Women Mentioned in the Qur’an Class #5 Courageous Women in The Qur’an
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Ali he of total Salah woman wala buried Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
So, before we do the q&a, we'll leave these questions till the end Chela. Right and these are just some basic
issues that are quite common, particularly for sisters and since we're talking about the great women of the Quran, we are sort of focusing on the fifth issues that relate to sisters, but we'll come to this at the end inshallah. Let's go to the wife of Imran. The wife of Imran. So there are only two verses that were looked at in sudut. Earlier Imran, okay, which is this verse, verse 34, and verse 35. These are the only two places these are the only two places in the Quran, in which she's not mentioned by name, but she's referred to or there's a reference to her. And some of them are gonna say that you know, her name was Hannah, or Hannah as we would say. But Allah subhana wa Taala knows
best. That is the most common opinion with respect to her name in terms of her biography and who she is we just don't have any literally any information except these two verses. So we certainly know that she was referred to and she's talked about, so in suited earlier Imran.
The wife of Imran And by the way, the wife of Imran she is the mother of who
she is the mother of
Maria Malika Salam RAM so of course Maria Maria has Salam is coming up next. And so Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks of her and mentions if kala till Morocco tour in Morocco and rugby, so the wife of Imran
Robbie in need another to laka Murphy Botani more hot rod on for Taco Bell Mini. She says oh my master, I dedicate what is in my womb entirely to your service for Taco Bell mini so accepted for me in a semi rule Eileen, you alone are truly the All Hearing and all knowing. So we have to talk about this verse. Because remember, she's pregnant now. And she is carrying mme Allah has sent him she makes a door. She makes a door a very specific but very important, all expecting mothers would want the same dua which is she says that she dedicates this child entirely to the hitmen and service of Allah subhanho wa taala. That's what we all want.
When we have children, we all want our children to sort of grow up and just take a righteous path that they serve their Creator, that they find Allah and they just do the right thing. So she makes this dua. So what do we learn from them, we learned one very important thing. And that is, especially for a woman that is carrying her child and she's pregnant, that her dual eyes are accepted. And this is also reaffirmed by the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, the reason why the sum of the amount they say is that basically her state, you know, she is going to go through a ton of hardship, everything about her life is going to be affected. So her her weight, her appetite, her
space around her, she can't just go anywhere. She can't just be anywhere. She can't just be awake anytime her exhaustion, her energy, her mood, her relationship with everyone, every literally every part of her life is affected, even her worship. You know, once upon a time, she may stand up and pray normally, now she has to sit now she has to adjust herself in a certain way. All of that is a hardship.
And it's a burden that she has to carry. So do you think that Allah subhanho wa taala, will not reward her for that, of course, she will get rewarded for that for that. Because she is going through her own little jihad for the sake of Allah, she's struggling all of this for the sake of Allah. So she's going to be rewarded. And part of her blessing and honor is that when she talks to Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala will listen to her.
That's the first thing so her DWIs are accepted. The second thing that we learned from this A is the type of door that expecting mothers should make, which is, you should always and forever, especially during the pregnancy, focus on asking Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless you with a righteous child. It's also important, of course, to ask for all of the other things that you stay healthy and that the child is healthy, and so on. But the number one priority of a believer is that we want our child to be spiritually healthy, we want them to just be good, pious, righteous believers. So that's the second thing from this area that is incredibly important. And then she of course ends for Taco Bell
mini indica into semi rural Eileen accepted from me, Oh Allah, because you're the one that has complete knowledge and you hear everything. The third benefit of this area is how it ends in Nikka, enter Semia or leave, these are two names of Allah subhanaw taala, two of his attributes as well, that he is the one that hears everything, and he's the one that knows everything. So Allah will always hear the call and the complaint and the worry and the strain of the expecting mother. You know, sometimes her husband doesn't want to listen to her, he can't handle it. Maybe sometimes her other kids will be like, Mom, oh my god again. But Allah says, in the Cantus Semir, Allah will
always listen to her. Allah is always listening to her, whether she's calling upon him or not, Allah will still listen to her because of her state. And number two, nobody knows the pain of unexpecting mother except her after Allah. Like, I can't say for sure, I can't say how she's what she's going through the pains, the struggles, I can acknowledge them, but nobody knows what it feels like except her except that mother who's going through that. So then Allah and stuff with Eileen, I know what you're going through, I know what you're struggling with. And even the good things as well. I know how happy you are and how proud and relieved you are finally got pregnant. You've wanted to have a
child for so many months or years. And now Allah subhanho wa Taala caused it to happen. Maybe there are words that she can't find to express the joy that she's feeling. So it's important to keep track of how this area ends. It's a way of Allah comforting her through the pregnancy, okay.
trilemma world, I tend to call the total be in the world or to her own third, Allahu Allah will be moderate. Okay, we'll pause there for a second. When she delivered this child. She said, Yo, Robbie, I have given birth to a girl.
Is she celebrating? Or she? Is she just acknowledging what's that?
So she's surprised why?
No, not necessarily. But this is the question we want to think of as think about is why is she saying that? Like she's saying, I have given birth to a girl, not to just a child, how are hamdulillah the child is here. Why emphasize while daughter to her color therapy in the world or to her own author? Why does she emphasize that it's a girl? Because remember, back then, pre Islam. Giving birth to a girl is something that was frowned upon. Right? Remember the other verses?
In the Quran, when they saw that a child was born, villa with whom was sweat their faces became like, dark and shadowed. What that means is, Villa comes from the word of villain. Villain literally means a dark shadow. Okay? So their face got like, upset and unpleasant. Like, you know, you know when you see something that really upsets you and you don't have the words, but Your face says it all. You know some people are really good good at that they can hide their anger, even if they don't say a word, you can just look at me like I know you're upset, because I can see it all over your face. That's a vulgar word tool. Then number two, Allah says most Weda was sweat from the word as
sweat or soda, which means black or something completely dark. In other words, there's just no spark of happiness in you.
It's like you're literally hiding all the happiness until you just had a child. And all of that pre Islam was because it was a girl. So the question is why? Why were people so bitter about having female children prior to Islam? Well, why was the that the reason? Do we know?
Well, it could be, but we're not gonna we're gonna come to her specifically in a minute why she responded this way. But I want you to understand the context and the culture she's in right. Back then. Everything was about, you know, the boy can grow up, be strong served being an army going to battle do all of those things provide nn Nn. In other words, in their perception at that time, they felt that only the boys could be quote, unquote, so not a nice word to use. But just to make the point.
Only the boy was useful. Okay, which was really, really bad thing to say. Terrible thing to say. Islam came in or abrogated all of them. Now it's not to say that the mother of Maria Maria his Salam was like this. She's clearly not like that, because why the previous a approves that she was all filled with Dora and hope. And she prayed for righteousness. So now when it comes to Maria Alayhis Salam, when it comes to her child, now, the wife of Imran, two things happen here, which is what might hint why she says, Oh my God, it's a girl. Alright, two things. Number one, she's not going to break those cultural barriers. Right? Everybody frowned upon having a girl, but Allah gave her a
girl. So it's kind of like, Yes, I'm going to now raise a strong girl to fight against this culture and this kind of oppression that she's going that she's confronted, or she's being born into. So that's the first thing. And the second thing is, of course, you know, her daughter, she hasn't lost sight of that. So she's hoping and she's confident, and she's optimistic that Allah will answer her door. So the righteous person or the leader that is to come is going to be now this girl. Now she says, something that is very relevant to 2023. And that is, she says, Well, I said, the kettle kettle on 30. All I'm gonna say to you is this and the male is not like the female.
