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may delay for one more woman nibblin foreign alien murshida

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well I shared one either in the LA hula sharika

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where I shared one now Mohammed Abu hora solo

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yeah you have Latina Amano taco Maha Pato potty he will utter moeten Illa intimacy moon

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yeah you Hannah suta hora de como la de Hanukkah camino sinuata

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wahala caminhadas, Anja. webadmin humare john and Catherine one is

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what what's up aloha lady Tessa Luna v one or ham in aloha Khanna. Hello Kumara Eva.

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Yeah you have Latina Armando topo la hora de la cama Malecon we have a la comida Nova come. Mama minute Linda hawara Sula, who for Khalifa falls and Halima

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and my bad brothers and sisters in Islam,

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for Allah and the fate of khademi kurama la horfield Howdy, howdy, Mohammed in some of the lohani He will send them we shot it on a moody MacArthur to Hakuna Matata in bedanken, livedata Maulana gondola TV, not

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the title of the talk halaal daily.

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And now all of you are looking

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how to get out of this lecture fatawa

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that, you know, making it would make halaal for you to date

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if you're single, and as well as those brothers who are married.

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Now, today, I received a phone call from international internationals international call.

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And the person who was on the line was asking

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question that pertains to gender relationship.

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And at the end of the question,

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the person asks,

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well, how do you expect me to meet someone that is suitable?

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What should I do?

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And I wrote lists of the question that the person or that I was asked for the past few days.

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Specially since last night that we announced that the name of the title of the lecture is halal dating.

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The question was, how am I going to how am I going to meet someone? When you people put walls between us?

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And they mean the actual walls? You know, we can see the system this is a cabinet see us? So how am I going to meet someone else on these walls are up?

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The second question that they really asked, and they did ask was, how can I know if we were compatible? Well,

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like minded

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if we don't talk,

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don't call her she I talk to her? How would I know that she is compatible with me.

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I mean, sometimes that what this is the fear of a lot of young people. And that is if the parents are involved. Now the issue is very serious.

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And sometimes the parents would push it the young person because they already went this far. So they want to sell things before they before the parents get involved.

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So how am I going to know that this person is for me if I cannot talk to her or him?

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The other question that they asked is, don't we need to know

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each other before we propose each other? And don't we have that opportunity we want to know about each other?

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And this is the common question.

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They say why should you make Hannah? A lot more complicated or thorny?

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While How long is as easy as getting coffee phone, Tim Hortons?

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sure how long? It's as easy as you getting a cup of coffee from th it's important.

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That's that's as easy as that.

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Now,

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what should we do today I went and I searched and I searched and I searched.

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And I found this article written in Arabic.

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And they said

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a lot.

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The dangerous or free mixing honest like I really need

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To read about this

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and I read it

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and second paragraph he says

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one of the obese men mercy and in the name of mercy, we saw it. I was like, Wait a second, you know?

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And he said and he's talking about the how the church is a Christian out of how the church few dating and tree mixing

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and it's a church there's not a lot of gentlemen

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now when it comes to the Muslims, we want to know how really we can have handled dating without breaking the law breaking the rules.

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So at the end of the talk,

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I will give you the life suggestions ways

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to to handle dating.

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You know, it's okay to do heroin dating. We I certainly found as a photographer that but look, wait, don't come to the conclusion and turn the DVD off to this point. If you're watching or he said don't leave the machine at this particular time I said at hamdulillah there's a fun one. No, that is go sweetie. laughs Wait,

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wait.

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First of all, and handed in there who said in the Quran? Allah Allah woman chanukkah wa who are not

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Allah Yeah.

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Should not he and Allah subhanho wa Taala Who has created no yeah he created you and I

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is a lot ignorant

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of what we going through. Did Allah know at that time that Mr. You know, smarty pants they will come and say, Hey, what do you guys have to put a wall between us you know, we move the walls.

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And you

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and I Allah woman Hanukkah who are not.

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Now in this shed here from the Rahmatullahi subhanho wa tada the Sharia

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is made in a way that you will protect you.

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You will protect you physically, and you will also protect your honor. Number one, number two, the Sharia is geared toward what would benefit you know what you like, at this particular moment.

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The Sharia itself Allah subhana wa tada made part of the Sharia, for the Sharia to protect you

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recall and we hire

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protect you from the hat on.

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And this is the most important part that we need to talk first before I give you the tips for huddle daily.

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And I want you to know, as Rasulullah sallallahu he was sent on the last panel with Anna also stated in the Koran

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that the maaseiah was designed in a way that he will not come in what shot but he will come bit by bit.

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It will come you will start with you know maybe a good intention.

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Maybe you really just saw this sister Marcia, she's struggling at the university or you know, and then will suddenly have the university and I have nothing against the brothers and the MSA isn't this isn't the university under the law other than I think from my point of view, they should minimize the meeting they meet every other day if Mashallah meetings of MSA meetings or MSA What are we gonna do

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it's like we're gonna slow overthrow work on Obama or something like this. We don't need that many meetings in the MSS however,

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I will say the shape plan was say well, maybe she needs help

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and then you know exchange numbers and then oh, I want to help you you knew to the first year Mashallah perfect Victor and I will How will help you, you know, this is then you go from there, one step at a time. And the second thing that you know, Mashallah she's telling you all her secrets and you're telling her all the secrets that he just made up five minutes ago on everything is Masha Allah and you pretend that you cry from the other end of the phone by the Mashallah you're watching a game or something like this. So all this is it had was fun. The whole watershed on the danika your whole long soprano What's another? Yeah, you had Nadine Amano, Napa, auto watershed,

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or who you believe did not follow the footsteps of shade on the stage. The shaytan takes you from the first day. He wouldn't say Oh, Mashallah, you knew I'm new. Let's go. It doesn't happen that way. But one step at a time. One hot one one step with you.

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handing over to another stage to a third stage to a fourth stage until the master takes place.

