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Sins Of The Tongue

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Saad Tasleem

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Was it? Yeah, but I mean, a lot of money, we'll have to worry about it.

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So the topic I have today is Sins of the tongue. And really what I wanted to speak about today is not so much the particular Sins of the tone. But the issue of

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the weight of our words, and how the words that we speak, in our city app actually have a [???]ty apples it to a high, high standard. So this is why you'll find that our city

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goes through great lengths to watch a person's tongue.

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And this is why you'll find that in the city out something like they honor the honor of a Muslim is something which is very sacred. And this is why the prophets, I send them in his farewell football, you have to imagine that this is the last one of the last couple pilgrimages that has seldom performed.

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And this is obviously an important message that he's about to give to the room. And this was the one of the biggest gatherings of Muslims around him was to send them before Christ says death. And so you have to imagine that this is something very important that the process is about to tell the people. So that's why you're finding this farewell.

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Farewell pilgrimage, you'll find the message is quite general. And a lot of the message has to do with the rights of your brothers and your sisters. And one of the first thing that wants to send them says is in the development.

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How long have

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you said that, Your Honor, Your Honor, and your wealth, your property, and the blood, meaning the life

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of you with all of you is how long upon you mean is hard for you to transgress upon these things, of your fellow brothers and sisters, and this is something which has told us is something which is very sacred. So you see that the Sharia goes to great lengths to protect the honor of a Muslim.

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What is said about a Muslim how a person is treated in a community or society, the city doesn't take this lightly. And this is why you'll find that it's not okay in Islam, to simply just say whatever you want, about whoever you want. Rather, we are held accountable for the words that come out of our mouth. And this is what

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we're speaking about the issue of backbiting.

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Allah azza wa jal likened it to eating the dead flesh of another human being. And the reason why this imagery is so vivid, because of the severity of the issue. So alive, so it says,

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Call it major,

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right with any of you like to eat the dead flesh of your brother. But you will certainly hate this. So Eliza, what it is saying, just like you would hate to eat the dead flesh of another human being, you know, I don't think there's a single person amongst us who would be okay with eating the dead flesh, let alone a human being, even if an animal like we wouldn't even eat an animal. But now imagine a brother or a sister who would never eat, they're dead. So we're gonna say, just as you need to do that action. Similarly, you should hate backbiting,

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speaking about someone behind their back.

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Now, one of the things I wanted to talk about was, why does one of the sins of the tongue occur in the first place? So a lot of people tend to fall into Sins of the tongue. And one of the first reasons is that many people don't understand what the sins of the tongue actually are. So you'll hear people say things like backbiting and slander and stuff like that, but they don't quite understand what that means. So if you hear someone backbiting, for example, and you tell them, Listen, brother or sister, you're backed by them. They'll say, No, no, I'm not that buddy. I'm just, I'm just saying what I heard. Or they'll say, I'm not saying something, which isn't true. You know,

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this actually happened, or I saw this person do this. And they'll say, you're not really backed by. So it's incumbent upon us to go back to the definition of the process, and see how he did.

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So he says, I send them to the companions.

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He said, You know what Ava is? That way? He said, you know,

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companions of your lasagna, and they said a lot is messenger Novus, and the President said, The cuca, half the money, he said, it is to say about your brother, something that they would dislike.

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That's it, nothing more. And they asked in the city also law what if what we're saying is true.

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Yeah, he may dislike for us to say this statement is true. And the first set of said that if you are saying something which is true, then you have talked with them, and if you say something which is false about them, and you slander them, that's another thing.

