Channel: Musleh Khan
10 Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble – #5 No time for each other
Shaykh Musleh talks about the formula to use when life becomes busy.
Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Your marriage is in trouble when and here's part five. You don't have time for each other, every single day it's work. It's school responsibilities, chores, things to do. There's just no time for you, the husband and the wife to have alone, to spend time with each other to go out and just be alone and sort of reignite the romance in your marriage to reignite that relationship and that mawatha and aroma that you've always felt for each other. And personally, I mean, I can understand that in this day and age, there's so many responsibilities that it just naturally takes away from that alone time that all of us desperately need with our spouse.
So listen to what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once told a companion sentimental fantasy of the logline. And he tells them for for RFT cooler, the helping help car give everything their due and rightful right there help. So really, this is the formula that you use in your entire life, regardless of how busy you are. Give whatever has a help give it its right. So your wife has a right from you, at some time during the day that once you're done all of your responsibilities. Now it's just alone time for you and her, the kids are asleep or they're busy with homework or they're not at home, this is your time with her. Don't use that time and say to yourself, Well, I finally have two
hours for free. I'm going to go play basketball, I'm going to go play soccer. I'm going to go hang out with my buddies, I'm going to go to the masjid and stay there for five hours. Remember, you are rewarded the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once told us Hector, Look, man, even if you give a morsel of food to your wife, this is an act of sadaqa. It's an act of charity. So when you spend time with one another, when you look out for each other, or you're simply sitting down and just having a conversation about nothing, all of this is set up. When you have the intention to please Allah azza wa jal and fulfill each other's rights. So the point brothers and sisters is you have to
make time for each other time is, is our greatest asset. And at the same time, it's the greatest loss that we suffer. So it's important that within 24 hours of your day, you have to mentally schedule that later on in the afternoon or later on in the evening. This is going to be my family time. And you can ask any psychologist, any therapist, anyone who specializes in these fields, they will tell you that every single couple needs alone time it's healthy for their relationship, and more. So it's healthy to keep that love that mawatha and that aroma that we desperately need in order for the marriage to flourish. Keep in mind that the Sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam is that after Asia, he would be home, he would either go to sleep, or he would be at home with the family. So you can mentally schedule in your mind that once you come home from work, and you relax, you spend time with the family especially after Asia. So this is especially important for the brothers who are listening to this. When you go to the masjid and you pray I share when it's done, go home, be with your family, don't sit back and and linger around the masjid for four or five hours after a share and you reach home at midnight. And even if the wife asks you, you know, where have you been? I was waiting for you. I was hoping we could have dinner together. This is her right?
And even for the sisters, put aside all of your responsibilities and your chores for a moment. When you see your husband is home. take that opportunity to be with him and spend time with one another. You will enjoy it and your marriage will will flourish flourish it will be filled with water Kobe is Neela hytera Allah so the key advice that I have for you in this message in this topic is give everything its help give everything it's right. And you have to make a strong intention and a strong responsibility inside of you that you give this its time and you give this its help and in sha Allah, Allah you will enjoy either relationship with one another. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless
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