Self Worth

Nouman Ali Khan

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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in today's hot but I'd like to share with you some important lessons that I need reminding of and you all I believe also due to, from what Allah describes in the story of Adam Adam salaam, particularly something that I want to share with you about Iblees today.

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Commonly people assume that Allah azza wa jal created Adam Alayhis Salam, and then when He created him, he commanded the angels to do the Sajida and they all obeyed and Iblees disobey this is kind of the simple version of the story that many people are familiar with. But there are details in the Quran that are very important that are missing when you think of the story in this way. Allah azza wa jal first announces to the to all of the angels and we understand that it includes at the time at least among them in this announcement, in the harlequin Buchon maintain, I am about to create a human being from dirt or from clay. So Allah has when he's saying this, he has not made Adam yet. At

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the rally Islam has not been created yet. But the announcement has been made that Allah is about to do it. This is Holly on Bashara and mentoring. And then for either the word either in Arabic is used for describing something that is going to happen in the future for it as a way to who when the first two female Rohit, and when I'm done balancing him, and when I blow into him from my room. So it's none of this has happened yet it's going to happen. Then he says fucka ruler who said then fall into such that before. Now, there's a discussion about lamb that I had with a notable scholar many years ago. And I was surprised that a few months ago, he agreed with what I what I said about this.

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And I'll talk about that in a little bit. But I want you to focus first, on the first piece of this conversation, Allah has described that he is about to create our father. And he has also described the process he's going to use to create us, he says, first of all, I'm going to make him from clean. Now let's pause here for a second, we're not the only creation on this earth made from clean. In fact, all of the animals and all of the species that exist on this planet also are made from clean. So that's the common element between us. And the rest of the life that exists on this planet, all of the animals, and all of the insects all of it, that's that's from thin, fine. But there's something

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additional about this creation that he's about to make our father and by extension us. That is more than just clean. There's something more than just this animal presence, this animal existence. And by the way, we have something in common with animals, animals, seek food, and shelter, we go to the grocery store seeking food, we go to the restaurant seeking food, we look for shelter to in fact, those are the two primary things that drive us to get an education and get a job or start a business at the end of the day, it boils down to food and shelter, what's in the fridge. And whether or not you're living in a home that has proper shelter, or the electricity bills play paid is the water

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running. What I'm trying to say is we're just way more advanced at getting food and shelter than animals. But at the end of the day, those are the same basic functions, and then they procreate. They have children, they continue the species. And that's what human beings do, too. So in that sense, as far as the continuity of life, we're not that much different from the animal kingdom, and from what any other species does. We build homes, a bird builds a nest, we go out and you know, seek ours and the birds go out and they seek a risk. But then Allah adds, he's informing the angels, why is this creation from dirt different from all the other species that exist for it as a way to who

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when I when I make him balanced? When I make him Belen, thus we as actually to perfect and balance the craft of something. So for example, if somebody is designing, you know, or welding metal, they kind of make sure that the metal is welded completely even. And they have tools to make sure that it's completely straight. That's called test we're. So Allah says that there's a level of balance and perfection that is going to be added to this creature that doesn't exist in other creatures, but in in one sense. Other species physically have way more balanced than we do. Monkeys can hang on one arm, they have pretty good balance. Birds have amazing reflexes, right? So this is talking more than

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just our ability to stand up on two feet. Allah is telling us that human beings will have an ability to balance opposing things. They're going to have the ability for example, to balance their individual needs with the needs of their family.

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They're going to balance their personal responsibilities with social responsibilities. They're going to balance their, their rights and their responsibilities, they're going to balance our entire life is actually going to amount to balance. And in fact, today now, there are, you know, there's a multi million dollar industry that, you know, teaches multi, you know, successful people, business people, executives, they attend these work life balance seminars, right to achieve balance. And Allah says that human beings have the potential, this human being will have the potential to live a life, that is even doubt that's balanced as one of the great qualities of the human being that Allah describes,

