Vices Series – Ep. 16 – Free Mixing

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AI: Summary © The segment discusses the concept of women's clothing and the need for individuals to show their true feelings and thoughts in order to avoid confusion and misunderstand. The speakers emphasize the importance of acknowledging and embracing the culture of the people they encounter and finding the best locations for men to attend. They also touch on the negative perception of women in the market and the need for them to show their true feelings and thoughts in order to avoid confusion and misunderstand. The segment ends with a discussion of the importance of segregation and learning from past experiences.
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You mentioned that one sin

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can lead to another sin. That's a person should be vigilant. All types of sins, the less they creep into a person's life and encourage the individual to fall into another sin.

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And as we stopped upon negligence, in one's dress sense, specifically for women can lead to negligence in one's behavior, one's conduct.

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Not to say that every woman who dresses a certain manner is immoral. That's not our intent, but it leads towards bad behavior or bad practice or encouragement towards certain things.

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We mentioned that the main etiquettes of the women focus based upon numerous are yet

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inside so to know the 24th chapter

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while your grip who Marina added up when we said them, requested to go back and read it the fear

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of these verses specifically,

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while you're graebner beho Marina Allah jujubee hinda Anna, do you begin

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to go back and read it to see it? What does it mean

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to take the veils over their bodies? How the role of the Pharisees describe the meaning of the vein the meaning of the job and what the intent is,

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and what the custom should be.

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And likewise look at numerous areas inside so till

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the 33rd chapter of Quran also replete with so many verses about ethics and behavior.

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Till eventually find a corner people Utica,

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J de una

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mcconathy boo tikona remain inside your homes

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and do not come out in a state of coverage.

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Once again go and read works of difficile.

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What is the root mean? coming up in your beauty and ornaments

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for Masami find your mom to be in Saudi Arabia he mentioned what is known as a jab of Jamia

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depicted depict this inside your minds he's speaking about a year, a year magenta days of ignorance. days before Islam how women would dress at that time

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they would wear the headscarf and the A's and the A lobes and show

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and they

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next an upper part of the chest would show

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this was the job of Germania

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depict that with a modern 21st century the world that we live in at the moment, the type of a job and dress sense that women think this is pleasing to Allah Subhana Allah man up to be centuries go write this inside the step see.

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And as we mentioned that bad or negligence toward one's dress sense leads towards negligence towards conduct

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itself so to know that we find how we need to conduct ourselves television last time that I mentioned young Latina woman who led the TV rocoto to shape on

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are you believe, don't follow the footsteps of the devil. For in no model will fashion he will mooka

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shape one only commands, what is known as an fascia and starfish. All forms of illicit relationship, dress sense in morality, lack of modesty, lewdness, wickedness, when moon can even

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and similar verses exists throughout the Quran whereby the snares the trap of shape one is to work the shape on the Quran doesn't say shape one just comes in and just drags a person towards harem

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or on speaks about how to work the steps of the devil

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allele he was a Sufi so to earnestness begins but insinuating whispering inside the mind of the person

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then plays in the mind will eventually begin to follow certain things and carry out certain actions.

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It's a long term strategic goal of shape on

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so does the Quran is accurate don't follow the footsteps of the devil

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even mentions what a duck Rosina in Ghana for a certain was a Sevilla. Orange is what a duck Rabu Quran doesn't say what I

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say don't commit Zina. That's what the Quran says. Even that is clearly the meaning

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Quran says what a duck grabouw.

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Don't come close to Xena. Anything that leads to Zinner

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according to a soul, student,

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anything that leads to heroin, for who or harm.

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Anything that leads the end result will be heard on whether it be 1000s whether it be hundreds, whether it be just the one individual.

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The Sherry assess, is her on

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the show, he doesn't look as well, some of us think that maybe I'm safe, I'm a protected individual. I won't fall into the trap. So the devil may be, there may be one in 1,000,001 in a billion who doesn't fall into the trap. So the devil does know what shape on looks up.

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Over the shirt, he looks at it looks at what can be dangerous, what will be the danger, what will be the end? What will be the downfall, what can take place? Because the mind of the human being is limited. Allah Subhana Allah Allah Allah, Allah, Allah people have been, there is no Allah Subhana nobody has created he's the most subtle, the most aware.

