Channel: Musleh Khan
10 Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble – #6 Intimacy is little or doesn’t exist
Intimacy is one of the most important aspects of marriage. If this is lacking in the relationship, that could spell trouble. Shaykh Musleh explains why.
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Salam or aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh. Who brothers and sisters as part of our series, your marriage is in trouble when and here's part number six. intimacy is either very little or doesn't exist at all. This is not a minor problem in the marriage. It's a major problem in the marriage. According to some scholars, even Harold rahimullah has this in his explanation of Buhari. And he mentioned that one of the core definitions of the word Nikesh is that intimacy is now made permitted. It's now become Hillel for these two individuals. So from the definition alone, you realize that intimacy is one of the most important aspects or elements of marriage. And the reality
is, and I know many memes and show you around the world kind of shy away from talking about this topic. But it really needs to be addressed is that intimacy is such a major part in the marriage. If you have any bankruptcy with that issue, you need to get help. You need to sit down and talk about this with your spouse, or actually get help, whether it's medical attention or professional help to try to understand the psychology behind this and why it is so important for the marriage to be healthy. I know some couples that go on six and seven months and they don't even sleep in the same bedroom. How do you expect for the marriage to survive if that's the way you're going to live every
day? Allah subhanho wa Taala made both of you Helen for each other so that at the end of the day, at some point when your desire gets stronger and stronger, Allah subhanho wa Taala gave you someone Hillel that you can be with that you can spend time with. And one of the interesting things about this topic of intimacy goes back to important verse ensuited Baccarat, it's a verse that you always hear where Allah subhanho wa Taala says, whoa, Nelly best to love him. And to leave us alone. She is a garment for you and you are a garment for her or in the plural for form. They meaning the women are a garment for you, meaning the men and vice versa. According to one definition, even our best
are human love mentions that this verse here is talking about intimacy, meaning that when she is a garment for her husband, meaning that underneath the blankets or underneath the covers, they are a garment for one another. Now I don't have to paint this picture of what exactly this is or how it looks like. Just think about it in our best to sing You are one cloth above him or her and you wrap each other together. And this here he mentioned that this one definition is that it's talking about intimacy. So there is a strong possibility that in this verse, it's alluding to intimacy directly explicitly. But the poor end is so beautiful, that it doesn't, it doesn't use words or phrases to
really paint a dirty image in your mind. It's so professional, it's so relaxed. It's so neutral in the wordings that it's used that it gets its message across, but not in a very explicit way. So Allah subhanho wa Taala certainly alludes to this in the Core M. And this is how we know the importance of this. And the last and final thing that I want to say is brothers and sisters, if you're struggling with intimacy in the marriage, get help talk to somebody, somebody you trust, talk to a family member, or go to the doctor, get whatever help you need. I don't know, until this day, I don't know of any marriage that survives without any intimacy. It's the way Allah subhanho wa Taala
created us in our fitara and so we have to realize and understand the importance of this and how we can continue to keep that alive in the marriage. Bismillah hytera Allah so brothers and sisters, the marriage is in trouble when intimacy is not there or it's very little May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us strength was Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh