Riad Ouarzazi – Homemade Happiness #11 – Parents Gateways to Paradise – Part 1

Riad Ouarzazi
AI: Summary © The segment discusses various topics on social media, including parenting, dressing children, and the importance of adoption of certain principles. It emphasizes the need for punishment and a plan to prevent further behavior, as well as the importance of honoring parents' emotions and actions in Islam. The segment also provides examples of exercises and activities used to motivate children, and encourages viewers to practice hard things to soften their heart. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a Moroccan cuisine course.
AI: Transcript ©
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This is reality as as you were coming here to Episode 11 homemade happiness today is going to be special special day. Get your parents if they're with you, they live your children make sure your children attend this one you don't want your children to miss out on this episode. This episode is about parenting and childhood to add so so mr. cash I'm just gonna give a minute or two for some more people to join so that we can start inshallah

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let's say Dr. Han Helena Deanna Dean. Hello Madhava Helen Helen Ma Ma. Ke como cough Minecraft eco alikum Salam Allen. Shazia. Yeah Hello Bahama Helen Kay's chocolate England is in the house tonight. England London is in the house tonight masala party liberal and radical Muslim Alan silver silk 90 silk maybe you I think you've got to do something with silk either inshallah who to either your cell silk or maybe maybe in general you'll be wearing silk for sure inshallah. Lenin was the Helen comes to Elena Isha

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humane Mia

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marhaba hubba hubba hubba Khadija Mohammed Jeff. I've got Facebook here. I've got Instagram right here. We're live and this will be live and on YouTube as well inshallah tada and emmalin

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hubba hubba all of you. Then warm Allah haben Yamato Hubba Salah Moon's

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all of you must have bought in your language welcome in my language muhabba in in in French roset la bienvenue in English welcome. Not yet Welcome natya Welcome in English not yet welcome. No welcome there's a difference between Yeah, welcome. And welcome.

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we all might have a llama and horse and D the horse um, did all of you man haben Mariana Mohammed Radhika Mr. Lamb, Yamaha Van Halen, Mo Nisa nissa nissa horsh am Dede Salaam, alright Masha, Allah, whoever is here in sha Allah to Allah, Facebook, Instagram. Get your family's get your children to there's going to be a special session. Shout out to Anna today I call it parents the gateways to Jannah the gateways to paradise so you want your loved ones to attend this session inshallah. You want your parents you want your children, you want your loved ones to attend this session, get them get them in inshallah, who tada Alrighty, Monica Luffy consolata Anna, I know after a while what I

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noticed, you know, I just disappeared for a week. I disappeared for a week I took this you know, we took this break right after Ramadan and then that kind of like messed up a little bit.

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The the attendance because Mashallah we used to reach you know, 4050 people some time of 50 Mashallah, that's a, you know, it's a big number compared to you know, my involvement in social media was not so great. I'm just getting out there with this social media thing. No, but somehow the law in our right after the, you know, like yesterday it was like about 20 2030 was less in terms of the attendance so people you know, they take some time and then this is I think I'm, I'm learning more about this.

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This thing here, you know how it works on social media, right?

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Somebody told me she says make sure that you tag you know, the topics that people see on Instagram, you know what you're talking about, and I don't know how to do that. He says, I don't know.

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Yeah, hello madhhab Amelia 91 Yeah, have a mama it's alright this session is for Muslims non Muslims alike in fact if they're not Muslims they will enjoy to they will see the how Islam attributes you know, these value to parents is them whether they're Muslims or non Muslims how Islam attributes and value parents even if they're not Muslim so even if they're not listed they should attach I looked at

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your write the comment and hold it then pins it was that right a comma. Okay, let me try that then.

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so how does that say say hold that

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and then pin it on only just says

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how would you do this? How as I wrote it down so how can I hold it and pin it?

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You read a guy hold and then he pins it?

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Oh, Erica pin comment right there.

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Push what is that push? Horse. What is that? I forgot. Horse. What did you say a horse Andy? Porsche Md horsh. md All right, Zach malarkey. Bismillah Alhamdulillah. Let's start in Charlottetown All right. Bismillah. We're gonna start Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam Salam salam, aleikum. hoplite Omar cattle, the others as you will come you to another episode of

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homemade happiness. Homemade happiness. Jenna, maybe I should also call it Jana in our homes.

