Fiqh of Pregnancy #5

Omar Suleiman


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The speakers discuss the struggles of parenting with COVID-19, including the importance of learning and using the experience to make decisions, naming children properly, finding a partner for a relationship, avoiding exclusions for the public, hesitation during circumcision, and sharing genetic information and animal characteristics. They stress the need to avoid exclusions and hesitation during circumcision, as well as avoiding discomfort during birth. The segment also touches on regulations related to shaving children, including not including children in groups or events, not including children in groups or events, not including children in groups or events, not including children in groups or events, not including children in groups or events, not including children in groups or events, and not including children in groups or events.

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Don't pass out. Don't get scared. All right, inshallah she will go back to being normal. She won't always scream at you that way. And she didn't mean it. Everything that she said, just remind her to make it. Okay, remind her to make dua.

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Wars that live that time because at that moment of phase

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so word the do I also, that's a good one, obviously. Alright, so the time of birth. So obviously the time of birth was the last slice that I'm told us that every time the child is born,

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that shape, you know, the child is poked, if you will, by shape on, in the sense that the shape on the shape, one is already declaring his his, his enmity for that child even when the child is just born. And obviously, whenever we're approached by the shape on when we feel thoughts of the shape on we say are a little bit I'm going to say fontelo gene, and actually a soulless ice and I'm sad for that reason, the mother of Meriam when she made the DUA and she said we're in need or either Hobbico whether Reatta Homina Shavon regime, that I seek refuge in You from the shape on for my for my daughter, and for her offspring that whenever she made the right for her child, and for the

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offspring of that child that her dad was so sincere, so genuine, that Allah Azza answered Hindemith's a *load or the Allah Han has. And mme and Isa were born, not crying. And not because there was something wrong with them. But Allah Subhana Allah gave them so much peace, that when they were born, they were not crying. Now, obviously, you'd be very scared if your baby's born not crying, but with them because of the peace that Allah Subhana Allah gave to them, because of that of the mother. So obviously, you're making dua to Allah subhanho. As you know, the Mama knows him Allah, he said something that's very simple. He said, transferring realms is always hard, going from

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one world to another. Right? And he likened that very beautifully, you know, to the way that a person would go from dunya to boza. To that to the realm of death, right? No matter how good you are, there's still you know, you can't you can't really know everything that you're going to expect to totally different realm. It's a totally different world. And that's why it's traumatizing.

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It's traumatizing in its nature. But Allah makes it easier for the believer. And being raised from BUZZA to the world of the akhira is traumatizing. You know, it's, you know, the people that would have been punished their entire lives in the basilica in that realm of death would say, Yeah, wait, and I'm back and I'm in la cadena who woke us up from our sleep. So it's traumatizing. You know, it's because they're seeing a whole nother world. So you're going from one world to another and it's naturally very traumatizing. So you make dua to Allah subhanaw taala to make it easy for you, right to make it easy for you. And you make dua for your children also that Allah subhanaw taala makes it

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a smooth,

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smooth delivery. And the love and bustle the Allah Tada. I know he says when Allah azza wa jal says in the Quran in Medina who Sabir, we guided him to the path in my shakin in Mecca for either he'll be grateful he'll be or he'll be ungrateful, he said, it's literal, and the sense that literally Allah guided you out of your mother's womb, And subhanAllah when you study medicine, I haven't studied medicine, but I've heard this frequently said people who study medicine, they just say subhanallah How do you not believe in Allah when you study this stuff, all the processes, everything that's going going you know, into that, this sophisticated creation and then everything that can go

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wrong at birth, and still the baby is born. Right? So Allah says in the head, Dana has to be Allah makes it easy for you, He guides you that path and He guides you the path of Islam also. So it's, it's in the literal sense as in coming out of your mother's womb. And it's also in the sense of loss, Grandpa shows you the clear path, He guides you to the clear path, and you can either be grateful or ungrateful to a lost parent as as a result. So a lot of things can happen at that moment. It's important to be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala and you make dua to Allah subhanaw taala to make it easy for the child. And that's why the first thing that you do when the child comes

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out is what? Right away then, okay, now, then very softly

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all right. Don't scream at the title.

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Don't try to you know, don't try to sound like the mud than at the huddle start going Allah.

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Allah you don't do that. Okay. But Subhan Allah you take the child and you soothe it with the remembrance of Allah subhana wa Tada.

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And this is Narrated by Abu oftheir in the Hadith and Sunnah nobody dealt with authentic hadith that I saw when Al Hasan or the Allahu Anhu was born and hasn't ignore it to follow the model the Allah Allah, the prophets lysozyme took al Hassan and he uttered the event in his right ear, so he quietly made the event in his right ear in a soft, soothing voice, okay, not in a very loud voice so the event is made in the right ear. Although there is no authentic hadith about the common the left ear, many of the scholars said you also do the comma in the left ear

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Okay, so there is no sahih Hadith per se, but but it is many, many of the scholars said you do the event in the right year and then you'll turn him and you'll do an event into the left ear, but try to do that. Brothers in particular, hopefully you're not passed out by them. Try to do that right away. Okay, just take the child and it's a very touching moment. It's really It's beautiful. Subhan Allah, Allah here, I'm not lying when my daughter was born. That was the only time she wasn't crying was like the first in the first two hours of her birth. When I did that in her ear, she just got quiet and she's like, what's going on here? Then she went back to crying.

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And obviously, the way that they treat the baby, if those of you who haven't seen your, you know, the way they treat the baby in the hospital is like, it's like being at a factory or something like that, right? It's just like,

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like, like, whatever, you know. They're not they're not really paying attention to you. Like, are you are you sure that's okay? It's like their packaging cheese or something like that. Alright, but they're packaging a baby. But somehow it suits the baby, remind them of Allah subhanho wa taala. So doing the Athan in the right ear in a soft voice don't terrify the child from the very start in the mouth. Hustle and bustle Rahim Allah. Allah has also attributed to mom and adore him Allah said look at how powerful this is. You come into this world with a van but no Salah right you come into this world with Iran but no Salah you leave this world with salah but no Yvonne

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right. So the time of your life is like the time between Salah between Yvonne and Salah since a short period of time. The Time of Your Life is just like the time between Athan and Salah. So you have to make the best use of it but it's very powerful. We come in with a van we leave with Salah okay. So try to do that right away and we find you know at this at these moments and this is where I said you know every time one of my friends would have a child to get like 2030 text messages what do we do now? What do we do now? What do we do not because there's so many nice soon and that you can extract blessings from your child at that time. And we saw the Sahaba had this keenness right they

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would take their children to the Prophet slice on him right away so well Mossad Ashati are the Allah Allah He said as soon as I had my son Ibrahim, we ran to the prophets like Selim, Anna says about his mother and a pseudonym Article of the Allah ano says mother Amsterdam or the hola hola Anna, when she had a son named Abdullah immediately requested also last Isola because they wanted to get the most out of the pregnancy. They wanted to make this the best. They wanted to start off on the right, you know, on the right foot as much as they possibly

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could. And you know, we find some narrations in that regard. One of them is that when the Muslims made Hyjal when the Muslims made hijra, the some of the people in Medina some of particularly the Jewish tribes in Medina, the ones that were at, you know, at war with the Muslims, not the ones that were at peace with the Muslims, particularly some of the juice from bento kureta, some of the juice from Edina, we're on good terms with the Muslims, for those who don't know, all right, particularly some of them from bento. Kurata they said that we placed a spell on the Muslims and no one's going to have kids here.

