Suicide Is Never The Solution

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Muiz Bukhary

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Friday sermon delivered by Sheikh Muiz Bukhary on the 10th of  October, 2014 at Masjidul Hasan Jumu’ah Masjid, Lower Bagatalle Road, Colombo-03, Sri Lanka.

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen

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wa sallahu wa sallam Allah ashrafi ambia mousseline and Amina Habib in our karate our union our Mohammed bin Abdullah

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he was happy he

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fill out

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fill out

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a one man.

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Job

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all praise and thanks to Almighty Allah subhanho dialer with our Creator, sustain and nourish, protect and cure. We ask Allah the Almighty to shower his choices of blessings and salutations upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family members, his companions and all those would read upon his path with utmost sincerity until the day of

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slaves of Allah first and foremost, I advise myself and then all of you are seated here to adopt a line of taqwa. And that is to fear a loss of Hannah Medina and to be conscious of a loss of data during every single second of our lives. If we wish to attain success in this world, as well as the hereafter May Allah azza wa jal make us all from the people of the poor.

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inshallah Dinah, the topic for today's kotova for today's sermon is, suicide is never the solution.

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And the reason I'm touching on this topic is because for the past few days, I've been receiving calls and alarming information about individuals with suicidal thoughts.

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Members behind and more data, save us all, my dear respected elders and brothers in Islam, a person with suicidal thoughts and this I've come to realize this after a few encounters with these individuals and after interacting with them is that not every suicidal person would be very open to ask for help. But that does not mean that help is not required. Suicide is a desperate attempt that these individuals resort to because they have been blinded

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by hopelessness, by depression, by self loathing, they hate themselves, and by isolation by being isolated from society, perhaps by their family, perhaps, etc. The other day, I was watching a video on TED Talks, and not that I'm endorsing all of their videos, but this particular video was pretty good.

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This was a video about a highway patrol officer who talks about his career, where he spent most of his time on the Golden Gate Bridge, which is in San Francisco.

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According to him, he states that the Golden Gate Bridge is one of the most utilized spots for individuals who wish to suicide, malice behind him or dialog, save us all. And he goes on to say that there is this myth that has been built around this particular bridge that people have this belief that if you jump off that bridge, if you jump off that bridge, as you are falling off that bridge, you are freed from all of your worries and all of your problems. And as you hit the water, the waters cleanse your soul. And then it goes on to say, but in reality what happens is that the minute an individual jumps off the bridge, after a freefall of about seven to eight seconds that

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individual hits the

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Water at the speed of 100 kilometers per hour, resulting in most of them dying at the very impact of them hitting the water, or else the minute they hit the water, it shatters their bones and the bones thereafter puncture vital organs, leaving them flailing in the water helplessly until they drown me I lost.

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My dear respected elders and brothers in Islam, suicide is never a solution, but rather, it is a barter with the devil. It is an exchange of known temporary problems of this dunya After all, the whole life that are lost behind them with Allah, this whole life that Allah azza wa jal has blessed each and every one of us with is very temporary is very short. Suicide is an exchange of known temporary problems with unknown permanent eternal problems and torment me lost behind them Medina Savers, or there's a hadith in Bukhari and Muslim Abu Dhabi a long one who narrates the loss of the law. He said a long while he was seldom is reported to have said, and the narration goes along the

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lines of these words,

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that whoever throws himself off a mountain, wishing to kill himself. Whoever throws himself off a cliff or a mountain will be sentenced to jahannam forever. The narration goes along the lines of these words, he'll be sentenced to jahannam to the blurs, blazing Inferno of hell forever, and he will keep on throwing himself off a cliff in jahannam, deeper and deeper into Johanna malice behind.

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The narration goes on. For a long while he was seldom is reported to have said, Whoever consumes poison to kill himself, he will abide in jahannam forever sipping poison, he will keep on consuming poison. And he will keep on afflicting that pain into his body. And whoever stabs himself with an iron object with a piece of metal, he will be in jahannam forever, and he will keep stabbing himself in the stomach. But he respected elders and brothers in Islam. And that is why I said it is an exchange for unknown, eternal problems, those problems are going to be forever, forever. There is no bliss, just because you took your life, it's going to be torment and punishments forever in the fire

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of Johanna. In another narration or supervisor along while usnm is reported to have said that

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the supervisor along while he said them I'm informed

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by Donna

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amongst those who came before you're amongst those who came before you all there was an individual

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who was afflicted with a particular wound. And because of that, he panicked. he panicked because of the wound, and then he took a sharp object and slit his wrists, he slit his wrists, resulting in him bleeding to death. And then Alas, behind them more data, said my slave, hasten my slave, hasten to bring about his own demise, his own destruction. Therefore I have forbidden Jenna for him. I have forbidden paradise for him.

