Funerals – The Burial
Channel: Mohamad Baajour
Series: Mohamad Baajour - Funerals
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smaller Alhamdulillah salat wa salam ala Rasulillah Allah Melinda main founder and founder of Mr. Lim tena, was it nine men hammer? I mean, we ask Allah subhanaw taala teachers would benefit us, benefit us from our tutorials and increase us knowledge. I mean,
I ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless this gathering, and I ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep the shayateen of its engine away from our vision, I mean, you know, behind me,
so, handler bad, I mean, I like to recite the ayah
before every time we start
every soul will taste death Subhan Allah and Allah He,
as you have heard, all of you, most of you that I almost tasted it on Saturday morning.
and we're sitting down arguing about simple stuff. You could have lost your Habib Ahmed version, I could have lost any of you. So how may Allah unite our hearts in shambles?
Allah, your life could change in a fraction of a second fraction of a second, everything could completely change. And he this is one thing but to for example, get paralyzed, lose an eye lose a leg lose an arm or something happened to your brain. These are eternal very long term you know hardships. So Allah He
like I told my brother's other day, we should live every single day as if it is our last day. And they should treat each other every single day as if it's the last time we see each other. You know, imagine someone has a certain issue with me. And that's somehow allah God forbid I died on Saturday morning. How upset to DVR Allah it was not worth it. I wish I
would come and just to tell him I'm sorry for one second.
Why am I here when it's not worth it? Allah it's not worth it. Someone Masjid we all love one another. We all big family. We are looking for the best of this Masjid. We want to move forward. You want people to imitate us? You know Subhan Allah Allahu Allah guide us all inshallah.
So we finished the the washing of the body, the shrouding of the body. We went to the, to the macabre.
Cobra Stan next week, and today in sha Allah Allah, we are going to put the body in the in the grave.
So today's topic is the variable,
burying the dead.
Even if they were non believers is a foreign key fire.
Even if they can some was most of our left
just a little bit longer, and maybe it'll make you take care of it.
Even if it's an unbeliever, it's a fourth key failure, and someone has to do it. Why did they mention non believers? Because as we all know, yeah.
Sometimes you have a Muslim brother, but his family are not Muslims, right? So if there was nobody to take care of him, that person from the non believers, then it's a must on Muslim, even if he's not a relative, let's say your neighbor died, and there was nobody at all to bury him. You're living in a farming village. It is a must on you to bury him. But you do not bury him with the Muslims. You bury him in a non Muslim cemetery, but it's a foreign key fire. If someone did it did it it will drop the form will drop from the rest of the community. Now.
The issue of having separate graveyards is extremely important. And handler blind. I mean, we are one of the states that we have the luxury of or one of the cities Dallas that we have the luxury that we have a separate graveyard. I can tell you living in New York for 27 years. We don't have
a separate graveyard, even though it's a huge community. We have one all the way east in Long Island. And it is with non Muslims and the other one is in Jersey. There is one I think in Jersey
They have one for Muslims, and they have one that is like Crossland common for both. But if you are
given the choice yeah when pick I'm telling you from now because as we see it's happening every single day. Tell your wife tell your whoever's in charge that bury me in Denton
bury me in Denton, maybe I heard it's a little bit more money but doesn't matter. I want to follow the Sunnah. If it is available, then you have to go there. I'm not saying it's haram to bury here, but because of that is available, then becomes much better to bury in Denton is a clear. And why am I saying speak to your wife? Subhanallah brother cuz he's not here. When I needed him. He's always here on Monday. But because he was telling me last week, the police tell the brothers something extremely important.
The law of the land. Listen carefully the law of the land. Is that no win? No, nothing your wife is or has the final word.
Your wife has the final word, your father your son, nothing. Your wife has the final word. What does that mean? In and a woman came to him
and ask them for the price of the cemeteries. He told her this is this much this is this much. She said how about combination.
He said that's very cheap said I'll take that one.
She eliminated her husband Muslimah.
He cannot say no to her. He can advise her he advised her this is wrong.
she asked for her husband to be eliminated.
He has no say son, no, say Father, no say
it is the wife. So make sure you are in good terms with your wife.
As she she put you into ashes, it's cheaper.