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person shouldn't be ashamed. Or am Setsuna Ignacio Pusha T. Meena Nisa the beginning of surah Emraan. Allah mentioned Xena leanness, the most beautiful things to mankind

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is begins not with wealth, with property, gold, silver, branded, who says, Well, this will mention later inside the verse, Allah begins by mentioning to you in a nutshell Pusha T Mina, Nisa, this is the nature of the human being the drive of the human being. So, when a person is placed inside a certain environment,

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and a conducive environment, then the feelings will will rise for the person, if not, then not to be classified as a human being, in a sense that again, against the nature of a human being, because unless please, certain likes and dislikes within the faculty of the human being, and as if our negligence in our behavior that we find negligent find most intermingling between Muslims,

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the mixing of the genders between men and women that we find.

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Unfortunately, it's become common practice amongst us Muslims. We think nothing of it. And sometimes it's not even a step further,

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that we mingle. Muslims with non Muslims have not talked about it. In general business interaction, we talk about being in an environment of Muslim men with non Muslim women. And unfortunately, even Muslim women being with non Muslim women. Because we are all colleagues at work, we are individually working together, there is no harm in that, if you can visualize it inside our society is not even hidden anymore, that women will be with non Muslim men, whether it be even simple acts of bowling, or going for dinner, or having a drink, or having a cup of tea. People can clearly visualize, that's not your husband. That's not a madam to you. There's not a family member to you, and likewise for

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men as well, that they'll be having lunch, having meetings, in in private with non Muslim women, who are not dressed appropriately. But it's all part of business ethics is all part of living inside this community living inside the society.

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There is a line that needs to be drawn, about what it means to engage, to immerse yourself inside society to amalgamate yourself inside society, to learn the culture of the people around you. And what is Islam? What is Islam teaches. And also we find another extreme element that some of us we don't give up our culture, the cultural aspects that we own brothers and sisters, we own one family that exist in some of our cultures, especially the subcontinent. We are all one family. So there's no harm in the mixing of the genders. These are two extremes that we find amongst us Muslims that we need to tackle, which we don't need to tackle actually, which the Prophet is on he mentioned himself

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because he was sent we're glad tidings you sent to decide the people who sent to purify people. So that's he mentioned he was the hula, Allah Nisa. Tackling both of these issues, he said, Go upon you to enter upon a gathering of women and among strange women to be in a gathering of women to go and mix with them to be with them. Yakumo the hula Allah Nisa has been such a Muslim bow upon you to ever sit in a gathering surrounded by women for Colorado middle and saw when the people I'm sorry, asked this question of writer and how

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have you seen the brother in law close family member

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Carla and Hamill mote.

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The prophet Elijah Tommy said, The brother in law is most his death.

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Words are categorically clear.

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close family members that death What does it mean his death and we're going to decipher across individual family members. There are some of them are classified as non mme to the woman. And likewise, there are some women are classified as non mme to the man. Irrespective what culture teaches us, irrespective what may be what our parents practice, irrespective of any disrespectful society may do. These are Kalamata Rasul Allah salatu salam. These are words of the Prophet Allah is that sounds It began with

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these words. If you could say words of the Quran, because the prophet Isaiah 1 million people and in our in who

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knew her, he doesn't speak of his own desires, whenever he speaks his divine intervention revelation from Allah subhanho wa Taala and as we find he was the hula Allah Nisa, we find Hadith he said, Amen. Timothy, no man is along with a non Muslim woman, except that shavon would be set amongst them. And as soon as the known man sits alone,

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with a woman who's not madam to him, except for the third entity, will be the devil

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will be the devil sitting on the first occasion may be innocent. On a second occasion, by shape and we play on the mind. When we need to, we specifically begin to entice the person begin to bring certain things inside the heart and the mind of the individual from both perspectives, like for different shapes and flows through the veins of, of mankind, if human beings, like blood flows through the veins,

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shaper looks at an opportunity to display the relationship of a man with his wife, to corrupt society, to lead people away. And even is howdy defined in the context of this hadith where the Prophet Allah is not making a take of what's inside the mustard in seclusion. He would come out and meet his wife would meet and would, would embrace them, speak to them and return back. On occasion he comes in he meets Sophia,

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Randy a lot Alana meets and speaks to her. And then he retracts and he walks away or before walking with certain companions, they will pass

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as if to make something a bodily movement or gesture of hastin themselves.