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We should also call this series Jana in our homes. Why? Because my brothers and sisters you know, mm. T Miyamoto laddie. He told me he says in this dunya there is Jana. We had hit dunya una casa mela Mia

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lanyard hole agenda, a la la la la la. He says even The Taming Lani in this dunya there is journey that whosoever does not enter agenda in this dunya he will not enter agenda to Allah. He will not agenda in the hereafter discriminate gender to dunya What does it mean gender to dunya gender to dunya is the agenda of

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gender, man. Right? Those who have a man those who have that faith, they feel like they live in gender. They live in gender gender on Earth. So Pamela so So the thing is my brothers and sisters we want to have our homes like gender to dunya

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What do you think? What do you think we want to have our homes gender to dunya? Because Allah Subhana Allah Dinah he says in the end so that was a bit of an issue that was him well Ah, who's got an upcoming boy genre coming booty come second.

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Second, Allah has made up of your your your your homes, and abode second tranquility you should give Trump credit to when you go home. Well, with this lock down definitely you need that tranquility that serenity Allah Subhana Allah tada and up when he says that your home should be you know, you have that abode in your abode you should have that that you know that tranquility, serenity, Joy happiness you know not like whenever you want to go home you feel sad you feel pain, you can meet them you're going to see them again you're gonna have a fight and this not know your home was supposed to be any supposed to be a mean of emin second as Allison kinda what that is is so gender

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to dunia gender to dunia right, our home shouldn't be gender to dunya inshallah, tada and this is episode number 11. You know number 11. This is lecture number 11.

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And today inshallah huhtala it will be a very special session about parents remember what we talked about

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in the in the in the since the beginning of the sessions of the series where we're talking about foundations principles that we should all apply inshallah tada you know in our homes whether you're Muslim non Muslim, if you were to really adopt these principles or these foundations you will have a happy life in your homes inshallah dad right.

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As I mentioned, and I need this is just again another intro that I will not be able to solve every problem in every house in every issue because every prop every house has its own types of problems and different cases and whatnot. But these sessions are these foundations, this could be applicable in every household, every household you could use the same principles Principle number one, worship a lot together worship the Lord Allah Xhosa, together with your family, would your family and I spent a lot of time talking about that how can you worship a lot together? That does not mean inshallah went to the masjid gets open, you will miss printing the budget right? Just so that you

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can pray a home with your family know that that's not what it means. It means you know what your family maybe you can do. Together, you can live together, you can sit together and the HELOC a HELOC, a HELOC Hadith, right so this is what it means to worship a lot together having fun together. So that's no foundation number one foundation number two, value your family. We talked a lot about that you know value in your family foundation. Number three, live with mercy would your family live with

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urashima mercy number four family isn't near my family is a blessing of Allah is that we should write we talked about all these number five, the pivotal role of the Father, we talked about that, you know, maybe two sessions just talking about that. The role of the Father and then foundation number six, we talked about the father the friends, right how the Father, you know, should be a friend to his loved ones. And then number seven mothers we're talking about mothers right? The mothers the the the foundation, or the engine from which evasion, mothers the engines for motivation. That was number seven, Number eight, we talked about the language of compassion,

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the language of compassion, the language of love, that we should use, like I said, Here language of compassion, do you have to be a Muslim to use that language in your family? No, you don't have to be a Muslim. You see, this is applicable to Muslims, non Muslims alike. adopt the language of compassion, the language of love with your loved ones, you don't have to be a Muslim for this. Number nine respect and appreciation. This is no visa your children use this concept of respect and appreciation to appreciate them and to and to respect respect them, regardless of how of their age.

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They could be kids, adults, teenagers respect and appreciate them. And number 10. That was yesterday, no to hostility, no to an Earth. Remember, these are the things that we spoke about so far, no to hostility. And then the very last thing if you remember sisters and brothers yesterday, I said if you because I mentioned yesterday, a few pointers, you know, before punishment in this is another you know, I said instead I know look for some other initiatives, something such as an effort forgive.