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When Nicole wants to hand over to other women yet, what is she gone for in Abuja, Monroeville fascia

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and whoever follows the footsteps of shaitaan Indeed, he orders you, T for you to do indecent, indecent evil, into order you to commit indecency and we call it fashion usually, illegal sexual intercourse, caught one monkey, and a monkey is a Shirky at Villa. So this is the steps of ship. Remember even I'm sorry, the steps of a massiah remember even the whole moon there was that were they were the first people to worship idols. How did they shape I tricked them. He did not say from the first time worship idols. Now he said, Well, these individuals are righteous people and they die. You should mention them. And then he said, Why don't you draw them? They said why don't you

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fashion them? So why don't you pray to them? One step Yeah. You had lady and Armand lotta watershape on woman Yeah. Photo watershed on Final Yamato fascia you will

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all sort of saw Lysa lohani. He was on. He want us.

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He went on the brothers. And he said Mathura to body fit nothing. Our region Amina Nisa.

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Mattox Abadi fitna, I have not left a fitna for men greater than 50 of women are more means more harmful, harmful, man is not just a ver know the harm. It's so great.

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Because you as a person who knows Allah, who fears Allah, Who knows what is heroin, and what is Hana, and you know what to do or what not to do. A woman can drive you to a massiah

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women can drive you to amasya sometimes if the woman is right, it's very difficult for a man to driver to amasya but women is so easy for women to grab any men and drive him into a maaseiah

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This is a power that Allah bless them or give them give to to the women.

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When all of a sudden Allahu Allah He was a lamb as we all know.

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Jaco dunia what taco Nisa brothers.

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Listen to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said it dunya

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be aware of this dunya and be aware of women

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you know, I'm not asking you you know, as soon as you see them leaving the machine, run them over with vehicles and say Mashallah VR will kill them all get rid of them. No, that's not what I'm saying. That's not how that hasn't is it be aware of it is genuine.

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And be aware of women. But look at the connection.

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Most of the time

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the men wants to impress women.

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See women the way they think is different the way you guys think. But don't tell them you know, don't tell them see, the way they think. And the way we think is completely different.

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What are you looking to learn? You want women that is beautiful. That has this this this this Mashallah, women, most of the time they look for a successful person.

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Someone who has it all

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Don't you see in this in what do you call this? We'll call Hollywood What are those? What are the correct capital when they walk in with as little you know what we street agenda, you know, on this thing, you know, don't you see?

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You see this monkey looking kind of guy with the most beautiful woman?

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What is she blind? No, she's really not looking at him. She's like, nice rain.

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Beautiful, nice, fancy vehicle. She's really don't care how he looks as long as successful.

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As long as he can provide for her what she desires. She doesn't care. So and I'm not talking about Of course, I was so hungry that there's nothing but in general women who have no Dean, they look into success of the person you and I men, they look like okay, my She's beautiful. She's good looking. How's her Dean? She has no deal. She's beautiful and good Mashallah, let's go with it.

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So we do right? But they are different.

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So you're all of a sudden Allahu Allah, you are sudden dunya taco dunya taco, nessa because man, he will struggle he will work hard, he will take a double shift he will you know, save his money so we can get married.

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What are the women do they look beautiful, they dig dig themselves, they go to the gym and they run Mashallah they spend your money on that, you know,

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the two different agendas.

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Be careful with the agenda agenda has

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been. So what was sort of like a last minute and he said this is what I said. And he continued with this, he said for in a way to fit in at any sort of Economy Minister, he said the first fitness of the sons of Benny is sort of a first test was knew that women, they couldn't control the women and that's why all this happened. So what was sort of like some of the long run he was sudden, he's warning us that shame upon and the chops and the tricks are shaytaan he's warning us that this Masia this tree will call in the women and gender mixing or the relation between the genders. If it's not maintained based on the shediac it may lead into how long thing especially the two points that I

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want to talk about before we get into the inshallah inshallah a little bit tonight if you guys don't mind, you

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know, no, rather he just wrote me a statement of the poem one of the one of the Shahada he sent to San Martin for more

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for Ramadan.

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I saw a different Shama

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here Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is teaching us This must be maintained based on the limits of the Sharia. Otherwise, he may we may fall into how long and he encouraged us also in the Parana line carriers to be aware that they have yomo peon. When a Lhasa Danica young would much more Lunas weather.

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And this is a Panama that particular day, you really don't want people to see and know about your business. That day, I mean, some kind of law. Imagine, you want to impress Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they said, I followed you the other sudama I did this and it is of course, Allah subhana wa tada is the one we should be concerned about. But imagine that a soldier is looking at you, and alone, the angels are exposing your sins.

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And Subhanallah it's very shameful thing. dedicate your whole life that Yeoman module lovingness with an equal young mushroom, he says that is the day where on mankind will be gathered together. And that is the day when all the doors when all the good that you do and everything will be presented.

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That day, you're among the first everything

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I want to talk about first point, the dangers of Hanwha. And what is hollow hollow is when you're alone with a female who is then was not Muharram to you in a place where nobody out when no one else has access to

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whether this is long term or short term.

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Whenever you saw the long run he was sending he was in La Jolla Narayan de Mirage in our Maha Maha

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Illa is a no man should be with a woman alone without mahalo in the narration Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Khan, Allah, La Johan Raja Ravi Moroccan in Canada a little misshapen. He said no man will be alone with women except the Shere Khan is the third of the three is the third of the three. Well life the more like this young people, even over the phone, over the phone, you know, if someone's with you, and a brother calls him

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You can't tell the brother change. Yeah, what's up, hey, you know, I'm doing that we're going to mess with chilling and all that, you know,

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if assistance because, yeah, I'm here, I'm sure. I'll call you later. You know, you can sense that the person on the other side is a female.

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And this is not even Hawa this is you know, from the other end of the city maybe or maybe she's in in another in Somalia in Pakistan, Egypt, Mashallah she long distance relationship Mashallah. But

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the behavior of that brother would change and this is when they are apart. Imagine when they are together in a place that is confined. Nobody else has access to

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a sheet on word, ignite that feeling would ignite that emotion and you say, look, you know, nobody's looking

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Don't worry, she won't say he won't say our school. And this is where everything starts with them.

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And this is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warn us against this in many many different Hadith and I want to call them very quickly Sharla then we continue with the second point that will give you the tips that we need to know that it is a panel without a sort of lines on the long lines is a Montana human being will Yamanaka if you believe in along that on the day of judgment call if you wanna

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be Marathi. Listen to Mohammed minha. He said whoever believes in Allah on the Day of Judgment should not be alone with women without their without their guardian partner in Nevada Houma. shaytaan indeed a third of the three is a shaytaan. Another nourishing he says a little more while he was in and this is what a lot of people especially the relatives, they think they doing this doing a favor for the brother and his son in law it was suddenly said pata Latin do an odd movie about an attender on a movie, but he said you do not enter do not visit women whom their husbands are away from them. If the woman her husband is away from her in a trip, business trip, school, but

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she's married, he's a donor, go and visit her.

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Don't go by yourself. Part of the initial Atlanta Eugene Mina mina hajikko madurodam essentially, once in you are sons of Adam, through the veins of your blood. Now look at this, why are women who are married because this woman she lived her life in a certain pattern, certain lifestyle? Now his her husband is not there. Now as the husband is not there and she's not afraid of anything because Mashallah, she's another young lady who was never married before who was more concerned about what a man would ask for the first night in her, you know, wedding night? Now she can say listen, nobody would know.

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Nobody would know how many cases, how many cases that I know of that the divorce took place because the wife thought nobody would know.

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Nothing the men the men don't do they do.

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They do on the worse. But lie they are worse. They do that, oh, I can never get pregnant.

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You know, they do and this is what do we need to know that a lot is the one who's watching we should we should be concerned more about Allah subhana wa Tada. And then maybe something along it was sentiment concerning this whole year. What the whole analysis is to be aware of going visiting women for clergymen unsought, jasola law for eight and how about yada yada What do you think about the relative gone and Hamill and moat is a relative incidence of death.

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Now, all of this, if What if you let brothers is precaution for you, just to away stay away from the actual sin, the actual master and to protect yourself from this. Now the second point that I want to cover is actual free mixing that we want to address this. Now free mixing also means that when men and women are freely intermingling, talking, chatting, there is no limit where there is no limitation.

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And Allah subhanaw taala encourage the women he said to them what corner fee booty Can you see will be you too can he say what corner fee BeautyCon? is a stay at your house? What about Regina tomato, Ginger helia an order? He says stay your homes and do not display your beauty? Like the people of the ignorance people of the jehadi and Allah Subhana what the honest at what he does, and from one of us alone, I mean, what a job. And he said if you ask them anything asking behind the curtains, and this is not only for the wives now look at this, the second part of the yodel one somehow know what that is.

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I'm sorry. How do you follow the comb weapon over him. He says this is more pure, pure for their hearts and your heart. Subhan Allah.

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Allah is not talking about

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indecent women.

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He's talking about the best of all women, the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu honey, he wasn't, you know, who knew that he could

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become number one. Well, holloween and their hearts, the hearts of the Sahaba

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nobody can claim that they can be like them. That's why I'm believing the majority said, Allah look into looked into the hearts of all mankind. And he realized and he got, he came to the conclusion the best heart and the more pure heart and the heart of the Sahaba. So he chose

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To be the companion of His Messenger. Now the whys of the prophets on the lawn while he was sitting on the women that are last chosen them to be the wives of the best man, ever the best of all the sons of Adam, Mohammed Salah lohani. He was setting them yet a lawyer saying that he come up to become a follower Pahlavi Gianni Subhanallah, inelegant Asahi Chateau de la hafsa, oma selama you know, none of them are mahabhava none of them would ever think

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such evil thought that he said, but this is what is better for their hearts. And this is not only for the wives of the Prophet, but for all women until the day of Yeoman piano.

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From the son of Libya, salallahu alayhi wasallam Yahoo sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and more to our

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what is our

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What is the meaning of our

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our the user to translate on cover your outer it means you expose something that shouldn't be exposed. It means you and if I if I if I roll my sleeves none of you will say by the side cover your hour

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but if I take off my shirt and show you my you know

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what what are you guys gonna say?

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wellness

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for the law cover your honor.

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Took him I just took my shirt off. Now our is when a person exposes something that shouldn't be exposed. This is our now as soon as it women out.

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Now her face not her feed not her hair or her from head to toe. She's our

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Yakuza either Harajuku is Tasha. When she leaves her house shaytan follows her

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shavon follows her corner with acabo mata kuno Meanwhile, here on behalf

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of pre Beatty, the closest that she she can get his way to alter her law is when she is in her house. That's the closest that you can get to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now our and every time that she leaves shavon would follow. Jani emerging somehow like this is one of the things that we were dealing with last night.

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If

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two sisters, if they leave the mystery, and they stand in the parking lot

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what would happen to the brothers

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they will all make a jeweler outside them as to

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all of the young guys they will go outside the sisters in general not doing anything hard on the image on the ring decent Hey, john, hey john, head to toe.

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But because a young man when he passes by her shaytaan displays ideas in his head in his head, because her she's our.

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And then you see somehow she's attracting all those young men men to outside of the masjid. And then you have a traffic jam outside of them so nobody can come into the room, and nobody can leave. And if they only to imagine when 910 of them come out.

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That's it.

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This is why the hour. He says so long and not a two hour for either ha Roger when she leaves a station of Russia. And this is the case when she's wearing Hijab imagine when she's trying to seduce every single man that passes by her.

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in this society, that's what they do.

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You know, when they want to, you know, give compliments to each other. What do they say? Oh, she looks so sexy. Sorry, we excuse me, you know, that's what she said. They say to each other and she's like, Really? You know, and then tomorrow she you know, she wears something lighter than yesterday And then they say oh you look more attractive. And then she until Mashallah she comes up with something that shaytaan us will not even try on will not try trust me with the thing that they were Shetland will not try in public.

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In my view

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here also in front of the messages on a message listen where a sort of lines on the line while he was selling and said and it was said.

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Malik vinegar, Ravi Ravi Aloha, no semirara sort of lines on the long run. He was sending me a port. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Hi. Did you mean that message that was sort of like the ears and soul I said hello. It was them. While Sula was coming outside of the message on

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the gentleman

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aneesa Victoria and outside the MR never we men and women, all of them they came and they were you know going through dinner doing anything wrong you know but there was a traffic there heavy traffic traffic so for Carlos on the long run he was sending us to Hana finish and Akana anta Papa natori he said stay back she said to the woman stay away stay back. Huge should not walk in the middle of the road.

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Women they should not walk in the middle of the you know walkway or in the middle of the role. Because it's a Muslim another Hadith Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on

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in this Hadees laserline Isa It was 230

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I'm sorry, even a ban. Lisa Lisa was 230 was the tonic. He said women should not walk in the middle of the road they should walk into the size of the role. close to the wall. Yoda Ravi, the person who narrated the Hadith he says over the long run, he said women used to go out and they will walk the Sahaba close to the wall to the point that Jin Babs would be or would be hanging from the walls or would be

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dragged or would you call us scratched from the thorns on the branch of the trees on the street? So this is how a women's should be what if we learn from the mysteries of the Mahara? usnm Russell Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam left his special gates special door for the sisters to enter Carlo Turkana hadn't been no terracotta hadn't Berlin he says if we only leave this door for women and women will and only women used to enter from that door on nafa he said Abdullah Ahmad never interphone through that door when he was going to the movies on the lawn while he was in and I'm not going to hop out on the lawn he used to punish anyone who would go to the message through the door

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or the sisters through the door of the system from also certainly me that would

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not socialize on film soon and he titled this I'm rushing everything because we only have 10 minutes inshallah. He said he turned one of the chapters Bab instead of a nice continental jelly masala he said women used to live there Sala used to live the message before men do what kind of a suit and then he mentioned the Hadith and maybe some of Maharani he was setting them can that was sort of like some of the lohani He will send them either send them a Makita canina when he makes us he would stay a little bit what can we our own another DK came a yen for the Nyssa cobbler region and this was for the women to leave before men in Buhari he says a lot earlier he was settling for Torah one

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Allahu Allah He said we used to think he came for the minion Saudi feminine is popular and you're going to Cana minion sorry Omen and sort of feminine power. He said women used to leave before any of the men would leave.

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Now, this is a lot of the things but I want to just mention one few more things concerning this so that we can go even nicer panel Ouattara

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and this women will come to the masjid and we will love them to come to the masjid. But we will love them also to behave as a minute sorry, had half the night as our last panel with Alan described and mentioned in the

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for the regular Salawat they can come to the masjid However, it's better for them to pray at home. I

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mean, how many of you saw the long run he was selling had his own mermaids idea? And I'm sorry

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to Solano, this lady, she came to see Ursula, and like praying with you. For Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called on him to connect to him in a salata mine, he said, I know that you like to pray with me to pray with the gems that I'm leading. Was Salatu Kofi basica hydro leukemia salatu

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wa salam Tikka Tikka hydralic insalata get her genetic. He said you're solid in your room, better than the salon in the house itself. Wa salatu wa Salatu give you her genetic haven lacking in Salah tickity Daddy, what dad who have an area the front of the house, and in your we'll call it in front. They used to have the house and in front of the house. They use an open area but walls would be covering this and that praying inside of your house better than praying outside of that area in that area. But also latifi daddy Hey, look, I mean sola tickety mess God call me. I'm praying in the center of the.is better for you coming to the mission praying in your local ministry was orotic if

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you missed the accounting Hayden luckyme insalata ticket fee Miss Judy, and you praying in your local ministry.

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It's more rewarding than you come to my message must be than the visa law. While he was, however, as an abuse of the law and he was sent and said, We can never stop such as coming from the US to the masjid to Costa Rasulullah or Latin

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and your origin even massage, what we used to handle beauty in the hieronder when he said women should not come and pray in the ministry. He said we should not stop coming women from coming to the ministry and praying with the Gemma. However, their houses is better for them than coming to the mercy for Salah. Bye.

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How much time do we got? Five more minutes we'll make a 10 inshallah.

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Now, let us answer some of the questions and entertain and we will skip most of the things that I want to say here concerning that, but I think we understand. And we want to just focus on what we want to talk about. Now, first of all,

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how should you meet someone that you want to marry?

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How should you meet? How, what is this halal dating?

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What is it? I know a lot of young people yesterday when they learn the title, and this Helen dating, they were like, Really?

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I can date so and so I can talk to them. What are we talking about?

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Helen dating is we were

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a lot to individuals to come together based

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on a book of a lot sooner than that he is on the long line of us. How should you do this?

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Number one.

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There is no such thing called

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dating in Islam.

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The only halal dating is when you are married to that person, you can date that person as long as you want it take it anywhere, take it to the movies in the last season Mashallah, you know, go to take a driver to the parking when you go to the park or you go to Niagara Falls, wherever you want to do as long Seneca

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that is only handy. Now, how should we do this? And how should we answer the list of the question? Now they said, why would you build walls between us if you really want us to marry one another, and they do have a valid reason.

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They do have unreason. How do you expect this young man to meet this young lady? If we say sisters, go this way brothers go this way. Don't talk to each other. Don't look at each other. Don't you know call each other. Don't chat. Don't poke anyone on the fitna book your Facebook. You know that thing? That thing is so nasty. One why every time I I don't even have you know, I want to meet you. I will create a one called a fake one email. So I can just go

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I will never do this. Facebook, do you know they poke each?

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That's funny.

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I think they're shouting did that even come up with such idea that you go on? poke another female shape on?

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That is not permissible. Okay, then what should we do?

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Number one,

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if you're not ready for marriage, stop chasing.

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If you know

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Mashallah,

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you know, you don't have money to propose to someone to take care of someone. You don't you're not making enough, then stop thinking about marriage and focus more on something that is useful such as fasting, maybe

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fasting

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that would help. But if you marschallin you said, well by the side, you know, sooner or later have to get married. You know? What do you think about that one? You know, it's not gonna help. If you're not ready for marriage, then take it out of your mind because if you keep thinking about sister's a women, women, it will only drive you crazy.

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On one line, not only won't What if we put 20 walls he was to go over those over those 20 wall and he see

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to whatever it takes.

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So, if you get if you're ready, if you're ready for marriage, then you do the following.

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Number one, how should I meet them.

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You can meet them through your female family members.

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Your sister hire for spas, his spine, the spine, just so you go higher as his spine. So go, No, see the sisters in the messy side?

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Take their phone,

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you know?

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Is that is that true? No, I'll try that.