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So no one's going to be able to have kids. And so in the first few months, some of the Muslims believe that, unfortunately, so there were a few miscarriages here and there. And so some of the Muslims started to think they were cursed. Some of them thought there was actually a spell on them. And then there was a child that was born six months after him. So does anyone know who that child was?

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Have the loved one is available the Allahu Anhu first child born in Medina, after his widow, who are his parents, obviously, a little bit and who else a snap, and I'll be back here, while the Allahu anha what are the Allahu via, so I will record all the Allahu Anhu when that happened, he took up the loveliness of it, and he literally paraded him around the streets in Medina and start and was chanting Allahu Akbar, right, because it showed that the that the spell wasn't there. And some of the Muslims didn't believe it was because of the spell, they just thought because it was a different climate, you know, they all of a sudden came from a very dry land to a very, they thought it was

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different climate that it would be hard for them to have children. So that obviously disproved that idea that there was a spell. And a snap on the Allahu Anhu says that we then brought up the loveliness of bear to the Prophet slice of them, and we placed him on his lap and the Prophet slice on him asked for a date and also allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he chewed that date

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and he had some saliva so he chewed that date with his own saliva and then he rubbed the two dates on the roof of the mouth of Abdullah and as of April the aligner so he chewed some a piece of date and he put it on the mouth of Abdullah of Abdullah and as a bit of the Allah I know he rubbed the date on the roof of the mouth of of the loveliness of April the allowed time. And that was the first child to be born to a stamp. So this is called technique. Technique. Technique to handbook is whenever you take the date you chew the date, and you rub the date on the roof of the mouth of the child. A more explicit hadith

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is from Anna Saudi Allah Tada. I know that I went to the profit slice on them with with my brother his stepbrother was Abdullah. It'd be Paula was a stepbrother. Okay. His mom

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I'm so lame had Abdullah again so we said that the prophets like Saddam was the first one to be introduced to Abdullah. So they took up the lots of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and also lost by Saddam was outside, you know tending to a camel and was so lovely Salam, you know when whenever he was requested to come, he came and he held the baby and he said to me, do you have any dates with you? And I said yes. And I handed them to him. And also last I sent him he moist in them with his tongue. He opened the child's mouth and he rubbed the date on the top of the child's mouth and the baby started to laugh so the baby was happy. Abdullah was happy. So he started to smile. And

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he says, well, so let's say some smiled so widely that the back of his teeth showed so little soulless ice and I was happy and also less Isom, he said own little will answer a terminal look at the love that the unsought have for dates. Right because the unsalted lives around dates, you know, masha Allah Medina has really good dates, you haven't eaten real dates, until you go to Medina. Okay, the ones that we have here, even California for those of you that live in California and stuff like that, not real dates. All right. But the Subhan Allah, so the province like Saddam was happy. And then he said, listen, now, Abdullah Abdullah, and he named him Abdullah, so the prophets I said,

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I'm actually named this child, Abdullah, the point is, again,

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you don't have to necessarily to the dates, okay, but you make a piece of date soft, don't sit there and try to stuff a big medjool date and the child's mouth and choke him. All right, you take a piece of data, you make it soft, Okay, you two on it, and you rub it on the roof of the mouth. And this is following the Sunnah. And the scholar said, anything sweet can work as a replacement. Alright, but let me let me please let me just talk about that for a little bit. All right, you don't put Buckler or rasmalai or anything like that. In child's mouth, anything sweet. They said in the absence of dates, mashallah, their dates everywhere. But what this does is, by the way, there's medical

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research, mashallah that has shown that this actually stimulates the child's immune system, putting that the little piece of dates in the child system that sugar, the little bit of sugar, it actually stimulates their systems, so it's actually good for them.

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Now, traditionally speaking, some of the scholars said if you don't have dates, what do you use?

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But that's actually a terrible idea.

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And it's not haram to say that because it's not necessarily from the Sunnah, some of the scholars just thought that naturally, if you're not going to use dates, then you use honey, but there's actually there's actually been plenty of studies confirmed that using honey can actually can actually hurt the child very much if you give the child honey within the first year. Okay, of the child's life.

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It's called infant botulism. I think it is B OTUL. Is that how you pronounce it?

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Botulism with the CH there. Okay, so you shouldn't put honey even if you read in some of the traditional books they use honey if you don't have dates, don't put honey there. Okay. And also for the woman,

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the woman

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What did Allah Subhana Allah save some money on?

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Right? Allah subhanaw taala gave her dates and warm water. Right? Right. Allah Subhana Allah gave her dates and warm water so we can take from that that it's good for the woman also. And by the way, again, medical research has shown that it replenishes the woman you know, it calms her down it's panel that replenishes her dates are an amazing,

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they just have amazing nutritional value. They have amazing nutritional value. So it's good to replenish the woman at that point with dates and drinking water. Alright, so that's what you're going to do right away. Now the next thing is obviously naming the child. Okay, naming the child, I'm gonna offend some people when I get to naming the child because some people might have some of the names that I'm saying that you should not name your child with. Alright, so please, if I see everyone look around, and look at one person, like hella cool.

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I'm never gonna call you by your name again. That's not my intention. My intention is to talk about what's the what are the best names to give? Okay, so what how do you name your child? What's the process of naming your child? First question is when do you name your child? So traditionally, you know, there used to say the seven today is the time that you name the child so that the best time because the soulless licen I'm named Al Hassan and Hussein on the seventh day, okay, on the same day of there are peak of the Prophet twice, no names and haselwood per se. So some of them said the seventh day, but that doesn't that doesn't mean it's set in stone because in Sahih Muslim and I said

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nomadic with the Allahu taala. And he said that was the last lie Salam said a boy was born to meet last night was a mate to who Ibrahim and I named him Ibrahim. So he was born last night. So the Prophet twice and I'm obviously named him before seven days. So the only reason I'm mentioning that is because you can name them at any time. All right, in our society in particular, it might be kind of awkward to have just the baby without a name for the first seven days. You can name them even before the child is born.

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That's okay. All right, but the prophets lie some named the child

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one night later now what are some of the guidelines for choosing the name? Alright, first and foremost all names are permissible unless something is objectionable about them it's important to understand that so you can choose to name your child anything that's not objectionable but we're talking about the best names the best names

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the best names to Allah subhanaw taala if you're having a son obviously are what

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Abdullah and Manos Allah slice and I'm said I have a smart and the most beloved names to Allah subhanaw taala are Abdullah and Abdul Rahman and he actually set up the amount and Abdullah

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well, we'll talk about what the prophets lie some did Allah hate him though, but when I'm gonna I'm gonna hop out of the low I know heard that from the Prophet slice on him he named three of the sons of that Imam. So he dropped the love and Allah. Then he named three of them I'm that I'm on an COVID on the amount of solid muscle tear the big one, the middle one and the small one. Okay. So how about that just shows you their keenness to follow the Sunnah, you know, I'm telling you, you know,

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I don't want to actually I'm not gonna I have to be very careful this a sister that I know, okay. Wanted to name her child, her daughter, Fatima.

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And whenever she wanted to do that, her relatives mashallah hijab used to debate they said, some Kadeem, that's the old name, you know, why don't you name them something new, like with flavor to it, right? It's like the daughter of the prophets Isola, right, the keenness to follow the Sunnah I'm telling. And that's why by the way, if you go to the Middle East now, very few people are now naming their daughters and their sons after Sahaba and Sahabi up and stuff like that. It's very rare now, it really is now, it's very rare. It's not haram to name them other things, but it's like looked down upon. Okay, why are you doing the same thing over and over again? Okay, but look at the

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Sahaba is keenness to follow this phenomenon called dog named three of his kids.