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He says to them, and obviously Kuma Pia is be a rest. be at rest. Don't worry. I'm standing in my own wife, Sophia, are the lowdown on her. They said, Canada, we don't think of any evil thoughts because you're the Messenger of Allah.

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We don't think of that. But he reminded them, then we shape on flows through the veins of human beings, just like blood flows through the veins,

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meaning the sky is normal. If you see somebody standing with a strange woman, you're going to think something wrong of that individual.

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You're not going to find it appropriate. You may begin to gossip begin to speak about it. Or just being with a strange woman. But we are raised I'm not standing with no strange woman. I'm standing with my own wife. But I'm giving you a warning. Be vigilant about standing or being with a strange woman inside your life. Life was headed in a Muslim. From this day on with no man should visit a woman whose husband is absent unless there is another man or two with them. If a man needs to visit, a person,

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no person should enter where a woman is all alone inside the house. As you take precaution and someone is with the person or someone happens to be there before they enter into the home of another individual. And like we find in his modern so called Muslim world that we find

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people that they keep Kadima, they keep female servants you know the Sharia major major, it doesn't twist and change persons or persons poor persons Well, first person is a scholar persons that illiterate individual persons, some type of person in some form of authority. So the rules bend and they twist according to people that's not how the Sharia works. Naturally, it is a twist for the for a certain individual that they are given certain preference, there are certain elements of preference that may be given

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for a certain element of of sanctity of preservation or risk of a person's life or whatever it may be that may exist. But in general, this journey of law is is there for everyone.

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If a person is rich, and they keep female servants inside their home,

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even that in itself is questionable. If they do keep it there are certain requirements of the Sharia or how a person engages with them or keeps them in a certain location.

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Like that. So some of us that may be far off that we're not in a position to keep sevens

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Inside our homes, practitioners, some of us professional individuals we find no harm that if I'm a doctor by profession that my ad my sister happens to be happens to be a woman because it's a professional world.

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And likewise we find aides and assistants that white people will have them people in the world if I would have people that women in their work environment for them, it's just worth

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likewise if I even don't be taken aback, even Islamic world

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we find people, Islamic scholars or preachers that we find their personal assistants or women what dean of a law you teach him to people

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what do you teaching to people that if your personal assistant person who knows your ins and your out your personal commitments, your needs, your desires, what needs to be done person, a person that is close to a person?

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It happens to be a female who know nothing to you. And your preaching Deen of Allah Subhana Allah. We don't want to undo this kind of work. There's only find such corruption amongst people at times spreading the name of Allah subhanaw taala corruption within themselves, because they allow this to take place. They're not vigilant, they think they are above the law. Because I'm a person who knows the Quran and Sunnah. Maybe there's some exception to me, if there is no exemption for the Prophet alayhi salatu salam in a way that he spoke to people when he addressed people the way he was vigilant. Who are we to believe that exemption belongs to us? There should be some form is this some

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exception to the rule that we have, we are men of God. And so it won't take place. Or we're more vigilant. And like I said, we don't want to open a can of worms of the amount of stories and corruption in Islamic Society that we find of people who have engaged in her arm, her arm because you know, being vigilant about what they may claim to be basic teachings, or trivial teachings, or these things don't really matter anymore in the real world of preaching to humanity around us. Like what if I'm not talking about how some people want to twist the teachings? So Well, we live we live in a in a in a modern world, you have to engage with men and women, when

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that can happen. That's just normal in life. You may just go to the grocery to buy stuff, and you may see someone may just offer Greetings, have a mild discussion. Islam is not speaking about that. This is normality of life. They speak about seclusion.

