Essential components of good character
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lost time. Last Friday, we talked about something which is very important.
three things, we talked about reputation,
personality, and character.
And that was under the main topic of the clear understanding of what Islam is, which is Islam is a chain of four components. You can never disconnect them. It's either a belief system, Allah brought me here for a purpose, to enslave Myself to him. This is why the next one is a bad, I'm the slave he is the master.
Then my body changes my character, it makes me a better person. And that's a good character.
And then how can I see this good character I can see manifested in the way I deal with others.
And we explained, the people get confused between reputation, personality and character. And we explained the three of them. And we concluded by the fact that we should focus more on character.
I'm not saying you should ignore reputation and personality. But what I'm saying is the reputation is not on your hands. Try to stay away from any doubts. But again, it's not under your control.
It's in the hands of people.
And it's not who you are truly in this life. Personality also is the way you present yourself.
The way you seem to be not who you are truly in this life.
But we should focus on character. We also
stress the importance of not confusing between a goal and a means. And we give examples. We says building a Masjid is not a goal. Building a Masjid is a means. So we can come and learn and change our character and learn our Deen and make it our way of life. Because of building a method is a goal, then we build the muscles and we're done. hamdulillah.
Giving Zika is a means to eliminate poverty in a community. Going for hands is not a goal. You're going there. So that you will wash yourself out of your sense and you come back as a newborn. It's a means.
But when it comes to character, no one can say I have good character. It's a process. There is always room that you can change and become a better person. And this is why today, we're going to continue from where we stopped. What are the essential components of a good character. I'm going to be talking about six components.
And they're all starts.
And they're all starts with the letter C just to make it easy.
So the first one, the first component of a good character that we should display is called conscience, which we pointed out to me.
And I'll explain this through a story.
is one of the Sahaba he was sitting in his room, and he said to himself, I will go tomorrow and ask the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
about the meaning of Albert. And if
I'm gonna ask him, what's righteousness? And what's the sin?
And there was nobody with him.
And then he said, The following morning, I went to the masjid and the machine was packed, and the person was on the front. So I looked at him and I said, How can I make my way to him?
And I looked at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam smiled.
He said, I forgot about the people. And I started pushing them, pushing them right and left and they said, Why are you came late, you can do that. But he said, he smiled, I forget about everyone. And I made my way to the front. So they came to me I said, Prophet of Allah and above Salim interrupted him, he said, Geeta, Salome. I'm Roy.
You're coming to ask me about two things. Would you like me to answer? Would you like to ask me?
And while I was done, he said there was nobody with me the last night Paloma Gibney Rasul Allah and Swami prophet of Allah. He said,
very well, if you're coming to ask me about righteousness and sin.
And while I said, I was stunned,
because the prophets Allah received revelation from Allah subhanaw taala. He doesn't know the unseen, he doesn't know the future. Salallahu alaihe salam.
So the prophecies, lm said, I will bear
righteousness is to have a good character. Well, in my heart, cafe, sonica, wa*a, poly la nurse. And a sin is when you are doing something and you feel your heart is breaking you.
And you feel embarrassed. And you don't want this to be exposed in front of people. That's a sin.
That was a very concise, yet a precise definition of what a sin is. Sociologists, anthropologists, psychologists, psychiatrists can never put it in such a way eloquent, and very short.
So you're doing something and you feel your heart is breaking you, and you're hiding from people. You don't want this to be exposed. That's a sin.
That's the definition by the prophets of the law.
So people have to have a living conscience. And that's what I mean by conscience. I give you the example. Now I'm going to define what's conscience. conscience is a moral compass that Allah subhana wa Taala has built inside each and every one of us.
When you do something wrong, your heart will teach you. That's a sin.
And this is why today we say, some people around you, some people all over the world, when you see them doing what they're doing, you say, Don't these people have a conscience?
When they kill, and steal, and do all these atrocities around the world?
And I'll give you another example.
There was this man who works as an accountant. And he came back home one day, and he told his mother, is it Mom, I'm an accountant. And I deal with multi billionaire companies. And there is someone who is senior to me, who taught me something.
And I can draw some money, cells from here and there. A nobody will notice. Technically, I'll be right.
But ethically I'm not. So what do you think I should do? I can make millions without anybody noticing. His mum said to him.
She was a very simple person. She said, Son, I don't know anything about the subtle and the technicalities of
what you're talking about, but I only know one thing
when you go to bed,
and he can sleep comfortably with a clear conscience. And you can do this, go ahead and do it.
