Nadim Bashir – Elite Followers #10 Fatimah RA 12

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The segment discusses the loss of Fatima Rhodiola Unha and her struggles during difficult times, including the loss of her parents and family members. The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning Arabic and avoiding marriage practices. The discussion also touches on the spread of the idea of "married to" and the "anything you want" rule in Islam, as well as the importance of the Mahara's (the god who gives birth to a woman named Fatima). The segment also touches on the "anything you want" rule in Islam and the "anything you want" concept in American society.
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Salam salam ala Hilbert I mean,

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WA Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Ryan was salam with the state when it gets even Kathy Rama Botswana klaren mana Adama alum Tara in Antalya Hakim Ravi Shahi so they were silly Emery water Dr. melissani of the hook holy. So Inshallah, today we will cover

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some of the life of Fatima Rhodiola Unha who was the last hall of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam that we are covering shallow as if time permits we will finish her biography today her brief biography. If time does not permit inshallah we will finish it off next week. But then I also want to briefly mention the who are the caretakers of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there were some certain women who took care of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the Prophet Liga son was young, and during his time during his life, so we will talk about that next week inshallah. So, we come to Fatima with Yolanda Arnhem. And many of us we have heard the story about the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam before he became a prophet, that there was a flood that took place in Mecca. And as a result of that flood, the the Kaaba was affected by that flood. So what the police did was that they agreed to break down the Kaaba, and they were very cautious about this, and they even came in before the leaders have the courage even first, before they even struck the Kaaba. They made they made a proclamation to Allah subhanho wa taala, that we are only doing this noun of a noun, not out of immunity and not out of hate, and not out of disrespect, but only to rebuild the Kaaba and they said that they rebuild the Kaaba, but they ran short of funds at the very end. And

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that's why till today, when you go to Makkah, when you see the Kaaba in itself, there is a semicircle which is called the Halim. And that is an indication that the Kaaba, actually that was originally part of the Kaaba, but because they ran short other funds, they cannot extend the cover all the way to the Hatim and that's why they say that if you pray solid inside the Hatim with means that inside the semicircle, then you have you is as if you have prayed inside the Kaaba is as if you have prayed inside the Kaaba. That's why you know, people who make the laws, you will see that no one makes a shortcut inside the Hatim because that's part of the Kaaba in one way. So you make you

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make the walk around the Kaaba, and you go around the house clean for those of you who have not been,

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you know, the Hatim in the picture. It looks really, really small. But actually, if you go there, it's like a six foot wall. It's really, really tall. And so you have to go around that nonetheless, the Quraysh they were there, they were rebuilding the car, but they ran short of funds and all this took place. So they finish off whatever they could. At the very end, there was a dispute that broke amongst a parish that who will place the Blackstone ad on the Kaaba, and there were multiple differences and then they agreed that the next man who will walk through the door of the Kaaba or the Haram will be the one who will decide amongst ourselves, and lo and behold, it was Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who walked in the door, that Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he served as a mediator, and he helped bring that conflict. He helped help them resolve their conflict. So without going into great detail about the story, what I want to mention is this, that after Roswell sallahu wa salam finished from taking care and resolving that matter, when he came back home, and this was approximately five years before the hit before the prophet hood, five years before the prophets of salaam he received his revelation. It said that when he went home, he was given the GLAAD news in the GLAAD hiding of the birth of Fatima out of your Latella on her and that

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is when he went home and he even praise Allah subhanaw taala and that day, that today Alhamdulillah I was able to save so many people from killing each other from shedding blood. And not only that, but on this special day to me, Allah subhanho wa Taala He granted me a daughter and he named her father Emma. And not only that, but he also gave her the name as the Hara. And that's why we refer to Fatima. Some refer to as faulty matzah Hara from Yolanda Langham Fathom out of the water and, of course, while she was growing up, you know that Rupiah became before her Zeno came before her Rukia came before her only cool film came before her. She was the youngest of all the daughters. So when

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the two older daughters of rustless Allahu alayhi wa sallam, or two or two of her older sisters,