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You know, this is in case if your kids have done something really, really, really bad. Number one, forgive if you can, you know, try to forgive. That's number one. Number two,

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I said, share your feelings. Tell them how disappointed you are, how sad you are not about them, but about yourself. how disappointed you are about yourself that you failed as a dad or maybe you failed as a mom share those feelings with them. But those you don't guess you focus on your own feelings versus pinpointing you know, failure. You call yourself that failure. You know, this is number two, it may help it may work and it does work. Number three, motivate them, motivate them and I gave you examples how some of the bicycle assessors they use to motivate their children even by giving them money to memorize the front end, for instance, right use all types of incentives, you know,

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encouragements number four, try to fix the problem together. This is in case again, you know, they've done something wrong. And we're talking about, you know, a member note to hostility. So I said, you know, fix the problem together. Number five parents bonding. These are all

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initiatives that you could use with your children in childhood to either versus punishing them, right versus punishment. This is I'm saying, These are other initiatives or methods that come, you know, before you know, instead of punishment, parents bonding bond with your son, bond with your daughter go out together, right? Share a coffee or a drink together, you know, like a juice or whatnot, or even a meal together outside not home, but outside bonding and spending time together, you know, then finally, I said, if you really have to punishment, because they deserve to be punished, then

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and you insist in punishing them because they have done something so bad. And they've got to be punished because of what they have done because you gave them so many, you know, chances and they have failed. So you know, you said no, no, no, no, I've got to punish them. If Remember I said yesterday, I said, Well, if you have decided to use punishment, and we said no to beating because beating does not solve problems, I mentioned that yesterday. I said okay, well I need to give you some some some action items to follow before you before you apply the punishment. This is where we left off yesterday with that, you know, with the the cliffhanger these are the I said I'm going to

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share with you 12345 maybe five six, you know pointers to use right before you punish your children. Number one, All right, here they are. Here they are. Write them down here. Write them down. I don't know if you guys are writing things down or you're just listening to me or just looking at my my walls or I don't know what you people are doing because I cannot see you. But I hope you're listening.

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Sisters, so Hey, man, you tried everything with your child. Nothing is working. Why don't you exchange him?

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Give him to somebody else.

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Huh? She's saying I tried everything with my son or my child. Nothing is working. So

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give him to somebody else exchange.

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You know? Why can't you do that? You know? I'll give you mine. Give me yours. Yeah, exchange

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them. You know what? You know, Yella Santa Monica i think nothing is working with you.

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Or you gave it to him or to your mom that how no and Oppo at a level I gave her to my mom, musky, the sister So hey, Mama.

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Sister, so Hey, Mom, you should you missed all my series use Mr. I think everything because the first time I see you here, I normally you know, keep going right? But when I see something really that attracts my attention. I pick on it. I think you have to go back and listen and watch all my sessions. They're all there. You know, you missed 10 sessions. Today is session number 11. You know, for you to tell me I gave her away to my mom.

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You missed out on so many beautiful things. Where is the I cannot just go back for you and talk to you about those 11 sessions or 10 sessions you have missed. But I was just joking. I'd been sarcastic when I said, you know, give away your child and exchange your child. I was being sarcastic. But in fact, it seems like you've already did it sisters, right. Anyways, number one brothers and sisters, if you have decided, you have decided for punishment, do this number one, agree with your child about the type of punishment

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agree with your child about the type of punishment

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no beating you can say no, I'm going to give you you know, here's the punishment. The punishment is, you know, five punches to the right, and maybe four to the left and five kicks and five elbows and five uppercuts and another five uppercuts and then on one hook from here and one hook from there. And then the grand finale was the grand finale. I'm gonna jump the dude that we call it you know, those who do the fighting you know, those who do MMA MMA fighting, they call it the Superman punch. You know the Superman like this is this is the grandfield I'm gonna draw up in the air and then give it to him. That's it's called the Superman punch. No, that's not what I'm talking about here. We

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cannot you know, be teen I said is not in this in this recipe. Beating is not in the recipe but agree with your child on the top of punishment. You got to agree on this. You know, maybe a strike 123

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a lot of people use this strike. 123 you know you guys don't have you know, baseball in the

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Okay, we have it in North America. I don't like it. I find I find it to be to be boring. Just like crickets. For me. Cricket is the most boring game on Earth. No, no. Golf, golf and then cricket. I've never seen a game that lasts sometimes three days, four days, five days, you know, and you just like waited the whole day. Somebody is just throwing in somebody's head and then people are just screaming their guts out. Screaming their guts out for some other form. It's so boring. Anyways, you know, strike one, strike two strike three something like that, you know agree on the type of punishment number two.

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No, dude, this is number one. Number one is agree on a punishment number two, strike one strike two, strike three. Number three. If you want to punish never punished your son or daughter in front of people.

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Oh, this is a killer.

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Never punish them.