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My dear respected elders and brothers in Islam, the pain of suicide is forever it is eternal, as has been reported to us by our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the I decided in the beginning, mean actually Radek, akata been

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under human control, and

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I've seen our facade and fill out the

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portal and NASA jemena, that an individual who kills another person, another soul.

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The punishment of the decree over him is as if he has killed all of mankind unjustly if a person were to kill someone else unjustly, then the punishment for him or the decree over him is that it is as if he has killed all of mankind, woman Africa for the Anima yanase Jamia and the one who saves the life it is as if he has saved all of mankind. scholars of the past year they mentioned that the usage of words by our maker in this particular Ayah nevsun Mankato Allah nevsun this particular noun is not in its definite particle, it is an indefinite noun, meaning a soul and not the soul. Therefore, it is in a general and comprehensive manner, indicating that even if you were to kill

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your own selves, even if you were to take your own life, that Allah azza wa jal blessed you with it is a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. We have no light whatsoever we don't own our body, nor do we own we don't own our bodies. No

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Do we own our souls, all of that belongs to Allah subhana wa Tada. Even if we were to take our own lives, may Allah subhanho wa Taala save us all, it is as if we have killed all of mankind. And likewise, if we were to save an individual, to be as if we have saved all of mankind, we are lost behind them, or data help us to do so many respected elders and brothers in Islam, it is upon us to prevent suicide. Therefore, we have to be extremely careful, we have to look for certain warning signs, amongst our friends, perhaps amongst our own families, we hear of children coming up to us and telling us that I'm having a hard time with my parents, I'm having a hard time with my father or

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my mother, I'm having a hard time with my spouse. You see, this quality of self loathing where they start hating themselves is because perhaps their parents are putting them down. Or perhaps a spouse is putting down another spouse, the minute a father keeps on looking down on a child, the child feels as if I'm not good enough for my father, when will I you know, earn the praise of my father, a word, a kind word of encouragement can make an individual move mountains, and at times between two spouses. When a spouse keeps on looking down on the other spouse by saying you're no good, or this person is better than you, you keep on looking down upon an individual that results in that

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individual going into a downward spiral of depression. He or she starts to hate themselves, they start to hate themselves, they start to love themselves. And that's what resolves gradually, gradually towards thoughts or tendencies of suicide. May Allah subhana wa Tada, save us all. So if we wish to save a life, and that will be as if we have saved all of mankind, it is upon us to be vigilant, it is upon us to be careful. It is upon us to be observant, we believers we believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala it is not upon us to go into the abyss of depression because of lust behind and what Allah states love that isn't in Allah Allah Allah that do not despair. Do not grieve. Do

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not worry in the Lucha mana Indeed Allah subhana wa Taala is with us. Allah above will make available beloved maker, he is with us. One afternoon after Abu he laid him in harmony, Allah azza wa jal states in another place that we are closer to him, ie to man than in than his own jugular vein Allahu Akbar, Allah subhana wa Taala is so close to us, we are enveloped in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So it is not becoming of a believer to go into the abyss of depression and negativity. May Allah subhana wa Taala save us all swiftly moving a few of the warning signs that perhaps an individual has tendencies towards suicide, or is having suicidal thoughts. Number one is

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if that individual begins to talk about suicide, it is upon us to be careful with our own children, perhaps our own spouses, our friends, the minute you hear one of them talking about suicide, there is a misconception that people have in their hearts that if an individual talks about suicide, he is not he or she is not serious about it. But this is one of the warning signs that a person is having suicidal thoughts. If he or she starts talking about suicide, saying that I'm sick of life, I wish that I could take my life. I wish I could just die. I just wish that I could vanish from the face of this earth. No one is going to miss me. No one will worry about me or no one will feel sad that I'm

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gone. All of these things that a person utters makes them go more and more into the abyss of suicide and it is upon us believers to identify it is upon us parents to identify that if our children start talking in such a manner, sit down with them, talk to them and clear their minds malice behind them Medallia help us all to do so. Another sign is that when an individual starts to seek out means to kill oneself, perhaps he starts to look for pills, harmful objects, like nice sharp objects. The minute you see these signs, it is upon you, my dear brother or sister, to go up to your friend to go up to your child to go up to your sibling to go to your spouse, sit down with them, talk to them,