He said, No, I can do it.
And this is very common in our life, we can be very technical. And we can do lots of stuff, which is wrong.
And we know, ethically, it's wrong, but we do it. Why? Because nobody can catch me.
That's the meaning of conscience. So number one, in the essential components of a good character, is to have a living conscience. Meaning what, when that red light, that moral compass within you, when that red light goes off, it means you're doing something wrong. When you feel uncomfortable, and you look around, you don't want anyone to see this, this is a sin. Have a living conscience. That's number one. Number two, compassion.
What's the meaning of compassion. Compassion means the ability to feel for others, the ability to feel with others, the ability to feel the pain of others.
And it's very easy to be compassionate and to be good to someone who's compassionate is good. But really compassion. When you show mercy and compassion in a situation where the person in front of you doesn't deserve that mercy.
I'll give you an example.
The Allahumma went to the market one day,
and he wanted to buy something. And after he chose whatever he wanted to buy, he put his hand in his pocket to get the money to pay and he found out that his money was stolen.
So he said to the man, listen, I'm putting this back because my money has been stolen. So the man made the public announcement in the market.
And of course, you know how many people Mashallah once you say this, there, there are lots of volunteers.
So some people you know, started cursing him, may Allah curse him, Allah destroy him. Allah do this to him.
But look at our Dharma, he's teaching us a lesson in the real meaning of compassion. When you show compassion and mercy to someone who doesn't deserve it.
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So do a lot if that person who stole my money is in need of that money.
Money for him. That's compassion.
Your mind this man is a professional thief. Make it his last sin.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
will come to the masjid and he would leave the salon. And he would say my intention is to at least 100 die.
And then he says, I start praying. And then I hear a cry of a baby.
And he said, I shortened my Salah. Why? out of compassion to the heart of the mother of the baby. I feel her pain.
And the Sahaba will ask him prophet of Allah sallallahu you made your slavery short. This is one say you heard the cry of the baby.
I have to show compassion because Allah subhanaw taala described him
in sort of ambia number 21 I have 107 and he said,
me, O Muhammad we have not sent you but a symbol an embodiment of compassion
to all nations, to all cultures, to all civilizations to all colors. Where's the compassion our hearts today? Let's learn from the processor limb if we want to display a good character
The prophets of Allah,
one day is given a goodbye like this. And they'll say, comes crawling.
Guess what? The stop the hobo and he saw them, because they couldn't make it any way to him and they will come into him. He went down from the member all the way to them, and he can and he came back to the member, and he continued his good work. And he said,
Indeed, your wealth or your children are a trial or a test.
And he can show compassion.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one day he was spraying
road him like a camera in his shoes,
and made a very long subdued
and the Sahaba after the salon, this is prophet of Allah, we thought that something bad happened to you. We thought that you have started receiving revelation, it was a very, very long so Jude, even some of them thought that he passed away.
He said, No, it's a hustler. kasane rode me like a camel in the salon. And I hate it to stop that enjoyment.
Feeling for a kid? How do we treat our kids when they come to the mercy today? Even if they made a mistake? That's compassion.
So we have concerns, we have compassion, component number three,
when it comes to good character, is consideration be considered. What is the meaning of to be considerate? It's the ability to think before you speak, the ability to think before you act. Some people
they never think before they speak, they never think before they act, and they crush the spirits of the people in front of them.
They have no common sense. They have no consideration.
And the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam again, is teaching us we have to think before we say a word, because a word might make it or break it. And as we say in Arabic,
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occurred, my life is easier than a scar on the heart by a word that will hurt you.
And this is why the seller was sitting with the Sahaba one day and when he conquered
he gave everyone amnesty.
Amnesty International. The asylum started this more than 14 centuries ago. These are the people who forced him out of medical. And despite that when he enters McKesson,
he granted everyone amnesty, security. So
once the aliens did this, he ran away. He took a ship and he wanted to go to Yemen.
And Subhanallah when I
heard that the pasta lamb is giving everybody amnesty, he started thinking What should I do? No, I'm the son of Abu Jamal. And I know what's going to happen to me if he can catch me. So Subhan Allah,
the wife of eco Hakeem went through the process alone. And she took Shahada and she accepted Islam.
And she went, you know, to try to find a coma, he went in a ship, and somehow there was a storm and the ship or the boat, and Ecuador was so confused. And he started saying to himself, if Allah subhana wa Thailand, which saved me from this,
I will go and try to talk to Mohammed because he's the most compassionate person.
