Homemade Happiness #12 – Parents Gateways to Paradise – Part 2

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smell Shangri La Soto salons with this eco spotlight tada what a castle

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This is zazzy Welcome, welcome welcome to homemade happiness. And this is session number 12.

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And it's a continuation to our session of yesterday. I'm just going to give a minute for more people to join in Sharla so we can get going evening

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so that we can get going to come sit down. And then then Mr. Hagen

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Helen Laila Ellen you Osama Osama her own Alan sabot. Lando Daro just Facebook up there and Instagram right here.

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Hello, yes mean? My coma Sara Khadija Helen Vasa, Helen and

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those that

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have been

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on ecommerce a lot lighter robot cattle. So, again, if you just join in, this is homemade happiness.

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And this is episode number 12.

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All right. Well, the Columbia things are taking little bit slow for people to come back and log in for some reason. I did some research. In fact, I did some research and I

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and I did ask around

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what is happening? You know, I asked some people who are involved on social media. And they said, Jeff, it always happens always happens right after Ramadan, the attendance drops drastically,

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just after Ramadan. So it is it is actually more than now. And for some reason, I still don't understand why. But he said it's always after Ramadan, the attendance drops drastically, drastically, you know, for some time, so it is what it is. So I'm lucky for joining alikum Sam Santa Helen was an aroma haba

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homemade happiness session number 12. Today is about parenting in Sharla. Today is about parenting as a common law. Camilla here. All right. So let's start. Let's start in shallow tab. I only

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i got i was we got two questions, questions, I will answer them Sharla. Tyler at the end, if there's any questions, I always defer them until the end. If there are any comments, which I think not inappropriate, I wouldn't even mention them. I would just with all due respect, I would ignore them. Right. Any comments that are inappropriate to me, I will not you know, I wouldn't just I would just ignore them. And that would focus on my thing. Shout out to some of us and sisters. If you want to take some notes, today's sessions really, you know, it's gonna be very, very intense because it's about parents. Remember about the this the homemade happiness, we talked about, you know,

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foundations.

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And also, right, so we talked about foundations, on how to have a happy home, how to have a serene home, how to have a peaceful home, right? So I'm sharing with you principles that you could apply in your homes in Sharla, Hokkaido where they're a Muslim home or not Muslim home. The same if you were to apply these principles and shallow data or these foundations

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in sha Allah, He will have a very happy, peaceful, joyful home in sha Allah. Just to quickly quickly quickly go through these 10 principles that we have covered so far. Worship a lot together Principle number one or foundation number one, or the phone does yo

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in French, the passive name your app foundation

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Number one, worship a lot together. You know this is one something that we we need to do as a family at home. This will bring happiness into our home when we pray a lot when we pray together. I'm not talking about missing the site in the masjid when dementia opens up. No, I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about doing you know, soon and together, piano live together. We didn't put together doing halaqaat home together sitting at home with the families and then remember a lot together. That's what I'm talking about brothers and sisters number two, value your family. These are foundations remember them. And each foundation I know I gave a session or maybe two you can always

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go back and watch them in shallow data all these are recorded on Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, value your family and number three live with mercy.

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Live with mercy always. Family is a blessing. That's number four. Family is a is a blessing from Allah Xhosa. And remember, if you do not value a blessing, Allah Xhosa will take it away from you. This is very important. Very important. How many are not LuLaRoe louisana. All of you out there Facebook, Instagram. Live for me the family is a blessing. If you do not value that blessing. Allah Xhosa will take it away from you. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, whether in Shackleton as he then the Condor Moriah sent me the more I shall give you

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the more you show gratefulness to Allah, the more Allah will bless you and give you

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but if you do not value that blessing that Allah has given you, Allah will take it away from you. And then a man shall say at the end Yeah, hustle

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for what to feed?

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Yeah, how's the water

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to feed?

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What

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to lemina serafini

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I wish that person would say if that person has been taken away from them, they will say I wish Yeah, hustle with the other my photo I wasted so much time. I wasted so much time where it was I spent so much time with my friends rather than my family. I spent so much time no fluffing around or as I should have really spent more time with my family with my dad with my mom. Now my dad is gone. Now my mom is gone. Now my brother is gone now my sister is gone. I should I should have before you say I should have you have time right now. value that time value and be grateful to that time. And then we that's foundation number four foundation. Number five, the pivotal role of the Father. We

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talked about the father right we had many sessions just talking about that role of the Father and then number six we talked about the father the friends and how the father should be more than a friend with his loved ones right? build that relationship if you want your children to trust you ready right if you want your children to trust you to come and talk to you whenever they have a problem so you have to build that foundation from the very beginning Don't wait until they grow old in Asia to say what my son is not my friend he does not talk to me he does not share he is or my daughter does not share here you know concerns and oh and stories and and things with me and secrets

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are good because yes, she would not share her secrets we deal with his secrets or do because you will never their friend.