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that's going to make him amazing. So first, he's made like every other animal, but then he's got this remarkable ability to balance things. And then he says, on top of all of that, one of us to feed him rudely. By the way, one aspect of balance before I go further, is he says, I, you know, the balance is actually between our impulses, our emotions, and our thought process. So let me explain what that means. When When, when a hungry dog sees something, it goes in, it bites it, it doesn't think about the consequences. There's the emotion, and then there's the action. That's it. But human beings, they can look at something and say, No, that's illegal. Now, that's not the remind comes in,

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at work, they think about the consequences. You're getting late for work, there's a red light, right? You have the ability to balance your emotion, your need your desire to get to work early, but you need to abide by the law and stop at the red light, we're able to balance our thoughts and our emotions. Unlike other species, when they have an emotion, they have an impulse. They jump on it, they react, but we can think about the consequences. We can think about the long term, we can hold ourselves back. And that's actually one of the great names of our intellect in the Quran, is a hedger and a no ha These are words that are used to describe our intellect and that means a boulder

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a rock, because the rock is a barrier to moving forward and a new highest prevention. Because our our mind prevents us from doing stupid things. It gets in our way. And sometimes, you know, you get I get overwhelmed with emotions and we make stupid decisions, or we say things we shouldn't have said, or we do things we shouldn't have done, because we weren't thinking at the time, because we let our emotions get out of balance. Right? So Allah azza wa jal here says, human beings will be made with this amazing ability of balance. Then he says, when it comes to female role, he and then on top of that, I will blow him to him from my own rule, meaning, the rule that Allah Allah,

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especially designed for this human being this special spiritual connection, this special thing that will connect him, this human being and Allah together in a unique way, in this unique powerful way, that's what's going to be inside him. So this rule is inside him. Unlike other animals and other species, there's a special kind of thing a special kind of light inside this human being. So he's made up of these three things he's made up of dirt, and he's made up of this balance and he's made up of this Lua three components Allah described in this IRA and he let the angels know these are the three parts that will make this human being amazing. And when these three things come together, then

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for that Rula Husar, God and then fall into such that so when you study such that in the Quran, you learn something, if you just scan the entire Quran and look at where Allah talks about such that Allah talks about such that when something incredible happens, Allah talks about such that when a miracle happens when the when the Sorcerer is the magician's saw the staff of Musa turn into a snake, a giant snake and eat whatever my frequent whatever they had made up, they couldn't help themselves. They fell into such that when Christian people came to visit Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they heard the Quran. Tara, you're not home to Philomena Dmitri, you're going

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to see their eyes start rolling with tears. Yeah, karuna love Connie. So, Jurgen, they fall on their faces and such that because they're so overwhelmed by the miracle of the Quran, there's even an incident in the seat of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where when the eye of the kuffaar were listening to kuffaar They don't even believe in the Quran. They were listening for under Tecumseh cotton, Mr. Saar Ekati Arden was the mood when the IR came I warn you of a Thunderball like the one that came to Adam for mood they fell into such that they couldn't even help themselves. They fell into such that the Quran is describing over and over again. When something overwhelming

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happens. Something incredible happens that Allah does that only Allah could do that human beings feel so powerful. It's like their knees buckle, and their pride disappears. And this this, this thing that carries our pride falls on the face. In every culture historically. This is the place of pride. This is why the king wears the crown here, not on the wrist. Nowadays, the status symbol is an expensive watch or so that's on the wrist, right? But historically, what is the show of pride in every culture is what goes on the head. Right? The turban goes on the head, the crown goes on the head, you know, this is the show of where you stand

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There are countries in the world today where they have certain kinds of headgear. Only the locals can wear that if you wear that you get in trouble. You can wear a different color you can't wear, that's their color. That's the elite class. You know, this is our pride. This is our sense of position in society. And you know what all of that disappears. When you recognize the power of Allah, you're overwhelmed by that you just fall into such that that's what the Quran describes over and over again. And Allah is making a claim here to all of the angels and the angels. It's important to note the angels don't just see the scene. The angels are pictures of the unseen so what what is

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invisible to us like the outer shell of Allah, what is invisible to us like the jinn, what is invisible to us like the secrets of the skies, many of them the angels, they've they traveled through the skies. So we can be amazed by a mountain or an ocean or a waterfall, the scene world that amazes us, when somebody studies the universe and and looks through an electron microscope, they can be amazed by the vastness of the scene universe, can you imagine add to the scene universe, those that have seen the unseen also? How much more amazed by what Allah does are they and then on top of that, they get to communicate directly with Allah, Allah talks directly to the angels.