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So the issue isn't, you know, I'm just saying something which is true. The issue is what this person like for you to say this about them or not. That is the litmus test of that body. So anytime someone says something, and you know, this is mostly for us as an individual, if we say something about someone, the only question we should ask ourselves is, would this person like for us to say this or not? If the answer is no, then we have fallen into backbiting, then that's a serious issue. Because, you know, a lot of times we tend to look at these outward sins, and think they're very severe, and they are severe, you know, major sins like zinda, or drinking and stuff like that. But we forget

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that the sins of the tongue are also major sin. So the sin of backbiting somebody is a major sin, it is on the level of something like committing sin,

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right, and we tend to be literal, these sins, and you don't understand the sins, we don't understand the severity of the sins of the tongue. And this is why it's easy, first of all,

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but imagine now that when one of us is speaking, we have it in our mind that, you know, I can be committing a major sin simply by saying something about something that they wouldn't like us to say,

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I have to ask you, I do think he would speak a lot less.

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Right? If we were to keep that in mind. And listen, if I say something, and this person doesn't like what I'm saying, then this could very easily put me into leadership. And a lot of times, it's not even the words. And this is kind of the how how, how much weight is [???]ty, I guess to you know, speaking about others, there's a time when I sort of lost that.

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As you know, she loved herself very, very much, very, very much to the point where she would at times, because of her intense love for the positive sentiment, she would get jealous and otherwise. So once she said to the facility, she said, yeah, this sort of law has to come in Sofia. And then she stopped. She said, It is enough for you that Sophia is and then she just pointed with her hand like this.

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And what she was saying was the opposite of

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what she was saying was that it is enough for you that Sophia is, as she is pointed like this, indicating the Sophia is short. Right? And this is Chelsea saying look, Sophia is short on progress of evolution, love me more. And this is something you know, obviously, I was very young at that time. And you have to realize that when things like this happens, not something actually which goes against the companions, or I totally love that this is actually a praise for I fell in love. Because realize that she was receiving.

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Right? So the process seller obsessed with it. He says yeah, in the

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low season.

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He said that he said a word a single word that it was mixed in the water of the ocean was moved out.

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Right, this is how severe the symptoms calendar that this is very severe, which you have done, which we have said, and notice that the person who says Canada a word, but did she actually say a word?

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No, she actually just did a sharp, she just pointed, she indicated something. But the profits on the model understand and even considered that part of this same issue. So sometimes we can do something as as insignificant as rolling our eyes, or saying, you know, pointing like that and saying basically indicate like, Can you believe this person, right, or go behind someone and you know, make a face or something like that. And obviously, this person saw us doing this, they wouldn't appreciate that they would have liked it, they would actually get hurt by and this action here can also fall into backfire. Just because we haven't actually spoken It doesn't mean it can't follow you

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back by so that is the issue. issue. One of the first issues is not actually understanding what backbiting and what the sins of the tongue actually are. And this is why a lot of people tend to fall into backbiting.

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There's a famous scholar, by the name of

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Allah.

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He was a very spiritual person. And you know, you are most pious people in his time, but from the love of data. He said that if a person speaks about somebody else, in a negative way, so he said, if a person says anything negative about someone else, they're gonna fall into one of three categories. He said, either they're going to mention something about someone which is true.

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Right, but it's something that they dislike, obviously, something negative. He said, this is this is backbiting or he said that they're going to mention something about someone which isn't true.

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He said, This is what slender, right? This is what he said or they're not they're gonna say something about someone

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Which they don't know if it's true or untrue. So basically, they heard something, and it's passed it on. Right? They don't know if it's true or not, but they heard it, and they pass it out. And he said, this is if this is rumor mongering, and all three of these issues, all these things are major sins, Sins of the tongue. So in essence, if we say something about someone, in a negative way, something that they would have liked for us to say, there's a very high chance that we fall into a major sin. And this is what he loves, and

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is trying to make us aware of

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this. The second reason why people tend to fall into

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Sins of the tongue is the human desire for revenge.

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The prophets, I send them he wants to ask the companions of the love that he said.