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You will never their friend.

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Hmm. One sister, she was texting me and I'm like my mother. She's emotionally abusing me. I don't know, I did not get involved with that right now. I didn't ask questions and whatnot. But my mother is emotionally abusing me.

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I don't know. But it does happen. It does happen. You know, in my retreat in the UK when we know when we had that retreat, you know about the mental health just last December and we talked about you know, issues and we talked about mental health and they are some some some some people who are

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who are

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abused by their own parents.

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Not physical abuse, you know, because abuse is not necessarily you know, physical, it could be emotional abuse.

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Right. So here we talked about the father the friend, you know, his foundation number six, foundation number seven, we talked about the mothers

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and how the mothers are the engine for motivation. When you're down when you're about to quit the mom, she's the one that comes normally and then she gives you that boost and that energy and she always are behind you and she says I know you I know what I gave birth to

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All right.

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So we talked about the mothers and then foundation number eight, we talked about that amazing.

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The beautiful, beautiful, magical recipe, the the, the magical. Moses, Moses staff, the stick the moose has stick, right? It's called the language of compassion.

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Also say Hell yeah, you know, the the magical staff of Mossad is set up, you know, this, this foundation is like that magical stuff. It's just like that magical stick. So as I said earlier, it's called the language of love, the language of compassion, that's foundation number eight, you can go back and watch them all the series that recorded, go back and watch them if you miss the foundation. Number nine, we talked about respect and appreciation. When we talked about methods used to, you know, raise your children. One method, you know, that I know one foundation that we spoke about is respect and appreciation to appreciate your children and to respect them, regardless of their age.

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Not because you're the dad, yes, they have to respect you absolutely. Right. But you also have to respect your children.

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respect their, their, their,

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their thinking, respect their opinions,

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your opinions may differ from you, but you cannot just go back and say, I'm the Dad, I'm the mom, I know better than you.

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You listen to me, there's something called emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence. So when, when he wants to come and share his opinions with you, or his feelings with you, then you you break them down by saying,

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You're

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What are you talking about? That you're, you're sad? How can you be sad? How can you be disappointed? No, no, you simply don't know what you're talking about, you're not respecting your children, you are cutting that tie for them to come and maybe share their feelings with you.

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That's foundation number nine respect and appreciation and respect and foundation number 10. When we talked about disciplining your children, you know, and we said no, to using force, and no to use in hostility, no to beating up the children, and they shared with you some methods that you could use instead, right? Of You know, using force then Then and only then if you you know, if you decide to punish them, because of because of something really, really, really, you know, bad that they have done, and they have exhausted all options with them, and then they realize they need to be punished. So we talked about some some

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pointers on how if you want to punish them how to do it. Right. So that was yesterday, my brothers and sisters, and then we talked about the parents

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together,

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together back to the parents together. So this is so far, what we have spoken about in this series, my brothers and sisters, and when we got to the parents, when yesterday I said about what we say in Arabic openworld. Right. This is just like a preview again, like, I'm recapitulating what I've spoken about so far, yesterday, I said there are folks who are leading in Arabic, it is worse than you know, these obeying the parents because the term I put up is something like you know, when you rip apart a shirt, or rip apart, something, rupture, something, you know, some the water is out, the water is up, you know, the water is sour. So that's the the quote is derived from something worse

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than just disobeying your parents dishonouring your parents open to it then.

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And the opposite of it is belittle every day, goodness to the parents honoring the parents.

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And I said

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I said to the children yesterday to the loved ones. And I hope that you deny that when I say children, Jani, our loved ones are our children. They don't necessarily have to be you know, kids. I hope our children are here to listen to what I'm saying today.

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Not only to the parents because this series is for the parents. The series is for the the the sisters and brothers the series is for the children. The series is for husbands and wives, moms, dads, grandfathers, grandmothers, mothers and fathers. The series is for everyone. I just hope that they're listening.

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When I said yesterday

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That you know about seven things that we need to do with our parents. There's more but I just summarized them in about seven things, consult with them, consultant regardless of how many Mashallah old you can get but you're for them you're still their son or their daughter, consult with them. You're in a golf consult with you with your dad in your in your mom before you run a project before you start something before you do something. Even at school, consult with your parents.

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Be patient with them. Especially when they reach a certain age. You need to be patient with them.

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There are that you cannot you cannot change your dad. You cannot change your mom. He is who he is. And she is who she is.