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They're not like us. They have direct back and forth communication with Allah. And Allah is telling them that this creature is so incredible of all the vast universe that he created, of all the things that he put in this remarkable scene and unseen Cohn. He says this one thing is so powerful that every last one of you should be overwhelmed at what Allah has done when he created other

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that you should fall into such that you should just be like, in awe of this incredible miracle of Allah, that deserves that all of the angels of Allah,

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Allah Kulu, whom I admire on all of them altogether fulfill into such that the thing is when, when the staff of Musa alayhis salam incident happened, a few magicians fell into such that when a few people heard the Quran, a few, you know, the disbelievers fell into some Christians fell into such that you find some fall into such that and you find in this one incident, every angel that Allah ever created, is commanded to fall into such that how big of a miracle? How big of a deal is the creation of Adam Alehissalaam? How powerful is this creation? When you sit when you contemplate that? And again, Adam has not been created yet. This is just the announcement. Why should you? Why

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should you be so amazed? What deserves this such that what Warren said, why should they fall on their faces? Well, it's because of these three things in the Honda conversion and maintain for it as a way to who went first to feed him and grew he then fall, suburbia, therefore, or thereafter, fall into such that the fire could be suburbia to thus you will fall into such that before him. So now, this announcement is made. And at least we know, heard this announcement also. And if we at least heard this announcement, he also knows that Adam is made up of three things, I keep saying three things. So it sticks in your head, three things, three things, three things. But we know that when

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Allah tells us that when he refused to do such that

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he turns to Allah He doesn't say collected even Naryn were halacha human tienen was a waiter who when a factor for human ruhiger, he doesn't say that. He says, You made me from fire, you made him from dirt. That's just one of those three things, isn't it? There's two more things. And he knows about those two other things he knows about the test suite or the balance of the human being. He also knows about the room that is inside the human being. But when he complains to Allah that you made him from dirt, he pretends that he doesn't know about those other two things. But he does. He fully knows. This is a really important thing that I want to highlight in these brief moments. And

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it's all about there's hundreds of lessons in the story of Adam Allison, but I hope I can do some justice to this one lesson that I want you to take today.

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And that is that when he denies these other two things he knows, he knows that if he acknowledges those two things, then he has to acknowledge how incredible the human being actually is. But if he only acknowledges the dirt, if he only acknowledges the mud, then what's the difference between Adam and a horse? What's the difference between Adam and a cow and a monkey? They eat, he eats, they get shelter they get? They have kids, he has kids? He's not he's just an evolved animal. That's all okay, so he can stand on his two feet big deal. What's the big deal? He's just an evolved species. There's nothing more to him. There's nothing more to him. So he has a certain he deliberately denies

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two components of our existence out of the three, two of them, he denies them. And if he accepts them, then he has to accept the supremacy of what Allah has made, the remarkable thing Allah has made. Now he hates humanity. He blames Allah for giving us this position. For an he swore that he wants to not only see Adam Alayhis Salam fail, because you know, if you hate Adam, then you got Adam expelled from Jana, you should be like, I'm good. Now I got my revenge, feel better. Now he doesn't feel better, is like now I'm gonna get his kids, and I'm gonna get his family, and I'm gonna get their kids and their kids. And he keeps ruining human beings time and time and time and time again.

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And the rage of his fury doesn't go away. He doesn't feel any better after getting revenge or destroying. He doesn't feel any better. So the thing is, how does he destroy human beings, he does many things to destroy us. But one of the most important things he does, which is actually now I get to talk about the topic of my hotbar today. One of the things that we learn from this passage and these ayat of the Quran, is that a bliss did not want the human being to be acknowledged as something worthy. And his greatest success one of his greatest successes, if he can convince you and me that in fact, you're not worthy.

