The Firsts – Sawda Bint Zama’a (ra) – The Prophet’s Joy

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Santa Monica Rahmatullahi wa barakato busman Now we'll have the Los Altos cinema analyse it he will suck the heat woman Weller. Welcome back everyone to the first and inshallah tada we are getting closer and closer to around Melbourne. And being in LA I know that many of you have been asking about the Ramadan series, it's coming soon in sha Allah to Allah. We should be announcing it sometime next week but in the NA and of course until then in sha Allah, we're going to have plenty of Ramadan prep material that's going to be coming out in the next few weeks. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to allow us to live to see all Milan, to forgive us for our shortcomings to accept

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our Ramadan, our deeds in it and beyond Allah amin, and tonight with the nahi tada we get to spend a night discussing one of our mothers and one of the most overlooked mothers of the believers. Even though Subhan Allah, she has such a place with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and therefore should have such a place in our hearts. And her name is so the mint xmr or the Allahu Tada. And I actually share a personal story before I even start talking about her, you know, when I used to teach Sunday school, and we would cover the mothers of the believers. So the Benzema would be someone that would not only be forgotten quickly by students, but people would say her name wrong so I remember hearing

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all types of names from you know students about so that what the Allahu Tatiana but she is literally the second wife of the Prophet salaallah hari who said, I'm the first woman to marry the Prophet slice I'm after her, these are the Allahu taala on her. And someone that just has such an incredible story. And it is as if when you read her story, that her being overlooked was intentional by her that she preferred a life of obscurity, even in her times love the Allahu taala on her to a point that she would drew from public life or the low tide on her throughout her entire life to where even her death, as we'll see, is not even known in terms of the exact date though she is one of the

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mothers of the believers, the wife of the prophet SAW the law and he was now within the story of soda all the time and her, we see that there were all types of people around her that would count from a savvy corn and oh, well don't count from the first and I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allow us to do justice to them in the small lecture that we will have tonight did the nine times So first, let's start with her parents. Her father was Zima even face if not the chumps. He's from the clan of amateur Vanunu. Hey, the man who first brought idols to Mecca, you know, so it's a powerful clan, and this is the same clan, as the mother of Khadija will the Allahu tada and her so she's related to

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the double the amount of data on her and her mother was a chumps in case, the NZ the banana from the nightjar clan in Medina from the tribe of husbands. So now Jada was a sub tribe of Hezbollah in Medina, and that also makes her related to the Prophet sallallahu. It was some of them in a way because of the multilib, his mother was from them. And so her her her parents, her mother, in particular, was a cousin of of the multilib. So there is a relationship to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam from her mother's side, or relationship to Khadija or the alongside on her from her father's side. And what's important, as we're setting the, you know, setting the grounds for her his

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law and the way that she will endure persecution or lack of persecution is that she was blessed with having powerful family in both Mecca and Medina, and that would be a protection for her from any physical harm upon her embracing of Islam. Her physical description, which is important in that sense, is that she was she's described as taweelah. Mattila. jesseman. She was very tall, very heavyset.

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Just had a very big, physical presence with the Allahu taala on her. And when we look at her age compared to the Prophet salallahu, it was some of them, it seems that she was about five years older than the Prophet sallallahu wasallam which would mean that the first two women that the Prophet slice Allah married, were both older than him it histological Islam as we know how the job of the law teller was older than him as well, it his slot was set up now, before she marries the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Like all of the wives of the Prophet slice, and then with the exception of that, he saw the logo on her. She was married to someone else, and her husband was a man by the name

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of a sec, Ron, even Ahmed and saklan inom was the brother of Sohail even now, we talked a little bit about so hated in the story of America, and so hated now of course, is the man who was the chief negotiator of grace with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam against the Prophet slice on the if you will, in the Treaty of her day BIA but who

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would of course one day, become a Muslim and become a companion of the messenger sallallahu wasallam. But so hated Nora is a powerful man. So, so Hale is her brother in law. Okay, so hey is her brother in law? So let's talk about the family dynamics a bit. Let's start with her. So, while the Allahu taala and her it said that she had about five children before embracing Islam, and that would have been from either a previous marriage or through her marriage with sycron even. And she has also two brothers, who she called to Islam as well. One of them is named Maliki, bnos, Amara, and melachim rizoma is also though there is no biographical detail about him one of the first

