Riad Ouarzazi – Homemade Happiness #13 – Water The Love Part 1

Riad Ouarzazi
AI: Summary © The host of a radio show introduces a series on water the love series, covering topics such as relationships, family members, and the meaning of "verbal love." The series emphasizes trusting each other and avoiding confusion, as well as the importance of finding a partner who is the right one for a relationship. The segment also touches on issues of lust and loss of love, and the success of bringing love back to the surface to avoid distraction and confusion. The segment also discusses issues related to love, including problems in relationships between husbands and wives, and how to change love into a passion.
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Smell out handler Sato summersville.

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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This is rather as as you were coming here to another episode of homemade happiness, this is session number 13.

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All husbands and wives or prospects, future husbands and wives, you should all log in today is going to be special.

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Today's about love.

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Instagram, Facebook, said Mr. de como, Allah wa barakato Yeah, hello.

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Hello marhaba Welcome, welcome all of you. Episode Number 13 of homemade happiness. And today's session is titled, water the love. Yes, today we're going to call it water the love all the

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again husbands wives future husbands and wives, future prospects, husbands and wives to be in Sharla Hello, Donna, all of you should log in. So let me give just a minute or two for more people to join in Sharla so that we can start our session. This is episode number 13. And all previous episodes were all recorded. You can always go back and watch them on Facebook on YouTube. Instagram, doesn't keep them It gives them only for 24 hours but I think now on HGTV you can always you know you can watch them on HGTV on Instagram, but they're on Facebook and they're on my YouTube page as well.

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So welcome all of you it's taking a little you know, for people taking longer to to join our days for some reason why they come and set up my global accounts

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already so I don't know what's going on. Where's everyone?

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Where's everybody?

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Yay. Cuz I want to start Yeah, hello marhaba all of you Welcome back. Welcome back. Some of us you know some of you it's been a while I don't know what happened. But you are you've gone you've gotten sort of like

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disappeared all of a sudden right after Ramadan you disappeared with Ramadan you went with the moon

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some of you went with the moon you know what happened?

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I'm not gonna mention no names but you know who you are. Some of you disappeared with the morning of ramadan ramadan moon left and you guys went with it

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all right, you know who that you are? I'm not gonna mention who you are. I'm not gonna read because I know everybody I know everybody who comes in I know the newcomers I don't you the old comers, old students new ones whoever so but some of you just disappeared all of a sudden

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Yeah, I'm not all of a sudden no they disappeared with ramadan ramadan gone and they went with I don't know where they went. Maybe they just stored so much food that after Ramadan. They went a burger they were just like crazy.

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But yeah, today inshallah tada it starts is and I wanted to give more time for people to join but anyways with john Woodstock and shout out to Adam over the sisters once again so don't worry come up later avacado the others as they were coming you all to the homemade happiness series. This is session number 13 imagine those of you who joined now or maybe just joined

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new to the series they have 1312 previous episodes right 12 previous episodes and this is episode number 13 and it's like a chain one thing after another so but but today is going to be totally new episode called water the love in this in this series we spoke about every member of the family there's a message for every member of the family and I'm I'm getting ready for my conclusion inshallah tada you know, because I see that a few more sessions you know from your a few more episodes. And then my conclusion one more time will be whispering words into the ear of every wife into the ear of every husband into the ear of every son and daughter into the ear of every dad and

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mom. So that would be my final session inshallah tada but as for today, today inshallah huhtala will be about watering the love, water the love, water, the love, a water the love. Exactly, that's what be today inshallah Tada. So which means today

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message is for husbands and wives, right husbands and wives, whether you've been married for 1000 years, or just got married yesterday, or just got married a week ago or to be married and shout Allahu taala in a week or two or three or four or five, you know, I'm going with this right. inshallah huhtala husbands and wives this session is for your husbands and wives,

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or husbands and wives to be this message or this today's session is for you in sha Allah who died in Arabi. I call it an chabane. So Jane,

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or I can call it

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Oh, where are you going? Man? Take it easy. What's up with that? Not in Arabic. I call it bottleshop.

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I can call it an chabane. So Jane, which means love between husbands and wives or the ocean of love. I think that sounds even more Shakespearean ocean of love. Right? So this in fact, like I said, the series is a paid series of handla but I'm giving it to you. You should think Mr. colonna, right Really? You should think Mr. Cardona because you're all getting these things for free. These sessions these episodes these seminars are you know, people they pay money to attend them in my normal seminars out there. These are live seminars, but because of Mr. Khurana right, we're giving them for you or to you for free. So you should be grateful to call on that. Not cares call on that.

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You should say thank you calling them at Miss Corona or Mrs. Corona or the Mr. korona. Maybe you can say it in Chinese. The how much Oh Corona. This is Chinese actually, you know, it's not i'm not making it up the Hallmark Corona says hey, in Chinese Thank you means si si. Si Si se se corner but I don't know how they say Corona in Chinese though. CCA Si, si, si, si, si, si. Whether you speak Mandarin, or not Mandarin. Say. Alright. So anyways, hope this answers. Let's start with Sharla butanna with our new session today.

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And humblebee the zoji

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Love between husbands and wives.

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Love Okay, let me ask you. All of you out there Mariana Mohammed Lola robe, from Facebook, all the sisters out there. And from Instagram, Mona's

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RF, rF sumaiya Sasha or what? What is the definition of love?

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What is your definition of love? Laila, what is your definition of love? What is love? And hope you know in Arabic love means hope. It means it has two letters. But hope hat bad hat hat and bat

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is love and hope. Right? And

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in English it's called love.

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In although it's called my habit,

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my habits

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in French it's called love. Oh, wow. llamo that's in French.

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In Chinese it's called gesture. Oh, I don't know what that is SEO SEO. I don't know.

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Maybe that's the fear. It's cool to see Oh, what is love trusting and respecting each other? That's what love is Mariana

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Hurry and conditional caring. When you care about someone's happiness more than yours. Wow. Yes mean? That's very deep. Emotional that attachment Sarang Oh, you must be watching all those Korean drama historical movies on social media. I know what you're doing. I know what you're doing. You must have watched the the Sarang harangue

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the Sarang harangue or maybe you watch the the what is called the that that that that's Connor in the moonlight or something you watch those those Korean drama sessions love his friendship and understanding each other love is has been plus wife plus Allah equal love triangle Ashraf masala can Ashraf Ashraf must, must be a mathematic mathematical brother. You know his

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mathematician. Husband plus wife plus Allah subhanho wa Taala he called love triangle. That's his definition of love. Respect, understanding and care.

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Samia she says she's cracking up Okay, so what is that what love is all right? What is love? What is love? What is that's not a song. It sounds like a song. What is what is what is love? What is what is what is love What is love? Love is a behavior.

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Love is an attitude.

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Love is an attitude.

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Love is an action.

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emotional attachment. Mm hmm. Love is a conduct.

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Love is a conduct. Love is a commitment. Okay, I agree. Respect and trusting each other. All right. friendship.

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Somebody said friendship. Okay, I agree. These are all loves, right? These are all maybe the finishing of love but

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let me let me summarize it maybe in one words.

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If we were to summarize it in one word, what would you summarize it to? Say? dia, I shall have Mariana Lula haba Oh man. Layla sumiya if you want to summarize love in one word, in one word, what would that word be? If you want to summarize it in one word, love what would that word be?

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Especially when we're talking between

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when we talk about husbands and why love between husband and wife right between husband and wife there's love so if you want to summarize that in one word

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I just said blessing acceptance so Mia she says it's difficult so you will that's why you're single right? And you see skip thinking it's difficult you will stay single so Maria keeps saying it's difficult that's why that's why I said that's why you're single. Then I said unconditional patience. Okay, happiness. Oh nice Sadie a nice nice shoes yes a security Okay, this is all gold beautiful word sacrifice trust masala Wait what's going on here?

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What is going on here? And mall v said oh ma v said no. And he's I that's your problem my man you can always go back and watch the beginning right so intimate to each other Mariana intimate each other i like i like i like happiness. Yeah, I like friendship. For me understanding for human as is understanding for somebody to trust for tasneem is compassion. Okay? So this is if you want to summarize. Love in one word between husband and wife love between husband because you see a Let me explain something here. The way your husband loves you is different than the way or the way you love your husband is different than the way you love your mom. The way you love your mom is different

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than the way you love your dad. The way you love your dad is different than the way you love your son. The way you love your children is different than the way you love your spouse or how you know everybody has eats or her own type of love. Right? I love my children different than you know that love is different than you know I love my wife is different than I love my mom right on my brother on my sister you know we call it love you cannot love It's a feeling it's love right but but everybody has it's on or hurt on on type or nature of of love.

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For me if I want to maybe summarize it in one word, this is all amazing all of you all the you all your you know, whatever you've said here with regard to you know your definition of love. Some people said happiness, friendship, you know, compassion, trust all that is amazing. All that is amazing. Right? But I would say love is

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especially between husbands wives love is actions. Between husbands and wives love I'm repeating myself actions.