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Xena and Okaya when they got married and they left

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She actually felt their loss and one day she came to Hadith or the Allah Tala on her. And she said to, she said to her own mother, that do not allow anybody to take me away from you. And from my father, because this separation, if I'm feeling this, if I'm feeling the separation between me and my sisters, I can imagine the separation between me and my parents, and please do not take me on do not please do not allow anyone to take me away. Now another reason she said this was because some people are of the opinion that during the time of the outdoors or during the time resource, Allahu alayhi wa sallam, when kids were born, they will send their kids to the outskirts of the city to

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the, to the deserts of to the deserts, where people they will learn or they will speak the very pure dialect of Arabic. And not only that, but Makkah was a place of business and trade, people will come from out of town. So therefore it was a the chances of them contracting a type of disease or illness was the was really high. So in order to avoid this and in order for them to learn the very pure firsthand Arabic and also to for them to receive the pure organic food at that time, they will send their kids to the to the deserts as far as far tomorrow the Allah Allah Allah is concerned that she was never sent to the desert and she stayed with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and her own

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mother. Khadija Radi Allahu Allah and her took care of her while she was growing up.

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In a very as she was growing up, she said, as I said that she was born five years before the province before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received prophethood. So it said that after the Prophet SAW Allah Islam received prophet hood, and he began to convey his message. It said that those times were extremely difficult upon Fatima or the Allah Tala Aha, because it is not easy for any child. This is something that children they do see the witness. And they do feel that when they see their parents going through some difficulty, or some adversities in life, they feel it. So what happened was that this time was a difficult moment for Fatima or the Allah Tada because she was see

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constantly her father being attacked, being verbally abused. And this is something that we even see in different stories, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he will be praying solids and the Quraysh they will come and they will take the insides of the camel which were extremely heavy, they will come and they will put it on the back of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, while he was making sujood, so that the Prophet sallahu wa sallam he will not be able to get back up. And the girl or the daughter of the prophet who would always come and remove those and clean the face of the sloths Allah Azza wa sallam it was known to be Fatima or the Allah Tala on how she would always come

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and try to alleviate this misery from her own father. And not only that, but it was not only her it was her entire family who stood up in the case of Khadija she stood up for her husband in case of the children she there was standing up for their they were standing up for their father. If you remember the there was a boycott that took place which was called the which in Sierra is referred to as sharp ibn Abi Taalib, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his followers, they were closed in or they were boycotted. They were emotionally psychologically financially boycotted from everyone else. At that time, it says that thought about what the Allah did on her. She was somewhere

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around 12 to 13 years old when she experienced this. And they went through three tough years of that boycott. The boycott came to an end in the 10th year of prophethood. And it was the same year that after people like Fatima or the Allah that I'm her and her other sisters, as soon as they were able to free themselves to this boycott, or they were able to, they were they were freed from this boycott. Then it said that Allah subhanaw taala tested them by taking their mother away and in the 10th year of prophethood. This was again another difficult moment for father model the alotta line ha now remember that you have to remember that Xena for the Allah Tala Anna was already married.

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Rocha year or the Allah Allah Allah was already married they were gone the only one who was with Fatima or the Allah Allah Allah at that time was only consume Rhodiola on her. So these two sisters they really assisted, they really looked after one another they supported one another. And I said that in this great time, this time of distress. Allah subhanho wa Taala took away

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Under mother Khadija Viola Unha is said that the prophets uncle Abbas Ibn Abdul Muttalib

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they and hurt his family and his wife, specially Omen Favell. They actually took care of Fatima and omit Kazuma the Allah Tala anhand. Now we know that without going into great detail, let's get to the Hijra of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in the original resource Allahu alayhi wa sallam if we remember the Prophet alayhi salam never migrated with his family. The family of obika The Allah Tala and were left behind. So was the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they were left behind. At that time the Prophet SAW Allah who it was send them by then he had already married so that'll be Allah Tala on her. He was already in marriage contracts in a marriage

