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Homemade Happiness #9 – Disciplinary methods

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smilla from the left So to summarise Odessa Mr.

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Carter This is real results you will come up to homemade happiness and this is episode number nine session number nine inshallah tada and just to give

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a minute or two for people to join in shallow data

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and as they're joining

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I want to take this opportunity to tell all of you to come back and say read a the combo box of happiness mobile where in the world have you been a fee? You have missed out so many so many so many beautiful amazing things. You should go back and watch all the previous sessions my brother and I do

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it at home a

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lot mo ba la casa de a taco a taco a dog. A dog on a dog on a dog

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a dog on a dog on a dog

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a a dog or a dog or a dog? He co a dog co mobarak owns a dog on a donkey kong

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This is how we do it in Morocco my way this is the other his as his way and don't go home and don't go

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and say hey do calm and don't call mobile I can say he a dog called a dog called mo Baba. say

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more about Arkansas.

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As people like come in, let me greet them my way. A dog or a dog or a dog come say hey dog calm a dog calm mobile. I can sell

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a dog or a dog or a

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dog on a dog go move on.

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Ah who's gonna work on me like this? Nobody know buddy. How's everybody doing? Mobile I couldn't say they don't come to La tokuma Saturday better to come and shout Allahu Donna to Ababa LA to Kumasi and it better to come in with a dog calm and dog calm a dog.

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A dog on a dog calm.

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ie a dog or a dog or a dog.

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is a dog or a dog or

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a dog or a dog or a dog come say a dog or a dog or a dog comes out he a dog or a dog or a dog come say hey knock on a dog come home.

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Say this is for all of you my brothers and sisters at the como Bala can say via Moroccan fazzy khazaee way Hey though, come on back inside the fazzy my black sheep way right this is how I do it. This is how we do it back home this is in fact how I do it. You know so so that might come up late. I don't want to catch up. It'll come mobile I can say for those of you who are already have broken their fast it has started for you. For me, it's the morning shot Allahu taala I have not broken my fast yet. So it is tomorrow in sha Allah who Donna I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to accept from all of you. Ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless all of you. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to accept

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your invalid from all of you. You know, what can I say? What can I say? It's been an exceptional Ramadan. And we want to make it in Sharla hotel and exceptional, a bit Neela so to masala Chan, I'm going to go to my budget, me and the Imam just to be doing to compete lots and shallow to either live. I'm going to be doing the tequila live in sha Allah who taught me that today, inshallah Tada. And I'm going to go live so that you can all join me with us to Kabira insha Allah who data a dog on a dog on a dog.

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A dog on a dog on a dog.

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A dog on a dog. Whoa, whoa, Baba can say no, go on a dog.

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Go move Arkansas ID This is it. All right, let's go back to homemade happiness. My brothers and sisters Welcome Welcome back. Welcome back to

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the

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episode number nine of homemade happiness, homemade happiness.

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Yesterday we spoke about, you know, disciplinary methods, you know, that are happening now, currently with our kids, some of the disciplinary methods that I mentioned.

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I mentioned, you know, the method of giving orders and commands, the method of refraining don't do this, don't do that. And the other method that a lot of parents are using,

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which is Warning Warning if you do this, and you know, you'll get this if you do this, you will be punished if you do that. This is the you know, there's other

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disciplinary methods such as

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the brain. There's other methods like the blame, lot of blame and as these artists are in America, recapitalization when I spoke about yesterday, blame provocative advice, threats

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commands and orders, lectures, right giving lectures

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Yes, a comparison comparing your kids with others you know, ridiculing them some times you know, you know as if you know when you're you you're if they were if they were to do something wrong You're ridiculous them you know work towards your brain while you're thinking you're not worth it you're not worth being here you're this and that so these are some of the

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free I mean like mid disciplinary methods that are used out there but I shared with you one

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I shared with you I shared with you that foundation that means we know that foundation number nine if you remember foundation number nine who remembers foundation number nine? Who remembers the foundation Principle number nine Hmm?