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Front of people in front of their friends in front of people in general.

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You're punishing them twice.

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You're punishing them twice. You're punishing them by whatever. Applying that punishment. And number two, you are embarrassing them in front of the people. This is this is this is you know this is mentally is wrong. Psychologically This is wrong

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islamically it's wrong.

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islamically is wrong.

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Even if you want to give advice. Never give advice in front of people

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like a good advice. Why because some people some what happens is you have the you have the ego that kicks in even when somebody is wrong. Because front of people and sometimes these people that you even the shape, even the shape when he's wrong. So Pamela and then someone may want to correct the shape front of people the shifts. And as the chef is Allah Xhosa uses like a lucky but some shapes because the ego kicks in and the embarrassment front of people. They will start arguing with you knowing that they're wrong. But because you tried to correct the front of people, they don't want to look bad, so they will try to start defending themselves.

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One from the past with assessors he said he heard in my medic give a fair one.

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You heard him a medic give a fatwa. So he said, I waited until I had to have furnace had to have furnace. I waited until everybody was gone. And then I went to my Mac and I said Oh Mr. Malik, I heard from a civil law that this had it and I heard that this had it and then he mentioned the Hadith of the Prophet Mohammed Allah said, he says from there on, I never heard him a medic making that photo again. But the key point here is I waited and two people were gone. Then I went to him and I gave him my you know, my advice.

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Has anyone ever seen

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it? Has anyone ever seen the grand children of the Prophet Muhammad Ali sort of said he saw they saw a man make him a little. But he was making the wrong booty. He did not know how to make it properly. So they want to correct him. Right? But he's an older man, he's an ankle right for them, their kids is an ankle. So look at the how brilliant Mashallah they were they called him and they said Uncle, uncle me and my brother, me and my brother, we are arguing who's making will do better than the other? I claim I make better than he he claims he makes better than mine. Could you please come and judge us judge us see who makes the world and they both make the same model by the way. They both

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make the same model, but they want to teach that man the lesson. So they started making although exactly the same and the man is seen and learning and he says well ah he both of you make better than me. They taught him this beautiful lesson. indirectly. Not front of people. Not your own. No like Yo yo yo ma you know the atoms they call it Yama

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blessing one of my teachers from Egypt. He he saw you know he was in Saudi Arabia in Mecca, Medina, and he's so the sutra time. And then one of these officers was calling a guy and he was telling him a Salah salia Ma, Ma. He was during the upcoming prayer Dunkey the Salah Look how is this is the dial up that one method that our methodology is the new methodology says Ma Ma. It says pray your donkey Yeah. Hey ma

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So the chef went to him and he says, excuse me, sir, excuse me. Number one.

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Allah did not prescribe Salah on donkeys.

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He has come up if he's come up, he doesn't have to pray.

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Because Allah did not make the Salah in a prescribed bubble on donkeys so you call them Mr.

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Kumar. He doesn't have to pray. Number one number do you see is does he look him after you?

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Does he look him after you? Does he look donkey to you, man? What kind of enemies but sometimes I know as a father or as a mother, right? As a parent, sometimes you want to call your child Yeah, I your mom.

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Or your mother? What man? But you try to hold your tongue you don't want to say like I use jumping or what? You know, in my home. I make it like no no, you cannot call stupid at home. You cannot go you know we have it's for me. It's a curse. You don't use that language in my in my house. You cannot call your your sibling a stupid model. I know. I get to call your mother but you don't call each other.

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I'm just joking.

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I don't call

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I get COVID don't call them my call you know, but you know it just I'm saying

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number three, when you

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when lace m&s do not punish them front of people.

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That's number three. Number four. Never punish while you are mad.

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That's disgust this you and I Ha. Let's discuss this. You and I never punish your children while you are upset.

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You may say, then chef, hold on a second. Should I wait until you honey? I'm cool. And he's sitting nicely happy watching TV or playing or reading right? Read it? And then we'll just go and give him a slap in the face. What do you mean, don't punish him when I'm angry? Then when should I punish him when I'm happy? It makes no sense. What can I do? Man? I know maybe some of you are saying this.

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Maybe some of you are thinking something like that. Right?

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And oh, yeah. Don't punish when you're angry, then when should you punish?

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Don't beat up when you're angry than one. Should you any wait until he is happy playing and smiling? Hey, come come and play. Give it to him? No,

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no, no.