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Muslims through so that all the Allahu taala on her and he and his wife, Malik Cuban was Mr. And his wife whose name was omae. Allah made his right to Habesha and Medina, so they're from those that made the two migrations to Abyssinia and Medina. And they died without any children. So this is her brother, Malik cubanos. Amara and his wife O'Meara, who were from the first Muslims as well that we have no biographical details about but somehow Allah, what an honorable position that they were amongst those who were from us halben hidden watain those that made the two migrations for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. She also has another brother who has a funny story that we'll cover later

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on. whose name is AB Benzema, and Abdi Benzema, unlike Malik strongly oppose Islam in the very beginning, and was was in strong opposition to the prophets lysozyme and in strong opposition to his brother Malik and in strong opposition to his sister celada. And he would become Muslim much later on. So her two brothers Malik became Muslim while the Allahu tada I know immediately, and her other brother I became Muslim much later on, but also died as a Muslim while the Allahu taala.

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Now when it comes to her husband's a clan, even, um, so Quran ignore as we said, is the brother of Sohail Ibn. And this is where, again, you start to uncover the family dynamics. Sohail even and his brother Sal even were amongst those that oppose the some very strongly. There are another two brothers that became Muslim so early on along with Socrative. And, um, so there are five brothers in total. So three of them became Muslim before Ahmed real hip hop or the Allahu italiana. So we're talking about some of the first Muslims and they all made the heads a lot to Abyssinia, they all

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migrated to Abyssinia to escape persecution. So you have a chronic kaname you have health club event, and you have a man by the name of Sally Ibn or the Allahu taala. And so three of them became Muslim early on and made the hedgerow to Abyssinia. As for Sohail, and Sal, they also would become Muslim but of course, much later on after living in opposition to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So it's an interesting dynamic that all five of them became Muslim, three of them became Muslim, early two of them became Muslim later. And in the case of soda and her two brothers, two of them became Muslim early, and one of them held out but he also became Muslim later on, and they all

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died upon Islam, or the Allahu taala and home ultramarine. So let's get back to soda. So that and cyclonic Norman are considered from the first batch of Muslims, they embraced Islam, adopted autocom with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and they were immediately disowned. We don't have much about their initial embrace of Islam, except that we know that they're from the earliest battens. panela you think about those names that I just mentioned. Very few Muslims know them, right, unless you're deeply looking into the books, but imagine they're stationed with Allah subhanho wa Taala what they endured, and having the distinction of making the heads around twice for the sake of Allah Subhana

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hotel. So now let's talk about soda, soda and sycron made his right to Abyssinia. And in Abyssinia, they had one son by the name of Abdul Rahman so there was only one child that selda would have in Islam. And that was with her husband saklan inom and her son of the man or the Allahu taala. And who would actually go on to, to be a great companion, a great warrior, and he would be killed in the time of honorable hospital the Allahu taala. And as a Shaheed in the famous battle of gelila, which was a battle with the Persian so her one son in Islam with a chronic number of the man becomes a great Sahabi a great warrior and he dies in this in the path of Allah Subhana. What's. So what

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happens here, this story of women that migrated with their husbands to Abyssinia and their husbands die is a very, you know,

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is a recurring theme that we see with some of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam you have soda and sycron. And soda sees this dream. And if you remember with Selma, she saw a dream on Habiba saw a dream. So that also sees a dream. And she actually has two dreams, the first dream, she sees the Prophet sallallahu wasallam come to her in her dream, and she is laying down and the Prophet slicin kneels next to her neck. So she wakes up and she thinks this is a really interesting dream. And her husband is still alive, and they're in Abyssinia. And she goes to sacrifice her husband and she says to sacromonte, Allahu taala. And her she said, Look, I saw this dream of the

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Prophet slice, I'm coming, and kneeling next to me. Listen to the response of her husband's economical, the Allahu taala. And who says, if your dream is true, then I'm going to die soon and the Prophet slice and I was going to marry you. And so the reacts with just complete shock, like, wait, no way says, Hey, john was sitting on the I 10 fee. I know see how that that? How could that be? She denied it, there's no way that that would happen. First of all, of course, you know, saying that to your husband, your husband responding that I'm going to die and the profit slice, I'm just going to marry you and nothing was wrong with him. And they're both companions was strange. So she