Does that make sense? No male is like a female and so on. Also, no male, excuse me, no female is like a male. So if you're ever looking for verses to talk about the whole discussion of gender, this is one of those verses there's quite a few in the Koran. But this is one very explicit verse that Allah makes very clear that when you are one you cannot be the other. Okay? What in the Some may to her memoriam. So here's where she now
adds, you know, her name, and she says that I will now I have named her, Miriam.
Were in need, or either or either you have because the V Yetta Hermina shaytani, R rajim. So she's still in Dora. And I seek Your protection for her. And for those who come after her from shaitan, the evil one the accursed one. So this part here, a lot of parents forget lots of door eyes when you're when she's pregnant, lots of doors when they're hoping for children. When it comes, everybody's happy.
Sometimes what ends up happening is you forget to even show gratitude and thank Allah. So she doesn't just thank Allah but she also continues to pray, Oh, Allah protect this child. So clearly, her insight and her hope of how she's going to raise this child. She's already asking for two very specific things protect her, and of course, in particular, protect her from the shaitan and all those that come after her so she's already thinking ahead. She's thinking of a future Jen.
Narration and all those that will come after so clearly Allah subhanho wa Taala blessed her with some insight of what is to come. That's all we know of and that is all that is in reference to when it comes to the wife of Imran, which nicely now leads us to her child. Okay, Maria Maria has set him.
She's the most important woman in the entire quarter, and she's the only one mentioned by name. Her name not only appears far more in the Koran than even the New Testament, but she also has a suitor with her name. So to number 19 Soto Maria. So this is how some of the women would say like, nobody adds more honor and respect to women than Muslims and the Quran, right? Because look at how Allah honors her. And it's not just her alone, like you have Medea Miley his son, but then you also have Sudeten Nisa. So you also have an entire chapter dedicated to women. Now, coming off of the previous conversation, we were talking about how there was a pretty bad culture and practice pre Islam. This
is one of the ways that Islam came to eradicate all of that. It came to give women a name, and it came to give them status respected that they demanded respect that demanded attention. They demanded to be appreciated. And the way the Quran does is it immediately identifies the importance of her role in serving Allah subhanaw taala by giving her her own chapter and giving her own place in the Quran. There is no you know, chapter called Sula, tell retell you know the surah of men, there is for women, we have suited Mohammed, we have suited newer so we do have other names of prophets in particular. But Maria Mata has Salam O Shia prophet.
According to them maturity, she wasn't
why not all of them?
Because remember, Gibreel Alehissalaam only speaks to who
know no profits?
Not necessarily, not necessarily because when these things are not legislated, it's fine, right? That God will come and speak to, you know, the Musa alayhis salam 's mother, right come and inspire her well hyena you let me Musa we inspire the mother Musa. So, hijab is not necessarily officially legislated during this period. But the question is now, if Gibreel Allah His Salam speaks to Miriam Ali Hassan.
And he has only spoken directly to prophets, who were all men. Then where does that put her? She is the closest female to ever becoming a prophet. But village married by unanimous consensus, at least in this day and age.
They're gonna say no, right? She didn't actually come with a new legislation or a new book or a new message or anything of that nature, right? But instead, you look at this moment of Gibreel Alayhis Salam coming to her. It was an honor. And her legacy is elevated and her status status is elevated as a result, as a young girl and a virgin Madame Alayhis Salam stayed in the Merab. So we're going to go through all the verses and suit at Madame only the talked about all that's happened here, okay, where she received great news, glad tidings in court and it's called the Kalima from Allah subhanaw taala about giving birth to a pure son.
When it comes to money, and my name is salaam, Mariam the daughter of Imran who guarded her chastity and we breathe into her body out of our spirit and she testified the truth of the words of her master and revelations and was one of the devout servants of Allah. Well, Maria Medina Imran allottee axon at Faraja fena. Faulkner, female Rufina. So this area here, I insert at the top this day here. What it does is that it confirms
the purity of Maria Miley has Salam, okay?
That she was pure. Allah purified her. That's why it says that and we found a *ing female rutina and we would breathe into her Our spirit meaning we would breathe into her that she will be pregnant and give birth. Okay, so in other words, it didn't happen through anybody else. We made this miracle happen to her. Well sadaqa to be Kelly MATIER of Bihar were quick to be and of course
She was so pure that she believed it all. And she devoted herself to all of the sacred books, while Canada terminal carnitine and she was somebody that was really devoted.
Okay. So now
this is a little bit of an insight of her actual of the actual birth right.
For lemma wobei Tao Paula Toby, okay, no, we already sorry, went back there. Let's go here. This is where I want to be.
Surah margam 16 to 27 with chlorophyll key Tabby, Moriyama Ethan Tabby that mean Ali Han McCann and shall PA. So now Maria was born.
As she grows up, says here that
the story of Millennium begins when she isolated herself from her family to a place somewhere in the east. So what she did is, she ended up and at that time this was allowed to do. This is of course, complicated now and not necessarily allowed, especially for somebody like her in this day and age just because of the complications, some of the *tier laws and some of the rules and things like that. But the point here is that she went into an area or place somewhere in Eastern what where's all of this happening? What country? Palestine, right. So somewhere in Palestine, away from her father and her mother, and she did this for one purpose. Why did she want to be separated or at
least leave and be isolated from her parents for a little while. Some of the elements say they passed away. Nobody was able to raise her and care for her. So her uncle, which is what's his name? Zakariya, right. So her uncle's zucchetti became the official Guardian now. And that's where she went. So when it says it moves to the Far East, and this is the most common opinion is that she went and lived with her uncle. Okay. So, now she's there.
But Dakhla that mean Dooney him he Jabba, screening herself off from them. So you know what she ends up doing? Now? When you see this verse? This is where some of the alumni say, no, no, her parents didn't die. It's actually she herself, attained a level of piety. She became so pious, that she just reached a level where she needed to be alone now because she was going to devote all of her time, just in complete worship with Allah. Like there's, there's hardly anybody ever in existence that has done that to where I'm going to now isolate and just 24 hours a day, seven days a week, every day of my life, just devote myself into the worship of Allah. She did that. And how did she do this? Then
We sent to her Our Angel Jibreel Allah, he started appearing before her as a man perfectly for him. So it was said, now sorted. Ali Ramadan talks a little bit about this. So she had her own, sort of like Merab or prayer area. So the Merab is the spot where the Imam stands. That's called the macro. So she had her kind of like own section or private area where she would be praying all throughout the day, throughout the night, every chance she got, she was constantly in worship, and that was kind of like her quarters. And ensuited le Amman, like miracles happen to her. Like there's one verse that describes that one day Zecharia Alehissalaam comes out and he sees her and he sees this
big massive basket of fruits. And he asks her, and the lucky Heather and Nikki had the like this is belong to you. It said that those fruits were fruits that were not in season and impossible, literally impossible to find. But here they are a massive basket just sitting there fresh as if it was just picked off a tree, and it's sitting there right next to her.