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You need to be patient with them. Pay attention to them.

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If it's a beam, it can be a be omaka book.

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look after them.

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What does your dad like? What does your mom like? What do they like?

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Right.

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Help them. Number four. Help them as much as you can assist them as much as you can. Your father needs help with the car go help him.

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You need what takes the garbage out. Your dad Your mom. Sure. She's the one who takes the garbage out. Why don't you do it?

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who washes the dishes? Always the mom? Was the mom washing dishes Why don't you wash the dishes?

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What don't you want as a mom you take rest we're gonna take care of the house today. Help them

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Why don't you tell your mom Mom Why don't you take a break today? I will cook today.

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I will cook today. Help him IT system.

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Or your dad has gone to the doctor. Baba you go to the doctor. nobody's taking you I am taking you to the doctor.

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He doesn't have to beg. Your mom does not have to beg.

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Mommy go to the doctor. nobody's taking you I'm taking you

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so

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I know mom's bad for their somebody to give give them a ride to the to the hospital doctor and all the kids busy. Busy with what am i busy with? What

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about busy? It's busy, busy with What man?

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Whatever. You have kids and everything. Your mother is going to the hospital Your mother is going to the doctor your father's go to the doctor gets an every excuse me every frickin work. You have to go with your mom and going through that to the hospital to the doctor guessing everything they need to write they need somebody to take them. Maybe you're following even telling you it's okay. Bye bye. Toki knows they say I can go by myself. You say no.

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No. No, Baba. No, Mama. I'm taking you. nobody's taking you.

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You better than that appointment. I have that.

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Dad Mom, you're better than that appointment. I have you better than that job I have.

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where it goes and works comes back. It's fine.

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But for me, if you were to leave, work, what am I going to find you I'm not going to have to go and visit you in your grave.

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No, I'm going to cancel everything. And I'm gonna go with you.

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You come first Mom, you come first that?

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I don't know.

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Number five, make them happy.

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Make her mom happy. Just like they did when you broke her heart.

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Just like did they when you broke her heart? Just like the day when you broke your father's heart, then yes, you're gonna make them happy.

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Go make them happy, grow, put a smile in their face.

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Put a smile in their face.

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They always sometimes only hear you know bad things about us. Why don't you just go and make them happy.

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So

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when the property was asked some of the less than the other so Allah or prophet of Allah, what are the most beloved deeds in the sight of Allah? Imagine Prophet Mohammed is asked this question. The Prophet Mohammed is asked this question, the most beloved actions in the sight of Allah.

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The most beloved actions in the set of Allah say what, what are they?

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Then the Prophet says, Soto

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to be Muslim.

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He says, so a joy that you're bringing the left

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Muslim.

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Imagine a joy, happiness that you bring in the life of some Muslim. But how rare is that Muslim or your parents?

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Do you think? Look what the purpose is, isn't Muslim, you know, but you know the most beloved deeds in the sight of Allah, the Most Beloved, actually the set of Allah, you bring some happiness or some joy in the face of a in the heart of some Muslim, they go into some some debts and you go and you pay their debts, they go to some sort of difficulties, and you go and you alleviate the difficulties, you know, some Muslim, how about if they are your parents? who are going through those difficulties?

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How happy Can you make them? And how happy Can you make Allah Subhana Allah dad as well, because this is the most beloved action in the sight of Allah. As the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, you bring good joy in the life of a Muslim?

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How about if that Muslim is your dad or your mom? How happy would that be? How happy would they be and how happy a love would be because you made your mother smile. You made your father smile, you made them happy.

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The least if you cannot do the least, and the least, if you cannot do that, stay away, stay out of trouble. Stay out of trouble. At least they don't. They don't you cannot bring happiness to them. So don't bring sadness to them either. Alright, so to be fair, don't bring settlers in them. So don't stay away from travel as well.

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You only cause them pain. What at least then cause them happiness as well bring happiness to them.

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But if you're not bringing happiness, then don't bring pain either, man. Come on.

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Number six.

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That's five. Number six. See how summarize things that you could do for your parents. Number six.

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Even if they're alive or dead, ask about their friends.

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Especially when they are dead.

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Their friends? Yes.

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The Sahaba beloved Norma have loved Norma he he used to look after his father's friends.

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After his father passed away. He used to look after his father friends. He says this is I'm doing this. And I'm honoring them, you know in the name of my father.

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Yes. If your father had a very close friend. If your mom had a very close friend after she passed away, then take care of that friend,

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too, that you can still be honoring your parents.

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And number seven, my brothers and sisters.