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Who remembers that number nine

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foundation number nine I shared that with you yesterday. So we have nine so far and today I'm going to be sharing one more inshallah who tada one more inshallah All right, so give me what's foundation number nine. I love you all. I love everyone I love you on everybody All right, here we go. There we go. I'm going I don't know how to give you guys a high respect and appreciation is that colophons jazz Yeah, masala says exactly. So foundation number one is about worshiping Allah together foundation number two, value in your family they

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number three live with mercy number four, the families of blessing number five, before the role of the Father number six the father the friend and we talked about that a lot. Father, the friend number seven, the mother the mother the engine for motivation, right that was number number six. Number seven, Number eight, the the language of compassion and love. And number nine, respect and appreciation, respect and appreciation. Remember when I said about respect and appreciation and this isn't about the language of love the language of compassion, which is the HA samosa you know, the staff, the staff of Mossad, the magical staff of Moosa. So I'm about to start with Charlotte Allah

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This is just a quick intro of what we spoke about so far. And I also gave you some examples of Prophet Mohammed as to them on how he used you know, some some of his disciplinary methods some of our new send them one more time, one more time, a dog or a dog or a dog.

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A dog on a Docomo bot Arkansas, he heydo a dog or a dog

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on a door como

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ID. All right. From time to time, I'm gonna have to come back and say in that in Sharla, who tada and at the same time, en la, la, la,

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la, you

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long, long, long, long, long,

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long, long, long, long, long,

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long, long, long, long, waiting

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in profit from hamadani sort of center

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I gave some examples yesterday about you know this some of his methods he uses Salalah and he sent them

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like when he was going walking in the streets of Medina busy that came this girl and she said yeah that's all I want you to go with me to the market to buy some stuff. He left everything on hold he held her hand and then he went with her son Lola who already he was sending it his salatu salam Prophet Mohammed Elisa to sue them.

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I'm gonna give you Now I mentioned

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other discipline disciplinary methods used by a lot of people. How about my recommendations? Would you like to hear my recommendations?

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Would you like to hear my recommendations or shallow data on how some disciplinary methods you know how you could use them with your children and Sharla husana? How you can use these disciplinary methods with your children how you can bring homemade happiness inshallah, those of you who have children and those who don't have children, everybody inshallah, who will benefit from this inshallah since 1998. omona. manisa. muhabba. Yamato? hubba hubba.

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Hubba.

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Hubba. All right. All right. Let's go for this one. Charlotte. I see. So, yes, me? Yeah. How about those of you on Facebook out there shun me happened Mariana Mohammed, I have his mobile. All right, let's go inshallah Hosanna. With some of the I know, we give you for each disciplinary method. I'll give you some examples from the life of the Prophet Mohammed is upset, right? I will give you some examples. So number one,

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give it a try yourself. And by the way, I want to bring God some of you live with me to share with me maybe what they think, to share with me something that it's working for them. And this is a learning, you know, curve, we learn we all of us parents, fathers, moms, children, we all learn to this process, right? So some of you, I'm gonna request, you know, moms, dads, please share my screen with me, come live with me and share with us some of the methods that you've been using with your kids that actually do work, right? So let me share with you something, number one, generate enough sick enough sick days only try yourself, try yourself, give it a try. As a father, as a mom.

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Let them try.

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You know when they say teach them how to fish but don't fish for them.

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Teach them how to fish but they're not fish for them. especially kids, boys, girls have a special book, when they reach the age of 1516 onward. They want to discover so many things. They want to discover life.

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He they want to try try try try even kids as they grow up, you know, 70 they want to try things. Let them try

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that

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don't prevent them from from

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that blessing that Nirvana. They want to get any look.

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Oh Prophet Mohammed, as I said him when he was walking in Medina, in the streets of Medina, and then he found a boy, he just slapped her the goat. And then he's trying to skin the goat, you know, that like to remove the skin from the goat.

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But he was really having difficulties doing so the product did not go right away. And he says, Let me show you. He watched him he stood up and watch and watch and watch. And the boy when the Prophet is watching him is trying his best is trying like, but he's having really difficulties. And he's, you know, not only harming himself, but he's not doing it right. And then the Prophet told him at some point, he says, Let me show you. Let me show you. And then he unfolds like he followed his his shirt ISO setup. Alright. And he says, Let me show you. And then he took his hands awesome. And then he put it in between the skin and the underbody and then made like he was like front like with this,

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like this. So it's easier than the one this it's easier than the one desk. It's easy to do with this, you know, so you just like, like this, right? So it goes like that. And then he showed him early his Salatu was Salam. Until he finished he says this is how you do it. But first, he let him do it first. Let him let them try.