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Do not because you may do something that you would feel very bad about later on.

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If you were to punish, well, you're angry. Because those who get you know, they have this anger management problem. And sometimes when you're angry, and then once you calm down, so many times you come down and you say, Oh, I shouldn't have said what I said

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I shouldn't have, I shouldn't have done this when I've done it, you know, and then you will feel bad.

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They will feel bad. So the rule here is never punish your children. While you are under that state of anger. You may you may use your hands, you may use your mouth, you may use things or say things that you don't mean, because you're angry. So try not to do that without a lot of time.

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And number five, and this is the last one brothers and sisters explained to him or to her why they've been punished.

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As I mentioned yesterday, sometimes they don't know why they've been punished, you're punishing them, maybe you take their phones away, or you take their games away or take their bikes or you take their keys to their car or whatever, whatever right? You know, and you they don't know why you're doing that.

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explain to them why

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you're punishing them.

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So these are these pointers that I wanted to share with you in childhood data. If you have decided that you have to punish your children follow these pointers before you do that inshallah.

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Now, I want to move to a new session where brothers and sisters since we talked about no mothers on their own fathers on their own, I want to talk about them together. Now inshallah.

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I want to talk about them together in sha Allah to Allah and they call this parents

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gateways to China. Yes. You see, I've been talking about the rights of the children to out. But my business sisters, our parents,

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how do we treat them together?

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How do we treat our parents together? How do we treat our moms? How do we treat our dads?

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Do we know that? Yes, I mentioned this.

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That there is a gate in Jannah.

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In the middle of January, it's called the gate of the parents.

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There's a gate in Jannah called the gates of the parents.

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In Arabic disobedience of this honoring the parents, we call it the open Well, he didn't listen to this very well. This is why I said call your children

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call your loved ones. Let them listen and hear this out.

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of pocket. Well then in Arabic, it's called the o clock, otherwise the day

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if you look at the translation, it is not so pure. They call it this honoring the parents.

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But the word revoke, what does it really mean in Arabic? Ah,

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you see, it is worst when you say open Well, it ain't versus as the end of the day.

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As the end ACM means disobedience. yes to this obey. In Arabic, I'm giving you an Arabic.

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That's the small Arabic lecture quick one, right? You know, in terms of the grammar of the hours, look how powerful the language is.

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oboe versus ACM. ACM is disobedience of the parents.

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is worse than the disobedience of the parents. is worst up.

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When we say

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this is the tone, for instance, like a shirt, or a or a subtle lab, homies

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whatever, you know, we put a toe tube right to you know, app Tobu. In Arabic, aka derived from a book Africa means Meza, torn apart.

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In Arabic, again, the depth of the world of the word aka yo comes from Baku le de right? It is to Muslim means to tear something apart to rip it apart. to rupture, rupture something, tear it apart.

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How can the man Oh, here's another another beautiful thing for you. Those of you want to learn Arabic by the man. Oh, and Matt means water.

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Water right? It's called Matt in Arabic. When we say by the man Oh, what does it mean?

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The water have become very sour.

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very sour, very bad.

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Sour Barrett.

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muddy is shady the MA in Arabic moo, moo shadow masala. very sour, right. So here, when it comes to the parents, you know, saying

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you know, you know, as they call it disobeyed dishonouring. The parents, but it is more than that you have ripped apart that relationship between you and your parents, you have ripped apart that relationship between you and Eliza by this honoring the parents.

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This is why I said it's beautiful. When you really don't know just go deep into the language of atoms.

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It is not just disobeying them. It's more of this honoring them. This honoring the parents.

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What do I need to do?

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I'll give you some quick, quick notes. shala. And then we will move into into talking about you know, how should I treat my parents, I'm going to give you pointers. I'm going to give you the action items or shallow data. I will not just you know sound nice, but at the same time I'm going to share with you pointers and shallow data that with the everybody can use and I'm going to talk about those whose parents are not Muslims as well. Those who have maybe with a step mom or stepdad. Do they take the role of the father? Do they take the role of the mother, you know?

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Have you consulted Do you consult with your parents? Do you consult with them?

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Even if you're an adult?

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You say I make my own decisions. But do you consult with them

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Are you being patient with your parents especially when they reach a certain age?

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I do not have coke.

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Open every day not how Coke, hope it's a different word hook is the rights of Coke is the dishonouring of the parents. You see how the Arabic is very powerful?