Omar Hakim, his wife told the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prophet of Allah comes to embrace Islam. Would you accept him? And the apostle and said, Yes, she says, but if I were to go and tell him that he wouldn't believe me.
And then the professor took off his turban, and he gave it to her. And if an Arab does this, it means I am giving you amnesty. I'm giving you full security. So she took the turn of the filament she went to elementary said, The Prophet sallallahu wasallam is inviting you if you come and accept Islam. He will
Except you, is it? No, that's a trick. And then she took the turban out and she said, look at this, he gave me this. Then he believed her. Listen carefully to the common statement. That's what I mean by being considerate at Christmas coming from far away, and the prophet SAW me sitting with the Sahaba. And he said to the Sahaba, hi there. Yeah, Chico, moulana muslimah
falletta soboba. For in
LA, you didn't mean it will happen. No.
Allahu Akbar. The prophet SAW Selim said, this is
coming to embrace Islam. Don't say anything bad about his father.
Because if you curse his father, if you insult his father, this is not gonna hurt his father, but it's gonna hurt him. Be considerate. And the porcelain told us
many a time we act like beasts.
And the past Salaam said, Do not act like beasts, you beat your wife in the morning, and you want to sleep with her during the night. be considered. Think of what you say. Think of what you do. The Prophet says.
There could be one word that you might say.
And it would make a loss angry with you. And it will be the cause for you to go into Hellfire, which is 70 years deep, it will take you 70 years to get to the bottom of China. May Allah save us all.
So that's what the professor is teaching us. Be considerate. Before you utter a word. Think about it. Are you gonna make the person feel up? or organic? Or are you going to put him down? Are you gonna make them feel better? Or are you gonna crush their spirits? Because none of the words none of the access that you say, will go without being recorded?
Whatever an utterance that come out of your mouth, would be recorded either here or here. So think before you speak, and think before you act. So conscience, compassion. consideration. Number four, is courage. What's courage?
The courage means the absence of fear.
No, I'll give you an example. Courage means having the ability to stand up for the values and the principles that you believe in
musala most of the time, he's the most mentioned bruff prophet in the Quran almost 136 times. But most of the times, he has mentioned the word cheetahs mentioned,
Phoenix, he, he fetta Moosa, he felt afraid when they played the tricks in front of the Pharaoh, when they told him go to the Pharaoh, and somehow, he
to the worst person on earth. He commended him by saying,
talk to him gently. Somebody came to advise Ahmed Abdul Aziz, and he was yelling at him. And
I am not worse than the Pharaoh. And you are not better than masala salam, please. When you advise me when you talk to me, talk to me gently, please.
Here's weapons, your soldiers. And me.
We don't have that.
So most of the time, Phil is mentioned, does this mean that mousseline slam was cowardly? No, never. Never. So God is doesn't mean the absence of fear. Because if a lion were to walk into this Masjid, I'll be the first one thrown away.
Because you want to save your life.
So courage doesn't mean the absence of fear. It means the ability to act despite the presence of fear.
The Prophet salallahu alaihe salam came, and baby girls were better the life but he has the courage and the ability to go against the whole community. And he said to them,
He went against the whole community. He didn't care.
Women like furniture. But Islam came and he gave him inheritance. So the Prophet Selim struggled, and he had to fight against his old community. It takes courage to be there. That's the meaning of courage. So conscience, compassion, consideration, courage, number five, control. What's control.
Control means the ability of self restraint, the ability to control your desires, your urges, because you're not an animal. You're a human being a lot preferred you were very Adam, Allah honor the children of Adam. So you need to learn how to control your whims, your desires, your urges, and also your temper. This is very important. This is very important because one word, you divorce a person, one word, you might crush the spirits of a person, one word, you might break a relationship with a person, one word could take you to jahannam, one word can take you two gentlemen, control yourself. Because when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked the Sahaba, he said, let us do
the shady to come. He's asking about strength, who is a strong person amongst you?
A strong person is the person who can wrestle people down, who can knock them out
of them said, No,
it's not about being masculine. No, in a machete to lead me into
a strong person is the person who knows how to control himself or herself when they are angry.
That is the meaning. And this is another component. If you want to display good character, control your desires, control your urges. Don't let your anger
get you out of control. Because how many people when they come and say, I divorced my wife, and I was angry, that's not an excuse. Control yourself. And the professor told us, he told us.
