Surah Yusuf #54 – V86 – Complaining to Allah
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today. He's actually going to respond to them and and say the following words. Carla in NEMA. schuberth he was Nicola, he said, I only complain of my overwhelming grief and sorrow to Allah.
Allah him Allah and ammonia I know from Allah something you don't. So that's a literal translation of Isaiah number 86. That one statement, I'm only complaining of my overwhelming grief and sadness to Allah. And I know from Allah, what you don't know. Okay, so that's the statement we're analyzing today inshallah Tyler, the first thing that we should appreciate about this ayah is actually how very often in Islamic culture that sometimes isn't very Islamic. This statement is overly simplified. And then it is used in contexts where it doesn't belong. So someone has told, you know, you should only complain to Allah. Because the Quran says in nama schuberth he will Jose de la la, I
only take my complaints to who to Allah literally, isn't that what he's saying? And I know from Allah, something you don't know meaning I have faith in Allah, we'll get to that part of the statement a little bit later. But it's been used to say that you know, one should not share their woes or their the problems are going through with others and put it on them and things like that. And
because you know, when the statement is in the Quran, then obviously it is a guidance from Allah azza wa jal is coming from the mouth of a prophet alayhi salam. So it's an attitude that we should have towards difficult situations or if something's overwhelming you, then you should just take that issue up with Allah and not anybody else. And this is actually a mischaracterization. So the first thing I'm going to do before we dive into the idea is clear the air about that misuse of the idea or the misplaced interpretation, that are really not interpretation, but application wrong application of the ayah. And what problems it can create. You see a large xojo says no Quran, como como Shiva
Lima for pseudo a council and healing has come to you from your master and something that heals the hearts, the fun one of the fundamental purposes of the Quran in the way that it guides us. We all know that it's a guidance. Yeah. But in what way does it guide us there are lots of dimensions of guidance. Guidance isn't just do this and don't do this, but those are guiding our actions. But then there's guiding our thoughts, then there's guiding our feelings, then there's guiding our hearts. So there are different aspects of guidance and doctrine addresses every one of those complex dimensions, because human beings are not robots. You can't just tell human beings do this. And don't
do this and expect it will happen. You guys tell your kids to clean the kitchen all the time. It doesn't happen. Right? There's other factors involved. There's sometimes human beings need motivation, or something's holding them from doing something. There's a lot more complicated stuff going on behind the scenes. And Allah, Allah, Allah Doesn't he know who he created, he created a complex creature, a creature with a soul, a heart a, you know, an array of emotions, all of which are having chemical reactions inside of ourselves. Before what you see on the outside comes out and allows Oh, Jen knows all of it. And he guides all of it. So this is an opportunity for me to remind
you of something that and remind myself of something that often we overlook. And this is a statement I've made before. But I think it needs to be refreshed, at least for myself. It needs refreshing. You know, when somebody when a scientist speaks, they say that he's speaking from the scientific perspective, right? A doctor speaks he's speaking from the medical perspective. philosopher speaks, he's from a philosophical perspective, a historian speaks and we say he's speaking from the historical perspective, right? Someone from a minority group speaks, he's speaking the minority perspective. Someone you know, is versed in politics is speaking. They're giving the political
perspective, the sociological perspective, the economic perspective, perspective, perspective, perspective, right. And when someone speaks from the Koran, then we say that's the religious perspective or that's the Islamic perspective. Right. That's the spiritual perspective.
etc. So we have perspective means there's a certain lens from which someone's looking at something. That's literally what the word perspective means, right. So if I'm standing here looking that way, I see a certain angle of the wall, I see the light falling on in a certain way. But if I was standing over there, from a different perspective, I'm looking at the same wall, and the same shell for the same corner. But I see light falling on a differently, I see a different angle of it, right. So human beings come at things from a certain angle. And of course, the sciences and the expertise that we have, they give us a certain kind of angle. So whatever we're analyzing whatever we're thinking
about, we're looking at it from the perspective of our human knowledge and our human experience, which is why no two of us have had exactly the same life. So we can think about the same event and have two different opinions, what we call two different perspectives on the same thing, because our lenses are different right? Now, the issue is when we say that there is a certain kind of perspective, automatically, you're saying there's a limit. I mean, you can only see it from this angle, which means you can't consider all the angles, right? You don't see. And even if you saw all the angles, those are just the outside angles. But what is the reality of something on the inside?
Because there's a there's a scene, you know, visible element, the wall looks fine, but on the inside, it may be deteriorating. And I can't see that. Right, there could be bugs inside. And I don't know that because I don't see the problem. And doesn't matter what perspective I take, unless I do an X ray examination or some kind of scan or breakthrough. And look, take a look inside. I won't know.
The Quran isn't just offering us for Muslim for a believer. The Quran isn't just offering us the religious perspective. The Quran is offering us a less light and a less light is noodle somehow it will and it's the light of the skies in the earth. In other words, it illuminates everything. It's not limited to a perspective.
Unless ease, you know, you've said Well, I hope so he sees and he's not seen.