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All of you. I agree with everything you said. If I were to summarize it myself between husbands and wives I say love our actions.

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Today my business sisters, I'm a marriage officer Just so you know, right? Um, don't talk off of like I'm not talking in vain. I talk of experience of over 23

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Two years. All right. I'm a marriage officer, I see eye to eye, I used to do a lot of calcine you know, people who go into marital problems and whatnot.

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There is actually a big problem happening between a lot of couples. I'm not just talking about Muslim couples.

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And that problem is called dial up. But yeah, and in Arabic, what does that mean? They all hope,

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the loss love, or the lust of love, or love lust,

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however, you want to call it the end, when you translate Arabic into English makes no sense.

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Makes no sense. But by a job, the loss of love,

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the loss of love.

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We're talking about, you know, issues happening between husbands and wives. But in this session, inshallah huhtala, we want to talk about the rebirth of love,

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what the rebirth of love,

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the rebirth, no, even the rebirth is wrong.

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The reappearance of love, because love is always there. And I liked that I liked the waste of love, actually better than the lust of love, the waste of love. So

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the very first sign

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of that love being wasted between husbands and wives they are, I think, 1234, I'm going to share with you about four signs that indicate when love is wasted or lost between husbands and wives.

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Once you start seeing the signals, or this signs, do you know, you would know that love is getting lost between and wasted between husbands and wives, the first sign that love is getting wasted between husbands and wives is this.

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Less communication between each other, this dialogue between one another, because today is about husbands and wives. It's about love, right? Whether you're married or not, you will benefit from this session, whether you are married or not, because inshallah even if you're not married, you will get married, even if you're divorced and Sharla, who to Ana, Eliza will bless you with somebody who's better be igneel that, you know, so anyways, anyways, everybody would benefit from this, or you can benefit your loved ones,

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your daughters or your sons to be in Charlotte to be, you know, future weds, even in the very first sign that love is lost between husbands and wives is the disappearance of or the lack of communication happening between the two.

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Yeah, killer, killer, killer killer, you know, these conversations and dialogues.

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Before they used to talk a lot,

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especially before marriage, a lot of communication, a lot of texts, a lot of talks on the phone,

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the first week of marriage, the first month of marriage, the first six months of marriage.

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But then sometimes what happens after a few years after a few months, if you start seeing that this communication or the dialogues is getting less and less and less, you know that there's a problem right there you know, with with love between husbands and wives.

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Oh and mother, the very first side, less talking with each other.

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Number two,

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the husband's start

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trying to mix a cue excuses not to come home or maybe to come late home. That's definitely sisters, this is for you. Well, like I said that in the beginning, I swear by Allah now I don't have to swear.

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I charge and I used to but you know, somehow this kind of information I've given you, you will pay lots of money to be counseled to go to some counseling session. marital counseling session, they charge lots of money, I charge a lot of money when it comes to marital counseling. Right? So I'm giving you something that you really it's for free. And this is why things that are taken for free. People don't value them. Please don't be like that. Please don't be like that. Because when you give you something free, people tend not to value it and not to cherish it. But when you charge when I used to charge when I charge people they value my time and they listen. So I'm giving you something

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gold, take it, learn it, you know take heat, not because it is free. You know, you just relax and from then on. whatever whatever. I'm giving you something

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Annie it's more than gold.

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Sisters Listen up, listen up. When you see the husband started making excuses coming home late,

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not wanting to spend time with you at home

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or riding away from home under the pretext that he's he's busy with work outside or under the pretext that he was with his friends. Yes he is maybe having more fun with his friends that he is having in his own home.

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When you see your husband not spending too much time at home or with you at home, or trying again giving you excuses not to come home or coming in late at home know for sure that there is a problem at home.

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I am telling you these are over 2030 years of calcein experience this is not my talk is not in vain.

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My talk is not in vain.

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So that's sign number two.

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I'm talking about I met

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by yarn shop.

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I know many of the signs of law of love being lost between husbands and wives or being wasted between husbands and wives.

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So he started going out with his friends more than spending more time with you.

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going out into coffee shops with friends more or bonding with friends more than spending time with you.

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There's a problem that sign number two sign number three.

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sign number three.

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Both couples that start seeing the negatives versus seeing the positives.

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Hmm, what Yes.

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He saw the nugget negatives before and she saw those negatives before but they let that go. Or maybe because they will be reached.

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newlyweds right. They will be reached. They were under the effect the blues. They were under the blues. They were under the effect ah you know of the love. Ah so what happens?

