot of good sisters.

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Unfortunately, a lot of good sisters who practice they come to the mysteries they come to the halaqaat and they cannot find a decent brother

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who will because marriage is a journey to Allah. He says journey through the bedroom only as a journey to Allah. So they don't find they can't find someone who are holding hands and take them towards Allah subhana wa Tada. So what do they do? They marry anyone

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but to Cara Mila

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and then later on, she will be struggling waking him up for solace and forgive you kicked him out of the house for solicitation and he's gonna he's gonna be a struggle for and then that would affect her on her the next day that you know she's struggling with her email. That's why women are not allowed to marry men Muslim.

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Because men affects women more than women affects men in a deed so perfectly. Again, I don't know the brother who wrote the question, but I will say the sisters Mashallah Barack Obama era sisters is Mashallah looking for someone decent, then you should go for the brother May Allah subhanaw taala Bless you.

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Then you're not ready for marriage. like sisters are the sisters responsible to be a wife, because see, nothing more beloved to shave on and to break up a family

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as a messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, it leaves he says he's thrown on a wall. And then he sends out his soldiers. And then they come back at the end of the day with the result of the day. So this one says, I did this and this I made him kill. I made him commit Zina. I made him this and each Schafer will list what he did.

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You know, this person dealt with interest. This person cheated this person and she thought it wouldn't have taken us wouldn't pay much attention. But the one who says I was on their case until they got divorce. He says you did wonderful job Come closer to me.

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So when you get married, it is a challenge there and the challenges she found

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make things difficult.

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See now, living with a sister isn't like living with a brother. Like having a roommate. roommate. It's not like a having a female roommate. It's not that at all. Because see, guys, we can be roommates. We can sit together, we can talk, the house can be filthy, but I'm worried that

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we don't care.

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But as soon as you live with a female, it's a different ballgame.

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Because women and men, psychologically, they are completely different.

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I'll tell you, for example, exactly what we

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see, for women. If she's a she's a driver, she's driving.

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If it rains, with the first few drops, she turns the wind, when she'll immediately for men, it will rain and it will drop all the rain, and he can hardly see anything, but he won't turn it.

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Service he won't turn. Because we have different sisters, for example, in the garbage bin is half full, almost. She was eager on guns, on the other hand, is overflowing, including now pushing down. And then we make space for ourselves.

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We have created a lot of Buddha's different

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when a man or boy is talking about

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a we singing about sister marriage, what is the first thing that comes to the

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other side? Hey,

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bar.

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sores, yes, you

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know,

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all these thinking about his physical,

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you know, physical, or how she's gonna look like,

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wow, you know, for the girls, you think he loves me, he loves me now, you know, he has to be this, he has to be that physical part is not much in their mind is all about love, romance. With me, it's all about me and physics.

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That's why

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that's why you will find tons I'm sorry to use this word of prostitutes.

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You know, because there's a market for that.

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But you don't find male prostitute. They don't need do exist. But like that, why they feel here and have great number here. Because men is all about physical, he can do what he has to do, and walk away and no feeling for that lane. But women, they just can't give up themselves, except the fear for that person. Allah with as different in every aspect.

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So when you want to get married to someone, you have to understand her psychological aspect, how she thinks she has to understand how men think,

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men, what is important for men is are two things

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to his for his wife to make him feel that he is the man of the house. And he has the authority of the house

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and

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is financially capable of

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running, writing the response to give her responsibility about if she let him know that if she gives him this, then he will never fight her ever in anything. The delicate line of what

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he says why the malformed bah bah bah, bah, bah, what do you mean, I'm working through things that authority, their guardian, ship that unreliable and, and being able to spend on the house. This would mean once. On the other hand, women, they need a lot.

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They need, you know, for you to understand what they're talking about, or it is pretended to understand what they're talking about. So your wife or your single Masaki. But you know why?

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When she comes to you, she's like, Oh my god, this is a she's crying about her friends. And I'm like, God, you don't do that in front of her. But he is smile. And then she tells you all silly things. silly things in your mind. You may sound silly, but for her is extremely important.

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Important. And because men don't understand especially young men don't understand that the psychological aspect of women, they respond differently and they will say when she comes to them, lady will

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Come work will come to her husband crying about what her friend did. The man was the one who cares about it.

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Get rid of her find someone else.