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said, Of course not. You know, what kind of interpretation is that? Right? Then, the next night, she sees a dream, where the moon comes into her home and lands right next to her, which is also a familiar theme with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right the moon descending in your home. So she wakes up the next day, and she tells her husband's economical the Allahu taala. And he says to him, you know, I had this dream that the moon was coming into my home, and it came next to me sacromonte Allahu taala. And he says, you know, basically, I probably don't have long before I die and the prophets lie, Selim is going to marry you. So this panel, I mean, they're in Abyssinia, far

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away. Nothing is wrong with them. They have a child together, born in Abyssinia. And so that is, you know, there is no indication of any type of marriage with the Prophet slice lm in the present or the future husband is healthy, they migrated together to Abba Cynthia, and her husband is the one interpreting her dream for her to dreams that I'm going to die and the Prophet slice on is going to marry you. And Subhana Allah, what ends up happening.

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soprano the Allahu taala and who dies in Abyssinia? And you'll find some of the books will say that he became Christian and that of course, is actually a mix up with the story of him Habibullah the Allahu taala. And and there's nothing to establish that so Socrative know what the Allahu tada and who dies as one of the earliest companions of the Prophet sallallahu it was son of a man who we have very little love, but he is the husband of a woman that would go on to marry the Prophet slice them and the father of a great martyr and of the demonic Mr. Khan, or the Allahu tida and Jemaine so he dies and Habesha and she's left in limbo. So the or the Allahu taala, and who has a old father who

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is blind, and she has her son who was still very young at the time, and she has no one to help her. And as we said, at this point, now she's in her 50s, she has up to five other children that we have no information on. And she's in this, she's in this this difficult situation her family has already disowned her. So she's a widow, and she's a convert in a strange land. And she basically waited in Abyssinia to be able to travel back to Mecca, with some of the members of her husband's tribe. So she comes back to Mecca, she settles in Makkah, sort of as an outcast from her family. But again, she's not being persecuted or punished the way that others are due to her tribal connections. And

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she's basically just waiting in this situation of limbo, without any end in sight, and she's not considered marriageable for most of that time. Right. She's kind of at this point, planning out the rest of her life to be an older widow with her children that will pass away and you know, is just seeking that reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala so what happens with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, of course, has just lost the love of his life, Khadija, the Allahu tadhana and he has two daughters in the house with him salaallah hottie who was one of them extremely young, and that was faulty model the Allahu Tada, Mmm hmm. And Fatima's older sister, Uncle film or the Allahu taala. And how is that the case? Remember that Earth man will the Allahu tada and who married two daughters of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam so Zeynep little the Allahu anhu was already married and she was older and we talked about zenobia latonya and her and her husband. So then you have little clear on her phone and Fatima Rokia at that time while the

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Allahu taala Anna was married to dismantle the Allah Han, right and so on. cusum and Fatima are left in the house of the Prophet slice Allah May Allah be

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He's with them. And when Rocha would die in the you know on the day of the Battle of better than Earth model the Allahu taala and who after that would of course marry encore film or the Allah tada Anna and faulty model the Allah and how would marry it, it'll be a lot of time. So at this point now though, we're looking at 10 years after the revelation, we're looking at almond huizen, the year of sadness where the profit slice has lost Hades over the Allahu taala. And he has lost his uncle obatala within days, and he has faced the worst rejection of his life from five. So he's coming back from five, you know, which is miles out facing, you know, the most difficult time of his life. He

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has no one to come home to at this point. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam was in grief for months, right? And it's really important to mention here not to go back to Khadija or the Allahu taala. And her but you know what, when people say, why didn't the Prophet size and marry another woman while being married to a vija? I mean, do you really think after knowing the biography of the double dlo I know that she would have objected knowing her selflessness and her personality at the time. And, you know, of course, this was the norm. But the prophets lie Selim had such a place for her the job or the Aloha, that even after she died, the profit slice of them did not immediately get

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remarried. And he was at his Salatu was Salam now himself 50 years old, having only been married to the IJA, while the Allahu taala. And so the Prophet slice on them is in a state of intense sadness, he has his two young girls at home. And clearly, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is not the same in terms of his his his his grief, and that's why it's called diamond who's in the year of grief. So then you have the matchmaker. Her name was hola Vint hacking. And hola been tacking on the Allahu taala. And her was considered the matchmaker in that, you know, in the community of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. she happened to be the daughter of oma in Hadith who was also a chief

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from benu acid, so she's a relative of Khadija will be Allah. And she was married to a great companion by the name of earthman of another own, or the Allahu tada and so Hola. Or the Allah and he wanted to get the Prophet slicin married and the prophet SAW Selim had spent some time now after the death of Khadija will dlo on her morning her and there are difficult moments ahead and the prophets lie Selim cannot take care of his two young girls by himself right there has to be someone to assist him in that so holo comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and listen to what she says to him. She said, Jada suta luck any aloka or de halakhah han Latin difficulty Khadija. She

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said to the Prophet slice, I'm the eldest of Allah, what is the sadness that this grief that I have seen come to you out of the death of the dollar, the law and you're missing her so much that you're different and the prophets lie, Selim responded? And he said, Oh, malaria, Robert elbaite. That, you know, she's she says, My beloved wife, she's not she was also the mother of my children, who is there after her these about the law? I know, right? Who is there after Khadija that could that could fill her place while the alongside? The answer, of course, was that no one would ever take the place of these little the Aloha, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was also going to get

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remarried. And so how Allah says to the Prophet sallallahu, it was said, I'm look, you know, it's time for you to consider getting remarried. And I have two people in mind for Jada sutala. She said to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, that one of them is a widow, and she's older and one of them is a young girl, she's young enough, and both of them are going to be a good choices for you. So the prophets lie, some said, Who are they? So the prophets lie Some said, As for the young lady, she's the daughter of the most beloved of people to you. Who was that Isha? The daughter of of Wilbekin as to date may Allah be pleased without Isha and abubaker Allah Allah Ameen. And of course I saw the

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Allahu anhu was still too young to actually have the marriage consummated to walk to, to move in with the Prophet slice. And um, so he saw the Allah and he is someone that you should consider, and the prophets I said, Who is the other one? She said. So the bint Zama. And why did she suggest soda or the Allahu taala. And her because soda, of course, was one of the first people to embrace Islam. And so that will be a long time and her had a very loving and humorous personality. And she was one of the first people to believe in the Prophet's license, she suffered greatly for it and she still was just a person that brought so much joy wherever she went, and that is going to be the quality

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that sticks with so that'll be a lot of data on her, his joy and because it's an in person, it is the year of grief. The Prophet slicin needs joy in his life. He needs laughter and happiness in his house as a result of this. This is a person that should be brought to his life and high level the level on her says and she's someone that never argues with me.

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She never has any problem getting along with other people. So she's not combative. She's not confrontational, she's easy going and she is loving and she is full of humor while the Allahu taala. And so soda or the olana at her age and you know in a situation where she was not someone who was looked at for marriage at that point in her life or the hotel and you know, this is going to be despite the dreams that she had quite the proposal to her right but the profit slice and him gives hola when talking about the law and had the permission to speak to both Apple Beckett or the Ola hotel and to the family of soda or the Ola hotel and so hola goes straight to soda and she says to

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so little the Ola and how would you like that Allah subhanaw taala to bestow a mighty blessing upon you so so this is what is that your hola she says that also last Ice alum has sent me to you with a proposal of marriage and so that will the Allah tala Anna was completely astonished, taken aback by the proposal from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And she replies in the affirmative, that of course, she would love to be married to the messenger sallallahu it he was Selim so hola goes to Zima and Zuma was an elderly man and he was blind. And he she says to him that Mohammed Abdullah, Naga McCollum has sent me to ask on his behalf for the hand of soda, while the Allahu taala Unhand

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marriage so he was happy because he said what a noble match, right? He's thinking about it from a lineage perspective. So what a noble match. This would be, what a perfect match that this would be for her. And so he calls for soda. He says to soda that this woman has come proposing on behalf of Mohammed Abdullah Abdullah and the muttalib sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and is asking for your hand in marriage Do you want me to marry him to you? And so little the law of town and her accepts so at that point,

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so double the Allahu taala and her goes to the Prophet slice on them. And she says to the prophet SAW the license for about half a pilot Embry Lake era sort of law. She's dedicating herself to the profit slice onto the Messenger of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, you know to have someone from your, your, your your folk, your male folk, that would marry you off. So she brings forth health lib.