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So, that's the first thing there's, there's another category of names which is the abbot of anything, anybody have anything or Emma, right? Um, Atala or so on so forth. There's a weak Hadith of the prophets like some said that any of the names that have herb booty in them are our beloved names are the best of names. Okay? It's a weak Hadith but some of the scholars still acted upon that they said it's good to name your child is still something you know, an established name of Allah subhanaw taala. So having a booty there, okay, having the servitude of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. denoted in there. These are just good names. Again, the third category is the names of prophets and

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messengers and I'm gonna play him as the one who's giving these categories by the way. Okay, it'll solo us I'm actually said someone fossa can be a smell Ambia name your name yourselves with the names of the prophets. Okay. So for example, what did the prophets lie some name his son,

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Ibrahim, and you asked about that question about why didn't he name his kids that one of the prophets like some have most of his kids?

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Before why Ibrahim was the only one after why. And also Allah say salam named him after his father Ibrahim, the Prophet slicin. And loved Ibrahim is now it was his father, there was a very close relationship. Obviously, no one is like the more like the prophets like some Ibrahim Eissa, he looks like him. Subhan Allah was so lost by some looks like Ibrahim on Easter. So he was even created with his same physical appearance almost when he saw him he was shocked saliva and when he saw him, I saw him at all and he looked like him he resembled him Subhanallah and there is no greater profit after also loss, I'm gonna throw him on he has set up, okay, I will be the father of the profits. Alright,

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so he said, name your children after the Gambia. And of course, the fourth category is the names of righteous people.

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It's good to name your children after righteous people. Whether there's a harbor or even, you know, even some of the modern day righteous people that we have, or you see someone who has some some righteousness in them and you want to name your children after them. That's that's really that's a nice thing to do. Okay, it's a beautiful thing to do. A lot of times people ask me why I named my daughter may write me why. And people think I was just trying to cop out you know, I didn't want my daughter to have too much of an Arabic name so she could blend in. You know, that's why I named her me. I named her that after my mother. I'm Latina. I thought my mother was righteous. I named her

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after my mother. Now several high cathodic you know, I thought this righteous woman so you name after righteous people if you know righteous people, if you the names of the Sahaba fall in that category. It's good to name after them. Right? It's good to name after them. I forgot who it was. I think

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Yes. As aware of the Allahu Anhu was talking about him and thought had all the Allah Han says obair said Paul has named all of his kids after prophets. I named all of my kids after Shahada.

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All of the kids of his bed were named after Shahadat. So I beloved as the bed was named after our beloved and Josh, right Musab eveness of it must have been automated, right? He named all of his kids after Shahada. So you want to name your kids after righteous people. And then again names with good meanings. Okay names with good meanings that you want your kids to have, obviously. Now, obviously, you know, some

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times people like, you know, I named my kid

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I named my kid a good name like I named my kid. What's What's one of those SubhanAllah? Like, there's some times people haven't have the opposite character of their names.

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Right? I named my kid like, you know, something that has, you know, denotes leniency for example, he's just a crazy angry bullies. You know what happened? Right? I mean, my middle name, Rahim Allah said, it's not the name that makes the child. But it's the intention behind the name when you give them that name. Think about that. I intend I'm naming my child this name because I want them to have those characteristics. You're making dua by naming your child you're naming the child is because you want them to have those characteristics. Right.

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And that's why for example, the name Muhammad Okay, now I know that almost everyone now from the subcontinent named Muhammad the dots like but it's really you know, what's sad is that in some countries in the Middle East Mohammed is like the way that you you degrade someone right? I'm not taking from it you don't know someone's name hit them I'm at that Muhammad. Right you call someone Muhammad? It's like kind of belittling the name in a way right? But Muhammad you're naming after us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam beautiful name and how many of you know in nominal has Ali's name

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you know any mammal? His eyes name was it was Abu Hamad right, that was his cornea. Muhammad his his name was Mohammed bin Mohammed ibn Muhammad ibn Muhammad ibn Muhammad Al Ghazali.

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Five Muhammad in his name.

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So it's beautiful naming after the prophets naming with good names.

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Obviously, you should avoid names with bad meanings. Okay, names with bad meanings. Unfortunately, people think if it's in the Quran, then it's a good name. No, that's not the case. Because there's sometimes a loss pantile is talking about about someone you know, and we have people named Zania. Sometimes right adulterous? You see, like some terrible names. I've met people that have the worst names, like why would you do that to your children, you know, name them after bad name. So don't don't just name them any Arabic word that you can find and say, you know, I saw it in the Quran, study the meaning of the name first, make sure you don't name your kids with dad. meanings. Some of

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the names, you know, when I was living in college, some of the names that ACC

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and even in Philistine by the way even some of the names are just like really, really bad names. Like they have bad meanings. Like you have people like that or name like angry and hold the bond and like xylon and, you know, you have all kinds of names. It's like, what why? Why would you do that? Like I understand if it's the tribe name, but if you're naming your kid that Why are you going to name them that? Right? So anyway, good, good meanings. Also names which are exclusive to the disbelievers exclusive to the disbelievers should not be used. So you know, things that are that are biblical, but not from the Quran, not from the Sunnah. They're not names of Prophets, for example,

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things that are that are exclusive to them. Okay, so you can't you shouldn't name your kid for example, Christian, it's obvious, right? You wouldn't name your kid Christian, okay, or you wouldn't name your kid Paul. All right. Those are things names that are exclusive

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to them.

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Okay, names which only belong to Allah subhanho wa Taala and cannot even be used as an attribute so you can I've seen some people named Brahman. It's haram to name your child that Iman only Allah can be Rama. Can you name someone Corinne?

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Yeah, because a person can be generous. A person can be clean, but a person can't be ill caring. Okay, you can't name your kid paw Hill. Okay, the subdued Eileen. Motor capital you don't want to name your kid and with the Kevin because pride with the human being denotes a bad thing. Right?

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More Haman could do so there's some names of Allah subhanaw taala that are specific to him that are limited only to Allah subhanaw taala and even their attributes are not given to human beings they're not to be used for human beings.

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Also, names which names which denote enslavement to anything other than Allah subhanaw taala Okay, so we still find people named Abdon Nebby for example, right or Abdul something else okay Abdul anything but Allah subhanaw taala is not allowed. Okay, a names which are excessive in praise, excessive and praise. So for example, sola sai Salam saw a girl's name who was Bella not bottle I like outside Bella means free of sin. And also last by some changed her name to Xena. Okay. Also, and I know this one is this one might be a little offensive and you might even know him. Allah He used to his name was Maria Dean. He hated that name. He refused for people to call him my dean. In

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fact, he said when he was dying, I forgive I will forgive anyone for any any wrong they have done to me. But those who call me more here, Dean, I don't forgive them. mohideen means the one who gives life to the dean. He said one was the dean dead.