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Now they start you know, just pinpointing on the negatives versus the positives. They don't look at the positives at all. They start looking at the negatives more

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What happened?

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Look at the way she I didn't see this. Look at the way she dresses. Look. Look at the way she she brushes her hair. Look at the way she she walks or man look at the way she sleeps and then the she also looks at him. Look at the way he snores.

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Listen to the way he talks. Look at the way he burps

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look at the way he passes air. One sister called me one day she said Jeff, I want to divorce my husband. She just married him few weeks. And she says one divorce I said What's wrong? He says My husband has no respect. I said What happened? He just he passes in front of me.

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I swear

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I swear I'll lie she said my husband was is there run on me. I just sit there get used to it.

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Lot Adi

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sister got used to it. No I don't

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know what

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he you know what? I was gonna tell you that how No, no. No, go shoot him. I don't know. Go shoot the go every time he doesn't go kick him in his butt. Every time he does it, kick him in his butt. Oh, better yet. Why don't you guys start communicating with Stefan Molyneux. What am I talking about? Yeah. Anyways, what I'm saying here is sign number three this start looking at the negatives versus the positives every little thing is pick pick you know picking on her and she's picking on him in everything all right.

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Things that maybe he did not see before now he's seeing it

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and and what happens as well is that no shade bonds straight on his start making those things you know, more obvious. And he's making them look so bad and so big consulting humongous with our something so small shape that makes it look so humongous? And he comes to us to say what were you thinking man? What he tells you what were you

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You looking where were you looking before you married that guy? What were you thinking? And he tells him the same thing. So he starts seeing the negatives, your husband or your wife, they start seeing the negatives more than the positives. The Prophet Mohammed, some of our Islam says, and I'm talking more to the husbands Actually, I'm talking more about the husbands here because the Prophet Mohammed samsam says, last year for the como min more Amina, a believing men should not hate his believing wife. If he dislikes the Prophet says, if he dislikes one of her characters characteristics, he will be pleased with another beautiful look how the Prophet solve this problem. So this is something that

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is not new.

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This is something that is not new.

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The Prophet Mohammed Aliso spoke about this long time ago, when he said, I believe in man should not hate his believing wife. If he dislikes something, if he dislikes something in her, you know, from her on her characteristics, right? If he dislikes something, he wouldn't be pleased with another. There's always that balance out there. There is nobody who's perfect sisters and brothers, okay. There is nobody who is the perfect husband, or the perfect wife. You may like the wife, Mashallah, the way she looks, you know that that Bollywood wife that you were watching on that TV, even they they designed her and carved her for you on Photoshop, and they made her she came out exactly as you

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wished, as you wished you wished as you wished. And she will have some sort of faults in her likewise for the husband, there is not a perfect husband. Yes, you may like the way he looks, you may have the six packs, Mashallah, he may be so slim and fit and tall and handsome.

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But he would definitely have something that you would not like, because we're human beings. Because we are human beings, nobody's perfect. So the Prophet Mohammed Salah Islam says, he said, Do not for a belief in husbands believing that he should not hate his belief in woman, if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. So that's number three, sign number three, sign number four.

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sign number four.

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And this is a tough one.

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Because sign number one is there's less conversation and less talk into this dialogue between the two. sign number two is the husband's start, you know, spending spending more time outside and, and wanting to know not to sort of like spend more time at home. And he spends more time outside under the pretext that he's busy and whatnot. That's sign number two, sign number three,

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they start seeing the negatives versus seeing the positives. sign number four, there is less intimacy between the couples.

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There's less intimacy between the couples.

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And sometimes, when it used to be once every other day, or once a day, or once a week, or once every week or so, it becomes once every month once every two months, once every three months, when whenever he comes in drunk at home stuff on a law whenever he comes in, you know, whatever this is, right.

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So when you see less intimacy, this is all what you know this is one of the signs again, the signs that love is disappearing between husbands and wives.

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So much so sisters and brothers.

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If the husband is not on or the wife is not a faithful wife, and the fearful husband, they will go and do something and do something hard on outside.

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You will find men establishing new relationships with other women. And with all due respect, also women doing that and talking about also Muslims more also because in the past, we used to only have men's having affairs with other law IE there are women as well having affairs Muslim women having affair with other men. I told you I'm a marriage officer. I don't talk in vain.

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I don't talk in vain.

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I know of divorces that happen because a woman who fell in love with another guy and then she started having problems with her husband. She wanted him to divorce her just so because she wants to go back and live with the other guy.

