Remarkable Stories – Death – Dealing with Grief & Loss with Hamza Belfedhal
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The speakers discuss their experiences with Islam and their journey to the UK, where they faced challenges and faced tragic events with their former founders. They also discuss their experiences with their former founders and their upcoming trip to Dublin. They share their experiences with their former founders and their upcoming trip to Dublin. They also discuss the use of cutting words for grief and the importance of responding to grief, and emphasize the need for a response to it.AI Generated Transcript ©
Soon as I got that news,
my heart sunk to my stomach because I
must have hit you so hard.
I didn't know what to think. Allah
has never tested me with something like this
ever.
Tubes in his mouth and wires all over
it, something out of the movies. That's the
guy I spoke to 15 minutes and this
is what happened.
I remember one of the challenges was that
we were swimming in a place called the
44 here in Dulere.
And it's a place where people jump in
through water.
Because one thing you need to know that
me and Suhayb Rahmahullah and Riyadh will never
ever go swimming alone. It's a thing that
we've never ever done. We're always together.
I got unexpected call that I need to
leave Ireland. I need to go to the
UK as soon as possible. Okay. Allah
wanted me out of the country.
As I'm on the way back, I get
a call from Sahib Rahim Allah. Connection got
interrupted and disconnected.
15 minutes
after, I get a phone call. And I'm
hearing walkie talks in the background. I'm hearing
a lady speaking in the background. Oh. I'm
like I'm like, what happened? Man, I can
hear the machines.
People crying and.
It's a kid's on his he's on his
final moments. Saka Rathe Moat, he's about to
go. I've
never ever been hit with something like that
in my life.
Like if it wasn't for Islam,
I would have lost it. I would have
gone crazy. That's the only thing that was
holding me back.
Allah tests you based on the first salamah,
the first hit. You can't lose yourself in
the first hit and then be like, oh,
yeah. Allah is telling me, you failed.
Allah tested you on the first salamah. What
are you going to do?
How are you? How are you? Tell me
a little bit about yourself.
So, my name's Hamza. I'm born and raised
in Dublin, Ireland.
23.
My parents are from Algeria.
That's basically in a nutshell
about myself.
What do I do? Yeah.
Alhamdulillah,
we
established the youth organization here in Dublin, Ireland.
Me and 3 of the brothers,
it's called 1 Badi 1 Ummah.
It's based on the hadith of the prophet,
peace be upon him, where he's explained that
the ummah is like 1 body. Right. If
a part of it hurts,
the whole body doesn't sleep at night until
How how long have you been doing the
youth group thing?
I've been involved with the community ever since
we were raised. We were raised in the
local mosque, one of the biggest mosques here
in Ireland. Yeah. And,
to be honest, we were raised with any
academic events,
any different halaqas,
by our elders, etcetera. So
the idea started off
with, when we were just 3 in the
borders, me, Riyadh and Suhayb
where we decided
to raise funds for a charity, basically. This
wasn't
Like an international charity? Yeah. Basically, it's
a it's a registered charity here in Ireland.
We started off with Human Appeal, Human Appeal
in Ireland. That was our first,
ever
charitable organization that we've ever started with. And
we started as something that's
we're doing good for basically
the people for the sake of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
And I think I remember one of the
challenges was that we were swimming in a
place called the 44 here in Dunlari, nearly
where you had 2 today at Loza, especially
2 minutes away from it. And it's a
place where people jump in to the water.
It's very cold. And we decided to do
it in the winter months. Are you serious?
Yeah. You jumped in the cold water in
the winter months. Yes. While it was snowing.
While it was snowing? While it was snowing,
yeah. Like even So the intelligence level is
unusually high. Very high,
Yeah. It's, it's an interesting one, to be
honest.
Alhamdulillah, we start we started off as an
idea. How, like, especially
stupid things people call it interesting. Yeah. Okay.
But anyway, go on. Go on. So you
could tell how, basically, the idea kicked off.
We were adrenaline junkies basically. Yeah. Always looking
for a thrill.
Everything, anything that's exciting. Nobody got hurt, right?
Nobody got hypothermia or No. No.
For the challenges, no. But,
as we started to establish the organization, it
was me, Riyadh, and Suhayb We,
we thought of we're thinking of different names,
and I think Riyadh came up with the
names. Why don't we call it any one
body, one ummah, and one body, one nation?
