Hadith of the Day #12 – Stay Away from FOUR

Nadim Bashir


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AI: Summary © The importance of character development is emphasized, along with avoiding insulting others and criticizing others. The speaker discusses the use of profanity and disrespect in relationships, as well as the history of the Prophet sal Hyundai- sails. Proper treatment of people and avoiding abusive language in speech are also emphasized. Proper treatment is key to avoiding embarrassment and sexual abuse, and avoiding being urged by others is also emphasized.
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Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Welcome to another segment of Hadith of the day, where we take a hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and expand upon it and understand it in our current context. before it began, I'm sure that you have noticed by now that majority of the Hadith I've been covering in this segment of Hadith of the day, it is related to o'clock. And the reason why I wanted to talk about something like this is because the Prophet said, Allahu Allah, he was salam, even before he became a prophet, the one thing that becomes that is very manifest in his life. And that is very apparent in his life, is the fact that he had noble character, it was not as

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if that he received where he and then he adopted noble character, it is part of who we are, that we need to have good character. And you know, it does not matter how much knowledge a person has, if a person does not have character, then you are missing out on a lot. And subhanAllah you will see and I'm sure that you and I, you know, we have come across people like this in the past, people who are, you know, who may be scholars, people who are very well learned, and we, you know, if we had a bad experience with them due to their ill character, they usually what happens is that we get put off, and we don't want to listen to that person. This is why it was so Lhasa Allahu alayhi wa sallam even

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before he became a prophet, he has such noble character, and this is what drew people towards him. So that when Allah subhanho wa Taala gave him the Quran when Allah sent him the way he then eventually when he did call people to Allah subhana wa Taala people usually see the very first thing people see is your character. So this is why it is very important that we need to develop our character like Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, like we have to make our character like the character of the Prophet salallahu Salam, our speaking like the speaking of the Prophet SAW Selim, our demeanor, like the demeanor of the Prophet, Allah has set up our attitude, like the attitude of

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, our ability and the problem the way he was able to overcome his hardships and difficulty, we should also learn from the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now today, there's a hadith of Ibn Masuda of your coin, that I would like to share with all of you. And this hadith pretty much sums up and tells us that there are four things, there are four things that is not fitting for a believer to do. Meaning that if you if any one of us are doing one of these four, or we're doing two or three or all four, then this is a sign that we are not Kameel we are Iman is incomplete mean that there is a deficiency in our iman. So let's go through those

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four things. First of all, the hadith is what the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, ladies and men, that a believer does not do what the Torah and he does not insult others, or he does not taunt others when

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he does not curse others welfare Haish he is not vulgar when Al bevi and he is not shameless or he's abusing. These are the four things probably some has taught us that we should not be doing if we call ourselves a believer. Let's go through them the very first thing that Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that do not be insulting towards one another or do not turn to another. Now how many times today? You know, we taught each other based on the things that we have, or we taunt someone because the way that they look and or we taught someone because of their behavior and so forth. We have to understand that first of all, as a believer, we have to understand that there's a

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situation that a person may be going through like a lot of times, we may say something about someone, but we have no idea what is going on. We may refer to someone as something and it is the way Allah subhanaw taala has created them. So when we are taunting towards someone because of their language, or we're taunting someone because of the way they look, or were taunting them because of the family they come from or their lineage or were simply turning them because the way you know they may behave at the end of the

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De Allah subhanho wa Taala has created them that way. Now, just think about this Imagine if you came across a person who is considered as you know, who may be, you know, who is considered as mentally unstable. Now you look at that person and you say you may say something very disrespectful or very demeaning. At the end of the day, their situation is such that they are they are not responsible, and they're not going to be accountable for Allah subhanaw taala on the Day of Judgment, to say something against them, is as if you're saying something gets ALLAH SubhanA wa taala. Or imagine that someone because of their, you know, behavioral deficiency deficiencies, they are doing