The cheapest way to live don't go for the cheap way go for the sooner we know a lady were laughing but this is serious matter. You know, and that's why you know, we always make sure that our children marry a muslim or a person that is knows that when it comes to burial. You have to follow our our rules. You know, so hamdulillah
now we are as we all know, all county
Kern County masajid are united in opening another cemetery for Muslims. Well, I you know, we don't take it we don't concentrate on that much. But Allah he you know, after studying this and saw the importance of for the Muslim to be buried in the Muslim land, we should put all the efforts to finish that that cemetery as soon as possible. I asked whether Junaid the other day when we were going to bury the brother and the sister. And he said that any every time they do something the county comes with something else. So now they reached
I think they asked for a fence or they asked for some other stuff. But inshallah Tada hopefully, it's on the final stages between the light and
the dead. The dead person should be buried in a in a graveyard. Why did the chef mentioned that because some people maybe overseas they bury in their backyard or in their home or this is not allowed. It has to be buried. The person has to be buried in a graveyard except Except who
are supposed to separate
the shade. The shade Shaheed has to be varied were
excellent wherever he died, wherever he died, he has to be has to be buried. And this is the real, this is one of the Sahaba yet she put her husband and her father on a camel or a horse and she moved them to bury them. And then Ross was suspended when he found that because they died in better shape. He told her no, bring them both back and they have to be buried where they passed away. So it's only for the shape. And the case of the house. This is strictly for Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam because this is where where he where he died. Now, when is the burial time. The general formula one is to rush with the burial. Allah Subhanallah
two weeks ago or three weeks ago when we had Janaza at ind and then a brother called me but he called me in the morning in the morning he said my father passed away right before Frasier. So I told him, you know, he said I'm gonna bury him arrest and I told him it's better to go to Denton, he said whatever you say I will do so Subhanallah the brother died at seven
315 He was under the ground
Subhanallah any f1 try to rush as much as you can. This is a sudden rush of course by without
disrespecting the body rushed in a way that is respectful to the body. And everything is done in according to the Sunnah. So the person died. A lot of people, they say, You know what, let's wait for so and so to come, let's wait for so and so to come, this is not recommended. This is not recommended, if it's a half an hour one hour before the person to come, but some people say oh no his father's coming from Egypt or from there and they have to wait a day this is not recommended at all, you know, it is the what is recommended is to rush with the with the with a burial.
Similarly, just like we said, It is not recommended to pray the janazah and the three prohibited times it is also not recommended to vary industry and across time. That's true before and before Maghrib. The three mcru times it's not recommended to do the burial also
burial during the night, during during the night. If it is unnecessary, if it's needed to be done at that time, then Bismillah go ahead and do it. But why
it is not recommended.
because of the number of people usually at night
and the nighttime, not too many people and we have studied and seen the importance of having a large number of people and its benefit for the deceased. So
unless there's a need for that Bismillah Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah and was very at night, he was buried at night many Sahaba were buried at night. We are not saying it's prohibited. But if there is enough people Bismillah but usually the nighttime especially at the time of the Sahaba you know, there was not too many, not too many people. And sometimes they delay
the burial till the nighttime, especially in Medina at that time, because
excellent because of the heat. It used to be so hot, you know, as we know, the weather is changing from 2030 years to now November's 90 degrees since when does that happen? So you could imagine how much changed from the days of Medina from days of sola Salam. So it was extremely hard. So he used to delay it just because the people be able to hand them the heat when they're making the burial. We sometimes hear in Dallas, we are sweating like crazy at the graveyard. So could you imagine in the heat of Medina, the heat on Medina, we all seen it. It's very, very harsh heat. So that's why sometimes it was delayed for the for the night. Like I said, if it's there is a need, there's
nothing wrong with it. Now we come to the
the actual grave. The grave loss, I seldom used to say fu where I will say oh we'll
dig the graves make it wide, deep and good. And if it's needed very two or three in one grey, putting ahead, the one with the most knowledge of the Quran. As we will see Subhan Allah, the person with the Quran
is not only honored in the dunya is not only honored in the akhira is also honored in the grave to be put ahead SubhanAllah. So if we are stuck, let's assume that there is a need for graves, there is a shortage of graves, then and we have to bury two three people at the same time. What do we mean by putting the one with the Quran first?