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He said, you know, who was considered bankrupt. And obviously, the companion said, he also loves, it's obviously someone who doesn't have any, any wealth or any property. And the profits of a lot of them said that the movement is the truth is the truth. That person is the one who comes on the Day of Judgment, with their fasting, and their PM, and they're praying and their good deeds and their charity, etc, etc, etc. But what happens

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at the same time, they had slandered this person, they have backed with that person that harm this person. And for this reason, that Muslim tells us that all these good deeds that they have done, are not taken away from them, and given to the people that they had harmed, or they in fact, are dead, slender, they have talked about what they had gossiped about. And when their good deeds finish the bad deeds of that person, they have gotten them wrong, or not placed on top of this person.

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The person that this is truly a bankrupt person, the one who did so much in their life, they came every day, for example, in Ramadan, Mashallah, they came, they prayed, they went to a charity, and they did so much in their life. But they didn't save anyone from their town.

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And no one was safe from their tongue, it'd be very easy for them to talk about other people. Right, the honor of it also was not sacred with them. And this is why this person is truly bankrupt on the on the on the dictator, right, if a person had so much, but it's all taken away from them. Now, why do I mention this under the category of revenge? I mentioned this under the category of revenge. Because a lot of times, people think that if they have been bitten, or they have been talked about, that the best way to counter this is to say something bad about the other person. So if somebody says something about you, obviously, we're gonna get upset, we're gonna get mad. So our natural

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desires to say, you know what, let me tell you something about that. Right? If we heard somebody talking about us, will say, you know, what, who is this person to speak about me? Let me tell you about that. Let me tell you about their family. Let me tell you about what they did in the past. And there's so much irony in the action. Because when we turn around and backlight somebody else, or speak bad about about them, who are we really harming?

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Who really harming occurs?

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We're harming ourselves. Right? So instead of getting any type of revenge, we're only harming ourselves. And this is why the same seller love data.

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In his time, a man came to Him. And He said to him, that so and so has been talking bad about you. They have been, they have been gossiping about you again, saying such silly things about you. And first of all, love hasn't gotten got very upset. He got very upset, he said, hasn't yet been found in messenger other than you, meaning Why are you doing this work of bringing us from here there? He said, Get out of her. He sent him away.

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Then the Illa from Allah to Allah, he goes to this person's house, the one who has been backbiting and slandering the man

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with a plate of data. He knocks on the door, opens the door. Obviously, he's very surprised to see the event. very surprised, because he had been talking bad about the email, right, and a person. You know, if you talk bad about someone, the last thing you want to see is them showing up at your front door. You'll get scared, but it gets surprised because he sees a man with a plate of data. And the man says to him, he says, I have been heard that you have been talking about me. So I wanted to repay you.

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And so I brought you this plate and he said, I only regret that I cannot repay you with that which you have paid me. What is he speaking about here?

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He's speaking about, in essence, the same level of head for giving me your goods.

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All right, Zach Lochhead for giving me a good deal. And this is why one of the earliest scholars, he would say is that if I were to, he said, if there's anyone deserving of me backbiting, then it's my parents, because they're most deserving of money.

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Right? If we were to pass by anyone, because in essence, we're really harming ourselves. When we speak about someone, we're giving up our our good deeds, and we're taking their bad deeds that allows us to protect us.

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The third reason is peer pressure.

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Sometimes we fall into since the tongue because of peer pressure. Now, I know a lot of people may hear the word peer pressure, and they tend to think of like young children, or people in high school or middle school and stuff like that. But I tell you that adults very much fall into peer pressure. How does this happen? This happens at that gathering, where a couple of brothers have gathered together, a couple of sisters have gathered together. And by the way, people tend to think that women are more likely to gossip and talk, there may be some truth to that. But it doesn't mean that the brothers are not free from that, right, you'll find a lot of gatherings of brothers get

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together, and they do the exact same thing. Right. And sometimes this is actually better often brothers will, they'll have more restraint by talking about others and the brothers vote. And that's really an unfortunate situation that we're in. But you'll you'll see, like an average gathering, in this gathering,