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who of course, was her brother in law was the brother of sycron, an uncle of the Allahu taala. And so he marries her to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Now, at this point, there is that one brother, right, we said that so they had two brothers, she had one who became Muslim and who made the migration to embassy as well. And she had another brother, by the name of it was Emma, who would become Muslim later on, but at this point, was a staunch enemy of the Prophet sallallahu. It was I mean, look at what he does. He protests the marriage, they're still in Mecca. This is a you know, this is the year of grief This is around the hardest time of the Prophet sight sounds like and he

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goes to the Caribbean and he puts dirt on his head and he starts to slap his head and he starts to cry out of protest, right and lamenting that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has married so the all the Allah tada Anna, imagine how abdomen was Emma I felt when he became Muslim later on, right knowing that he did that, that he stood in front of the camera and protested, who he now knows and recognizes as the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam becoming his brother in law marrying his sister so it was Mr. He used to say that I you know, I remember a day that I was a silly person in Neela Sophie when I was completely silly, right to put it kindly. You'll see a to

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rob and to xojo and abuse Allah Allah hottie he was selling a soda, What a silly person I was putting dirt on my head that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu I used to married my sister. So the, or the A lot of times. And of course, as we said he would become Muslim later on as well. So the Maha for selda or the Allahu taala. Anna was 400 did humps. And I think this is something that is very important to to set the scene in terms of the role that soda plays for three years. Listen very carefully. For three years, she was the only wife with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Right. How is it that a woman that plays such a prominent role in his life sallallahu wasallam is so

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unknown, three years, it was just her and him sallallahu it he was selling, because he shoveled the Allahu taala. And while the proposal was accepted, they would wait for her to come of age three years later, and then she would consummate the marriage with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so for three years, it's just soda with the profits license. What is what are the implications of that? That means that the slot wouldn't matter watch, right, which obviously, we just got done many programs that people have about us about would matter a lot and the time is right

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up, you know I'm talking about assault with my Lodge, that she was the wife of the Prophet slice I'm at that time and she was the only wife of the Prophet slicin at that time that when the prophets I made the his right to Medina, the only wife he had at the time that he was living with was so that all the Allah horna that when he came to Medina, and the profit slice him set up his initial home of the huge lots of the of the homes of the messenger slice and this was the only woman that would have her her home with the Prophet sallallahu it was said Um, so think about how close she was to the Prophet, slice alum. And think about how much history is there between soda and the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And again, this was a woman that brought so much joy to his life and we'll talk about that in sha Allah, just to knock out a few key incidents here. Number one, when it comes to the heads of the Prophet sly, some sent her soda and Fatima and Uncle film on amen and Osama bin Zayed along with zaidan haritha and other warfare to migrate

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on the trip to Medina, may Allah be pleased with them all. So So that'll be migrated amongst the family of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and would settle with the profit slice I'm in Medina. And before I get to those qualities, what are some key incidents Well, for one in the Battle of budget, when Sohail ignore, you know, sets out with grace to meet with Abu Sufyan and then to ambush the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in the Battle of bed that what we find is that Sohail was amongst those who were captured first and taken prisoner at the battle and Abdullah the son of so hate fled him and went to the other side, right so you know, so hated know, who was the brother in law of soda

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comes to the battle, his son Abdullah flees and joins the Muslims at that time. And so he is captured and taken prisoner at bed. Now think about this when you're thinking about so hated with his chest puffed out, and her baby that the prophets lie some could have killed him as a captive in bed. And he comes to the Prophet slice alum as a prisoner, and all over the hospital the Allahu anhu he says to the prophets lysozyme yada Silla so we know that almost all the Allah I know has a history with so hate of nomina. Even in her they be where he wanted to take them out. He was hoping someone would just kill him and do away with him. But of course, Sohail would become Muslim and

