Negative Speaking and Belittling Blessings

Omar Suleiman


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We begin by praising Allah subhana wa Tada and bearing witness that man has the right to be worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except for him. And we bear witness that Muhammad Sallallahu it he was Saddam as his final messenger. We ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him the prophets and messengers that came before him, his family and companions that served alongside him, and those that follow in his lesson path until the day of judgment and we ask Allah to make us amongst them Allah hum. I mean, the brothers and sisters, there's something deeply profound about the way that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to speak about his circumstances.

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And many times there is a connection between how we speak about things and how we think about things. And if we speak in a negative way, then our circumstances will almost always follow even if they're beautiful. And that's why you could have two people with the exact same set of circumstances. And one of them if you ask them how they're doing, they will praise the good of their circumstances and another person will speak to you as if they're a human body as salaam as if they have the worst life in the world and the most difficult moments in their lives. To people with the same circumstances. Ibrahim ani has set up the Prophet Ibrahim, when he visited, his son is married

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it has Salam in Makkah, he visited him twice. And the first time Brahim arniston, visited, he sees a wife of his married Annie his salaam, and asked her how she's doing. And all she pointed to were the negativities the hardships that they had. And then he comes back later on. And I'm paraphrasing the story and finds that it's married it has Salam has married a more righteous woman in her place, asked about her circumstances. And she praises everything that they have, even though it is the exact same set of circumstances. So it's not about the circumstances. It was about how they were experiencing those circumstances. And then speaking about the circumstances, and there is a

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connection between the two, so much so that Allah subhanaw taala says, and we often kind of rush over this very quickly, what am I being intimate to beaker, the Hadith, as for the blessing of your Lord, upon you speak of it, say in Hamdulillah, forward, thank Allah for it. And be very conscious about how you speak about it. You know, when you take your sip of water, and you said hamdulillah did you actually just internalize Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah for the sip of water, thank you Allah for the sip of water. There's something very powerful about that. That is at 200 binaire maxilla, speaking about the name of Allah subhanaw taala. And there is another Hadith that we often quote

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partially and I wanted to just focus on the last part because it's very profoundly connected to this and get to the person of the Prophet slice them first and how he dealt with this, the prophet slice and I'm said, look to those who have less than you, not to those who have more than you. Why because that will make you more content with what Allah subhanaw taala has given to you stop looking at those who have more than you look to those that have less than you. And the last word part of that hadith, and some narrations is what Tez Daro nettement Allah Oh, what are tests the rune atma to Allah He Alikum Do not be little the blessings that Allah Subhana Allah has bestowed upon you.

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Meaning one part of the hadith is what you're looking at. The other part of the hadith is how you're talking about things. When I test the rule, netmeds Allah here and they come, don't be little, don't use words that belittle a blessing that Allah Subhana Allah has given to you. And this speaks to the small things in life, as well as the large things in life. This speaks to our negative self talk, and positive self talk. This speaks to how we interact with our families. This speaks to how we interact with our communities. This speaks to optimism and pessimism. This speaks to all of those different things when it says the rule near Matala Alikum Don't you dare belittle a blessing that

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Allah subhanaw taala has bestowed upon you. So how does that start with the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam first I want you to just think about this hadith and sit with it for a bit mad and EBU sallallahu alayhi wa sallam UCLA Iman cut.

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The prophets lie Selim never once criticized food that was on his plate.

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He never criticized a morsel of food that was on his plate.