Right? And he is when he speaks. He has taken you think think of someone for example, that can take the psychological perspective, the spiritual perspective, the biological perspective, the historical perspective, the social perspective, the cycle, the the political perspective, the economic, and all of them at the same time. And then they say something, right, that's humanly impossible. No matter how much expertise you get, there are some,
you know, some dimensions you just can't encompass. We cannot encompass all knowledge. This is why Allah says, well, folk are collinear I mean, I live above everyone who has knowledge is somebody who has more, or somebody, someone who has more knowledge, but who's more knowledgeable than all allows origin. So Allah isn't just giving us a religious point of view, in the Quran, because this is important, because sometimes in discussion, we bring the Quran into the conversation. Yeah, no, I understand what Islam says. But let me tell you what science says. Or let me tell you what psychologists are, let me tell you what my feelings felt as if that's just one perspective. But
let's look at other perspectives. This is the wrong Ironically, the wrong perspective on looking at the Quran. And looking at the word of Allah. In fact, the way we should look at the Quran is it sheds light on all of our perspectives. So you can have whatever expertise you have and look at it from that angle. But whatever angle you're looking at it from it, you know, when you look at something and the lights are off, it looks a certain way, or the lights are tinted, it looks a certain way. But when you turn the proper lights on, it's a completely different thing. Right, the reality of it changes. It's the same as when we look at something from whatever scientific,
historical, you know, analytical perspective, whatever analytical perspective, we look at something as when we add a last word to that dimension, we're adding the light of Allah. And now our perspective is illuminated. This is one of the reasons the Quran is called light. Because the purpose of light scientifically speaking, is something that helps us see without lights vision is impossible. In fact, the ancient Arabs, one of the words for the eye was actually new light. And somebody light went away actually meant they went blind, right, because the light of the outside goes inside here. And it's only then that vision happens, which is why it's impossible to see in
pitch black dark. Right? So the the idea being the Quran is actually what illuminates it gives light to all perspectives. It's not a limited sense of the word. Now coming back to what we're going to talk about today.
Allah did not tell or the words of iacobelli salaam are not a universal statement that speaks on behalf of Allah to all slaves under all circumstances, that whenever they have a complaint or an issue, they should take that issue up only and only with Allah. If Allah says in the court
On, take your complaints only to me.
That's completely different.
But when he's telling us the remarkable story of a man who has been beaten alayhis, salaam, emotionally, psychologically, he has been tormented for decades. For the huge for a huge chunk of his life, he has gone through torment at the hands of those that are supposed to love him, at the hands of those that are supposed to be his hope in the future,
then there's a certain context and there's a certain perspective, that if we don't appreciate that, we think this is speaking to everyone, no matter what their perspective is, you understand what I'm saying? There's a limit, there's a law of origin has placed us in a certain context. So let's first understand that context. And in order to help you understand this context, I'm going to take you to a different story, By comparison, to help you understand why this doesn't work. That interpretation, you should never complain to anyone about except to Allah. That's what this is saying is not true. And how do we know it's not true?
Our prophets have a lot more value to them. So remarkable example of patience, the mccunn era if you study it carefully, it's mind boggling what he went through, and what he put up with and, you know, here you have Jaco Valenzuela being tormented by his sons. He was tormented, far worse by the his elders, his peers, and virtually everyone in that society. And so he's our profit station and has been through a lot. By the time he gets to Medina, he's been through even more. And after a couple of battles with those that he was raised with, or no hood, and the kind of losses that he's physically suffered emotionally suffered, the watch his own uncle's body, mutilated, etc, he's been
through a lot. This is not a small amount of stuff that our profits lifetime has went through from childhood until now. Now, having understood all of that,
we get to a point in his life, where he was given a, he was given a test unlike any other. And that's when his wife, our mother, I shall have the law on how was falsely accused and slandered, and for over a month, the city of Medina was paralyzed. Right. And I'll come back to her in a moment because I want to tell you two stories, one about her and one about him and the subtle stuff. So let's talk about her first. She did something very similar to what jacobellis Sunday, and I'll create the puzzle, the real in your mind will solve it at the end.
When she was slandered, and the profit slice of them came to her to her, you know, because she has been sick. You know, and
you know what, I'm not an advocate of Oh, Nana, Luka poliquin COVID. In the narration in Buhari, she says, I asked to stay with my parents, when I found out what was being said about me, she couldn't even face the prophets. I said, How can you know this be even? How can you even think this of me is that even what is that what he thinks of me, she doesn't know. She doesn't know where she stands. So she, you know, asked to be moved to her parents house. And she did. So when she's there, they thought that she is going to cry so much that she's going to hurt her liver is going to tear open. Right? So and she says describes two straight days that, you know, lack the halo be known, I didn't
get the relief that my eyes could cool off with even a little bit of sleep to 48 hours have gone by we're hitting 72 hour mark now, where she's continuously non stop not eating, not drinking, just crying. That's what she's doing. And there are people that can die like that. And at the very least, they might even, you know, lose their sight, as we saw here, right? When the prophet SAW Selim finally came and sat across from her, and he hasn't sat across from her in over a month. Right. So this is the first time he's sitting across from her used to avoid talking to her. And if you've heard me talk about that story, then you know why? It's a remarkable, you know, backdrop to that.
But we're not talking about that today, when he sat across from her and he said, Well, you know, if you are innocent, in Cantabria, Foster, you bury Kayla, then a level prove that you're innocent. So after the Prophet last time, introduced himself or introduced the conversation, praise, the Lord took the Shahada said, something has been said to me about you that you've done this in this in this. And if you are, in fact, innocent, then Allah will prove that you are innocent. That was the first major statement of the prophets. Listen to her. And if you have dabbled into some sin, if you slipped up, then admit your fault and ask Allah forgiveness. Those are the two options, the prophet
size that I'm put in front of her.
She was absolutely devastated when that happened. How can her husband even say if you're innocent? Aren't you supposed to say I know you're innocent? You're my husband. You know me better than anyone else. You're even considering the possibility that I'm not innocent. So just hearing the words if from the prophet SAW someone's mouth was absolutely devastating from the point of view of a wife. Yes. Because the wife hearing from the husband if you are means he's got some thoughts.
It's a possibility. How dare he even consider that possibility, even though we're talking about a soul loss and a lot more on the inside and from the general perspective of a wife to hear that from her husband can be absolutely debilitating. Right. And she says when he said that the shock of it after he was done talking, the shock of it was so much color. Suddenly my tears dried up.
Like, even my tears stopped and said, What?
That's what happened to her. And then she turned to her father and her mother to respond. ajibola Allah, Allah Maha eternitymark God, and so the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Elisa, it's amazing. He didn't say, answer him, she said, answered the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which is amazing about this, this mother of ours, because even though he said something that hurt her as a wife, he also said something that gave her relief as a prophet.
Because what did the Prophet says, Listen, if
you're innocent, who will prove that you're innocent? Allah will prove that you're innocent. Which means this is coming from the mouth of a prophet, which means it's absolutely true. And she knows that she's innocent, or no, she knows that, right? So she now has a guarantee from Allah will prove that she is innocent, she didn't know how things are gonna turn out before the statement. But now that the Prophet has said those words, which as a wife hurt insanely, but as a believer are an amazing relief. At the same time, you get that, but the relief isn't coming from the profits license, the prophet is a human being and her husband, the relief is coming from who according to
the Prophet is coming from Allah. So what happens, she's so upset with him as her husband. And she's so upset with her parents that they didn't couldn't defend her as her parents that she lashed out. And she spoke.
And when she was done talking, she herself says no matter how well to what, to Allah, Hiroshi. I turned my back and cuddled up on my bed, like I'm done talking to people.
She reminds me of a remarkable man who couldn't talk to his family, and he turned his back.
on him, he turned his back, you remember that?
Now, there seems to be some parallel, we'll come back to that parallel. But now let's talk about the profits all along. For a moment, I will come back to the parallel via to understand this higher to gain perspective.
Our profits, I saw them in a different incident a little bit later on.
He saw a dream that we're going to go to hedge.
And this was not even a year, or maybe just a little over a year after we were all almost killed. The Muslims were almost entirely killed by the invasion of the mannequins and legions of other tribes that joined together with the Americans some 10 to 18,000 that came to annihilate the entire city of Medina. This was not a battle on the battlefield, they were going to go into the city and kill every man, woman and child that was the plan and then take over their properties or whatever easy money. Let's get rid of the Islam problem. And we'll get some free property at the same time. The mccanns were able to convince several tribes the Quran calls them absorb and this incident was
so big that an entire solar came just to address this called solid Eleazar. The surah of the different factions the legions that got together now. A lot of protected the Muslims from that near annihilation. Yeah. And now the year after the prophets, licensees a dream that he's going to go to Mecca
and he's gonna go make Hajj.
Wait Makkah Hajj. Aren't those the people who came to kill us in Medina?
I mean, they left their homes to kill every last one of us. And now we're going to go to hardware Exactly. Back to them. Not even a year after. And they failed in their attempt. So they're burning. They're they're so thirsty for blood. And when you go to HUD, you don't take your swords in your shields. You go in unarmed, Iran. The only thing you take is maybe a dagger two slaughter the animal that's not enough for a battlefield.
And the prophecy some says he's seen a dream. And believers are such believers that they don't question wait. jasola that's, that's the worst enemy we've ever had. We've gone to battle with them twice. You want to go over to the dead lions den unarmed, because you saw a dream.
1800 of them go somewhere agency between, you know, somewhere around 1800 leave with the profit slice of them. McCann's, find out that he's coming. And they say, Well, if he gets here, it'll look bad that we killed all of them. Because we get pilgrims all the time. And we're known to keep pilgrims safe. So even if they're our enemy, they're safe while they're in sacred land. That's what keeps people from attacking us is we don't attack nobody once they're inside Mecca. So we should solve this problem and kill them on the way. How are they going?
That same holiday been bullied who turned the battle around and odd and caused great harm, became Muslim later hired everybody leaves with a legion to come meet the unarmed Muslims on the road to Mecca. So you can kill all of them while they're unarmed. That's actually what's going on. The Muslim scout finds out that they're coming. And they take a different road, like they're on foot basically. Right. And they're, you know, several, you know, there are over 1000 of them, or nearly 2000 of them, they take a valley that is not suited for human beings to travel.
And it's big animals don't even go through it, but it's a secret path to Makkah.
And if you go through it, you're gonna get cut, you're gonna get cuts and bruises, you know, jagged rock. If you guys have ever been to a beach, sometimes the rocks are smooth and you can jump from hop from one to another. But sometimes the rocks even if you put your foot on it, you get a cut, that kind of rock and it's burning hot, desert rock. And they're going through it all the way to Makkah, getting cut along the way, scrapes along the way, you know, falling injury, like did people describe that their shoes were melting. Others described that their feet were pools of blood. By the time they got to the field of Libya. Why am I telling you the story?
They get there, the mccanns find out it's too late. They've already entered sacred land. We can't kill them. Now it would look bad politically for us, because they like Muslims, but they're going to protect themselves politically. Long story short, they say okay, fine, we won't kill you. And you can come for Hajj. But next year, not this year.
Don't come this year come next year and they make this other treaty. It's called the Treaty of Rabia. Every one of the items in that treaty, all the things they agreed on go against the Muslims. Every one of them starting with the treaty said Mohammed the Messenger of Allah, they said no, no cross off messenger of Allah. We don't accept you as messenger of Allah, Mohammed, the Sunnah of the law.
And the Sahaba, were in an uproar why we're gonna cross that word
that's never gonna the process of stop, just let them cross. So now already, the Muslim blood is boiling, we walked all this way.
And now we're being told we can't. And other things happened. That's another story that if you haven't gone through, I've talked about it's an important one. But here's the part that I wanted to highlight for today's if
the professor agreed to all of their conditions, all of their conditions,
his companions who have followed him into battle, they followed him staring at death in the face, for the first time are extremely frustrated with a decision that the Prophet has made. So
how, how did you just sign off on this?
How did he agree that if one of us being tortured in Makkah escapes, we have to send him back?
How did you agree to that?
Our model de la hora, who came to the prophecies and said, Unless now I know, how
aren't we the people that stand by the truth?
Didn't you say is our dream? This is almost talking to the prophets.
For the first time you find that did not stop him in his tracks.
Not immediately, that a conversation a little bit later on.
The Prophet Alayhi Salam says, since we're not going to make Hajj, the ritual of hajis you're supposed to slaughter the animal. You're supposed to shave your head slaughter the animal. Yeah. So the prophet SAW some sense to these crowds of 1000s.