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somebody comes up, so somebody's name is brought up. And somebody says, you know, this person did this to me, and they did that to me, or, you know, this person is like this, and like that. And then somebody else says, You know what, they did this to me too, or, you know, this person is bad. And I've seen them do this or that. And there's another person in the gallery. And they don't really know this person, they've never really interacted with this person. But they feel left out of this conversation. Right? They want to be part of this session of talking about this person. So they'll join in and say, You know what, I think you're right, you know, what I think I might have, you know,

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seen him do this, or seen her do this also. And this is peer pressure, where we're sitting in a gathering. And just because we want to feel part of the conversation, we want to take part in what's going on, will allow this to happen. And we may even contribute to this backbiting. Now, for us as Muslims, if we're sitting in a gathering,

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and someone is being talked about, either backbiting or slander, or rumors, we as Muslims, we have one of three options. And when I say one of three options, I mean, we only have three options. Nothing besides us. Number one, is a person who tell us that our best option is that we actually defend the person who's being backed into their center. So we say, listen, what you're saying about this person is wrong, and you're backbiting. So I urge you to stop, this person is not like this, and they do not deserve to speak about them like this. This is the first and best thing to do when we're sitting in a gathering with someone who's spoken about. The second thing that we can do. And

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this is the lesser degree is that we simply make a copy of the situation upon the accuracy. So we say Listen, I don't know if what you're saying is true or not. But this action that's happening here of us talking about somebody else, this can either be backbiting or slander. So I urge you to stop, you're not defending the person, you're not defending your brother or sister, which is their right upon you that you have to do defend them. But you don't you don't do that. But at the very least you say, Listen, this is what was happening here is backbiting or slander. And this is the major symbolism of sisters. So I think we should stop. The third and final option we have. And this is the

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least that we can do as a Muslim as a movement as a believer is that we get up every week that we don't sit in a gathering where that fighting is being taken place.

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This is the very, very least that we can do as a as a belief, meaning it's not okay for us to just sit on the sidelines in India, you are not taking part of it. You're not doing anything is not allowed for us to sit in a gathering in which somebody needs backfilling or slander, or which rumors are being passed around. And this is a misconception a lot of lot of people have where they feel that if they're sitting at a gathering, and they're not taking part in the backbiting or the slander that they're somehow Okay, well, they're somehow better than the other people. Right, realize that you're just as sinful you can be even more sinful because you're making income you're not stopping

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this. So the very least that we can do as a as a believer, is to get up and leave as a visor that says when I'm in love with

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that, speaking about the believers that it is those who, who turn away from ill speech means they don't sit down

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Listen, they get up and they leave, they go away. Right? They excused himself from the situation. And as we know that in Islam, it's not just the optimal outcome of sinning, sometimes simply being part of a sin with our with our ears or with our eyes, can make us fall into that sin as unwisely said, in the sim.

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That you're here, you're here and your site, right, and your heart about all of these things you will be questioned, you will be questioned about the things that you've exposed yourself to. So if you're sitting in a gathering or something that is happening, and you have the ability to get up and leave, you'll be questioned about that. Why did you expose your ears and your eyes or your heart to this? You know, this is actually a very big issue for us, especially living in the West, where a lot of times what we'll take the passive approach to sin, will say, you know, I'm not I'm not really doing it myself, what's the big deal, and we forget that our heart gets impacted that when we're

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sitting at a gathering, or we're sitting in an area where sins have been taking place, it has an effect on our heart. And this is why you have the issue of shisha often comes up or hookah or rasa, as some people call it,

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you know, Saturday that you called myself.