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He they can make mistakes, your son will make mistakes your daughter will make mistakes.

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Be it It's fine. That's how they will learn by making mistakes but let them try. But I have a magical recipe for you sisters, those of you who are Mashallah like I am very well.

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organized, I love things to be really, really organized, and how things would be placed in, you know, everything should be placed where it should be and whatnot. I'm that person like, you know, they say you have OCD, you know, okay, you can call it OCD, whatever you want. But if you, those of you who are OCD is like, you want everything to be perfect. I've taught you something. I can you know, this is it. Bring your kids and change them, change them.

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train them, I promise you, they will not break anything.

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They won't break anything. Chain them and let them just watch with their eyes. They will go up

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learning nothing from this life.

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Nothing from this life. I'll tell you. There was one brother Subhana Allah and he he's so much I went to visit them when they need and lucky daughter, you know, maybe four years old, five years old. She was just walking up the stairs and she was touching the wall. Just touching the wall as he was walking. She's like hanging on the wall. He told her mama don't touch the wall. Don't just go off with your hands. Don't touch go on. So what if she touched?

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Her hands were clean.

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So what Yeah, yeah, this is so extreme. Everything they want to try to do and whatnot. No, don't do this yellow man. Yeah, no, no, that ain't boom.

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So that way, if you train them,

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and help bring a chain or bring a rope, and then just roll it up with a toe, they walk, change, I promise you, they will not break anything, and your home will be perfectly fine.

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But your kids will not be perfectly fine. I promise you, your home would be perfectly fine. But your kids they will not be perfectly fine. So it's your call. That's number one. Number two, if they were to make a mistake, all right.

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You'll correct the mistake yourself first.

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You'll correct the mistake first.

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And then you can talk about your feelings but first you go and correct the mistake without speaking a word. I'll give you an example. The Prophet Mohammed Allah so sudden he entered the masjid one day, you entered the masjid.

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And then he found by the Qibla in all the Qibla is he felt no karma. No karma is like a spit in a bad spit right there. You know, they used to spit because remember the measure that was not like a puppet that measured like what it is today. The measure the time measured in their belly, it was not a carpeted measured, like we see today. It's a you know, they you know pebbles and and and soil and earth and you know it was just the measured.

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So they they these kids and people who knew in Islam anyways, Arabs in Islam in Islam. So Kim, someone who's spot in the Muslim, and by the paper with a big nose and then he just gave that spot the big one. So the Prophet entered, and then he found that spirit symbolizing

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he, he did not say who did this. He didn't say he took he took

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his stick his staff so most of them he had with it. And then he just, you know, started pushing it, you know, put in the soil, the earth on it, putting Earth on it, you know, and then kick it out, dragging it, dragging it, dragging it slowly, and then he dragged it out of the mud. And then he says, Does anybody have any any perfume? One kid ran when younger man stood up and rang and rang the How did you know maybe it was him who spot but one guy stood up and ran he went to get some data and then he worked with us a lot so some the profit took that I took and then he spread it a little bit in the men but by the mean but but the area where the spec was and then he says this is a popular

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This is the machine we don't spit here.

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He corrected the mistake himself but he gave a wonderful lesson to him ever spot in the misery of that day.

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Without asking who that person was he corrected the mistake and he gave them a lesson they will never forget for the rest of their lives. Some of the ladies

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right? So correct me stick yourself.

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This is number number two, method number three.

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Another method with moussaka what's Mashallah, Mashallah means do it together, fix the problem together, try to see whoever the problem is. Let's fix it together. They learn in remember, as I said, they are on that curve, the speed on the age, they're learning things. They want to discover things. It's okay. Fine. Let us correct this mistake together.

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Another example use their talent

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utilize your children standards, how can you utilize their talents, I'll give you an example.