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personal relationship, intimacy, discussing working because likes and dislikes begin to develop. If you're passing by somebody on the bus on the street, or you buy something in a shop and you just exchange nice words as human beings and you walk away. That's not that's not halwa. That's not being intimate. That's not being in seclusion. That's not developing likes and dislikes. That's just a common aspect in the marketplace in a shopping mode. That may be there of gang conflict machine as well going to the marketplace excessively, because that is whereby you find certain ratio measures whereby the shape on places is flag raises his flag inside marketplaces, because of what can take

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place of all types of Mahara muck around things like what we find a person to not place himself in a woman, dominant workforce, or men dominate the workforce to replace themselves did

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the shooting I said Where is where is the man finds relaxation inside their life

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within bathrooms overland with his wife with her husband, one jalapeno Kumar

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la comida comida karoun. In such so to whom the 30th chapleau Quran Allah mentions what Yeah, anabaena kumada tamarama has placed immense love,

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affection, compassion, mercy, kindness, good feeling between the husband and the wife, and a place that arabela mentioned Lita schooner, to live with her, to be intimate with her, to speak with her to express my thoughts with her, not with your work colleagues, not with people who work with you to get pestered with them to discuss your your difficulties to place your lower your burdens, somebody to cry upon somebody to discuss your life upon.

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Even you find in the world of helping people

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it's not it's no exaggeration, how you find even helping a woman helping women and Rukia Sharia that we find. When a woman finds attachment towards this, this rocky this person who expelled the gentleman who took magic away from her

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and should be less than to some of these record is these people who carry on Rukia they feel it needs to be no matter needs to be that be there with them. I was shocked that you find first condition no Muslim woman said along with this

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strange man even happened before Rokia was shocked to felony. He should never ever touch her.

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Never ever touched her, lying to Sharon, for a man to touch a strange woman. So people who carry out doing Rokia who firstly seclude themselves with strange women, then they may touch them. And then we could see what seems to take place after as well, which has been disclosed to many of us. What begins to take place. This is what the Sharia banishes

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the Sharia is pure, pure purity.

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purity. Don't defame Islam, as a monster can be as simple as you should sit on their own accord. Don't take Islam as a as a platform to enter into sin to enter into vise likewise define the partial sense of who is a man to a man.

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Look at the end of the fourth choose the beginning of the fifth juice in Sarasota Nyssa. Once again, Rizzuto Nyssa, the fourth chapter, the Quran, numerous is about etiquettes about behavior, fully mechanical

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webinar to come.

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To come.

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This way you find peace.

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Now the total peace like your wife, touch peace, holy mechanical Omaha to come around for you, is to marry your mother's.

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So first it is no matter no matter what your mother, to speak to your mother, what better to call your daughters, what to call your sisters. Like what you find what I meant to call your paternal aunt, what to call your maternal aunt, and I qualified for ASCII duties of your of your brothers. And due to the assistant you will match them to them. person can laugh, joke, entertain, be at ease with them. There is judiciary as these other women for whenever a person finds an element of being content and being happy with them, now placing their happy happiness with strange women, which leads to the facade that we see inside society, and that we find a segregated environment which Muslims

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they try to question, Muslim start to question the element of segregation inside society, segregation of the male and female gender. We can deal with the non Muslims. In a short while about what they speak about segregation. And you'll be very surprised about what they see about segregation,

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in contrast to a Muslim, so called Western Islamic intellectual thinkers, who are now going to step forward so even a Muslim woman can lead the men in prayer, a facade herder. What corruption is this? That a Muslim woman can leave the men in prayer?

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I'm not mistaken. But there is a measure whereby there is an event with a woman

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who leaves them in prayer inside this country. What What the What belief is this,

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that they a woman to lead the men inside prayer. And likewise, we find the best rooms for men. At the front rows, have you been a Muslim? There was no so many other roles, the end roles. And the opposite. The best roles for women are the end roles, the final roles. And the worst roles for women are the front rows hiding inside, say a Muslim.

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People want to come and say this is not equality. These are words of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, then they say what they used to pray in one one big building. They were at the end there. There was a need and necessity at that time. But even then, study in great detail. Had he been a student.

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The women will be as black and as dark as clothes. They will cover totally that they were you couldn't recognize them. They would hold fast to the walls, rub themselves against the wall when they would walk. And then she finally asked about a woman's garment. What Why should it be long. There's no impurity Come on the end of the garment that we mentioned what comes opposite. When purified, he carries on walking through the dust through the desert.