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But yes, we can To be fair, it is not

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The mainstream. It is not the mainstream, you can't say that, you know, but we have cases both men and women, men and women, you know, once this problem of less intimacy start happening between the two, you know, they will start if they don't feel as though they will start looking of building affairs or establishing affairs with others outside of the marriage.

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Now, my question is sisters and brothers can love comeback between husbands and wives.

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Those of you who are suffering and those of you who think maybe there is but you know, it's not as strong as before my question, my million dollar question is can Campbell's feelings Alright, let me let me explain. Can those feelings can that intense love that I had that we had for one another? You know, when we first got married, or before we got married? Can that intense love? You know, can that can that that that blind love? Can that blind love come back between husbands and wives? What do you think? later? She says she can it can? And yes mean? She says yes it can. Can it come back?

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Can it come back?

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You just fixed it. You just fixed it because it's exactly true. Well, like it can if they both not only one, if they both are willing to make it work. They lay your great, very good.

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It well it can. Why? because let me tell you, the love is always there who said Allah subhanho wa Taala said that the love is always there the affection is always there. It just got little bit buried, buried in the midst of life, in the midst of problems in the midst of different expectations. Right, it got buried but the love is always there and who said Allah subhana wa tada said that so that our room verse number 21 Allah subhanho wa Taala says by the Ministry of Energy, I mean he he and john Allah coming to see come as janitors kuno in a

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enough fee daddy Can I call me la comida Come on.

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Allah subhana wa tada says, By the

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way, I mean is he and Jada coming for Sikkim as well? gelita, Spano la Ha.

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Well, Jaya Bina, our data man and amongst he signs the signs of Allah amongst these AI is that they had put amongst you mates yes bring them up brought amongst you your your spouse's your mates, why need to score no ha ha. So to duck so that you can you find your second you find your tranquility in one another. So, this this this marriage this contract this bond is a mean of serenity is the mean of tranquility between husbands and wives. This is what Allah says in the end. And then on top of that, Allah subhana wa tada says, and he has put amongst you

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my word that

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affection and mercy

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affection is beyond love. Right? We talked about this before Love is a feeling but affection is the translation of those feelings into actions. That's why I I when I summarized my my my definition of love in the beginning I said love is actions or actions love our actions right. So here Allah subhana wa tada says, was your anabaena Kumar What does that mean? He has put amongst you affection and mercy,

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affection and mercy.

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So, love is there the affection is there is always there a lot has put it there. It got buried as I mentioned, you know, amidst all these problems and and life and tribulations and expectations and whatnot, so it can come back.

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Just like that cup of tea or coffee, right. You know, you put in some sugar but you don't stare the sugar. Once you stare, the sugar you stare at and then the sweetness comes up into the surface. Likewise, you just need to shake it up baby. Shake it up.

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Shake it out. That's why I call it shake the law I call it water the love.

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If you both want it to come back, it will come back. But but that mean re explain and read

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clarify when this with the mercy of Allah with the will of Allah because it is Allah subhanho wa Taala who can bring that love back?

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It's like a love triangle.

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Listen to this, this is free, marriage counseling, free, free sebelah free marriage counseling. It's like a triangle. A lot is on the top has been unwise, right? Look, try and go in one corner, the upper corner you have a lot one current corner you have the husband the other corner you have the wife so it's triangle right? Look at the distance the distance is like this. between husband Oh, and then Allah is on top. So the more you go and build your connection with Allah together, the closer you become together, you see you're like this like a triangle. You got it. This is

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still this social media. I don't know. But when you're live, I can see you I can see what I cannot see you now. Right? So it's a triangle. It's a triangle, husband and wife like here. Look at the distance. Look at the distance, right fuck. But then on top of that triangle is Allah Xhosa. So you The more you come closer to Allah, the more you come closer to each other.

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And the more you stay away from Allah, the more you stay away from one another.

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It's a trauma.

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You get it?

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Do people get it?

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Somalia, Do you get it?

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Manasa Layla, get it? Jah Mila, Do you get it? I am Julissa I don't know what that means. No, like you get it Sadie and you get it.

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You get it? Huh? It's a triangle. So that's why I said Allah subhana wa Tada. We need he is the the core of everything in our lives. One and only once. You know one and only once we come back to Allah Xhosa, then our lie between husbands and wives will come back together in sha Allah who tada

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definitely my fish, there is no other solution.

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This muhabba this love this affection is planted is there.

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But things happened in life. So it got buried. So we need to implant it.