So when she is asked, Is this yours? She responds and says Paulette, who Amina and dilla This is from Allah in the Lucha Yoda. So Camilla shell will be hilarious. He said, Allah will provide for whoever he wants without any accountability, right? So she's already in that mindset that oh, this is just from Allah and Allah put it there. So miracles are starting to happen. Quick question. Does that happen today?
Like if I wanted to, like, I don't know, have my favorite bag of chips or something like Shala bag of ruffles or something will just pop up on this desk. Can we wish for that? Can we pray for that? Why don't miracles like that happen anymore?
Like, okay, let's answer the question first. do miracles like that happen anymore? No, they don't. All of that is done.
Right? That is a period that was once upon a time and it stopped during the time of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, so Merida Masada carried on till the third generation the tabby or Toby rune period, where some of the Erdenet experienced certain types of miracles but he
ventually that stopped. We are now the ummah of patients.
That's what we are now we are in Omaha where we just literally have to hang in there and wait our turn. Okay. So but does that mean do him a job for our son la how to Hannah row Hannah Rue literally means soul or spirit. It's one of the titles given to Djibouti Lila he Salam Fatima Stella Bashar on so we appearing before her as a man perfectly for him. What does that mean students perfectly for him. bash out on Sophia.
Bash on Sophia means that he was an extremely well put together individual. There was no sign of him traveling in the desert, walking through the mountains. He didn't have a speck of dust or dirt or sand anywhere on him. He was perfectly groomed. Clearly this person was different. Okay, but Sharon, so we okay, I wrote this word here. Hello. Hello literally means isolation. Now I have to ask you all is being isolated.
A good thing? Like is that something we should do from time to time just
Okay, okay, good. So the prophecy is seldom used to have some sort of like, isolation or alone time. What do you do?
What what would be the wisdom of doing that?
Okay, so to contemplate, to pray, think, clear your mind, all of those things, right? You know, subhanAllah it's a part of our sunnah to do that. But it has to be controlled, that you have to be very careful how you do that. Because if somebody isolates themselves and they get to use too, then that leads to other problems because we are still called an OMA OMA means we still have to be together and connected, right? So it's one of those things where you have to balance and you have to be very careful. So like, for example, mm, metal Rahimullah, isolated himself in the last 10 to 11 years of his life. Right. All throughout that prior prior to that he was always amongst the people.
He had so many students sitting in front of him every single day of his teaching life that they say it was Moodle Bossa, which is as far as the eyes can see, you could not see the last student that's how massive his classes were. And in the last portion, or decade or so of his life, he's alone. When students ask him why he goes, I just want to prepare now. He's preparing himself to meet Allah subhanho wa taala. So now it's all about just concentrating on you, you you, you you and actually, that is a habit that many rolana practice till this day, maybe not that many years, but they will certainly especially when they slow down, can't really get to the masjid as much can't really do the
Deluce and the classes and things as much. So what did they do? They're not just at home bedridden or anything. Oh, they are probably experiencing the most devout moments of their life. You know, the most you know of the contemplation reflection, thinking back of their life and just pure is still foreign to her and forgiveness, just preparing to meet you. All right. So Maria Medina has Salam has this before she even gets a hold. Like she's already doing this at the very first moment possible that the very first point of her maturity, she's already involved in this, which is really special. Then it continues. Call it in the URL builder of many Minka in Quinta. takia she said so now Gibreel
Alehissalaam Kinter okay. And gave her the glad Taotie Glad Tidings you know congratulations. I am here to just can tell you that you are going to be expecting a child. Look at her response
she says I was a biller
Matson saying that to somebody just saying that to your doctors. You know, I was like I think it'll shows you you're pregnant her with a biller.
So when she says I truly seek refuge in the most compassionate from you so leave me alone. In Contact appear if you are somebody that has Taqwa Tapia, that here is the most miniscule amount of Taqwa possible is called turkey. So he saying even if you have the slightest ounce of Taqwa That's enough, just using Get away from me. What do you learn from this a about Maria Maria has Salam.
What do you learn about her her personality?
The kind of woman that she is here, this a really taps into her personality.
Okay, good. So she's a very chaste, pious woman.
From the glad tidings? Is there anything in between that says, Then afterwards mme responds and says Paulette in the arrow tool, or it just jumps to her response? It just jumps right. There's nothing in between. Which means that the moment she felt uncomfortable,
she respond to stop it immediately. No hesitation. How does she get that? Without hesitation when she felt this discomfort or she felt that there were boundaries that were crossed? She immediately stepped up, put up her guards, and responded are Oh, the biller? Where did she get this from? Of course, this came from her spiritual training. Yep.
No worries, no worries.
Reflect right. It just makes you feel like she only knew certain men. Yep. Right. So she, like this was completely off balance for? Oh, definitely. Right. It goes out of her circle of people that she's familiar with. Right? She's accustomed to.
So that's definitely possibility. But it's all about the response. So sisters, what do you learn from this even for us brothers, like when you're tested.
This is one of the verses that the LMS say that not only is it permissible, but it's even encouraged, especially for her that anytime she feels uncomfortable with any brother that tries to cross any lines, that she simply a response, politely, but responds bluntly, like, listen, not you look, I don't mean to be mean, I hope you don't take this the wrong way. I care about all human beings. I know you're a fellow none of that stuff. She just says I was a biller. I was a builder. I meant like just get away from me. Didn't you already you know, you got what you needed. You got what you asked for? I answered you now go, what do you what's the loose talk all about? That kind of
response. That's what you get from this a sort of moment, she felt any of that discomfort, she immediately tried to protect herself and repel. One last point. Who does she ask or should call upon? For production? Allah?
We saw something like this again, another Surah In another story of another prophet. Which Prophet was that?
yes. See it the similarities. So use of Alayhis Salam said the exact same thing. When he was being tempted by the wife of ISIS by a woman.
Miriam says the exact same thing. She's not even being tempted though. She just like, got uncomfortable. That was enough for her to call upon Allah.
Now put these two scenarios. Are they equal? Are they exactly the same? No, what's different about the two?
There's no temptation here. But the response is exactly the same. So what does that tell you about when she is in that scenario, as opposed to when he's in that scenario?
She took no chances. She shut the door down immediately. There was nothing. And so that use of Alayhis Salam, you know, in all fairness, so So did he because remember, although the verses say that, you know, the wife of the disease, put together this plan, she locked all the doors, she locked all the windows, then she came, she said these things, like there were things that built up to that point. So let's just say that at the end of the day, both of them shut down that moment, immediately, without hesitation, a door of temptation opened up for use if you shut it down and adore have only Allah knows what she was thinking opened up, she shut it down, which, which shows
here that this is the way to deal with generally speaking with desire. You got to shut down that stuff immediately.