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You know, your your,

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they say you have a farm, search for gems in your farm, search for gems in your backyard, search for gems in your, in your garden, you have a garden, you need to search the gems in your garden, you know, you have your children get out, you know, get that the the, the the gems of them, they have talents, use their talents, I can give you an example. In the fit of Mecca in the the

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after the conquest of Mecca, when the Prophet is at some point and on the conquered Mecca Salalah Islam there was this boy by who had back 16 years old, it was 16 years old, and his name is Abu I bought my boy

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and Bella was you know, was making the event and this kid who was making fun of me that I'll be that used to make Adam we are going to say a shadow he was you know, he was you know there was from Habesha you know from Abba senior so say as head to Allah you know in a long a saddle and now Mohammed Ahmed Salama, you know, something like this, he was making fun of him. But he had a beautiful voice. His daughter had a beautiful voice. It was from polish, young polish. So the Prophet heard him ridiculous Villa making fun of me that so and people in and this boy wanted to make people laugh, about be that right. So and they were laughing. So the Prophet Mohammed has a

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Sadam

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because they told him this, they also lie. This boy is making fun of be dad, he said, Call him, you call him.

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And then I hit the Prophet says, I heard you have a beautiful voice.

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I heard you have a beautiful voice. The boy said, Yes, I do.

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And then he says, shall I teach you? And then

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he said, Yes, sure. Teach me that. So the Prophet Mohammed also some says, say say a lot

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about and the boy was repeating a lot like about one law.

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The boy was repeating.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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A long, long,

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long, long, the prophet was teaching the boy and then and the boy with his beautiful voice was repeated after the Prophet Mohammed eyes was set up. And then he was repeating the Prophet was seeing Adam and smiling. The way he was teaching him with a smile. He did not tell him. I heard you were making fun of Bella. Huh? Huh? Huh? Huh? Huh? Huh? Huh? Huh, huh? Huh, huh? You know, you know, left, left, right, left. hook, hook, elbow, elbow, elbow, elbow. Elbow. Elbow. Just Just hit pain. I forgot. I forgot. I forgot. I forgot. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, that's only the other one. zazzy. That's only me who can do that? Right?

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Ah, no, no, no, no. That's only the other ones as a prophet Mohammed, as

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you know, he didn't do that. He never asked them. We never told him. I heard you were making fun of me that he utilized his talents. He knew he had a beautiful voice. He says let me teach you a damn. Right. Let me teach you either. So he was he was teaching him and then

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and then once the boiler and then look what happened. Look at the Look. Look. This is why I said search for the gems in your garden in your garden. He says from now on. You are the more admin in America. Allahu Akbar.

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Yes, see?

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Maybe one day inshallah we'll do we'll do some MMA and if you guys didn't know that I used to be, I used to fight and train with those MMA fighters, you know those UFC fighters, I used to go and train with them. So I still got some moves my man I think got some moves right. So anyways,

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the he he that boy of omashola he became the advent of Mecca because bira moves to Medina with the Prophet Mohammed. So Sabrina was making other Medina who was making other in Mecca Have you ever thought about this? Who was making other in Mecca because Bella was making as in Medina, but in Morocco was making sure that whenever I thought about this, it was this boy who was making fun of me that the Prophet Mohammed also said and taught him how to make that and he became the Dean of Mecca, right, he became the Dean of Mecca. His name is our Mashallah those of you who've come in late

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so sorry for you go back and watch the session from the beginning. Go back and watch the session from the very very beginning my brothers and sisters because I greeted you with a mobile app and the song and a lot of beautiful things. So go back and watch it and shallow Tada. So that was how many dimensions so far with you so far? How many disciplinary methods who can repeat the disciplinary methods I've used so far?

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Who can repeat those disciplinary methods as used so far? I've used quite a few.

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A dog on a dog on a dog

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Hey, don't call a dog or a dog come say II Hey Dooku Hey, do como

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como Baba? is a dog or a dog or a dog come say hey dog on a dog gone? Hey, dog Come sir. He heydo Hey, dude, cool. Hey, Docomo Doggone

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it all right? No, I mentioned nine, nine. But how many so far? I have mentioned I mentioned the disciplinary methods. I said I'm going to share with you I mentioned three, four, right at those in number five was number one. Number one, I said try yourself. Number two, I said

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correct. The mistake yourself corrected yourself. Number three, I said do it together. Number four, I said use their talents. So so far, I used four with you remember, these are four right? You know, the I said search for that talent and utilize their talent. Number five. Number five another disciplinary method that you can try and shallow data number five. Use encouragements.