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It's planted we need to just bring it back up into the surface. It can happen. Prophet Mohammed after, you know the day of you know the fate of Mecca. He never forgot.

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The conquest of Mecca he never forgot about about Khadija de la

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meltemi attempt by the

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mountain the attempt by the grave of Khadija this happened 13 years 1314 years after he left Medina and then he went back to Mecca right after he went back to Mecca. He did not forget about his wife Khadija.

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Allah subhana wa tada says, By the way, let me know.

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This isn't salt Allah Allah.

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What do you love? Malika milk. Joe Tillman. Carmen, Tasha.

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Tasha, what was illumine Tasha? Big

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at Waterloo Jeremy tamina. Hi.

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Tasha, we'll be

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putting lahoma Medical Mark Oh Allah, the dominion, the owner of the of this world, the the the, the the super Dominus apana who Adana for the lahoma Maddie can mark the owner of this universe the King of all kings of Hannah Montana.

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Tina Malcolm and Tasha you bless you you bless with Kingdom whomever your wishes are with with dominion, whoever your wishes, and you you * it out from whoever you wishes you make someone King today and tomorrow. He will

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is not is no longer a king. You give life today and you give death tomorrow. Meaning a luck and give love today and I'd like to remove it tomorrow. So the one who gave it can bring it back Subhana Allah to Allah, Allah,

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This is why I said that triangle my brothers and sisters,

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husbands, husbands,

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to all the husbands out there,

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one of the greatest gifts.

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One of the great greatest gifts or presence you can give to your to your children is to love their moms love. Really? Yes. By experience I'm telling you, you want your children to love you. Love their moms and treat the mums with respect and kindness and love and gentleness.

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One of the greatest gifts and presence you can give to your children Husbands, love their moms and treat their moms with love and respect and kindness. Your children will love you.

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Ask Don't believe me? Go ask her out.

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If you don't believe me, if you don't believe me, I'm sorry. You're sick when you wouldn't believe me? I don't like I told you I don't speak in vain. I don't just bla bla bla bla bla This is the I'm telling you this is gold.

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Prophet Mohammed Salah lavallee who said the

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Prophet Mohammed Elisa to set up is coming back from from from a battle. He was with jabot and jabil was married. Right? You know, but he was married with the with

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with a woman who?

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Jani she was not a virgin. And he she was minister was married before whatnot. So he was talking to Harry and not to him on the way and he says Oh, yeah, but I wanted to marry him. He says yeah, and he was talking about his marriage and his his, you know, his relationships and whatnot. And then

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Oh, he says, Oh, yeah, but Java.

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When we go back to Medina, don't go back home. Look at this. This amazing advice the Prophet gives to his to Jabba. He says, Oh, yeah, but when we go back to Medina, once we reach Medina, don't just go back home. No, don't do that yet. Send someone

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to bring in the news to your wife that you're coming so that your wife can get your get things ready, and she prepares the a mnemonic and America's a mnemonic. mnemonic is that beautiful sitting

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is that beautiful sitting

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look at this wonderful, amazing golden advice. Because sometimes men as you know, sometimes we like that surprise I'm whole but she was not ready for you meant to do such surprise and home and then you open the door and you see some and you say surprise, and she comes out like like huh, she was like her hair. She was just cleaning up. She was cleaning up I don't know what she was doing. She was mopping the floor and her and her and she was like

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on all on all she was her hair is everywhere. She She left she left what her her she left to all these hair extensors you know that you She used to put on you know, they're they're no longer there there have become social, you know? And then and then the all the mascara she removed she reassured him and she didn't put them on so because you normally see her with her mascara, you know she had only one must have and get the eyes like this right? And then and then and then and then you look at her and with the with the Hara. No, no, no, not that anymore. She she's doing that she was you know, she was because she's working. She's doing stuff. He's only Hearthstone here, you know? And then and

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then you go in and you say surprise, and then she comes out. And then you say

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you know what? Hey, you're on your ladder. hula hoops. You know what? No, no, you think it's all the blame in the ship. I was you.

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You understand? So the Prophet Mohammed son Lola, who said them, he told Jabba You know, he says send someone to tell your family that you're coming home so they can get ready. Today, you we have phones, right? We have phones.

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I know you like those, you know, the the the

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That surprise effect, the surprise effect, right? You know, we like that, but maybe she's not ready to welcome you. Maybe she's not ready to welcome you, she would scare you. And then you look at her and she says, Who are you? What are you doing here? And then she said,

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Who am I? Huh? You see, now we have cell phones before didn't have cell phones. That's what the prophet said. said one of the keys to your home to tell them that you're coming. So the Prophet so slim When they reached Medina, he stopped the entire army.