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give them a listening, sympathize with them and empathize with them. sympathize in the sense, acknowledge their emotional hardships, empathize, put yourself in their shoes and try to understand the turmoil and the problems they are going through and help them give them a listening ear do not lecture them. Do not lecture them, the more you lecture them, that may result in them going further with whatever the plans that they have in mind. That same video, that particular officer himself. He's

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states that there was this one particular case where he was called, he comes to the bridge. And the minute he comes to the bridge, there was this youngster at the edge of the bridge. That youngster The minute he saw the officer, he jumps over the railing and is now standing on the edge of the pipe about to jump off, he quickly runs up to him and tries to counsel him, tries to advise him. And then he states after one and a half hours, Allahu Akbar, after one and a half hours, the boy's name was Kevin, after one and a half hours of just listening to that youngster, pull out his heart, all of his problems, all of his depression, all of the problems. After one and a half hours, the youngster

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himself jumped back onto the railing and came back to safety, Allahu Akbar, and that individual took a complete 360 degrees a complete U turn. He changed his life. And now he's a father of two or three children. And he talks to people encouraging them and counseling people who have suicidal tendencies. May Allah Subhana Medina save us all. Therefore, it is upon us to give a listening ear this officer states that you're supposed to give a listen in here at times. These people who have these tendencies are people who have gone through such trauma, that they feel that there is no one to listen to me, there is no one to listen to my problems. Everyone comes to me and starts

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lecturing, or everyone comes to me and tries to tell me this is what you're supposed to supposed to do. You know, your life is so valuable, you have no right to take your life, they come lecturing, but nobody comes to listen to our problems, give them a listen in here, listen to their problems, and try to help them out. Furthermore, another

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alarm bell. Another warning is that the minute an individual starts to go into the use of hopelessness, hopelessness, a believer can never go into the abyss. But then there are an all of us, we are humans, at the end of the day, the minute a person starts to feel hopeless, and he feels like, I really can't do anything. I'm nothing. I'm zero. You know, you have a superiority complex, where you think of yourself as the hero. And then you have an inferiority complex where you think of yourself as zero, you should actually strike a balance, even superiority complexes are not good. Likewise, inferiority complexes are not going to strike a balance where you are always positive, you

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have self confidence, you are positive. And you know what you think that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel, and the next day will be a better day.

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Another sign is withdrawal from others, the minute an individual starts withdrawing from others social isolation, the minute he moves away from his friends, perhaps from his family, this is also a sign that an individual is going to be going through a particular hard patch in his or her life going through turbulence, and it is upon us believers to go talk to that individual, it beat your own brother, your sister, your siblings, your your children, your own spouse, perhaps give some time spend time with them, before it's too late. And finally, my dear respected elders and brothers in Islam, there is another sign and that is a certain sense of calm, you have this individual who is

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always talking about his problems, he's always depressed, he's having problems he's always worried and then suddenly, you see a certain sense of calm, where the individual is suddenly looking very calm, that is also something fishy, because that means psychological status. That means that this individual has decided or is planning on suiciding or taking his own life and that is why there is a sudden sense of calm That is why he suddenly seeming very calm. So it is not upon us to jump to conclusions, but rather we sit with that individual beat our friend, perhaps talk to him and ask him how are things How are things? Just are you how are you feeling now? How are all of the problems?

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Are they all sorted out, we should try and spend time with one another. This is what we learn from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the Sahaba is one of the islands. And sadly today what has happened is we are all busy with our own lives. And at times this is the case even with two spouses, two spouses, we are busy with our own lives running behind this dunya perhaps we don't make time for one another. We don't make time for our own children. We want good results from our children. We drill them we make them go for classes we do all of that. But we don't really sit down with our children and have a chat with our with our son or daughter perhaps asking them How are

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things at school perhaps How are things going on? Just talk to them that talking that spending time with them means so much to them, and that may change their whole perspective of life may have lost behind them what data save us all my dear respected elders and brothers in Islam, we as believers every single day is valuable for us because every single day, every single day is so valuable, we can use that day to get closer to Allah subhana wa Tada.

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And to secure great rewards for us in the era. So let us not rush. It does not rush to things that may result in us being losers in this world as well as the hereafter let us have hope in Allah subhanho wa Taala lambda Zen in the law hermana lambda Zen in the LA Hama, Anna Lata isn't in a lot of minor. Do not worry, do not despair, do not lose hope Allah azza wa jal is with us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive all of our sins many except our good deeds, and many Unitas in the gardens of gentlemen, just as how he united us here this rainy afternoon with our beloved Master Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I mean what after that