What does that mean?
No, no, the half is or the one who was more was more Quran. What it means is, as we will see in few seconds, that there are two kinds of graves, right, the hole that we see here all the time. And the other one is the lag. You know the lag is the one that we see in our countries, the side, you have a hole on the side, you put the body and then you cover it with the bricks. Now, if it was the hole, then you put you push the person with the Quran first towards the Kaaba, then the person behind them and the person behind it. That's what it means first, if it was a hole, like you see the hole here, the hole is big. Let's assume we're going to put three people the first person towards the Kaaba is
the one with the most Quran okay, then the one before it, then the one less than the one less okay. So this is how it goes. If
more people are or multiple number of people has to be very at the same time. This is just to know and he didn't even though that does not happen much. Now, the lag is more recommended than the whole but as we all know that we have no choice in this country to choose a ladder or a hole. As a matter of fact, the casket itself is not recommended in Islam. To put this they hold casket in there
It is, as we know, just the body as it is, you put it in the bar in the grave, whether it's allowed or home, and then you put,
if it's, you put the bricks after you put the body. And if it's a hole, you put the body facing the Kudla. Okay, to the right side of the of the person facing the Qibla. Okay, and then on top of him, I don't know, if you saw that. Overseas, they bring pieces of, let's say, like, a piece of
ceramic or something, yeah, ceramic, most of the time, this is big, and they put it standing like this 12345 As much as needed, and the body is behind it, it will not be touching the body, or just protecting the body when the sun is falling. That's the whole idea. Okay, so you could do it this way, or when the lead and you put the bricks now
or before that,
how to bring the body inside the grave.
To bring the body inside the grave, let's say this is the grave. Okay, this is the hole, this is the head, where the head is gonna go. This is where the feet are going to be. Right? You bring the body from here,
from the side of the feet, with the head here is a clear. So the head is the body is coming. The people holding the body.
If it's a woman, it has to be the Muharram of the woman.
Okay, if there's no Muharram, then it's okay. Whoever is there can carry on, if there is no matter, but first, I have to look for a father for a brother for a nephew for son. They are the first people who are given the authority to carrier. Now, similarly, so the body is coming with the head this way. And they're handling it for two or three people who have their arms ready inside the grave. Okay. Also, if it's a woman, the people in the grave also have to be Muharram if it's a man, and the parents are I mean the the sons, the brothers would have to do it. hamdulillah but if anybody if the Muslims do it hamdulillah there's no pick and choose. Okay, if the parent the family decided, I
would like to put my father Hamdulillah we give them of course this is their father, you know, so nothing wrong with it. But if there's nobody, there's no picking and choosing just anybody any Muslim there, he could take care of it in sha Allah.
Now listen to this.
The husband can take his wife it's a good point the husband can put his wife in the in the grave.
this is something I'm sure that many of us have not heard
so last summer, it was seldom
the people who are in the grave taking the body
is that one anyone amongst you?
That approached his wife last night.
if you had intercourse your relationship with your wife the night before you should not be in the grave.
So you yourself, no, because you're not gonna nobody's gonna ask this question. This is a salsa lesson. I'm asking that question right to teach us.
It's very embarrassing to ask that question. So if you know that you did this last night, do not volunteer to be amongst the people who will bring the body to the grave. Okay.
This is the hadith of Rasulullah Salam. So Abdullah replied, I did not hear a Salah. He told him fenzi Elfi akubra go down into her grave.
And another person another incident Rasul Allah say send them liat, Kabul, Rajon Cara for Leila Allah, any man who has approached his wife last night may not enter into into the grid. So this is something that if you have if you know yourself, do not volunteer to do that in sha Allah Tala and ask somebody else to do it.