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Through the earth, it will purified it some feel comfortable to be washed away. That's the government the woman is long is trailing

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the government of the man in short, but today's society we find the opposite. That a government a woman is to be in this manner that we find and the government of man should be like this.

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This is how the professor he advised

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he told the people around you know find this meaning conduct themselves.

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an inquiry find a need at that time also, study the history the companions

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most of the companion

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didn't recognize any of the women.

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Even our Isha are at the local arena when when this started the whole suit of the new beginning of sorts of new that we find we need to see whereby they bring

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the companion he mentions, I only recognize that because I saw her before.

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When a face was uncovered, I recognize the face because I'd seen it before. And I knew that was a shot of the older daughter and I knew that was her.

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But other than that he never knew who that woman was. There was no distinction the companions didn't know this was so in so

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why is the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, when total seclusion

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total seclusion that even when they were traveling, they were placed inside a top of the camel placed inside the box, which you find even to the late 19th century that you find the queen and other individuals.

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Elite people travel at the whim of secluded, totally secluded, themselves, the women were at that time, were not visible in such society, unlike today that we find inside our society. Likewise, you find in return to this community

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to refresh ourselves that we there may be some wizardry that we only asked for some normalcy things. What is this gender segregation, let us remind ourselves and remind them

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some of the schools that we went to that exist the buildings, look at the buildings.

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Look at the buildings in a Victorian age of the schools that were built, you find a boy's entrance, and you find a girl's entrance. Go and study some of the buildings, schools in our community, it still exists, practices exist. But there was clearly a visible element of segregation. There boys would enter the building from one dimension and go from another direction. Many some of us in thus far away the Victorian times. It wasn't until the late 60s and early 70s, that they began to abolish separate gender schools, inside this country, in Ireland and inside Australia. And till the 70s. That was a common form of education. Boys were educated separately, girls are separated separately

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common norm inside the Western world. Inside this community that we find. Cambridge University, to this day, has three female only colleges in 2021 next year, or two years time, one of them will be abolished and made into a mixed gender college. However, two will remain two colleges specifically for women. In America, there are 36 colleges or universities, specifically for women only, specifically for women only as we go on to Iran and arrange about what are these Muslim preaching about having separate education, about having gender separate segregation, as we move to go upon that they are they know, whether it be for whatever purposes they have, but they recognize that

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certain things need to be placed inside society for the betterment of that society. Life qualifies South London hospital for women and children in Clapham Common. That closed in 1984. All the staff in Sally's hospital was a criteria had to be women. All the staff were women inside this hospital. And to certain degree what exists today. Liverpool Women's Hospital to a large degree is only women only.

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Why do they have this? Why do they have this inside the society travel? Now some people get emotional about traveling you find in Rio de Janeiro in Brazil, the metro in the year 2006 segregated personalized carriages for women only inside Mexico City. You find the buses in the year 2008 specifically allotted buses for women only in Japan, in India, and as early as late as 2015. The Labour Party were discussing to bring back women only carriages inside the society. So are we the fools?

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Are we the backward individuals? Are we medieval people? But our people will listen to our statistics. Well, that sounds sensible, doesn't it? That sounds good. But when we rant about it, when we rage about it, oh, that's just another cleric. That's just another mad cleric who's talking about segregation in society. But when the Western world speaks about it, that becomes great news. That becomes that becomes

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that becomes a that becomes a face. But when centuries ago, the professor he rebuked us and he warned us and he encouraged us that diminishes inside our life that weakens inside

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Life. We pay no credit towards that many times.

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If you visit hospitals and find placards and boards that are placed there, that if you require a chaperone

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if you require someone to be with you, this can be loosely equated a chaperone being your madam.

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Some across relative of yours, your husband, your brother, your son, someone to be with you or your wife or your sister to be with you, because you don't feel comfortable being alone with a doctor of the opposite gender or the nurse with the opposite gender. That's how you can translate it in a static word with a chaperone means that you find next time you visit the hospital it's there. Why is it there? Maybe they say so comfortability, whatever it may be, but we know why as Muslims, we have these rules and regulations placed amongst us. All of messenger, my wife has gone out, intending to perform the Hajj. And I've been enlisted in the way in the army to go and fight Jihad with such and

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such campaign.