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Make dua for them. These are seven things. These are seven things, make it to Africa. Pray for them.

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Welcome Robin. Omar Kamala Bernie Sameera.

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When the Prophet Mohammed said inside, Muslim about a man

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in heaven, a man in gender and he looked up

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and he saw himself Yanina. Very high ranking genda a man saw himself in a very high ranking gender Jambi. Okay for 14 hours off to LA. How did I get to know how did I reach this position in China? It was wonderful gentlemen. Muslim.

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How did they get this position in Jenna

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be fugly? He always defaulted? keylock? This is by virtue of your son making this default for you. I love luck. This is by virtue of your son or your daughter making a stepfather and praying for you because the more you stay far the more prayer that you made for your father or your mother if you have a lot if they are then that will elevate their ranks and Jenna

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prefer to make the effort them.

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Every summer. Every summer you should pray for your father for your mother.

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Every day in Sharla, who tada every day, you should be praying for your mother and your father every day. Do not leave a day up without you making tough for your parents.

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Welcome Bob bilham Houma

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Danny savini along and say, well Allah have mercy upon them. If hemangioma as they have raised me when I was a kid, as they have taken care of me when I was a kid, I

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remember 123 remember three things, all the children, all the youngsters who are here, all the loved ones who are here, remember three things.

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Remember, number one that you know

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lovable, whom you have the Bula

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Remember that that you know the making them angry makes Allah subhanho wa Taala angry. Remember this? If you were to anger your parents your mate you're angry Allah subhana wa tada

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government

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Atilla, obeying them as obey Allah and this orient them as if the for you dishonouring Allah.

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Yes, for sure

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how the ones who anger their parents and dishonor the parents, Allah subhanahu wa tada removes Baraka from their lives.

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Unless of Hendra removes Makkah from their lives, those who dishonor their parents,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala puts darkness in their faces. Those who dishonor their parents. Remember, don't ask me questions about Acacia. How about how about this? How about if my father I spoke he said in the series, maybe you missed them go back and watch them in the series. I spoke to the dads and they spoke to the moms and they spoke to the daughters and they spoke to the sons. I spoke to everyone. So now I'm talking about you.

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Right? I spoke to the dads and I told him how did that should be? And how did that should, you know should should treat their children? I spoke about that. Now I'm talking to you.

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I'm talking to you.

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Those who dishonor the parents and angered the parents, alive, social, puts darkness in the faces, the faces will not be bright, there is no law, no law on the faces of Pamela.

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When the Prophet Mohammed Salah learners to them says, Let him be humbled into dust Rama,

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Rama and feared

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that he may he be disgraced three times May he be disgraced. May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced the Prime Minister's in Him who jasola who is this person may be disgraced.

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whose parents one or both? attain an elderly age

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in his lifetime, during his lifetime,

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and he does not enter Jannah

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What does that mean?

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His parents they attained an elderly age while you are still alive. And for you to serve them,

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for you to be dutiful to them. And you don't use that opportunity to enter Zhanna

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Zhanna is right there open for you. The Prophet says and you do not take advantage of that opportunity. So the provinces May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced three times you have an opportunity. You don't take advantage of it.

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Yes, I just said earlier, your father wants to go to the hospital. Your mother needs to go to the doctor. No, I'm busy. Why don't Can I call you over? I'll call your dad. I'll call you over mom. I have I have an appointment. I have a meeting in the meeting and stuff out Excuse me. I cursed the meeting. But it's just the meeting I cursed. I didn't curse anyone. I curse that meeting which is better than your father.

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I cursed that meeting which is better than your mother. Yes, I cursed it in Arabic.

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And I'm not proud. I'm not I'm not sad. And I'm not sorry.

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I'm not sorry.

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If your meeting is better than taking your father to the hospital or your mother to the doctors or whatnot, you know, and you say I'm busy. May he be cursed.

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Number one, number two.

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Number two, those who dishonor their parents. Number two, the punishment will be haston for them in this life before the hereafter.

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Who said this prophet Mohammed Salah larison says if Nana as you know whom Allah dunya Cabeza

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de de.

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How do you say the Prophet Mohammed la salat wa sallam he said had it reported by Emma hardy is very strong and authentic.

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That the Prophet Mohammed le his salatu salam says two types of sins, Whosoever commits them, the punishment shall be haston for them in this life and in the life of the hereafter. Number one, oppression. Number two, this honoring the parents

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to punishments, one punishment in this life and one punishment in the hereafter.