He says shave your heads, slaughter the animal
to all of his companions. And what are these companions? How does one describe them? submit now wattana we hear and we obey. You've heard that phrase that describes those people love the Allahu anhu model do the Allies pleased with them? They are pleased with Allah. Right? These are those people. These are the people that are you know what, Lizzy no matter who they are with him no matter what.
they migrate with him, they leave their home for him. These are those people. He says to them, shave your heads slaughter the animal. Not one of them gets up.
Nobody listens to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And they're all sitting in front of him. He's telling them, all of them to do this. pin drop silence. nobody's saying anything. Nobody's moving. He says it again. He says it again.
He goes back in his tent.
One of our mothers on Salama his wife is in the tent.
Now at this point, the prophets I said I was also devastated because he has never experienced from his most loyal followers that have been through him with him through everything he'd never seen. He's never seen this behavior.
He's never seen seen them avoiding eye contact like this.
This is new. This is a different kind of devastation for who, for a sort of loss of a loved one.
You will think the I mean this. This is
What we're talking about today was revealed in Makkah. So the Prophet knows this better than you and I do. Yeah. What does I say? In nama? scuba theva hos Nila LA, I only take my complaint, my grief, my overwhelming sadness. Who do I take it to? I only take my complaints to Allah and I know what you don't know. Right? So you would think in this moment, he should complain to him because he knows this. If so, Lola,
here's a complaint to a law. He goes inside the tent. And he tells on Selma, our mother, they're not listening to me.
Whoa, did you talk to her?
We talked to her.
And she said, you do it, you shave your head. Don't follow.
Don't worry about it. She consultant tells him what to do.
And he goes in and he does it and they quietly follow. And they do it.
But we this was a moment of great, you know, anxiety for the prophet Isaiah to Islam. And the ayah says, I should only take my complaints to,
to ally we have a problem I should take it to who to Allah.
There's clearly something different because the one who is best capable of applying and I have the Quran is the one who like gifted the Quran to to begin with the living Quran Salallahu alaihe salam. So what's missing in our understanding?
You see, Allah made human beings in need of each other.
That's a reality. We're called once we come from owns insan comes from someone needing and giving affection. A child needs the affection and hugs of, you know, his or her mother. They need the encouragement of their father. They need the protection and support and understanding of their spouse.
Human beings need these things. Sometimes you need a friend. Sometimes you need to talk to someone. Human beings were not created to live in isolation. We're just not wired that way. We have these emotions that need expressing. We need them.
Musashi Salaam was standing in front of me speaking directly to a law in the mountain. And Allah says, I've got your back, basically. And he says, Can I have my brother though?
Come on, brother. He'll back me up. A local say to him, I'm not enough.
I'll back you up. The master of the skies and the earth is with you. And he says no. wish to be here as rewatch recover memory, he'll reinforce my back.
He'll part he'll be a partner in my mission.
Allah is telling you all those with you.
Why because your spiritual connection to Allah does not mean you don't need a connection to human beings.
Your connection with Allah doesn't mean you no longer need support, human support, family support, support of a loved one supportive a dear friend, those two things are not mutually exclusive.
And so when you have no support system,
when you find the people around, you are not a source of support. They're not so or they're people that you're in a situation where they just can't understand where you're coming from.
You feel cornered to the point where no matter what you say, they will take it the wrong way.
You feel like you can't communicate with them. Even if they're good people, sometimes that happens, yes or no. Even if they're good people you think you can't communicate with them. It is in those moments that this AI applies. Well, never even when you think you're completely alone and completely misunderstood. You're never alone. You can take your complaints to who Allah jacoba salaam understands that my sons are not a source of support.
And my grief has become overwhelming. But I still have a lot.
I shall do a lot more on how has the best parents and the most incredible husband on the face of the earth. But in that moment, our mother feels that she's not able to communicate with them in a way they'll understand. She's cornered. She's frustrated, because him what he said as a husband is something too difficult for the process. So in that moment, what does she do? She turns back and she says, And in that moment I knew and Allah Javi Bharati and I knew as I turned my back, that Allah is going to prove my innocence. So what did she do? She turned away from people, even the best people, but she turned towards who she turned towards a lot. In fact, when the IR relief came, the out of F
came and the prophets I said almost sitting outside and his his he started sweating in a winter night. And he called for her name. Yeah, I uh um Allahu Akbar, Aggie, Isaiah. Listen up a lot, prove that you're innocent. The IOD came down.
Her mother came to her and said pumila II go get up and go to him. She said, No,
la isla de la como la. I'm not getting up and going to him
as a husband, right? She says, I'm not thinking anyone except Allah.
Why? Because I had taken my complaint to who? Allah, he can solve my problem. He's just human, I love him.
But he can't solve this. This can only be solved by Allah.
She understood that there are situations that a human being might find themselves and I'm telling you this, these two contrasting stories, in one story, you have jacobellis around
a remarkable human being surrounded by a terrible circumstance, unsupportive people.
But in the other story I showed the logline is surrounded by the most supportive people you can ever have.
But the reaction is the same, to turn only to a lot. What does that tell us? That tells us this has nothing to do with whether those people are good or bad? This has to do with whether or not you have to acknowledge whether or not your cries will be understood by the people you're talking to or not. And if they have limits, and sometimes they have limits, because they refuse to have understanding, like the brothers have use of, and sometimes they are they have limits because they're simply human beings.
And when even even in those circumstances, it's not an insult to them. But you still have to turn back to a law you still have a now one really interesting caveat here that it's kind of mind boggling when she was upset when he said if right? This is not about her but still since I brought it up.
You know what she said she quoted the Quran.
So I don't know what to say to people.
And part of our speech he said, Well, Ah, hello as you do my local method, and I swear to God, I can't even describe you people standing in front of me, except by the words of use of the father of use of the recetas brothers. sovereign jameela Hammerstein Allah matassa foon beautiful patience is all I got. I was always the only one who can help against the creative lies you people make.
Those words came out of her mouth, citing Sula, the use of in that moment, and I was like, Whoa, that's heavy.
So you have an incident, which also last I saw them where he could have cited sort of use of and not talk to his wife.