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So he didn't like the name Mohiuddin for himself. He considered it bad for himself, right? So, you know, change it to like mo or something like that. That's a change in that situation. But

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Anything you know that has the dean in it like I've met people named like say the Hulk, and Hyrule Bashar and like stuff like that like the best of men, the Master of Creation, like we should not go overboard in praise. And obviously when you follow the Sahaba

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when you follow the Sahaba, you do well with that anyway. Alright, now the next thing in regards to naming

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the middle name, the middle name should be the father's name. Why Eliza just says they're only about him who are AXA? 200 and Allah and SOTL Aza Allah. Swift sub right. They're only about him. So it's a heads up, right? Call them by their by the names of their fathers. That is more just to Allah subhanaw taala. So obviously, we don't live in a society where it's been this bin that bin this bin that you don't put bent or bent and stuff like that. You have the last name which is equivalent to the Kabila name, if you will, the name of the tribe, it's the name of the family, but it's good. I'm not saying it's fuddled, saying it's good. So then, just to fulfill that tradition, calling by the

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names of the fathers, it's good to make that the middle name than the middle name, it's best to make that the Father's name in that regard. All right. Now once you have the child, if you want to congratulate someone who has had a child

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and by the way with anything with with Dean in it, it's not haram, it's not haram. I'm saying some of the scholars did not like that. So for example, I've been saying me Elohim Allah, what's his name? To clean your deen? He said that I personally am not a fan of the name. He said that I don't want it. I wouldn't change it because it's not haram and my mother named me that. Okay, so it's not that you know, so again, like if your name Dean, something with Dean at the end, sometimes it can be excessive, sometimes it can be excessive, not always. But whenever it's like, you are the one you are the nobility of the dean, right. So for Dean or meridian, those types of things, don't change

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your name. Okay. But at the same time, if you're naming your kids, some of the scholars dislike that, that's all I was saying with that. All right. Now, if you want to welcome a child, if you want to congratulate someone who has had a child, and I recommend to everyone I do this in every class that I teach to have the book fortress of the Muslim Heslin Muslim, it's the authentic dots where every single situation in your life for most situations in your life, it's a very good book to have, there's an app for it, and have it on your iPhone and now on your Droid, okay? So download it, read it, or go to Google if you want to be if you Google going to Google's traditional now go to Google

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and read the, if you need to from fortress of the Muslim, but to die of welcoming a child properly as now we know him Allah writes it down and Kitab enough got the authentic hadith BarakAllahu laka filmo who bealach wash the capital Y ahead what Bella should should? What was it about Allah may Allah bless you with His gift to you and make the receiver gift thanks and reach the maturity of yours and be granted piety. And the response to that is BarakAllahu luck without a car leak, which is aka la Hadron. What does that call kala Mithila what is that? What is that? Like? What is the law the word luck? May Allah bless you and shower His blessings upon you. It's a tongue twister I'm

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sorry. And may He reward you well and bestow upon you it's like and reward you with open hands. So it's an authentic hadith. Just get it from portrait of the Muslim if you have to. And if you don't know what to say just say exactly look and when someone tells you congratulations. Alright. Least you're doing that part.

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Also, generally speaking, making up for the child. I found this very significant there's a Hadith from Mali of Nicola Tata Hadith, it's it's, but it is narrated in Hadees book of manners of that

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he narrates that Malia says that when my son Helios was born, I invited several of the Sahaba to a feast and I fed them. And then after that,

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they prayed for me and my son, they may do for me and my son. So the Sahaba made dua for me and my son. And I said, you have prayed and may Allah bless you for your prayers. Now. I am going to pray for Kulu I mean, so say I mean, and he said, then I may do art for my son, I prayed for his Deen for his apple for his mind and so on. And the Sahaba said, I mean, so it's a very nice thing that the people would make the art for the child. Okay. So even in these gatherings and things of that sort your baby shower, there'll be after the pregnancy, so it's not really a baby shower, right? Whatever it may be. Make up for the child. Okay, use it as an opportunity to make the offer a child.

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All right. Any questions on that before I go to circumcision?

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Circumcision will make you all forget everything I just talked about. Yeah.

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After the name of the melodica the names of the angels

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Yeah, so you should not Yeah, naming a daughter Malak would not would not be something that's I'm not saying haram but it's definitely under dislike. After the names of the melodica Emmanuel Korean Rahim Allah said some of the scholars had reservations with that because none of the Sahaba name their kids like to breed and stuff like that. Some of the Sahaba didn't. None of them

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Hubbard did it so he said perhaps they didn't like to name after an angel, perhaps, but it's not haram. Okay. Yeah.

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If you forget one day before you didn't know about it

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you forgot to give them a date. Just go home and like, take a date and corner them and stuff it in their mouth. Say we're doing the Sunday now, you

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know, so it's just so nuts not fettled you don't have to do anything now.

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Yeah, yeah. Don't put the date in their mouth entirely. Just let them taste the date. Sister. Yes, sister. Yeah.

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Question. Do you have a name from someone in the Quran? And you have an Arabic but then in English, it's a different name. Is it okay to call them the name? Yeah, sure. So calling Abraham for example, right. You know, Abraham has in the Quran. One of the ways of reading what could fill Kitabi Abraham and shorba and some so Abraham's in the Quran, it doesn't matter in what dialect you say the name? Yes, you can name. In fact, you can name them purely you could choose to name your kids in any name whatsoever. And in fact, by the way, when when converts come to Islam, like your name is Sister Nicole, right? When converts come to Islam, I tell them it's better not to change your name, because

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it takes away the foreign aspect of Islam. So let's say some didn't change the Havas names unless they were objectionable when they became Muslim.

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Like, that's fine. And her name is?

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How? Yeah, that's fine. You can name the English the English name, you can do that. You can absolutely name them by the English name of the Prophet.

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Yes. It needs to be washed before getting that done, or

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should you wait for the baby to be washed? I don't know. I just I like rushed. I was like, let me do it that in her ear. The sooner the better. It's not a requirement that you have to do it like right when it's coming fresh out of the stomach and that kind of stuff. But

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the sooner the better. Sisters Yes.

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if your family's fate is like, kind of almost

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like a study of

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well, the naming of say it is deceiving because everybody has a say it's and it's supposed to mean that you're a descendant of the prophets. I send them right. That's why people do say it. But

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I personally doubt that everyone named say there's a descendant of the prophets lie somewhere. But

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it's okay. Make your parents happy. It's alright. You don't have to just do what you got to do. I personally tell you know, it's good to name your kids after your parents too. It really Subhanallah makes them really happy when you do that. If there's nothing wrong with your parents names. It's good to name your kids after your parents do for their money. Last question I go back to talk

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is that any moving on? Knowing the gender before the babies born? Now there's nothing wrong with that whatsoever. I'm personally one of those people. I told my wife I was like, Look, I don't want to wait a day later. When we note when the gender is able to be determined. I want to know I want to prepare myself mentally. So Hamdulillah we knew the gender very early Alright, I'm gonna go back to topic now we go into circumcision. The reason why I'm not gonna give a break now is because also is at 430. So we're gonna break it like 424 25 Anyway. Are you guys okay? If we continue or do you want a five minute break? Okay, you guys are okay if we continue right? Alright. Circumcision. two tenths

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topic. Okay.

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Number one will circumcision for boys is between sunnah and fettled.

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Either sunnah, or fettled. According to the scholars, it's either recommended or mandatory.

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Ibrahim alayhis. Salam, as we know was the one who was given the Sunnah Ibrahim alayhis salam and this is varied in Bukhari and Muslim circumcised at the age of 80. And that's why any Muhammad Rahim Allah for example, said that it is felt okay, that it was in my opinion that it was felt. And he was the only one that held that opinion from the 40 Imams, even ambassador, the Allah Tada I know how to saying that is very, very, very, like, very extreme and not extreme in the sense like we're calling him when areas of Allah, you know, an extremist or something of that sort, but they're not considered it very exaggerated. He said that if a person is not circumcised and there's no Salah and

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no Hajj for them, so he went to but they said he was exaggerating the importance of it. Why? Because bajada is obviously an issue if a person purity is an issue if a boy is not circumcised, right. So circumcision is done for the hospital soloists. I'm included in the categories of the harbor. So Imam Muhammad Rahim Allah didn't say that but he quoted him an imbecile the Allah and Han that to just to say that he thinks it's fuddled. It was mandatory. And he said, but so even in my mathematical conservative funnel, he said if an adult fears for themselves, they don't have to do it for an adult fears for themselves.

