Why Me #05 What Shaped My Personality

This audio is brought to you by Muslim central.com. Any parent could tell you that each of their children were so different from the start.

One might have been loud and hot temper,

another quiet and calm

and another might have tried to push the boundaries as soon as they could call.

Allah has endowed each of us with a unique set of personality traits. And we're all born with different spiritual dispositions.

How you cultivate your talents or temptations is up to you.

But how much control do you have over the qualities you possess?

couldn't learn Yamano Anna Shakeela tea, everyone acts according to their nature. Everyone is born with the nature Allah created them upon. And as they grow, their personality is shaped and molded by the people around them and the experiences that they're going to have.

So for example, what was it like the first time you went into the masjid? And how did all those people receive you? Were you met with smiles and warmth? Or were you publicly scolded for being disruptive? These early experiences are going to dictate how comfortable you feel in large crowds, and more importantly, how comfortable you feel in the masjid. How was the prayer introduced to you was introduced to you as a burden or a blessing? Did your parents teach you why you pray and then positively affirm you after you pray? Or did you feel like it was forced on you with no explanation. And then you were just disciplined if you failed. In many cases, your parents are the first window

into the reality of Islam in all of its aspects.

Everything from being generous to the less fortunate

to the blessing and feeding your family, especially in Ramadan, to the value of charity and all of its manifestations of the love no model the allowed side and Homer would not have a meal at his home without an orphan at the table. And he said that was directly tied to what he learned from his father about the importance of Feeding the orphans. But some things are not influenced by anyone, and you just find yourself naturally drawn to them. Some children are extroverts and they thrive in large groups. And some children grew up introverted, enjoying their own inner world with their idea of fun. Being engrossed in a book, hopefully not social media apps.

Some kids can find discipline and responsibility to be hard. Other kids grow up being responsible and independent for their age. Some kids hate doing chores.

Other kids love the idea of being helpful to their family.

But it's not only the positive things that get imprinted onto us.

Some of us witnessed a lot of negative behavior, maybe even in our households.

As a child seeing your parents are you can shake your world and you can end up internalizing the way that they dealt with their emotions.

So hot tempers often get inherited, or being afraid of a hot temper gets inherited.

people pleasing, for example, is a common response to witnessing continuous parental disputes because you feel so helpless all the time, that you just want conflict. And so how much of your personality was ever really yours to develop? And how much of it was decreed? How much of it can you learn?

Your personality is both nature and nurture. And you carve out your luck, meaning what becomes your character out of your personality. The Scholars say think of your personality traits, like seeds that still remain in their soil. They're waiting for the rain of Revelation, and the light of faith to nourish them so that they can become beneficial crops. Every personality trait has the potential to grow into a virtuous quality, or it can become the opposite. There was a companion by the name of Alicia Abdullah case, or the alongside her and her this was a man who was a leader of his tribe. And so when his tribe came to see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they were so excited that

they left everything behind. camels were untied things were all over the place. And so he stayed behind, not because he was slow, but because he was deliberate and as a leader. He was getting everything

and put back together. And then he proceeded to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, later than everybody else. Now when he got to the prophets like Selim, he wasn't condemned. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Nephi, a Hustla Taney, you have boom, Allah, Al Hellmuth, when Anna, verily, you have two qualities that Allah loves your hidden, which is your patience with the people. And an app, which is how deliberate you are. Hidden is when your forbearing you can tolerate people, and is when you're calculated, you want to make sure that everything is an order. Now both of those qualities can be mistaken for something negative, you

could see, and Hill as disgrace. You could see an app which is being very deliberate as being slow and having a lot of self doubt. But they're not. And then another narration the prophets lie Selim said to him, Al Hellmuth will hire. It's your forbearance and your shyness. Shyness can be mistaken for weakness, but it's not. So now he's all happy and he says to the prophets, I some yada so Allah, did I acquire these traits? Or Did Allah create these traits within me? The Prophet slicin them said rather Allah put them in you, meaning you were born with these traits, and he responded and said Alhamdulillah Hilary, Jabara Nia hola hola Carini had the whole, All praises be to Allah, who shaped

me with two qualities that he loves. So their God given traits because they start as seeds when you're born, created by Allah, and then Allah guides the individuals to draw out the potential from their unique personalities. Now forbearance, patience and modesty are made easy if a person is naturally introverted. So the seed of introversion can give these fruits through the guidance of Allah subhanaw taala with your striving, but even if these qualities come harder to you, they can still be acquired. That's why Allah subhanaw taala says we're letting Ajah do fina then at the end Nam Cebu Lana, those who strive in our path, we will guide them to our ways, and that's why the

Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the millennium obita I don't know what enamel Hellmuth with Tehillim knowledge is through seeking knowledge. And likewise, forbearance is through practicing forbearance. How many people have you seen unlearn a bad temper? It's difficult but the prophets lie Selim says it is possible. And if you could learn forbearance and unlearn a bad temper, you can learn any good quality and unlearn any bad quality and the reward is simply going to be greater for you. Because you had to strive harder to get to that station, personal family, Natasha eju hustler Hawa. Why hustle huali minute to help copy female combat in the good deeds are the

results of good states and good states arise from the stations were in those who have spiritual realizations by you cultivate your potential by undoing even the worst of qualities and turning them into good ones. Instead of arrogance. You convert strength into courage. You put your eloquence into being a voice of truth instead of false. The same things that made some of the Sahaba horrible enemies of Islam made them the greatest forbearers of Islam. Once they became Muslim, and govern their traits with Taqwa. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said people are like precious stones. The best of you and Janelia are the best of you in Islam, if you have understanding and

faith and just like how it's sunnah to eat from what's closest to you, we run to Allah with the qualities that are closest to our personalities. And then just as we eventually move away further in the plate, we start to expand our personalities to focus on gaining those qualities that might not be easy, but they are beloved to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, and so they've become Beloved to us. We become inspired by our friends and our families to expand our personalities to try new things to build new strengths and new talents. And when we have conversations and share moments together, we learn more about each other and expand our horizon. And while personality is the driving force

behind your journey to Allah, it isn't the only factor that determines your life path. Your health and your illness and your physical abilities or your disabilities. Might just push you in directions you didn't expect

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