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contract with I show the Allah Tala on her, but that marriage had not been consummated till then. So what happened was that both families were left behind. When the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam he migrated to Medina, of course, he did feel that he has come all the way here to Mecca, he's safe. But what is the affair of his family back in Makkah, because, you know, there's always that fear that now that the Father is not there, will the Quraysh come? Will they say anything? Like for example, is said about the daughters of obika, the Allah and I'm when I woke up that I migrated with Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam, his father, Abu Hanifa, who at that time was blind, he was

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blind, he came to the, to the house of his own son, Albuquerque, alotta line. And he began to criticize Albuquerque allowed that line. And he began to say that What kind of father do you have, that he looked after his own safety, and he never cared after your safety. And then he asked his own granddaughter, that Didn't your father leave anything for you what a man he is that he first of all, he left you. And then he did not even leave anything behind for you. Now, in reality, over the allotted time, did not actually leave anything for his family. Whatever he had, he took it. And he left his family in the trust of Allah subhanho wa taala. But you see that even like the his own

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daughter, she was smart. She was intelligent. And so what she did was that there was like a bag of rocks there at that time. And she began to shake that little. And of course of Oklahoma is blind, the only thing you can do is hear. So when he heard that bag of rocks, and you know, the rocks come in contact with one another. She said that no, he has left us somebody some money behind, so don't worry about it. And at that time, then he will he became a little calm, and he left. But nonetheless this happened during the time the resource Allahu alayhi wa sallam. So what happened later on was the adopted son of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Zayed bin Khalifa Rhodiola line. He was

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then later appointed virus was so long while he was salam to go back to Makkah, and to go into Makkah in such a way that no one finds out about His coming. He went into Makkah, according to these instructions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he got the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he came all the way back to He came all the way to Medina. As soon as the founder of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam came, she fought them out of the Allah Donna, she was extremely delighted to see her own father and now 100 They know that now there is no fear here. We can live in peace and security here in Medina and they lived now comes a time of marriage the

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marriage of father mother the Allah Tala OnHub. It said that

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after the the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with eyes of Allah that I'm here and I mean that the marriage was consummated. It said that people like obika are the alotta line. And Amara the allotted time, they came on to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam requesting the hand of marriage or requesting their marriage to the daughter of resource of Allahu alayhi wa sallam Fatima of the Allah Tala Anna. Now we've talked about this in detail before but just quickly, we're going back to that the way the Arabs would create strong bonds amongst themselves was that they will get married to each other's daughters. This is how they will create the strong bonds. This is why it

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was Allah so Allah who it was sent him you will see that he married God or the Allah Tala Anna, for this reason. This is why he married Sofia on the Allah Tala. And for this reason because these were people these were girls and women who were the daughters of the opposition. They were the daughters of the Leader of the Opposition tourists Lhasa Allahu alayhi wa sallam. So what the prophet will do is that in order to build bridges with other communities, he would get married to the daughter. So this was a practice at that time amongst the Arabs. It may not be a practice nowadays, but we cannot look at that and have a sort of a discuss

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Feeling or disgust taste in our mouth that what you know what kind of practice that was, at that time, there were practices at that time that were pretty prevalent amongst the communities and amongst the societies. And that was the culture at that time. Just like at that time, they used to ride horses today we drive cars with horsepower, slightly different. But nonetheless, at that time, they used to ride camels today we drive cars, that culture is no different. So we cannot look at that and say, why did the Prophet do that? Or why did alberca or Omar come to those who are sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, nonetheless, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he very

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respectfully, he turned down their proposal because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he had another person in mind. And that person was I didn't know the alotta line, who was also the the cousin of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he brought this proposal before the allotted line, and a legal Viola and he accepted and he went home actually the very first day when he proposed when the Prophet alayhi salam brought this offer in front of it Allah that if he accepted but he went back home and the next day he came back again to this was a long while he was sent him and he said that I just want to make sure that yesterday you