We started off with different names. We fell
off with, like, we're comfortable with 1 body,
1 ummah. That's how we established it. And
we started off with doing activities that
hasn't been done before in terms of,
swimming in every single county in Ireland. For
example, swimming in every single city, like you
say in America, in Ireland in 5 days.
So we've covered every single city in Ireland
and we swam in every single county in
Ireland in 5 days to raise funds for
the Irish homeless. And,
Interesting. Yeah. And it caught attention by the
news media because it hasn't been attempted before.
And they could, like, we've raised, it's only
it wasn't a large amount like our previous
fundraisers, but the impact that it had
on the Irish people was far much better
than the funds that were raised. Why do
I say that? Because
we raised around 2 or €3,000 which is
it's good but it's very minimal. Right. But
the impact it had when we were looking
at our social media accounts and we were
looking at the comments, there was Irish people,
non Muslims commenting
oh my God, 3 Muslims are doing things
that the people of Ireland are not doing.
They're helping our own. 3 Muslims are doing
this, and why are we doing this? So
when they're looking at Muslims and Islam
from that channel How beautiful. Yeah.
So, you know, moving on we decided to
really
like, this started to grow gradually,
and we decided to, I knew, like, we
can actually make something out of this, you
know, for our, like, we know the prophet,
peace be upon him, said that there's 3
things that follow,
that continuous
rewards after your death, and one of them
is
continuous charity. So why don't we set up
an organization where it would benefit the 3
of us even after we pass away and
we can pass on to the next generation?
And that's what we've been doing lately. There
has been times where,
it slowed down, people get busy, you have
work, college, etcetera.
But still go until this day. And
we've recently had
a quite tragic incident with one of our
founders, like I mentioned, Suhay Bahramahullah.
Where it happened?
He, actually drowned in the same place that
we were doing these crazy challenges in.
How old was he? 23, same age as
me.
Wow.
He,
the story about it was, it was me
and the Muad.
We were
thinking about it, it still mind boggling me
till this day. Uh-huh. How Allah planned everything.
Because one thing you need to know that
me and Sohayb Rahimahullah and Riyadh will never
ever go swimming alone. It's a thing that
we've never ever done. We're always together.
We've never ever swam alone since we've known
each other. And
in the past couple of years, like me
and Sohayb became and he's he was my
best friend.
And,
like, every single
day, I'm seeing him.
So
the the day before the incident,
I got unexpected call that I need to
leave Ireland. I need to go to the
UK as soon as possible. On board, I
needed my help, basically. Okay.
And it was like 11 PM near midnight.
So any excuse that I gave to my
brother, he found a solution to it. Oh,
I'm too tired. Oh, I'll do this. Oh,
I can't walk a flight. Okay, I'll do
this. Every single problem I gave him there
was solution to it. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
wanted me out of the country.
So I left,
it was meant to be a one day
quick trip. Yeah. I'm back. As I'm on
the way back, I get a call from
Sahib Rahimu Allah and,
he's going, Hamza, yo Hamza, where you at?
I'm just coming back from,
Manchester.
I'm going back to Dublin.
Where are you?
And, he flipped the camera, and it was
the same place that we were in, 44.
I was like, are you jumping in? Are
you jumping in?
Then the connection got interrupted. I was in
the motorway. And,
the thing is like me, like, Subhaib radiAllahu
was really looking forward to entering
swimming because, like, he was graduating this year,
he finished his final 4 years of computer
science,
And he was under a lot of stress,
final projects.
And he was really looking forward
to getting it off his chest. And one
of his ways on releasing stress is swimming.
He really got addicted to it.
So and coming up to it,
I used to always go to the place
and I was, Oh, sorry, but you're coming
down? He's like, No, no, no. I have
to focus on my studies. You know, my
mom really wants me to focus on my
studies. As soon as I finish, let's let's
go. And we had plans for Saturday
to really and he go swimming and
have food and catch up, basically.
So the connection got interrupted and disconnected 15
minutes
after it, I get a phone call from
one of his older brothers.
And
it's from a fake account on Instagram, so
I didn't want to answer. And he's calling
and calling and calling and calling.
I answered, Assalamu alaikum, who's this?
Assalam, it's Mohammed.