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self worth valuing yourself, respecting yourself as a human being is actually one of the great crises in the world today. People in the so sociology, World of sociology, people in the world of psychology, people across in families across the world are facing a crisis of people who don't see any worth in themselves. Oh, I used to have a job, but I'm retired now. Nobody cares about my opinion. I you know, I'm worthless. I just sit home all day. My son has a job my you know, you know, my daughters are gone away to college, and I'm just useless here. I'm just a burden on everyone. There's an old man sitting in his home thinking he's completely worthless. All I can do is just go

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to the masjid and come back. But I live with this worthlessness inside me. It's just better if I just die. These are the thoughts he had inside it has incited he doesn't say it sometimes even says it sometimes even says it says lives and lives with this worthlessness. A young man lives with worthless and he says my brother graduated, my cousin got a job. Everybody else is doing better. This one already got married. Look at look at me, I've got nothing. I didn't accomplish any of those things. Oh, you wasted so many years, I should have done this. I should have done that i Everybody tells me I'm a loser. I must be a loser. What does the police want to do? He wants to get people to

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say things around you in your life. They'll say things to you, that make you feel worthless. They don't even realize they're doing it. They don't even realize it. But they're having this effect on you. When you start thinking yeah, maybe I am worthless. Maybe I you know, I'm not, I'm not that big of a deal. I'm a nobody. I'm a nobody. And you know what that does? Once you develop low self esteem, you don't value yourself, then you're always thinking the only way I will be valued is if somebody else values me.

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If somebody else approves, then I have value. So I'm just going to, I'm going to take a picture of myself, I'm gonna make sure I change all the filters enough times, and then I'm gonna post it online. And I'm gonna wait for somebody to do this. Or somebody to put a won't put one of these, or at least a martial law or something. Give me something. Because if somebody gives me, I have some value. All right, now what do I got it I need more value? Because I'm worthless. Again, I haven't posted in two days. I need to get back on. I need to feel valued again. When you don't have enough value for yourself, you're always looking for value from where somewhere else, someone else. Always

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looking for somebody else's approval. Always looking for somebody else's compliment. You didn't say anything? You didn't? What do you think? What do you think? What do you think I should do? What do you think of this? What do you think of that? constantly asking for somebody else's opinion, because without it, you're worthless.

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And then you've become afraid. You know what, when you become

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when you have low self esteem, then you you can't deal with any of your rights. Like people can walk all over you. They can humiliate you. And in your head. You're like, yeah, I deserve it. I'm scum. Anyway. I mean, this is I should be I deserve you even worse. And what's better what's even better as a police comes to those in your life sometimes. And he says, Hey, say this to Him, say you know what, I know I treat you like a dog. But you deserve worse than that. So you should be happy that I even treat you this much. Okay, you're lucky to even get this much treatment. And you hear that enough times and what happens you start internalizing it because human beings even if you reject

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something at first, if you hear it enough times, you start getting influenced by that. You start seeing yourself

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That way, you start developing a hatred not just for others, but also for yourself. And then you just this rage inside you is always like my opinion doesn't matter. Everybody else's opinion matters. My voice is no good. Everybody else's voice is better. My presence is a burden. I have nothing to offer anyone. When you start developing this, this is a great victory of shaytaan. Because Shavon says, That's what I was saying, man. That's exactly what I was just dirt. Look at him. What ballots what through what rule? And what does Allah do? Before you and I even came on this earth, because of what our father was given which we have been given the creation of our bodies,

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then on top of that, as we are and on top of that, he gave us an honor, above all of Allah's creation, and all of us Allah's creation see us as a miracle of Allah, Worthy of all the angels falling into such the in awe of what Allah has done, in amazement at what Allah has done.

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So now the angels in the heavens are impressed with you, and you're not impressed with yourself. You think you're worthless? Allah says in the Quran, Allah Karim Napanee, Adam, we honored the sons of the children of Adam, we honored the Children of Adam, you know what this ayah teaches me? It teaches me I don't have to look for validation from anybody else.