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Use encouragements are you people taking notes you'll have to take notes. Take notes brothers and sisters take notes. Number five.

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Use encouragements.

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Use encouragements Wow. Even if they make mistakes

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even if they make mistakes

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and they will make mistakes always encourage them. Always give them that push always give them that that that you know energize them inshallah who know they will make mistakes and they will learn from the mistakes but always keep on encouraging them in sha Allah who time

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when the prophet Isaiah someone is in the masjid and then this boy was running the masjid making noise in that he was coming very fast news coming very fast in it in the middle and as he was coming late for the Salah, he was making a bit of noise he disturbed the Prophet Moses and we were spraying it disturb the others. So when the Prophet Mohammed was the boy was running, you know he was just running

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and then the Prophet Moses them turned to him when he finished the Salah it says that the Colombo Hassan Mashallah, you know, you love seneff so much May Allah increase you in Eman as if he's telling me I'm a Christian? Amen. Just next time do it quietly, quietly, quietly. Look.

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He's praying for him. You know, Mashallah. quwata illa Allah encouragements use that Masha Allah did something great even if you made a mistake Mashallah It's okay. Right and shot low title you're gonna make some but Michelle, you did your best you did your best. It's great effort. You know, that in the back, back in the back, you know, good job. Good job. You know this things like that, that we see nowadays. Prophet Mohammed use something way better than that.

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So use encouragements in Sharla hotel I remember my auntie long time ago, but that was the extreme. My auntie the first time her son her very first son.

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You know, broke a glass. The very first time he broke a glass, she threw a party.

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I love my auntie really she's like,

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I only have one left all the others were you know, they passed away. So she's the only one left my auntie right and and, and she's so tender. She's so gentle. I remember like, I know my mom told me when her son the very first time he broke a glass she flew potty and then she brought people she invited them at the party. What's the occasion? The occasion is my son book a glass.

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Any

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book a glass anyway broken glass. So if I was him and said, Oh, my room I can break more I can break this and break that so I can have parties every time No, no, that was too extreme. That was too extreme, you know, but somehow Allah, that's number five. That's number five.

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Number six.

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Another this amazing disciplinary method. Number six, open dialogue.

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The open dialogue.

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open dialogue, yes, open dialogue. Like what? Like Ibrahim Ali said, Ibrahim al Islam, he saw that dream slaughtering his son sacrificing his son. He says, Yeah, Buddha in the field in need of our field, man, me and me as the bedrock hookah phone doesn't matter that ah

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oh, my son I saw in the dream.

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myself, Oh, my son, I started to dream. That my, my, my, that I that I'm sacrificing you. What do you think?

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What do you think of, you know, an open dialogue with him and his son together? trying to you know, interpret this vision that he has seen open dialogue? What's wrong with that?

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What's wrong with open dialogue?

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The men the boy who went to the Prophet Mohammed Hassan jasola. Please, I want to go commit adultery, I cannot take it no more. Can I handle this? I can't I'm gonna go and commit adultery.

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So Prophet Mohammed Al is of Salim.

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Brothers and sisters, please don't don't don't deviate from this program don't deviate from as you know, answering questions and whatnot, you know, just just focus and Chava questions at the end this platform it is not for people, whoever they have a question, they will throw it at me in the middle of my lecture. And then for me to cut my lecture to be able to answer the questions or for instance, it is just gonna number one, you know, a break my train of thought and also it will deviate us from the core, the core, we're talking about homemade happiness, anything else? I wouldn't be good at towards the end, you know, so please focus with me. All right, focus with me. And I said that so

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many times. I said that so many times. with due respect with kindness, I'm bleeding. I'm bleeding. You just focus on shallow data and don't you know, answer questions and whatnot, because you may be making a mistake answering the question anyways. And those of you who don't know, don't break the train of thought. We're talking about homemade happiness.

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And somebody comes to ask about engine. Hell did she have blond hair have black hair? I'm serious, serious.

