Why Me #04 Why Is This My Family

Your parents may be your greatest blessing or your greatest test.

Either way, you're forever bound to them

their upbringing,

their lessons

the voice in your head that follows you for a lifetime.

What is the wisdom of this?

What lessons can you learn or unlearn from your parents?

Allah praises the sacrifice of parents for their children. Because just like you can't remember the miracle of your birth, you can't possibly remember the pain of your mother's labor, and the sleepless nights and worry that your parents had while raising you in infancy. And it may be that you didn't appreciate the sacrifices of your own parents until you had your own children. That's why Allah subhanaw taala says what was seen in Santa bydd he Aksana hemella to Omaha Kureha, Omaha to Kureha Well, Hamlet, who have you follow Huhtala Athena Chava had to either bellava should do what Bella Barbarina Sana Karla Robbie Zuni and ash Quran Mata can Lottie and AMTA Allah Yahweh Allah wa

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Allah commands us by default to honor the sacrifices of our parents.

But not everyone had the same parental influences growing up.

Most of them grew up in a household of fear own the most evil tyrant in history, but also with a pious woman and ESEA who perfected her faith and was utterly selfless. A child in his place could have easily inclined to become a narcissistic tyrant, just like the father figure, but no one hated oppression more than Musashi Sera. Instead he sacrifices everything saving his people and becomes the selfless human being just like ASEAN.

Brahim Aeneas phenom was tested with an abusive father who threw him into a fire, but look at the loving father and while he might, he said I'm grew up to become to his children. In fact, some of the scholars say that Ibrahim comes from the words Ebrahim, which means a merciful Father, and he is of course above and beyond the father of the prophets.

Sometimes the child can respond to abuse by manifesting the opposite qualities of their parents.

But it can take time to unlearn those things.

Look at the story of Pablo de la outside. He hated his father and hip hop because of how abusive he was. And Amara was on track to be just like him before Islam, but then through Islam, he was able to redirect that energy towards this relentless pursuit of truth and justice in the world. And he becomes an exemplary father to his own children. It's Pamela look at how much our beloved Norma love the armor compared to how much armor hated Oh, hubbub, because having a bad father led him to becoming one of the greatest ever. So while armor was the opposite of his father, Abdullah became a carbon copy of him. And that's where beautiful parenting comes in.

Look at two of the four women who perfected their faith. They were a mother and a daughter.

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Look at how an Hasson and an Hussein the masters of the youth of paradise manifested the beautiful qualities of courage and leadership, and we're willing to stand alone for the truth. Was it not their father idealo, the Allahu anhu, who was once the single youth that was willing to courageously stand by our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he stood alone on Mount Safa.

In any case, you have to understand that your parents had parents too. And they made choices with those influences. It may be that one of your parents had to unlearn some sort of harshness, and be the parent to you that they wish they have.

And it may be that their parents saw in you an opportunity to show more love and care than they did to their own son or daughter.

An opposites attract, right. What if your parents had opposite childhoods, but they both found their way to Allah through it all, and then to each other. In many ways, our childhood is a second womb, and our personalities are all somehow molded by those experiences, which are most likely a mixed bag of good and bad.

But even if we feel it was harder than others, we should be careful not to write off our entire childhood as exclusively trauma and forget the love and mercy that was given to us at times where we may have been at our most vulnerable.

No parent is perfect. And sometimes we have to learn to come to terms with their shortcomings without becoming resentful. And while your parents are your greatest influence, you are not your parents, you have your own personality and qualities. So you don't get to automatically claimed their good qualities as your own, nor should you be limited by their shortcomings.

You embrace your own god given qualities, starting with the ones they showed you were the ones you wish you saw. And even for the one that didn't have that parent in any way. Remember, we are an OMA adopted by an orphan. We all have in the prophets of Allah who it was salam, a father as an example, in Nama and Allah can be man Zilla toilet, or a limo, high MTU like a father in that I teach. And he is closer to us than ourselves. And the Mothers of the Believers are our mothers. We all have our examples and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his family and his companions. And we should seek out our own companions that will only further refine those traits. Now, Thomas had manda

Yan Hilo Kahaluu who Wella do Luca and Allah Hema Palu do not keep company with anyone who state does not inspire you, and who speech does not lead you to Allah.

And yes, then those parents in front of you.

Perhaps there are beautiful memories you can't see but that are embedded in your soul.

Or maybe other faint flashbacks in your memories,

or maybe even photographs that you can't recall the story behind.

But just know that there were many sleepless nights that you can't remember

that believe it or not helped your parents grow up to

and it's time for you to embrace your whole childhood as an opportunity for your own spiritual growth.

The color of those around you is directly tied to your clutter

and all of that is meant to drive us back to the word of Allah. To find the best version of ourselves

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