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What did the Prophet Allah say to him individually, he said, return and perform Hajj with your wife.

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Don't let your wife going on travel with her. No woman is allowed to travel on our own on our own, except wouldn't with a maximum.

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Today what we find in the modern world,

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I'm free to go on holiday where I want to travel around, you're not allowed to go for Hajj. Except for with a matter of how are you free to travel around the world to enjoy the world? How you free that you want to travel one city to another city? How are you free to travel from one lecture to another lecture, even a standard to find people we meet? May Allah guide them in a disguise of traveling to a lecture outside the precincts of the environment are going out late to a lecture they there is no real need.

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That becomes common practice. Inside our society, the common practices that our society is those etiquettes Wakanda people Utica, those are the natural elements of practices are a society that we should be adopting. The second part of the heading for Colorado middle and southern

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writers and have a management I'm sorry, said what about a close relative of the husband? and appropriate Elijah, we mentioned the humble and humble mode.

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Mm, no, we mentioned that Hamming is everybody.

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Every individual except for the father, or the sons of the man,

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a father, the brother of the husband, the nephew of the husband, the uncles, of the husband, all of them are classified as a note and unknowingly mentioned the only maham to the woman is the husband's father and the husband's sons were from a previous marriage, that they become married to the woman. Other than that, remember we mentioned inside the shadow this has been such a Muslim centuries ago? What is the correct stance all of that is not allowed, is forbidden for a person to be mixing inside the environment. As we mentioned, what is a common culture in the subcontinent that we find that we are all brothers and sisters, we're not here to to question people. That's not what our intent is.

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Our intent is to lay out this is what the Sharia encourages, or tells us to do.

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So when people say, well, there's no harm in a brother, to mix to be with his sister in law. In our culture, it's something which is acceptable, and we acknowledge that it's acceptable according to the culture, but we advise them. And we say to them that if the intent as they say,

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is that if the woman her husband dies, then the brother married her,

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to look after her and to look after her children.

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Why did he marry her?

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If she's married to him? Why did he marry her, then? That's what we say to our parents to help them to understand psychologically? Why did the brother marry his own brother's wife? Then I give another excuse? Because someone has to look after the family to look after the children. He we accept that as well then possibly? Why did he then have children with her then?

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Why did they have children with her then? If he's supposed to be looking after the family, because Sure, and aesthetically, he is allowed to marry her. And his family is allowed to be intimate with her. And Islam is allowed to have children with her does we teach our parents and our grandparents that we're not here to dismantle society and culture. We're here to highlight this is what took place inside our culture, which you accept that took place and we need to abolish it.

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We have that free mixing inside the society inside our family members. And we think nothing about it. And like I said, we're not here to question our brothers, our blood brothers, as we began with.

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No one is thinking even of their brothers. When you harm about them, we're forming what the Sharia is encouraging us to do that less than even in one case, as we began with one case, one case of something going wrong or something happening is far too many.

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One case is far too many, as far as the Sharia is concerned. And likewise, we should be vigilant

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inside our cultural upbringing that we find, I hate to say this, on the member of the prophet Elijah, we find cases of abuse.

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and nine times out of 10 abuse upon these children or family members, is carried out by our close relatives of the individual,

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even amongst non Muslims.

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And unfortunate amongst Muslim you find that it is carried out by the uncle, by the on by person is close to the family will carry out abuse. And like I said, I don't want to speak about it because it's a very taboo topic. It's very upsetting topic that we as Muslims, that we have abused inside our society, that we are specifically dealing with abuse, children who've gone through abuse, you know, you read the words of the fuqaha. They state that even teachers, teachers will teach young children if they have boy that they have young, beautiful faces, person should be vigilant to sit with them to teach with them. That's what Foucault discusses other books of teaching Islamic

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scientists to young boys. Look how vigilant Sharia is, we think that these are medieval practices inside society, we can see them begins to lead what begins to take place inside a society of abuse that begins to take place. Unlike what we find non Muslims. They need to understand what is MacArthur's Sharia? What is the intent of the Islamic law?