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He's by the yard. Don't let me go there, please. All right. He should love her in her looks. All right. Then please don't at all I know what I'm saying. I know. Yes. You know, do you want me to flower it for you? You want me to black? To to? To to paint it for you? Yes. He should love her in all her looks.

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Okay, you want me to paint it for you? I will paint it for you. But if you want the reality of it, Sam.

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This is the wife who's talking. The husband wasn't talking.

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You got me there right there. You got me. I thought your husband was talking. And then he says no.

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This is the wife. You should love her in her nukes. Yes, you're right. Okay. Okay. They Okay, this sister. You're right. And I'm wrong.

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Oh, she nailed me right there. She nailed me right there.

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Your husband? I don't know what he's doing right now. He Miskin. He was quiet and listening. And then you can you should love her and hold her looks. Yes, yes. You should love her and hold her books. Yes. Okay, your wife and I'm wrong.

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Anyways, the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, stopped the entire army. Right? For some and then start telling people you know sending kids go to your homes and tell your wives that the husbands are coming.

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Alright, so the Prophet did that. Some love mahalo Salah. Salalah howdy Lombardi Salah.

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The Prophet Mohammed wasn't shy.

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Thank you. You see, I told you, I, I ignore comments, especially if they're if I'm in the midst of my thoughts, and there's some comments that are inappropriate or comments that are out of the topic. But here's the thing is that la hit a major problem in everyone's community when we give priority getting ready to go out but they do not do that for their own husbands or just to be fair, the wives as well because I'm going to talk about both. Absolutely. You do when you go when you want to go out you put all the you know, all your adornments special and everything right? But when you're home, this is again another problem. added to the list added to the list of the other problems of the

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disappearance of love between husbands and wives. Add this to it.

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Alright, brother, Mohammed is of Santa.

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He's not trying to hold his wife's hand and go out.

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He wasn't shy and embarrassed. He did that many times. With zany adventures. Josh would say that Heidi is holding her hand.

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Hmm. And I say to the husbands out there, hold your wife's hands.

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Hold in front of your kids do that. I told this earlier. Maybe some of you just came back. Right. Let me tell you, I said to the husbands one of the most beautiful gifts and the greatest gifts that you can give to your children is to love and respect and treat their moms with gentleness and and and appreciation.

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So you look Prophet Mohammed is holding his head, his wife's hand in the streets of Medina and he's not shy.

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Abubakar he wrote a letter you know in his will say yeah, who do you want to wash you after you die? He says I want my wife to wash me. After they die.

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Abubakar said they will back acidic and his was a yet he says my wife smashed into roommates because he was married to wife by the name of asmat. So he had asthma his daughter but he was also married to another woman by the name of a smart meter. He wrote his in his will say yeah, I want my wife to watch me when I die.

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This and listen to these brothers and sisters Prophet Mohammed with Ayesha

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Prophet Mohammed Moses to them is with us.

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shot in the same bed

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in the same bed husband and wife's sleeping together singing together.

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And then he asked her Look, he asked her performances Would you let me go and pray? You know dopdf for what little bit of Allah Xhosa now accommodated visa. Additionally, the ayni alchemilla visa Would you let me go please and do pm sad, little bit and I just want to go and pray. She says, we'll head back. Well few her work Allah Holla Holla Holla Holla

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he says, Oh, she says, yo la sala. We are back. We're Philo huwag a prophet of Allah. I love your closeness to me. But I would sacrifice my whims and desires for your desires. Allahu Akbar. I love your closeness to me. I love just you sitting next to me. I would love that. I love that. But I would sacrifice my desires for your desires. Yes.

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Yes or no? Remember what I told you, but I do. I do want us to, you know, talk to her Isha and how he used to, you know, praise. Hi, Sean. Good luck. I mean, it's not just for my father, my father, Ali and Fatima and speak to Fatima and, and and use that romance with Fatima and speak about the you know, when he saw her, the with the with the beeswax and he spoke about the beeswax how he was jealous of the Miss whack it and his jealousy of the miswak Anwar

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Abdullah mobarak

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of the lovely Mubarak, one of the greatest tabulating predecessors, his name is Abdullah Mubarak.

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Amazing man.

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That's amazing, man. I'm gonna go back. He went for Hajj. He went for Hajj.