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Remember something my brothers and sisters out there? What goes around comes around you know that what goes around comes around however you treat your parents Allah subhana wa tada with Bless you all afflicts you with kissa will treat you the same

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committed enough to Dan if I measure it committed enough to then do as you wish, do as you wish, why because what goes around comes around? Yes One day you will get married. Yes inshallah, one day you will you will have children. Yes, one day you will have children insha Allah

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and those children rest as short. As you have treated your parents, they would treat you the same.

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Rest is short.

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This is it's a universal law.

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It is a universal law. Muslim or non Muslim. This is universal law just like charity. No lecture like charity. sadaqa

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sadaqa is universal law, whether you're Muslim, or not Muslim, if you give Allah will give you back.

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The Facebook guy he understood this bill gates and understood this they all do a lot of charitable work now 99% of their work now is all charities they understood.

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Charity The more you give, Allah gives you back You don't have to be a Muslim. This is universal law. However you treat your parents Allah Xhosa will either bless you or afflict you with kids that will treat you the same.

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The rest assured

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number three Bala to Navy beracha Navy

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the Prophet Mohammed has assimilative judgment he will be innocent from you.

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The Prophet Muhammad he will be innocent he with this avoid you on the Day of Judgment.

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You don't want to go to sleep. You do not want to go to sleep while your dad is angry at you. Or your mother is angry at you.

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One men imagine one man in the cab I swear by Allah. You want to hear this story? But the name not in Burnett, my brother my love. You want to hear this story?

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Sister Mariana sister Luna key color blonde you want to hear this story? manisa Samia. Yes mean Khadija Do you want to hear the story that happened in the Kaaba

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Hmm, you want to hear it?

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You want to hear my story but the night you want to hear my story?

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This happened in the Kaaba in Mecca. The story? Yes.

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Yes. bearish. Yes. No one manisa more Nisa more anything you want to hear it now? Yes. All right. A man in the Mecca in the Kaaba right in the heroin. In the heroin I sorted by Allah.

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He He made his way all the way despite all the Zen despite all the crowd,

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despite the crowds in the huddle in Mecca, right. Despite all the crowds, he made his way all the way to the

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to the wall of the cabinet to the wall of the cabinet. And he has on the the kiswa of the cabinet. He made his way. And he was holding on the floor of the cabinet. You know, the cloth of the cabinet, the black cloth he held on the black cloth and he started making

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crying and making that we got closer to him. What was he saying? He was saying Oh Allah Avenge me on my son. He's making da against his son. We are alone. My son he he did this to me my son he did this to me my son he did this to me. Y'all be my son is your A B take advantage? Take revenge. Revenge. You take my revenge do this against his son. Yeah, how would I wanna go with a?

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What did his son do to him?

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For this man, to go all the way to Makkah, to go to the Kaaba and to hold into the kisser of the Kaaba to make the heart against his own son.

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This is not a story I've heard this is not starting a kid. This is something Yeah. And imagine imagine imagine and the role of the father the father of the mother is granted granted dad but why did the Prophet says there are certain dyes that go straight on amongst the mister of the mom or the dad of the father to his child. So this man is not only making the up for you know for his son or his daughter or against them.

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Makka Pakka in the sun in the main plaza, where the where the where the Kaaba is where they know he goes all the way until he touches the wall of the Kaaba. And then he held on the kiswa the cloth of the Kaaba right there making dua to Allah Xhosa right there. The pivotal that's the hub of the whole universe, the center of the world. That's where the cabinet is, this man is holding on the on the cliff of the cabinet making that against his own child, his own son

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and daughter of the parents are granted.

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And in this today, I say sisters and brothers please, regardless of what your children may do to you never curse them never make the against the police. I beg you

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all of you.

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All of you

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never make the law against your children because that's the law.

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The law can answer it

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i'd like an answer it and it would answer it. So please sisters and brothers. Never make the law against your children inshallah never kirsta

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you want to be happy with you. If your parents have the life make them happy.

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You know, people they talk about the world of the energy and I believe in this a lot nowadays, we know that the worst of the energy and Metallica, you know, as they call it in Chinese, the cheap, the cheap, you know the energy that surrounds you, everybody has some sort of energy that surrounds him or her. And that energy could be weak energy or strong positive energy, weak energy, negative energy or positive energy. There's some people who have Mashallah very strong positive energy. And there's some people that have weak energy. And this energy now destaca can be assessed can be measured today.

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You know, when you go, and you sit next to your mother,

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and just be and just hug her or sit next to her. You know how much energy and cheap a very particular moment is surrounding you. And Allah in Arabic, it's also Allah, Allah or abarca.

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So much energy surrounding you, just being there with you. You don't have to say a word.