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On the basis Hadees we find this element of segregation takes place inside Islamic Society on the basis of this one Hadith. The intended Islamic law

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revolves around five basic elements to preserve your mind, your honor, your dignity, your wealth, your your lineage, and to preserve your D.

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non Muslim may enter that they're trying to preserve the women's honor and dignity. shun put religion aside even though the essence of segregation was religious value amongst them.

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This is what the Sharia is.

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If a person enters into something, which is forbidden, especially Zinner that we find him guilty of mentioned that Zenaida is a one sin

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that destroys the person on this dunya.

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It breaks all five elements of the Sharia the intent of the standard law, it breaks your dignity, Your Honor, your wealth, your mind and praise God.

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Islam says the most worst form of Zina that you find is to commit adultery with your neighbor's wife.

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Because of the the proximity is like a family member.

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any harsh words, you know, as a cyber listen to the discussion, what are they discussions about? In all honesty? What do they speak about?

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Not to disrespect them, but it's a fact. It's factual evidence about their life, how much they drink, how they got drunk, what sexual activity they had, with who and how, how liberal they are to such a degree you find out in the contracts of marriage. Don't be taken aback in a contract of marriage, it is signed and written, that I can live a loose life.

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Extremely fresh, I don't sleep with whomever I want. Because according to my marriage contract, it is placed there that I'm not bound for you to be my wife, I can do whatever I want in my spare time whenever I want.

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These these are they psychological thinking that development and their way of life that they have,

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which is obnoxious is totally different than our Muslim develop their life and how they live their life.

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And as we find that is the world around us. It has a big impact.

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There's the soap operas around us.

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This shows the dramas that we find even in in the in the in the Arab world in the subcontinent. What is it? What is it? What is it show? person having an external affair? married man has an external affair. A woman has an external affairs, she's not happy with her husband. He's not happy because when he comes home, he doesn't find the beauty when he doesn't find the love or respect with her. She doesn't dress the way he wants it to dress. This old soap opera, this drama all become what becomes reality.

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becomes humanity becomes common practice. And that's not the way it should be for Muslim.

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A Muslim man a Muslim woman, as you mentioned you find peace contentment inside their home. She find love and affection. That's why the professor mentioned no shyness. He said one woman has another woman has personas and desires and needs and goals and fulfills a need. Why would he would he spouse

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person is vigilant inside their life, that may Allah forbid that any element of Xena had he decides he must have facial sin of the of the human being is written down. The eyes commit Zina, the town commit Zina. The hands commit Zina, there may Allah forbid then the ultimate sinner person Yaakov is a person enters into Zina.

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We should be worried. We shouldn't be so so humble about friends who have who have loose relationship involved in relationship friends that we know we're married, involved in some illicit relationship inside whatever it may be. We should frown upon it. We should find it upsetting we should find it wondering that the quality of our Muslim This is what it is. And we're finding it normality may not protect us all. From cinnamaldehyde Amina mama, papa, all forms of Xena, whatever is a parent whatever is hidden, to keep us away from keep make us to be pure individually inside our life, pure individually that we return back to the state of purity. Purity isn't just external God,

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external display. Purity is tough one kalu purity of the heart the mind when a person is committed such harm inside their life. They think in secrecy about their life. They think in secrecy about themselves. They think in secrecy should refrain, I should protect myself, I should lower my gaze stay away from this. This secrecy leads to the blessing of new light of living a daily life

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of Biggie of having an alpha of having angels that preserve the individual, protect the individual, leave the individual tools high praise content management by any individual some duration and measure any individual who lowers his gaze for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. A younger athlete can be allowed to email. Allah places the sweetness of a man inside the heart sweetness of Eman inside the heart. When a person has no one has as a man when he sees those things that make him a beautiful oak similar person. You see once a person see he sees disgust. He sees ugliness. He doesn't see the beauty that the world is seeing. Because the light of Eman shines in the eye shine

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development This is something just ignoring me. distracting me away from my journey to Allah Subhana Allah