Who is Mohammed? He says, I'm Suhaib's brother,
where are you?
Coming back to Dublin. Where's Suhaib?
I don't know. I spoke to him 15
minutes ago. What are you what are you
talking about? And I'm hearing walkie talkies in
the background. I'm hearing a lady speaking in
the background. Oh, no. I'm like I'm like,
What happened?
He's like, Who who is he with? I'm
like, I don't know. There was no one
there. It was only me and him speaking.
That was it.
What happened?
And there was nothing there.
Couple of minutes go by and
I started
any thinking about the worst. It's a car
crash. Drowning? No. It's impossible. So I was
kinda drowned. He's amazing swimmer. We've been swimming
there for years. He wouldn't drown. That was
out of the picture.
So I'm looking at Google Maps. I'm zooming
into roads. Has there been any accidents? I'm
zooming in. My head's playing crazy games.
And then we call one of his older
brothers,
and he says,
yeah, he's in critical unit.
In allah. Intensive care and he's been found
drowned.
Soon as I got that news,
my heart sunk to my stomach because,
we were coming. You were driving at the
ferry? Yeah, I was, yeah, we were hopping
under the ferry and then I told him
my heart. I was like, my heart, my
heart. Like, I don't know the feeling. I
can't explain it to you. And he was
like, pull over. Pull over. Pull over.
I don't know. It's like someone just came
and gave me
a smack. I've never felt something like this
ever in my life. I've lost my grandmother.
I've lost my cousins, I've lost my grandfather,
I've lost.
But
with this individual So you didn't see it
coming at all. And not like,
like we've lost any
guy from the youth
a couple of years ago.
And
any of I was always the guy that's
consoling,
have patience. Sabar.
It's okay. It's in the.
But there's a famous saying that says,
How easy is it to speak about patience
When it's not your calamity. When it's not
your calamity.
And that was just playing on my head
over and over and over again. Now I
understand.
What people are going through. What people are
going through. And then,
oh my God. I must have hit you
so hard.
I didn't know what to think. I didn't
know what to think. I'm going around, I'm
walking around. There's still hope. He's in critical
unit. Yeah. There's still hope. He's gonna get
up. We're gonna speak to him. He's gonna
get back on his feet.
All of these thoughts. I'm in the very
the very street hours from the UK, it's
3 hours. I'm
just sitting down, I'm thinking, I'm walking around,
I'm praying, making duh, I'm walking around up
and down. I'm just I don't know. My
mind's doing
back flips.
And,
we we go to the hospital straight away
as soon as we land, and,
you know, they said they can't
no one's allowed to enter at the moment.
There's too many people. First thing in the
morning, the next day I go
and,
see him there, and it's just
tubes in his mouth and wires all over
it.
Something out of the movies.
Like, that's
that's the guy I spoke to 15 minutes
and this is what happened?
Like,
what?
And,
I'm a guy that usually never really tears
up.
But seeing my best mate there in that
situation,
There's just that flowin', you know? And,
it's very hard to see, you know?
That was like
my blood brother, you know. He was literally
Yeah. My blood brother. Like, yeah, there's there's
people that you meet in life and
they're even closer to you than
your own blood brother. I have an older
brother, but suhaima
Allah was closer to him than me.
And he was
an individual that always motivated me in terms
of salat. He was known for not missing
a single prayer in the masjid. He was
known for his manners. He was known
for doing good.
And he hates cameras.
One of the things I always remember about
Subhayhi wa rhammulahi hates cameras. I'm a guy
that always records. I'm always on social media
promoting everything. He's gonna have to record me.
Don't record me, bud. Don't record me. And
he to the point where he's like, okay,
Khasa give up, this guy's never gonna stop
recording me. Just do your thing. So he
always likes to hide
his deeds.
And,
that's one of the things that,
like, I'm still shocked about. Like, this is
the things that I know about him that
I've seen.
What he what does he have hidden between
him and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala that we
don't know about?
You know? Yeah.
So
that moment in my life was, well, lies
like I've never ever
been hit with something like that in my
life. So Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has never
tested me with something like this ever.
And like I said, we've been through calamities,
we've been through hardship, but this one was
a real test.
Like, Allah has really put me to the
test there. What are you gonna do now?
Are you gonna be patient? Are you gonna
be
and,
the critical unit was a nightmare
every single day. I I couldn't leave the
hospital.