And you have another incident where his wife or a mother in finds herself in this corner and understands that this ayah applies. You see that? This is the this is the situation she finds herself in. Okay. So anyway, that's a little bit about, you know, that perspective. I was supposed to talk to you about this ayah today. I haven't even started
okay. Carla in school bothy were Hosni, Allah, Allah when Allah Allah tala moon I want to read to you a little bit about what complaint in Arabic means Chaka, Chaka yoshoku actually miss God is in older homes you got like a nook, like in the wall. They make an indent where you can stick a vase or a lamp or something like that. And it's an arch. So it's not a window. It's not the purpose of it is when you when you light the lamp, it hits the curve of the arch and spreads the light all over the house. Right? That's called a Mischka, so any dent in the wall that's not a window is actually called a musket. So good. Luca was invaded Nafisa. Every already in Africa, every indent in a wall
that is not a window is called a musket from the same origin for the word complaint which we'll get to in a second. Right. Shaka Zulu Umbra who and by the way, Shaka also means to a container, like a vessel, like a leather pouch is also called a mascot or a shark. Why actually check out Raja Amara who has to be element or not sin but Noxon, nopsema, bluebella hufa button who they say a person has done Shaquan the word that we're looking at, about his situation, when a person feels pain, or feels the lat feels the lack of something that is needed, and expresses it.
Okay, so pain or lack of a need, and you express pain or lack of a need. So simple application would be a baby crying because they're hungry. Right, but they're complaining because of a lack of a need food. Right or pain because maybe they feel scared, or they feel hurt. A child feels hurt. So they're crying would be a kind of Chicago or it could be Chicago. Okay. So that's the word to complain. In other words, I am taking the pain I feel and I'm taking the loss that I feel and I'm going to talk about it with a lot. So this is a little different than complaining in the in the raw sense, right? I feel hurt. And I feel loss. And I want to talk about that hurt and loss. And I'm
going to take that conversation to Allah Yeah, like this is the pain I feel. This is the loss. I feel
That sounds a lot more beautiful than saying I'm going to complain to Allah.
You understand that right? So that's why I thought the etymology of this word may be helpful to first give us a level of a dub level of etiquette in how we're about to be communicating with Allah. This is not your law, you know, seriously. It had to we had to have a heat wave. Come on.
Not like that.
It's not like that. You can talk about your pain. You can talk about the heat wave. You can. Yeah, lights extremely hot.
But who am I gonna tell except you Only you can bring relief.
You talked about what you're feeling. And you acknowledge that he's the only one who can bring relief. That's chukwa. Now, he says two words. bothy are Hosni. And here I'm going to read some stuff to you about birth. Birth and housing are two words for sadness. Basically, the most generic word in Arabic for sadness is actually hosen. We've talked about that before. It has to do with dried up Earth and you know, Earth that's become tough and rigid, who's been been through a lot. And from it, we get the word sadness, meaning someone who's gone through a lot and develop those kinds of feelings. But what about this word birth because that's the first word he used.
And they're used together. So in a very terrible translation, I would say, I only complain about my sadness and my sadness to Allah.
So there's two different words for sadness. Yeah. So there must be a difference between them is that somewhere out of Africa, when they both come together, the point is that they are in fact different from each other. Right so as to fill us a Satoshi with the free Koo Kumba theory at Rob was taught Milla philharmonie under the loyalty of Osaka, Osaka and a fellow ut kohala who worked over you for repo who Allah man you know who for whom a stolen remind him of rule, Buffy is tiara. Okay. Birth originally actually means to spread well that's I mean humara Jalan Kathy longanisa in the Quran. He spread out many men and many women from that single male and female to spread out his bus. Okay.
Yeah boo Fedora to spread in the to cast off in the you know, in the dirt.
So mob tooth, like what a Kunal
Yama yaku natsuko, for Russian mob suits, the day on which people will be like locusts scattering, mob food from the same buffer, the same word that he used, right? So, but the, the origin is something spreading, like when the wind spreads dirt, and it's used for sadness. So it's one of the words one of the many in Arabic for sadness, but sadness for someone who is not able to bear the burden of that sadness. So, loyalty Casa de, it's gotten too heavy for him. So he's not able to carry it. So he spreads it to others.
So, in other words, they let it out. I can't take it anymore myself. So it bursts out of them, like the spreading. And that's when that kind of sadness is called. It's called a bus. Where do we start and you're gonna be magnified. So one meaning now is when spreading his sadness spreads to others from you.
Right or comes out of you. We'll come back to that in a moment. Where do we start an akuna be magnify Olam, Allah the bustle fakra offer Rocco. It also means it could be in the meaning of file, what that means simply is a kind of sadness that makes your thoughts go all over the place.
Okay, all kinds of anxiety, you can even call it anxiety that makes your thoughts go all over the place. In fact, there is some that have made a distinction between birth and hosing, and in that birth, is actually when you're worried about what could happen in the future too.
And you're worried about the unknown. Right? So there's, like they, when they talk about this with jacobellis, Alon, they say that,
first of all, he is still grieving over the loss of users. Right? And that's causing that sadness over the loss. But he also gets all kinds of terrifying thoughts about what he may be going through you, I don't know what happened to you. So what's what's going on with him and you get the most terrible thoughts in your mind, if you have a loved one, and you can't find them, or you call them and they're not picking up their phone, or their phones gone dead, and it's been an hour, you got all kinds of terrible thoughts running in your head, right? So the mind goes in every direction. The mind spreads in every direction. It's experiencing birth. It's experiencing this feeling. So this
spread of feelings in every direction can also be called birth as a result of anxiety where the mind just wanders and has terrible thoughts, and makes things worse, the feelings worse. Why are young young McCann and whatever it may be for Lidl, and they'll calm calm
tumaco Lupita nikitas neo Alicia, that you know these people said this to him to complain. Well fijo I became a Nila Kumar laico. Actually, I don't want to read this part, I want to read this part.
The etymology part before I get to this part,
I'll birth the free crochet way of how to sew another distinction. So one is both one implication is when your mind goes in every direction, because of anxiety. Right? So that's one. Two is the free cache. What if how who were men who saw meal hose in the under whose shade when you're stuck out where you back to where you thought, oh, I'll read the the corresponding piece from the leader page? Well, Beth, you may use a woman who will if not be maknoon enough's. Kareem.
birth is a sadness that somebody could not contain inside. So it came out that they're feeling this way it's spread out of them. Okay, so it's similar to the first thing I said spreading, but no one was your thoughts are all over the place. But now it was inside you and nobody knew that it was inside you. So long as it was inside, it was frozen. It was sadness. But when it was expressed, and it just spread out, the the sound waves spread out of you, then literally became birth. Okay, so an overwhelming sadness that is no one is no longer able to contain is called birth. So that's the second distinction. Now, why is this important? Because when he's saying two things, I'm taking my
I'm expressing the pain and loss that comes from my my sadness. It's come out of my mouth now to Allah. But see, we're hosting. So why the two terms are being used. There are multiple possibilities, I'll share them with you, because each of them is very beautiful. I find them very beautiful. Number one,
I've been holding in sadness for a long time, and you never imagine jacobellis I'm expressing this in some form to his sons. Yeah, I have held the grief of what people have done with my child for a long time. I haven't said anything I just said Southern Jamil so many years ago.
But now it's come to a boil where I can't now that you've done this,
and now you're acting in this way. I couldn't help but I'm just human, it came out. These words came out of me. You know why this is a beautiful interpretation. Because previously in the IOD allows me to describe for Hookah lien he was swallowing the entire time, he was keeping it right here, and it would not come out of his mouth. He wouldn't let it out.
So what that would mean, and then who's in the next word, so the expression of my sadness, and my sadness, I take the expression of my sadness, and my sadness to Allah. Right? What would that mean? That this moment where I lost my composure, and I actually said, Oh, my loss over use of
those words that came out of my mouth, that boiling out that coming out that and the sadness, I have never spoken about that pain that I've been swallowing for so many years, all of them, I only take to Allah, when I opened my mouth, I'm talking to Allah. And when I never opened my mouth, and my heart was crying, not my tongue. That was also to a lot. You know, my scuba Siva, Jose de la la.
It's as if he's turning to his sons and saying, You think I'm talking to you?
Do you think when I cry out for use of that I'm talking, I turned my back from you.
I wasn't having a conversation with you. And even in this moment, when I cried out and the words came out of my mouth, that was a conversation I was having with a lot. And by the way, my heart's been having a conversation about my sadness with him for a long time.
birth. And housing is very powerful.
He's telling them that they're, he's, he knows that they are not worth this conversation. He's too wise to know that this is not a common, this is not a complaint. He wants to wage with them. And this is a wisdom that I want to pause and have us think about.
Sometimes we get into arguments or, you know, we complain to people about our pain. And those people are so insensitive to us, and so dismissive of our pain, and they get angry at us instead, we're not very smart. So week later, we complain to the same people again, in the same way, and they are dismissive and abusive towards us in the same exact way. And you say never again, and a month later, you do it again. And two months later, you do it again. And every time you say, I'm never going to talk to you again. You know what, this is not worth the conversation having with you. You go back again, and again and again, and they're hurtful every time. But you keep going back for more.
Yeah, Cobra de Salaam, understood, they're not the right people for this conversation. They don't have the sensitivity in them to understand. I don't want the sin piled on them that I I spoke to them about a pain the cause and they're even further abusive to me. I don't want them to drown in further sin. I'm going to do them a favor and not talk to them about it.
This is not just, you're not worth my time Get out of my face. But rather when you love someone and you know they're wrong, and you know, talking to them will make them even more obnoxious, do them a favor and do give their angels a break. So they don't write more bad deeds for them, and don't have that conversation with them. Help them out because they don't have control over their tongues. They don't have control over their behavior. So you know what your silence towards them is better. This is actually a wisdom from iacobelli salaam. And even if this came out, I didn't intend to bring it out. I didn't mean to bring it out. It just came out of me. And our complaint of that is to a lot
not to you let me let me just be clear.
It's also telling us that he's telling them, you think you're the people I would talk to about this.
But you should know I've been talking to a lot about this a long time,
since you want to come at me about use of and how he's still missing. Yeah, I do. And Allah knows that I do.
And the pain is still real.
The second meaning of this also very powerful,
is similar to
a door of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam so I'm going to read that door of the Prophet size on them and then explain what the second meaning could be.
Along with the league, or school dot Fokker whether you walk into Haiti or LA, I express my, my, my I take my complaint or I take my, you know, my issue up with you about the weakness of my strength, my lack of strength, and my inability to plan or my inability to have my little support while whiny other nurse and being placed in a situation where we were I'm being humiliated in front of people. Yeah, hamara has been the one who loves and cares more than all any who can love and care under hamura I mean, you are the most loving and caring of all those that can love and care. I'm terrible. Mr. darphin You are the master of those that have been made weak in the land, or who has been who
have been weakened. Antara be You are my master in Armenta kyllini Who are you leaving me to in whose hands are you leaving me? You know I do when you are harmonii? Are you leaving me in the hands of an enemy that's going to you know, speak ill of me or scowl at me? I'm ILA I do when my doctor who I'm sorry are you leaving me in the hands of an enemy that has control over what they can do with me in lump in lumea can become odoban Allah Yeah, follow Bali and if it's the case that all of this is happening to me, but while this is happening to me, you're not angry with me that I don't care.