Like, you cannot take chance by just out of courtesy or just being polite. Sometimes you have to be respectfully blunt, and just be like no, like, you know,
no offense, I don't want to talk to you. If if I could talk to a brother, or no offense, I don't want to talk to you. If there's a sister around, I'll talk to her like that. Not
Listen, you're my favorite chair. Don't get me wrong. None of that stuff. Just get to the point. Because why? That's how shaitan works, especially when it comes to desire. It only needs one tiny little
will trigger for a whole bunch of problems just to start, right. And that's unfortunately the kind of world that we live in today where it feeds off of these triggers. Right? Just as long as you see one spark or you taste 111 moment of that desire, it's enough for that person to become consumed with Earth. We'll call it any call it enter your call. No Lee. Hola. I'm William Cessna, Basha. Well, I'm a Kuba, Leah. So now after she kind of settles down,
she says them, she wondered, pilot, so it seems like she's the one then that then inquires. It's not like a response to anything. She's the one says,
Well, how is it that I could have a son?
Right, and nobody's touching me. By the way, what's the word for son here? Of who? Lem? What's another word for son? So one, what's another word for son? What? Right? Another word for son Ibn. Right. So you have several words, a whole lamb is just like any son could be like an adopted son. You know, somebody, you know, be found just like, hey, let's just take care of anything. Not necessarily you birth, so she's doesn't talk about the child that she might potentially give birth to. She's talking about any kid. Like there's no way of me having any connection to any child anywhere. So, Leo, Hola. Hola. Miam SNI Basha then she narrows it down. And also like nobody ever
touched me like I've never been with anyone. Well, I'm a Cobell here, nor am I unjust like I'm not that kind of woman anyway. Okay. Paula Cavalli, call her up big Rob booking who are Allah Yeah, Hagen here replayed? So do you believe ALLAH has the numbers played? Well, that's just how it will be. When your master says it is easy for me. And so we'll meet so will we make him a sign for humanity? So in other words Hawaiiana Yeah, Hagen Hagen is how Allah causes all of this to happen. One of the ways is called Hagen What's another word that we I'm sure we all know of how Allah causes his degree decree to happen. All he has to say is what? Quinn nother word for Quinn. So Quinn isn't
suited yeah seen and other places codifier Cool. Be in it is. Hey, in is another word. Be in it is. The difference is Hey, Ian,
is usually used to describe something that's trivial. It has no value, no strength, nothing to it. That's hayan In other words, he's saying to Maria Miley Salam.
This is nothing for Allah.
To allow you to have you get pregnant that's nothing.
Like it's just it's it's not even something to think twice about. Allah just makes it happen.
Allah just makes it so that's why Hey, Ian is us and it doesn't say call out. Rob buki who are Allah Yeah, Khan doesn't use that word. Hey in and then another reason why this word is used their rhythm and they say is Hagen is also the word that is used, or a similar word that is used to describe the labor pains. One and Isla one, right. Another word to describe labor pains is called haha, quarter one, one Hagen all of these words are used to describe the pains that she goes through when she's pregnant and when she's in when she's delivering the child. So the point is, all of those are different types of pains and struggles that she experiences when carrying and delivering a child.
Okay? So it just seems like the most appropriate word for her to hear at that moment. That whatever is about to come, just want you to know that for Allah. It's all hanging like it's not as big and as difficult as you might think. Or as shocking as you might think it is. Well the nature Allahu area, we're going to make him this child, an area
he's going to be a sign leanness for everybody. What kind of sign
what kind of sign
what kind of sign is Isa Alehissalaam gonna be for all of mankind. He's
so to understand this. You have to know what the word am means. Okay, to understand why this word is used here you got to understand what a means. A it literally means a number of things. An indicator. A is also a miracle.
An area is also used for something special area is also used for something that looks simple on the outside, but it's incredibly complex on the inside. That's why a verse of the Quran is called an area because you may have four or five or six or 20 different words.
But we all know that you can take every single word and extract endless amount of benefits and PFOA it from it, right? We all know that that's how comprehensive one verse of the Quran or one A of the Quran is. So it's given that name, because it's like, it's like a fortress, that on the outside, they look like plain walls. But once you start delving into it, you realize this is incredibly complex. And this is incredibly like fascinating how each of these words where they're structured, the style, the rhythm, the pronounciation, the vowels, the whole works, right? So we meant to Idaho area, means that not only is he going to be a prophet, but this man is going to be really special.
Like he's going to be saying and doing some things that nobody before him and after him will say or do so this is going to be one of the most beautiful and unique creations of Allah subhanho wa Taala so when you ever you have conversations about the importance of Jesus in Islam, use this point and talk to him about Islam he's an area let me tell you what that means. Like he's more than just a prophet. He's incredibly special. He performed miracles He did this he whispered into clave came alive, he cure people that were sick and and and the list goes on. And even when he wasn't doing all of that fun stuff, he had some of the most profound words of wisdom and statements that really
reflected his beauty and honesty. And I will will mention a few of them a little bit later in shallow
water metta min now. Why did Allah send a silent Islam? Because he's a mercy from Us. Do you know whenever you see mercy in the Koran always remember, think of mercy as a bonus. It's a bonus from Allah.
Mercy, a bonus from Allah. Allahu la foto Rahim. Allah says that he's always forgiving and merciful. When you're forgiven.
All of your sins are forgiven. Do you go to agenda?
When you're forgiven, do you go to gender? No.
You see, so you see my point? Just because all of your sins are forgiven does not guarantee you Jenna. Why? Because the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said that no one will enter Jannah based on their deeds, meaning based on doing righteousness seeking Allah's forgiveness and so on. Companions heard the except and then process seven says instead they will enter Jannah based on Allah's mercy,
companions heard that they say had to enter jasola Even you jasola Like you're the most pure out of all of us even you can't enter based on your deeds, and he says had to enter even myself, it's not going to happen. So when you look at a verse a hadith like that, and then you look at her food, and then you look at Rahim, Allah food is all of Allah's forgiveness. You're prepped Rahim. Okay, because you did such an awesome job, you know what I'm going to give you on top of the goat agenda.
So it's the it's the bonus that you get for striving and gaining Allah's protection and Allah's forgiveness. Yeah.
Of course, of course you ask Allah to enter us in his agenda and shower your mercy on us, meaning, give us that opportunity to go there.
You could so it's a good question. Do you put more precedence on the mercy aspect you could because that encompasses forgiveness and everything else right. But
when Allah says adore only a stretchable ACOEM, like call upon me and I will respond, he never specifies, okay, use this, this this is unknown. Just whatever you know, and just remember
mercy. Allah one of His Names is of course I'll recommend is the most mentioned Name of Allah in the entire Quran.
That's out of His mercy that he mentioned himself as being merciful throughout the whole Quran. And every SUTA except one starts with Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. So it's like, you're constantly reminded.