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And then in the way back, because brothers and sisters when people used to travel for hedge, they will travel for months, right? It's not like a seven hour flight or two hour three hour flight or sometimes 14 hour flight or a 20 hour flight. No, no, no, no, no, no. They used to travel for months and months to go for Hajj.

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So he went for Hajj. And then he missed his wife. So he wrote a letter to his wife saying Easter patrocinio heck

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he told her his stuff Satoshi did Oh heck he says my soul misses your soul.

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Yay. Yay. Yay. Yay, yay. Yay, baby. Yeah, baby. It was that not you start at Oh Haley, oh, heck, my soul misses your soul. He told her.

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So my brothers and sisters.

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Brothers and sisters, when I mentioned initially, that the signs that love, you know,

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can get lost and wasted and disappear. You know, one of the main main reasons why it disappears because of this word, this word called neglect.

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neglect, neglect fullness. This is one of the killers of love disappearing between husbands and wives. It's called neglect fullness. This is why sisters and brothers write it down in gold. Today's principle and foundation is called water the love water the love today's principle and foundation is called water the love.

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Water the love.

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This is a killer. Once you start neglecting your hubby, your love your husband, your wife. This is the killer. This is where love starts fading away. My brothers and sisters. I said love is always there but it starts fading away slowly.

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What are the love,

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sisters and brothers today, husbands husbands husbands out there, open a bank account call it the love account.

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Let's open a bank accounts. Call it the love accounts and put some deposits in it every day put a deposit in that love accounts.

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What Yes, every day put a deposit in your love account, what kind of deposit every day put a deposit of the case. Every day put a deposit of love every day put a deposit of

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a smile every day put a deposit of a hug every day put a deposit of a beautiful word in that love account. Because you're going to need them in your love account love bank accounts. We need to open that love bank accounts. Savings Account checking account is called love bank accounts.

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And everyday put a deposit and it's my brothers and sisters.

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This is where and how you can change that love into affection.

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Not only the love will come back the affection from Allah subhanho wa Taala will come back because Allah

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because Allah is Allah do the most affectionate subhana wa Tada.

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And don't don't haston it. What does it mean? Don't haston it? Don't just do it and then you say well, I don't see it back. I only give but the other person is not given. Give and don't ask, give and don't ask, give and don't ask but the Chinese they say the Chinese they say the happiest people are those who give the most versus those who take the most give deposit in your bank account. Love account, deposit, give, give give one month, two months, three months, four months.

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You will see the love coming back in shallow data.

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You know that the Sahaba Amanda? This is why I say what are the love? What are the love? You know what are the love? And what the

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Sandman fantasy he saw her and she was really down not looking after herself.

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Not looking well.

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He says the oma de la what's happening to you why not looking after yourself while you're so like braid down? You're not.

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He says your brother

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your brother, your brother?

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Her husband, your brother? He neglects me.

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He prays during the nights

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and he fast during the day. What? Yes

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Hmm. And she is a Sahaba she is a female Sahabi write the companion a female companion. If she did not feel a lot she would do something haram stuff for Allah.

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So he she told him your brother neglects me during the night.

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He just wakes up and he prays the whole night and during the day, he fasts during the whole day.

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He neglects me.

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So my brothers and sisters, I want to give you some ingredients.

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Practical practical ingredients in Sharla huhtala to bring back the love to bring back the harmony to bring back the serenity to bring back the ingredients just like when you're out in the kitchen. You know a recipe a love recipe. I want to share with you a love recipe would you like that sisters and brothers sumaiya fathima irif Amana hadisha Mariana Lula Sadie Do you want me to share my love recipe with you?

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Do you want me to share the love recipe with you? yes or yes.

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Oh do you want me to share the love recipe with you? It's a love recipe you cannot say no to her love recipe Come on Ah come on. Oh love recipe to bring back the love for good inshallah tada ha to water the love it is unfortunately it's already seven o'clock I don't know how time flies here. It is a cliffhanger love recipe wouldn't be for tomorrow inshallah.

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Tomorrow we will share the love recipe and share with you some live live cases and shallow data how we can learn from these live you know marriage cases taking some heat and some examples in Sharla whoa Tada. It was amazing. always amazing to have you to see you my brothers and sisters. I had headache I swear by Allah I had headache before I started this session. My headache is gone.

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My headache is gone. Also my brothers and sisters Don't forget to fast the six days of Shabbat if you have not started so please go back and start fasting sure why because you still are in the month of April. Well don't forget to faster is that Kampala fair Bala coffee calm sisters and brothers, Instagram. May Allah bless you. We'll see you tomorrow shallow Tara Salaam Alaikum.

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