So socialism says people are humiliating me. People are attacking me. People are physically hurting me. But so long as you're not angry if this is not because you're angry with me that I don't care
for our body when I came here to go here Oh, sorry. However, the relief that comes from you could would be really good for me to
y'all. I can take it so long as you're not angry. But I'm also human. Yeah, like give me some relief to you see both of them at the same time. And then he says, Our oh do we knew what he was he can learn about Oklahoma to what I see. I claim to the light of your face by which the light of the sky The skies and the earth are lit. Well, I should have gotten the whole blue mat and all darknesses are illuminated by it. Well salute Li Mo dounia when our Halo and based on it. The matters of this world and the next are made right what an onion Zilla below book and I seek, I cling to you and I seek refuge from the possibility that your anger should come down on me. Oh, you're hella Allah Sato
or your your harshness should be unleashed against me. Look at look at Toby Hata Tada. You have my absolutes and surrender until you are pleased with how long will have begun there is no power or authority of any kind except by your hand by you. This is the profit slice of them speaking when he's overwhelmed by circumstances
of his own. It started with I complained to you of my own weakness to be able to bear this situation. And now we're learning what does it mean for a prophet? The greatest slaves of Allah on earth are the prophets. What happens with them? What are they say when they're overwhelmed with trouble? How do they complain to Allah? This is like, what does it mean in the marsh Kumasi? What was the the law? I only take my complaint to Allah, the prophet SAW some of his explaining when he takes his complaint to Allah. What is it? What does he's complaining of? He tells a lot, the only one I can express to is you and I express to you that I am too weak to bear this. I don't have
Y'all Ah, I'm, you're my strength. You're the one who sends help. I'm weak. I'm weak, my robe I'm weak, my robe I'm weak. Express your weakness, express your vulnerability to Allah. Open up before Allah. let your guard down before Allah.
Now, it is as if Now listen to this. This is the second interpretation of Yakuza. Listen, listen to this carefully. I haven't said this before. I know this is going long. But I want to finish this ayah today because it's all coherent. And then I'm going to start over
And it's going to be like, ice cold. So I thought you can take a nap and listen to this later. That's fine, too. But let me finish. Okay, so that's what I'm gonna do. And this is really cool, because you're not in front of me in a live audience where you're like sneaking out of the machine one at a time. So I could talk to a camera forever.
But let me wake you up a little, let me tell you a little bit of situation. So I read comments for fun sometimes, just for fun. And
those his comment, brother, could you please tell us the reference of the ayah and surah that you're talking about?
Oh, look at that comment line.
For real? No, seriously? What's What are you talking about?
What I, uh,
Oh, is it this way? Right there.
How about this? How is this even better? Somebody said, Could you put the IR reference on the screen?
What screen you're looking at Blue?
How much do you want me to make that bigger than I could? I thought that was hilarious. But anyway, I'm gonna go back to Yeah, Islamic stuff. Okay.
So the second interpretation, which I think is so incredibly powerful, and this is something that was highlighted by my beloved, so he said, You know, he thought of this, and I thought, this is an incredible thought, I'm gonna hold on to it. And he said, but it's not among them a facility. I was like, Yes, I know. But you said it. So I'm going to give you credit. And if people come after you, that's also cool. But inshallah No, it's actually really beautiful. Birth can mean the expression of sadness. And if it's using the muster sense, then he's telling a lot, yeah,
I take two, I complained to you that I was too weak to hold it in. And the words came out of my mouth. And these people heard it, and look at what they do when they hear words, y'all I put myself in this situation, because I couldn't bear it inside myself. And these words came out, let me become stronger. So I Don't utter words like that again, because I don't want to put myself in this situation.
So he's actually complaining to a law that he wasn't strong enough to keep the words inside. And no matter scuba theme, and then on top of that, my sadness, who was named Allah, why? Because sometimes when we're overwhelmed, we end up saying something that we know the people that are listening, they will use against us.
Right, and we shouldn't have said it. We're better not better off not saying it. Some things are meant to be said to a law and not to them. Or not in their present. He wasn't even saying it to them. He was saying it to a lot. But they overheard and look at how they exploded, right? So he's turning to a lesson Yala. How could I have been so weak?
In my school, bethey What was the in a lot, and in both of them, he's acknowledging, first of all, his overwhelming circumstance. And second of all, his lack of strength, y'all, I ask you for even more composure. That's what tells us that, you know, one of the most incredible personalities in the Quran that demonstrates composure, is asking a lot for more composure tells us that there's no such thing as we have enough composure, or we can handle it, there's no we can handle it, we take the you can be tough around people, you have to be weak in front of a lot.
You can be patient and mature, you can be the you know, the head, you can be the you can be the Prophet. Other people come to you and ask you, this is the case of a prophet. And he said, um, but when you come before Allah, you come weak.
You take to him what you can't bear. And now, Ash, Ash kobus. He was the Illallah. So as he says this to them. Yesterday, I mentioned to you that he drew a boundary.
What do I mean by that? They started talking to him in this way. And immediately he said, this is not a conversation with you.
And he ignored what they said. Do you notice that? They said you're gonna keep mentioning us?
And he didn't bring up yourself? He didn't say don't take his name out of your mouth. I know what you did with none of this is happening. Why? Because he understands my boundary with them is some conversations are not worth having with them. I will not have I refuse to have these conversations with you. I will walk away instead.
And if you must know I was talking to Allah.
What do you mean talking to a low? Well, I mean, Allah He might not have known and I know from Allah, something you don't know. This is the concluding statement. I know from a law, something you don't know. Mufasa don't say maybe he knew from Allah, that Yousuf will come back possible, because he did interpret usage dream as a child, right. He's the one who's heard the dream and was in awe. So he knew what the dream meant to. So it could be that because he knows that he knows that relief is coming. And he's never gonna lose hope. But just because he knows relief is coming doesn't mean the time you're going through waiting for that relief gets it.
easier, that still gives you hope. But pain is still pain. The prophet SAW someone was promised victory. But that doesn't mean those years before the victory became easy, right?
I showed the long run how it was in through the words of the prophets, I'm indirectly told Allah will prove her innocence. But the hardest moments of her life were after that statement, not before. Right. So just because you have the promise of relief doesn't mean that you feel relieved. That's a component of relief. But pain is still pain. It's give you an analogy, if somebody is going through a lot of physical pain, right? And they're being told you cannot be given anesthesia. But this pain will be completely gone in 12 hours. The good news is it will be gone in 12 hours. That good news gives you strength, but the next 12 hours are still gonna hurt.