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would become amongst the key voices, stopping people from becoming apostates after the death of the Prophet slicin them so here's some more history on raha Pablo de la Han, who said to the Prophet slice, I'm Jada Silla, let me knock his front two teeth out. So that way, his tongue will stick out and he'll never be able to speak against you again. Let me make an example out of and let me knock his teeth out. Let me make him look a certain way. So that his tongue which he has used against you so much, will not be used against you anymore in the profit slice, I'm telling them what are they allowed to back off of him to leave him alone. So hey, as a prisoner, of course, being the, you

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know, the smart man that he was, he finds a way to tell those that are holding him that he needs to use the bathroom and he runs off and he escapes and he almost gets away from Medina and then he's captured once again. And he has his hands tied to his neck, which was not common, but it was done because so halal, the Allah tada and what was, you know, was obviously a prisoner that could get away. So Sohail is brought to the house of soda or the Allahu taala Anna, because that's his former sister in law and sell the looks at him and she sees him in this humiliating state. And she says to him, yeah, beggars eat you surround you surrendered way too easily you should have you should have

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at least fought till you die to noble death. And when she said that she's forgetting obviously, that he's fighting against the Muslims. So the prophets lie Selim, he heard her and he said, Are you energizing him against Allah and His messenger? sallallahu wasallam? Are you trying to get him to fight against Allah and His Messenger sallallahu wasallam. And she apologized, obviously, in the prophets, I saw them, he he smiled at her to put her at ease that it was okay. So at that point, the Prophet slicin made a comment to everyone to treat the prisoners well. And of course, the Sahaba mentioned that because of how they treated them. So well, they fed them before they fed themselves

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at times, and many of those that became Muslim from the captives of bed that specifically remembered and recalled that example of the kind treatment that the Muslims gave to them at bad so that's one key incident with soda all the time. And another key incident is that the verse of Hey job was actually revealed in response to so that'll be Allah who

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she used to go out like the wives of the Prophet slice, um, so the common areas where they would relieve themselves and Amaro the law of Thailand who recognized her and he said to so that we recognized you. Yeah, I mean, a mother of the believers and our model the Allahu taala, and who was hoping for the ayaats of age

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Up to be revealed and the profit slice on did not respond to him until Allah subhanaw taala revealed the ayat and sort of the North. So those verses were revealed. I'm sorry, his up those verses were revealed in direct connection to so the while the Allahu taala. And now once she moves in with the profit slice alum and they settled in Medina, then he shoveled the Allahu taala and he becomes of age and three years later, she marries the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as well rather she consummated the marriage with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and insha Allah The Allahu taala and her would look to Sodor not as a competitor, not as someone that she felt threatened by not as

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someone that she was annoyed by, but rather, she looked at her like an older sister, and in some ways even a mother and a role model. And so double the Allahu taala and her you know, nurture that relationship with each other all the time as well to the point that it settled the allow on her said now I am right and I had the Ilia and a corner famous lathi Harmon soda, that there is no person that I love to be in the company of and follow her example, then soda or the long tail and and she had a head that a determination to her a strong resolve and firmness to hurdle the Allahu taala and her so she's my role model. She's the person that I wanted to emulate most, because of her example,

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while the Allahu taala and Hannah it shall have the Allah and her loved her and considered her one of her closest friends. So soda, being the oldest wife of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam as the prophets lie some of course, would marry more as Allah subhanho wa Taala commanded him sallallahu wasallam sodaro the Allahu taala and her always sort of plays this role of being the woman that is known for bringing joy to the Prophet cise alum and that brings a sense of calmness to every environment that she is in. So first we see that the way that she would joke with the Prophet slice on them.