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Okay, they don't have to do it at that point, right. The point is the Hatha purity and good hygiene. Okay, that's the point of the circumcision. Okay, because when there's no circumcision, and by the way, it's very, it's not hygienic at all, even totally secular research has shown that it's not hygienic at all, when you don't do circumcision, you know, you're talking about urine and filth and all those types of things,

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you know, not being not being prevented effectively. All right, so for the boys, it is pseudonym laka. According to the majority, I was just mentioning Mount ackwards opinion, just to show you how emphasize it is there's a brother who became Sheikh Mohammed did it if he was telling a story. He said that there was a brother who was someone who became Muslim. And as soon as he became Muslim there, you know, some foreign students and they told him right away, we gotta go get to circumcise tomorrow. He's like, are you crazy? He's like, tomorrow, you know, first thing in the morning, you have to go get circumcised. And he said, I don't want to be Muslim. Then he said, that they said to

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him, then then if you go to a Muslim country, we're going to cut your head off. So he said, What kind of Deen Do you have that if you enter it or you leave it something's getting cut off? Like

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what is it about your religion?

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So it's, it's, you know, it's something that is sooner more accurate, according to most of the scholars, fuddled according to Akhmad Rahim Allah. Now, many scholars said the circumcision should not be delayed beyond seven days. Okay, should not be delayed beyond beyond seven days. It's on the basis of a weak Hadith. And that weak Hadith please don't trip over the camera, please. Entrepreneur camera hamdulillah There's tape there. Alright, it's on the basis of a weak Hadith. The Rasul Allah sai Salam, circumcised and Hassan and Hussain when they were seven days old, the hadith is not authentic. But some of the scholars said that it's best Okay.

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Imam had been Kodama Rahim, Allah, he said that ACMA had said that even though you don't have to, there is nothing that texturally binds you to circumcise a child before seven days, said the earlier the better because it's easier on them. So the earlier you can do the circumcision. You don't have to wait till seven days. The earlier the better. Obviously, we know that it's less painful in that regard. And now we Rahim Allah said that the time when it becomes obligatory is after puberty, when it becomes obligatory at that point to him. Again. It was it's necessary, isn't it? And Rahim Allah who was somebody who follows a school email.

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He said that it's obligatory before puberty, because the obligation is upon the Guardian, not the child. So if a person reached puberty, and it wasn't done, then they, at that point, have the choice if you will, if they fear for themselves and things of that sort. All right. Now, I want to talk about female circumcision for a moment. Why? Because there's a lot of misconceptions surrounding it, not because I'm encouraging it in any way whatsoever. But because of our ignorance on the topic, Islamophobes have capitalized on our ignorance of our own texts in regards to female circumcision, particularly my Shahada, and had Joseph practicing as one of the highest ranked physicians in this

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country also a mufti, a PhD in Sharia

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Subhanallah because, you know, Pamela Geller and her group actually targeted him and said that he was he was a pediatrician, that he supports female genital mutilation. And the Muslims didn't stand up for him. He never said that he did not support it at all. He covered the text which talks about female circumcision and what it means in Sharia and because of that, it cost him his job in his medical license. Okay, so it's important for us to know and Islamophobic you know, and when I posted that, by the way, I posted on Facebook, I remember I was getting all these comments about, you know, oh, we're against that anyway, you know, what does he think he is and talking about that? As far as

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what female circumcision means now, first and foremost, understand female genital mutilation is haram. No doubt about that. Okay. So as far as female circumcision is concerned within the books of fic, it is between MOBA aloud and Sunnah muster hub. All right, even 100 as Kalani Radi Allahu Anhu Rahim Allah He said that there's all of that hadith that talks about it are weak, so there's no strong Hadith about it.

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And most of the scholars considered circumcision sunnah for the men only and they considered allowed for women. Now what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did allow and what would be considered female circumcision for the Prophet slice and, um, is not removing anything from the clitoris itself, but rather from the foreskin and the profit slice and I made that very clear. Therefore it does not It's not mutilation. It did not harm it does not harm the woman at all. It does not harm the girl at all. Okay, and in fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics they wrote when they wrote on the topic from their journal, they said that this which is called the ritual Nick, the ritual Nick

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which is trimming from the skin, but not from the clitoris itself. They said that it's no more of an alteration than ear piercing doesn't hurt the person at all. And that's what the prophets I said I'm allowed the prophets lysozyme did not allow any form of mutilation or taking from it itself. And in fact, the reason why this becomes this is predominant in one month hub is predominant in the shop for a month not because the Imam Shafi held this up

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Meanwhile, like to add, okay, which is actual genital mutilation. It happens in North Africa and it's predominant in his mouth. It's because it was a fair it was a custom from the pharaohs. Okay, it was it's fair on accustom to actually remove

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female genital mutilation. And when the school of any mama Shafi developed, obviously sometimes the Dean doesn't alter the custom, the custom alters the dean. So the custom took what the mama Shafi said which was that was sunnah to do the ritual, Nick, and they applied it to that and that's why you have a problem, a legitimate problem which we do speak out against female genital mutilation in the Middle East, particularly in North Africa in some areas. Okay, but it's not from the deen has nothing to do with Islam. It's not sunnah. It's not even about genital mutilation. And it's an it's an actually, even the circumcision itself, which is the ritual Nick is just mobile, so you don't

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have to try to do it in America in any way whatsoever. All right. So just for Islamophobes if someone asks you about that, I know it's not even an issue here because no one does that over here anyway.

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All right. Well, we do have some viewers from Middle East though. All right. Now the pika files are Sana. Pika.

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Okay. The majority says sunnah and I'm not gonna Rahim Allah says it's mandatory. Because of the soul loss I said I'm said the child is Raveena is a captive until the athlete is performed. Okay, which means that all the blessings that come with the child are held as a scholar set until the Akiko is performed that because is necessary, most of the scar Setsuna mica Imam ACMA has an industry and I thought they said even if you're an old man, and it wasn't done for you, they said, we've known some of the celebs who did it for themselves. They just did it, I pick it for themselves just to do it for themselves. Some rotten agenda, he says that I saw last face and I'm said every

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child is in pledge for his pika, which should be slaughtered on his behalf on the seventh day, and he should be shaved and given a name. So that I pika cannot be done before seven days. Okay, it shouldn't be done. Preferably on the seventh day, or after the seventh day. On the seventh day, or after the seventh day. You settled the Allahu Anhu says, If you can't do it on the seventh, do it on the 14th or do it on the 21st. Alright, that's the best is to do it within that same equation. But anytime after the seventh day is fine. All right, there are no specific portions, according to the majority in the peak of the way there are with Halo. So it's not like you have to designate 1/3 for

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charity 1/3 For as a gift and 1/3 for yourself, they say there is no specific portions and our pika for the most part. Some of the scholars said just out of PS, it's good to follow that same equation, though. Anyway, make sure that, in essence, make sure that there's a portion of your speaker that goes to South Africa. Alright, make sure that there's a portion that goes to South Africa or give something in South Africa. As a result.

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Can you just give charity instead of doing pika? Can you just give charity and just call it a day?

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What do you guys think?

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No. Okay. So the pika still can take place, but you can you can have someone else do the slaughter for you. So in any country, whatever it is, if you want to appoint someone to do that pika for you, that's fine. All right.

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Yeah, so you can feed people from the pika, you can give it in charity, you can do those types of things. It's fine. So you can designate the portions as you want, obviously, make a share of it as sadaqa no matter what, right.