Don't worry, I'll take care of you. Like even if you don't explicitly asked me that mercy is already there. Just Just relax. Just keep striving. I'll take care of you. So rest assured that
Whether you ask or you don't as long as you're striving to do the right thing, Allah's mercy will be there for you be in the line for all of us. Okay? What meta min now what can AMRAAM muglia It's something muglia It's already done.
decreed it's already happened, case closed.
Look at how she must have felt for homiletical fonteva that we he McAninch picea.
So it started, labor pains started to become really serious. So you know what she does? She literally runs away again, for hemella to fend Tabitha to be fantastic that be like the labor pains are starting to happen now. And withdrew with him to a remote place mccannon hacia. So she basically left and now she's alone.
I want you for a moment not just imagine you were in somewhat like Miriam's position, right. You're alone, you don't know how in the world has happened to you. By the way.
Somebody brought this like somebody told me about this a while ago, years ago, and apparently there's a TV show that's on the same, a similar subject where there are women who are pregnant and don't know who they are until the child is literally born. Yeah, I think it is called I don't know, if I'm pregnant, or I didn't know I was pregnant or something like that. And how I Googled it. It's it very much exists. Yeah. Yeah, it's an actuals show. I didn't know I was pregnant, or something years ago, I looked at it, right. So
it's SubhanAllah. Right, like, so there's this concept and this idea of being pregnant and not knowing how it happened, or what have you. Allah knows best. But in this case, here, we know it's a miracle. Why? Because in the show, we at least know that all of these individuals were with someone. But here, it becomes a miracle because clearly she was with no one. Okay, so that's the separator. Don't try to mix the two just because somebody asked me and that's why it was like, Okay, let me throw that out there. Okay. Don't mix the two. So anyhow, for homiletical fantastic. That'd be so she's alone. Imagine how confused she might be even like, emotionally drained and overwhelmed. How
in the world am I going to explain this to everyone? You know, I left my parents, and I'm sitting here with Zakariya who is an honorable man, a well respected individual. I live in a merabh in a place of worship. And now this happens to me. And she's by herself. Okay. But yeah, a whole mahalo Isla Gita in nulla then the pains of labor drove her to the point where she grabbed the palm tree
pilot yeah late any mid to copula has a How I wish I was dead before all of this
be allowed to wish for death when you're going through overwhelming circumstances.
Oh my god, I just wish I could die before I had to experience anything a lot to do that.
She clearly is saying that.
So what do you think?
Can let's just assume Okay, let's leave it at that then are you even allowed to make that statement?
Anything else? So the dilemma they say a number of things.
Back then you were allowed to say those things?
I remember it's a different time back then.
These words were fine. And secondly, as you mentioned, right. She is a very distinguished pious woman it is safe to assume without hesitation that she has good intentions behind these words anyway. Thirdly she's a human being what human being on the planet doesn't say things and then you know sort of retract after a while or I could have said it a little different real time and thirdly is look at the state that she's in right now. She didn't ask for this nothing it just it's just been literally placed on her nother opinion that relevant they are another point that the real amount give us to think about is
nobody knows what her pains are. Except mother's
mother's can relate to her what she's what she's dealing with right now. Yep.
Yeah, all of that. So all those heavy emotions How is now this child is coming home. I'm going to present this child to everyone. What are people going to say and and the list goes on right? So she says Paulette, yeah late to the meet to Kamala Herta.
There are mothers that say this till today when he goes through those labor pains. Right. Right. And that's when the whole thing came about. Recall the thing.
The needle that they poked the back to
epidurals, right. So
So epidural kind of removed this area for for now right? So we don't have to worry about it because no pain.
So, MIT to copula, Hatha Welcome to an SEM and see Mansi and die before this end. This was a thing that was long forgotten so the human is really coming out of her like this was just something that I wish we I never had to think about our experience of voice
is heard Pheno des hum, entirety here, so a voice reassured her from below. Is that a real voice?
Yeah, it's the voice of God and Ali Salam inspire to her in a way that only she can hear and know. Okay, Fernanda humming Tatiana. This voice came from a far place by the way, how do I know that? How do we know that?
From nada, see if you see what happens when you can tap into Arabic. Nada from NIDA on new debt when means when you call out on somebody who's really far away. That's called NIDA one. Fernanda Herman takhti her now it says from below her, which means that muddy and went somewhere high up some little mountain or cliff or something she claimed that she hears this voice coming from way down there somewhere. What does it say? A lot that has any.
Just relax. Don't grieve. So what's she What is she oddly, what's her emotional state at this point? She's grieving. She's crying. She's screaming she's in unbearable pain she can describe. She's just it's too much. A lotta has any but a general aura boo, kita tacky Surya Your Lord has provided a stream at your feet. So story goes, Just visualize it. So here she is. She's under this palm tree. She hears this voice coming down from somewhere and all of a sudden a stream of water starts flowing around her.
So Allah has provided a stream of but at your feet literally meaning you don't even have to get up. It's right there. You can touch it. You can use it you can quench your thirst. You can call yourself down wash your face. Do whatever you want with it. It's there
Yeah, absolutely. That's, that's another beautiful benefit from the idea as well. All the time that Djibouti spoke to her. He's in front of her. He's confronting you're talking to her during the pregnancy and delivery for obvious reasons. Jabril is nowhere near Fernanda humming Tatiana is far away. need our own is also when you're calling out at somebody you can barely see. Even if you can't see them, but you know, are you hoping that they might be there somewhere? So like behind this this door on the hallway? I don't know who's there. But I hear footsteps. Hello, brother. Sister. Are you there? I don't know. That's called knee down as well. So could also be just a way to give her her
privacy. Well, who's ze Leakey be gender inequality to solitarily roto. Ban. Jenny. Yeah. Shake the trunk of this palm tree towards you.
So Allah gave her some strength, or she already had it one of the two games she already had. And the LMS say that they are both possibilities like it's almost equal. Because nowhere in the A does it say that we gave her the string. He she's just ordered, grabbed this tree, this palm tree towards you. It will drop a fresh ripe dates upon you. So shake it, do something, a handle it in such a way that it causes these dates to fall upon you. What kind of dates were they? By the way? Does anybody know?
Prophet alayhi salatu salam described them?
What type of day? What's what's what was the process someone's favorite date, by the way, Iowa. So they're gonna say it was Edward eight. And that would make sense because the healthiest the date with the most health benefits is the actual dates itself. Right? That's the edge would date that does it all. It does it all. It's the best date that if you can live literally live on. That's the date you want to have. If you want to practice the sin of eating the three to seven dates every month. That's the dates you want to have. That's the Sunnah of the Prophet. I said them. You want the dates to break fast. That's the one you want. You want the dates on the date. That's the one you
want. Right? It's always edgewell edgewear ajua. And when you taste it and you see it and you and you see how distinct it is from all the other dates, then you'll understand why Earl and I have actually written volumes just on agitates, like I have a two volume book in Arabic. And it literally called a jewel that two volumes of scholar did his thesis on edge with dates.