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And you find some specific incidents one of them is that one day she saw the profit slice alum in distress, and she wanted to make the profit slice on left so she said to the sulla slice alum, she said the Alice little la solito, Halifax solei to Haifa, kelela. For a character B had to M sector we envy Mahabharata. And yuck to read them, she said to the Prophet slice on them that jasola I prayed behind you last night, and you took so long in your record, that I had to hold my nose because I was afraid Maha fritton and the actual rhythm that the blood would start coming down from my nose and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. But he kept he laughs sallallahu wasallam to the point

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that his back teeth were visible, and the sadness that was on his face disappeared and it shuttled Leila and her says she used to, to LA Heiko Salalah, how it was set up. She used to always make him laugh when she saw him sad and it hits the lotto slammer that he was going through certain things, so she brought jokes and joy to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she was also a good cook, and he saw the Allahu taala and he was not a good cook. So you find a incident where, again, and these are narrations from it shall be Allah and our mother about our mother, so that all the law that once he settled the law and her made a dish, and she had so that in her home with the Prophet

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salallahu it he was some of them. And when the Prophet slice on began to eat, because it was so lost, my son would eat whatever was put in front of him from his spouse's sallallahu wasallam he should notice that soda wasn't eating her food. So she told her why and so the you know, basically told her that she wasn't interested in eating the food that I made. So I saw the law and her says to her jokingly, she says, if you don't eat my food, then I'm gonna smear it in your face. I'm gonna put some of it on her face. So so that does not eat and it sold the data on her playfully. She puts some of the food on the face of soda. And also last slice alum. Tell us so that you know you should

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reciprocate. So so little the alumni, put some of the food back on his face and they started to laugh. And we all started to love it. So the law Anna says we all laughed, including the Prophet slice alum until our model the a lot of time came and then we continued on with our day, I settled the law on her says that soda also had a particular fear of a digit. So we used to talk about the jug. And this shows you a different side of the Sahaba. Right, which is an important one, but we would talk about the judge, to the point that she would get scared. And she she literally one time we talked about him so much that she she hid, thinking that he was going to come in the room and the

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Prophet sallallahu sallam, he entered into the room and he saw a certain hafsa laughing and he said, Where is soda and they said that she's afraid of the job. And so she's in she's in the corner over there. And so that'll be Ella and her comes out laughing and the profit slice I'm laughed and she laughed and hafsa laughed

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So the left so this was a lighter side to the profit slice element, his companions, and particularly his family, that we often, you know, don't get a lot of time to really expose ourselves to. So she was someone that loves to laugh, and she loves to bring laughter to other people. And she, in that sense was generous with her spirits. And it makes sense that her most prominent quality is her sadaqa after her laughter, her generosity of spirit and bringing joy to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And to the other family members of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. She's known for her charity, and he settled the law on her says, so that was the most generous of people,

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anything that came to her, she used to immediately give it in charity, whether it was a gift or something that was a lot to her as a portion, she immediately gave it in South Africa, to the point that she would prepare anything that she had, and she would give it as gifts to those young girls that were getting married. So she's kind of assuming that position of being a mother to the believers in the full sense. Even then, right. Of course, all of the wise the prophets I some are mothers, but she's taking on that role as well of giving these gifts to those that are young and that are getting married. And anytime anyone sent her gifts, Pamela she she would not even look at

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what was sent to her. I saw the law on her says that one time all model the law on her Center, a bucket of dead homes and she did not even look at the bucket, right? She just kept on sending it out and anything that came to her all the Allahu tada on her, she immediately gave it up for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we also find that, that that soldato the Allahu anhu again, likes to sort of, you know, live in obscurity bring that joy to the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam does not confront anyone, no one has a complaint against her. No one says that they ever had a fight with so that'll the Allahu taala and so she's in her own world, in essence, as she becomes

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aged. And as she you know, she gets to a point where she is old, and she is not able to, to really do much at that point. Right. So I showed the law and so she got to a point where, you know, she would walk with a very slow pace, I'll be loyal to her and she really could not do much. And because of that, you know, she she says to the profit slice lm that Yasuda La La Hagit Elisa region that I'm not you know Jada sulla, I'm not interested and men and what she means by that is that I'm not in a place to be intimate anymore and the profit slice and I'm offered to relieve her and to to basically divorce her so that she would not feel the burden of a wife in that sense. And she says, you also