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Seriously, this was a question in the middle of a lecture something

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is How the hell did she have blonde hair? Oh, did she have black hair?

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Yeah, and yeah, no, did I see how well did they see her?

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In the middle of my lecture, huh? And something totally off off of you said however that you have blonde hair or black hair.

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In my mind, I thought to say she had blue hair like avatar in my mind, the other one says his mind you know the the straight line kicks in.

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Blue like avatar

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Come on.

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Come on guys.

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Focus. Focus.

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Alright buddies. So anyways.

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See, where was it? Yeah, open dialogue. open dialogue. This boy. Again, you know, he wanted to commit adultery. He wanted to commit Zina. He wants to Prophet Mohammed says so like, give me give me permission. I have to go and commit Zina. I have to go and do it. Then the Prophet says and he started that dialogue with him that conversation. Would you want it for your mother?

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Would you be pleased if your mother you know did Xena they also want know? Would you allow it for your sister

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No no. Would you like for your daughter? No no. Would you allow for your auntie no no no Holla Holla no Yella sama and the provinces together you can ness Likewise I the people, they would not be pleased they would not allow it for the family members

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you know you want to go that that girl that you want to commit Zina with She is the daughter of maybe so and so or she is the wife of so and so or she is the Auntie of so and so or she is the sister of so and so.

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Allah His Santos and beautifully changed his mind put his hand on his chest near where the heart is. And he made the effort him

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and he made the offer him Salalah while he was setting them subtle alarms and a lot of misunderstanding by this evening we're having a lot of misunderstanding Mr. Mohammed, no, come on a dog or a dog. It a dog call and oh call 808080 cool. Hey Docomo bah

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bah bah bah.

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So these are six, you know, six advice that I am sharing with you today. disciplinary methods, giving you examples from the Prophet Mohammed, as I said, Whatever works with you try and error whatever works. Maybe you have tried something else with you that works on him. Maybe you tried something that works but the thing is my brothers and sisters respect your children. You want them to respect you respect to children, Charles Taylor show as I mentioned, this is in

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the

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foundation number nine, respect and appreciation, respect and appreciation. So I'm asking anybody here on Instagram I know on Facebook, you cannot join me live anybody on Facebook? Would you like to join me and dad or mom to share with me maybe a method that they have used that they found very beneficial and very much only I need something that works out with me not for them. If they can come with me online and shape with me that would be amazing. That'd be great and shot like that. Right?

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My brothers and sisters anyone would like to join to share it with us, you know, maybe some disciplinary method that they are using, you know, with their kids, and that they found to be very fruitful and works. And though it may be because we don't know all there's so many things. There's so many things. Boxing does not work. I mentioned that right. The boxing does not work. It does not work. It does not work. Boxing does not work. In fact, since you mentioned boxing, let me go to foundation number 10 before you guys leave foundation number 10. You want to hear about foundation number 10 write it down write it down. I'm about to share this with you. foundation. Principle

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number 10 I give you nine so far. Here is number 10. Write it down. Are you guys ready?

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Are you guys ready? foundation number 10

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Are you guys ready for foundation number? 10? Yes.

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Layla. She's there all the way. Neda she's dead all the way down. She's that all the way Mashallah rainbow calm and don't call a dog come say

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hey Doki Doki Doki II

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II don't go ahead. Oh, come on.

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Yes, you're ready. Yello ha ha don't come Hey, go ke e

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eight. Oh, come into key a dog Come on, but I can say it a dog called Hey, go got a doggy

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dog Go

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ahead. All right. Number nine. No, no to punishment and hostility. Huh? No to hostility.

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No to beating no to boxing. No to hostility.

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No to hostility. Alright, so this is foundation number 10. Yes, I'm gonna talk a lot more about this in Charlottetown have to explain because I know sometimes your children they may really really get you so angry that you want to use not only your hands for boxing your hands your feet your head you know your head your head you know a hat you want to use every possible weapon every possible weapon right? So

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no to

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hostility

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no to beating evidence no to punching evidence.

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No to punching and beating Shang. Let me bring you live.