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something which may be considered as abnormal, then even in that case, you say something that is taunting or disrespectful. Once again, the problem is, I'm telling us that you cannot do something like that. That's why it's very careful that before we say something about someone, or before we taught someone about anything, we are very careful. I want to share with you another example from the life of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, because when we talk about taunting and criticizing is very important that we understand the difference between criticizing and being, you know, providing constructive criticism. Like if you see someone doing something wrong, there's

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absolutely nothing wrong in providing constructive, respectful criticism. But one is to be critical and being disrespectful. For example, in the story of cabin Malika, the Ultron it's a very long story. And you can go back to the end of Surah Toba or Surah Bara where Allah subhanho wa taala. He says, While I left that I didn't live in a whole level, that there were three people who stayed away and they did not participate in joining the province Salaam and the expedition of the book. Now at that time, one of them was God, Ben Malik, a Sahaba, the Prophet saw some very close to the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam, you know, the prophet at some, you know, had a, you know, loved him very

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Without getting into the reasons and so forth. When the expedition of the book and its announcements to announcement took place, everyone was required to participate. Gaby Mike did not go. Now when the profile isn't reached the book, the Prophet SAW Allah someone was sitting with some people and one person was very critical, disrespectful about God. Oh, where's God? You know, like, Does he not know that the province Sam is here? And does he not know that everyone has to be you know, traveling with the province at some, and he's on here. And he was going in that direction, where he was being very disrespectful towards carbon Malik, right away the problem he did not approve of this. So once

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again, one is that a person is doing something wrong, and being disrespectful to that person or taunting that person or being you know, criticizing that person. The problem is how some has told us that we cannot do something like this. The second thing that Prophet salallahu is some has taught us that we cannot do is that we curse other people. And I've talked about this in the past that how the Prophet sal Allahu Allah, he was some he was not the cursing, nature, went to fail, even armor came. And he says, pray against my nation, curse them. Prophet, the Prophet alayhi salam said, No, I have not been sent as a person who sends curses, and do as against other people. I'm been I've been sent

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as a means of Rama. So we've talked about this in the past. The other two things that Prophet SAW Allah audio, some, he says is welfare Hush, like Do not be vulgar. And what happens is that for the most part, you know, there are some people that every word that comes out of their mouth, or every other word that comes out of their mouth, maybe some profanity, and you know, on the street, we refer to them as potty mouth, you know, these are people who have a potty mouth, meaning that whenever you talk to them, whenever they speak to you, you're such an especially if you have good character, you feel uncomfortable to be around those kinds of people, because every time they're

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saying something, and there is some profanity, that is coming out, or they're very vulgar in their speech, that you don't want to be around them. First of all, we don't find that this is ever fitting with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so we learn from this that we should not be this way. But on the other hand, what we do find at times is that there are people who are not generally vulgar. They're, they don't use profanity, but just imagine if they were, you know, in a fight, or they're in an argument and so forth. And they're, you know, you know, push comes to shove and things like this happen and you see them and that is when a person's true colors may come out. At that time

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a person he resorts to being vulgar. And that is where you see that, you know, is just completely wrong that in times like these we become vulgar, and times of desperation, we become vulgar in times of difficulty, we become vulgar or we use profanity. Just imagine just imagine you meet a person or you come across a person who is ignorant and he is being

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vulgar to you. Now, what do you do now first of all, that person is being vulgar. You don't need to be vulgar with him again. This is not what we learned from a suave sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In fact, we learned that when people came and they were vulgar with him, he was not he wasn't using profanity against them. So that's why it is not in the nature of a believer that they will use and they will use profanity, and they will be vulgar. And the second thing that we in the last thing that we learn and that is what LBV Now some have translated as shamelessness. Meaning that in your nature, in your behavior, and in your speech, you're just completely shameless. And this is very