The it's still gonna hurt, that's not gonna go away. And you're still going through it. And that doesn't mean you don't believe it's going to be over. So you being hurt, don't you believe it's going to be over? Why are you still complaining of pain? No, pain is still pain. Even though relief is coming, you understand? So both of them have been balanced remarkably in this aisle. So now, one meaning is I know from Allah that relief is coming something you don't know. And I won't be telling you that. Well, I mean, Allah humanitarian one, one interpretation of it. Another interpretation of it is I have a kind of relationship from with a law that you don't know anything about.
I know something about what it means to hold on to hope with the law, and to take my complaints to Allah and in this is one of the most beautiful realities of a believer that I have ever come across in my study of the Quran.
When does a person cry?
I can think of two scenarios, crying because of something in this world.
And crying to Allah.
There's a spiritual crying. There's an emotional crying, right?
And the spiritual crying if you had it, are some of the most beautiful moments in your life, yes or no.
As a believer, the closest you ever felt to Allah is when tears were rolling down your eyes praying to Him, yes or no? Now, some of the toughest moments of your life. Some of the hardest moments of your life are when you're shedding tears, not to Allah, but because of people.
And the tears that we spread do we cry to Allah are actually the greatest treasures that we have as for our hearts, actually we long that we should get those genuine tears again because if you've experienced that the kind of tranquility your heart feels after that is indescribable with words it can only be experienced it can't be described.
What jacoba his Salaam is done has done is something I would say another lick I mean as villamor it's one of the most remarkable things. It's the height of solder. This is what I think someone Jamil actually means now. I thought I knew what somebody mean. It means that I was describing it to you beautiful patients, beautiful patients beautiful patients. But as I read this, I'm like I think I need to go back and rethink about Southern Jimmy. Why he takes tears that are meant to be that were caused by people weren't they called by people.
And he turns them into tears. He's crying to Allah.
He turns the moments he turns the emotions that are the ugliest a human being can face in this life.
And he's converting them into a conversation with Allah crying before Allah to help you visualize or to bring this closer to home what what he's done.
You remember how Binyamin was abused by his brothers. I want you to use your imagination. When he met use of and use of said I am your brother. You don't have to feel bad anymore.
I'm here for you now.
And in that moment, if Binyamin started telling him the bad things he went through and cried.
While he's crying, isn't he also feeling relief? Because now there's someone who loves him, who's hugging him, who he can tell all of this to.
This is what they did. This is what they said, this is what they did. This is what they said, this is what they said about you. This is what they said about mom, and even as he's talking can even keep his composure. He can't You know, sometimes your own child when they're little especially when they get hurt, and they're not talking and then finally they want to talk to you. And they're hugging you and crying.
Right and they feel the most attached to you in those moments. Right. There's one they were crying in the they fell and they got hurt and they cried in the playground. And then the boo boo got better. And then they came home and mom says what's the
cry all over again?
Because now they have the loving
embrace of the mother to let it all out again.
It's like that with your overlays. He takes that pain. And you know, when you're looking for someone that loves you that you can talk to that you can lean on their shoulder and cry on it, and find that relief. And we should find that in human beings. He's learned to find that with a law.
So he takes his complaints, his tears, his sadness, he takes us, he talks to a law about how sad he feels, his heart cries to allow
your love, this is what I'm feeling he has this most. You know, when we talk about what hurt us, we don't talk just to anybody about what hurt us. And you know, if you're, if you're having a conversation about something that hurt you, if it really hurt you, you're not going to be able to have that conversation without breaking down. You can't. And you must really trust someone to let them in on that part of your life. You can't just talk to somebody about what hurt you.
And if you are in the habit of doing that with everybody you meet. And those feelings are no longer genuine, and you're just looking for fake sympathy. Right? Just make memes about it, then that's, that's better for you. Right, but
when you find someone you can trust, and you open up to them, and you open your heart up to them, and those tears come that come out. Those are beautiful moments where you find comfort in someone
who is stubborn against what his sons have done, have become so bad Jamil, because he's taking those tears to who to allies taking the ugliest thing and made it into the most beautiful thing.
They're angry that he's crying.
They're saying you're gonna die doing this. In other words, this is the last thing I'm sharing with you, I promise.
They're telling him stop thinking about use of stop complaining, stop remembering him, because the thought of use of is killing you.
You need to take move, you need to move on. You need to move past your trauma. You need to let go of the delusional idea that he's alive, just let go of that. Why are you so holding on.
And it's incredible, that that grief and that sadness and the anxiety of not knowing where he is because he keeps taking that grief and that sadness to who to Allah. Allah gives him a sweetness inside of him, a Jamal, a beauty in his subber that can only come from Allah. He says I have no I know from Allah, something you don't know, I experienced from Allah, something you have no clue about.
My heart has come to know something from a law that you have no knowledge of. You just can't see it. Because you've never had that conversation.
You have that conversation with walls in front yard, you can just you can drop a last name to yell at me. The law heat of that will just go to you. So this is your relationship with the law, my relationship with allies very different.
It's very different. It's such a powerful dimension of the statement and the cross section between emotional life and spiritual life and how they clash against they fuse into one another. And this timeless wisdom dropped by jacoba and Islam that Allah decided to make a part of his Quran. We are blessed to have this this just remarkable wisdom from this man that is captured in Allah zone words. Allah in Asheville bethia, whose need Allah, Allah will mean Allah him Allah.
So I know how to have hoping a lot I know how to talk to a lie. I know how to find consolation with a law. I know how to find comfort in a law. I know how to cry in front of a law. I know how to open up about everything I'm going through in life with a law.
I know that kind of relationship that you don't have yet. You know, like the woman Allah, he might not on the moon, in your life. So just give us a kind of intimate relationship with Allah. Especially for those of us that don't find a relationship of support like that in their life allows them to give you that kind of lifelong support and beautiful subud in the connection you find with Europe, particularly Welcome to carotid Hakim when a fight anyway yeah, can be it with him and I apologize for the super long session. And that's the number okay.