I couldn't leave the hospital. I left the
hospital for one day. I couldn't sleep all
night.
I'm at home. I'm just opening my eyes.
I'm just thinking. I was like, I can't
sleep here.
I had to go sleep slept in the
hospital. We got the most uncomfortable sleep in
my life, but it is what it is.
We got, like, 2 couches and slept, and
I used to wake up with back pain
every single day, but I've done the job.
And that's that went on for now, nearly
2 or 3 weeks, just sleeping in the
hospital. I couldn't sleep at home.
And,
and then the doctors and the consultants just
kept saying
to the family, there's no improvements,
and there's little to no brain activity in
in the brain.
And,
they were basically telling the family that we
need to take the plugs off.
And the family was like, no. Islam, we
can't do that. No. There's hope. His heart
is still beating.
It's been going on back and forth, and
they were like, listen. That's it.
Legally speaking in Ireland, he has to go.
We've given him more than
what we can.
And the family was like, okay. What kind
of alternative
solutions do we have? They were like, take
him somewhere else.
All of all of Ireland wouldn't accept him
in the state.
So they started calling home. He was from
Libya.
And, Libya was like, no, you can't accept
him in the state.
But,
they made a few other phone calls
and a lot of dua, a lot
of a lot of connections. Alhamdulillah.
They decided to accept him.
And, they put him in a on a
on a private jet ambulance, and they took
him.
And, 2 or 2 weeks or 3 weeks
after I get a message, make a dua.
Make a okay. You've been making dua? What's
this?
So I decided to call him, and I
can hear the machines. There's
people crying and.
He's a kid. He's on he's on he's
on his final moments. He's
about to go.
Here we go. I'm home alone now. My
parents are not home.
And I'm hearing different stories. People are saying,
and
I'm like, what are you talking about? I'm
speaking to his brother right now. The machines
are still blaring. But the other day I
know that the machines means halal, the hats,
has stopped beating.
So I'm starting, like, my emotions are taking
over me now. You know, he's not dead.
He's not dead. Where did you get the
news? He's not dead. He's not dead.
And, that's it. When he said, Allah's
command to
Allah. That's when the real reality sunk in
because
that little bit of hope was killing me.
He can survive. He can survive. He can
survive. Yeah.
But then
the stamp of reality came and just
ended it all. It's reminding me of when,
my sister had cancer, and then it went
away. She went and she had chemo. She
didn't tell anyone. She tried to hide her
from the family,
and it went away. Then it came back
much stronger,
And,
she got hospitalized, and then now it couldn't
be hidden. So now everybody got to find
out. The family got to find out,
And she got to a point where
she had to be put in a specialized,
unit.
But in Dallas, where we live,
they consider that a nonemergency
because the medical system in the United States
is,
I don't have words to describe the corruption,
but it's not an emergency. So you can't
transfer her to the specialized hospital.
So we find out that the closest specialized
hospital is in,
is in Houston,
4 hour drive away.
And we're like, okay. Can we get an
ambulance to at least
take her there? Because they would take they
they might take her if you go in
through the emergency room.
Not actual transfer, but you block in like
in a walk in emergency,
they might take her.
Wouldn't give us an ambulance.
Wow. So I for the first time, I
drove an RV. You know, those mobile Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. I I got one of those.
My her her husband,
he drove the car. I carried her into
the back, and I'm just lying her lying
with her in the back, just making sure
she doesn't fall because she couldn't even sit
up. Wow. And we drove through the night,
like,
to the to the hospital. I put her
in a wheelchair, and we walk in. And
then that's how she got admitted admitted to
that. Because the first hospital told her she
has
she's not going to last a day, but
they wouldn't let her go to a hospital.
They wouldn't have transport?
No. No. So then we went through the
emergency room. They diagnosed her in an hour,
then they put her in the cancer unit
that they were refusing to put her in
otherwise.
And now she's there, and she would literally
be you know how you were sitting next
to your friend and you couldn't leave the
hospital?
I don't live in,
Houston. I live in Dallas. So I just
I'm now at this point, just living in
the hospital,
practically and down the street from it. I
got my parents,
a hotel. I'm just going back and forth
from the hospital. And she'd wake up maybe
5 minutes in a day, 8 minutes in
a day, say a word or 2. And
she used to work with me at Vienna.