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That's my next topic. Why is it to sheeps for a boy and one for a girl and by the way, two sheep for a boy one for a girl. There are camels, cows, goats, this is all allowed. Okay? Camels, cows and goats. I know some people like to do goats. So it can be two sheeps for a boy, it shouldn't be two sheep for a boy, one for a girl. And you can give extra so it's not like you're limited to that so you can slaughter more. Alright, don't be stingy. If you're having pica, you know, and you got a bunch of people come in, don't just slaughter one sheep, do your best to accommodate. But you can do more as extra. Okay? Now, what's the difference? Why two for a boy and one for a girl? Most of the,

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the reasoning for that they said that it's the share of inheritance of the Son and the daughter. It's as simple as that the share of that son is twice as much as the daughter has nothing to do with gender. Because the mother and the father, you guys inherit you guys attended, hopefully the inheritance lecture last night mother and father, what's their share?

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One six than one six, right, they both get the same share. It has nothing to do with gender. But the boy the assumption here with the two and the one is that the boy is going to be the one that's going to have to provide for the family. If it's not that way, then the equation does not apply. Then the girl is given more to it to accommodate and things of that sort. So this and by the way, SNAM was the first religion to assign inheritance to women period. The Bible does not assign any inheritance to women. All right, no religion before Islam ever assigned inheritance to women. Allah subhanaw taala gave that to the woman and the law.

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Men does not have to spend on her family from that it's just for her, whereas the man is mandated to spend okay upon upon the women of the household. Again, if the equation changes, then it's taken into account. But the uptake of some of this most of the scholars they said is the same way as the inheritance two for two for the son, one for the daughter, and interesting fact And subhanAllah this is just I noticed this also,

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muscle loss I sent him when he slaughtered for Al Hassan Hussein he only slaughtered one for each. Perhaps some of their enemies said that the prophets I saw them doesn't mean you don't inherit from the profit slice.

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Right? The inheritance the inheritance of the profits all goes to sadaqa masala slice I'm only slaughtered one for it has anyone who's seen each and that's, that's an authentic tradition. Okay, so it's, it has to do with inheritance. Another thing about the archaea, it cannot be shared according to the mount Malik and Imam Ahmed, according to Abu Hanifa, and some of the shaft varies, you can share it but it's better not to if you can afford not to meaning if you can afford, you know, each one does his own so meaning if there's more than one person that had a child, they shouldn't share the Africa. But if there are financial constrictions, things of that sort obviously

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it's in them will occur that to them anyway to those scholars anyway. So the amount of honey for any mama Shafi and the Sunnah marketed them anyway, so it's as soon as there's some flexibility with the Sunnah, but again, only if you can't afford it, it's better to do it for yourself. Whenever you slaughter you say Bismillah Allahu Maha. Minka. Wellock in the name of Allah O Allah, this is from you and for you have the RP kuttu Falon. This is the Africa of so and so. So you'd mentioned the name of the child. That's just the Sunnah. The only requirements for the attacker to be valid as the intention Okay, the intention is their accounts as Al Qaeda so you don't have to like call up like a

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charity organization say I donated this okay. Are you sure you slaughtered in the proper name that kind of the intention has to be there even if the name is not mentioned Okay, the intention has to be there. Also, you shall be allowed to also the animals should be free from defects. So just like militaria the animals should not have defects, obvious defects, that's going to be sacrificed. And it's recommended to be of age six months and older. Okay, it's just like, again out of vs out of analogy, the same restrictions of the other hand, it's better to apply them to the pika.

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Also, I saw the Allah Han has said that the Artega should be Julen, which means the bone should not be broken on the on the animal that's been slaughtered, only the joints would be broken. So you would serve it in a way and there's no reasoning it's just to follow this when I saw the Allah has said that on the profit slice and I did the article, he didn't break the bones of the animal, just from the joints. So people would take from the meats, but they would not break the bones themselves. Okay. She also says about the Allahu Anhu that in the days of Janelia when people would slaughter an animal on B and the reason why I'm mentioning this hadith is because some people do this custom and

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it's from the days of Jehovah said when people would slaughter an animal on behalf of the newborn baby. They take a piece of cotton and take the blood of that animal and they'd rub the baby's head with it after shaving it. This is still done in some Muslim countries unfortunately. Nice Oh, it's disgusting to write. I heard someone say you alright, I shall have the Allah on has said it's a practice of Jamelia. Okay, so there is no rubbing the head with a blood. That's disgusting. Okay. Another ruling here is

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can it be combined with the oath here? So for example, it's a little odd how you have to slaughter an animal anyway. Can you combine the intention of Antica with us here? According to Imam Muhammad, the Imam Abu Hanifa. Yes. And also the man has celibacy. They said because the intention of the Athenian alpiq is the same, it's to get closer to Allah subhanaw taala. And it's the sacrifice on behalf of the family. According to the Maliki's and the Shaeffer is it has to be separate another ruling on the Athletica.

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It is best to make your article open to the public. Because also, as I said, I'm said the worst and this is in Sahih Muslim the worst food is the food of the walima to which the rich are invited to the exclusion of the poor. Okay, should not make your cake a specific it's good to just serve it, for example, in a masjid or an open gathering don't exclude people from the Africa that avoids Baraka that avoids the feast of balaka even weddings by the way. You don't just invite people that you think are going to pay up.

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You open your wedding as much as you can.

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Funny thing about that I made my wedding open and people had it announced on in the hallways and stuff like that. And even with that some people were really offended. They said I thought we'd get a personal invitation from you. No, no.

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Come on, guys. I came back from Hajj five days before my wedding.

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shaving the head and giving the charity

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Giving the sadaqa shaving the head of the boy is sunnah by consensus, sunnah in accordance with all the schools, it's similar to shave the head of the boy.

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Also on the seventh day, is most preferable. Okay, but it can be any time after the seventh day it doesn't have to be the seventh day for the girl.

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According to the majority, it's also similar to shave the head of the girl. According to Imam Ahmed Rahim Allah and this is the opinion I follow, personally, that there is no authentic hadith about shaving the head of the girl. He said that the only Hadith which is that faulty model, the Allahu anha shave the head of Uncle thumb and Xena is a weak Hadith it's more subtle.

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And actually, some of the Maliki's acted in accordance with that because he might not have narrated that hadith or some of like later scholars of the Maliki school they acted in accordance with that they said Imam Malik gave that ruling on the basis of that hadith. So like even Abdullah battle and others, they said also the girls had is not to be shaved, because he might not have heard about him. Allah said the us of the default ruling is that a woman's hair is not to be cut, short or shave. And so there is nothing to say otherwise, there's no authentic narration to say otherwise. So Imam Ahmed personally did not like he actually considered my cruel dislike to shave a girl's head. The later

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somebody said it's mobile. It's, it's permissible to shave the girl's head. But it's not like shaving the head of the boy. That's what the later scholars of the humbly school said and that's, by that's the most balanced opinion. Okay, that you know what it's, you can if you want to, especially I know, like, you know, a lot of people say if you shaved and the roots grow stronger things of that sort you can, but it's not like shaving the head of the boy.

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Whenever you do shave the head, what should you do with the hair? Give its give its weight in charity and silver, give its weight and silver and charity. Now does that mean you actually have to take the hair, put it into a scale, weigh it and then try to see what the silver rate is and give it away? No, you can just give it's literally like two $3 of charity sadaqa it's symbolic in its nature. You don't have to sit there and wait anything. Okay, but you should give some sadaqa some charity as a result. Okay, you don't actually have to weigh the hair. All right, it's just a small price of charity. It's a sign of gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala masala size and I'm certain Sahih

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Muslim. You start with the right you finished with the left. Okay, you're shaving the head of the child you start with the right you finished with the left and you would just say Bismillah before you start

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a barber can also do it if you don't want to do it. That's totally fine there's nothing wrong with a barber barber doing it.