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But your mother and your sister,

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you tell them, I'm ready to get married. So go really see a sister from the mess Sisters of the messages, or maybe family friends or maybe someone you know, have a good sense. And from them,

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then you can say, I'm ready to get married. And that sister is good. Now when they say this is good. What should you do? What is the first thing that you do?

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Can you go and meet her

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know, in a public place?

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Can you chase her and he said, you know, rent one of those little small cars, you know, former enterprise and sit on just wait outside of her house and drive behind her slower. And when she gets into the buses drives behind the bus until she goes to the University of Toronto. And then when she know you don't need to do any of that.

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You don't need to just get her email and go to the face fiddling face. No, don't do that either. But I think you should serious in serious note, you should ask your parents I'm sorry, your mother and your sister to look for someone for you. If that is not

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available there, what do you do? As your friends, your friends, they have they have if they married the the best. And if you're single stop hanging around with single mothers. Because if you poor and you hang out with poor people, you will always be poor. So if you're single and you and you're crying for you on you, or I'm not married, I'm not married to let's look for wives and then you go Tim Horton he stayed till two o'clock am and no, you know, befriend someone who's married and say, brother, talk to your wife, I'm looking for a wife that can hook you up. sit around like this everywhere. Mashallah, everywhere. The sisters from Panama, everywhere they looking for husbands

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decent husbands, though, not a part time Muslims, decent husbands. And there are so many sister looking for husbands and there are so many brothers looking for wives, but just going through the one channels

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you going through is looking for the one? And if you if you want to study Sharia, why would you go to the church, you know, it's if you're looking for a wife, stay, don't stick with stick with the single brothers, stick with the brothers who are married and they will hook you up.

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If that would not help.

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Go to the massage.

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And the Imams of the massage. The imams are fed up with the request that's coming from the sisters. And I don't have I have no sister don't come to me after the lecture.

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I don't take any application home assistance or don't come to me. But every message as a matter of fact, some of them are sad, you know, I am always one of them.

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When it could have been one of them. foundation is one of them. You know, they have long lists

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of sisters and brothers actually long lists of sisters, small brothers.

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So, these are the ways you can say well, I can do this be in the last panel, whatever.

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Stay away

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from the internet and those crazy websites

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stay away because they not honest and truthful. And inshallah we will stop here. I have few more points. But we already five minutes behind. So common law.

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Tech to you

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who call me I

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protect you from the hat on.

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And this is the most important part that we need to talk first before I give you the tips for hodel daily.

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And I want you to know as Rasulullah Salallahu it he was sent on the last panel without also stated in the Koran

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that the maaseiah was designed in a way that he will not come in what shot but he will come bit by bit.

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It will come you will start with you know maybe a good intention.

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Maybe you really just saw this sister Marcia she's struggling that the university or you know and and then will suddenly have the university and I have nothing against the brothers in the MSA isn't this isn't the universe and under the law. Other than I think from my point of view, they should minimize the meeting. They meet every other day martial law meetings of MSA meetings or MSA

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It's like we're gonna slow overthrow weaken Obama or something like this. We don't need that many meetings in the MSS however

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I will say the shape one will say well maybe she needs help

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and then you know exchange numbers and then oh I want to help you you need to do the first year I shall not perfect victim and I will I will help you, you know, this is then you go from there one step at a time. And the second thing that you know Mashallah she's telling you all her secrets and you're telling her all the secrets that you just made a five minutes ago on Oh everything is Mashallah and you pretend that you cry from the other end of the phone by the Mashallah you watching a game or something like this? So all this is it had was formed the whole watershed on the dedicate your whole life subhanho wa Taala Yeah, you had Nadine Amano, not

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autowatch

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are who you believe did not follow the first steps of faith on the stage the shaitaan takes you from the first day he will not say Oh, Mashallah, you knew I'm new. Let's go. It doesn't happen that way. But one step at a time. One hot one one step with you know, hand you over to another stage to a third stage to a fourth stage until the master takes place.

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When you dedicate your whole wants to partner with other women in your hotel, what is she gone for in Abuja, Monroeville fashion he was,

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and then whatever follows the footsteps of shaytaan Indeed, he orders you, T for you to do indecent, indecent evil, into order you to commit indecency and will they call him facha usually, illegal sexual intercourse caught one monkey and a monkey is a Shirky.

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So this is the steps of ship. Remember even I'm sorry, the steps of a massiah remember even hongmoon there was that were they were the first people to worship idols. How does it shape I've tricked them. He did not say from the first time worship idols. No, he said, Well, these individuals that are righteous people on the die, you should mention them. And then he said, Why don't you draw them? They said why don't you fashion them? So why don't you pray to them? One step Yeah. You had an idea. I'm gonna let that watershed shirt on. Woman yet telephoto t shirt on, for in the fascia you will know.

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All sorts of sola he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he want us

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he weren't one of the brothers. And he said, mattock, to body fit nuttin our region, Amina Nisha

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matara to Body Fitness. I have not left a fitness for men greater than fitness of women. A volume is more harmful, harmful than is not just the borrower know the harm. It's so great.

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Because you as a person who knows Allah, who fears Allah, Who knows what is haram and what is Hana, and you know what to do what not to do. A woman can drive you to a Mercia.

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Women can drive you to amasya sometimes if the woman is right it's very difficult for a man to driver to amasya but women is so easy for women to grab any men and drive him into a massiah

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This is a power that Allah bless them or give them give to to the women.

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When you order something Allahu Allah He was a lamb as we all know

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jakoli dunia what taco Nisa brothers.

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Listen to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said it dunya

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be aware of this dunya and be aware of women.

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You know, I'm not asking you you know, as soon as you see them leaving the machine, run them over with vehicles and say Mashallah, that also says VR will kill them all get rid of them. No, that's not what I'm saying. That's not how that hasn't is it be aware of it is genuine.

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And be aware of women. But look at the connection.

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Most of the time

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the man wants to impress women.

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See women the way they think is different the way you guys think but don't tell them you know,

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don't tell them see, the way they think. And the way we think is completely different. What are you looking to do you want women that is beautiful. That has this this this this Mashallah women

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All the time they look for a successful person.

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Someone who has it all

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Don't you see in this in what do you call this? We'll call Hollywood What are those? What are the code red carpet when they walk in with as little you know what we street agenda, you know on this thing, you know? Don't you see?