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Now if you sit for a moment with that and think about this man ruled how much of the world SallAllahu wasallam. power, prestige and think about our own lives. If you've gone through hard times and good times, you get a little bit more selective with your blessings. Selective with your food. You rarely find people that eat to function Eat to Live criticizing their food. The bread was overcooked today the bread was no no. But for us, we start you know doing Yelp in our heads on every single plate of food that we eat, right reviewing everything that we eat. The prophets I said I'm mad at Tom and put in

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Do you know how amazing that is that he never once pointed to a flaw in his food? He never once said it's too salty. I don't like it. I didn't enjoy this. Nah that interview sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a plomin cut? Not once. Did he ever criticize his food? Something that sounds so small. But how hard is it to practice? When's the last time you criticize your food? It might have been lunch before he got here, right? Think about that, despite his position, whether it was a host from the outside of his home, or whether it was what his spouse put forward. Whether it was someone who was from the poorest of society, or someone who was from the elite of society, if you put a garment in front of

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the Prophet slice of them, if you gave him a shirt, where if you put a plate in front of him, man either whose Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he would never point out a flaw in it, he would simply be grateful for it. And subhanAllah look at the power of how this transforms things we just finished speaking about jobs but if not Abdullah or the Allahu Anhu and a story that he had with the Prophets lie Selim where he said he grabbed me by the hand and he took me to his house so we can eat together and all they had in his house were some dry pieces of bread they dumped them on the ground in front of him and the prophets like Sam said, Is there anything to dip the bread and I said you know the

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only Odom the only dip we have is a hull just some vinegar the prophesy some significant odo what a great dip vinegar is I mean, just right away he didn't he didn't belittle it he didn't say oh you know I wish we had some honey. No nettement odo I love vinegar put the vinegar in front of us Let's dip the vinegar in Java said I started loving vinegar too. And then told her all the Allahu Anhu narrates from Java all the Allah and who said I started loving vinegar too. And then the narrator from Tada says, I started loving vinegar too, because it was a mindset, it was a shift. This is good. Hum did Allah Allah put something a deeper breath? And that's a mindset. That is a tremendous

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binaire Mattila to speak of a blessing of Allah. What are TESDA Runeterra? Metalla? Don't be literally don't be like, oh, man, this is dry. It's old. It's this. It's not no. hamdulillah it's a blessing. And I'm pleased with it. Alhamdulillah? And if that's what the small things, what about the big things? Right? What about the people in our lives? What about the circumstances in our lives that are far more consequential than the bytes of food that we have? The prophets on the way Saddam said, speaking about marriage, since everyone likes to quote,

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the other person's had these on them husbands and wives, there's actually an implementation of this hadith for both and it's almost identical Subhanallah the Hadith in Sahih, Muslim, La Jolla, Frogmore, Mina in Katihar, minha Hulu con la the I'm in the profit slice. And I'm said, Let not a believing man despise a believing woman meaning his wife. Don't talk your wife down in Ketty him in half Holika. If he doesn't like something about her a quality that she has, she might have a certain thing that he doesn't like about her. A lot of the I mean, ha ha. Then he likes something else about her speak about that thing. Don't speak about the thing you don't like focus on what you like, and

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extol it. No one's perfect, and you're not perfect either. And the prophets lie some said about women to men. He said, Sal, Allahu Allah. He was salam in the hanya forum, that they show ingratitude when a husband makes one mistake. And she says Mara, e to Minca Hadron cut, I never once saw anything good from you. You've never done anything good.

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So she denies everything, and focuses on the fault. Now Subhanallah model aid to mankind uncut, like I've never done anything good, fine, I'm not going to do anything, then the attitude shuts off both sides, right?

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Well, you're never going to be happy and you're never going to be happy. So why even try now trying to live up to anything because your standards are impossible. Both sides are operating from the same spiritual disease, by the way, does their own elements Allah, You're belittling a blessing of Allah Subhana Allah, Allah, Allah blessed you with a quality ALLAH blessed you with an action and that other person, you fail to extol it and you extolled the bad quality, the bad quality dominates them, and you're stuck with it. Who suffers you do? When do you see the prophets lie Selim belittling you shall know the Allahu Taala and when you see him belittling before that these are the Allah Allah,

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where do you see him doing that SallAllahu sallam? He didn't used to do that. Don't look at the thing that's wrong and extol it you know, what a test that we're near Matala here on a come extol the blessing extolled a good thing. And Allah subhanaw taala will make it more dominant in your life, even just through your perspective through your perception. And what made the prophets lie some so amazing in this regard, is that even in the most bleak circumstances, he had something positive to say sallallahu alayhi wa salam for the BIA.