So,
you know, and she just in, in like
half conscious, she'd just say my name. I'd
be, I'm right here. I'm right here. And
she'd refuse to eat. And then
the only one she'd drink something from is
if I'm holding it for her. So like
I'd give her and then
just 2 weeks before then, she had arranged
for me to go to a program
in, Malaysia.
And
I canceled it because I'm I'm not gonna
leave her. Of course.
So she comes to her conscience, and she
goes, why aren't you in Malaysia right now?
And I was like, no. I I'm not
gonna go. I'm not gonna leave you. She
she gets really upset with me. She says,
I you have to promise me. I put
that together. You will go. You will not
stay behind. Go and come back.
But I will not be I'm not going
to eat anything if you don't go. She
starts she she goes big sister mode on
me. Right? So I was like,
I can't upset her in this state. Yeah.
Yeah. Okay. I'm going. I'm going.
So I go
to the programme, and
I still remember. I get the I I
come back from the program that night in
the hotel, and I get a call from
my my younger sister that she's gone.
And,
my entire family was in devastation. I was
frozen, and I, like,
I didn't know what to think. And I
I don't even know how I I don't
remember the flight. I don't remember anything. I
don't just
I got there, and
my family was in disarray. Nobody
this is the this is the first time
we're dealing with something like this in my
family. And she was my she was my
best friend. Wow. Like, I've had many friends
in my life, but nobody likes Saima. Like,
she was my best friend. And if you
if you saw us together, you wouldn't think
we're siblings.
We're 2 different worlds, but she was my
absolute best friend.
And him.
And him. And you know, it's not an
easy thing to,
to deal with, especially the whole part you
said, you know, like, okay. She's she's drinking
now. She's eating now. It's gonna it's gonna
get better. We used to eat we used
we used to dream for that. Yeah. But
there was actually nothing. Yeah. There was nothing.
Because we had the from the 3 weeks
that we were sleeping in the hospital. Yeah.
Which you shouldn't be sleeping in a critical
care unit, but they they found out that
we're very emotional.
So they've done a
few switches. But
we've seen at least 6 or 7 deaths.
Families coming in. My sister's about to die.
She dies. Move on. We've seen so many
patients coming in and out and Sahib is
still there. Right. And one of the patients
was like, oh, my sister is moving her
right hand. Or I wish
Sahib opened his eyes. I wish Sahib and
I think they were giving him some,
medicine where
and it was only a reflex from his
eyes, and his eyes would would open. I
was like, oh, Suhaib's listening to us. He's
reacting. He's reacting. And then the doctor you
know, the doctors were telling us, no. This
is only a reflex from the eyes. I
was like, no. No. No. They don't know
what we know. We know we can hear
us. The soul can hear us any bit
of a hope that there was. So after
after he was gone Yeah.
How did you
feel?
How did you deal with
all of that experience?
Allah here.
I didn't know how to deal with it,
to be honest. Yeah?
He was one of the guys that
whenever there's nothing there or there's nothing or
no plans, Saeb. Yo, Saeb, you wanna
go?
Dad's gone.
What do I do now?
Yeah.
Who's gonna join me in my swimming?
How are we getting Like a it's such
a part of your life. It's an extension
of yourself almost, you know? I didn't know
what to do. I bought one One of
the things I used to always remember is
when the prophet, salallahu alayhi wasallam, lost his
son, Ibrahim.
Yeah.
Of course, like,
I
was actually on social media and I was
just,
like I always tell this to to the
brothers beside me,
like if it wasn't for Islam,
I would have lost it. I would have
gone crazy. That's the only thing that was
holding me back. Allah
is testing me. Allah tests you based on
the first salamah, the first hit. You can't
lose yourself in the first hit and then
be like, oh, yeah. Allah
is testing me. You failed.
Allah tested you on that first salamah. What
are you going to do?
And as soon as that hit me where?
So had it not been for Islam, what
would have happened?
You know, you look up families here without
Islam, and the first thing they result to
was
alcohol. Let me forget about it. Drugs. Let
me forget about it. Let me do this.
And
Islam holds you back. Yeah.