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asked me about me marry your daughter, right? This is what you asked me for because for a legal Viola and it was just too good to be true. Like such a great opportunity. Because you remember that Oliver the Ultron was already very close to us who also Allahu Allah He was selling them. He was extremely cultural as well sua sallahu wa sallam, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was received His prophet hood aliotti alotta and was how many years old? He was 10 years old. And so that means that what is the age gap between Ali and Fatima

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five years old there's five there's a five year gap between I don't know the Allah Tala and and and Fatima the Allah Allah Allah and so therefore you know a little the Allah the lion had always been around in some capacity around Fatima with the Allah, Allah Allah and now knowing that I am have I have the opportunity to marry the daughter of the man who I admire so much. There is no better offer than this. And therefore the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he asked allinone Allah Tala on that, do you have anything to give as Mahara? And he said no, I don't have and that is when the Prophet SAW Allah some he said that what about that armor plate or that shield that you may have? Do

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you have something like that? I remember you had something like that. And he said yes, I do have this armor plate or shield. And he's he gave it an orthogonal the allotted time. He bought the shield from IoT Allah to nine in lieu of 470 did hums, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he took some of those big homes, he gave it to be that with the Allah Tala and he says I want you to go and buy some perfume that will be given to the couple at the time of their marriage. He gave the rest of the money to almost sell him out of the alotta Anna, his own wife that I want you to make the preparations for, for their marriage. So he took the 70 did hums, he distributed between Ali and

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almost sentimental, the Allah Tala Anna, and then the rest of the 400 did hums. He took that and he made that the MaHA for his own daughter Fatima or the Allah that Iran has. So this was the the MaHA and this is why you call that the Mara fatty me this is where the Mara fatty meat came from. And nowadays, the amount of fat to me it fluctuates. Because, you know, remember that time that we're talking about did hums and did hums are gold coins. So, you have to always look at the value of gold and when you know assessing how much it is you know you will see I'm going on a tangent here but this is important to mention. Because a lot of people when they get married they always ask that

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what was the Mahatma given to Fatima or the Allah Tala Anna and what is the manufactory nowadays? So, as I said that it depends on the rate of the gold and the rate of the gold nowadays is it fluctuates nowadays actually, it's really really low. So, nowadays last time I checked, the matter of fact me amount was approximately $1,000 is approximately $1,000. So, you can assume that this is how much was given to follow the model the Allah Allah Allah at the time of her marriage. Now, there is something else that we learned from this marriage of between Fatima and ally of Yolanda Lyon. And that is that based on this marriage, it is allowed in Islam. Now, I will say that, you know, when

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you're talking to the general public or in America, this is something that is considered as very despised but nonetheless it is allowed in Islam that one can get married to their cousin, it is absolutely allowed. And we see this happening a lot. You know, this is very, this is very common.

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In our overseas countries that people are getting married within the families. So the question is that where did this come from? And this came, this came, you know, once again, I love you a lot, and I'm marrying father of the Ultron, how we see that this is permissible. Now here in the American society. The reason they consider this as very uncommon, or they, you know, they don't have, you will not see many Americans doing things of this type, or the people that are in the general public is because, you know, they generally treat their cousin sisters almost as like biological sisters. But you have to understand that in Islam, the cousin, for any men, if there's a man, he has some

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cousins, sisters, or you know, female cousins, they actually have to perform a job in front of him, they have to wear the hijab in front of him, because they are not considered as Muslims. Now, if you wear the hijab, and they're generally separated, is as if the man does not come so much in front of his own coat or his own cousin, sister. And if, if you know what I mean. So what happens is, that's why because there's a separation there. That's why in Islam, if they get married is absolutely fine, because they're almost treated as their strangers to one another. Yes, they do come from a family, which are, which is one. But in that case, because there is there is a job that has to be observed

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between them. That means that there are non Muharram to one another. And that's why they can get married to one another. So this is something else that we learned from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Something else that we learned from this marriage is that in this marriage was not so long, it was seldom compared to all his other daughters. He gave Fatima the Allah Tala on her a lot of things for the house, he gave a lot of things for the house. Now, in our cultures, there are two things that we have to understand there's a concept called Maha. And there's a concept called Jahaz in our cultures, and what happens is that the MaHA is something that journey that man has to give to