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I can look for what did I do a good job or not? I should check. Did the food come out? You know, you shouldn't like take this lesson and say, You know what, I don't need anybody else's opinion. Now, I'm gonna go home and pour all the salt into the food, and then cook it and say, How does it taste? Well, I don't care about your opinion, because Allah has honored me like, that's not what I'm saying. That's not what I'm saying at all. We do need to get correction from each other. And by the way, when you are when you value yourself, then being criticized is not humiliation. When you truly honor yourself, when you truly realize your worth worthiness, then you realize that when someone if

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someone is criticizing and saying, Hey, you said this incorrectly, or you need to improve this, or this could be better, then they're doing me a favor to help me improve. I don't feel like I'm being insulted. Because when you have really low self worth, then criticism feels like you're being pushed even lower down.

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But that feeling goes away. Once you have value for yourself. Once you recognize Allah has given me value, then you start seeing correction or criticism as an opportunity as an opportunity to grow. It's not humiliating anymore. But this is one side of the equation that we value ourselves. But he believes you know, he's got multiple tactics. And when I talked about balance in the beginning, one of the things Allah gave us is balance. Nowadays, a lot of because, you know, people are not no longer the majority of the world is no longer interested in educating itself through books or reading or long study. In fact, if a video is more than 30 seconds, Move on, move on, and then they

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say, You know what they call that I've been doing a lot of research. No, you haven't, you've been swiping tick tock. You That's not called research, you know, but we are I've been doing a lot of research into psychology. No, no, you haven't. A three minute YouTube video was not research into psychology. You haven't studied anything. Right? But we've become accustomed to quick sound bites, you know, quick, quick kinds of education. And as a result of that, we we want quick validation. And one of the things that's happened in a lot of this social media environment is one subject that keeps coming up is self love, self worth, self esteem, which is what I'm talking about to, but you

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can take that too far.

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You're You're amazing. You're the best believe in yourself. You you you. Nuff said. Nuff said. Nuff said. And you're like, yes, enough's enough. See enough. See, you know, and you become like obsessed with the I'm awesome. I'm amazing. And then some parents do this to their kids. You're the best. You're the best ever. You're the princess little four year old girl. You're my princess, everybody else is ugly. You're the prettiest, you're the best. And this little girl turns into a monster. She goes at school and she goes the princesses here kiss the ring like she develops this like inflated sense of self. Our worthiness or worthiness before Allah is something that should make us humble

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Allah give me such a high position. I better put that to work. I better put that to work. I don't want to give you this by analogy. Imagine somebody gave you you know, you didn't believe in yourself. You don't think you're that good, but you applied for a job anyway. Right? You apply they're like, I'm pretty sure they're not going to hire me. You get a call back and they want to give you the executive position, way higher and you know you from what you know of yourself. You're like I'm so not qualified for this. But you get put in that position anyway. Now once you get put in that put

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question I want you to think about and I want myself to think about what am I? What's going on in my head inside? Am I thinking, yep, the boss is here, watch out, that's my chair. Or are you thinking I have been given such a high position, I better live up to this, I better up my game, I better learn more, I better become more adaptive, I better, you know, honor, this role that I've been given. So I can actually prove my worthiness. So the the honor was given to you first, even before you got a chance to prove yourself, the healthy attitude would be, I need to live up to this. Like it or not. Now I'm here, I better step up, you understand? On the on the flip side is someone who gets that

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position without having earned it, and then says, you know, what, what else is there to do? I already got this position. You know, now I can look down at everybody else who doesn't have this position, fake it till you make it, right? That's not That's not how this works. This is actually the reality of arrogance. So on the one hand, we value ourselves, but what we actually are supposed to value is the potential that Allah gave us, we're supposed to value the ability to make the effort that Allah gave us, not the things that Allah gave us. The things that Allah gave us, he can give to anybody else. And these things will come and they will go. But the only thing of value before Allah

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is and before he before ourselves should actually be just our efforts. Well, Alisa, Lillian Sani, Illamasqua, human beings will have nothing of worth on Judgment Day, except the efforts that they made. That's it. That's all that's going to matter. So what's the this this balance between confidence and humility, that has to be struck because too much self worth will turn into arrogance, and too much humility, then you start thinking I'm nothing, I'm nobody. I'll give you an example of this that I saw in the Islamic space. I was at a university many years ago, there were almost no Muslims in the university, five or six young men that are Muslim students in the university, right?