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Are you patient with your parents, especially when they reach a certain age?

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Do you pay attention to them? Because they need that attention. Do you give it to them? They may not tell you.

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They may not tell you that they need your help.

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Sometimes they go and they do things on their own.

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When I saw a woman, some handler she was you know, she has Mashallah kids.

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Adults, teenagers sleeping inside, I don't know what they're doing. And she is the one shoveling the snow in their driveway. In the back and on the front row. She is the one shoveling the snow.

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Maybe her children they don't want to do it.

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She comes the mom or the dad, you know, they go and they wash the dishes themselves because nobody wants to do to do them. You know, they just sit there she goes Myskina she watches them. She doesn't tell you.

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Do you pay attention to her needs?

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When was the last time you brought a smile to their face?

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When was the last time you made your parents happy?

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With some beautiful news. Or maybe just a smile? Or maybe a hug? When was the last time a carton Basma either usually you made them happy.

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Maybe a lot of us a lot of kids, you know they they are experts in making the parent sad, disappointed, angry. But a fee of tea, you know, at least you know, do you also make them happy as well or only cause them pain on the constant sadness.

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One of the ways also in Islam in Islam in Islam,

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when we call bill le de because the opposite of El Coco validate his bill every day, the opposite of this honoring the parents is Bill. Bill. One of the ways to to honor your parents is also to be kind to their friends. Maybe you've never heard of something like this before.

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Especially after they die. Because you may say well, my my parents have died. How can I still honor them? many ways. One of the ways is to be kind to their friends. You know who used to do that. Abdullah pub. pub. This is son, Abdullah. Abdullah.

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He used to have the Allahu Allah He used to, you know, he used to be kind to his father's friend. He saw him one day he saw a man you know with a moon. He went to him, he hugged him. He was talking to him. He took his moon and he gave him his horse. He gave him a horse. People were saying

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the law Why are you doing that to that man, that old man he says that was my father's friend. I wanted to honor him.

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I wanted to honor my father's friends.

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If your dad or your mom has a very close friend, if you honor them as if you're honoring your parents

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make up for them alive and dead.

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make dinner for your parents. You don't have to make the offer them only when there are dead

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make draft for them whether they're alive or they are dead.

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You always make that to your parents.

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Don't let a day go without you making the app for your parents.

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Don't let a day pass by without making too hard for your parents in every Salah. You should be making the app for your parents

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in every sada

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you should never

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you should never

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make them angry because making them angry is making a lot angry.

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Kaboom fiata Bella

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displeasing them is displeasing Allah.

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displeasing the parents is displeasing Allah Xhosa.

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displeasing them

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will will disorder some Halloween. They say the scholars they say displeasing the parents, and making them angry in the unmaking and dishonouring them, you know, what it causes what many things one of the things that causes, it puts darkness in the face.

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It puts darkness in the face.

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It puts darkness in your life.

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While I swear by Allah, the One who dishonored his parents, he can never be happy in his life.

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Inside he will never be happy in his life.

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The Prophet Mohammed Salah verison says,

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Let him be humbled into dust, let him be humbled into dust, let him be humble. Let him be disgraced. May he be disgraced three times as if he's cursing, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced? May he be disgraced three times, who else will love Who is this man who is this person? He says, whose parents are one or both alive or they attend attain a certain age

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and he does not serve them and attend to them to antigen

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May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced?

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The one who attained his parents who are both one was both alive and he does not really gain hit their their their their blessing for him to antigen May he be disgraced.

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Those who dishonor their parents, they will receive their punishment in this life before the life of the hereafter.

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Those are repeat those who displease and dishonor their parents, they will receive their punishment from Allah Xhosa in this life, and another punishment in the Hereafter, who says Prophet Mohammed and his substance. He says, if you're at your home alone for dunya Allah two types of since two types of sins whosoever whosoever does these two types of sins, they shall the prophet SAW some says, they shall you know, that person shall get his punishment in this life before the Hereafter, two punishments in disturbing the love of the laughter. number one. Number one, the prophet SAW him says number one, a day again comes from eating

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an apple, the one who dishonor his parents, the one who dishonored his parents. And number two, the one who oppresses others. So these two types of since a presser and the one who disorders the parents, they shall get the punishment in this life before the life of the hereafter.

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Prophet Mohammed Salaam says that

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the Prophet Mohammed disavows those who displease their parents married men whom he is very he is he is a voice is innocent from them. Some are nuisance.