If you want to learn, you have to sit down and learn how many of us find the walk around and go away.
And then he regretted the Day of Judgment. When you see people on higher ranks engine,
you will regret that you missed. To learn your dean will learn how to make money. We'll learn how to be diplomats, we learn how to be promoted in this dunya. But you need to learn how to be promoted and
in the millennium. We have to have the patience to sit down and learn and humble yourself.
Because if you meet along with everything except your faith, and your deen, you're a loser. If you meet Allah subhana wa Taala with nothing but your deen you're a winner.
Hello, if you want to learn how to be patient, when you are put in situations, you have to control yourself. And I gave a football about anger management previously, make. If you're standing sit down, leave the place. But do not say words that you will regret for the rest of your life. And it's not too late. If you wronged someone, if you act in a way that was wrong, go back to your wife. It doesn't make you look bad. In fact, people will respect you more. And the process has taught us
last component in good character is confidence. So we're talking about conscience. We're talking about compassion. We're talking about consideration. We're talking about courage. We're talking about control. Let's talk about the last component confidence, once confidence, confidence in what brothers and sisters sometimes we do good, but we don't see the fruit of the good that we do. So sometimes we feel like you know what? I should stop doing good because I don't see the fruit. I don't see the result. No, he's doing good. He being good. Even if everyone around you is not doing good, keep doing good. And have your pain that is recorded to Allah and Allah will reward you you're
not doing what you're doing to please people. You are doing it to please Allah subhanho wa Taala so have come
confidence that Allah knows what you're doing, and Allah will reward you for that. And I will finish with this story in sha Allah in the second Apolo Holla Holla Holla Holla Holla
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So there was that man.
One day, upon leaving his work, his supervisor gave him a bonus of $1,000. So when you get money by surprise, like this, you start thinking, how to do something good, how to make every body around you happy, he started thinking, I'm gonna buy this from my wife, I'm gonna buy this for my children. I'm gonna buy this for my mother. And Subhanallah on his way back home, he saw a woman carrying a baby. And she was crying. And she told him, listen,
you know, I don't have money to buy medication for this baby. And this baby is going to have a surgery by 11 o'clock pm. And if I don't have enough money, the baby's gonna die. So the man out of confidence that Allah can see what he's doing. He took the whole $1,000 and he gave it to her. And when she arrived home, his family, he shared the story with his family. He told them by the way, I got a bonus today of $1,000. And I was thinking to buy you this and this and this and to make everybody happy. But on my way, a lady stopped me with a baby. And he told him the story. And then they started dealing attend. They said
how do you know that she was sincere? She could be a scam. She might have fooled you. And so Paula while they're talking the TV, the news came, and the lady was arrested and she was a scam.
So they told them you see just for you. Why didn't you buy us the gifts, and the man was crying. And he said, but the baby did not die.
The baby did not die. I gave the money to Allah, not to the lady. The baby did not die. That's the meaning of confidence. Do the good. And don't be discouraged by everyone around you. If you're not doing good. Have your team have confidence that Allah subhanaw taala will never put to waste, whatever good that you do in your life. So having told me about the six components of good character, conscience, compassion, consideration, courage, control, and confidence. Do not leave your spot today, before making Toba to Allah. And by the way, Allah subhanho wa Taala would accept your Toba and he will forgive you when it comes to what's between you and him. But Allah will never
forgive you. When it comes to what's between you and your fellow human beings. You have to go and ask them for forgiveness. If you are going for Hajj. If you are going for Amara, you need to do this right now. Because those people will wait for you right before January after you even cross the Sahara. After even you skip jahannam. And they will wait for you and begin to say in the dounia. I didn't take my right. But I want to try it now.
So make sure that you make Toba and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to forgive you and learn from these six, six components of good character. I will end up with this story.
There was a man who went to visit his brother, and he has a very, very nice car. And he parked the car. And while he was coming out after finishing visiting his brother, he saw a young kid, you know, standing next to the car, looking at the car, and he was infatuated with the car. He was in love with the car. He was massaging the car taking a selfie with the car. So the man said to him, do you like the car?
And the kid said yes. It's amazing. He said, You know what? My brother gave it to me as a gift.
What did the kids say? But I know all of your expectations. He said I wish
I could be like your brother. He did. Lots
Say, I wish I had a brother like yours. No, he said, I wish I could be like your brother. I'm gonna leave you with this since Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah. Allah Allah. Allah. Allah SATA.
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