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And one of the things that's associated with with shisha and hookah and stuff like that, is not so much the sin itself. You know, even though I do not see any differences in the lives of scholars that it is how to smoke shisha. Right, but some people are under the misconception that, you know, it's not as bad as cigarettes. So therefore, it's somehow okay. But let's, let's put that aside, even apart from the actual act of smoking, shisha, what happens in these gatherings over people smoking is usually a pious gathering of people remembering a life or death is fondly recited is anything positive happiness. Usually, it's a bunch of guys sitting around, smoking t shirts, maybe

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drinking tea, maybe talking about others, maybe watching sports. And now it's become way worse than that. When we have other stuff like that, where guys and girls get together, people hang out. And you know, this is this is not a good environment. Right. But I believe it is an expose themselves to that they will sit together like that. So you may not be an issue with that, or she said we should. But you should have issue with with what's surrounding what's going on in this environment. And as a believer to sit in that can be part of that environment. I mean, you as a leader, you should hold yourself to higher standards and others, right? Because it's not about others. It's not about you

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telling people that listen, I'm more pious than you are, I'm better than you because I will not attend this gathering. It's not about that. It's about you cared about your heart, and said, Listen, I will expose my heart. Because my heart is very precious to you. I understand all the matters in my life revolve around the heart as the promises and have said that in your body is a morsel of flesh.

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Right?

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So is it a cell, the whole body the sound? What

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percentage is that if it is unsound, if it is messed up in some way, your heart gets messed up and it gets corrupted, and your whole body corrupt and the oil actually corrupted. It's a matter of the heart, which you exposure. So if you're exposing your heart to people gossiping and talking and slandering and stuff like that, rest assured it's gonna have an impact on your heart. And sooner or later, it may lead you too are very much involved in itself. And this is why we look at the issue of people cursing,

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the more you expose yourself to people who curse a lot, the more desensitized to get to it and the less of an issue that will be free. The more used to it you get, the less you'll cringe every time you hear the cursor. A for those of you don't know, I spent the last seven years of my life in Saudi Arabia, University of Medina, and had the levels of citizen knowledge in university, all students are coming there to learn.

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And I never heard a person I single person my seven years, I didn't hear a single personal while I was in the university. But I remember as soon as that as I would come to the US back to visit my family, and that first cursor out here, it was a lie, it would make my heart shake, because I'm just not used to here. And I tell you, and this is a very sad thing for me to share with you. But I've been back for a while. And every so often, I do hear curse words, right? Because that's just the society we live in. And I'm not speaking about non Muslims as well. And it doesn't have that same impact that it has, that it had when I was in the university, because I wasn't exposed to it at all

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back then. Right. So it really, really shocked when I heard somebody say personal now obviously it bothers me. But if if I'm really afraid that it doesn't bother me like it used to bother me. And I know the reason is because I'm more exposed to it now. And that is the same issue when it comes to

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backbiting

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where the most, the more we expose ourselves to it, the more we forget to think that's okay. It's okay to talk about system, it's okay to talk about it rather, it's okay to say, you know, I heard this, or this, or this,

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rather than this or that, right. And a lot of times our communities and our families, very sad thing to say, it's become common practice, it's not a big deal. So commodities will be sitting and you're talking about someone and nobody cares. It's just like part of the conversation, or

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even like the younger generation, you know, they're not in Mississauga, they're sitting in the talking about somebody. And it's not a big deal.

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Because nobody really, they become so desensitized to.

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A lot of the sad things

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is that, you know, one of my teachers would say that, if you have a friend, or a friend who backed by somebody else, or gossip about somebody else, rest assured, as soon as you leave, they will be talking about

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that if others are safe from their house,

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you will be safe from

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that just because they're your friend.

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If there's somebody is in the habit of backfiring, in the habit of talking about it, they will surely talk about YouTube.

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The other reason

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is the issue of Justin flake. So sometimes you will fall into the sins of the tongue,

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just and play. So for some reason to think that if you've said something about somebody else in a joking manner, that for some reason, it's okay. If for some reason, it's not a big deal. Right? As long as you put some humor into it, it's not that big of a deal. That's actually very sad. Because when we say something bad about somebody else, or something negative about somebody else, in a joking way, we're actually going to seize upon ourselves. Number one is the seduction, talking about somebody else.