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Another thing some of the other rulings we're getting to the and inshallah

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reading Quran on the children

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Well so last lesson I'm counting out a pill Hassan Al Hussein he used to read the rakia the rakia being the last three sorrows Kulu Allah had coloratura will falak and Colorado Robin as he used to read that on and Hassan Hussein on the Allahu Anhu daily Okay, he would read it upon them all right, and he you know, even making the car lane okay. So back when Messiah making the the morning and evening remembrances reading them on your children, okay? Until, as the scholars say until they're old enough to learn and recite them for themselves. So until your kids spell even when they're young babies until they're until they're old enough to where they can repeat. Alright, and they can start

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to read for themselves and read those for themselves, you should make that dua on them. You should read the last three quarters and you should read the morning and evening remembrances but especially the last few quarters, morning and night, every time you put your kids to sleep, rub your hand over them, read those three sodas over them, because it's a means of protection, muscle loss ice and I'm also used to teach us to say upon our infants and upon our children who are emu coma. Be Kelly Mattila had nothing and quality Shavon and wahama woman quinine and llama that I seek the same way the mother of mother made her out to Allah subhanaw taala that I seek refuge in Allah subhanaw taala

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from the safeline

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or either coma you in particular so you're making dua for the child from the Shavon and from every evil eye in harm and one who wishes harm on you. So reading that, again, fortress of the Muslim dot that you make for your children just look it up. Alright, the topic of urine also comes up is urine nudges or is it not just is urine not just

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for the child.

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The boy and the girl not just means impure, the boy and the girl the notice is impure but muscle loss is Anna made an exception for the boys urine that you don't have to change the cloth. You can just sprinkle its sprinkle water on the area that the urine came on. Why? Because the boys urine is a lot more wild and it goes a lot more places than a girl's urine does so it was a concession in Peru

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But the condition for that is that the boy has to be unweaned. He has to be breastfeeding and the only thing he's getting his milk once the boy starts eating anything other than milk, that concession is lifted. But it was to make it easy. Again, in that hotbar that awesome, hopefully, that I was telling you about that I heard in the Middle East, the scholar was saying that from the feedlot and from the virtues of men over women is that their urine is not impure. Like, are you serious?

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Yeah. So it's because, you know, obviously, a boy will reach many more places, and the boys more wild. And I've had this confirmed by mommies, mommies, like you have confirmed to me that boys urine is a lot worse than girls, you're in terms of where it goes and stuff like that. So it also was, it's still not just the hokum hasn't changed, but also less like Sam said, you could simply sprinkle water on the area, you don't have to sit there and try to find every place that the urine touched and things of that sort right

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now, in the last 20 minutes, inshallah we're doing good on time, actually. And then we'll do q&a After also the topic of breastfeeding.

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All right, well, so last I said, I mentioned in you know, the Hadith where it was all about spice, and I mentioned that the angels took him and he saw some of the punishments of the people amongst the people that he saw punished were women who denied their children, milk, breast milk, those who deny their children. Okay, so It's haram to deny your children from that. Okay? Even if you don't feel like it's haram to deny your children that that right, that's one of their rights upon you.

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Allah subhanaw taala says, we're having a home office, Allah who said, I want to show her that the caring of the child and the breastfeeding term is 30 months And subhanAllah there's a big Rockman that because there was a woman at the time Earth model the Allah Han, that had a child that six months.

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And some of the people assume that she committed adultery, you know, she got married, you know, and she How do you have a child in six months? So ideal the hola Han Han, he made the excuse for her, he said, but Allah subhana wa says in the Quran, Mohammed who have a silo hotel, if you want to shahada that his carrying and his breastfeeding term, the child's breastfeeding term is two years. Okay. So two years is 24 months and six months is how long the baby has to be in sight. So in essence, Allah subhanaw taala is giving a minimum, you know, a baby typically will not survive if it is born with under six months. So that's what loss parents are saying. Okay, so that breastfeeding term is two

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years, the breastfeeding but I'll explain that in the moment before you guys get

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a little upset about that. All right,

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just just for the heck come on breastfeeding. Also breastfeeding within two years, within the first two years on five separate occasions, establishes the relationship in the sense that if if a child is adopted, for example, and they're under two years old, and they're breastfed more than five times, or if you breastfeed, your niece or your nephew, or whatever it is, then you become the mother. And your husband becomes the Father, for all, you know,

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in terms of all legal rulings, and things of that sort, so you become maharam. In that way, the husband becomes Muslim and things of that sort. So it actually has legal implications there. So it's not good for people to just to be breastfeeding right and left.

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Five times breastfeeding within two years within the first two years, makes the child the son or the daughter of that woman. Okay.

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It's a rite of the baby upon the mother, as we said, it's permissible for anyone to breastfeed. Muslim, non Muslim, it's permissible for anyone to provide that breast milk to breastfeed, but the Sahaba hated that an unrighteous woman would breastfeed their children. So even like when they had wet nurses, if they weren't able to provide they'd look for a woman of righteousness, even though there is no legal implication there. Alright, but they look for a woman of righteousness. Allah subhanaw taala mentions the breastfeeding term and certain Bacara as two years also. But what does the last parents say? The men are Raja

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whoever wants to complete the term of will rely on complete the term of breastfeeding. All right. What does that mean? We breastfeeding is a rite of the child upon the mother for two years. And if the mother cannot provide, the mother is not able to provide breast milk, the scholar said, it's the it's the right of the child upon the Father, to hire a nurse who can nurse the child. So it's an absolute right of the child for those two years. And by the way, the World Health Organization, this is amazing. The World Health Organization, the report that was released in 2011. They said that the that the optimal time to breastfeed a child is two years in quote the Quran or anything like that,

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it is the best amount of time the best term to breastfeed your child for is two years. Now. Within those two years, does it have to be exclusively breast milk?

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No. Okay. So that said you can start to wean the child off by mutual consent after six months. Some said after eight months. The point is that you can start to give them solids. The point is you're giving them their nutrition. You're developing them and you're not you're not forbidding them from that breast milk. Okay, so you can start to wean

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Have them off. It doesn't have to be an exclusive breastfeeding diet doesn't have to only be that for those two years. All right. But it is certainly healthy for the child. It's good for the child medical research has shown that. And by the way, many, many, many children die every single year. Last year's report, I read this online from the World Health Organization last year 46,000 babies died because they didn't because they used formula instead of breast milk. There's something that just cannot replace what Allah subhanaw taala has put, you know, for the child. Now, if you have to use formula, you know, those types of things, that's a different story. But to just opt for formula,

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you should try your absolute best to nurse the child. Okay, you should try to exert every effort to nurse the child. It has been shown formula does not give the child what breast milk gives the child. It's as simple as that. Okay.

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And can breastfeeding be done more than two years for the child?

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Can it be done more than two years for the child?

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Yes, okay. It can be.

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In fact, you know, I've heard from I always asked my, you know, my parents mentioned this to me that some of the smaller villages in Palestine, for example, don't want to breastfeed their their children, you know, till four or five years Subhanallah and my dad's very, was very embarrassed about how long I found out how long he was breastfeeding, but you know what, I'm like, you know, my dad's a genius mashallah Tabata Cola, soup? He's just a genius and everything. Like I consider him an all around the island. Like you mentioned anything to him, he has like, why do you know this? You know, why do you know about this topic? Right? Mashallah. You know, because there's really something

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special about the quality of the milk that the mother has for the child. All right.