Yeah. Akhan is better for you. You know,
like, I was thinking about this conversation and
like,
the word for grief,
in the Quran there are a few. But
one of
them, one of the more intense words, huzun
is the common word for grief in the
Quran. But karb
is actually a much stronger word. Al karb
al a'adeem, for example.
And Allah uses that for
and he uses it in 3 contexts.
He uses it for Nuh alaihi salaam,
who
in his own way, for the longest time,
has false hope
that things are going to turn around for
his family. Right? But he's holding onto that
hope. And then every day that that hope
is not met is another,
you know, another
poke of pain, another stab, another stab, another
stab. It's not just when his son drowned.
Like, in a sense, his son was drowning
every day. You know, and he's dealing with
that. Allah uses garb for,
Musa and Harun and their nation.
And those are 3 different kinds of kirk.
Like
Musa
his entire life
of grief and the things he went through,
and Harun
as his brother and also a slave of
the Israelites. Right? And all the things that
they went through on all the atrocities that
they saw that they couldn't get out of.
And
but then the 3rd time,
Allah uses it and He says, min kulli
karbin, like Allah will rescue you
from all kinds of kerb. And it's interesting.
Allah uses the word tanjia, like rescue
with kerb. Like, it's not something
you can get out of yourself.
Like, this this kind of grief is not
something that a human being is capable of
overcoming on their own. It is something Allah
only Allah can rescue you from. You would
think rescue you from, like,
a deadly thing, a danger. Allah uses the
word rescue for this kind of and then
I I started wondering, what what does karab
actually come from? Because, you know, Arabic words,
they have this interesting origin. Right?
And karb alhamu shadeed, fine. That's the the
dictionary meaning is intense grief, but it actually,
was
used when you when you take the shovel
and you dig the inside of the earth
and you bring it out.
So the outside of the earth is tough,
but the inside is soft soil.
Right? When you dig in and you bring
the inner softness out
Yeah. That's actually karbul ard. Okay. And what
that means is there's emotions inside me. I
can handle myself. I have composure on the
outside, but something happened that cut me deep
and something deep and raw inside
was ripped out and pulled out of me.
Right? And that's one of the meanings of
Then it's it's used for the sun. Like
Karbo Shams says when the sun is drowning
or it's setting in the evening. Right. So
all of its brightness is going away. You
can feel
light going away
and slowly disappearing.
Right? This darkness is taking over you. The
feeling of darkness is taking over you.
Was used for like,
when a container is almost full.
And that's why the Ulema used the word
to describe grief that almost overwhelms you, like
it drowns you in itself.
You know, so it's so incredible. And finally,
was used for like raqdul ghhalif. Like, when
you tie a bucket, you have to tie
the rope really tight for the well.
That knot was actually called a Qarab.
And like, it's a grief
that binds you. Like you can't undo it.
You can't get away from it. It keeps
coming back. It keeps hitting you. And Allah
keeps Allah says something so profound here that
he's the only one who can rescue you
from it. Like, you know, of course, people
go through traumatic experiences. Right? And they go
through grief and they're like, how do I
get past this? How do I move on
from this? I keep having these thoughts. I
keep crying. And, you know, I've met people
that lost their mom and they say my
mom was my everything.
And it's been months, it's been years and
I cry like it just happened.
I can't get past it. And of course
we have the story of Yahuwah Alayhi Salaam
who
like, it's actually the hope that's killing him.
Like if he found out that Yusuf was
dead. Yeah. At least, you know, there's a
It's
closure. I can move on, but he doesn't
know what happened to him.
He doesn't know if he died peacefully or
he died a violent death or is still
being abused. He doesn't know anything.
It's just stabbing away at him all the
time. Mhmm. Right?
And and Allah then says the only one
who can rescue you. Some people will be
tested with longer periods of grief, some with
shorter periods of grief, but the only one
who can rescue you in the end is
Allah. Is Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And people will people will run
to the club to escape their grief. Video
games,
binge watching TV,
drugs, alcohol.
Right? They'll Exactly. They'll start doing, you know,
thrill sports or whatever, you know, just to
escape
their grief.
And
literally
the term you use is escape, right? Escapism.
And Allah says there's no escape. The only
rescue
is Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Like what an incredible,
you know,
powerful thing that Allah has given us that
in His words we can find,
we can, we can find relief Allah. You
know, the last thing I'll share with you
on this is like
Nuh
right? How long, how many years of grief?