Right? So this is like something more than one
We think it is. So what was the lake EBG thing? Okay, so she shakes all of this, and these, these foods come to her, and there are there at her disposal, right. And I'm not a health expert, but I can tell you that it is also from this area that even health experts say dates are the number one most important food item A woman should have. That should be the first thing she should eat after giving birth. Right. Because of her glucose and sugars and energy all of those things gotta pretty much come back to life now it's all been exhausted and you and used through this, you know, whole ordeal, this whole experience of delivering the child and you know that that can go on for many
hours. And when we go through with the fast all day and night, our energy levels, all of those things are literally at their lowest, right your body's just surviving on the fat that's lifted within us. But now when you have these dates, it immediately gives you the energy and the sugar spurt that you need in a healthy way and the most appropriate way to get your body okay wake up time is the way to get yourself going again. That's why the process Selim would start his day even with dates it's just to get the body break that fast sleeping resting throughout the night get to get the day started. So if you don't have that habit really and truly make that your habit. Eat dates every
single morning, at least three and if you can seven every single morning. That is the Sunnah for kuliah what should I be what Karina? I think this is the last one. Yeah. Fair Cooley. Wasabi. Wasabi. Aina. So eat and drink and put your heart at ease.
You're gonna love about this.
E to drink. Okay, we get that part. Okay, she needs the fluids. She needs the energy. Okay, fine.
Put your heart at ease. From eating.
How all she did is eat her heart is at ease.
What does that teach us about
food, or relieving our appetite? And our heart like what's the connection?
Because Allah literally fed her then said put your heart at ease. Just eat and put your heart at ease.
You know, some of their limit, they say that.
She She was given this also as comfort food.
When you go through exhaustion, or really stressful day,
for the most part, don't you find yourself that sometimes when you're the days over like today for myself, right? I've had a long day with a dozen different things to happen right on top of that, my car broke down all kinds of things, right. But when I got home before I got here,
I just had a cup of tea. And I felt like everything just
like this tea was like zooms empty man, if there ever was such a thing, you know, like exams empty, like it just it hit all the right spots. And then I kind of put my head on the couch. I was able to close my eyes for like a few minutes and then get myself going and get here. But I felt great after that.
So perhaps maybe that might be the connection where
food is also a way
to just calm the body and calm the soul. Obviously you don't overdo it. We're not as we're not saying somebody to literally sit there binge them selves through junk food or anything like that. No. Yep.
Yes, yes. You understand that this actually means
that it's a special provision. I know that she's in this stage, she's having again, leads coming from water a lot. And she's eating it as a full circle.
Yeah, it's definitely possible. Right? She's she's experienced something like this already. And now she's experiencing it again. Within this case, it's like a desperate situation. Right? There's just nobody with her. At least her uncle was there. Right? But there's nobody here now. But I just find it really interesting why Allah will say put your heart at ease after eating.
Right? I find that just really fascinating. And we probably experienced that more often than we even think about. So for image Tara in nominal battery, I hadn't Falco li Nina doctorial rochman is Salma felon or Kelemen Luoma INSIA. So we will conclude this convert
session because the next section is of course about SRL SM and that's not our topic, right? So now she's told to eat, drink, bring your heart at ease. But if you see any of the people, I have vowed silence to the most compassion say to them, that you will remain silent. So I am not talking to anyone today. So Mudumalai has slammed the rhythm, they said, I have vowed the fast, meaning I'm going to keep silent except uttering the names of so the fast here is not an actual fast. Sewn here is not an actual festival app from the appetite but you fast from speaking.
Except that she would still be involved in the vicar. So she will still remember the names of Allah remember him and still, it's not
befitting for any great scholar or even prophets or great women of Islam, that they just remain silent and do nothing. They don't have that habit.
So his moment of silence was just with the people, but always the Prophets and Messengers. One of the most important qualities in them is that they're always in the constant Remember, it's always in constant thicket of Allah subhanaw taala. Right, that you can rest assure that you Earl Amma unanimously agree upon I don't know of any of difference of opinion on it, right? Because again, they're prophets of Allah, that level of leadership you are literally the most pious and important human being of the time. And silence is just not a thing you do. Your silence is your private the vicar and to speak of a lung. So Falcone in the in the doctorial romance of Helen Keller milliohm
INSIA. So she and it is mentioned in reliable narrations as well that the tree from which Miriam had eaten the dates was actually dates as well, which we've discussed. Okay. So, that is with respect to Maria, Miley has Salam and I believe, go back here. There are a couple of things. If you do Massoud or the Allah mindset about sudut.
So that is for all sootel, capsular Meriam surah Taha and sortal MBL. They were among the first chapters I learned and they are my old treasures. So five sutras and he calls them his old treasures. What does he mean by them? Like these are the five sources that really are touched me the most. They really caused me to become more and more reflective, more pious, closer to Allah subhanho wa taala. And if you've ever studied these sutras, they have themes that connect with one another, but they each have beautiful stories. They each focus on prophets and messengers, there's a whole section after isa Alayhis Salam where Saudi memoriam then goes into what's called filthy Tabby,
Ibrahim with Kofi Kitabi Musa with Kofi Kitabi is Marielle then Idris and it just goes into all the prophets and messengers. So the Taha 90% of it is Musa alayhis salam and fairground, but it also has sections in it that it talks about other prophets as well. So tell me exactly the same thing. So little calf, it's got the four sewers, excuse me, four sections of it, afford to separate incidents. And it still it concludes by you know, the the praise and highlighting all of the importance of prophets and messengers and why Allah sent and wisdoms why Allah sent them. And of course, so that is Surah as well. So it's one connection but there are several why this could be special for him
numerous rude aliotta The Allahu Anhu said I heard the Prophet it starts with Salam said the best of the
the best of the worlds women is Millennium at her lifetime. And the best of the worlds women is Hadiya and during her lifetime.
So the hadith of her lifetime doesn't mention that but that's how the element explained it. That's why I put it there in brackets. That's a part of the Hadith. And the hadith is of course in the statement is in Bahati so she was certainly certainly someone incredibly important and incredibly special. Yep.
was Maria Maria his Salam eLife. Allah knows best. I hear both accounts. It seems to be though that she wasn't. She had passed away at that time.
I'm just going back to the q&a that we did last week, because we didn't finish them. So for the rest of the time for the next 20 minutes or so.
I want to do
finish up that q&a. Is that okay? Or do you guys want to go in
next one, which is the wives of Walker, the Wiser process I have? No, that's a separate discussion. We'll do that next week. But the questions are like these. So let's do a few of them in shallow Kim, can a female lead a boy who has not yet reached puberty?
In prayer? So if you have like a little,
what you will call it? Do you have a big sister?
I can she lead her younger? So if you have like little tiny brothers that can't really do much, can you lead them in prayer?
Yes, yes, as long as you shouldn't. But of course, as long as the boy is below the age of puberty, that's fine, because he's not even accountable. He doesn't even have to pray to begin with. So if you're just kind of doing it to train, that's fine. Once the child has reached to a place where the son the boy reached to a place where they understand how to pray, and they understand the rules and things like that, it must be that he leads from that point onwards, can a young boy lead an adult female,
a young boy, lead adult females,
as long as he knows the field, you know of how to pray, knows what to say, knows what to do. If he misses a rocker things like that, then yes, he can do that. And this also happened during the time of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam that during the time of eyeshadow the Allah honor that a seven year old boy had led prayer nuts, I Isha. But he had led prayer and they had approved of it put it that way.