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And then there's a cost.

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There's a cost. That's not what you should say. You should see Honey Bunny, you know, she's wrong. And you're right.

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You know, you know, she said that to you? She, she, she doesn't want but she doesn't want to use her Javelin. How does she said this? about you? Boo. He just forget about it.

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So you gotta make you have to learn how to deal with her that

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aspect. See men? Like what do we do? What we have said, What do we do?

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If a man is obsessed,

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you just don't want anyone to talk to you.

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We don't want anyone to talk to us. Leave us alone. It's like, Okay, I need to, you know, figure things out. I need to know what I need to do. I need to, you know, clear my mind. Give me a break.

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For our sister, when she's disturbed.

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What does she need? She needs someone to talk to?

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is a complete opposite. Now you have said now.

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And you come home. She wants to help you. So what does she wants to do what she's gonna do? She will try to talk to you. And him or her by yokoso delay. So listen.

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What, I'm not gonna just be quiet and leave me alone.

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Now, tomorrow when she's sad.

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You thinking the best thing to do is just give her space.

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Let her have her space. But in reality, she wants you to talk to her.

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She wants you to talk to her. You say Honey, what's wrong? Is it nothing? But don't leave for the first time?

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She hadn't had nothing that was okay. Then you come sit down, sit next to her. Her and hold her show to have him Have

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you asked for?

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You asked her. That's how how a lot of

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men is not. They said between men and women, each one of us have to say a certain number of words every day.

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And the difference between men and women is almost 9000 words.

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So let us say, you know, you need to speak 10,000 words a day.

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You need to speak she needs to speak 19,000 words a day.

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So when you come home, you tire.

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She has 9000 words that has to come on

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Monday.

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So you gotta listen.

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You gotta listen. And she said on Sunday, I was cutting on you. And then oh my god, and he was so fresh. It made me cry.

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And I said, wow. And then she says, and then I was trying to cook, but I forgot there was no oil at home. So Wow. You know, and so, and then she says I'm gonna try to wash the dishes, but I put extra soap. So, you did that.

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So she would say 15 words and all you have to say is one word.

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One word.

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See, if you had 100 say and Buhari Muslim

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had either reserved

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she is or the Atlanta she told the messenger overlord his story of 11 women. And each one of them had a story to tell about her husband, Zoe, he, I couldn't

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eat one had her own story. She had her own story and the messenger of the lightest listening and the end of the whole story. Finally, he comment and he said, You know, I will treat you as as a Cheeto mazeppa will never diversity. That was the end of the conversation. All.

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Anna she was talking. And I saw he just added one simple sentence.

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So women, they work hard. And men don't want to talk. So unless you learn, then you don't learn about each other. There will be conflict, there will be fine. Then it would be divorce.

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Because the other thing that you need to know

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women, may Allah reward them. They never forget it.

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Anything back that you ever did?

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There was a sheriff Kala hammer capanne he said women they have two sides like this.

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One is for your good things or good things that you do. One is for all the bad things.

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This one has a hole in the bottom

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and this one is tight and sees

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when the problem comes,

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you try to say what did I do? What are the good things?

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all the bad things I hear

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and see what they will remember. exactly when, where and how you say

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a brother has said to his wife online, this is true story. He said to his wife, his his boy his little brother.

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He said to his daddy, daddy, you don't want to be you'd be my horses. You know how kids like to play horsey with fathers and all this. So the father got tired so he said go play with horses with money.

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So the boy said I want horsey I want the horsey I want a horse they still said arcane.

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And the Fall is you know the you know used to make sounds like a horse. Man like horse of all this. And the mother tried to do the same thing. Then the father said faster horse that's a camel song.

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That must have

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because she says she dropped the boy does you call me a camel.

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Do I look at my ugly as a camel.

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And everything chances are different. is

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different.

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So when there's issues, there's nothing for you. That's when the Civil War when he was Southern said and then the treaty is right perfect for 40 years. And as you will see one thing negative about her husband is she was a model at the height of income I've never seen anywhere from you for 40 years. Driving through the shopping mall. He would drive you know do this for me he would do for 40 years. One time destroy everything.

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She's not by the way, she's not evil when an evil citizen that evil a lot just create them different.

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And one thing that you need to learn as well.