Okay, now, as they are taking the body down to the grave Bismillah wa miletti Rasool Allah
Bismillah wahala miletti Rasul Allah or in another narration Bismillah wa Suniti Rasul Allah. So this may Allah wa salam ala Rasulillah or
Bismillah wa ala sunnah T Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam said,
failure Quran Lavina the owner Hina you will die Finland Bismillah where we learn why the miletti Rasul Allah, when a dead person is placed in his grave, those who plays him should say, as they put him in the lead Bismillah whether Allah wa miletti Rasul Allah, with Allah's Name, and with Allah's help, and upon the religion, the religion of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, then it is recommended to throw three handfuls off
to rub sand into the grain. And as a matter of fact, until today, subhanAllah, I thought that you say the same thing. But when you throwing the sand, there's nothing to be said, only when you bring the body down. So when you take the sand, and so brother share, doing it the right way, tends to be with both hands, it with both hands, and you throw it, you can do it three times 123 Or you can do one time 123 If you do three times, it's also good if you do 123 Because maybe going back and forth, will delay, you can keep in mind, you don't want to delay, if it's going to delay going back and forth. And there's 200 people, so you just take this one big pile 123 Okay, with it was both with
both hands, and there's nothing to say to be said at that time.
I saw Brother, Allah last time in the cemetery, that he was not wearing shoes.
And I know that this is from the Sunnah, that when you enter the cemetery, the cemetery you take off your shoes, I don't mean to put you on the spot.
But if there is any harm in the cemetery, you might find some Thorn, some rocks, it is absolutely okay to wear your shoes. But if it was a smooth land and there's no harm, you're asking what is better, it's better to take off your shoes. But if there's any kind of harm, even if it's 1% just put your shoes on in sha Allah Tala.
Okay, I'm gonna finish this topic today in sha Allah. After the burial Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he used to stand at the end of the grave. And he used to say, although they actually confine the hole and
they stuck through the Adhikam was selling without the need for in the hole. And
this is a very important Jaquan in case you have you don't have someone that is knowledgeable about the DNA that is present. Okay? There's nothing to be done at that time. Because we see a lot of stuff. The Fatiha one person reads something on the head and something on the feet and all that stuff. There's nothing to be said Rasulillah Salam used to stand and make dua for your brother for your sister because now they are being questioned and the best to be made at that time. Allah humma submit who in the soil? Or if it's a female, Allah humma submit her in the soil, your Allah keep them steadfast when they are being questioned. Okay, are ya Allah? You know,
the meaning of it is yeah, Allah when the two angels come down, and they ask them mineral book, who's your Lord, you know, to be able to answer Allah. Who's your who's the what's the name of the night that was sent to you? Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is your deen Islam? Like we said their home, it is very easy to say that right now. But at that moment, only, only if you live
according to that era in Allah, you will be able to answer the questions.
I ask Allah subhanaw taala with the best of His Names that make us all inshallah and our wives and our children and our parents to be able to answer the question like as soon as I said, I've said mandrup book Allah.
Mohammed Salah Salem
maj Enoch, Al Islam, instantly with certainty, okay, with your kin. May Allah make it easy for us in sha Allah, I mean there are blind I mean
is that a reminder the grave because now we see that after we finish, myself or the imam or anybody there, they give a reminder
from the Sunnah, there's nothing like that.
There's nothing like that. To give stand up and give a cuppa, you know, to sit down and give a cookbook and make it you know, this guy, half an hour, there's nothing like that. That's what was excellent one time.
He was waiting for the body to come. So he sat down he bent he sat down around the grave
And mentioned the Hadith that is
waiting for the people to come the Hadith about, if the person is good, the angels will come and take his soul and they will make dua for him. And if they if the body is even the angels will be disgusted from it that long, long, very long Hadith, maybe inshallah Tada, we will dedicate just a halacha just for that hadith. So he sat down and he gave them and he told them about this cover is the first man as the first house of the akhira. If this is good, everything after it will be better. And if this is bad, everything would be worst. And Russell's assalam was
telling them that was either during the burial or before the body comes after the burial.
somebody might say, but there are stairs, we saw you do it in the many graveyards Wallahi
most of the times, or if not all of the times that I did it.
I saw something that really bothered me so much that made me do it, even though it should have stuck to the Sunnah and you know, Salah Salem, and other Sahaba. They are the ones who taught us our deen
I saw people standing outside, and they're not training the janazah even.