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You do not have to speak a word. be close to your mom sit, maybe hold her hands before you go to work every morning. Before you go to school every morning, before you go to that meeting every morning, before you go to your appointment. Before you go anywhere outside. Go to your mother if she has a life. If she has a life,

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hold her hand. Be with her. Make her smile. Ask her for that job. And go and you will see.

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You will see.

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Stay give it few minutes, five minutes, 10 minutes

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and just absorb that energy. That positive energy surrounding the mom.

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Especially if you have Michelle one end of the mom, who is so much into the deen so much into Salah so much into PM, so much into her and if you have that mom or

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if you have that mom who just played piano the whole night making the art for you.

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If she's alive and she's still there, and you're gone, you hold her hand.

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You kiss her hand

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and you kiss the other hand

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and you give her a hug

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and keep that hug

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for some little bit of time.

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look like a fake hug. Keep it stay.

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Hmm.

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And ask her to make the offeree

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and then do your thing. And you will see.

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You will see

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when the Prophet Mohammed enter Jannah in that trial in that journey, when he went and he was ascended into the into into the heavens.

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And then he heard

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this Sahabi by the name of haritha. Man. He heard his voice in Jana

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haritha he heard his voice Yeah, she breathed Who's that voice? He says that how'd it happen man and had the dinner man was the most dutiful son to his mom.

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And the Prophet says very common bill. Very common bill. Very common.

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Bill, that's what goodness the parents does. That's what good does to the parents does. That's what good does to the parents does. That's what he does. What does he do? It gets you into Zhanna Ma Ma, Ma,

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Ma Ma, Ma, Ma Ma, Ma Ma, Ma Ma. Me only?

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What a beautiful word is it?

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What a beautiful word is it?

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Just to say oh me, remember I said that initially remember? Remember I said that initially, I said the most beautiful title after the title of profits is mother. Remember that? I said it. The most beautiful title after the title of Prophet is Ma. Ma mon. On Me in me Yama

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the most beautiful time.

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And Bill goodness, the dem encompasses so many things God does to the parents encompasses so many things, such as making dinner for them shows that just just such as helping them assisting them holding their hands,

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holding their hands,

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bringing you know making them smile making them happy. This is all considered in the goodness towards the parents.

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Goodness towards the parent is not just by obeying them, honoring them. It was there's so many things you could do.

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So many things you could do to be considered as somebody who is good and dutiful to his parents.

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When Allah Xhosa in the Quran, he said

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and I mentioned this yesterday that I insulted Allah when the Salton

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so it's a lot. So it's law when Allah subhanho wa Taala says by the Ministry banyuwangi well dama boo

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boo.

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won't buy wha Boca Budo Isla

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Welcome to

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carry man.

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agenda has only minamisoma what what Bill ham hoonah come out on. Honey, Swami Ma, Allah has decreed. Allah has decreed it's a matter and it has been ordained. There's no changes to it. What is it? That there is your worship? none but Allah and that should be dutiful to your parents.

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And then Allah subhanho wa Taala says, and if they were to reach a certain age in my abdomen and applicable at Oklahoma, don't say off to them. Don't say oh to them. Don't raise your voice to them or add them.

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abou Laila, his mother called him once about what is a hobby?

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And then he says, Yeah, now is only Yes. Oh, yes, ma'am. And then he realized he raised his voice. The only thing he says, Yes, ma'am. But then he raised his voice. He went, he purchased a slave and freedom for the sake of Allah.

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He purchased a slave and freed him for the sake of Allah just because he realized

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that he raised his voice by saying Yes, ma'am.

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Yes, ma'am. That's all he said.

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I did say yesterday.

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Yesterday, when I said I'm going to share with you something that was soft in your hearts towards your parents. Remember this? All of you. You remember, Mariana yesterday? Keep corner blown yesterday, Minecraft. Minecraft. Come on. Those of you here on Instagram and those on Facebook. Remember yesterday said I'm going to share with you some action items that would soften your hearts towards you parents. If your hearts are not already not already soften. I'm going to share with you something that would soften your hearts towards your parents. You remember I said that yesterday?

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Right remember? or hear it Here they are.

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Here they are. Number one, number one

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the Koreans have performed

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What? Remember when you were let me remind you if we don't remember I went

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remind you, I will remind you, or when you used to be a kid.

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I want to remind you when you used to be a kid

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and your parents maybe sometimes you would need to go out.

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Or the very first day when your mom to kill or your dad took you to school, and they left you at school and you were crying and crying. No, don't leave me dad. Mom, don't leave me. You don't remember this? Maybe you don't remember why. Let me remind you. Let me remind you.

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You're your very first day when they took you to school.

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Or maybe let me remind you of that day.

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Let me remind you of that day when they were late picking you up.