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Imagine this man goes to the Prophet Mohammed Sawsan. This man goes to the prophet Elijah Sammy says, jasola what are the most beloved deeds in the cell of Allah? Imagine a man goes to the Prophet asking him, what are the most beloved actions in the set of Allah subhana wa Tada. And then the Prophet Mohammed and his have said in what Helen says, of sola, sola, it's you know, I know ocsea praying on time, the most beloved deed in the cell of Allah, praying on time, right after prayer, the province is honoring the parents being good to the parents. Right after Sunnah. He doesn't mention so young, he doesn't mention has he does not mention sadaqa he does not mention piane he

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does not mention

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he doesn't mention crap. And all these other amazing action he says right after the Prophet says

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honoring the parents.

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You want to love to love you. Of course you want to love you. If your parents are alive.

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Please them, please them. And I mentioned those of you who came in late, go back and watch the session from the very beginning. If you know another way to please them. If there are

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Live are not alive, especially if they if they're dead, somebody like their friends be counted their friends, honor their friends, your father's friends, will your mother's friends honor them?

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honor them.

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You remember I mentioned this hadith during the,

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during the end of time, the series The End of Time Series when the Prophet Mohammed I didn't tell him he entered gender and then he heard some movement in Jenna. And then he asked you believe about that movement. He says, I the movement of health of the new man

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have the new man and had it had been a man had brothers and sisters had he that he was the most dutiful person known in Medina to his mom.

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The prophet SAW some he heard him in German, because what are you know what earned him that bracing? Jenna he's dutifulness to his mother

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in law, his dutifulness to his mom earned him a place in Jana. So much so that Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam he heard his footsteps in gender he saw he heard him in general he urged him in the second

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half of the Norma

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Allah subhana wa tada says by the lamina shitamachi in Salt Lake

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wa buka Budo in

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Santa Maria

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de Caen Kiba, Huma, Huma,

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Huma well

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Karina what Madonna has done me know what what what Bellingham Houma can

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walk on on boo,

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Yah hoo, I've been wanting to hear

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your Lord has decreed. It's done.

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Your Lord has decreed waka book, your Lord. This is a decision it's been decided it's been decreed.

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The matter has been decreed The matter has been decided. What what are law? What about a book I know

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would be the word he Dini it's your Lord has decreed that you worship not by him and that you be dutiful to your parents.

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In Mallya blue one, Kalki Baba Huma okina Huma

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Huma Huma aaltonen Carrie

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Watford Lamar Jenner has only mean of luck man will not be in a hammock, by any swabbing a lot lower onto them.

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The wings of humility,

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the wings of humanity, you disgrace yourself before them.

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You may say oh, they're disgracing me. Well, Allah says he's already telling you to disgrace yourself before your parents

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disgracing you

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and He gives us an example of this Bert Jenner has very limited agenda, the Wink, lower onto them the Wink of humility,

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you know, have the limit and then say, say what about Bill ham humor come out of Bayani Sorry, I say Oh my Lord, have mercy upon them as they have raised me when I was a kid.

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Soften your hearts.

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I'm going to tell you something my brothers and sisters, that will soften your hearts towards your parents.

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Because I love you all for the sake of Allah. I'm going to share with you one. Here's how many things I'm going to share with you 1233 or four, maybe four or five things that will soften your hearts towards your parents. You want to take notes. Don't just try to remember you need to take notes because I have never shared this maybe only once when I taught the this course a long time ago in the UK right live and people had to pay for it. But now you get to have it for free. You get to have it for free. 12345 things that would soften your hearts towards your parents. Yes, it is definitely five things that would soften your heart

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Words your parents. Why? Because I'm going to give you these things plus inshallah hota Anna explaination, beautiful, beautiful, amazing things because some of you may some people they take you know grudges towards their parents, some people, they take grudges towards their parents or some they say shit, I'm teaching this course I want to learn from you because I take notes and they're gonna teach amazing and a lot of people do that, oh my students, they do that. In fact, one of my students they come in, they take in hamdulillah they attend my lectures and online are live and my seminars, like the, the, the names of a lot like the, the, the, the stories of the prophets, like,