And
Allah says about him, like
Nuh called on us
and how how beautiful, how amazing we are
as givers of a response. Meaning Allah says,
I'm the best giver of a response.
And then he says,
Then he says, we rescued him. Now the
critical question is,
if Allah is the best one to give
a response, how come he didn't give it
sooner?
Right? Like the best response would be the
moment I felt grief,
Allah solves it. And it's not like I'm
going to make any better dua than Noor
because it's kind of a prophet. So
I can't beat him in Ibadah. Exactly. So
and if he's making dua for 950 years
and Allah is not relieving his grief, and
then Allah says he's the best to respond.
The Ayah is teaching us that
the relief and the rescue,
it's not on our timetable.
You have to give yourself to
Allah and he, he will decide when the
relief will come. Exactly. You know,
it'll come for Musa's mother in a few
hours and she'll be reunited with Musa
and it'll come with,
Yaqub alaihis salaam after many years and he'll
be regularly reunited with Musa. And it will
take 9 50 years for Nuh alayhi salaam.
You always use the example of, like, all
we see is pixelated images. Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala sees the full picture. That's correct. Yeah.
And that's Yeah. That's what it is. And
Subhanallah. One of the areas
Yeah. You think we've just created you uselessly.
Yes. You're not gonna come back to us.
So
this life is just, like, it's a test.
It's the nirma of Islam, man. Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah.
The blessing of having Allah's words
to help us get through
these really challenging times in our life, you
know.
And
just, just having the comfort of knowing
that
we have to do our best
to be able to be reunited
with the people that we love. Exactly. Right?
Because the
gathering is happy happening whether we like it
or not, it's coming. Yeah. But whether we're
gonna be united on the right side of
things on the wrong, that's still up to
us. Exactly. That's still, you know. So now
it becomes
when I lose a loved one, when you
lose a loved one, then our motivation to
get away from darkness and to run towards
Allah's light, like Exactly. That should become all
the more intense because
there's loved ones at the end of that
journey, not just for ourselves in our meeting
with Allah, but they're also there
and they're waiting for us too, you know?
Exactly. SubhanAllah. And like one of the critical
questions as well is like, what are you
gonna be known for after you pass away?
For
so Ibrahim Allah who is known for a
man of the masjid. The imam of the
masjid
has bears witness, but he never sees
a line of fajr without Suhayb.
It. And the people that are around him,
family, friends,
people that don't even know him. Like one
of the guys that he said he met
him for wallahi, he said he met him
for 10 minutes. This guy is from the
UK. He's met him for 10 minutes. The
conversation was suhayb.
And when he heard suhayb passed away, he
flew
from from the UK to Ireland to join
our group speaking about Suhayb. He said, oh,
Allah, I had this conversation with his brother
for 10 minutes, and he had a big
impact about me. I don't know what this
guy achieved. I don't know how it hit
me, but
your brother's something special. And some people are
just special to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. And,
alhamdulillah, I till this day, I look up
to him like, how how am I gonna
beat this guy?
And he was known for a masjid. And,
we decided to
fundraise for a masjid and a quranic school
for him. Because he was a man that
was known for that. And it's only right
that we do something on, under his behalf
to carry on his legacy inshallah. Well, you
know how beautiful our religion, like death is
a tragedy
across the board in humanity. And for us,
death can be a means of celebrating the
good legacy of someone. And it could be
a means of carrying,
like, perpetuating a goodness
and even being jealous of the one who
passed in a good way.
Right? Like we're like
it is like they made it. May Allah
forgive him and grant him the highest levels
in Jannah, but it's
a beautiful truth that Allah has given us.
And the stronger we connect with Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala
and with the core of what we believe,
like the easier life becomes to navigate. Thanks
so much for sharing that with me.
I know it's a difficult experience to recall,
but
I appreciate it. And I think, inshallah, it
will benefit others who are going through
their own trials that Allah has given them.
You know? Allah is Saba. Yeah. Saba is
a, it's a light word. As soon as
you're afflicted with it, it carries a huge,
huge meaning behind it. Yeah. Alhamdulillah.
And your man of Sabr
give you good risk and make you a
good continuation
of the inspiration your friend gave you. Ameen
You Rabbis Allah to forgive your assistance and
grant to the highest level of judgment. Ameen
sharing.
sharing.