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Number two is the sin of making fun of somebody else. So what works, we're going to sins upon ourselves. And the issue with you know, laughing and joking aside that doesn't tell us we can laugh and joke, right? But it's not tells us we cannot laugh and joke at the expense of others. That's one of the things we can't do.

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Right? And one of the reasons is because it's very easy to fall into the trap. And you'll notice that a person who is known to be like, Joker, somebody that knows a lot, a lot, right? Usually their boundaries of what is okay to say what's not okay to say gets blurred. Right, that person, joke's on you at some point, you know, then Procter and Gamble, because they feel it's okay to do our job. And this is why if you've ever seen like stand up comedians, you know, not suggesting god what that means. But you'll see they'll say the most obvious things, and things that society will never accept. But because they're doing stand up comedy, somehow it's okay. Right can be racist. It's not

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a problem. You can talk about integrating them. It's not a problem. Right? You can curse out whatever you want to use the filthiest examples, and nobody cares. Why, why are people okay with it? Because it's done in a laughing and joking manner. Right. But it's not, it doesn't make a difference. Like I said, it could be worse. If we're backbiting and stuff aside, or somebody can be worse, and we're falling into two sins.

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The other issue is the issue of suspicion, and

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seeking the faults of others going out of our way to look for the faults of others. And this is how I would say a very, very serious problem. And I'll say it's like the evil brother of the brother, the partner in crime of sins of the tongue, that's looking for the shortcomings of others, going out of our way to see the faults of others.

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But

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he said we were suspicious, because suspicion is the worst of false speech. So when we start suspecting others, right, this is what we don't know, we're not really sure if somebody did something wrong or not, but we start to assume that they did something wrong. An example of this is

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let me give you a really vivid example. You see somebody walking out of a liquor store,

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right? You see a brother walk out of liquor store, you say, I know for a fact, for example, so I know for a fact you went in there.

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And then what happens, you go tell somebody else, like oh, I saw this girl walking around with a pistol. So it has appeared.

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Right? And this is how

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this is a one because we're not sure. We're not sure we're not sure whether there may be this other one in there to make income from what's happening. Maybe he went there to get somebody else out of there. Maybe you went in there for a good reason. Maybe one of their bypasses done, you notice, but when we begin to suspect and have suspicions this, this is a slippery slope that leads us

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To sense of the tone,

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and going out of our way to find the shortcomings of others. And that is one of the issues that has really plagued our community where we have to find the faults of someone. And a lot of times, it may even be like an email. So for example, somebody in the community doesn't like it email. Now to put that down, though,

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for as long as you figure, right, or even somebody that you don't like, so you have an issue with a sister, for example, or whether it has an issue another brother, they'll go out of their way to look for the strength. And the process in them said, you know, this is one of the more scary I did not come across in my life. And it's very scary, because

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this is something which is very common, like I said, but the person that is very severe

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is the one who follows the goals and seeks for the faults of their brother listening right to

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the alarm will seek the fault of this person.

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And then the president says, remember

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that, and whoever his faults are softer among among them,

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and cause them to be one or cannot be digital, even if he's hiding in the depths of his house. Right. So when we go out of our way to seek the force of others, person tells us that in this case, our law will seek, seek our form and expose us, right, and there's nothing that we can hide from.

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Right, and none of us are perfect. None of us are agents, we all make mistakes, as

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long as I make mistakes that we sin, right. But the issue is a wise aware of ourselves. And the last thing that we want is that

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exactly everything that we do, we can't hide it from above. So when we go out of our way to seek the others love exposes,

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it seems to make it a habit to go out and seek the force of others write a blog post and at some point in their life, a lot of exposure.

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And when a lot of sources your fault, it's not going to be a small deal of love.

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Right? And this is why I say, associated

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with your own business, right? Look out for yourself. Right? Be careful, we're talking about somebody else, be careful when going out of your way to seek the fault of your fellow brother, or your fellow sister. Now, I didn't want to

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just leave you like that.

