10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble – EP08

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10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble – #8 Keeping Secrets

Shaykh Musleh talks about a recipe for disaster in a marriage and how to prevent this from happening.

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Sir, Mr Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu. Brothers and sisters, the marriage is in trouble because and here's part number eight, keeping secrets from one another, you have a secret bank account, secret conversation, going to your parents house without him or her knowing. You're just always living this double life. So at home, you're one person, but outside the home is someone completely different. Keeping money stashed, where your wife or your husband doesn't know about giving money to certain individuals or your family, and so on. And no one knows about it. This is a recipe for disaster in the marriage. Now, I admit that there are some couples out there where one

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site is really trying to be open and honest. But every time they do that, the other side decides to take that information and use it or abuse it. And then one day, if there's an argument, that information is thrown right back to that individual, so the person decides, well, you know what, I'm not going to tell her anything anymore. Every time I tell her, I have some extra money or ever, every time I tell him, I have some extra savings, he always demands it for me, she always wants to purchase this or to buy that. So I'm just going to keep it secret. Here's the key ingredient or the key advice to solving these kinds of issues, you have to communicate and come to some kind of verbal

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agreement. So you have to say that, look, we won't keep secrets from one another. But here's the responsibility behind it when you know this kind of information. And this is the Sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Imagine, we don't have one Hadith of the prophets, I seldom ever told the companion, make sure you don't tell your husband this or you keep this information from your wife, keep this set of information away from them. Don't let them know that we don't even have a heady flight that scholars say that because of this, there should always be that open relationship where you can communicate and talk about everything and anything. If you can do that with your

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spouse, then there's a good chance you're going to probably do it with somebody else who might be giving you the wrong information. So one prime example that we see happening in this day and age is divorce or when problems happen in the marriage. You know, you'll have like a sister, she's going through so much issues in her marriage. So she'll talk to some of her friends about it. And her friends will say, you know what, he's a fool, you should just leave him. You know what, he never gave you your mahato or he only gave you a part of it, you should just leave them in divorce. And shaitan gets into her head and starts listening to all of these things. And guess what? She goes

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back to the home. And she says I want a divorce. Now he's in shock, because he thought it was just a problem that we could discuss, communicate and put that aside. But now it turns into a huge problem. There was an interesting Hadith regarding an incidents incidences like this in that is narrated in the Muslim of Imam Ahmed, where the prophet SAW Selim told us that every single day he believes he will meet with his followers, and he will ask them or he would listen to what the follows would say to him of what they've done to mankind for that day. So some will say, cost somebody to commit Zina, I cause somebody to steal, I influenced this person to commit a harm, and at least would listen to

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all of this. But when he hears that one of the clean origins say to him, today, I caused a divorce or a separated a husband and wife. This is when he beliefs applauds this individual and starts praising this gene in front of all of the other child, teen and Jin, because that is a great accomplishment to beliefs. May Allah curse him Subhana Allah. So brothers and sisters, you have to work at your marriage. And to work towards that marriage is you have to communicate with each other and talk about things. Don't keep secrets. Because at the end of the day, when you're when you have that open communication with one another, Allah subhanho wa Taala puts Baraka in the marriage, you

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start to trust one another, and confide in each other about anything and at the end of the day, no matter what you deal with in your life, you always say to yourself, I can go back home and talk to my wife. I can go back home and talk to my husband. Always remember when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam got his first revelation and he was scared and confused. What did he do? Who did he run to to get comfort? Don't say that he ran to hottie Giotto de la vida we know that. I want you to say that he ran to his wife. And he said to his wife is MB loony Cover me protect me and the wife in turn. She didn't just say What's wrong with you? We should be a man

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Just handle it. She started responding to him and calling upon Allah azza wa jal to shower mercy. And she started she started to console him and relax him and let him know that things are going to be okay with that kind of understanding or that kind of example. Marriages flourish, communication is strong, and you start depending on one or the other to get through life Bismillah hytera Allah, so May Allah subhanho wa Taala increase us in our Amen. May Allah subhanho wa Taala put barakah in our marriages instead mid to low barakato

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the marriage is in trouble and here's part number

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eight

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Okay,