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the law luchador, Khalifa riddle. I'm really not interested in in intimacy or in being married in that sense, but listen to what she says to the prophets. lysozyme she says, what I can eat Hippo and Oba ifeanyi Sarika yarmulke, Tiamat. She said the other sort of love but I want to be resurrected on the day of judgment as one of your spouse's, I want that position on the day of judgment and agenda to be a wife of yours. So she says to the profit slice on them, how about I give my nighttime shuttle the Ola on her. But at the same time, I want to be your wife. And as I saw the Ella and her said temperature villarica reliable so realizada Laurie said that she was seeking the pleasure of

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the profit slice and I'm in also out of her love for it. So the Allahu taala and her she basically says to the profit slice of them that you don't have to spend my night with me but at the same time, I want the status of being your wife on the day of judgment in particular. So she ages quite a bit in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and that's why you find the narrations in the Hajj of the Prophet seisen where he took all of his spouse to sallallahu alayhi wasallam on hedgetrimmer there on the farewell Hajj that we have the narrations about the elderly and and the women that left early from was dettifoss because it showed the Allah Allah says that particularly

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sodha, who was who was not able to move at a quick pace as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for permission to leave must study for early so that she could beat the crowds. And this is where the prophets lie some gave that permission to not Abbas will be a lot harder and harder to take, sell that and to take some of the elderly and some of the women out from was ready for early on. And of course that permission relieves many, even until today. And we find that because of that also that after her had written with that she was unique in that she never made Hajj again. And she really did not leave the home much after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so we

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find that when we look at the wives of the Prophet slicin, I'm after the death of the messenger sallallahu sallam. They played you know, the role of teaching they played the role of

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conveying so much of what they learned and being in the presence of the profit slice on especially when you talk about um selama and Artesia, may Allah be pleased with them. But when it comes to soda, or the Allahu taala, and this woman Subhana Allah our mother never did Hajj again, did not leave the house much at all, was not one who would narrate a Hadeeth was not one who involved herself in any of the political disputes of the Muslims. Her life was literally dwelling in Medina, and when anything came to her of a portion, giving that in South Africa and continuing to live her life in a way where she was at peace with everyone around her.

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Living a private life, a very private life, so much so so Pamela, can you imagine the wife of the Prophet slice lm so much so that there is even dispute about whether she died in the year 644 up until 674, a 30 year span where so that'll be allowed on her could have died, right? Certainly, it seems after the age of 80 years old, she could have died anytime in that span. Because of her, her wanting to sort of, you know, stay into herself while the allot of time and live whatever was left of her life, pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala and simply living a life of private everybody. So with three years with the Prophet sly some alone as his singular spouse at that time, and with the entire

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span of Medina, and with all that we have of her early Islam and Mecca, and everything in Abyssinia, all of that, and how many Hadith does she narrate only five ahaadeeth only five Hadees total from this wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, who lived her life in such a way, and Subhanallah you find her generosity even continued that when she died, she asked for her room to be merged with the room have you settled the law on her to give out a shuttle the law and have more space because she loved that you shall not be allowed to talk on her so much. And when she died, there was not a single complaint about her. Everyone only remembered her loving and her generous

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spirit. And even Ambassador the Allahu taala. And Homer in particular. By the way, when he heard of her death, he fell into sujood. And he said that I heard the prophets lie. Some say that when a sign comes to you should prostrate and he said what greater sign what greater area is our long woman behavior has widened to be sallallahu wasallam is greater than the death of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam so he fell into sujood. And her janazah was again, you know, it was not a grand janazah she was selfless in life. selfless, even in her death will be a lot of time and generous with her spirit brought joy to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam brought joy to everyone that

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was around her was our mother, the wife of the Prophet, slice alum and older sister to our mother, he shoveled the Allahu taala on her and to have settled the Allahu taala and her and someone who certainly played a role that we cannot that we cannot fully appreciate from the little information that we derived from the books but certainly it is written with a loss of Hannah what's Allah and her joy with the profit slice I'm in her desire to be with the profit slice and I'm agenda for the dose is written as she as she requested to be that wife of the Prophet sallallahu I use eminent for the dose. So May Allah Subhana Allah be pleased with our mother so that'll be a lot of time and her

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allow us to meet her allow us to be with her and to be with her husband, our beloved Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and genitive for those Allah Ameen Xochimilco Hayden, I'll see you all next week in sha Allah was Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.