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I wanted to share with you a couple of things

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that we can do to make sure that we are conscious of the sins of the tongue. Number one, first understand why

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and why the politics and so if you understand that, you know what he says, You know what, it's as simple as me saying something about somebody has something to say. And you really apply that in our life, we stop saying a lot of things.

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Secondly, understanding how severe of an issue is, and understanding that the words that come out are now have a lot of weight. And understanding also, that we're going to be held accountable for each and every word. You know, we can deceive ourselves at times to think that, you know, I said it, and it's gone and

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done. But we forget that a lot of has angels according the words that we say.

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Right? Every time you say something, there's an angel writing it down. Why is the one of the angels? Iraqis, right? Now that

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a person doesn't say four words, except that there's someone can

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write why it's so powerful. So we have to answer for these things. And when we say something, you will be held accountable. So when we show up with a business question for you, why did you say this about this person?

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Or this thing that you said, this is backbiting? And we'll be held accountable for that. That's when we think about that. And we consider that we ponder that, that'll that'll help us stay away from sins on the tongue.

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also learning to to

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mind your own business, right. And like I said, one of the issues of you know, finding the faults of others, we have to pay ourselves to monitor our own business. And this is something I notice on this current day, where we have a Facebook and Twitter and stuff like that. Everything seems to be like public news, right? We really have to work hard to train ourselves to be like, you know what? Number one I need to have like a private life and a public life. Right? So it's not a cool thing to just post everything on Facebook or Twitter, just tell me but that's awesome.

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But even for others, right, we have to learn to monitor.

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Right? train ourselves to take care of ourselves. First and foremost, like I said, at the beginning of this talk, it's the issue of the heart, it's a matter of the heart that we really have to take care of our heart. And we have to look out for ourselves, there's a heavy for the system.

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And this heavy, is very often quoted, and you'll see like people often post on Facebook, but people will,

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people will often talk about men.

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And this is

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very easy to talk about, it's a beautiful idea to hear. Mashallah so amazing. But it's very hard to implement, almost nobody implements this, the person said

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that the one believes in the law from the last day

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that they should save that which is good, or stay silent.

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Right.

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But now, I want you to take this heavy and apply it to every single thing that comes out of your mouth.

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And that's a task which is difficult. And that's a task that we need to work towards. And really, if we were to apply this to the things that we say, a lot of what we say was cut down, maybe half maybe the majority of what we say will cut down, if every time we were about to say something, Is this good? Or

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if it's not.

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Right. So I often tell people like it's not even the value.

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And like, right in your, in your, in your room on your wall to yourself. Right, or, you know, put it as like a background of your phone, where like, you can see it all the time you see the words that are similar on either listen, be careful what you say, if it's not good, then stay silent.

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And I want to end with one of the famous sayings of the art. Some people have attributed this to some of the early scholars, I haven't actually found the true source for it. But I know that this is something that are often quoted as a tribute to one of the earliest scholars in Islam. And it's a beautiful, beautiful thing. And we'll actually heard this, it really resonated with me. And I remember, I was at the university where my teacher says in the class, and I immediately wrote down and asked her first and foremost to work on teaching. And all of us are preparing it and sharing it.

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So they don't have this thing where they say, Kelly, listen to Joe,

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that a word that you haven't spoken yet is your president. What can you let them know that they kept them, we'll be happy that you added Casio. But a word once spoken, once said will make you this person.

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Right? Kenny, this is a single word inside of word camp is your prisoner, meaning you control it, you control one of the state policy.

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Right? You control the outcome of it. And it's all in your control.

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What can you learn?

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and the word was spoken once you say that you

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need to set it off that you have to deal with the consequences of this word of this thing that you've said you're not accountable for this. First and foremost, a lot of

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adults you have spoken at one second, the implications it has on other people, right.

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And you have to deal with the consequences. Right and this one has sort of said if you don't have anything good to say the stakes are a lot longer conditional approval to make