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They're literally facing a potential massacre.

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And curations so halebidu Hombre

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While the Allahu Anhu becomes Muslim later on, and a great companion, but at that time, he was the chief negotiator. And the Sahaba see him and go, oh god. So halal. And the prophets I said, I'm smiles and he says Salah Morona His name is Souhei which means easy, Allah just made our affairs easy for us. Something is good or something good is going to come out of this. Just look at his name. His name is so hate his name is easy. So Allah Subhana Allah surely is giving us a sign that he's about to send ease our way. That's, that's a foul that's looking at things and trying to see something and praise Allah subhanaw taala for finding the good and praising it. That's not being

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naive. That's not being reckless. The prophets lie. Some said, Oh, no more, no need to do anything else know that seeing something good and saying it hamdulillah there's something there Alhamdulillah there's something in the small morsel of food. There's something in the major tragedy, something there I can find and praise. When you constantly have that negative lens.

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You're only messing it up for yourself and you're gonna mess it up for people around you as well. Because negativity is contagious. And subhanAllah what we find often is how that translates generationally, by the way.

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You know, the next generation is listening to their parents constantly putting down the blessings of Allah upon them. Then you give your six year old an iPhone 10 I don't know why. But you choose to give your six year old an iPhone 10 and the six year old, you know, say Oh, you got an iPhone? Well, you know, yeah, my friend has a 12 they immediately go to the what was the rune and that's a lie, they come. You're belittling a blessing Allah subhanaw taala bestowed to you don't do that and that transitions, transitions from generation to generation because it becomes contagious and with the prophets of Allah who it was salam, look how contagious his gratitude was. Because if he's grateful

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for that, who am I to not be grateful for it? If he's grateful for that vinegar, who am I not to be grateful for it? Because he deserves more than I ever deserved? Some Allahu Allah He was. And if he's pleased, I too, am pleased. When a test zero netmeds Allah do not be little a blessing that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah has bestowed upon you. Well, I'm being dramatic erotica for Hadith speak, reflect on the blessings of Allah in your life, with yourself and with the people around you, and make that contagious that we say Alhamdulillah and do not point out flaws. Make it a habit, make it a habit, you know, a lot of people say, Well, this is behavior. I've been like this, I always go

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to the negative, I immediately resort to the negative, it's not something that can change overnight. That's true. But you know, when the prophets like Selim says to us to even focus on the small things, the daily things, slowly that change can come in sha Allah tan, slowly that change can come where you even adjust yourself to say Alhamdulillah for something that is very, very, very small and something that other people would be little, so catch yourself, and try to adjust yourself in that way to always say Alhamdulillah for the small good that you can find, even if it doesn't seem that great at the moments and Allah subhanaw taala might change that good to great. And that might then

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color the other circumstances and allow for other things to be granted to you with a insha Khartoum, as Eden. If you are grateful, I will increase you. May Allah subhanaw taala increase us first and foremost in Iman, may Allah increase us in faith, may Allah increase us in certainty. May Allah subhanaw taala increase us in perspective, may Allah subhanaw taala increase us and our ability to see blessing so that when he blesses us, it becomes a blessing for us in the Hereafter, as well. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah make us from the grateful and the patient may Allah Subhana Allah Allah make us from the thankful May Allah Subhana Allah to Allah forgive us when we belittle any Naira

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that he has given to us, especially the naira of Islam. May Allah subhanaw taala never make us amongst those that belittled the blessing of faith that He has given to us. May Allah never allow us to look at someone who has a blessing of this dunya and envy them while he has given us the greatest blessing of this Deen. May Allah subhanaw taala keep us on that Nirma of Deen until the moment that he takes us Allahumma Amin of Hulu Cody hada was tougher Lalibela company certainly must have been faster if you don't know who to vote for Rahim.

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