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Again, fasting, you can fast or slow, let's say someone gave you an excuse not to fast. But here and breastfeeding is different than with the pregnancy, if you're still able to provide a healthy supply of milk and you can fast and it's not exhausting. It's not causing over fatigue, then you still should, you should fast so you can really alternate the days here, two days a week, whatever it is three days a week even you can even make up what you missed during your pregnancy. All right, the last last topic here is knee fast postnatal bleeding. Okay?

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So the woman during her postnatal bleeding in her postnatal period is excused from prayer and fasting. Okay, again, she should make up fasting at her own pace. She cannot fast at this time. It's not that not like pregnancy and breastfeeding where she has the option she cannot fast at this time.

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And, in essence with the new fast, okay, and by the way, there's a huge Rockman this you know,

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what they call postnatal depression, postnatal blues, and that kind of stuff. It really does exist. It's scientific brothers, we should know this. Women are just depressed when they have children. Okay, it's scientific, they're depressed for for some time after they have the child. It's it's SubhanAllah. It's real. So Allah subhanaw taala made it easy for them from excusing them from prayer and from fasting in that regard. Still, you can still make that you can still read Hold on. Okay, you still are able to pray in terms of supplication and invocation and read Quran and things of that sort. The only thing of course, is that you're excused from the five daily prayers. There are three

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stages of NFS or that are discussed within the realm of NFS. Before deliver delivery, during delivery and after delivery. Okay.

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The Shaeffer ease consider only the bleeding that comes out after delivery as NFS as postnatal blood

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Alright, the HANA fees and the Malik is considered the bleeding that comes out during an after delivery as part of the new FOSS. So during the delivery also as part of the new class and after delivery.

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All right, and some of the some of the scholars from the humbly school considered the bleeding that will take place a few days even before the delivery. And so they said up to three days before it as part of the fuss, okay, according to the gym horse, the majority, any blood that comes out before the delivery for sure is not any fast. Okay, any blood that comes up before the delivery is not part of any fast. Alright, so let's post the post natal period after you've delivered. Now, how long does the new class

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how long is the NFS already mentioned?

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40 days this is important to know what if you're bleeding more than 40 days?

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What do you do?

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42 days 43 days what do you do?

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Are you do you stay not fasting and praying or do you start praying and fasting?

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Okay, now according to him, I'm an avid and an Imam, Abu Hanifa. And this is the most correct opinion a lot of time to Adam in terms of the narrations we get we have a shortage of time so I can't really go into detail. Anything after 40 days is too hard. That's just other blood. So 40 days is the maximum period of guarantee fast

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Okay so the maximum period of your knee fast the only way that it wouldn't be considered the maximum period of your knee fast is if it coincides with the height if it coincides with your regular scheduled period okay menstrual cycle then you would consider it that you do your best judgment. Okay and this was also the opinion of Abdullah Mobarak is how because the Fianna 30 autonomy the others and there's a very

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you know, clear Hadith in that regard Abu Dawood narrates

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from I shall the Allahu TADHANA that we used to not regard the discharge brownish and yellow was discharged after the tour after the end of the period as being of any significance so it was just considered as the HA that was just considered other blood. All right, so 40 days is how long did he fast last no matter what. Alright, Charla Tala. With that, I hope did you guys find this beneficial? Learned sha Allah, okay, hamdulillah Brahmin, I hope I'll ask Allah Subhana Allah to make this beneficial. Before I go to salata, Lawson and q&a, those of you who are attending online, and those of you who are also here, a few things number one, if you notice, this was a free class hamdullah we

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made it free, we have over 1000 We have 1300 viewers online Hamdulillah we have many viewers online, usually for a day seminar, you know, it'd be 20 $30 $10 Whatever it is, we wanted to make this free and open and we're just counting on everyone in sha Allah to add to support this organization to support Islamic learning Foundation of Texas so that we can continue to have these programs. So I encourage everyone to Inshallah, tada, donate whatever you can, whatever the value of the seminar you got, you know, or you felt as if you want to donate something, it would be very appreciated. Again, I'm counting on everyone to do what your part, we just wanted to make this open light, I was

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like, You know what, let's just make it free in sha Allah and let's just, there's more Baraka in it. There's so many couples and things of that sort that are in need of this. So inshallah support the organization so we can continue to have these programs. The link is also at the YouTube stream, so you can share this with everyone. Do me a favor, honestly, this is a favor to me, because I hope there's some benefit in this and I know a lot of people are ignorant about these types of matters not not, you know,

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not out of malice or not intentionally, but just don't know about these things. So please share this with as many people as you can insha Allah. And also, I'm going to have a class that's starting online on February 12. Inshallah, every Tuesday, it's going to be a four week class on the tufts theater, so it'll kick off. It's going to be February 12, at 8pm. Starting February 12, at 8pm, every Tuesday night [email protected] I LNFLIX, or il F Both of them go to the same website. Also, for those of you that are in Houston, there's going to be a class you can find more information about some of the classes in Houston.

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There's one on March 9, called the station of the Divine. I believe that's on Madonna just south of Keene by Dr. Overmyer Anjem on March 16. Here in Dallas insha Allah we're going to have a class on called marked for greatness marked for greatness How many of you guys attended the first FCS on Monday? Um, I did. Not many of you if you subscribe online to are on for an influx membership which is $10 a month you get access to all the previous classes by the way. So I did the tough seat of the first 48 hours of sort of sort of Maria and I'm doing the next 25 inshallah Tada which talks about marked for greatness, the characteristics of the MBR and the prophets so that'll be somewhere in

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Dallas do we determine the location

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at Richardson Okay, it'll be in Richardson shot that's good for me I don't have to go anywhere. All right, in Richardson Inshallah, march 16, just keep up inshallah Tada For more information, and there's a lot of content and I'm did a lot of blogging again, we want to open this up to the public, we want people to benefit as much as possible and I want to be able to keep these projects going. So please, Inshallah, to either follow follow us in sha Allah on online on Facebook, follow the organization ILF Facebook page, you know, keep up with classes inshallah. And hopefully by the way, Chef Nadeem, you know how this all came about? I was we were out in the mountains meeting. And I saw

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him Nadeem, what was on Tuesday, on Tuesday, so it was like I was telling him I'm gonna DM I was like, you know, I'm in town this weekend. How about we do a class on you know, pregnancy and newborns and stuff like that? And I knew Epic is the place because mashallah the sisters here mashallah very active, you have a reputation so keep up that reputation inshallah. So 100 I really want to thank you all for the turnout online. You know, there's only three days of advertising hamdulillah over 1000 people benefited from this class inshallah. So does that mean Allah Hydra, those of you who are online, keep in touch, keep online inshallah after salata Lhasa, which is in 15

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minutes in sha Allah, Allah says in 10 minutes after slot that I said we'll be doing an open q&a inshallah. So we're not done yet. I just wanted to mention those things for those that have to go after a lot that also are those that are logging off now. So doc Malachite will go ahead and we'll take a break. Is there something Yes. So

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We take questions now

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sure one question so I'll and then we'll take a break and sell the process

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underwater delivery water it's all permissible there's nothing to prohibit it

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anything that suits the the woman is fine there is nothing wrong with it because a lot of the fillers Yeah, everything's permissible unless it's proven to be impermissible so tell her we'll come back we'll take questions please stay in Shell after slot and also to ask your questions. Does that mean love hate and to all of you for attending though medical Luffy comes particle and bam the crescendo Allah Ilana stuff we'll go to but Aiko, salam alaikum