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You see this monkey looking kind of guy with the most beautiful woman

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What is she blind? No, she's really not looking at him. She's like, nice rain.

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Beautiful, nice, fancy vehicle. She's really don't care how he looks as long as successful.

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As long as he can provide for her what she desires. She doesn't care. So, and I'm not talking about of course our sisters 111 does not but in general women who have no Dean, they look into success of the person. You and I men, they look up Okay, my She's beautiful. She's good looking. How's her Dean? She has no deal. She's beautiful and good Mashallah. Let's go with it.

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That's what we do. Right? But they are different.

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So your older son the long run, he was sudden, it dunya taco dunya taco, nessa because men, he will struggle he will work hard. He will take a double shift. He will you know, save his money so we can get married.

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What are the women do they look beautiful? They take themselves they go to the gym and they run Mashallah they spend your money on that, you know,

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the two different agendas.

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Be careful with the agenda agendas

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by so Rasulullah Allah somehow not and he said this is what I said. And he continued with this. He said, in a way to fit in that a Benny is sort of a kind of vinyasa. He said the first fitna of the sons of Benny is sort of a first test was knew that women, they couldn't control the women and that's why always happen. So what sort of lines on the long run he was suddenly he's warning us that she thought and the charts and the tricks are shaytaan he's warning us that this Masia this tree will call it the women and gender mixing or the relation between the genders. If it's not maintained based on the shediac it may lead into a hot wrong thing, especially the two points that I want to

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talk about before we're going to delay the inshallah inshallah little bit tonight if you guys don't mind Neela.

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No, rather, he just wrote me a statement of the poem, one of the one of the Shahada, he said, not a rotten favorite sandwich in a moment, you don't find a call for ramen.

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Have Yeah, I saw it differently Shama.

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Here, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is teaching us, this must be maintained based on the limits of the Sharia. Otherwise, he may, we may fall into how long and he encouraged us also in the online carriers to be where they do yomo PM, when a lawsuit Attica young with much more luminous weather.

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And this is a Panama that particular day, you really don't want people to see and know about your business. That day, I mean, some kind of law. Imagine, you want to impress Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said, I followed you the other sudama I did this and it is of course, Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one we should be concerned about. But imagine that a soul is looking at you. And alone, the angels are exposing your sins.

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And Subhanallah it's very shameful thing navigate your home, that you can Yeoman much more than lovingness. Without much food. He says that is the day where on mankind will be gathered together. And that is the day when all the doors when all the good that you do and everything will be presented.

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That day, you're among the present everything

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I want to talk about first point, the dangers of Hanwha. And what is hollow hollow is when you're alone with a female who is then was not Muharram to you in a place where nobody else would no one else has access to.

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Whether this is long term or short term.

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Whenever you saw the long run he was sending he was in like

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a moron in our Maha Maha

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11 law is a no man should be with a woman alone without Muharram in other narration Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam con Allah liahona one

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To be in rockin in Canada 30 Tony Shea on he said no man will be alone with women except the Shere Khan is the third of the three is the third of the three will lie someone will lie this young people even over the phone, over the phone, you know, if someone's with you, and a brother calls him

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You can't tell the brother change. Yeah, what's up? Hey, you know, you know, I'm doing that we're going to mess with chilling and all that, you know,

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if assistance because, yeah, I'm here, I'm sure. I'll call you later, you know, you can sense that the person on the other side is a female.

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And this is not even Hanwha this is you know, from the other end of the city maybe maybe she's in in in other in Somalia and Pakistan and Egypt Mashallah she long distance relationship Mashallah. But

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the behavior of that brother would change. And this is when they are apart. Imagine when they are together in a place that is confined, nobody else has access to a Srinivasan will ignite that feeling will ignite that emotion. And you say look, you know, nobody's looking, don't worry, she won't say he won't say anything else go and this is where everything starts with them.

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And this is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam witnesses against this in many many different hobbies. And I want to call them very quickly Sharla then we continue with the second point that will give you the tips that we need to know but it needs to be handled without a sort of lines on the law as a Montana human being will Yamanaka if you believe in a long day on the day of judgment when

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Mahara min min ha, he said whoever believes in a law on the Day of Judgment should not be alone with women without their without their guardian in Nevada Houma. shaytaan indeed a third of the three is a shape and another nourishing he says Southern law while he was in and this is what a lot of people, especially the relatives, they think they doing this doing a favor for the brother and his son in law. It was something we said quite a lot and you are in the movie about an attender on a movie but he said you do not enter do not visit women who their husbands are away from them. If the woman her husband is away from her in a trip, business trip school, but she's married, he say don't

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go and visit her.

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Don't go by yourself. Part of Atlanta Eugene Mina, mina hajikko madurodam essentially, once in you a sense of Adam, through the veins of your blood. Now look at this, why are women who are married

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because this woman she lived her life in a certain pattern, certain lifestyle? Now his her husband is not there. Now as the husband is not there and she's not afraid of anything because Mashallah she's not a young lady who was never married before who was more concerned about what a man would ask for the first night in her you know, wedding night? Now she can say this, nobody would know.

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Nobody would know how many cases how many cases that I know of that the divorce took place because the wife thought nobody would know.

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Nothing the men men don't do they do.

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They do on the worse. But why they are worse. They do that oh, I can never get pregnant.

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You know, they do and this is what do we need to know that a lot is the one who's watching we should we should be concerned more about Allah subhana wa Tada. And then maybe something along it was sentiment concerning this whole year. What the holdup is to be aware of going visiting women for Colorado gentlemen, unsought Yara solo law, Fr eight and hammer jasola what do you think about the relative canon hammer and note is a relative in some depth.

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Now all of this, if What if you let brothers is precaution for you just to away stay away from the actual sin, the actual mass and to protect yourself from this. Now the second point that I want to cover is actual free mixing that we want to address this. Now free mixing also means that when men and women are freely intermingling, talking, chatting, there is no limit where there is no limitation.

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And Allah subhana wa tada encouraged the women he said to them what corner fee booty Can you see will be you too can he say what corner the booty corner is a stay in your house water tomorrow, Jenna tomorrow, ginger, helia and Allah He says stay your homes and do not display your beauty. Like the people of the ignorance people have the job.