Can I stand beside my husband in prayer?
In the home, she could stand beside Him in prayer. So there are a couple of opinions on this. The majority is no, because the prophetic way is that she is what she can do is she can be closer to him more so than she would be for with any other Iman, because it's her husband? Well, when it comes to Salah the rules or the rules, she must always be behind him. So so she can be as close as she wants, as long as it always is considered behind him. Does that make sense?
What is the rule regarding carrying a baby with a dirty diaper during prayer. So sometimes, you know, babies cry, and the mother has to hold or the husband has to hold the child and just relax it. And then the child does a nebula who named Roger one kind of thing? And then the aroma is there.
You're no longer smelling it from the people beside you. It's so different aroma. Are you allowed to still hold that child?
What do you guys think?
I mean, if you have kids, this would have happened to you at some point, right? You just drop the kid and just kind of like wait, no, you can certainly hold a child. As long especially like in all honesty as as long as you don't get like dirty. You don't, nothing happens. That's, that's fine. And even if that happens, it doesn't break the salah.
The reason why is you cannot be held accountable for something that is completely out of your control. The child is dependent on you, what's the child's child doesn't even know you're praying, the child thinks it's at Wonderland on a roller coaster, every time you go on a little course sujood. Like that's all the child feed as long as the child knows that they're with their parents. So because of that state of the child, nothing that they do you're accountable for so they can run around.
Be there in front of you, especially when they're that small.
We'll get to that question in a second as well. But for the general rule of thumb, when they're this small and still in diapers, they're not accountable for anything. So anything that you're responsible for takes the same ruling as well. Yep.
Yes, yes, you can, you can still hold the child and dual core in one hand. And that's the more preferred way of doing is that if you can hold a child and keep the child with you, just to comfort the child, that's the better thing to do their ultimate say, and the reason why again, it's because of the child. Childhood you know, anything except I want mommy and daddy. You know, it's so common that people like parents just kind of leave their child to cry it out because they're praying and especially when you're following any meme, so you don't know what he's going to read how long his Salah is going to be. This poor child is desperate. So you know what the process tell him
doing because of that.
He cut his conversation with Allah for a baby. Like what religion does the
for a tiny little baby, innocent little child? He shortened his conversation with Allah to show mercy to that child when asked Gatto so Allah, Allah was a pretty fast salah. Why did you finish up so quickly, because he heard the child crying, and he feared that the child may want his mother.
Simple Majan if that rule was always applied, when your child is crying, don't leave the child to cry and be scarred and emotionally like tortured. Because every time then, because I read about this, that how
that some there are some children for the most part, you can actually train their heart their minds in their years to get accustomed to sounds. So if they hear the sound of the core, and at a young age, and it doesn't bring any happiness to them, and they just fear it all the time. Like, that's not the message you want to send, that the last time the child heard poor and being recited. They were in a masjid crying their tears out, but Mom and Dad wouldn't come near them. So the next time they hear the Koran, they become terrified of it. So it's kind of like that mindset you want to be.
You want to be conscious of okay, so it definitely has ramifications later on. When women line up for Salah should their bodies touch each other just like the men in their lines?
Yes, no questions asked. Okay, let's go to the next section here the questions. I have a couple more.
And then we'll pause. Should a child passing in front of a praying person be prevented?
If they are passing, but they're if the child is old enough to kind of know that when you do this, they understand Oh, do it. They should be prevented, right? Especially when they when they're at the age where they can understand, Okay, I'm not supposed to do something. It's definitely a teaching curve. And it's important, right? Remember, this is a sunnah. So it requires some teaching. And if this is one of the ways that it can happen, you should do that. Right? So don't take it for granted.
Anytime the child is able to recognize right from wrong,
to even Yeah, to three years old. So when a child knows, and you say stop, or you put your hand and they know to stop, that's usually a good time to do that.
Yeah, so what you do in such situations like that is leave the child alone, right? Because when you're in a public gathering, there's only so much you can do.
And this is I'm glad you brought this up. Because this is a big problem that parents do with children all the time when they're out is they feel that they can discipline a child in a public space like this, the way that they will discipline their own child at home. And we do not have the right to do that. Do not have the right to go and scold another child just because they do something that in my home, this is unacceptable. If they're hurting somebody, if they're causing damage, that's still not your problem. What you should do is alert the people in charge hey, look, but don't take matters in your own hands. Because why? Even Islam does not give you that help to do that.
You can advise the mothers hey, look, man, I saw your child, she took all the books, he kind of threw it on the ground that she sat on them, then she's walked, you know, just want you to know, but don't be like, I don't know what species you're raising at home. But look at this child. I know it's yours. Like what's No no, don't do that you're not you're not solving anything you're adding to it. And you're basically you're on the risk of putting yourself in a place that you don't belong. Okay, you're accountable for your own children, not the children of others. However, with that being said, I understand too that there are also parameters and rules to follow and care and there could be
like, items that are dangerous could fall on a child could hurt them and and the list goes on. Let the people who are in charge know about those things. Okay. Should a child so? Is it permissible for me to join prayers if I'm at the mall or at work, and there's no Masjid close by?
No, not when you're at a mall. Something more serious? Yes, you can join prayers. But something like I'm just at the mall cruising? No. If you're at work, if you're stuck at school or something like you're really really stuck. That's a different scenario. And that is one of the reasons you can join prayers. Okay, but there are lemme say one condition. When you're joining prayers for his situations like this. Don't make it a habit. Try your very best to work the situation out. So some people be like my work always when I'm done or my brain
Because all this during solid time and then an answer is always going to be like that. So that's where you're going to have to figure out if the best of your ability to try to work around that.
so this is a, this is an important question, right? So of the Sunnah is that when the weather is really, really bad, that you are permitted to join your Salah, right? And the masajid are also encouraged to do the same. So why doesn't this happen? Well, for a number of reasons, even when there is severe weather, right?
Especially here, whether it's a storm rain, whatever the cases, are the roads to an extent still manageable.
Like, can you still get to A to B, especially if you're stuck on the road? Can you still do that? For the most part, you can because why? You have, you know, the guys throwing the salt flowers, like you'll have active movement of people trying to make the road safe. As opposed to let's wait the storm out, then we'll assess. So the the dynamics have changed a little bit where it puts this option of joining prayers, not an option that we have to resort to each and every time the weather is bad. Okay, so that's why you probably noticed that it's not a common thing because quite frankly, it's not something that's truly needed each and every time. Even when there is a storm, you might
still get 1020 People coming to a masjid and their ultimate they say that it's your call. But if you can leave a masjid open it's always best because there are people there that still manage to show up show up safely and so on so forth. accommodate them. Give them the bottle candle blessing for making the effort right. So
Yeah, it's regular for them. And understandably why right there temperatures minus 25 feels totally different there. Yep. Yeah, I've been to Edmonton have been to Fort McMurray
I don't know why the people live it but the people live there Subhan Allah Fort Mac minus 40 minus 50 degrees. But the massages are full.