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You're still a kid. Maybe you don't remember that may remind you. You were kids. And they were a little bit late picking you up from school or from your whatever you were, and you were crying. You were crying. And then when you saw them, you're so happy and he went and you gave him a hug.

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Where are you? Are they picking me up?

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Remember, remember when you used to be a kid?

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Remember, let me remind you, let me remind you because you tend to forget your brothers and sisters, you tend to forget that may remind you when you were a kid and you were sick.

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You don't remember, I'm sure you don't remember he was sick. And your mother she did not sleep the whole night.

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She was by your heads

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making Don crying. She walked your dad up and she says he has high fever. She has high fever and your father got up like crazy. And then with his pajamas, he went outside. He drove you to the doctors to the hospital. And he was crying and he stayed with you. You don't remember this. You don't remember? You don't remember, but I'm reminding you.

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And then the doctor was there and then the father after waiting 23456 hours in the hospital in the emergency late at night. Late at night.

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You father went to the doctor doctor, please tell me tell me. How's my baby? How's my baby?

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Is he fine? Is she fine?

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And the doctor said no. hamdulillah It's fine. It's just a fever. It'll be fine.

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You don't remember this but I'm reminding you

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when your dad was taking you from one doctor to another doing tawaf. Yes doing literally the window off. to him. He can tell from one doctor to another from one hospital to another from one clinic to another.

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You forgot

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your mother when you were in her room that may remind you because of course you forgot.

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Let me remind you when you were in her belly inside, when you were sucking her blood, her calcium you were sucking all your energy from her.

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And, and all the pain that you caused her all that pain. But then when you kick her for her and just like honey in her chest in her hearts

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when you used to kick her from insight how much you suck from her.

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She went through so much pain. And she endured that pain nine months, nine months. burying you in her inside her womb your mom nine months.

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Your mom who gave up her dreams? How many moms do you know how many does you know of gave up their dreams for their children dreams? Just so you can do something with your life. Your mom she gave up her dreams? So it does your dad sometimes Yes, but mom's most moms, they gave up their dreams just for the children.

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You forgot about this. You forgot about this. You forgot about that dads. When miskeen he wanted the husband because he had a he had problems with his with his with his arm. This is a true story with his arm. And then after all these x rays, the doctor told him it's gonna cost you this much money. You need this much money, you know to fix your arm. Otherwise, we need to amputate the arm.

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We need to amputate the arm and he had more insurance. The father had more insurance.

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You had more insurance. So the doctor told him you know it's gonna cost how much he says it's gonna cost you this much. Otherwise, we will

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wouldn't have to amputate your arm.

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He told the doctor doctor just go ahead and amputate the arm.

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The other kids were there with that, but you have the money. Then you have the money, give him pay the money and save your arm. He says no, the dad will lie. He said no. Why is this our saving that money for your elder son, the other brother, my elder son for the elder brother, he's gonna go to school, and I was saving that money to pay for his school. I'd rather lose my arm rather than having you know, my son not to go to school, I lose my arm, but I would pay for his scores.

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You forgot about that. You don't know about that. Maybe your father never told you. Maybe your mom never told you how many times she slept. hangry just so she can feed you. Your mom.

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How many times she slept hangry she stepped with pain.

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Maybe cold. She took off that blanket. And she put it on you? Your mind?

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Let me remind you of this. That's why I said I'm reminding you You forgot, but I'm reminding you when you used to be a kid.

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Why?

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Why? Why the harsh heart towards your dad or towards your mom? Why?

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hemella 201. And either one

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of you Sophia. I mean, this isn't an insult. Look, man, verse number 14, when his mother bore him in weakness and hardship after his winning in two years. hardship, so much hardship

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and the hardship of bringing it to life and the pain bringing it to life. Remember, remember this because you forgot and I'm here to remind you.

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Number two, that's number one. If this does not soften your heart, I don't know what kind of heart Do you have number two.

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Take advantage.

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If she is alive, if he is alive, your dad or your mom take advantage before they're gone.

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I could never imagine my first night

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without mom or without that.

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Ask those who have lost their parents.

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The very first night at home without mom or without that.

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Take advantage before they're gone.

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Especially the single moms, the divorced mom.

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You know how much sacrifice she has gone through

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just to provide you

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just to help you and to assist you. She did not want you to feel any any any weakness from any side she did not want you to feel any some handlebar because we are going to read your friends and whatnot that maybe your friends they have you know, they may be able to buy things and whatnot. But your mother divorced once especially right the single mom, she never wanted to feel that negativity. So Pamela, she would go and do things dishes, he can't provide you and so is your dad.