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He and I lost some hand on what the honest and what he does. And from one of us alone, I mean what a job and he said if you ask them anything asking behind and he jogged the curtains, and this is not only for the wives now look at this the second part of the if you hold along somehow know what, that another value come over her. I'm sorry. How do you call Obi Wan Kenobi when he says this is more pure, pure for their hearts and your heart Subhana Allah.

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Allah is not talking about

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indecent women.

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He's talking about the best of all women, the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu honey, he wasn't, you know, older than he can

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become number one. Well, hello Vienna in their hearts, the hearts of the Sahaba

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nobody can claim that they can be like them. That's why I'm believing the majority said, Allah look into looked into the hearts of all mankind. And he realized and he got he came to the conclusion the best hearts and the more pure heart and the heart of the Sahaba. So he chosen to be the companion of His Messenger. Now the wife of the Prophet sent along while he was sitting on the women that are last chosen them to be the wife of the best man ever Best of all, the sons of Adam, Hamlet's on the long run, he was setting them yet a lawyer saying that he come up to become

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Yanni Subhana Allah inelegant Asahi Chateau de la hafsa, oma selama you know, none of them. None of them would ever think

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such evil thought that he said, but this is what is better for their hearts. And this is not only for the wives of the Prophet, but for all women and so that they have Yeoman piano

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from the son of Libya, salallahu alayhi, wasallam Yahoo, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam and more to our

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what is our

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What is the meaning of our

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you know, our they usually translate Oh, cover your outer it means you expose something that shouldn't be exposed. It means Yeah, and if I if I if I roll my sleeves none of you will say brothers, I cover your hour.

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But if I take off my shirt on the show you mice, you know

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what do you guys gonna say?

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wellness.

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For the law cover You're out.

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To give him I just took my shirt off. Now our is when a person exposes something that should not be exposed. This is out. Now as soon as the women are out.

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Now her face not her feet, not her hair, or her from head to toe. She's our

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Yakuza either, is Tasha. When she leaves her house shaytan follows her

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shavon follows her corner with acabo mata kuno Meanwhile, we're here fear at the closest that she she can get his way to alter her lawn is when she is in her house. That's the closest that she can get to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now, our and every time that she leaves shaytan would follow. Jani emerging somehow like this is one of the things that we were dealing with last night.

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If

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two sisters, if they leave the masjid and they stand in the parking lot

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what would happen to the brothers

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they will all make a Judah outside MST

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all the angles they will go outside the scissors enough to not doing anything hard on the machine during decent heijunka job head to toe

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but because a young man when he passes by her shaitan displays ideas in his head in his head because her she's out

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and then you see somehow she's attracting all those young men men to outside of them.

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And then you have a traffic jam outside of them so nobody can come into the machine and nobody can leave and if they only to imagine when 910 of them come out.

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That's it.

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This is why the hour he says on the long run not a two hour for either ha Roger when she

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Leave us to shut off Russia. And this is the case where she's wearing Hijab imagine when she's trying to seduce every single man that passes by her.

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in this society, that's what they do.

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You know, when they want to, you know, give compliments to each other What do they say? Oh, she looks so sexy. Sorry, excuse me. You know, that's what she said. They say to each other, she's like, Really? You know, and then tomorrow she you know, she wears something lighter than yesterday. And then they say oh, you look more attractive. And then she until Mashallah she comes up with something that shapeless is will not even try on will not try trust me with the thing that they were Shetland will not try in public.

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In my view, played

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here also in front of the message autonomous energy. Listen, wear a suit of whites on the long run. He was selling himself and say

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magic vinegar Robbie Robbie Alomar no semirara pseudo lines on the long run. He was sending me a quote. Whoa, whoa, whoa ha Did you mean that message that was sort of like the ears and soul I said a lot he was selling. While Sula was coming outside of the mystery con region manisa fitori. And outside the mystery never we men and women, all of them they came and they were you know going through dinner doing anything wrong, you know, but there was a traffic there. Heavy Traffic traffic. So for Carlos on the long Ronnie he was sending us to

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finish a lacuna. Papa natori he said stay back she said to the women stay away stay back. Huge should not walk in the middle of the road.

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Women they should not walk in the middle of the you know walkway or in the middle of the road. Because it's a Muslim another Hadith Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on

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in this hand is Lisa Lisa It was 230

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I'm sorry, even a ban. Lisa Lisa was totally was totally. He said women should not walk in the middle of the road they should walk into the sides of the road. close to the wall. You're around the person who narrate the Hadees he says or the long run. He said women used to go out and they will walk the Sahaba close to the wall to the point that Jean Babs, when we all would be hanging from the walls or would be

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dragged or when he called us scratched from the thorns on the branch of the trees on the street. So this is how a women's should be able to feel from the missile interview some Allahu alayhi wa sallam. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam left his special gates special door for the sisters to enter the Carlota hadn't been no terracotta hadn't been in the sense if we only leave this door for women and women will only women used to enter from that door on NAFTA. He said I'm delighted. I'd never interphone through that door when he was going into the interview some of the law while he was in and I've been on the low on he used to punish anyone who would go to the message through the

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door or the sisters through the door of the system from also certainly me that

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Rasulullah is on film soon and he titled this I'm rushing everything because we only have 10 minutes in Sharma he said he told one of the chapters Bab install often is permanently jelly masala he said women used to live there Sala used to live the message before men do what cannot assume then he mentioned the Hadith interview some Allahu alayhi wa sallam can that are sort of lines on the long line he will send them either send them a Makita canina when he makes us he would stay a little bit well can we our own another advocate came in for the Nyssa cobbler region and this was for the women to leave before men in Buhari he says in the long run he was settling for Torah one law on him he

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said we used to think nicaean for the minion sorry familia Nisa cabela and yudanaka minion sorry Omen and sarafa million pound. He said women used to leave before any of the men would leave.

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Now this is a lot of the things but I want to just mention one few more things concerning this so that we can go be even nicer panel.