Usually when it gets a little more than that then Subhanallah you know, they decide so it works because it's a more common thing that they have to deal with. For us one or two days here or there once in a while maybe once for the entire year sometimes not even this is an option there so that's why don't be surprised that most massages Don't resort to doing them but those that do hire it's just it's a judgment that they make and it's kind of lifted that okay, they do it tighter they don't do it no problem.
Um, I shadow the Allah on take a look at the statement if the process Salam had witness that women are doing what women are doing today, he would have prevented them from coming to the masjid as the women of Benny surah. You were forbidden from going to their places of worship. So this is an area in Sahih. Muslim What was this about? Does anybody know?
Okay, anything else?
So, during this time, things were getting a little out of hand. So topology is one of them, like exposing beauty. Right? And the socializing the conversations, all of those things, the message started to lose its purpose.
Right. And so that's why I said on the Allahu anha made the statement, it was starting to lose its purpose. Like, it came to a point where these people were coming they're only to socialize, only to chill out only to laugh only to do this only to see you too, and and the list goes on.
Sometimes I feel like the statement was just brought to us today.
No, not that it like in general. Like in general, not for women. For everybody.
Does I feel like the statement is for everyone. It's like it's like a reminder for all of massage. It's everywhere. It's not a fault of the people who build this place. They can't control those who come here what they do. You can't control that. Is this more or less? It's kind of like a reminder. Like, remember what this place is for? Its part and we're not saying that you shouldn't come here and laugh and enjoy the company of one another
Yes, absolutely that is also part of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu Salam used to sit in the masjid with the Isha about the Aloha and just cheer.
We just sit there for hours and they would just laugh and cheer
each other the Aloha got into an argument with a woman in the masjid versus Salam allowed her
nose, the famous narration of the woman who came in she scolded. She walked back out. She looks at the prophesy. Selim is also like, Did you see what just happened? And he just sits there.
Same woman came up back again. Second time later on that afternoon scolded her a second time. He also like second time Come on, and she left for us to sell them just kind of left her third time later on the same woman God gave her Tasha again, for whatever reason, right just scolded her cursed at her did everything. So I shuffled the Allah on her waited. And narration says that she lifted her head and she looked one last time to him. And then the prophet Ali salat wa salam does this.
What do you think he did? What do you think that meant?
When he did this to her?
What do you think he meant? Okay, Aisha, you can go give it to her now.
Like go ahead. And
who are you, lady? What are you doing? What do you want for me and just kind of comment on give it back to her. So the point is, see, he gave her some time to like, just leave her alone. Just calm down. We don't know what her state is in. We don't know why she came and then, but three times in a row in one day. Okay, clearly, you know what you're saying you know what you're doing? Somebody has to stop it now. So you confront it, right? And just remember that I showed her the Aloha Anna would have done it in the most dignified way. Okay, because obviously her husband is right there. I've heard the Hadith that the dead is punished by the weeping of the of his family over him. Is this
hadith, authentic? And what does it mean?
So there's a hadith,
that weeping affects the dead, and it's a form of punishment. Okay?
What does that hadith mean?
This is what I this goes back to what we're even talking about today. When you don't study the fit and language of these things, you start to interpret them. And it takes you in a different direction where farthest away from the intent.
There Aloma, they say, remember, no, he has a long explanation of this hadith. He says, what was meant by this was the wailing the dead is punished by the weep, meaning that the wailing and the screaming and the crying
is affecting the family of the dead. The family that's still alive.
Because they are the family of the deceased, they are in their mourning period. Like they're still emotional, they just went through all of this, like it's too much. And to have people now come to them, oh my God, and we're holding on to them, I can't believe this happened to the oh my god, they were so young, how does happen. So try to
that person, the family of the deceased could be like mustering up the strength in their own way,
until they meet you.
Then those emotions are all kicked in start all over again. And it just makes the process harder. So what is meant by the statement, the dead is punished, meaning the DIS the the family or the closest to the deceased, they feel that they're punished that they're going through more pain than they need to, because of the weeping.
You see the difference because of your weeping. We the family of this deceased, the dead, we're suffering.
It has nothing to do with the deceased. You know why it can't do it can't even mean that you know why?
Because if that was a righteous person, it sounds pretty unfair, that they're going to be punished because people who are alive that they can't touch meet or stop are punishing them.
could be it could be it could be but not necessarily. Because when a death happens, like the emotions are really out of control, right? It could be you have the most civilized, pious family but when a death happens, I mean, it's serious, right? That's an emotion that you just don't know what it feels until you you experience it especially with someone close to you. So once again, the dead is punished by the weeping meaning
The family of the dead feels the punishment meaning feels the pain and hardship over the weeping of not just
people within their family or extended family, but the community at large, because the process of healing becomes that much more difficult and more longer. And it also holds them back from making dua for their loved one, for concentrating on visiting the grave doing Sadaqa, charity for the loved one, and so on. And so all of those things are interrupted. Why? Because everybody is still in this state. So you're making this process difficult now that we can help and benefit this disease. So in essence, it feels like we're restricting them, ie we're punishing them. You see how that works, has nothing to do with the actual tears, you know, there's another, you know, famous belief that when
the tear touches the deceased, that that is something that is
punishable as deceased feels that like fire, or burning or so on and none of that is authentic. Okay. Let's finish this up, and then we'll pause Inshallah, what is the hour in front of male relatives?
Hmm. male relatives?
Yeah, done same as strangers. Right. Obviously, if this, these are people that are not muslim for You, if they are muslim for You, and that's fine. Right. And you still get really mad, they still say that, you know, you should? Actually I think I have it here in the next question. So what do you actually wear? Even if it's in front of a Mom, do you wear jilda or non Maham do wear jilbab do you have to wear a buyer? So let's take the step by step
in front of non Muslims does the sister do you always have to wear jilbab or ibuyer to be considered wearing hijab?
Or is it okay to wear a skirt or pants or long shirt or jacket or shall walk kameez is sufficient, what is the case here are the might differ on this. So culture plays a huge role. And I would say even that, just based on my own research, over the years on this culture seems to be the steering wheel on the subject. The Hijab rules are always the same, right? As long as you're covered, and all of the rules of hijab are met, that's always going to be the state no matter where you are, the style, the colors, the you know, the types of material, the layers and so on. That's what differs. So there are limits say that to especially the contemporary scholars of today, as long as you feet
meet all the requirements of hijab, then you can certainly wear anything that you wish, of course that it meets the requirements not only of the hijab of a Muslim you don't things that are appropriate and and that sort of thing. Long story short.
Okay, so I think that's all I have. Yeah. So those are some questions like I said, I'll do this again next week. And then we have two more sessions that were done in Charlotte. Okay, guys, so we'll pause here Subhanak Hola, como hum decrescendo Hola. Hola. Hola. And to stop Hirokawa to Bucha like, was salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.