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Shawn, I miss you my man. He's from London Shan come live with me. share my screen with me. I want to talk to you. Shan

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Shan you gave that very good advice because I use it as well. Shang except Come on.

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Hey, Santa Monica.

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How are you?

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Long time no see man. No time since since two years ago.

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almost almost almost December by the way. Did you get married?

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No. Okay. This brother Sean

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my son in law he has his own house he's an oh he gave me a ride on a beautiful car he got masala beautiful Mercedes you know I was like a very Pampered Chef he beautiful job you still have the job right? masala manager somewhere you own it some what is that job?

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project manager. He's a project manager. Mashallah system manisa Are you listening? And when he saw you listening sumaiya guys ain't listening on my money sir. Oh manisa are you guys listening? Hi, this is john smile. Look at the smile. Look at the beautiful smile smile smile Smile, smile.

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I know I know I know.

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But the sun What did you say about the you know because I do this and they tell them always turn off your phones. TVs and everything especially at dinner time. This is time to talk with one another. It was thinking together

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sharing each other's thoughts for the day. I love that share you know what they used to call it

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you know what these tacos I call it? I used to I used to call it family time family circle time. Yeah, family circle time. Everybody will go and share something about you know that they whatever they have done you know throughout the day, and then the my son would talk and then this and talk and that we'll talk and we'll talk and we'll nobody will interrupt anybody. They can talk about anything they wish. So this is really amazing. Mashallah. tomakomai May Allah bless you. In short, how old are you again?

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3737 All right, please. Seven.

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I'm fishing for you. All right. I'm fishing for you. All right. May Allah bless you. May Allah reward you by the LaShawn mela Xhosa. Grant you success and redo. combobox say, Hey, dhoka dhoka dhoka caddy.

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who's done?

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Oh, somebody's Come brother. Hey, bro. Somebody from weather. How are you? Hey, don't go Hey, go go. A dog is a dog or a dog called a dog. He I'm singing to you. Hey, don't go Hey, don't go Hey, dog comes

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a dog or a dog. Come on.

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My robot is like LaShawn, we see you later on tomorrow for me.

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Oh, so how does your brother

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Cody 26. All right, he's not married either, right? No. Okay, so my Yeah, and manisa your guys are set.

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So man, yeah. And what do you say you girls? I said so I have 26 and 37. Carlos, Carlos. Donna. I'm gonna talk to Hakeem and I'm gonna talk to a Bomani. Sasha Sean just inshallah expect a call from me very soon. inshallah it could be heating shower so it could set up to your mom. Okay. Why didn't your mom love you? Okay, I love you. I love you sound about Okay.

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All right, go. Isn't that a that that's dominate dominate right? manisa and so many you guys are set to go 137 and 126 and they're set Mashallah put a label on it anyways, anyway, and by the way, they will not make you live with their moms. You will have your own house and shower your own apartment in in the UK. Anyways, my brothers and sisters no to beating no to, not to.

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Not to Earth not to hostility, not always they never nothing to instability. The Prophet Mohammed It is sad to see them used to say in the Hadith in the Lucha Rafi headboard with

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what your what your your mother, your fan of the Prophet Mohammed also some says that Allah is forbear and he loves forbearance.

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Allah is forbear, and he loves forbearance and he loves forbearance and read and He rewards for forbearance, while he does not reward for severity. He rewards for forbearance that which he does not reward for civility Allah subhanaw taala with gentleness in in in Mariska kulu fishing Isla, Zanna What is your main chain? The election the Prophet Mohammed Salama Islam says he says that whenever forbearance is added to something, it adorns it when forbearance is added to something it adorns it and whatever it is redrawn from something, it leaves it defective, it leaves it defective. Yeah, it was even defective. When you use hostility, you could you could leave something permanent

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permanent in your son and your daughter beating them up or your wife or your or your brother or stuff for the law, you could do something permitted thing done. So, this is why Coronavirus is forbearance with a with or not. And by the way, severity and beating will only teach them to lie and teach them hypocrisy. Yes, you they break something and then you go and you slap them.