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And this women will come to the masjid and we will love them to come to the masjid. But we will love them also to behave as a minute sorry, had half a lot

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as our last panel with Allah described and mentioned in the

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for the regular Salawat they can come to the masjid However, it's better for them to pray at home. I

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mean, how many of you saw the Lord Ronnie he was Selim had his own humaneness

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idea and I'm sorry Anna jetty levy is on the Mojave for Kala tiara Solano this lady, she came to Sierra solo. I like praying with you for a long while he was caught on him too unlucky to have been a salata my he say I know that you like to pray with me to pray with the gym that I'm leading was Salatu Kofi basica hydro leukemia salatu

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wa salam ticka ticka hydralic Ameen. Salatu Adriatic. He said your salon in your room, better than the salon in the house itself. Wa salatu wa salam ala hydraulic hydraulic a new solid tickity Daddy, what dad who have an area the front of the house, and in your we'll call it in front, they used to have the house and in front of the house they use an open area but walls would be covering this and that praying inside of your house better than praying outside of that in that area called our salata key feeder taking a look at insalata MSgt economy and praying in the center of the.is better for you coming to the Muslim praying in your local ministry. Wa Salatu gifi mercy the Omega heydon lacking

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insalata ticket feed Miss Judy and you praying in your lock mystery is more rewarding than you come to my mastery mastery than the VSA law while he was however, as an abuse of the law it was seldom said we cannot stop sisters coming from the to the masjid because it was total lie a whole lot in this and your origin musk what we used to handle beauty in the halo law when he said women should not come and pray in the masjid. He said we should not stop coming women from coming to the ministry and praying with the Gemma. However, their houses is better for them than coming to the mercy for Sala by

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how much time do we got? Five more minutes we'll make it 10 inshallah.

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Now, let us answer some of the questions and entertain I will skip most of the things that I want to say here concerning that but I think we understand. And we want to just focus on what we want to talk about. Now, first of all,

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how should you meet someone that you want to mirror?

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How should you meet? How What is this Helen dating?

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What is it? I know a lot of young people yesterday when they learn the title and this Helen dating, they were like, Really?

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I can date so and so I can talk to them? What are we talking about?

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Helen dating is we were

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a lot to individuals to come together based

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on a book of a lot in the sun within the BDSM the long run, how should you do this?

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Number one

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there is no such thing called

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dating in Islam.

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The only halal dating is when you are married to that person, you can date that person as long as you want it take it anywhere take it to the movies and the law sees Mashallah you know go to take a driver to the park and when you go to the park or go to Niagara Falls wherever you want to do as long Seneca

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that is only handy. Now, how should we do this? And how should we answer the list of the question? Now they said Why would you build walls between us if you really want us to marry one another and they do have valid reason

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they do have valid reason. How do you expect this young man to meet this young lady? If we say sisters go this way brothers go this way don't talk to each other don't look at each other Don't you know call each other don't chat don't poke anyone on the fitnah book your Facebook you know that thing? That thing is so nasty one lie every time I I don't even have you know I want to immediately I want to create a one called a fake one email so I can just go

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I will never do this. Facebook Do you know they poke each?

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That's funny.

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I think they're shouting did that even come up with such idea that you go poke another female shape on?

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That is not permissible. Okay, then what should we do?

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Number one,

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if you're not ready for

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Marriage, stop chasing.

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If you know,

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martial law,

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you know you don't have money to propose to someone and take care of someone, you don't you're not making enough and stop thinking about marriage and focus more on something that is useful such as fasting, maybe

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that would help. But if you Mashallah, you said, well where this aid, you know, sooner or later have to get married? You know, what do you think about that one? You know, it's not gonna help. If you're not ready for marriage, then take it out of your mind. Because if you keep thinking about sisters, a women women, it will only drive you crazy.

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On one line, not only won't What if we put 20 walls, it was to go over those over those 20 wall. And you see,

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do whatever it takes.

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So if you get if you're ready, if you're ready for marriage, then you do the following.

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Number one, how should I meet them?

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You can meet them through your female family members,

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your sister, hire for a spouse to spy on the spy and just say go hire as a spy. So go? No, see the sisters in the messy side?

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Take their phone number.

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You know?

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Is that is that true? No. Don't try that.

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But your mother and your sister.

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You tell them I'm ready to get married. So go really see a sister from the mess Sisters of the ministries or maybe family friends or maybe someone you know, have a good day

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and form them.

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Then you can say I'm ready to get married. And that sister is good. Now when they say this is good. What should you do? What is the first thing that you do?

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Can you go and meet her

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know in a public place?

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Can you chase her and he said, you know, rent one of those little small cars you know, former enterprise and sit on just wait outside of her house and drive behind her slower and when she gets into the buses drives behind her boss until she goes to University of Toronto and then once you know you don't need to do any of that.

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You don't need to just get her email and go to the face fiddling.

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Now don't do that either. But I think you should serious in serious note you should ask your parents and sorry your mother and your sister to look for someone for you. If that is not

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available there what do you do? As your friends, your friends they have they have if they married the the best. And if you're single stop hanging around with single brothers. Because if you poor and you hang on with poor people, you will always be poor. So if you're single and you and you cry for your new or I'm not married, I'm not married to let's look for wives and then you go to court and he stayed up till two o'clock am and no you know be friends someone who's married and say brother, talk to your wife I'm looking for a wife that can hook you up Susan I like this everywhere Mashallah, everywhere the sisters Subhanallah everywhere they looking for husbands decent husbands though not a

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part time Muslims, decent husbands and there are so many sisters are looking for husbands and there are so many brothers looking for wives, but you just going through the wrong channels

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you going through looking for the wrong and if you if you want to study Sharia, why would you go to the church, you know, if you're looking for a wife, stay don't stick with stick with the single mothers stick with the brothers who are married and they will hook you up.

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If that would not help

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go to the massage.

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And the moms of the massage the Imams are fed up with the request is coming from the sisters. And I don't have I have no sister don't come to me after the lecture.

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I don't take any obligation on the sisters or don't come to me. But every message as a matter of fact some of the massage you know I am always one of them.

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When it could have been is one of them. foundation is one of them. You know they have long list

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of sisters and brothers actually long lists of sisters, small brothers.

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So these are the ways you can say well, I can do this be in the last panel with

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it stay away

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from the internet and those crazy websites

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Stay away because they not honest and truthful. And inshallah we will stop here. I have few more points, but we already five minutes behind so common law