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women's heart is like a glass

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you know like a like a glass. And if you have a you know like a cup sometimes you have a cake and a coffee table that has a bus you know if you take that advice and you drop it but what happened

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it was shattered.

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Right?

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Can you put it back together? Can you put it back together

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you make glue it together but it would be difficult. So woman's heart also like this a lot of times they forgive a lot, but the moment that happens, that's it for us we may bounce back hours of our car like a piece of wood you hit it I still the same again on the flow, you know women is not like that women is shadows is done.

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So you need to know

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how Allah create them and how lucky they are to you and they need to know that the funny thing is upon Allah that glass that you know symbol sees

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if she cares for you, she cares about you see can be more stronger than minion man.

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She can be she can overturn a whole country.

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She will do whatever it takes to make you happy. And please, if you have her heart

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men are different. Men and women our hearts and completely different men you really the women of your dream.

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The woman of your dreams. She's beautiful. She's religious, isn't it? What do you have? What's next? What do you have in mind after that?

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The hands What do you have an after you have? She's yours? And you've been married for a year. What do you think about next?

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second wife right?

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What I'm telling you this is it this is not this is all men are like that men because knit by nature. We are hunters. So you hunt something. You got a deer you got the best of all because you have a right here. Now what do you want to another deer?

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She may be ugly as a monkey. But she has nice fingers.

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You just wonder.

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You know when you know women, her husband

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that feels her heart.

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She doesn't think about other men and getting married she doesn't plan anything all her life is revolved around you

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so the reason that we have a lot of people a lot of young people getting married and divorced getting married and divorced is simply because they don't understand that symbol of human nature how Allah with them in a certain way and how clearly you us certain way as soon as we learn that everything would be perfect and the best teacher can teach you this is the message of a loss of the lewat He was the son of a super nice upper body he was I know everybody is getting tired and is extremely late. So I know some of the questions and now they say we have we have questions. So let us entertain some of your concerns some of your questions and I think the brothers the collecting

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the questions, you can write it down

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or you can verbally speak if the brothers have you know, wireless mics and we take it from there. And the sisters if you feel shy you can write it down and show

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so where are the questions?

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Okay.

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Everybody have so much English

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu chefs

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we left

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wow

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yeah

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I am oh by the

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way

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Okay.

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Okay. One

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made it harder for us to have more than one whiteness

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and it's not something that we apologize about. It's not like we say Oh, we don't want the western people to know that in our analysis. You know, if I give them up or welcome in and they say you know what, Mr. Robot? No, no, we say this is a wash area is our Sharia number two.

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missus Mrs. Obama had more than one wife.

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That's a hammer the law.

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For you to find us a hammer didn't have more than one wife is a challenge.

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For you to try to find a home we didn't have more than one wife is a challenge.

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However,

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you know, having wise is not entertainment because I know a brother who married 58 sisters

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58 sisters, he recycles them Mashallah.

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That should not be the case. If you're getting married, and you already married, you have to be responsible of the first wife, if you can take care of her and how you take care of her. Financially, you're taking care of her emotionally you're there for her when she meets you. Anyway want to marry a second wife? The Sherry did not say no.

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Western societies they didn't say no. They said we will not give you a license for the second wife.

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That was the moment a Christian said they have 40 wives 30 wives

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as their lifestyle

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in the Western society. If you have a wife and three, four different girlfriends, it's okay.

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They see women giving you a license for more than one wife.

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Getting a second wave is perfectly fine if you find a system at home doing that second thing.

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There are a lot of sisters.

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Unfortunately, a lot of good sisters who practice they come to the mystery. They come to the halaqaat and they cannot find a decent brother

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who will because marriage is a journey to Allah is that journey through the bedroom only is a journey to Allah. So they don't find they can't find someone who will hold their hands and take them towards Allah subhanho wa Taala so what do they do? They marry anyone

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Bismillah

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and then

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Later on she will be struggling waking him up for solace in third you you kicked him out of the house for salvation Mary. He's gonna he's gonna be a struggle for and then that would affect her on her the next day that you know she struggled with her email. That's why women are not allowed to marry men Muslim.

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Because men affects women more than women affects men in a deed. So perfect. Again, I don't know the brother who wrote the question, but I will say the sisters Mashallah Barack Obama era sisters is Mashallah looking for someone decent then you should go for the brother May Allah subhana wa tada bless you.