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Or that you find something broken and you ask who broke this? And the son says, or the daughter says I did. And then you beat them up. You beat them up, right? And then the next time they break something, right, the next time they break something, then you ask who broke this? They would say No, not me. They lived their life, but you taught them how to lie. You taught them I'll try because the first time when they came up, and they broke it, and they said Why did you hit them? You beat them up right? Now you're gonna teach them till next time, they won't say I.

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Next time, they won't say Aye. Because they know you're gonna beat them again. One more time. A dog or a dog or a dog can carry him a dog or a dog or a dog can carry a dog called a dog called a Docomo dog a dog. Go go mobile lock on it. Remember that my brothers and sisters? So

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this is foundation number 10. foundation number 10 is for parents of lift, lift. And yes.

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Yes. I know. Like I said they may do something really, really really really bad. That really makes you so angry that you want to beat them up.

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What can I do? Has the profits lesson ever hit their children? Has he ever hit them?

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Can I you know because in our in the West, right? They say you can spank them? It's us. But you cannot hit the face in Islam. Can we spank them?

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Can we respect them? You know, what's the what's the maximum we can go? If I really want to use my hands was the maximum can I go? What are the steps of punishment? All right, I want to punish my son or my daughter. Are they any steps? Yes. Yes, they are 1234566 steps before the punishment. six steps What are those steps before you punish your son or your daughter? I have six steps that you've got to go through before you actually punish them before you actually punish them. What are those six steps do you want to hear them sisters and brothers? You want me to share them with you

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want me to share before this we all find it's like gems I'm going to give you a gems I'm going to give you you know diamonds before before you punish them because you have to punish them. Hell as they deserve it big time. But you have to go through six steps. What are those six steps you guys want to know?

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I will be the first one to implement inshallah hutan. I will be the first one to implement my daughter. She did something wrong yesterday. And I took her phone away from her. I took her phone away from her. This is the little one she's 12 years old. And I took her phone away from her yesterday. We implement something today because I want to be the one who implements what I say. Yes, ma'am.

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I would forgive her and give her a phone back. I forgive her. Yes man.

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Just call her

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Oh, she's sleeping.

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I was gonna give her her phone back I'll give it to her shallow data

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when she wakes up

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you guys want to know the six steps

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huh? Yes. Well you know with of course you know it's a cliffhanger not you know it's a cliffhanger inshallah tada my brothers and sisters Zakouma lokhandwala coleauxv comb you know, we would come back inshallah tada so that we can resume this series homemade happiness in sha Allah who Tana after he inshallah would go back and resume our series vs Nila today with session number nine we're going to go back to 10 and unavoidable because we still have a lot to talk about inshallah who to add up yes tomorrow is read in shallow title so tomorrow is a day off but tomorrow I'm going to go to my machine and to take up that inshallah tada 1030 live that can be that lead from 1030 Eastern Time

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1030 Eastern Time that can be that the right from the masjid inshallah tada but you know, we will Yes, it is a cliffhanger. We will come back inshallah, we will come back inshallah tada and carry on this series in sha Allah right after the Disneyland shot love to enter a Docomo battle, se the Kabbalah minimum income, the Kabbalah. Kabbalah says, I ask Allah to accept you a better term in this first day of Ramadan and bless his mouth of Ramadan ask Allah subhana wa Taala to accept you the bear that to accept your pm and you'll see him and you'll and you'll sadhaka whatever good things that you have done inshallah Tada. I asked Eliza to accept that from all of you in sha Allah

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who to Allah and one more time but as in sisters, before you go before you go there on Facebook, before you go there on Instagram, a dog on a dog or a dog on

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a dog on a dog or a dog come carry a dog Co Co Co, co co

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co co

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co co co co co co

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co co on a dog called a dog. He heydo heydo code a dog can carry a dog or a dog or mobile Arkansas.

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Robinson sisters the series normally starts from six to seven Eastern Time. Those of you who've come in late it will be recorded. Go back and watch it either on Facebook YouTube, Instagram, may Allah bless you all male as those are the ones you all may Allah grant your agenda different dose May Allah subhanaw taala grant y'all Jana, to the gate of our young to the gate of Allah inshallah Tada. balaclava come again sisters and brothers. Thank you so much. Facebook is a Camilla here and aseema Thank you nassima Thank you Mariana. Thank you, Eva. Thank you. Thank you.

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