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you know, the purification of the soul, they take those fish out to apply them but also the teach. Mashallah, right, great, great, great, and it's for everyone. So here, I'm going to share with you five pointers that will soften your hearts and will render your hearts like, like milk like like silk, silk 1998 silk 1998 No, this is silk. 90, zillions. 98 This is 93 millions 9890 zillions, 9890 whatever. 98 silk, it will turn your heart in silicon shot Allahu taala towards your parents five pointers in sha Allah with dad. When? No of course not. Of course not. Of course not. You know it and you smell it. You know it and you smell it? That's for tomorrow and sha Allah hota

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that's for two more shout Allahu Tada. Yes, Sadie Han. Yes. Ha deja Mohammed. Yes. Mariana. Yes, yes, yes, silk. Yes. Later. Manasa all of you and Sharla hota Anna

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Bismillah tomorrow. Mashallah. session number two, part two of gateways to heaven parents gateways to have inshallah Tada. Why? Why? Because once I'm done with the session, I'm going to move to husbands and wives. Yay. What? Yes. I told you, this is a this is a this is it's like a Moroccan cuisine. Have you ever tasted Moroccan cuisine? There's like a Moroccan cuisine, you know, you open the Duchy and then you've got you've got you know, meat or chicken and then all types of different vegetables. Yes, this homemade happiness is like a Moroccan cuisine. You open it, and there is wonders. There's magic. There's magic for everyone. So parents, children, you know, in laws,

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outlaws, sisters, sister, you know what you call them a father, stepfather, stepmother, whoever you know, this is for everyone. charlo Tana and tomorrow once we finish the evening, this you know, the the the, the action items that will inshallah huhtala soften your heart towards the parents five remember five we will move to husbands and wives

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and I call that you know, listen, listen, husbands and wives just so you know. I call that what are the love?

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Water the love water the love don't love

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water. Exactly, I'm preparing you for water in the love. You know, but that's when we talk about husbands and wives before we talk about husbands and wives inshallah. We want to finish tomorrow in beauty talking about the you know how to soften our hearts towards our parents inshallah Tada, you know, soften our hearts towards our moms our dads shot Allahu Tada, so that from now on from their own, you will never think to displease your parents and Chavo title. Never ever think of displeasing your parents in the lab. That will be tomorrow shallow Jana sisters was that Kamala hair?

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Come on.

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Is that like Kamala Harris? Coffee calm. Thank you so much for joining. Thank you sister Khadija and say that Mariana and all of those of you on Facebook, those of you on Instagram they attend this has really been some have a lie and he affected so badly with with Instagram. I don't know why I don't know what happens but inshallah we'll you know, bring it up at some point be in the last coma and maybe the timing. I don't know what it is. But I'll keep doing what I'm doing. It's all there. It's all there.

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It's all there.

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Recorded you can always go back and watch them. Those of you who came in late, go back and watch the session. You do not want to miss it is that Kamala Harris sisters brothers and sister Baraka Luffy come, sister silk 1988 Layla and Vanessa

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What are the brothers today? Where in the world are the brothers man I don't see them system that Deanna Diem Manasa Mila

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NAS I don't see no brothers man oh man just came along ah

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okay because Asia but he shot Are you going to the mission if you go to the mentioned that something else but the issue you can always delay it right he shot you can always delay we started 11pm right and Asia is only five minutes you came in late my man you came in when I'm done you just came in right now oh man you just gave me like five minutes ago. Yeah, so inshallah, tada, those of you who came in late, go back and watch but tomorrow, inshallah, tomorrow, come back with Neela, we will give you that, you know, softening in sha Allah, Who to Allah, then we would move and talk about parents being the lead. I mean, talk about husbands and wives, maybe maybe if this stays like this,

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I will only do it maybe on the weekend, instead of doing it on daily basis, because if this lockdown is being lifted, then we may need to move it only to the weekends to like maybe Friday, Saturday, Sunday or something. And then I will take the week off myself, right? You know, if you guys said I was different, maybe you should move it just to the weekend. Maybe I can do it on the weekend, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, works out for me, and then take the week, you know, weekdays off maybe I'll think about this, I think about this, you know, seriously. So I think about this because I spent a lot of time preparing for these lectures and sharlyn hamdulillah you know, some hard things

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to go down from 50 to about you know, less than 20 people

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you know, I don't know I don't know.

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But anyways, I

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some of you said no, keep them inshallah Tada. We'll see how things go be in the lab.

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We'll see how things will go with nilla and then will will will

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will play by ear as we say all right, we paid by inshallah tada comme la hit Facebook while a coffee comes from McKesson, America.

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