I saw many people that, you know, they don't even pray at all. Like one time when we were in a room or the brothers were not playing at home, waiting for the Janessa to take it. They did not even praise your mouth as the Muslims. I checked in order to you know, they're not musafir they're not they have excuse no SubhanAllah. So I felt like you know, if there is any softness of the heart, it's now and maybe this these words will get to their hearts. And look, if this did not move you to start praying if this did not move you to stop smoking, you know.
And one of the barriers I did recently I had to beg the people, I had to literally beg the people, can you please postpone the smoking till we finish the barrier?
So when I saw this, and I'm not justifying why I did it, I said to myself, you know, three minutes talk, you know, Sean McDonough maybe it will be harmful for the people but it's the Sunnah is it that has to be done. No, does not have to be done. But if you feel like it may be like I felt it should be done because maybe it's a good time to take advantage Allah Allah Allah I did it from that reason from that perspective, but to sit down half an hour talking and this and that, there's nothing like that. Okay, I just want to make sure it's clear. Then the chef mentioned the long long Hadith about the the trestle assassin and mentioned and after the barium it is recommended to it's
not recommended to keep the
grave flat whatever is left from the sand or the dirt you dug make sure you have a span
higher than than the ground okay should be a little bit higher than than the ground.
Now, this is a problem that we always face Jaquan and hamdulillah Alameen that we are studying this now. There should not be we go to the Muslim graveyards, pictures ayat of the Quran on the floor. Big eulogy, he was so nice. He was so good. All that stuff. Jaquan has nothing to do with our deen. The only thing that they are not permitted is the name.
Just to know where is the body buried in case you want to come back and visit it? That's it. But all that stuff that we see right now. Allahu Akbar of the Quran people stepping on the Name of Allah, people stepping on the words of ALLAH, picture of the person without his job on the ground in the graveyard. Now, Allah to be one why why? I am 100% sure that these people did not do it on purpose. They did it out of emotion and out of ignorance for sure. If they were advised, I'm sure they would have never done it. If somebody would tell them why do you have your mother's fixture without hijab? She has been
banned. I mean, Allah subhanaw taala He is the One Who forgives. We do not judge people, but you are showing your mother after she died with her outer showing.
I'm 100% sure that these people did not know they did not do it on purpose. And how many people are going to step on your mother's face or your sister or your wife? So please, yeah, one in a very gentle, kind, beautiful way. advice to people not to do these things. Besides the Haram it is very expensive.
So a waste of money, take that money and make it a sadaqa jariya on behalf of that deceased person. Right? How much is gonna cost I heard 1000s of dollars 1000
is you could sponsor an orphan in our country for 2356 years on their behalf instead of that waste and against the Sunnah
for what name Muhammad Muhammad so when I come I want to visit I want to Hamdulillah I know what it is that's it done that's it but all that luxury and all that extravagance is not is not permitted
Okay, another thing is and we'll finish with this inshallah
I heard someone's telling me, I hired someone not to miss a day and come make sure all the flowers are fresh on my son's grave.
There's nothing from the Sunday afternoon about the flowers. There's nothing from the Sunnah. This is imitation of the non believers, we have nothing like that. We don't hear a bucket of one two, almost grade and put on our winter records grave and put flowers on a bucket one to anybody's grave. We don't know any of that. None of that. Plus again, imagine somebody doing it on a daily basis, how much money is that going to cost? Instead of that, buying some food and give it to a poor person, you have benefited a human being
and at the same time you have invested for the accuracy of that disease of the deceased person. And may Allah subhanaw taala make us remember all these things when they are taking place? Because sometimes you get so emotional, everything that we said here is forgotten. So may Allah remind us to follow the Sunnah till the last moment. May Allah subhanaw taala make our last deeds our best days in sha Allah. May Allah subhanaw taala unite our hearts and keep the sheltering away from us in sha Allah. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the best in the dunya and akhira Subhana Colombo behenic lectured Allah Allah Allah and that's the federal cabinet Olbrich
I can see
the hole on the side
no water, yes, they put water they throw some rocks. They put Qur'an oh that has nothing to do with this unknown
if it if it is the law, if it is the law to put the date of birth then go ahead but if it's if they give you the authority to put whatever you want, just for DNA, so Hannah Calamba Huntik Masha Allah Allah him and Mr. Farrakhan
common practice to plant a tree