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Take advantage before they're gone.

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Take advantage.

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She did not want you to miss out on anything.

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Your dad, many times he went and he borrowed money

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just so he can buy you what you want it and he never told you.

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He never told you how many times he went and he borrowed money to assist you to buy you what you wanted. And he never told you take advantage before they go.

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Even if they were not Muslims,

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even if they were non Muslims, you have to be obedient to them.

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I smell

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a smell of the law. I know of a

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bit of a backer her mother was not a Muslim.

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And she asked Prophet Mohammed della sola, should I be obedient to my mother, even Jewish non Muslim? The Prophet says yes, or a smile, of course was man.

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Of course when

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I see the white time I might kinship with my mother Department says yes, of course. China kinship with your mom, visitor, be kind to her. Even if she's not a Muslim. infer that you're that same thing even if he's not a Muslim, as they ask you to commit some other than that you have to serve them and you have to be kind to them and you have to honor them. Take advantage.

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Take advantage.

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Number three, befriend them,

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befriend them, befriend your parents, take advantage before they leave number two

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Number three, be friend than

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befriend your mom and befriend your dad. You may say what they're not giving me a chance when you start, you try you do your best you try to be their friends be the first one to move to make the first move. be the first one to make the first step. Your dad is your dad. I mentioned that many times he is where he is. Especially when he reaches a certain age Carlos, your mom, same thing. So you be the one to make that first step. You'll be the one to make that first move. befriend them. Number four, worship Allah azza wa jal together with your father and your mother.

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Well, Sahaba Murphy dunya MANOVA.

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Well, Sasha boo Murphy dunya mava as Allah subhana wa tada says,

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pray together, would you father would your mom

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when you pray, if they're not pray for them.

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Maybe during this lockdown, because your that cannot go to the machine anyways. Your mom cannot go to dimension anyways, you print together.

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And I guarantee you

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the majority of the death of your father or your mother would be just for you. They will be making more out for you than for them.

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Ask brothers and sisters Ask, ask what?

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I'm going to end with this. Ask

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anything successful person, Muslim, non Muslim. Ask any successful person

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as the What is the secret of your success, the true secret of your success?

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He would say or she would say maybe from my mom died from my father, maybe

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a Baraka a blessing from my parents. It definitely has to be some sort of blessing from mom or dad. I asked him very much I was about to collapse. I asked myself I asked you know a lot of successful brothers and sisters you know, leaders out there in the communities Muslims friends of mine, Mashallah Portilla, Sheikh Mohammed Sharif, Mashallah we used to work together for our Marketing Institute, you know, Mashallah Sheikh Mohammed What happened?

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This door of his mother,

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so, many people have an uncle and have them call and she has today's from Mecca, she is the daughter of his mom did not have his mother

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asked any successful person brother or sister the secret of the success on this in this life, it would be something that has to do with parents guarantee guarantee

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if it has last colony, the predecessors, the one who are you know, do the shot of Al Bukhari,

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the daughter of his mother.

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So from today on brothers and sisters, let us all inshallah hota Allah make a change, we make that first move, we made the first move

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towards our parents, inshallah, who will befriend them, inshallah we'll make it to Africa, and Sharla will be patient with them. And Sharla will take advantage in sha Allah, but by this time that they're still living with us in sha Allah, Who to Allah right will take advantage of all this bit Neela from from that From today on, I will not blame no more, no more blame no more say this or that. No more. I will remember. Yes. I remember when I was a kid. No, you're right. Thank you, chef for reminding me because I did not know what you didn't know. Now, you know. Now, you know, from now on the Chatelet, who tada we're gonna be the first one to make the first move in shallow data. And

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if your parents are alive, go quickly to them and ask them to make one up for you. I ask what law what law like I'm saying you know that that your father and your mother could be making for you that will be the way that will pave the road to gender for you. That coming from your mom or the dad coming from your dad will be that that route. It will pave the road to gender for you.

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That's making sure change. Let's make a change my brothers and sisters go make them happy as you make them sad. Go make them smile as you made them cry go before they're gone. Sisters and brothers Camilla Hey brothers and sisters Metalab bless you all.

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Face Instagram. Facebook is here is the gram I only have 20 seconds left and that is going to cut off. I will see you tomorrow. Shallow Tyler tomorrow. It's a totally different session. Tomorrow will be about husbands and wives sister Fatimah mixture brother honey is death tomorrow. Tomorrow is about husbands and wives is that common law hair biological salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Those of you on Facebook May Allah bless you all as a Kamala Harris

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Hello ficam Thank you for coming. We'll see you tomorrow. Ciao lozada salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato somebody somebody