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the wife. And this is something that has been highlighted in the Quran, Allah says in surah Nisa, what are two Nyssa so the particular Nicola that when you get married to a woman, you have to give her a man. Generally, the MaHA is translated as dowry, but it is not dowry, it is actually that's incorrect, it should be translated as a bride gift, a bride gift or a Muhammad is something that has to be given to the wife and that is her right. However, there is something else that has started in our cultures, and many people, they use this story of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as their proof that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, he gave something for Fatima or the Allah

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denied her for her household. So therefore, we see that in many cases, the girl's family, they come forward, and they provide a lot of things for the house, for example, in many cultures, she has to provide the furniture of the house, she has to provide the kitchen utensils, she has to provide the furniture of the bedroom, and the only thing the guy is going to be giving is what modifies me That's it. And the modified thinking overseas is even less than, than that is very less. So what you see is that the man is giving much less, and the woman is giving so much more in return. And they say that we learned from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, well, that is incorrect, because

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even though this was so long, it was sent him he gave something for his own daughter. But this was not a demand from Yolanda Lyon and the family from Vanuatu, Allah Tala. And that if you want, if you know you have to give us such and such and such, today, in many cultures, there is so much unnecessary burden put upon the girl's family, that she has to provide all these things. And believe it or not, there are so many girls like here in America, you know, we we manage somehow, some way. You know, we have credit cards, we buy this, we buy that, but overseas, there are many families, many communities where they are not extremely well. They're not well off. They're not rich, they're

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very poor actually. And when the boy comes and he proposes and they do want to accept in many cases, they cannot accept the offer because the boy is demanding so much more. So whatever the boy is giving, the girl is required to give 25 to 5050 times more to the boy that whatever the boy is giving and this is boom, this is open oppression. This is nowhere found in Islam. The concept of Jahaz is not found in Islam. Now yes, if the families agree that they want to give something, if they if they want to really practice their their if they want to practice their culture, they can. But when you see that the culture is coming in the middle and you have

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Women, you have girls of young age and they're growing up and they're not getting married, and they're not finding finding suitable spouses. Why? Because they are required to give so much so then this is where culture has to be put aside, and Islam has to be given presidents. Yes, if there's a case where both families are well off, and there's a mutual understanding, then yes, there's no problem but when I went overseas when I was young, or even later on after I had studied when I would see these things, it would honestly it would drive me crazy because these things are not found anywhere in Islam, one is called Muhammad which is a bride gift one is called Jahaz Mahal is from

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Islam Jehovah's is cultural. And we have to keep this in mind. Once again, if you want to give something if the bride's family says I want to give some things for example, you know a lot of times the bride's family will come and say you know, what are the bride's father will come and say, I will provide the refrigerator I will provide the washer and dryer and this is for me, that's fine do that. Whatever the Father can give, let him give it just like Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, whatever he could give, he gave it to Fatima or the Allah Tala anha there were no extra demands made by matros wa sallahu alayhi wa sallam likewise the boy's family it is not right for

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them to come and say that we want this this this and this and this no, if the bride's father comes and they give something this is what we find from the seat of a salsa la hottie was seldom welcome Go ahead. We'll go ahead and start right here. One thing I will mention is that next time inshallah we will begin at the time or in the life of Fatima or the Allah Tala and her that a little your log Allah and wanted to get he wants to have a second marriage while he was married to Fatima or the Allah Tala AHA he wanted to have a second marriage while he was married to Fatima or the Allah Tala Anna and what was the reaction of the Rosewall? sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam when he heard this,

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inshallah we'll do that next week. Inshallah, I'm going to keep you hanging so you come back next week inshallah. So may Allah give us ability to act upon what's been said and heard, does action Allah law Hey Soheila behandling Subhanak along with national law either Illa internet stuff Heruka wanted to be exactly on the hiatus and I'm only gonna have to buy brachetto

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