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similar to the word fat fish. But another translation that has been given to this word is being abusive. So we're talking about verbal abuse, physical abuse, psychological abuse, emotional abuse, abuse of power, any kind of abuse is what is the word Bevy? So meaning that we cannot abuse people in any capacity, none whatsoever. So once again, we learn this from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now there was an incident by the way, this is a Hadith narrated by Isha Viola Tada. And this is mentioned in Bahati, too. And the reason why I'm sharing this hadith with you too, is because this teaches us that one is that you look at someone and they may have like some ill character, and

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you hate that aspect of them. Now, still, that does not mean that when they come across you, you can be disrespectful to them. There was a man and this is how you mentioned in Behati the man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he knocked on his door, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually he's not get upset at that person. Now the Raleigh desert mentioned or here the robbery is the roja is Aisha Radi Allahu Allah. So there's nothing much in the Hadith exactly what made the Prophet Allah is I'm upset. But the only thing we find we do find a hadith is that someone knocked on the door, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, let you know,

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admit him, let him come in. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was upset. And he said that this person is a, an evil person of some tribe and so forth, or some group of people. But when the man came in the problem was very cordial with him, he was very respectful to him. Now I shadow the EULA on her, she says, jasola, you are so upset with him. But as soon as he came in, you treated him completely different, like you are very common. Your approach you are very soft and your tone, and you treat him with honor and respect. And that is when they're I mean, what based on what I saw the LaTonya she said, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Elijah, the worst people

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are those whom the people desert or leave in order to save themselves from their dirty language or from their transgression mean that one is that I don't like what that person they did. But still, that does not give me the right that I should be, you know, I should be abusive towards that person, or I should speak to them in the wrong way. So this is why this is a very powerful how you the Prophet SAW Salem, because usually what we do is when we don't like the behavior of someone, or someone has done something wrong, one is to one is to dislike the act in itself. But what happens is that we began to dislike the person. And because we dislike the person, when that person comes

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across us, then we become disrespectful to them. So this is a very powerful Hadith that where we separate the action and the person. One is the action was the person, we treat that person with respect. Go back to the story of Musa alayhis, salaam Musa your son was being sent to Freetown and Allah saying for Kula Allahu Akbar, Lena, once again, one is that a person one is fit on his transgression. But at the end of the day, you treat him and talk to him with honor and respect. And hopefully he will come closer to you. So this is what we learned from Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. Not only that, but when the Prophet alayhi salam was sending why they're going to Jebel to

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go and teach the people, what was one of the last things that he advised him of, to be protective of your tongue, make sure because all these four things that we talked about, whether it is being critical, or being, you know, insulting someone, or cursing someone, or, you know, using vulgar language or using profanity, or you know, being abusive to someone, all of these four things are done with the tongue. That's why the profile is I'm told was in Java, two, because he's sending him as a diary. And he's sending him as a teacher. And if he's going to be using these kinds of things, then eventually what happens is that how are people going to come close the system. So this is why

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it is very important that if we want to bring people to if we want people to come close to Islam, if we want people to come close to the deen of Allah subhanaw taala. We have to make sure that we stay away from any of these four things. And not only that, but any

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Other things that can push people away from Allah subhanho wa Taala that we have to stay away from that. Inshallah tomorrow I want to share another beautiful Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that is somewhat connected to this, because as I as I just said, saying something or doing something that brings people closer to Allah and not push them away, I will share with you something tomorrow in sha Allah very beautiful Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but for today, once again, we stay away from four things. Once again, do not insult or taunt anyone. Number two, do not curse anyone. Cursing once again does not mean like vulgar, it means saying that oh

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Allah destroy them, Oh Allah destroy this person, that person so forth, staying away from those kind of things, sending curses of Allah upon other people. Number three is Do not be indecent or in your speech or using vulgar or profanity in your speech. And number four is do not abuse other people. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us in our character like the character of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I ask Allah that He takes us from this dunya at a time when he is most pleased with us. And on the day judgment, may Allah subhana wa Taala give us a place next to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and close to Allah subhanho wa Taala I mean no but Allah mean does that

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