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And there's no masjid for like 100 miles. So they've got to make Juma by themselves, these five young guys, right. And one of them is a half of the Quran. So obviously, it falls on him to kind of prepare something learn a little bit to be able to give the buyer and to lead the prayer. And he won't do it. He won't do it. And then you go to him and say, Hey, why don't you give us a call, but I am nothing. I'm just a fucking year. I am. I know, I know I mind worthlessness before Allah, how can I stand on the member of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Because I know that I'm not even worth the dirt of the feet of the Allama that are here. And he starts giving you this whole

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humility. Talk about how No, no, no, no, no, I'm nothing. I'm worthless. I'm useless. And I tell them, I know you're useless. But still, the thing is, if you don't do it, this guy is gonna lead the prayer in English. He's gonna say, God is great. And then he's gonna, that's what he's got. So you know what, you kind of have to step up, bro, you got to step up, you've been put in a certain position. You This is not about arrogance, you're confusing the need for confidence. With arrogance. This is a time to show confidence, but too much confidence. Now imagine he starts giving the hotbar but then there's somebody else that comes along and says, Hey, this week we have a scholarone Why is

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he taking my spot? I like my spa. Why? Why you gotta take my spot for can you give him like Saturday hotbars. I don't know if there's an alternative because I'm kind of used to having the the main stage right. So that now there's arrogance. So there's this balance between confidence and humility that has to be struck. And that's what Allah azza wa jal defined as one of the most amazing qualities that human beings have, that Allah gave inside of us this, there's the spiritual and there's this material. There's this confidence. And there's this humility, and they're both coexist this test we are all the time. And it's remarkable, right that on the one hand, Allah mentioned

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dirt, and on the other hand, Allah mentioned the rule, the two opposites and in between them, he mentioned balance for it as a way to win a faster favor. So how, like the our entire life is supposed to be a struggle to find that balance, to find that that real worth in ourselves, so we're not looking for it in other people. We're not looking for it and things. We're not looking for it in posts, or engagement or followers. We're not looking for for worth in the clothes we're wearing. We're looking for worth in what we what we what we give to Allah azza wa jal and if if you're an old gentleman or you're retired, and you have you feel like you have nothing to offer the world, stop

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thinking this way. Every one of us will be a learner until the day we die. There's no age where you should stop learning and the moment the more you're learning, the more you're enriching yourself and the more you enrich yourself, naturally the world around you get

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is enriched, there's more wisdom you can offer. There's more you can give somebody. And this is the last thing I'll share with you, a gentleman who passed away recently that I knew about an elderly gentleman who had retired many years ago. And he was just living at home. And he spent his entire day just studying and learning and studying and learning. And when he passed away his children because he hadn't had a job. So if you look at it from a material point of view, he was kind of a financial burden on the family trips to the hospital all the time, you know, and, you know, what are we going to do with him who's going to take care of him, you know, but on the other hand, when he

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left, you know, all those kids and their grandkids, grandkids and all of them, you know, what they remember the things he used to read and he used to share the wisdom that he used to share. And that those little bits of wisdom you don't know they might change that grandson's life. There may be a time where you know, just like Allah describes Yusuf alayhi salam, Lola ohana, Robbie Yusuf alayhi salam heard some bits of good counsel from his father yaku when he was little, and so many years of his life he held on to Islam, the only tarbiyah he had were some words of wisdom he heard from his father years ago, right? So no, no goodness is worthless. No good effort is worthless, no human

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being is worthless. find value in yourself that Allah has already given you may Allah azza wa jal allow us to value ourselves see our worth, and not allow Shaitan to make me and you see ourselves as someone worthless or unworthy or someone who should be stepped on or shouldn't be punished. We should stop doing that self hatred and may Allah allow that self value, never to turn into arrogance. BarakAllahu li Walakum Quran Hakeem on a funny way, er, it was lacking.

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so there will be fourth be right after the first step we are inshallah Surah Fatiha and the second tip Virol you have to read

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sentence peace and salam upon Rasulullah Salallahu Salam and after the third talk Vera you're going to make dua for the sister and after the fourth that we will we're going to make salaam shell

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